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oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

Msg: 32 (view)

when do you know you will find a true love in your life Posted: 8/9/2008 7:02:23 AM
When you can be with a newperson for three months and they makes no sexual advances till your ready so they fall in love with your heart not whats between your legs...its all about the heart sex is a bonus.

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Guys, would this hurt your feelings??? Posted: 5/8/2008 8:32:42 AM
It is sad that we are so honest about what we want but in the long run it hurts less and a mature man would take it in stride we do when they dont tell us they just replace us...At least we tell them and move on..and again some men are not men they are hurt little boys and it gets ugly..

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Pay after sex Posted: 4/17/2008 7:17:11 PM
WoW,,,,,,We should all get paid then the guys would be more selective and we would have more little **stards running around...lol....no really whats the going rate got to pay my morgage....lol!!! $4000. lol????never mind not worth the disease....

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Sex with minors Posted: 4/11/2008 7:15:51 AM
I agree when this is discussed it just keeps it int the computor. I know that they have those predator catches on the TV for men on the comp who prey on little girls it make me sick...and most of them are married.It must be a insecurity or maybe they are still little boys .anyway man or women its wrong to go out with miners...

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Does Friends first ever really work? Posted: 2/26/2008 8:16:29 AM
To me your right on and it goes to show again all the physical is a bonus if your true to each other and have a partner a true life friend on the front porch rocking chair kinda of relationship!! LV ocg

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

Msg: 189 (view)

Does Friends first ever really work? Posted: 2/26/2008 8:14:35 AM
God women are not cars ..You seem like real man treat them like a lady find the right words to answer what you need go out for a while with out the intimacy and see if its strong and again the sex is a bonus to marriage if she is a friend and partner first not a car.

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Does Friends first ever really work? Posted: 2/26/2008 8:12:21 AM
It is what it should be a quick or long friendship.You should know what you need in the first 8 min or maybe 3 months it depends but beable to let go right away if it is just about the sex or maybe the way she makes sauce.you have to have insite right away trust your inner self then you are true..Friends to lovers to marriage remember intimacy is a bonus if its really a great great friend and real friends take tears to know each other.so in 90 days you should know if she is the one or move on..LV ocg

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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man/woman friendships Posted: 2/21/2008 5:55:30 AM
Loved loved your point on women..we fell the same way when it comes to friendship...The guys have the same big big problems that women have on line!! and you got it right to the T thanks for the honesty..LV

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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When is it too soon? Posted: 2/14/2008 8:15:02 AM
Guys never feel used they feel great thanks alot on to the next only when your in love sex is a bonus!!! Try it...Fall in love first that takes months can you hold out ? yeah right..lol

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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When is it too soon? Posted: 2/14/2008 8:13:10 AM
no its a fact and youll see ..down the road ...look for all the red flags ..they donot show up for at least 3 months..thats proven in humans...so women do not like notching head boards with the bandaid of using sex to prove you have a relationship it should be a bonus...see if you can just hang for months and fall in love with the person ,,not the orfaces.LV

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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jump in and jump out Posted: 2/14/2008 8:08:44 AM
to much to soon smooths over the gut instincts...so talk alot and never settle for things that get you deep in side because it will come up again and again if anything bothers you from the begining...keep your eye on the dream and move forward with the person if it reall feels right and remember not to fast!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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When is it too soon? Posted: 2/9/2008 11:01:35 AM
No you need at least n 90 days to see all moods and finances and loves and quirks ...sex is a bonus

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

When is it too soon? Posted: 2/9/2008 11:00:15 AM
Under 3 months...

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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What do you consider a no no on the first date? Posted: 2/8/2008 1:35:09 PM
Sexxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!any form of penetration...including tongues!!! LV

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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is it wrong to only date guys whom im attracted to? Posted: 2/1/2008 7:12:55 AM
Oh yes there is rules...Youll see

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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is it wrong to only date guys whom im attracted to? Posted: 2/1/2008 7:12:12 AM
Well cherie,I think if you find alot of other things about him that attract you should give him a couple of chances...you might like the twinkle in his eye or something you didnt think about,attractive things arent just physical...that is very shallow and is going to change when you get older especially if your single in your 40s or 50s youll get lines maybe and weight differences and etc and real men wont care...so becareful how picky you really are ..it will come back and bite you in the butt. LV

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Guys going into Fatherhood mode ? Posted: 1/31/2008 1:09:31 PM
alright then at least you tried....But this time go out with her for 3 months if she doesnt do it for you move on dont move in.....

