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david3634955

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beleave in life ! Posted: 8/28/2008 11:07:49 AM
You would like the Egyptian traditions, and by that I mean the Ancient ones. The heart of every man woman and child who dies is said to pass over to Thoth, the god of mysticism and knowledge, to be measured on a scale with a feather on the other side. Those whose hearts are lighter than the feather will be granted passage into the afterlife, while those with hearts heavier than the feather have that heart eaten by Anubis, the god of death. The meaning is that our lives are not measured by our religious choices, or by our actions. Instead, we are judged by our attachment to the physical world. You appear to have a perspective of being in the world and not quite of it, as do many people. That is a sign that you will not be as likely as many others to feel that this world is all that one can be attached to. In other words, if you feel that you have earned a place in Heaven, and that is your honest, soul-felt belief, then you shall receive that regardless of how others have judged your actions. That doesn't mean your Heaven will be the same as everyone elses, and by all means, there's no reason such an infinite multiverse as the afterlife should be limited to one idea. The point is, my opinion stands that you have no one you must be beholden to other than yourself. If that means you do something in this world that earns you the death penalty, but you feel that it is the right thing and the right way to go, then there is no reason why you should not go to this other realm where, for once, you will actually feel like you belong. I like your question though, and I thank you for letting my mind bring back that analogy, as I never fully understood how it related to me until I decided to explain it for you. ~ David EDIT: Read the bottom of his post! He apologizes for his poor grammar and therefore should be taken seriously, in my opinion.

david3634955

Joined: 12/3/2007

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Women insisting on a Christian man Posted: 8/28/2008 7:32:07 AM
I honestly have a bias against dating Christians. I find that they are predisposed against accepting people different than them. I find it ironic that Christ's messages of loving those who are so often hated is completely lost on the majority religion that is Christianity in the U.S. Even so, I respect Christian women who only want to be with a Christian man, as long as they realize that such a requirement is not the sole prerequisite to knowing that said man is a good person, or even safe to be within 5 feet of at a given time. ~ David

david3634955

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Buddhism and Relationships Posted: 8/27/2008 10:51:25 PM
When I read that poem, I cried tears that defy emotion. My mother used to read me that story when I was a child, so thank you for showing it to me. I truly needed to read it right now. This is how I see buddhism: That is how I see buddhism. ~ David

david3634955

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Why is sexuality connected to bad-ness? Posted: 8/27/2008 9:08:19 PM
Since expressing the thanks I feel for the value of every single individual reply I've gotten, let alone the combined gratefulness, would be beyond my vocabulary, I would simply like to say that I'm very thankful that I've at least been taken seriously by such a diverse group of people. On such a core topic to the human experience, it is very satisfying to know that there can be agreement on the simple truths. I appreciate this as much as any of the advice or ideas that have been given to me. ~ David

david3634955

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Why is sexuality connected to bad-ness? Posted: 8/27/2008 2:58:41 PM
it seems to me that sexuality, and sensuality as well, are great things. I'm not talking about sadomasochistic orgies of forced violence or victimization. That's not sexual or sensual. That's a power struggle. I'm not talking about child sex either. First of all, when kids touch themselves it's because they're curious about where the happy feeling comes from. Duh. Second, when adults touch kids or some kind of permutation of that scenario, it is not sexual or sensual. It is a psychotic manifestation of desires symbolic and personal in nature that are not given a chance to be experienced safely. I could go on. But what I'm talking about is consensual (and animals and dead people can't consent, unless it's obvious that the bull is attracted, in which case more power to the parties involved, and good luck with the sores) sex between any number of partners (including one), regardless of gender. I don't see how it needs to lead to child-birth. I don't see how it needs to be a specifically spiritual thing. I like sneezing, and it feels good, but that doesn't mean that I spiritually take in every "bless you" I hear just because it's pleasurable. That kind of thinking just complicates the simple pleasures of life. I don't see why sex needs to be post-marriage, or within a dedicated relationship. Sure, I'm all for dedicated relationships. I'm in one, faithfully in fact, but that doesn't mean that I understand why that's supposedly necessary. sex is just love, and to feel that the love of a man or woman should be reserved for just oneself is a selfish way to think, and I would imagine it sinful for that very reason, too. If I am creeping people out, tough titties. I don't abuse people, and in person I am a very friendly fellow who will not act on any of these thoughts out of respect for the world around me. I am simply stating my mind, and explaining what seems to be very obvious to no one else, or else they would have whined about it before me. I guess I'm just curious as to why sexuality has to be considered such a dark thing. Is it really evil to want to make love to someone just because you're in a loving mood and feel like making them happy if possible? I don't see how that all figures. I'm not trying to start some kind of revolution just so I can get laid. I simply want to understand what I'm sure is a valid explanation for why people are so tightly protective of their sexuality, when it seems like our instincts are there for a reason. I also don't feel that people should just hump anything that moves. I'm talking about friendly sexual and sensual living free of guilt about whether one's sexual happiness is somehow not in the best interest of the world. I totally feel that safe sex practices should be used, and avidly so. I think I've made my point, so now I'm going to see who agrees and who wants to grill me for being honest. ~ David

