You deserve so much more than some guy who has a need to lie
to you - like you were not worth the truth.

nobody wants their feelings hurt but I would like to know if it was something that I have control over.
For instance, if he did not find me attractive-those are his tastes I don't have control over that. If it was me talking about my interests too much and not asking him enough questions about his interests that is something I can work on.

smokers and non smokers can they get on

I LOVE it when people create their own little categories, don't you.

Fact--I'm "high maintenance". Why? Because I LIKE to look good for ME. I enjoy getting my nails/feet done, wearing nice clothing, great shoes and having my face well made up and hair kept up. But I don't rely on a man to pay for my upkeep--I handle that myself.

Fact--I'm also "realistic" (snort). Why? I'm smarter than a man who'd come out here and try to put women into his own shiny shoe boxes. Well actually just smarter overall. I would rather spend time in a huge library SOME days than at a store. And then there are some days when I can shop till I drop.

So...OP...you're telling me that a woman can't be both? You know what's realistic? A "high maintenance" woman who's "smart enough" to know that being "high maintenance" does NOT mean spoiled, needy, and/or bratty.

The woman you described in your original post isn't "high maintenance"--she's a bizatch. There's a difference.

I must admit I was blown away by how big the food servings in America are,
compared to here in Australia, like wow!

* A domestic discipline marriage is one in which one partner in the marriage is given authority over the other, and has the means to back up that authority, usually by spanking.

* A Christian Domestic Discipline marriage is simply a marriage set up according to Biblical standards.

* Therefore, in a CDD marriage, the husband is the authority of the household.

* The wife is submissive to her husband as if the Lord Himself was her husband.

* The husband loves his wife as himself. He is to lead by example. He is to lay down his life for her.

* The wife treats her husband with respect. She is to obey him, as long as what he directs her to do is not in opposition to God's commands.

* He has the ultimate authority in his household, but this authority is tempered with the knowledge that he will answer to God for his actions and decisions.

* He is to be the head of the home. She is to be the heart of the home.

* He has the authority to spank his wife for punishment.

* A Christian couple is to be a reflection of Jesus and His bride.

Christian Domestic Discipline - Spanking Romance Short Story Collection- by Leah Kelley.

But it is where the women give their husbands the right to discipline them when they get out of line.

THEREFORE she is not being totally submissive to her husband, regardless of what other submissive things she may claim. She is in sin by her own admitted belief in wife submission. Because her husband made a DECISION in this area she is bound by it and God will hold her accountable to what she did with it. When she stands before God she is NOT responsible for whether her husband’s decisions were all right or not. She IS however responsible to whether she obeyed the command of God to submit to her husband. And that would include submitting to his decision to use chastisement as the negative influence of his authority.

I can see it in the profiles now:"Must have current certification in CPR."

I have to say Dutch women are pretty nice. Im talking about the real Dutch women, the everyday ordinary women, not the other women that spring to mind lol. Dutch women are nice to talk to, they actually smile at you, and they are always well dressed and very friendly.

Dutch women look good as well they are tall and athletic looking it must be because they all ride bikes everywhere.

the house will be everyones. They will both still use the kitchen, bathroom etc etc. The garage will be their bedroom!!!

Mind you his girlfriend will be there too. I have told him I haven't got a problem with her, mind you I do. I just don't want to get inbetween them etc.

But he just needed time to him self and time to see other women.

I still love him so much and really want to try and work things out. I don't want to ruin the friendship we have if I tell I still love in and want him back.

Let's get real for just a minute here: that phantom gal being analyzed here (Ms. Co Dependent, etc., etc.) was NOT in the moving-fast-lane alone. This OP moved every bit as fast, I do believe he stated he moved in with her. Hence? They are adults, they did what they wanted and it didn't work out. Happens all the time. Doesn't mean anyone is imbalanced. And in light of the fact we're getting hearsay here, I think it's plausible there are indeed two sides to this issue.

~OP~ She's moved on, you need to do the same. No worries about how fast you move ~ some people don't feel the need to conform to the social mores that dictate others and their relationships, do it how you want. Stop worrying about her, worry about you. JMO

At least in my lifetime we will still have white people. When I am dead at least I wont care if people do dumb things like interracial date.

We just broke up about 6 days ago. But now i have been put on the friends list WTF?Should i even talk to her any more . I mean if she is messing around with other guys all the time then i dont want here back.. But we were together for 8 years.. any ideas?

siqi......

Question .... What type of students do you teach? Inner City? Kids who live in single parent homes? Kids on welfare? The reason I am asking is because I am trying to get an idea of what kind of environment those boys come from who believe some women like to be slapped around by men and ask for it.

A new study/survey shows that one out of five adults believe it’s ok for a man to slap his wife or girlfriend, a survey has revealed.

The survey which in even more shocking results states that a total of 40 percent also believed that if a woman has been flirting heavily with a man, she should be held responsible for being sexually assaulted or raped. The survey comes from a Government poll on domestic violence, according to a Daily Mail report

During a taping of Oprah’s special airing of Fridays Live in Chicago, the TV talk show queen, Winfrey spoke on domestic violence saying, “In our country the statistic is one out of four women, that’s what’s reporting… are being battered by their boyfriends. Most don’t tell because they’re afraid that if they tell their parents, their parents will make them break up with them.”

