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spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 141 (view)

Suppose you were stuck single forever... Posted: 3/27/2007 8:02:14 PM
Being single is what you make of it. If you thrive off being sullen, than it wont really matter who you're with... if anyone. Since there actually are many things that a person can do without a mate, why should someone feel obligated to be unhappy just becasue they're single? ...you got me there. *twirl...

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 936 (view)

Can men and women be friends without sex? Posted: 3/27/2007 7:54:21 PM
Never had such issues create problems for me. It's just this simple; I am friends with more men than women(almost all men). I hold myself to pretty high ideals & passing my vagina out like an after dinner mint... well, it doesn't work for me. Everyone has thier own heiney's to account for, but that's my stand. If you like the action, have at it... somewhere else. Perhaps it's the fact that I grew up in a country that has a lack of sexual taboos around every corner. My best friend(male) & I can curl up, watch a movie today just like we were still 6 year olds. The fact that I can have a cookout & expect at least three of my ex's to show up & have a blast... also nice. Some people can, some people can not. To each their own. :)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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Why do women want sex so soon?????? Posted: 3/27/2007 6:12:54 PM
I have heard quite a few Nc guys make this argument. I wouldn't want to be the one to pass speculation on the quality of the girls they're dating... but it's something to concider upgrading. In your defense, I can see examples of these easy girls everywhere I go in Nc(and other states, too). The thing to concider is this... it's as much a social issue as it's a personal one. The younger(under 30) crowd has gotten the impression sex is simply a past time activity, like fishing. The idea of jumping in the sheets with a stranger is as common as divorce after the honeymoon is over. So many people want the easiest path & no hard work to get there. There are still examples of "no free rides" girls around(*ehem...) who'll only rock the socks off when it's the right person, not the right now guy. ... you might have to make a major change to society though, to improve our numbers. ;)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 112 (view)

Should women stop wearing sexy underwear at age 35 ? Posted: 3/27/2007 4:55:41 PM
Oh helllll no. I wear what fits, feels good & works well on my backside. If, when I'm 50 my heiney still looks this toned & happy... it'll be toned & happy in the same undies! ...I'm just say'n... no one(ok, maybe someone) is getting me out of my thongs. ;p

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 35 (view)

would you run for the hills? Posted: 3/27/2007 4:47:09 PM
Run for the hills... sneak out the back door maybe. ...but just for fun, place him in front of a big funhouse mirror (like the ones they give parakeets & fighting fish to vent on)... just to watch him fluff up his testostrone. *paaahahahaaaaa..snort..hahahahaaa...

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 103 (view)

Why do SO many men advertise pics WITHOUT SHIRTS??????? Posted: 3/27/2007 8:31:27 AM
Why, you ask? Because they assume it's what will get them looked at. They think it's what others want & expect. Basicly, they do it because they can. They know that someone will look at their profile & maybe even chat about it in a thread. It's akin to why do girls take pics with their bustlines bursting. It's the show pony portion of POF. :)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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Oral fixations....do you have one??? Posted: 3/27/2007 8:06:10 AM
*mmmfflllnnmnrrmf... (oops... must've had something in my mouth.)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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good kiss / bad kiss Posted: 3/27/2007 8:01:18 AM
*puts cookies on plate & pours the milk... I used to think most people judged kissing pretty close to the same way. Some people were just good at it, some were shuffled off to a kissing leper colony on the South Pole. (I was pretty young then) Like most of you, I have had the toe curling kisses that litterly made my hair tingle on my scalp. I have also had to mop my face from an unwanted salivia attack of the not-so-nice kind. I was amazed to discover that the kiss I had to go dry dock my face from, was doing the trick for another girl. She lavished the drool & encouraged more. (I suspect she lets her dogs lick her face to... I'm just say'n...) Moral being, there is no right way to kiss. Yes, there is a suggested manner or method... but for every throat diving, helicoptor flinging, spit spewing mouth bandit there is a girl with "can't rape the willing" t-shirt on... eagerly waiting. So, don't lose heart if you've been deemed a sponge kisser, a tonsil jockey or even a St. Benard(yes, I actually know a friend who's pet name is St. Benard)... don't worry if you haven't mastered the teasing with tounge tips, soft dry lip nibbles, or even if you can't dance the latin lip Lambada. ..never fear, we'll manage those daring kisses & leave you to enjoy your waterworld stunts.

