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amy32223

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She gives you a painting she made for you...cool or creepy? Posted: 4/20/2009 11:10:58 AM
What would you think if the birthday gift you got from the women you were dating was a picture she had painted for you? It this creative and cool or would it make you feel uncomfortable for some reason?

amy32223

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Women/Lesbians/Homos/Bi Posted: 3/5/2009 11:53:10 AM
Guess I missed something. Where was it said that anyone who believes any part of the bible is wrong? The point being made here is that people shouldnt stand behind a small part of the bible and use it to defend the hatred and fear they have for what they dont understand. There is far more information in that book about how we should love eachother and treat eachother well. This is the part of the bible that should define how we live.

amy32223

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Women/Lesbians/Homos/Bi Posted: 3/5/2009 11:00:09 AM
deerdog Everything is open to interpretation isnt it... Are you saying that God changed his mind about pork when he gave someone the idea to invent a refrigerator? I completely get that some things were included in the bible because for the good of the comunity. It was best to adivse against it for health reasons. Undercooked pork & the danger of trichinosis etc. Fear of what could happen... It's out dated now because we know better. My point is that it's posible that a homophobe wrote the part about men not sleeping together being unforgivable. Perhaps, this too, is outdated now because we know better. Just sayin...

amy32223

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Women/Lesbians/Homos/Bi Posted: 3/5/2009 10:16:19 AM
I'm so tired of hearing about how the Bible tells us it's a sin to be gay. The Bible tells us lots of things are a sin. Why is it that the gay thing is so much more important than the other things? In Leviticus chapter 11 The LORD goes into great detail about food that makes you unclean and should not be eaten or even touched. Some of these things include rabbit and pork and others. "But of the various creatures that crawl or swim in the water, whether in the sea or in the rivers, all those that lack either fins or scales are loathsome for you, and you shall treat them as loathsome. Their flesh you shall not eat, and their dead bodies you shall loathe. Every water creature that lacks fins or scales is loathsome for you. " Forgive me but wouldn't this also include lobster, shrimp, crab and scallops? Sounds like a dinner at Red Lobster could be your ticket straight to hell! Just food for thought (pun intended), We can overlook this sin but two same sex people loving each other sends them to hell? I don't get it. I believe in God and believe that he loves me unconditionally. I cant believe he really cares if Rick and Steve are touching each others private parts after they get home from their dinner at Red Lobster! There are way too many other important topics for God to focus on in our world.

amy32223

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Can u date an Ex's friend? Posted: 2/13/2009 12:13:13 PM
My 2 best friends and I have a rule about this. It's just isnt done. That's one of the reasons we have been friends for 24 years. You never let a man get between you. We are like sisters. If you wouldnt do it to your sister, you shouldnt do it to your friend. We used to be a group of 4 friends...Guess what happened to the forth one. The fact that you are asking the question shows that you think this might be the wrong thing to do. To confirm your suspicions...The answer is: If you are morally challenged enough to hit on her and she is morally challenged enough to say yes, The two of you deserve eachother.

amy32223

Joined: 11/30/2007

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Herpes Posted: 12/30/2008 7:05:07 AM
Wow 1460 that was really a nasty thing to say. Just because you and your former partner apparently won the STD Lottery by aquiring both HSV and HPV doesnt mean that the OP has as well. My sympathy for you in what you now have to deal with from a medical standpoint. I'm sure it's really scary for you. I completely understand your anger but it wasnt the OP that gave it to you. Always keep your words soft and sweet, One day you may have to eat them...

amy32223

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I'll Try Anything Once... hehe Posted: 12/17/2008 8:04:46 AM
And Amy Edits he profile to remove said comment. The last thing I want to do is sound like 3 out of 4 other profiles on here! Why did I have it on there to begin with? I guess just to say I am adventurous and not afraid to try new things. The right man for me will have the same attitude... It's about not judging things you dont know about. Being open minded to new experiences, people, places, things, food, sex, whatever. So it's not just about sex as the OP asks, but for some, that could be one of the things on the list...

amy32223

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Ever have a crush on a cartoon? Posted: 12/14/2008 10:32:44 AM
I was really into Aqua Man. Looking back, I think it was not so much the way he looked. Although he's not bad looking... It was more about his "ability to summon and command all the creatures of the deep" Plus, he rides on the back of a giant sea horse. Totally hot.