david3634955

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The new normal?????? Posted: 8/25/2008 1:04:16 PM
I dunno where most of these guys are coming from, but I really don't like the idea of FWB. What I want is the relationship dynamic, with the added bonus that I share a sexual life with this person. Sometimes I wonder if I'm the only guy in my age bracket who just wants to learn who someone is before having sex with them. I'm no Don Juan anyway, thanks in no small part to my philosophy, I imagine. But what's the use of a woman touching you if she's only doing it for herself? How's that gonna make me feel about myself, if that's the only way I can get that kind of intimacy, as opposed to seeing if someone actually wants to dedicate a chunk of their lives to our shared happiness? I get lonely, of course, and yes I want to have sex. That doesn't mean I'm just going to give in to my lust and find something to hump for the time being. That just seems a little immature to me. ~ David

david3634955

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Why do men stare at womens boobs & think we don't notice ??? Posted: 8/25/2008 1:06:00 AM
I just don't like looking at breasts unless they are on private display specifically for me. It seems like that's not all that illogical, but that's just me. Then again, I open doors for women even if they're unattractive and with their boyfriends, and otherwise try to act decent no matter what the circumstances, so what're you gonna do, right? ~ David

david3634955

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How Do You Tell a Guy He Smells Funny? Posted: 8/25/2008 12:59:41 AM
Tell him, "you know, you don't need to talk to me so often, I like you a lot already, and if you wore a little more cologne and freshened your breath I'd totally have tons of sex with you. In fact, you can stay on the site and look for other women while you're at it, just in case I'm not enough for you." Something tells me he'd be motivated by that. :P ~ David

david3634955

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Why women like to ask men about their fears? Posted: 8/24/2008 11:18:04 PM
You know, I didn't want to think you were an overcompensating, trumped-up dork, but I'm afraid you've left me with no alternative diagnosis for your lack of sane behavior. You're an idiot, man. You'll die alone while I live a great life living with the woman I love, who I've already been living with for over a year, for your information, and who I met on this site only two months after I started out. I guess the success rate is just a matter of a man's quality. Enjoy your life living with Rosy Palms, ***hole. ~ David

david3634955

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beautiful people, ugly genitals... Posted: 8/24/2008 11:13:09 PM
I have nothing good to say, but Kryten from Red Dwarf does... [referring to the male penis]: "Is it supposed to look like that?" Other character: "Well, yeah..." Kryten: "It's HIDEOUS! Are you telling me there were choices and someone said, 'ah, that's the one we're looking for: the "last chicken in the shop" look...'" Point is, our genitals are just plain ugly. I personally am not interested in looking at the vagina, but enjoy very much to look at pretty much every other part of female anatomy (and even can stand to see most parts of a male, for that matter). Of course the other quote that goes with this comes from Pulp Fiction: "It is a shame that what is pleasing to the touch and pleasing to the eye is so seldom the same." Anyway, that's my bit.

david3634955

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Why women like to ask men about their fears? Posted: 8/24/2008 11:01:15 PM
OP: it's quite comical, but not laughable. Your vocabulary is making use of "euphemisms" that I had no idea existed, and honestly I'm surprised that you think you're a successful bachelor. The thing is, when a woman asks you what your fears are, it's because she wants a reason to hug you and make you feel safe. I know, you think it's just a game... Well the only one playing a game here is you, and you're also managing to lose at it pretty rapidly. Still, at least it's because of losers like you that so many women come running to guys like me just begging to have all kinds of sexual fantasy-fulfilling tongue planted firmly in an already smirking cheek. anyway, I thought guys wanted women devouring the soft parts of their bodies, but apparently not the ones who think they're on top of some kind of game... Thanks for the laugh, you big schmuck. [EDIT:] I hope you know that I bear you no ill will, and think you just need to learn to have a sense of humor about the labors that go into finding love. Otherwise, guys tend to go a little insane, just like women, and cats. ~ David

david3634955

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Do you believe in God, but not organized religion? Posted: 8/24/2008 10:48:08 PM
I personally - and cordially, whenever possible - believe in God(dess), and not organized religion, the same way that I am a patriot, and not a nationalist. I question my Divine, just as I question my country. I doubt and dislike and get infuriated by my Divine - as with my country - every once in a while. But because of that relative lax-ness of belief, and because I am not afraid of being incorrect in my assumptions on the role of the Divine in my life - or my country in the world - I am capable of loving and accepting, as well as simply acknowledging, the Divine in others, as much as I can appreciate the beauty and wonder of others' countries. Variety is the spice of life, and I intend for both my cultural and spiritual lives to be quite flavorful before my alloted time on this Earth has passed. That's all I have to say. ~ David

david3634955

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Synchronicity -anybody understand it and have some experiences to share. Posted: 8/8/2008 6:33:02 PM
This is how I live. When I think about things, I check my surroundings. If the wind blows, or a light dims as I walk by it, or I hear wind chimes, then I know I'm correct. If things stagnate, then I know I am incorrect. I know because I have studied the ways of the world when I think. I have learned to hear the wind goddess sing, and I have learned to speak with her without words. I have learned to see the world react to my presence, and found that it is all a matter of the amount of personal gravity one has. The more one is aware of the world, the more the world is aware of them. That is the rule, and as such it has exceptions, especially in the most extreme inconsistencies. Such is the way of things. I see the voice of gods in everything. Sometimes I can see every blade of grass moving independently, and the way everything shades and lights everything else. Then I know that I am aware of a greater truth. Synchronicity is a part of every life. After all, it is impossible to really think that every case of life is a coincidence, even though the conditions that bring them about are so extremely delicate. Thus, it should follow that just as our creation and destruction are synchronistic, so should our consciousness have a connection to the synchronicities in the world. Or at least a capacity to be conscious of such. ~ David

david3634955

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all my muscles can't get me out of this jam/now you know why schmuck is in my name Posted: 8/7/2008 10:58:44 PM
You haven't seen it work, with all due respect.