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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Funny dating scenario Posted: 12/22/2006 10:44:37 PM
It sounds like you took the time to listen to everyone's ideas & suggestions. I'm sure all of the posters appreciate your doing so. You seem to have a wider grasp on this situation, now. Only you will be able to effect the future of this senario... ...and I have the feeling you know what to do from here. :)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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pet allergy Posted: 12/22/2006 10:00:44 PM
When I stated dating one of my prior boyfreinds, he couldn't stay at my house for more than a half an hour before the boogers & drippy eyes kicked in. I got him started on a product I had been taking, called Moducare. It's active ingredients are Sterols & Sterolins. Originally it's intent was to aid in controlling histidine based reactions... such as arthritis. It has also been found very effective with many other allergies... in my case(or his) it was extremely helpful with pet reactions. It's not a prescription, can be purchased at any health food/nutrition store such as Whole foods and/or GNC. There are things to be aware of... It takes a few months to fully begin to take effect. The easiest explaination for this is if you think of it as a synaptic nutrient. It needs to be absorbed by the body & stored to a certain point before the body begins to correct the excessive histidine. It only took him two months before the change(sounds like we talking about menopause, lol!) began. To this day, he swears by it(like when hayfever season kicks in). Since then, I've suggested it to dozens of friends(even a few in the medical field). Most of them are still using it. If you want to research the product you can find it here: http://www.moducare.com/ (sorry if it sounds like an infomercial...*snicker..) Hopefully this will help. :)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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Funny dating scenario Posted: 12/22/2006 4:08:34 PM
Maybe I'm the only one to notice this but it sounds a bit like things were great when everyone was doing their own thing... no commitments. Then this other man comes along & if I understand correctly, rather abruptly expresses the idea of being exclusive. Now that she has tried this plan, perhaps she feels it was premature or just plain wrong... she's sort of stuck. Now, everyone knows... breaking things off...well, it just plain sucks. It sounds like she need to straighten her other situation out... otherwise, things aren't truely fair to all parties. You've become the other man, she's the cheater & this guy is the poor dumb sucker. None of these rolls were intended but... this is how the picture has played out. Question is... are you going to keep playing this part or try to concider the other guy's blind situation(or feelings) and encourage her to be straight forward on the issues at hand? :)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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Pet insurance Posted: 12/22/2006 3:02:02 PM
I'd hope that if a person was in the position to buy it for their furry friend, they'd jump on the chance. Having just watched one of my oldest cats die from Liver failure & kidney failure, I wish I had been able to get it for him. (then again, it may have simply prolonged things... shrug) I will be signing my other kitty up... especially since he's turning ten & a chubby little monster. hmmm... I wish they had cat food insurance...

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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Astrology Worthless??? - New Planet Discovered Posted: 12/22/2006 12:47:47 PM
Ok, so the bulk of you who've graced us with your posts seem to be under an impression that Astrology is some kind of predetermined belief system that says who you can & can't be with. Sorry kids, I'm calling BS on your idea of what Astrology is. If you had studied what it actually was(and not what mystical Mrs so & so tells you of it) you'll find it's nothing more than a tool. Some, have only seen the weekly predictions page of the local free paper & figure "this is bunk". For you, it is. It can't be turned into a circus act & still be used as originally intended. You do not understand the basis of this tool or that it's a mathematical series of equations, degrees, & plantetary measurements that, much like our daylight savings, changes each day, week, year...ect. Without boring you on the details of what makes this system tick, just try to understand that this "bunk" is not the end all answer to all things. It is a series of suggestions, when used properly(yes, properly... not just to fill space in the magazines) can be useful to remind a person of their flaws & strengths. A true astrologists doesn't ask you when you were born, scribble down who your best love signs are & take $20 for their efforts. They spend days laboring over historical Astronomy & exact equations based on a long interview. *geeze... I can only imagine what you think Feng Shui is!

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 376 (view)

Do women prefer men with long hair or short? Posted: 12/22/2006 11:50:08 AM
I like the tightly groomed look(or completely shaved). I feel it's more masculine. I don't care much for feminine men & that's how long hair comes across to me. Give me a clean cut, manly man. Besides, I have a ton of hair & that darned bathroom suffers enough for it, as it is! :)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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Whats the biggest misperception people have about you? Posted: 11/5/2006 9:13:00 AM
Men like to assume that because I have a singles profile that I'm desperately clinging to my profile's mailbox, waiting for any male who'll respond to shower me in his attention. They assume I'll quiver with delight at vulgarities & brainless dribble. Now, if you'll excuse me... I feel like vomiting.

