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DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Wounding yourself on a first date - Ouch! Posted: 1/23/2007 8:30:11 PM
There was this one date, where we had a picnic lunch at a lakefront and we had to eat in his worktruck because it was too cold outside.. He had brought 2 bottles of the worst tasting homemade wine, and I go and bring 2 bowls of chili. After everything is done, this self proclaimed (shy) man got enough liquid courage to try and jump me right there in broad daylight. I panicked and grabbed the door handle behind me cuz he had me pinned up against the door. The door opened and I fell out on my derriere. It pretty much cooled his jets and shut him down right there. My buns were a tad bruised, and I was a bit embarassed, but I think it's healed now.... Good thing it ended when it did cuz the chili had started to take effect on my tummy....lol that plus nerves, yeah that's it....nerves

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Moving to another country....... Posted: 1/14/2007 9:39:02 AM
With all the red tape involved just trying to move to another province within Canada, I can only imagine that it would be almost murder to try to move to another country. I do agree that my family has top priority, but it shouldn't keep anyone from following their destiny. Afterall, family have followed their destinies to this day. I had made my decision to move twice, once for love and the other for a new beginning, to leave the old life behind and start fresh. I really don't think I could move to another country, though. I'd be too afraid of being left alone in a strange land and not know anyone at all. I'm just not that brave, although I've had a couple golden opportunities to move to the States, but when pushed for an answer I had to back away, I couldn't go through with it.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Waiting till after New Years to say goodbye..... Posted: 12/25/2006 11:49:33 AM
The holidays are never a good reason to not break up. It should have been terminated as soon as you had made up your mind and with as much gentleness as possible. A good measure of honesty is severely lacking in that relationship or you wouldn't have had the fear now. It also sounds like you had puit her through some tough times to get her to pull the plug, instead of comming out and telling her the truth straight up. You haven't done her any favour waiting till after the holidays.......she'll cry and be just as hurt, maybe worse afterwards, than if you had stopped it when it first was bad....eg. tensions, etc. Methinks it was you not wanting to be alone for the holidays and kept it a secret till then. Sorta like getting your Christmas and New Year's goose cooked eh?

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Getting even after a bad break up Posted: 11/7/2006 12:13:42 PM
Omg!! what an awful thing to do to another person. You're only harming yourself and your children by these vengeful acts. As one wise lady told me a long time ago, don't get petty with someone who's hurt you, as it only prolongs the situation and doesn't solve anything, particularly for you to have access to your children. It intensifies the tug of war, and your kids are being hurt watching their mommy and daddy battle it out. It is not only childish, it degrades yourself in everyones eyes that love and care for you. DBandon said it best. Just move on..........and do what's best for yourself and your future. I'd like to add thaat you should be good to yourself with the same intensity that you used for the revenge.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Pathological Liars Posted: 11/6/2006 6:50:17 AM
Agreed.....there is alot on that list that describe some of the people I've met online and real life. I've been burnt quite a few times, from women pretending to be my best friend, only to my having to end these so called friendships to avoid their destructive gossiping and nastiness to me. Same with men that tell you what they think you want to hear, just to get what they want.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Is my man in his cave or is it over? Posted: 11/4/2006 5:46:35 AM
LDRs take alot more work than regular relationships. I had one that went really strong for a long time till I decided to take him up on his plane ticket, and we met finally. Things went downhill after I got back home. He freaked out because he was afraid of commitment and had been seeing someone closeby, on the side. It became apparent that he was a player and had no intentions of making a commitment to me, so I did next him. Same with the next man. If something is feeling off, then you're wasting your time trying to keep it together. It takes both to make it work, and not just one sided. Witholding sex, just doesn't make for a great relationship either....especially if someone is lousy at it to begin with. lol.....won't mention any names, but someone couldn't get his game on very often, and when he did it was for a very short amount of time......I overlooked that, too, but it still didn't work out. The next one could but still didn't want to commit to anyone.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Using the term Posted: 11/3/2006 12:17:20 PM
Here too......This one had the gonads to take me to the matrimonial home, and show me her sewing room , and the rest of the house. I got the willies, and cut the date off short after that, and explained to him that I didn't feel right being there or with him either. He continued to mail me to try and persuade me to come back, but I had gotten the distinct impression his wife was still alive with all of her things out in the open when I was there, so maybe she was gone away visiting family, and he being left to his own devices, started online dating. I'm sure that he didn't realize that when he started out, but I'm sure glad I did or there may have been some major drama when the Mrs. got home.....