david3634955

Joined: 12/3/2007

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Do you have an example of a great intro email? Posted: 8/7/2008 9:05:37 PM
I always write something unique for someone. I figure they deserve that much. I also don't even try if their profile doesn't inspire me. That doesn't mean it has to be long or even descriptive. I just need to get a vibe. When I do, I mention what the vibe was, and where I think it came from. I mention my intentions, and my curiosity as to her interests, or if she mentions them, I look for shared interests, or ones that she mentions and which I hope to experience (besides sex and all the other ones you shouldn't mention). Most importantly, I'm genuine. I always write what I feel, and what I see. I make sure that I can back up everything I say with a reason why I said it, simply by telling the truth and being self-aware. What's my response rate? About 75%. All positive. ~ David

david3634955

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That Couple in the Top-Left Corner: Don't You Want to Just Smack Them? Posted: 8/7/2008 8:57:55 PM
I wish I hadn't looked at it... Their smiles are really creepy... They smile so big, their eyes are insanely squinted, and you'd practically expect their lips to split... not only that, but isn't the guy wearing the same color lipstick as the girl? Eww... if they're gonna wear the same lipstick, it should be a bit messier. ~ David

david3634955

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all my muscles can't get me out of this jam/now you know why schmuck is in my name Posted: 8/7/2008 8:52:40 PM
The first thing I'd do is say something. I'd say something that lightens the tensity between myself and this woman. For example, I'd ask her where she gets her hair done. That way, the staring will seem a bit less creepy, and a bit more harmless. Then, I'd just start a conversation on the subject. For example, if she mentions a place, I'd ask if it's expensive (money is always a source of conversation: what's your job, what do you hope to do, etc.)... So, because of one ice-breaker+attention-shifter comment, I am able to start a harmless first conversation with her, all the while learning about her, letting her feel appreciated (which in all likelihood, is actually the case, because I'm interested in learning about people in my own right). I've made many a girlfriend (like casual friend) this way, along with a few long-term partners. ~ David

david3634955

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First Reported Obama Assassination Threat Posted: 8/7/2008 8:42:03 PM
Someone would have to really be an idiot to say something like that to the Secret Service. The truth is, people who assassinate public figures don't do it for money, because no amount of money can buy off the full power of the public that knew said person trying to find you and put you to justice. The only people who will want to assassinate obama will be people who simply are stupid, insane, racist, radically fundamentalist, ignorant to the point of uselessness in society, or some combination of these. I hope that none of them have the additional attribute of "successful", both as a strong obama supporter and as a person who believes in the value of human life. I also frankly hope that this whole issue stays as far from interesting as possible. The more boring an election, the less likely someone will try to do something stupid. That's why I hate the media making a fuss over lapel pins and the size of a smile, instead of calling one's wife a c*** or making regular racist, sexist, and otherwise completely inappropriate jokes in public. It should be publicized that this race is hardly a race anymore. It's obvious who the superior man is, and it's only a matter of people facing that truth. I hate to sound biased, but I make my decisions very carefully, and I'm always reconsidering, even though it always has the same result. ~ David

david3634955

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those 6 little words Posted: 8/7/2008 5:29:58 PM
My girlfriend and I met because she was looking for someone to talk to, and she decided to talk to me. We live a long ways apart (more than 1500 km by car), but we still manage to keep in touch and keep our relationship going. We're young, and we have some days when we (or mostly me) want to leave, but there's something about a friend you also care about, and who you know cares about you, that is more enticing than anything else in the long run. So I've stayed faithful to her. We've broken up a couple of times, but we don't ever feel right that way. The point is, being the friend is what it's all about. It means they'll tell you things about their relationships. They'll want to go have fun with you, and talk about things. They're also not nervous with you. In other words, they have every intention of keeping you in their lives, but they probably don't quite yet know the capacity. But because I've stayed friends with almost all my exes, I've also found myself surrounded by women who care about me. Women I find attractive, and in more than one way. They may not all be the ones I want to go to bed with, but at least I can be happy and not alone, wallowing in anger. It's all a matter of what you have inside yourself. That, and what the other person has inside them. Look for that, and make sure they look for it in you, too. ~ David

david3634955

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question inspired from a kevin smith film Posted: 7/15/2008 12:04:53 PM
I prefer the myriad of Silent Bob obscenities, myself. I just can't remember any... I know they're there someplace... Oh yeah, the director commentaries, lol. ~ David