amy32223

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Met a user on here that is HIV+ Posted: 12/1/2008 12:54:02 PM
kirotta^^^ Absolutely she should have told him from the start. IF she knew prior to them dating. No one is defending her actions. His question was about what legal action should be taken against her. IMO the only action that can be taken is how careful he is in the future. This was a wake up call for him. He's freaked out and rightfully so. For those of us reading....We should think long and hard about the risks we have taken. Thank God she got herself tested! This story could have had a completely different ending. How many people are out there dating, infected, and dont know?

amy32223

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The rights of a father shouldn't end at 18 teen Posted: 12/1/2008 12:43:34 PM
If the PFA is unfounded than have it thrown out. If it's not based on actual abuse then obviously this should be an easy thing for you to do. I was basing my comment on the information you gave us. I did take this to court and tryed to have this PFA thrown out also to prove that my son was a troubled kid but sense this guy has no record and my son is 18teen there was nothing I could do what really makes me upset is this guy is getting away with this and the court system just doesn't care . because they feel my rites as a father ends at 18teen . Perhaps you need to tackle these two issues seperately. Many abusers blame their victims. Trying to have this overturned and calling him troubled in the same sentance may have made you look bad rather than showing you as the concerned father.

amy32223

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Met a user on here that is HIV+ Posted: 12/1/2008 11:36:02 AM
What should be going through your head is "Wow I need to educate myself so that I dont put myself at risk." You really cant look at someone and know if they are clean or not. Assume that everyone has something you dont want to catch from them. Find out how things are passed & protect yourself. This is not about her. It's about you.

amy32223

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Met a user on here that is HIV+ Posted: 12/1/2008 11:16:58 AM
EEEWWWW! Why would you kiss anyone when you have chapped & bleeding lips?

amy32223

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Met a user on here that is HIV+ Posted: 12/1/2008 11:15:13 AM
How did she act wrecklessly exactly? You know how it's passed right? What is it you want to do, keep her from ever having another date?

amy32223

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The rights of a father shouldn't end at 18 teen Posted: 12/1/2008 10:13:05 AM
I'm sorry but It doesnt make since to me that you would be ordered to stay away from your adult son for 2 and a half years unless there was documented abuse. I looked up this Protection From Abuse (PFA) order. It's not done lightly and is a several step process. Got this from your states website: "Under the Protection From Abuse Act, abuse is defined as physical abuse, a threat which places you in immediate fear of physical injury, or a pattern of conduct (such as stalking) which places you in immediate fear of physical injury." I'm not saying that this man isnt taking advantage of your son's need for love and acceptance. Based on the little we know, the boy has had a difficult life. I do question what conduct on your part has been left out of this story that caused this PFA order to be put in place against you for this length of time. There are three sides to every story... Your side, Their Side, and (somewhere in the middle) What Really happened...

amy32223

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The rights of a father shouldn't end at 18 teen Posted: 11/29/2008 10:39:08 AM
What is a P.F.A.?

amy32223

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Please review my profile, I belive I might be sending the wrong signal Posted: 11/26/2008 6:25:27 AM
I would get rid of your main picture. Not sure what the hand signal is that you are doing there. Flipping us off, gang sign? either way, not what a girl is going to be atttracted to. A picture of you smiling will go a long way. Most girls want a friendly, fun, happy guy. These pictures show that you are a handsome guy but maybe too serious. Break up your about me section. You have some good info in there. I can tell you are bright and have a veriety of interests. It's sometimes difficult to read a large block of words. You dont really say what you are looking for in a girl. That might be something good to add. To me, the mixed signal is that you sound smart & interesting but look like a thug. Show us your friendly fun side.. Hope this helps!

amy32223

Joined: 11/30/2007

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Just because you like sex doesn't mean your a porn star!!! Posted: 11/5/2008 7:58:08 PM
Ok, Rain & Cindy, Ya'll just need to hug it out! [ What kind of warning do you want? a beeping noise? ] You know that ws funny as hell! I have to say I'm with you on the forcing thing though. Gaging someone with your manhood may look sexy on film but in real life it's not ok without permission. It's important to talk about your preferences prior to the act but you may not think of some things until you are there. You also dont have to pull out all your tricks the first time. I'd say, if it could make her throw up on you, you may want to run it by her first to make sure she can handle it.