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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My profile PICTURE and T SHIRT.. It's message.. Posted: 11/5/2006 8:59:28 AM
anenigma, I'm proud of you. It's pitiful when sour little people are so bitter that it makes them blind & mentally challenged. It's even worse when they open their mouths and make broad sweeping judgments(thus confirming previous statement). Just remember, you are the bigger person here. You embody the ideal of a true woman. I'm sure that's more than the little weasel(s) can handle. ...oh & then there's the part where I remind you that he's(or they are) here for a reason. It may very well be that irrational, nasty disposition that keeps them lonely and single. I prescribe an ungratifing spanking for anyone who picks on you or your boobs tshirt. Long live the survivers. Down with lumpy grumpy grouches. :)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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~ WHERE DO U DRAW THE LINE ~ Posted: 7/23/2006 10:55:35 PM
Physical & Personality: If he feels or acts like a she when I touch or hold him, we have an impass. I'm not talking crossdressing, here. I like to be able to touch a man's body & know he's a man(w/o having to resort to a rather lewd crotch check). The small boy look isn't for me. I don't hang around if... I have to wear earplugs to have a conversation w/o going deaf, feel the need to offer him the use of my shower & toothbrush, I suddenly feel the need to seperate him from the company of my pet, or if spending 5mins together in silence is painful.

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 81 (view)

too much kissing and cuddling Posted: 7/23/2006 10:29:50 PM
To each their own...but~ If you find you've just entered the twilight zone & the said date is beginning to resemble a well watered St Benard... there may be some compatibility issues at hand. Personally, I have no major issue with PDA, provided he doesn't behave like... A wet helicoptor blade(slinging slober so far around his own face that I'd need a sump pump to find his mouth) A hungry baby bird/woodland animal(trying to steal food out of my mouth or draw blood... or both) A man on a mission (& I'm only number three on his 10 girl night) A seperation anxiety riddled puppy(Yeah..uumm, humping of the leg~ not sexy) ...in these cases, immediately dowse with cold water & run, don't walk.

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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Re: Whoah... Heavy Quotes... (political) Posted: 2/9/2006 9:42:31 PM
Nice job Rep. Lynn Woolsey, you must be a big fan of Jerry Springer. CNN.com's Eliott C. McLaughlin wrote: According to a blog post on Michael Moore's Web site attributed to Sheehan, the T-shirt said, "2,245 Dead. How many more?" -- a reference to the number of U.S. troops killed in Iraq. According to a blog post on Michael Moore's Web site attributed to Sheehan, the T-shirt said, "2,245 Dead. How many more?" -- a reference to the number of U.S. troops killed in Iraq. "She was asked to cover it up. She did not," said Sgt. Kimberly Schneider, U.S. Capitol Police spokeswoman. Sheehan, who became a vocal war opponent after her son was killed in Iraq, was an invited guest of Rep. Lynn Woolsey, D-California. Woolsey has called for a withdrawal of troops in Iraq and supports legislation for the creation of a Department of Peace. Yeah, that's real nice & all but encouraging a woman who you knew would protest... real mature. Too bad it was a wasted effort. The gesture was so scoffed at, it was basicly a point for the other side. Next time you pull a political prank like that, make sure you read the rules of conduct for the area... House rules bar demonstrations in the galleries. hmmm, perhaps she never got that memo.

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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has anyone had an effect on you even though u never met them? Posted: 2/8/2006 6:40:32 PM
Yeah, MLKing. Thanks to him I can't figure out where the heck I am in most Major Eastern Cities. What's Atl up to...14+ variations of King Street, blvd, rd, cir, cul, ave....yadda yadda yadda... Baltimore had about 9 & Chicago has 10ish. The guy was great, granted- major kudos, but this name thing is becoming redundant, to say the least. *sigh...

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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What Ever Happened Posted: 2/8/2006 6:09:18 PM
Yeah, Dukes of hazzard went off the air years ago & humans don't concider it fashionable to eat their young when there's something wrong with them. Although I have been known to suggest parents of young hellions to put them in a onesie, cover the ceiling in velcro & let 'em jump on the trampoline indoors til they stick! Funny thing is, our parents were saying the same thing & so were theirs! Don't you just love the evolution of civilization?