david3634955

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What is your biggest turn on Posted: 7/15/2008 11:51:07 AM
Hmm... If I really had to be totally honest... A well-curved, relatively-tall Japanese woman with long blue-black hair, big black eyes, a smile that says, "what are you waiting for?", a love of intellectual, spiritual, and artistic pursuits of all kinds, and a unique perspective on social mores that holds practicality and intentions in higher esteem than propriety and mainstream acceptance. If you're out there, then I'm over here. ~ David

david3634955

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I usually date small, thin women, but I'm really attracted to YOU! Posted: 7/15/2008 11:41:54 AM
This happens to me all the time when I'm previsualizing what to say to a woman, and it never comes out right... A guy almost always says "usually I'm attracted to (fill in opposite of you here)" because he's trying to say one of two things: 1. You're so perfect that you make women more my type seem dull by comparison! I'm lucky! 2. I guess that I never realized that (fill in your type here) was what I really wanted! Thanks for being with me! Guys rarely, if ever, say something subtle when they want to be offensive about a person's dearest aspects. I know I don't. The use of effort to do it makes it seem truly mean-spirited. Instead, I just say what's on my mind and let the cathartic release help me let go of the issue and get on with my life, and usually keep the relationship going rather than add tension. This is all my experience and only that, of course, so I may be wrong. Still, when I read this title, I understood exactly what it meant: He digs you so much that he went out of his comfort zone just to bask in your incredibly-awesome-ness. Enjoy it. ~ David

david3634955

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Guys; a technique for the true lovers Posted: 7/15/2008 11:28:08 AM
jotting down technique for future reference What about other luxuriant miscellanea to use? Tiny strips of satin tied on the smoothest thread, attached to a small, silent fan? It seems like a lot of inexpensive items can be used... What have you tried, windloverr? ~ David

david3634955

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On the nature of God -- does it / she / He / they / I / you / worship itself? Posted: 7/9/2008 11:53:25 AM
@AwP: Actually, that makes perfect sense. I have had that belief at times, though mine tends to morph with my daily situations and experiences. My point of view also takes on a slightly Daoist perspective. I think the worshipful energy let out into the supernatural realm is transformed into whatever energy answers the prayers of those whose prayers are answered, whether in affirmation or denial. In addition, I feel that the paradox of feeling wealthy when one gives to others from one's own wealth is another example of how this energy transfer goes full-circle. When the poor-ness of a person is changed to relative wealthier-ness, the sad-ness of the donor is turned to happy-ness. If God is a separate entity, I think it is really the hub for all human worship and prayer, as opposed to one of the givers of worship and prayer. ~ David

david3634955

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Abortion Posted: 7/9/2008 11:38:49 AM
I ask that all involved in this worthy debate forgive me for my rudeness and overall lack of sound judgment yesterday. My state of mind today is quite different from the one I experienced yesterday (it was extremely hot where I live yesterday, and as the great Shakespeare once put it, that is when "the mad blood's flowing". Hopefully we shall 'scape a brawl this day. Now, back on topic. I have observed that the real argument is a matter of priority between two parties. On one side, there is the mother, or more specifically her right to choose whether she wishes to go through with an unwanted pregnancy. On the other, there is the unborn fetus, or more specifically the potential for a living being therein. My opinion will lay to the wayside for now, and I'll just state the things I have seen as facts, or at least as given facets to various arguments for or against abortion. First, there is the matter of the mother's right to choose. A child is a life-changing event, no matter how many you've had, and no matter whether you raise the child, abort the child's fetus, or put the born child up for adoption. The child affects the quality of life of the mother and all those who share a place with her. The child often affects the psyche of the father figure(s) involved in the child's life. I could go on forever about just how monumental a pregnancy alone is, let alone a living child. Some women are not ready to go through with that at the time that it comes upon them. Condoms break. Passion sometimes causes lovers to even forget to use precautions. Other times, pregnancy is an unwanted burden on the body and soul of a woman, and but for the forceful violation of her being by another man does this parcel exist. Again, there are boundless justified reasons for a woman to want an abortion of her child-bearing process. Finally, being pro-choice does not mean being pro-abortion. It means being in support of the choice as to whether a woman wishes to abort or not. A lot of the time, a woman will choose to bear the child, and often she will do so because of her religious beliefs. That's totally within the bounds of pro-choice ideals, from my understanding. Now, to cover what I know of the point of view of the fetus. I will not bash either side until the end. The fetus is the core of a new lifeform. It is this parcel that has the potential to grow into a new person. Anyone who has seen the film "Children of Men" can attest to the power of a child's birth in this world of toil and sin. To abort a fetus is to kill a living being, that is true. I do not know what point in pregnancy it is that one should arbitrate as the point of new life. But there is a subargument within the main one that hinges on it, so it's worth keeping one's opinion on the matter in mind, I think. A child can become one of the next presidents, as easily as the child might become a rockstar or just another worker at a factory or white-collar business complex. A child's life and future, for all we know, is like a roll of immensely important dice, but is always valuable. Life is sacred. Life is beautiful. I abstain from mentioning any divinity outside of this sentence's own allusion to such, because I am trying to make this comparison and run-down as objective and pure as possible. Any such allusions beyond this have the potential to only inflame the argument and the parties involved, which is unhealthy for a proper debate. Now, I will try to be respectful of both sides of this debate as I begin to argue their counterpoints. The first that jumps to mind is the paradox of the following: The choice of an already-living human being as to whether she can continue trying to improve her life, and hopefully allow her future children (whether born or adopted) to experience a less challenging lifestyle in their times of nurturing... Versus the continuation of a process that is not guaranteed to work properly, but whose rewards include the creation of new life; one of the greatest wonders of our world, visible to even the most humble of people. On one hand, there is a limit to how easy a child's early life should be, lest the child not be challenged at all and end up with all its survival skills atrophied away by lack of need. On the other, there is a point where a living person's freedom to improve herself is more important than the potential for a new child, along with all the drama it entails. If anyone else knows of other paradoxes, it is certainly in their rights to suggest them. My conclusion after all this is that, because the issue is whether to disallow abortion to take place or not, and the issue has drawn a logical stalemate in my calculations, the default logical choice is to continue allowing abortion until further evidence presents itself showing that abortion is a net negative action to the integrity of human morality and ethics, at which point the debate should be restarted. This is the logical equivalent of saying that, in deciding whether to break a window or not (the breaking of the window representing the banning of abortion, in addition to being an action taken when no clear and present danger requiring escape exists), if one cannot think of overwhelming reasons why one should break the window, the decision should be delayed until new evidence shows itself (such as a fire). ~ David