amy32223

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Bros before Hos or All's fair in love and war? Posted: 10/23/2008 7:23:41 AM
Sounds to me like your friend was trying to protect your feelings by not telling you about he and this girl until he knew where the relationship was going. He knew that you had a crush on this girl and that you might not react well to hearing that she was into him rather than you. Obviously he knows you pretty well... Perhaps he was trying to avoid a situation where you drank too much and did back flips into the pool fully clothed. You behaved like a baby throwing a tantrum. I will tell you, If she was even a little interested in you before, she will not be now. You have just displayed how immature you are and that your friend was right about how you might react. I dont think you were the butt of a joke before. Unfortunately, You may be the punch-line now...

amy32223

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Autosexuality Posted: 10/17/2008 11:26:26 AM
Corindan, What you are talking about is auto-erotic asphixiation. Not everyone involved in autosexuality will be into this. Just like not everyone who has sex with a partner is into choking. I dont think you and the OP are talking about the same topic.

amy32223

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what does intimate encounter mean to you Posted: 10/16/2008 8:30:19 AM
Perhaps they are just not interested in an intimate encounter with you. Or, maybe they did not think about the fact that a married man would contact them for one. Being contacted by a married man made them realize that they needed to add that filter to their profile.

amy32223

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Help, confused 3 year old... Posted: 10/6/2008 4:10:41 PM
The 3 year old is not confused. She is apparently the only one seeing that this is a problem. When the baby calls the new man dada, you need to correct him & tell him what the guys name is. Perhaps you should also tell his REAL daddy that his absence in his sons life has caused his son to call another man dada. Bet he will pick up the slack pretty darn quick. Men tend to not like their kids calling other men daddy.

amy32223

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Why do so many teenagers get pregnant? Posted: 9/26/2008 7:46:10 PM
Because many parents are not paying attention to what teenage kids are doing, or have not raised them with open communication. Kids are afraid of parents judgment and dont feel that they can be honest about what's happening in their lives. I have 2 teenage sons. We have had some extremely open and detailed conversations about sex, stds and pregnancy. I'm not going to fool myself into thinking that they are not going to have sex. When my son came home with a hicky on his neck (gross) we talked about it and he was honest about having had sex with his girlfriend and said that he had used a condom. I took him to the store and got him more of them. Went to Planned Parenthood and got him literature and more condoms. Kids who have sex are likely to get pregnant. Lots of kids are having sex. There is a name for Parents who look the other way and convince themselves that it's not their kids who are not having sex. They are called Grandparents! I think it's smarter to assume that they will/are having sex and do all I can to educate them and scare them to death about the consequences of being a parent at such a young age.

amy32223

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help Posted: 9/14/2008 6:42:04 PM
My best friends brother has the same thing your son has been diagnosed with. She and I have been friends for 23 years and of course I have spent much time with him over the years. I honestly do not know much about the condition but I can tell you that you would never have known that he has a problem. Now that he is in his early 40's he does need help getting around at night as he cannot see well in the dark. Until the past few years it has not really been an issue the effected his life. At least from an outside perspective. He is a successful business owner, husband and father. I share this with you because I think it's important that you remember that nothing is carved in stone. There are no set rules about the way this will go for your boy. Your son will have a full and successful life in spite of this condition. Hope this helps give you some encouragement. Amy

amy32223

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A lot of women don't like sex? Posted: 8/20/2008 9:57:22 PM
x-file, Your last post reminded me of a study I heard about some time ago. I did a bit of searching and was able to find it for you. The following quote is from an article that reports on this study. "Based on data from more than 17,000 respondents in 28 countries, researchers found that live-in boyfriends perform more housework than married men because cohabiting couples tend to split housework more evenly than married couples. After marriage, however, women take on a larger portion of household chores. Most studies of housework suggest that on average married women do about twice as much housework as their husbands even after controlling for employment status and other factors." To read complete article: http://www.physorg.com/news107706169.html Another article mentioning the same study gave these statistics: "Overall, men averaged 9.41 hours' housework a week and women 21.13 hours." Unfortunately I was not able to find a copy of the study itself. Perhaps this is a reason for the decrease in sex-drive in women after being married for a number of years. Maybe they are just too tired to do it!