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Unsuccessful coffee dates Posted: 11/1/2006 8:48:52 AM
Having experienced both good and bad coffee dates, I can relate as well. It's only to see if there will be something more or not. It's not a job interview, nor an interrogation, but I feel that in addition to all the communication prior, it's crucial to kinda feel out (I didn't say feel up lol) if there is a potential with the other person. I agree that the coffee house could feel like a person is trapped, especially in the corner, so why not take it out and chat in a park, or wherever you both are at ease. It makes the convo flow easier if both aren't so nervous, in my opinion. That's when you tell each other if there will be a second date or not....if it went well, the other person should indicate whether yea or nay.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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found the man of my dreams Posted: 10/31/2006 5:24:21 AM
WTG, girl!! Hope it works out for you two......Congrats.....

DNickieD

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Have you ever dated 'mummy's little boy'? Posted: 8/26/2006 5:52:13 AM
Too funny!! Yes I was engaged to a mommy's boy, till she overstepped the boundaries of telling him NOT to buy a house we'd looked at buying after the wedding. He had dutifully respected her wishes, so I got to steppin. Afterall, he had proved that he couldn't do anything without his Mommy's permission. His dad was great, but he had to abide by the rules of the house where his wife wore the pants in the family. Oh btw, this was back in the day of my twenties.

DNickieD

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Any of you ladies been out with this guy? Posted: 7/10/2006 1:29:48 PM
Yuppers, met this one last year at my fave restaurant....nothing worse than watching someone chew oysters openmouthed and trying to kiss me with a mouthful of the slime. that was just too much EWWWWW from where I was sitting.......I actually got nauseated....then he got ticked because I told him to back off, I just wasn't feeling the chemistry and I was never seeing him again. Some people can't handle the truth!!

DNickieD

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meeting at the airport Posted: 7/10/2006 7:55:13 AM
Been there, done that and gots the t-shirt. I don't reccommend it whatsoever, but to each their own. I took a 9 hour flight once and met someone at the airport here. Both instances were disastrous from the getgo, as neither person were what they claimed to be. They said all the right stuff for months prior, sent flowers and a plane ticket etc.....but in person....not what I had percieved them to be, so the relationships ended shortly after meeting. Life happens, so if you find someone you truly enjoy chatting with, people do go the extra mile to meet up and see if it can progress into something longlasting.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Odd Question Posted: 7/9/2006 5:13:36 AM
Personally, I'd just tell em I don't bat for the same team, and leave. There's been a couple of ladies that have tried with one of them actually grabbing a handful of my hair and saying she just loved long hair!!That was back in the day that my hair was down to my butt. I just thanked her and said that my b/f was waiting for me outside the public washroom where she had tried me. If she had hung on to it, there may have been some drama, but she got the message and let go. In your case, OP, at least he didn't latch onto your gear? lmao

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Agressive females (when she makes the first move) Posted: 7/9/2006 4:45:19 AM
Having sent out a few emails to some men, complimenting either their forum posts or their profile. I find that it never works out for me. Usually I've to discovered the guys think that the lady is desperate to get her some, so I've backed off when it becomes apparent that's all they're after anyways.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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PlentyofChickens? Posted: 7/9/2006 4:23:35 AM
This is the cyber world after all, so meeting that certain someone takes alot more communication than in RL. I find that people tend to hide behind their computers for whatever reasons that they don't want to take a chance and meet up. Some that do want to meet are just in it to get jiggy and then disappear off the map if they get what they're after. I'm as serious as a heart attack, and do take the chance to go and meet up after a bit of chatting and email. I also find that some people that have lied throughout this type of communication get found out in the first meet, so it's a quicker way to just move on, instead of investing your time, heart and soul. I love this saying that I heard last year: Guard your heart until it's time and you're absolutely sure. Hope I've answered your questions from my neck of the woods.....lol

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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If your significant other was cheating, would you want to be told? Posted: 7/4/2006 5:55:51 PM
Absolutely!! With evidence of course. I also would want to know asap, before he could pass the gift that keeps on giving. I''d also want to kick his sorry derriere to the curb, along with any family or friends that knew about it and decided not to tell me. They don''t have any respect or care for me if they won''t come to me and tell me. My son''s father cheated on me less than 2 months after his birth. People knew and didn''t say a word. I caught them with their pants down, when I came home from work early because I was sick. He was out of my house that same day. I wouldn''t put any stock in what the creepin SO B said to me either. It''s quite obvious that he''s already decieving me by cheating, and will continue to lie to save his butt. The trust and his love is gone and therefore the relationship as well. He destroyed it. Cya! Buh bye!!