david3634955

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Abortion Posted: 7/8/2008 6:29:11 PM
You are Assuming that the "people in the womb" are NOT already Fully Human. Damn right. They're disgusting little globs of mucus until they're out of the womb, or maybe until they kick, and even then there's no guarantee they'll be alive when it's time to start living the life. SO many things can go wrong... People often say that prostitution is the oldest profession. Well, that just begs the question: "wouldn't that mean the second oldest is the abortionist?" The answer, quite logically, is "yes". Abortion has happened since the times of Neanderthal and Cro-Magnon. It's a part of human culture that we like sex (big surprise!) and don't want to always have children when we enjoy that sex (big surprise!). By the way, there are far too many human beings on the earth right now. Part of the reason jobs are so short is that there's only so much work that really needs to be done. Heck, one of the greatest pests in the world is stupid people who don't believe in abortion or birth control. They're spreading like****oaches. It's an infestation of ignorance and irresponsibility for the world around them, or even for their own lives. And finally. Most Importantly. If you don't want to abort your own pregnancy (and I mean a child growing inside your own body, men, not your woman's), that's your prerogative. But you have no right, nor does anyone else, to impose that restriction on anyone besides yourself, especially when it's just because that's how you feel (because we all know that these "reasons" are just excuses, okay?). To say that an unborn creature has more value than a living, breathing human being is disgusting. ~ David By the way, life without emotion is to be inhuman. Enjoy the fact that I don't consider you my kinsman. I know I do now that I can.

david3634955

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Abortion Posted: 7/8/2008 4:40:01 PM
alligiant_one: It's obvious to me that you have no idea what I meant, because your retort has to be the most embarrassingly hilarious load of nonsense I've ever read in my life. altruist80: As far as I can tell, you have no compassion for women. You speak of labor periods that last over a day, and use it as a point in your favor!? What unholy gall gives you the lack of good judgment to make such a statement? Shame on you. I am amazed that there really are men as stupid as in the horror stories I keep reading about. I'm sorry ladies. It pains me that you have to experience the terrific stupidity of men who don't know what they're talking about when they take away your rights to your own freedom of living. ~ David

david3634955

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The linebacker formation in bars Posted: 7/8/2008 3:49:25 PM
Your first sentence, OP, makes wise mention of solo bar expeditions as a poor way to meet women. My suggestion for an alternative? Don't "try" to meet women. Just notice and make an effort (however subtle at first) to meet all the people you have a chance to meet. So, if you're at a bar and a girl decides to sit alone and looks lonely but looks at you, go on and wave, and ask if she's okay. Sometimes that's all it takes to help a girl notice you without you needing to trumpet your manhood for her discretion. As for your description of the formation as "linebacker", that is spot-on. It's meant to be defensive against penetration into the group, just like linebackers try to do in football. Leave them alone, or you'll get your ego tackled into submission. Get the picture? I suggest a situation where there is less likelihood that they will be defensive. For example, a classroom setting (such as a community college class) is a great place to meet interesting and productive women. It also gives you a chance to become a more interesting person yourself. Happy Fishing ~ David

david3634955

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Msg: 105 (view)

Lack of Intellectuals as Sex Symbols Posted: 7/8/2008 11:44:15 AM
Let me just inform the seeming plethora of male opinions - being that women are not interested in a man's intellect, but rather his visual and financial appeal - that they are incorrect. I am no Brad Pitt. I'm overweight, and I wear unmatched clothes, socks in my sandals and don't use deodorant in summer. Yet in my summer class, the hottest woman in the class (probably more than 10 years older than me) has the hots for me, because I'm intellectual, I share my insights, and I am able to laugh at myself. It is not your lack of money or beauty that makes you unappealing. It is rather your negative attitude that negates your potential charisma. Otherwise you'd find that women want a smart man, and are getting desperately tired of the same old meatheads. Don't keep the girls waiting, will ya? ~ David