amy32223

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A lot of women don't like sex? Posted: 8/19/2008 7:59:39 PM
OP [That's like saying I love food that's why I don't have any outside of a restaurant. To a degree it makes sense. The only way what you are saying fully makes sense is if you add, "And I value relationships more than sex". Cause if you really like sex, you would have it regardless if you're in a relationship or not. In a similar way if you really like food, you would eat regardless if you are in a restaurant or not.] No. What I'm saying is I would rather not have sex with a random partner. This will guarantee that I dont have bad sex. Women who are not having random sex with semi-strangers still like sex. You are suggesting that just because we like someone and find them attractive, we should have sex with them. As if to say "If you like sex what's the big deal?" Keep in mind just because I'm not having sex with a partner doesnt mean I'm not having sex. I know exactly what works for me. I know that it will be great every time. I know that I will still respect myself the next day and dont have to wonder if the phone will ring. I can do it as often and for as long as I like. Someday I will have a man in my life who will have the mutual love, respect and trust to do with me all the things I do when I am alone... Until that time I will enjoy my sex alone!

amy32223

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A lot of women don't like sex? Posted: 8/19/2008 10:02:44 AM
[ "I find him attractive, I like him, but I wouldn't have sex with him!" What do women mean by that? Isn't "like" and "attraction" a form of "emotional attachment"?] That's exactly what it means. She most likely feels that she would have some emotional attachment and dont want to have sex with him because she believes he would not have the same emotional attachment. Men can have reputations too. She does not want a one night stand and knows that's what it would be. She's saying that although she's attracted the would not have sex because she knows that she will feel unwanted afterwards.

amy32223

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A lot of women don't like sex? Posted: 8/19/2008 8:19:44 AM
I love sex which is exactly why I don't have sex outside of a relationship. When two people are in a committed relationship they have the opportunity/responsibility/motivation to learn what pleasures their partner. The situations you describe are obviously people "hooking up" rather than those in a LTR. I believe that in most cases, men who are not interested in being with a women for more than a one night stand, are also not interested in making sure she "comes" away from the experience fulfilled. For a man, you know that you are going to reach your ultimate goal of orgasm when you have sex. You are in control of how quickly it happens for you as well as being responsible for weather she also has the opportunity for orgasm. Enjoying sex, for a women doesn't mean enjoying it every time. A man who is a selfish lover can make sure that a women capable of multiple Os ends the evening having none. These are the circumstances that lead to a woman feeling used and will make her refer to sex as a "let him" or "gave him" situation. She didn't say "enjoyed sex" because she didn't enjoy it. Having bad sex will tend to make you not want to have sex. To use your sports analogy... The most talented baseball player will not enjoy playing if his teammates don't care enough to play well and try to win the game. If you don't enjoy the game you may not want to play as often. As for your porn star quote, perhaps she believes that her performances are convincing enough that she doesnt need to tell the viewers how much she enjoys sex. Maybe you should cut her some slack. There's a big difference between being good at oral and being eloquent.

amy32223

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Do you have a checklist? Posted: 8/12/2008 7:40:02 AM
I would not call it a check list. It's more of a wish list.

amy32223

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Multiples vs. One or None & Motivation Posted: 8/4/2008 7:09:30 PM
Bless your heart Dave! It seems as if you have devoted your life to enlightening the world about the amazing G-Gasm. You sell it like you would if you were hosting an infomercial! Some people have criticized you in past threads for you enthusiasm in "selling" this technique. To me it seems that you just want everyone to educate themselves about the possibilities. That was my reason for starting this thread. To get people to look at (and discuss) the fact they they have an option, and perhaps an obligation, to give as much pleasure to their partner as they can.

amy32223

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Multiples vs. One or None & Motivation Posted: 8/4/2008 12:56:35 PM
We all know that all women are different in their ability to reach orgasm. Some are Multiple, Some are done after one & Some have never been able to have one. My question is how do men behave differently in each situation? Assuming that you have had conversations before and know what you may be dealing with prior to having sex with her.... ~Multiple: Do you want to see how many & pull out all your tricks to try to break a record? Do you figure it happens easily so you wont have to work as hard? ~Only One: Do you want to try to convert her into a Multi-Girl? Do you figure it may or may not happen and hope for the best? ~Never had One: Do you feel it's a challenge & want to be the one to finally "crack the code"? Are you relieved that the pressure is off because she's not going to do it regardless of what you do?