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Happy Canada Day people ! Posted: 7/1/2006 4:39:39 PM
HAPPY CANADA DAY EH? Right back atcha!! This one's a tad special for me too and you can just bet I'll be celebrating tonight for sure. We've got the big boomers goin on down by the lake here....even if it is raining.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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What is the most disgusting experience you've had on a date? Posted: 6/28/2006 3:01:24 AM
It would have to be the man I met for a dinner date last year. First of all he said he wasn't really hungry but to order my fave from the menu and he would order a snack and a few drinks. He had ordered a double of some kind of oyster dish and had snarfed that up pdq. Nothing worse than to see someone chew anything open mouthed let alone slimy oysters. I lost my appetite when he tried repeatedly to kiss me with a mouthful. I sorta gagged a few times and finally just went to the washroom and lost my cookies. When I got back to the table he says "do you have any money? I left my wallet in my other jacket back at home" We left after I paid the $80.00 check, and he jumps into my truck and wants to know what else I had planned for us to do that night. I couldn't take anymore of Mr. Suave, so I told him this isn't working for me and syonara. He wasn't the classy guy then. He tried to lay a guilt trip on me about having driven a couple of hours to meet up....and his face was red with fury. Never did see him online again after that. Yuckky

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Going the extra mile? Cross Border Dating Ontario Michigan Posted: 6/27/2006 8:49:47 AM
Personally, I prefer to meet at a halfway point. It's so much less troubles, if you don't click and can just leave and say thanks, but it's not working for me...whatever. I've had someone come from across the crick before, after chatting in IM and phone calls, but it was like I had met a different person face to face than the sweetie I had chatted to for a month prior. I've also flown across the country to be with someone that I chatted with for over 6 months from a different site, but that didn't work out either. Again I've also driven over 4 hours to meet people as well, but I think now that I will just meet in the middle for the first time meeting..... there's no guilt trip on either side if it we get thrown back in the pond.

DNickieD

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cannot access mail today Posted: 6/25/2006 10:45:32 AM
I haven't been able to access the whole site all day till now.......guess they'll let me post this even if I can't log onto the site? What's going on? Anyone know? Most of the day it was comming up "Service Unavailable"

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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second shift & not dating Posted: 6/21/2006 12:20:38 PM
I can so relate to you ladies. I went on the steady midnight shift for 13 years so I could raise and see my son everyday. I tried to date someone on the same shift as myself, but it just made things too hectic to try and keep up with my son and my job. It didn't work out very well, so I would date once in awhile just on the weekends, when I wasn't pulling a double shift or overtime. I strongly believe that you shouldn't date a coworker especially if you're a single mom......now....lol As for finding dates....maybe try at a singles dance/bookstores or whatever places interest you. You could be taking in a new movie with a g/f or just take walks at the beach with a dog....borrow one if you must. I have had a couple dates that way........cuz they couldn't resist my lil girlie dog? lol