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Msg: 714 (view)

Abortion Posted: 7/8/2008 11:27:19 AM
Listen, guys. And I mean guys. Have you ever had a child? It's like taking a crap that's over a foot in diameter and needing to get the whole thing out in one go. And you have to sit on it for nine months, possibly lose your JOB because of male-dominated businesses caring about the bottom line rather than giving their female workers maternity leave and insurance. You'll bleed profusely, and if you're lucky, you'll be able to use sedatives. If not, you're gonna instead feel like it's a bowling-ball-sized kidney stone coming out your urethra. For 6+ hours. And all the while you're stuck thinking that you can never just be yourself again. Now you're a parent and you need to take care of this thing forever. You're gonna treat the child like crap because you hate the thing and how it took your future away. But you need to feed it until it's an adult. Then you need to somehow find a way to get on with your life. If you have never realized that this is what women face, then you have NO RIGHT to deny women any freedom with their bodily functions, let alone those involving the abortion of that terribly painful process. You wusses would do it in a heartbeat. Hell, most of you faint just watching it happen. Yeah, real tough. Even my graphic explanation is nothing compared to reality, because I'm no woman, nor will I ever be one. Speaking of women... You women who are against abortion (for what reasons, I simply don't want to know) are just sad shadows of the powerful, independent beings you should be, and I mean every offense that may cause to your quaint sensitivities, because it will get you to wake the hell up, if you're lucky. ~ David

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Msg: 703 (view)

Abortion Posted: 7/7/2008 5:36:28 PM
Abortion is a right that all humans have. If you're against it, then don't do it. But if I was a woman, and you told me I had no right to have a child I didn't want removed from MY body before that child ruined MY future, just because you felt it wasn't right for yourself, I'd tell you where you could stick that "good book" of yours, and probably shove it there myself if I had the strength I have now... Don't EVER force your restrictive dogmatic beliefs upon others. All it does is ruin the world for everybody else. We don't mind letting you languish in malcontent, but some of us actually enjoy free promiscuity and things like that (I sure don't, but there's no accounting for taste, is there?). Let us have our cake, and if you think that means we'll go to hell, then go ahead and dream about us burning. Just keep in mind that such thoughts are sinful, you hypocrites! ~ David By the way, PullMyCrackers... Actually, the Death Penalty is legalized murder. Duh.

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Msg: 141 (view)

have you ever tasted breastmilk? Posted: 7/6/2008 4:20:05 PM
Well, I haven't yet tasted breastmilk as sexual thing, but at the age of 20, that's probably for the best right now. Weird thought: If what a person eats affects the taste of their cum/milk, then if a guy drinks breastmilk and the same woman drinks his cum, what would the resulting taste be after a few cycles? Seems like something somebody should research and report on. Certainly seems like a fun opportunity :P ~ David

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Msg: 20 (view)

Should I just give up? Posted: 7/1/2008 12:28:32 PM
In response to all the things saying what amounts to: "prepare to be lonely, even though you'll be the last person you know who deserves it in terms of maturity" I'm living proof, if my summed dating experiences are any indication. Just keep yourself in high spirits, and try using this site to talk to women whose profiles are kind and welcoming. They are more likely to respect your respectfulness and maturity, and it's been my experience that this is the case. It will take you longer, but the rewards will be better and you will experience fewer of the stupid mistakes many thrill-seekers make. I've never been drunk in my life, and I never want to. I'm also overweight (borderline obese according to my BMI, which makes no sense). But you know what? I get play. It's just a matter of baby steps, and slowly building your achievements up so you have a good reason to know that you da man! Anyway, good luck. ~ David

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Msg: 20 (view)

penetrating her cervix Posted: 7/1/2008 12:21:46 PM
Guys and Gals, calm down. Take a deep breath. OP has been misunderstood. His interest is in the name of curiosity. He has taken the risk of asking you this question. He even said that he realizes that, if the only pleasure a woman experiences through this technique would be due to the intense pain, it would be an instant turn-off! Please, stop acting as if he contradicting himself and learn how to read someone's meaning, rather than always looking for reasons to think a given person must be "one of the bad ones"! It's all schaudenfreude, folks. It's all your guilt being turned into the shaming of another person. Get over it. ~ David

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Msg: 69 (view)

original sin Posted: 7/1/2008 12:15:46 PM
It is the biggest irony that it is this ultimate provider of guilt and hatred of ourselves that we turn to in hopes of finding refuge from same. I have no sympathy for people who believe they are unclean until they are saved. It is such an insipid concept that any mind with capacity for independent thought and inquisition into the nature of ideas simply begs to ask them, WTF!?

david3634955

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Msg: 48 (view)

fantasy for years or cheating once Posted: 6/19/2008 7:13:46 PM
I think the OP should speak to her SO about the fantasies, because if there is infidelity of the mind, just as much as with infidelity of the body, then the relationship is at least a few degrees short of mutual, if not already in jeopardy. I'd ask my partner if I can try it, and I'd only ever ask once. If she says yes, I might or might not do it, but I won't tell her if I did it or not unless she asks. If she says no, then I'll never bring it up again, and keep it to myself, so she can have a chance to forget the conversation ever happened. Ignorance can be regained. Loss of one's car keys are a constant reminder of that facet of human memory. ~ David