amy32223

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Throwing myself out there, just to see what the ladies think. :) Posted: 8/1/2008 8:05:52 PM
Your friends are right, You should edit your profile down a bit. Going into detail is fine for a conversation. Your profile should make her want to know more about you, not tell everything about you. [I'm really busy these days, so if you're interested, feel free to throw something at me. It may distract me long enough to pay attention to you :D] This tells me that there is not much of a reason to read any further in your profile. You wont have time for a relationship anyway... I would get rid of this part completely Hope this helps!

amy32223

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cant block people w/ kids! Posted: 7/26/2008 3:22:49 PM
Is this really that big of a problem that you need a filter? How many mother are sending you notes each day? Wouldnt it be just as easy to explain in your profile that you are a young man without children and that you are looking for a girl who is also without children?

amy32223

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New....?-separated, divorced, what? Posted: 4/18/2008 7:34:19 AM
Sorry Johnny, The truth is , You are Separated, which means, you are still married. If you change your status to single, you are not being honest. Bad way to begin a relationship with someone new. June is not that far off. You'll be able to change it soon enough.

amy32223

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Should I Sue the Dead Beat Boss? Posted: 4/15/2008 3:53:46 PM
Just a quick update....Not much of one really but here goes! I finally got a call back from the Florida Department of Revenue tax cheat reporting hotline. I've been leaving several messages a week over the last few weeks. I explained the situation and was told that I really need to be talking to child support enforcement. Around in a never ending circle...... The (maybe) good news is that Both departments are run by the IRS and apparently in the same building. He said that he was going to walk across the hall and give my information to the CSE supervisor to follow up with me. At least I have a contact name now. I'll bet a call a day to his voice mail will get something done! So keep your fingers crossed that something may actually happen this time.

amy32223

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Access the ex wants has left me confused. Posted: 4/12/2008 10:09:40 AM
Some men are afraid of babies. They feel unsure of what to do with them when they are so small. They think that they may accidentally hurt the baby. Could this be the case? Perhaps he feels that he cannot handle her alone for longer than a couple of hours. Hopefully, if that is the situatin, things will improve as she gets older.

amy32223

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do i sound mean Posted: 4/8/2008 8:23:44 PM
You didnt just want to know if it was mean. This is what you said: "let me know though and if it's offensive to some people i will change it" You are right we are all retards. We thought you actually wanted to know what people thought of your profile. We thought you realized that if girls read your profile and thought you were a self centered jerk they would not want to sleep with you. Oh abie..... It's ok. We did not realize you had it so bad. Now we understand. "you remember highschool ...everyone knows eachother, word gets around..." Obviously everyone in your "group of friends or peers at school..." have formed an openion about you. Word gets around about boys with ....um...lets call it.....performance issues. This is why you are looking for "discreet encounters with girls that have no connection to my group of friends or peers at school..." You need a group of young ladies who dont yet know about your...um...lets call them...Shortcommings. "girls don't want to have sex unless it's with their boyfriends because they are afraid of being called sluts" Maybe if you were not such an ass you could have a girlfriend to have sex with too. Dont worry abie, one day you will be 30. Maybe then you will be able to moove to a new town where no one knows you. You can create a new profile on a dating site that talks about how nice you are and start a tread to find out what women have against ex-football stars with comb-overs and beer guts. It will be great.

amy32223

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Do it Posted: 4/8/2008 11:11:22 AM
Ok no one is giving you any comments so here goes.... You really need a picture that shows you with a smile on your face. The DJ one os ok but too far away to be your thumbnail pic. You are a good looking guy but You look so serious. Smile! "Moved away from my old house and hoping to start a fresh life now." Instead of saying this why not say "I recently moved from_____. I live in_____ and am looking forward to starting a new life here. " "No really here for dating, just signed up for the crack lol, but i'll keep my options open in case i like ya. " Crack? is that slang for something else or are you making a joke about crack the drug?Sarcasm doesnt always translate in writing. I would ditch that line. Hope this helps!