3. I not looking for women to throw themselves at me. I've had plenty of opportunities for relationships, but for some reason it fizzles before it gets started. If I truly knew exactly what my issue was I wouldn't have had the though thought of posting this thread.

i am presently in a 6 month non-virtual relationship

Her husband gives her the present from him. It was a sponge mop. I kid you not! Then he gives her a box, you figure this is the real present. She opens it. Guess what? Sponge mop refills! I'm not kidding

Am I missing the better catalogs?? or should she dig him a grave with the snow shovel & pour him in there with the wheelbarrow?

!!!!UPDATE: !!!!! I received a call from him last night, wanted to meet me to discuss an issue:

His ex wife wants him to have half custody and or more child support $$ and he wanted to know if I would be a "nanny", if he needed me - he would pay me what he pays his ex ($1800 pm) because he wants full custody now.

I had not seen or spoken to him for two weeks and out-of-the-blue THIS!!

He also stated that he misses me and wants to continue our relationship.

I do not want to be treated like Im less worthy than anyone else... I want to feel like I mean something to him ...... wouldn't you?

It could only possibly "backfire" for the "innocent" party if the "innocent" party was a complete and total liar and faker about what she/he was agreeable to. If you LIE and say you're OK with an open relationship when you're NOT, the "innocent" party is actually the honest, open-relationship person, who was tricked.

While I can respect, don't understand, but respect a person's choice to wait until marriage to have sex, I would also expect the person demanding someone be a virgin to also be one, a real one, not just technically or a reborn virgin, whatever the hell that is.

Why bother to ask the question ? Are you as irresponsible as they ?

SYDNEY (AFP) — An Australian woman who had a child with her father pleaded for acceptance of their illicit love as the couple appeared on national television with their baby girl after being convicted of incest.

Jenny Deaves was 31 when she was reunited with her father John Deaves, who separated from her mother three decades before. Shortly afterwards, she had considered embarking on a sexual relationship with him, she told the Nine Network.

"John and I are in this relationship as consenting adults," she told the "60 Minutes" programme on Sunday night.

The couple's nine-month-old daughter, Celeste, to whom John Deaves is both father and grandfather, was also shown on the programme and appeared to be in sound health.

Jenny Deaves said not long after meeting her father, she began to see him as a man first and a father second.

"I was looking at him, sort of going, oh, he's not too bad," she said.
"Like you might look at a man across the bar at a nightclub."

John Deaves, who is 61, said he knew it was illegal to have sex with his child but emotions soon overcame him.

"Emotions take over, as people no doubt realise, there are times during your life where emotions do rule the heart, it rules the head," he said.

"I knew it was illegal, of course I knew it was illegal but you know, so what."

Sentencing remarks published on the court's website reveal that the couple had another child in 2001 but the infant died after only a few days due to a congenital heart disease.

District Court judge Steven Millsteed said the case was not typical because although father and daughter, the pair were "virtually strangers" when their relationship commenced.

"This is not a case where a father has violated his daughter and used his position of authority to take advantage of her powerlessness," he said.

sigi, what indian store and what product? do you mean from india or indigenous. i tried to click your profile in between writing this, but it would not work. so, i'll try again to see if it gives me some "hints". thanks all....will continue with the other url's listed above and get back...

Very interesting! How has the availability of legal prostitution affected the dating and social environment there?

In Brazil, prostitution is not illegal but it is illegal to operate a brothel, to rent premises to prostitutes, exploit children or live off the earnings of a prostitute.

In Canada, the law does not prohibit the act of prostitution but criminalizes a wide range of related activities like soliciting, living off the earnings of prostitution, operating premises, etc.

In Denmark, it is not illegal to provide sexual services so long as prostitution is not the main source of income (in which case the charge is vagrancy). Recruiting is illegal.

Greece and Turkey have both legalized prostitution. Women must register and attend clinics for regular examinations, in some cases as frequently as twice weekly.

In India, despite the many laws against the sex industry and traditional caste-bound prostitution, prostitution and trafficking is still common. Conditions are very bad for those involved.

In Senegal, it is illegal to aid, abet, procure or live off prostitution earnings or run a brothel. Female prostitutes must register, carry cards and have regular medical exams. Most women take part in the informal sector. Enforcement is weak.

In Thailand, it is illegal to be a prostitute or to live off a prostitute’s earnings. However, the laws are not consistently enforced.

Personally, I think that if prostitution were legal we might see women rely a lot less on withholding the promise of sex for their men in order to get what they want, since an unmarried man could easily get laid no matter what his condition.

30% of women have sex on first dates?

Just be there for that person. That is really all you can do. If they want to talk about it, they will bring it up.

I would send him a dozen roses and thank him profusely for maintaining a cool head while I was temporarily insane!

How did you come up with your screen name?

People with freckles are already at a disadvantage when it comes to the dating world.

You caught that too,huh?
OP...you probably should have thought about that one before you posted it.
You may have cost yourself some "sympathy votes."

There was never any shortage of attraction or passion between us, and I had her pretty well trained by the time it was over.

It's no longer a question of if a woman will do it. The only question is will she do it with YOU!