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Msg: 17 (view)

Shooting or Dribbling . . . . Posted: 6/19/2008 6:03:46 PM
First off, the longer it's been since your last shot, the farther the shot will usually go. Second, the more you flex your PC muscles, the farther it will go. Finally, if you're wearing a condom, it's unlikely that the cum will get very far, in case you forget to factor that in... ~ David

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Msg: 13 (view)

DOES GOD HAVE SEX ??? Posted: 6/19/2008 5:57:42 PM
Of course God has sex. God is sex. God is everything, isn't that the idea? If we are all a construct of God's primordial being, then shouldn't the same go for all processes, abstract concepts, and possibilities of other sorts within us? Just my two cents. ~ David

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Msg: 16 (view)

Anybody else on PoF into meditation? Posted: 6/19/2008 5:32:56 PM
When I was young, I had some kind of brain wave test, for getting a diagnosis on what I now know to be my Tourette Syndrome. One of the interesting things they found was that my brain was almost always in a state of theta waves, which are thought widely to be most associated with meditative thinking. It makes sense, because it's always been like turning a switch for me to go between mundane and supernatural thought levels. So basically, it's like I'm always meditating. ~ David

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Msg: 66 (view)

Is It Possible To Become Gay? Posted: 6/11/2008 3:10:38 PM
Wow, the generalizations and fallacies are thick with self-repression and -loathing in here. First off, "gay" is something that inherently means "a guy who only likes guys" in today's lingo. "Lesbian" fulfills the opposing side, while "bi" is the predilection for both genders. Now here's the most important thing no one talks about: if you're bi, you almost never prefer both genders equally. WOW! Who could have ever thought of that, right? If you love women, and you're a guy, and you get a random hard-on from looking at a picture of a really attractive guy, you aren't gay. You simply are bi, with a strong, far lean towards being straight. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that the vast majority of people are bi in one way or another, in a spectrum that more or less averages on the straight side but not by much. So guess what? If you get that hard-on from that guy, you're not suddenly a fairy! You're still a guy with testicles and a penis and all that, and no you don't need to only ever insert it into a guy now, nor do you have to restrict yourself to women alone. Isn't it amazing just how obvious this is? Oh, and if it isn't obvious, then I wonder what that says about your intellect, let alone your understanding of true masculinity? ~ David

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Msg: 76 (view)

Would you ever sell yourself.........? Posted: 6/11/2008 3:01:52 PM
Well, there are multiple forms of prostitution. I'm going to look at this in as mature a fashion as I can. Keep in mind that the courtesan/geisha form thereof is often regulated such that the practitioners have the right to be safe and to deny service to anyone. In that regard, I wouldn't mind being that sort of worker if I had a training program to learn how to do more than just sexual things (there are some forms of prostitution that involve no sex, and just conversation or dancing). Such forms would be empowering in a way, and also would ensure that I would have alternative skills later in life, as well as a work ethic. Forgive me if I come off as naive, but this has happened before, and it has been done with honor, respect, and dignity for all parties involved. Even so, I would prefer to be a creative worker, rather than a laborer for the pleasure of others. I simply am not that submissive, nor that certain of the current ability of regulations to keep me safe. ~ David

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Msg: 60 (view)

guys who like girls with tummies Posted: 6/11/2008 2:49:05 PM
I personally love women with more to love, as long as it doesn't reach a corpulent level. The softness of a woman's body when she has that little something extra truly leaves nothing to be desired in my opinion. I too am a cuddler, and I can't imagine enjoying cuddling with a woman who is so small that my arms are able to surround her shoulders without touching her... that's a bit too close to necrophilia. ~ David BTW, the reason guys are often attracted to larger women, Schmo, is that genetically, larger women are more likely to survive due to their better storage of fat. In other words, your predilection for twigs is something that would be naturally selected away if things were less convenient for the human race.

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Msg: 5 (view)

America, Religion, Hollywood, Charles Bronson and the Death Penalty Posted: 6/11/2008 8:35:04 AM
No, Vancer, they shoot to kill. The injection causes your body to painfully eat itself away. And there is no way to be sure that a person actually deserves the death penalty. Far too many people have undergone personal changes in character on death row, only to be killed for the sake of making a few fervently vengeful family members happy - which they never are. The death penalty has a negligible effect on the level of crime in an area. If anything, it makes it more exciting, and more attractive to the kind of people who do it. One doesn't get the death penalty for anything less than perverse crime anyway. You don't get the death penalty for theft, burglary or assault. ~ David

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Msg: 15 (view)

IS THERE EVER A GOOD REASON TO KILL ????? Posted: 6/11/2008 8:25:38 AM
The biblical examples of murder that I have read are sometimes admittedly things I believe to be immoral and wrong. Example: Offering to let a tribe join yours in return for them circumcising themselves, and waiting until they have and killing them all while they are defenseless from the pain. That's just wrong, and is one of the reasons I don't identify with Judeo-Christian values. You can't pick and choose your opportunities to kill. ~ David