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Is it alright to want to get to know someone who is already chatting with someone you know? Posted: 6/21/2006 7:33:51 AM
Sounds like a g/f I had. She would deliberately seek out every guy I'd ever start to go out with or get involved with and chat him up. She lied to me and said she'd never chat with them, but then later she admitted to doing it. We're no longer friends and I don't see any of those people any longer either. I can understand a coincidence and she stop it, but she did it every time I told her who I was chatting with or getting to know and she'd target him. As much as I enjoyed hanging out with her, I wised up and quit telling her anything at all. I also think it doesn't say much for a guy if he goes along with her. Neither are worth my friendship and trust. I just walk away. They deserve each other. The only reason I told her, was so we wouldn't run into and get involved with the same man.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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A fathers day lament . Happy fathers day. Posted: 6/18/2006 5:01:05 PM
That totally sux J. I have a very good friend that hasn't heard from his grown up kids in years. He has a move to Alberta pending in the next couple of months, but hasn't gotten any word from them today either. I sent him a father's Day E-card with hugs and kisses, and his best friend took him out and made a big fuss over him. Still, I know the kind of hurt you all must be feeling. Wishing all you good dads the very best day, and I'm sorry your children are like that.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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things in the apartment for female guests Posted: 6/18/2006 4:45:34 PM
LoL @ hairy soap Yuppers, clean is a good thing....no danger of stickin to the floor, or anything clinging to your tatas should anything get that far. As far as the open bible, I'd be afraid I was with a priest or something...that totally ruins the mood for lovin in my books. Just be clean and natural, and for goodness sake, don't try to jump the woman before she clears the door.....

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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HAPPY FATHER DAY!! Posted: 6/18/2006 11:13:13 AM
May I add my best wishes to all the great dads out there and I'd like to remember all the Dads that were lost in the wars or death. I sure miss my Dad all the time, but it seems worse on this day. Love you Daddy.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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~ Dating Bloopers ~ Posted: 6/14/2006 10:30:23 PM
We agreed to meet at the lake and have a picnic lunch. lol....I brought a couple bowls of chile and he brought a couple bottles of the worst wine I'd ever tasted in my life. The chile was already making my tummy act up, but after the wine was gone, he thought he'd try to have hot monkey s*x right there in his work truck. I panicked and made a grab for the door handle, pushing it open, and falling out on my keester, signalling the end of the date. He emailed me after saying my kisses didn't tell him anything, so I was relieved in more ways than one that I'd never see him again........this from a guy that repeatedly told me he was extremely shy....yeah ok buddy

DNickieD

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Tell it to me straight Posted: 6/13/2006 5:31:32 AM
Always the truth. If a lie is discovered it will always come back and bite ya in the assets, no matter what. Lying by ommission isn't kewl either. People can handle truth better than they do a lie, so always be truthful whatever it's about.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Embarrasing date momments Posted: 5/31/2006 1:30:48 PM
Back in the day of my 20's, this hunk of a man asked me out to dinner at a poshy type restaurant. He was a tad stuck up type, so you had to be dressed to the nines for him.....the dress the heels, makeup and hair done. He picked me up in his sportscar and away we went. We were seated in a very exclusive area of the restaurant, with me facing the hallway. There was a general area with more people across the way. We ordered our steaks and were chatting away when our dinner arrived. He had ordered a nice bottle of red wine, and had just poured the rest of it into my glass. I was a wee bit tipsy, at this point, as I wasn't used to drinking......lmao Not only had I knocked my wine over on him, after I tried to hit the steak sauce out of the bottom of the bottle. Splat!! all over his nice suit and tie. He was absolutely furious with me, but managed to control it till after we finished our dinner and we got into the car to go home. I laughed at him all the way home, which made him redder in the face making me laugh hilariously......hmmmm....never did see him again....lmao

DNickieD

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attraction Posted: 5/26/2006 6:36:26 PM
Everyone has their own ideas of what they're attracted to, but bashing the other gender has pretty much cut most of your chances of finding anyone with that 'tude. I've perused the POF catalogue and spotted mucho hunks on both sides of the border, myself. mmmmm ~~Di~~