amy32223

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do i sound mean Posted: 4/8/2008 10:08:35 AM
Oh indiallias! "Also your profile pic has got - 'i want a transexual up my bum' written all over it so maybe work on that if you dont want them messaging you." I think I love you!

amy32223

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I need a little help Posted: 4/8/2008 9:28:04 AM
I like your profile. It shows humor, gives good informatino about who you are and has good pictures. Im not sure about the pic of your drinking out of a brown paper bag. Dont think that's doing anything for you. I'd get rid of that one. Maybe the problem is not your prfile. If you are not getting responses from women you contact, maybe you need to work on your messages. I think it is best when a man mentions something about my profile that he likes. Not just about the way I look but something we have in common. Also be sure you ask a question. Give her a reason to respond. Hope this helps. Best of luck in your search!

amy32223

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do i sound mean Posted: 4/8/2008 8:50:26 AM
First you should change your heading From this: dj abie : funny, exciting, charming guy To this: dj abie: homophobe, hater, controler Remember when you write about "bigger girls" that many slim beautiful girls have a best freind who is a "bigger girl". She will always pick her friend over you, and will not want to risk exposing her friend to a man who could hurt her feelings. If you wil say something like that on here where you are trying to put your best foot forward, what will you say when you are relaxed out in public? Also, many women have a gay friend, who they love. Again, The fastest way to loose a woman is to offend her friends. The transgendered comment makes you look ingnorant. "once a girl reaches her 30s or so she wants a nice guy because she's tired of jerks but girls my age want a guy who can control them" So you are admitting that you are a jerk....? There is a difference between confident and controling. So to answer your question, YES you sound mean. Change your profile or continue to enjoy your alone time.

amy32223

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Rating? Posted: 4/7/2008 2:57:54 PM
Ok Chi, After reading your profile I know everything about you. Where's the mystery? I'm all for being detailed but save something for the actual conversation. My advice is to try to simplify and edit. Also, you may want to reset your age restrictions. You could have something in common with a man who's 5 yrs older but he will not be able to contact you with your profile set as it is. You are on the right track. Give the suggestions on here a try. Remember you asked us for comments. Dont shut them all down without giving it a try. If it doesnt work you can always go back to the old way. Best of luck to you in your search!

amy32223

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Should I Sue the Dead Beat Boss? Posted: 4/7/2008 2:31:36 PM
Exactly! I just couldnt get anyone at the local CSE office to listen to me. Now maybe I have a chance of something happening! I'll keep you posted....

amy32223

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Some criticism welcomed Posted: 4/7/2008 11:37:55 AM
When you send a message for the first time make it personal. Read her profile and mention something she wrote that interested you. Share something about yourself that you may have in common. Ask a question to give her a reason to respond to your note. Good luck!

amy32223

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My new pics, what you think Posted: 4/7/2008 11:09:03 AM
There is nothing more unattractive than a needy man. Quit down talking yourself. Women like men who are self confident. I would much rather date an average loooking man with a great personality than a georgous man with a bad attitude. This is your first impression to all those women who are "shopping" for a man. Your profile is an add campaign. It's a commercial for YOU! Remember that when you write about yourself and in the pictures you post. Put a smile on your face and take a picture of it. This will go a long way on your profile and in your life.

amy32223

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Need a review on my pro. Posted: 4/7/2008 10:40:01 AM
The picture needs to go for 2 reasons. First, there's lots f clutter around you. This is your first impression. You dont want girls to think you are messy. Second, you say that you have long hair but this picture shows you with a buz cut. Is the picture just really old? Get a new pic of you smiling. This worries me "Playing guitar is another thing I love to do, one of the things that keeps me from doing something seriously bad." It's good that you play guitar. Many women find musical talent attractive. The fact that you are capable of doing something really bad is scarry. Women will run away from this. 1st rule of dating: Dont talk about religion or politics on a first date. Get rid of your rant about religion on your profile. Goood luck!

amy32223

Joined: 11/30/2007

Msg: 41 (view)