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Guys going into Fatherhood mode ? Posted: 1/31/2008 1:08:06 PM
Hey its like this pretend a stork flew in your new home dropped a baby on your kitcken table ...Oh my god you have to start thinking for 2 you have to get insurance ,you have to drive slower,you have to take care of your self,you have to eat better,you have to get up and work ,you have to keep a roof over their head and you have to be nice and loyal so they have both parents to see in the morning looking at them in a crib,,,to much for men who want to be buried with their toys and thats it...think about it....

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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need suggestions with parenting plan when ex is a chronic pot user Posted: 1/31/2008 1:02:03 PM
First of all any of the illnesses children have a sometimes caused by drug use of one or both parents so you should be aware of how the chlid suffers already,never mine trying to get a pot smoker sober,,,Whats done is done you ahve 3 kids with a druggie and now you want him to stop...well the mediator will give you the kids soley if they find he is abusing or sometimes using drugs if you can handle that ...get him sober and then give him his rights back can you support them for a while,,,hell be mad...but its your sanity..Big Red Flag!!!!

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Still here after you've met someone?? Posted: 1/31/2008 11:24:15 AM
Come on give it a try get off here nad give he or she the fulll attention they deserve...Youll pay for this in the end if you keep your addictions up!! Try switching your comp dating addiction to helping children with disabilities...bet you you cant .

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Sex with a full bladder Posted: 1/31/2008 11:14:42 AM
Yes becareful because you could get a golden shower...LV

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Communicating with Your Partner Posted: 1/30/2008 12:28:11 PM
yes but aleast they are talking if they dont maybe they donot have the skills ...move on or tell them to work on it even give them books that works too.providing they arent so shut down they cant think about bettering themselves..LV

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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OVER 50 And Alone....again. Posted: 1/29/2008 5:17:40 AM
Your right but you should really have a little note book to remind you of the 3 important questions to ask when you meet them..How long have you been really free,Do you live with your mom who is well?And do you have to support your kids?That should be enough for you to say good bye first if he has no time for you!!!

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Are their any guys left who like chunky gals? Posted: 1/29/2008 5:13:19 AM
Bravo!!! I think you should go out and prove it they would appreciate it!L

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Are their any guys left who like chunky gals? Posted: 1/29/2008 5:11:27 AM
I find women who are larger then most are the most confident and can be real .So I would just for giggles but it works go a weight watcher meetinng that has single men,or early walks on a beach in the winter you never know who esle is feeling like you and you can say Hi! Also if you can dance they love women all sizes who can cha cha!If you know what I mean!L

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Sex 1st - Relationship May Follow.. Posted: 1/29/2008 5:06:26 AM
I agree totally sex is a bonus to the relationship!

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Sex 1st - Relationship May Follow.. Posted: 1/29/2008 5:05:23 AM
I would do this only if you need sex and cant hold out for a good solid non deseased relationship.When you need that first it tells me she is not satified with life and thinks this moment will put a bandaid on the wounded heart .I would stay clear of sex first ...quicker you jump in the quicker out !!! Arent you worth more then that,Tell her to get some toys and stay home and figure out if she wants a forever guy in the first place .L

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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When is flirting cheating? Posted: 1/29/2008 4:54:26 AM
I disagree it gives the wrong signal to people and could mess there heads up especially if you already in a relationship.Talk is no longer cheap!L

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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When is flirting cheating? Posted: 1/29/2008 4:53:04 AM
Well I find that is usaully an act when people need a bigger stage ..They are quite insecure if they so much more then the one they love.If they go on to see who will enjoy them on a relationship site and have a significant other yes I find it is cheating..Absolutely...get real be true to them and to you,get off lline and put all your energy into the present relationship or dont even start one. LV

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Still here after you've met someone?? Posted: 1/25/2008 2:17:47 PM
let your walls down stop being greedy!Get into your new relationship and get off these site!!Computors should not be in homes and should only be for making money !!

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Still here after you've met someone?? Posted: 1/25/2008 2:16:17 PM
bad move you should only be on here in this room if you want to share your joy...otherwise concentrate on your new relationship it should be forever this site gets e if its about the buddie call!!!