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Msg: 22 (view)

Do girls dislike when a guy reveals all his secrets too soon? Posted: 6/10/2008 3:36:11 PM
It's because I wasn't afraid to reveal my deepest soul to my current girlfriend that we built such an instant bond. She felt safe to reveal her secrets to me, and that was the key of the whole thing. There must be a give and take. A relationship is made up of many facets, but as far as people go, there are five that are most important to balance: 1) The Persona (includes their body and any pretentiousness or shells they use) 2) The Personality (obvious) 3) The Secrets (includes things they hide with their persona, whether they explore it or not in their inner life) 4) The Friends (people they aren't close to, but feel bonded with) 5) The Family (people they are very close to, whether they include family members or not) Make sure that you and your prospective partner are able to share these things with each other at a level of intensity and honesty that is mutual and mutually wanted. Balance is not just where these are all equal. They simply need to be able to balance out without being at extremes. If you personally aren't at this state of balance (and I mean the big you, not OP specifically), then you shouldn't be in the dating arena at all, else you'll risk making your state worse and harder to remedy. Some things are meant to be shared in a relationship, which should be a place for personal growth. But as Sturgeon said (though not to the same extent as he suggests) some things are meant for a psychiatrist/therapist. ~ David

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Msg: 16 (view)

Is God a morphodite? Posted: 6/10/2008 3:18:42 PM
I think enlightenment brings on a form of morphoditic thought, as I have often found myself wishing in my enlightened moments that I was a man and woman, so I could love everybody to the extent that they desired, and don't believe I'm the only one who has experienced this, as well as astral projection in which I am a woman, or dualistic encounters with myself as both genders. With this in mind, I would think that an incarnation of God would have a form that was morphoditic in mind as well as body. If one thinks about the change God goes through in between the Old and New Testament (and even the change between the early Old and later Old books), it seems that God experiences a sort of mental morphoditic situation (forgive the weird combination of words). Early on, God is decidedly both, as SHe creates Man and Woman in SHe's own image. Then, He is very stern, direct and harsh on enemies and on His chosen people. Later, She begins to have visions of the future, and feels a need to nurture Her children and provide them with a child. SHe bears a child, and both cares for and loves the child, and subjects the child to the cruelties of real life for the child's own sake, and for that of humanity. It seems that it goes almost full-circle or at least in an interesting pattern over time. Still, this is only the Judeo-Christian God being explored, and there is surely more than just this God's story that suggests the idea of Divine Morphoditic Form. I admit that I hardly have a grasp of what I'm saying (or at least any of the necessary literary proof: I'm relying on my Jesuit high school education here so don't expect Augustinian wisdom), so if this sounds silly for reasons of literary accuracy, then don't worry, the examples given hardly define the validity of what they exemplify. ~ David

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Msg: 2 (view)

What kind of attitude towards life is attractive? Posted: 5/30/2008 11:40:07 PM
Honestly, I think it's a foolish way to live, and I wouldn't be surprised if a majority of women looking for long-term relationships were - surprisingly enough - not attracted to a guy who didn't think in the long-term. It does come off as immature, and even a little spoiled. Old age is not the worst years of your life unless you were too busy "living" as a youth to secure a healthy, wealthy lifestyle and relationship in a wise bit of self-sacrifice for your future. Then again, I'm 20 years young, I've got a wonderful relationship going, and I have no car and hardly any income, so go figure. ~ David

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Msg: 19 (view)

Breast implants and steroids, same or different Posted: 5/30/2008 11:35:27 PM
I asked every one of them, (woman, not a boob) I'm sorry, I just imagined you intently questioning artificially large breasts while their owners look at you in utter bewilderment... But back OT... I think breast implants are something one does for various reasons, most all of them psychological, psychosexual, or psychosocial (and yes, those are all different and existing things). Steroids, on the other hand, are a waste to use for pure psychological reasons, and sexually don't seem to cause much attraction except as a fetish. Social stigma rules out the third of my above reasons. The simple reason is that the body either is required or desired to gain muscle mass and power in quick time, no matter the cost. In fact, the only thing the two have in common is that they end up being costly in some way or another. ~ David

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Msg: 1 (view)

Add a red flag emoticon. [suggestion for forums] Posted: 5/30/2008 11:18:28 PM
It's simple. Add an emoticon with a red flag to the clickable ones on the forum posting screen. I find that it would be really useful in many different parts of the forums, and the meaning is obvious. Anyway, that's my suggestion at the moment for the site. ~ David

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Msg: 70 (view)

Listing of Car or no car unfairly penalizes less affluent Posted: 5/30/2008 11:15:59 PM
Honestly, I think the Car field is rightly used. Here's my reason: It doesn't ask what kind of car you have. It asks whether you have one or not. As someone who uses the bus, it's nice to be able to get my lack of free transportation across without blurting it out while meeting them. On the other hand, calling the Education field "Smarts" is the most infuriating thing I've ever seen. Education in terms of degrees has nothing to do with intellect. On the other hand, if you were to define it as "Education", it would be fine. That's all at the moment. ~ David

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