Should I Sue the Dead Beat Boss? Posted: 4/7/2008 9:57:01 AM
Thanks Deuce! I'm not giving up on this. Made another call to the IRS hotline this morning to attempt to report the employer. I will call them daily until I get a response. Also, in discussing this with my neighbor this weekend found that she has a good friend who works for Child Support Enforcement. Gave her my case # to check on the status of my case and verify that all information has been noted regarding the employer. That should help as I have been told that CSE can press charges of contempt on the employer for ignoring the order to garnish wages.

amy32223

Joined: 11/30/2007

Msg: 36 (view)

Should I Sue the Dead Beat Boss? Posted: 4/5/2008 7:48:59 AM
Than you so much for all the great suggestions and support! After Many Calls over the past few days I finally found a number for the "Awards Hotline" It's a phone number to call to report Tax Cheats. I left 2 voice mails yesterday (friday), so we will see what happens with that. I have also found out that it is possible to sue the employer for contempt of court. Unfortunately it will be upto Child Support Enforcement to do that. It will be my job to drive them crazy about it until someone listens and understands what's really happening here. I spoke with my Ex and found out that he will not be filling 2007 taxes. No W-2 at all. This has to bring up a question of how he has been supporting himself. I have recently lost the job that allowed me to support our children alone. In the past, the money was not an issue. It helped, but did not really make a big difference. Now it will. The other point is that he used to spend time with the children. It was not obvious to them that he was not helping on a regular bases because he did things for them when he had them. That has changed too. When moved his girlfriend in, and gave her son our son's bedroom. The looks on their faces when they told me they would need sleeping bags to spend the night (ON THE FLOOR) with their father... They dont want to go over there and he has stopped calling them I am now a mama bear defending her cubs. The claws are out. I will keep you posted on what happens!

amy32223

Joined: 11/30/2007

Msg: 5 (view)

Having another child Posted: 4/3/2008 10:56:30 AM
When I got back into the dating game 12 yrs ago I knew that I would like to have more children. I gave myself a deadline. 35 was my deadline. I knew that based on the ages my children would be at that point. I would not want to "start over" with a new baby. Knowing that this is a dealbreaker for some men. I am up front about it. I let them know that I'm done with that part of my life. I dont want to waste my time or theirs. You may want to give yourself a deadline if having an additional child is even something you really want to do. The decision will effect your life more than his...It's your career, your body, your other children, your home, your decision to make.

amy32223

Joined: 11/30/2007

Msg: 20 (view)

Should I Sue the Dead Beat Boss? Posted: 4/3/2008 10:10:41 AM
We have been to court 3 times in the last year And How do you think they inforce the order johne102? Suspend his drivers Lic. DONE Drives without it. Garnish Wages.....Employer ignores all contact from courts requesting payment. Arrest him for non payment....Employer bails him out and refuses to send additional child support payments because dead beat dad now owes employer bail money. The obligatin to support your children comes before all others. The point is that the employer is in contempt of court for refusing to garnish wages. This is not my first day. I realize that what I am trying to do is not typical. The situation is not typical. This has been going on for 3 years with the same employer refusing to comply with the court order.

amy32223

Joined: 11/30/2007

Msg: 16 (view)

Should I Sue the Dead Beat Boss? Posted: 4/3/2008 7:22:38 AM
Wow jimmyjojimbob! Thank you for the IRS research and great suggestions. No need to check in with unemployment. You have to have worked in the past to qualify for benefits. My ex has been working off the books for most of his adult life and would not qualify. I did call one of the local new stations and suggested exactly what you mention. The person I talked to thout it sonded interesting and transferred me to the voice mail of one of the reporters. I have not heard anything back yet....Need to make more calls! In early January the child support court put out a writ of attachment....Arrest warrent for unpaid child support. I was given a number to call if I saw him in a public place. The police were required to go pick him up. I had him picked up in the restaurant where he works. Ta Da! Record of him working there! This is when his boss paid $2500 perge amount to get him out of jail. No child support will be paid to me until this amount is paid back to the boss. I Febrary I expalined the situation to a child support rep. She (after much prodding) made a call to the business and spoke to my ex who confirmed that he does work there. Ta Da! More proof. I realize that this idea of going after the boss is a long shot. It's not a matter of actually getting money from this guy, It's a way of getting attention to the problem. If some one can sue

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