Technically Italians and the French are latino as well.

celeste, I think adult, independent women value their support systems, and deeply appreciate them, but we do not necessarily rely on them unless we really need to. That way are not seen as causing headaches for anyone.

I have no problem being "dependent" on a man emotionally, sexually, and for a relationship we are in, but I want to always maintain a certain amount of independence, and control over my decision-making. As much as I value friends/lovers, I do not want my man or my friends trying to tell me what to do with my life. To me that's the best part about "independence."

And, I take responsibility for my own decisions - mistaken or not.

Oh, and independent women are usually excellent team players! They leave you alone so you can get things done, but they're there if you get in a jam. That is a team member I'll take time and time again. Rock On!

second information is seldom as reliable as most may think.

Being busy doesn't mean you aren't interested. Getting to know someone before you go out is a good thing. I honestly NEVER had problems going out about twice a month when I was dating. Most guys had lives too.

"omg! this happen to me way 2 many times. ive had men and women who wanted to meet me on the same day we just started chatting. im like arent u concern about ur safety? "

Do you leave your house at all???? But wait? Arent you concerned about your safety going grocery shopping or going to work?? do you have bestbuy security walk you to and from your car??? How about going into a burger place for a hamburger??? Do you go alone?? Or do you have a guy the Size of Mr T with you at all times??????????

All the same risks involved here ladies.... Meeting in a public place should be good enough.... Maybe not meeting the same day but later that week sure... whats the big deal????

Don't let me have sex and I have to be somewhere or get back to my kids. I would hear"ok like where you goin"(umm... home?) "who are you going to see" (my kids fool!) "why can't you cuddle me more" (which is all good but damn isn't 2hours of cuddling after sex& makin your eyeballs pop out like spongebob when i rode u enough?) .

I dated a guy a couple of years ago who was white/native american maybe he didn't think when he was talking because he did act kinda SLOW but he told me he found some one white and native american, someone non-black..I thought that was pretty damn racist and I was puzzled I assumed he was trying to dump me then told him I wouldnt call but he kept calling, got mad because I went out with someone when I thought he dumped me. He called me the N-word ,its funny though at the beginning he said "We white guys and black women have to stick together" I was like WTF? anyway I feel he used me to get back at his white ex and make her jealous because she left him for a black guy. His other ex did the same. It did hurt and what even hurted more is that he acts like he didn't remember anything he said and told people I play the race card fukkin idiot..lol He even had a "sell out brother" in the background when we talked on the phone saying how he hates black women. He thought that was funny, I almost caught a case but calmed down, no idiot is worth jail time. I know all white men aren't immature and stupid like that but thats why some black women are hesitant to date white men. They said God puts people in your life for a reason I guess he was there for me to practice some karate kicks on..lol

It seems the rudest, angriest women on here are also the least attractive in their look as well as speech. I'm sorry your life sucks........but you planned it that way. ........and If you have to make a big deal out of this, it's probably because your not.

Why are you still yapping about me? As if I'm the only @sshole? As if nobody is at times?

I see you don't let go of things too easily. I have done forgot about that ever since it happened. Damn, I couldn't imagine something someone did to you 10 years ago. You still think about that too?

Get over yourself.

See, this is the reason why the site should have more dating preferences or mail settings. Then nobody would feel compelled to ask that question, because it would say right in his/her profile who he/she prefers to date. Sure, you could type that out in the "about me" section now, but that obviously leads to a lot of problems for those who do so (nasty random emails, etc.), because so few others do it, and it also makes those who do it uncomfortable or "anti-pc" to do so. If EVERYBODY had to choose, like you have to choose "male/female" or "smoker/nonsmoker," then those who really wanted to limit interested parties wouldn't feel so self-conscious doing so. I come across maybe 1 profile out of 20 that explicitly states, "I am only interested in dating someone of this race, these ethnicities, my own race," yet all research indicates that this is much higher than any 5% (in fact, I see quite a few people in the forums say they won't date someone like this, that and the other, but then you read their profiles, and they make no mention of these "deal breakers" whatsoever). I wrote a research paper on dating preferences a few years ago and did a massive survey of all sites like Match, Mingles and Yahoo which force you to choose dating preferences such as ethnic background, and 57% of white women indicated they would only date white men (black women was 22% for only black men and Hispanic women 14% for only Hispanic men). Obama aside, I doubt the world has changed that much over the past few years, so basically what that says is if you're not white, then 1 out of every 2 emails you send to a white woman on this site is immediately wasted for that reason alone (and it's likely wasted for additional or other reasons that could be listed upfront, too). It would be much more efficient to know this ahead of time. I've never sent an email to any woman on Match who specifically singled out my race mixture as one she wasn't willing to date -- no time wasted there.

But all that said, as we're stuck with the system we have for the moment, I think you'd have to be a little crazy to send someone such a first contact email. What's that going to accomplish? I just send a regular "Hiya" email, and if they aren't interesting in dating someone like me, they won't respond (trust me, THEY WON'T RESPOND). No one's going to get into a 50 email dialogue with you if they aren't willing to date someone with your physical characteristics (unless they tell you "friends" right away or very early). I suppose it is up to each individual to decide if such an introductory email is rude or crass, but why even bother taking such a chance? Just introduce yourself like you would to anyone you thought you had a chance with and that way you won't offend anyone who would have dated you except for your foolish email asking something highly unnecessary.