DNickieD

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do chicks dig the car?! Posted: 5/22/2006 12:17:55 PM
Back in the day of my 20's when I had a brand new Zedder, yeah I did love the souped up cars, but nowadays, I realize that I just don't date men that do nothing but brag and strut their stuff. I don't care, it is what's between the ears and not their assets that attract me to them in the first place. It's not a prerequisite nor will I demand to know before a date. What counted for me was how we got along in messages or calls and how they treated me.....sorry, I will ask only to be able to identify someone if we are meeting for the first time only. I did meet a couple of people that had such a disappointed look on their faces when I would pull up in my old Jimmy to meet, but that didn't go anywhere obviously.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Coming back for seconds - now interested Posted: 5/17/2006 2:30:12 PM
Recently I got a couple of messages from 2 men that I chatted with last year wanting to have another chance at a relationship. The first was pretty smooth, so he thought, knowing I was looking to relocate to his area across the country. When I didn't send him the down payment for a place he had located for me, he up and blocked me from communication. Well I may be blonde, but I didn't get to where I am today by trusting everyone and giving away my hard earned cash. He messaged me a couple of times last month, but I never responded, so I think he got the hint that there wasn't to be a second . The second from a long distance away came here to meet me, but then expected me to take care of him for 3 weeks. Things went downhill at breakneck speed the first week, and my g/f and her hubby took him to their place for the remainder of his "vacation" where he had to work his keep till his plane ride home. I had tried to make some sense of what he was thinking, by trying to talk to him, but he had quit communicating with me, after turning my g/f on me....she has messaged me quite a bit but I never respond back. The way they all treated me, hurt me to the quick. The trust is gone so I can't pretend all is well and go back to it anymore. They've even managed to turn a couple more of my friends as well. It shows how bad a judge of character I am I guess, but I keep learning and moving on.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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RECENT ALLIGATOR ATTACKS IN FLORIDA Posted: 5/15/2006 10:15:36 AM
Agreed that alot of times it's peoples' stupidity that gets them tangled up in situations with animals. In Ontario Canada, we have a huge wildlife park/campground named Algonquin Park. I've camped there once, and I'll never do it again. We were playing cards one one night when suddenly there was alot of screaming and yelling up the path. Seems a couple of photographers were feeding the bears to get some good shots......till they ran out of food and the bears attacked them. They managed to jump in their car and get away, but that left the rest of us in the vicinity in danger and unawares. At one point there was a lone wolf strolling up the road, totally unafraid and bold. One couple left their cooler of food in their tent the night before, right across from us and the next morning the tent had been shredded and the cooler smashed open. Suffice to say, I slept in the car, and went home the next day. Another time we were on the TransCanada in Quebec, then people were pulling off the road into the median where a huge bull moose was grazing. The people were running up close to take pix, not mindful of their safety. Every one knows NOT to approach a moose, as they will charge with no provocation. Heck I wouldn't even approach a raccoon on my deck, or a deer at my cabin, nor swim in the St. Lawrence or Lake Ontario cuz I too hear the theme song "Jaws" in my head when I see people in there. Then there was the time I nearly pushed my own mother over the railing into the lake in the dark. We had been staying at my uncle's cabin, and had arrived late one night from visiting. I thought Mom had unlocked the door, so I race up to get inside, when my hand connected with fur. I screamed and gave "it" a mighty shove, not realizing it was Mom, in a fur coat. Maybe that's why she don't like me much?

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Embarassing moment Posted: 5/13/2006 8:49:31 AM
Yikes!! I was to meet someone at a hottub party one time, and went and bought a new bathing suit for it.....I decided to wash it in Sunlight detergent, before wearing it. Obviously, I used too much soap, especially in the lower part, because as we're sitting in the hottub, all these major bubbles are emanating from the nether regions of my suit, making it look like I had a major gas problem. I was nervous to begin with and certainly didn't need that to distract everyone to my hiney......Lets just say the date was gassed out?

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Mr. Not Quite Right Posted: 5/12/2006 1:38:41 PM
Actually, I was thinking of writing the book on the most funniest dates I'd been on, since joining these sites. I'm up to about 15 now and things aren't getting any better. Funnier maybe. So far so good. Just keep throwin them back till you hook one that you want.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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I found myself and many friends...what a wonderful experience this has been! Posted: 5/9/2006 12:02:29 PM
Awwww, I'm sorry to see you go Bandito. I've enjoyed many of your posts. Your wisdom and humour will be missed greatly by the looks of that list. Take care of you and I wish you all the best in your journey through life. Adieu mon ami.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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broken heart .... yeh 4 my dog Posted: 4/22/2006 8:26:55 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss Jody and you are not alone..... the loss of a beautiful pet, is very hard to deal with, I know. Myself, I've had to put down a beautiful and talented parrot, a few Christmas' back, and I sat in the parking lot at the vet's for 3 hours bawling my heart out. What I did was visit a pet store that had the same kind of parrot and they let me take him out and cuddle with him for a few hours a week. Strange but it helped me deal in my grief. I have an 18 year old pomeranian puppy, and I so dread it when it's her time to go. She's been with me through thick and thin, and still acts like she's a puppy. She's not in any pain nor is she sick with anything, but I think old age is going to catch up to her. I won't be replacing her, nor adding another pet to my family. I'm done now. You never "get over" the loss of a person or pet, you just learn to cope with it and it does get easier with time.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Ok, Fess Up, Have You Ever Been Purposely Rude Or Nasty To Someone That Contacted You Here On POF? Posted: 4/8/2006 9:27:23 PM
Yeah me too. But only to the mean and nasties that go out of their way to try and tear me down with their rude comments. I tend to just block them but if their mail catches me on a bad day, I'll mail them a few nasties back then block 'em. Where do they get off doing that to a total stranger they don't even know? Otherwise I'm generally polite and sweet and answer most of the mail I do get. LoL