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

Msg: 240 (view)

What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic? Posted: 1/25/2008 2:12:02 PM
avoid!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic? Posted: 1/25/2008 2:11:21 PM
Toltally avoid unless you really hate your self that much they are very ugly guys if they drink and have a bypolar thing going on run for your LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Youll be used if you let them ugly ugly!!

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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The Real Thread Topic Posted: 1/25/2008 2:09:18 PM
I agree ..you look like you have a book out is that true?

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Communicating with Your Partner Posted: 1/25/2008 1:05:55 PM
all the time talk talk talk....or theyll go talk to someone else..bye bye to your relationship!

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Why do you think it becomes so much harder to find a relationship when one gets older? Posted: 1/25/2008 1:04:13 PM
we just have no more patience and also we like our bodies more and do not want to have to deal with the whole safe sex thing.Cats and food and friends work are easier I guess for some!

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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......medication and love...... Posted: 1/25/2008 1:01:48 PM
It has also been a sore subject for me ..It is really bad if they dont excersize eat right and drink on the drugs it makes them so not grounded.Sometimes it really is a chemical embalance and sometimes its just plain body neglect get out there and walk drink water eat right sleep 8 hours smile have good friends over drink decaf come on then youll be ready for a more possitive relationship!

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Snoring... how do you deal with it?? Posted: 1/25/2008 12:58:21 PM
saline solution!! and nose strip ever nite will help and stop the wine that has mold and yeast and makes you snore loud it swells insides and also stuff the nose cavitie i should know lost a shallow guy over a little snoring and it was little he did worse things under the covers then snored but oh no wasnt gonna claim them so believe me saline works and its cheap!!

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship Posted: 1/25/2008 11:36:23 AM
Im gonna write a book someday and it will be how sex is a bonus in the relationship after the relationship has begun meaning hense Relationship....then its up to you to bring it to the next point for long term!!!Not because the guy or gal doe not know the difference between being horney and love.Give me a break they can wait and if they cant move on or by them a toy.Real men and real women who respect their insdes dont let to many people in and on them till they know its forever and come on you can tell by the kiss if he or she is gonna be romantic in bed so hold out Its a bonus!!It make s love tru love like old times last forever .Smells of skin hair holding hands all that should be fun and if he or she cant control themselves they are not mature.

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Tit for tat or Mean spirited? Posted: 1/25/2008 11:29:28 AM
yes I lost a house walk a way he will eventually have the bad Karma...believe me I say never change for aguy he liked you for who you were before going out with him and somewhere along the line he just got an insecurity and moved on way before you knew so give him the dvd but write him a true a strong letter and tell him It would be nice if he doesnt do this to another ,,,pretty soon in the fututre youll be able to post peoples names on line that have hurt you and then it will be different.but now let the cheater go...

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Ex wife is best friend but women see her as competiton Posted: 1/25/2008 11:17:06 AM
Listen if she is truly a women and confident of her self she also could be come a freind of your lovers x Its normal to at least to share some things with your man ,and as long as she doesnt come up in everyday conversation for weeks I think its safe to say he wont go back there Its all forward .....Now if you smell her cologne on him then youll know hes a little to close and visiting the kids wasnt his only agenda

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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'widowed Men' ... Posted: 1/25/2008 11:12:00 AM
Everybody deserves a new chance on life no one should be alone for long term its not a way of life .Even the animals have companions in the long hall, so for me Ill date a widowed gentlemen long as i know he didnt put his significate other under ground himself.

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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Do Women Find Men On Bicycles Repulsive ?? Posted: 1/25/2008 10:38:57 AM
I think that they do in sometimes...If the guy lives and breaths bikes..it gets really boring after a whileyes great legs strong heart but they dont know how to sgueeze a relationship in between their ride in or ou to f the gym so they become fit and boring all about the driven things and their bodies and that singles out alot of women.you have to ride next them to talk to them or just fall behind and that eventually happens to mthe relationship so .So again sometimes we do find it Repulsive for the reasons I gave not because they are wearing skin tight riding gear on a big over weight frame!

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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high sex drive, higher chance of cheating? Posted: 1/19/2008 11:30:09 AM
yes I agree with you and even if they drink it raises there cheating time....

oceancowgirl9

Joined: 12/4/2007

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understand what they are looking for Posted: 1/19/2008 9:02:40 AM
Give them 2 dates and ask all the questions it saves time and youll know alot so you wont be surprised about his sudden meaness or selfishness.

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