DNickieD

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Silliest thing you saw someone else do? Posted: 3/11/2006 10:33:52 PM
One of the funniest things that I've seen happened to our little male toy poodle. We were on holiday at my cabin, when his scent glands exploded and was really grossly oozing. What a dilemma!! What to do? Friends popped by with their new born baby and offered up a diaper for him. I carefully cut out a little hole for his little stub tail, and put the Pamper on him. Then I set him back onto the floor, and he immediately tries to run away........on his front legs!!! Omg!! What a sight!! His back legs were high up in the air and his diapered bottom with the little poofy tail sticking out was so funny that I nearly peed myself, along with the rest of the family and friends. Another time, it was just my Mom and myself at the cabin for the weekend. I had bought one of those environmental commodes, which Mom wanted nothing to do with, preferring to go out behind the big log pile at dawn. I was inside making coffee, when she suddenly starts screaming for me to get out there and see what she was looking at. In her shock at seeing the great big white farm horse sleeping on the front lawn , she had totally forgotten her pants were still around her knees. There she was jumping up and down and pointing....still screaming. I didn't let her live that one down for a long time. I have all kinds of these, but maybe I'll post some more when I get back from my trip to see her.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

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what is it with some people who... Posted: 3/7/2006 11:36:32 AM
I'm gonna go with Sex for $500.00 Alex....lol A relationship is based on honest communication.....no communication= no relationship. My personal experience has made some one break the speed of light gettin gone, after I told him I had deep feelings for him after 6 months "relationship". He was comfy with what we had together, and didn't want anything deeper. Hmmm actually, now that I think about it, this could be a good thing too. I just saved myself 6 more months of heartbreak, and wasting my time on someone that didn't have his heart in it.

DNickieD

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How do you verify your trust in someone?? Posted: 3/3/2006 8:26:41 PM
I would offer a past relationship where I was not "trusted" to go shopping/visit family or chat to coworkers alone. Prior to meeting this man, I was friends with everyone, and would joke and kibbitz with people I worked with or friends of either sex. Then he set the boundaries on me that I was not to have any friends of either sex, or I was accused of making out or planning to cheat. Bear in mind I have never given him cause to think this way, and did everything in my power to reassure him, but, the constant accusations and verbal abuse, only served to end our relationship. If this is happening in a relationship, I would suggest you cut your losses and get to steppin. A relationship will not survive without the trust on both partners parts.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

Msg: 16 (view)

Relationsh*t Posted: 2/26/2006 9:50:05 PM
The hardest part is finding the one that's on the same page in life as yourself, that is willing to go the distance. I agree a relationship turns into a relationsht when one of the partners decides to throw away what they have in favour of seeking something new and exciting, because they don't want to work at keeping it working. They want the rush of exploring other partners, but in the end, they will only ever have relationshts. Throwing insane jealousy and possesiveness as well as control freakiness into the mix has always ruined any relationship that I know of or been in. Add bad sex and it's a total disaster.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

Msg: 31 (view)

Ever wonder how long you will be here? Posted: 2/26/2006 6:38:40 PM
Yikes!!!......I haven't been in any rush to just be with someone in the last 10 years, but have only been online dating for the last 2 years altogether. Time's just aflying by here. Maybe I need some new fishing equipment now. Every time I snag a fishie, the line breaks, and he's gone!! lol The last one took my best fishing lure/hook with 'im. lol Ahhh well, summer's comming back and I can go back to travelling again, though I still can't follow a map to get wherever I'm going ontime. Happy fishing everyone!!

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

Msg: 10 (view)

Breaking up Posted: 2/21/2006 8:47:40 PM
The worst thing I ever have done was to get a court order and it drove him beserk that he couldn't continue to stalk and threaten me. Then I retired from work, so he couldn't see me every day either. Then I was truly free of him once and for all....lol

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

Msg: 7 (view)

Dating someone with a menagarie Posted: 2/21/2006 6:17:47 PM
Who's to say how many is too many? When I was younger I was forever bringing home new pets, from dogs,cats,parrotts,chinchillas,chickens,roosters,ducks,guinea pigs,chinchillas,rabbits and the list goes on. Now I'm down to one lil pooch and she's 18 years old now. If it weren't for these loving pets and their great personalities, well I never would have had so much fun back in the day, being a late bloomer. Besides your friend isn't dating the pets is he? lol

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

Msg: 182 (view)

Cheating- can you forgive? Posted: 2/21/2006 3:39:31 PM
Absolutely forgive them, but once the trust and respect has been lost in a relationship, then the relationship is gone, finished....kaput. I have forgiven my cheaters, but it destroyed the relationship completely. I agree that it makes one feel that somehow you failed them. Trust and respect are earned, and if someone throws it away, then their priorities aren't with you and your relationship whatsoever. Time to move on, though it's extremely difficult to do. I did it, when my son was a mere 3 months old and raised him alone, because his father's priorities were in picking up whatever he wanted and doing them in my home, in my bed while I was working. I could not deal with his indescretions and made him leave us.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

Msg: 13 (view)

internet dates from Hell Posted: 2/21/2006 1:32:29 PM
Yep chatted online with someone that described himself as being extremely shy and divorced. We then made a plan to have a picnic lunch at the lakeside. Well he brought 2 bottles of homemade italian wine, cuz he said it "relaxed" him. After both bottles were gone, he started kissing me intensely, till he was nearly on top of me. We were in his work truck because it was too chilly outside at the picnic table. I began to panic, and made a grab for the door handle to get out. I literally fell out on my keester, but it ended the date effectively. lol He did mail me afterwards to say my kisses didn't tell him anything, but I'm sure my falling out of his truck told him that we weren't gonna be doin da nasty ever!~ lol Never did hear back from him again.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

Msg: 126 (view)

losing weight,anyone? Posted: 2/21/2006 11:00:01 AM
Just blew it again!! My mother is in hospital in Quebec, and I may need to drive up if the situation gets worse. Everything is in an uproar around here with my family and I'm not sure when or if we'll get back to normal. Take care everyone. Bye for now.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

Msg: 29 (view)

Success Here Means Having to Say Goodbye Posted: 2/21/2006 10:54:39 AM
Agreed that these forums are addictive, but if and when I find my guy, I will certainly change and hide my profile and devote my time to him. If however it's an LD relationship, I will be online to him and friends but with the majority of it to him.. Having friends online myself, I would understand if he needed to chat with them as well as I would but would be upset if he didn't devote a large portion of his online time to me as I would him. If he is closeby there wouldn't be any need to go online, and I want to spend all my time with him as possible. I echo Bandito's sentiments to those that have found true love and everlasting relationships: We wish you the best of journeys.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

Msg: 102 (view)

How long should a woman remain married to a controlling verbally abusive alcoholic? Posted: 2/17/2006 10:06:18 PM
@ the OP......Leave NOW!!! It doesn't get better it gets worse!! I know this first hand and when I discovered his abuse of my son, I packed us up and left the jerk. The only reason I didn't know was he's beat my son while I was at work, and threatened my little guy with death if he told. I then got a restraining order, as he also threatened my family's life and pulled a loaded gun on me. Save your children and yourself and get outta there! My son has his issues now because of it, but I am finally getting through to him, and he's slowly getting back to being normal.....not so prone to being so angry at the world and having these fits of anger and violence. He's now 24 and doing well for himself. Thank God!! He is always comming over and hugging me and telling me that he loves me, which is the best feeling in the world. Take care of your little children first than work on healing you. Being codependant and enabling that creeping monster, will only destroy them.

DNickieD

Joined: 5/30/2005

Msg: 119 (view)

losing weight,anyone? Posted: 2/17/2006 9:11:59 PM
Thanks Iman...will check it out asap.

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