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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What kind of woman are you? Posted: 2/8/2006 6:00:54 PM
Does dropping the tranny & checking the timing count if you don't drive? LOL! I've been the car owning guy's best friend & classic car daddy's right hand girl my whole life. (it makes fluffing one's hair while you listen to the mechanic's bs, fun. I just love busting a scammer...*rrrooaaaar!)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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Define sexy Posted: 2/8/2006 5:44:27 PM
Sexy is the right attitude in a great package showing up, just in time. :)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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Define sexy Posted: 2/8/2006 8:54:50 AM
Sexy makes me take a second look, makes me slow down to take it. It leaves me with yet another reason to smile for the day. It might make me want to eat if I come home to find someone cooking something special for my pleasure. It encourages me to turn off the lights in the livingroom when I see a sliver of that wanted person through the bedroom door. It's all the hairs that stand up on my arms with my having just hear that voice, that sound. When that which I see, hear & feel all line up on my senses and do a number on concentration, it's sexy. When my dress hangs in a way that gives me more of what I didn't think I had so much of, wow- sexy. When so little creates a feeling of so much, it's sexy.

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 128 (view)

What do you miss most about being a kid? Posted: 2/8/2006 8:42:16 AM
*sigh... when you were a kid, the juice on the front of your shirt was a badge of honor. Now it's just money down the drain.

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 123 (view)

What do you miss most about being a kid? Posted: 2/7/2006 6:54:23 PM
...oooh & the cola gummies wouldn't give me gut rot if i managed to eat the whole half pound bag in one sitting. *sigh...

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 79 (view)

do you believe prayer can save a relationship?? Posted: 2/7/2006 6:31:08 PM
Sometimes the answer from God is "No". Trouble is, those who believe in God tend to treat him as Santa and bring their wish lists to him regardless of whether those things are good for us or not. Heeeelloooo! Nailed it on the head!

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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Get your profile reviewed by a bald, tattooed guy Posted: 2/7/2006 6:26:59 PM
Gave your notes some thought & felt your points were quite valid. First, let me say it takes real khutspe to put yourself out there, like it or leave it. I'm referring more to how I've seen you conduct yourself around the Dr.. Now, I've taken your critique to heart & have to admit, it made a difference. So, thanks for your efforts.

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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Anything Goes...Dreams too Posted: 2/7/2006 5:40:31 PM
kneads the comforter before laying down... I was looking for a place to deposit this, hope you don't mind. ***** Poetic Justice...** How do I insult thee, let me count the ways: I've said "no thanks" to tasteless notes one liners & self praises til now I have a million quotes venenate in all the phrases... You say "show me some skin" and I respond "go fish" your bitterness grows deep within then I become "cold dish". If I politely say "no thank you" and later get a "why not?" tell me, what should that do? Hit my poor weak spot? Your simply not amusing entertaining or what I lack. So, what ever drugs you're using please, go get your money back.

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 174 (view)

Why do guys take your number and never call? Posted: 2/7/2006 1:50:13 PM
I admit~ If a guy is being too terribly pushy for a number, I'll give him the number to the local CDC branch. Call it a subtle hint in self expression. It's my way of cooling his jets so the next female won't feel pinned down by his exuberance. (I'm sure he never even made that call. If he gave me his number, I wouldn't call.) Take a moment & reflect... if you're wondering why you never got a call, is there any way that you could've come off too eager for those digits? ...just a thought... It has become a game, this number collecting fasination. It's like a grand scavenger hunt of testostrone. (no offense guys) Perhaps most of us women simply don't enjoy the same kind of contest mentality as the number banking men. I do know a few females who collect them but typically it's the guys who feel there is some urgent need to ask for a number. If the setting is appropriate, then hopefully the exchange will be mutual & pleasant. Personally, I like to do things like wait until the very last second & then toss a paperball at him. "You shouldn't lose that little ball of paper" I hint. I usually get my phone call that way.

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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Get your profile reviewed by a bald, tattooed guy Posted: 2/7/2006 1:04:36 PM
M~ I thank you for time & efforts. Your perspective is appreciated greatly. :)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 169 (view)

Why do guys take your number and never call? Posted: 2/6/2006 10:56:55 PM
I just talked to a guy friend who explained another side of this to me, his. He met a couple of girls in a bar & everyone was having fun. At last call they offered their phone numbers to him & he felt it would be kind of a mean gesture to refuse it. He admitted that the next day he barely remembered much about the girls, just that they had all been drinking. What were the chances that either of them were in the same frame of mind the next day? He wasn't. I asked him if he ever tried to call them later & he admitted once he called from a business phone. Neither number was theirs. I don't think he will ever call another "bar number". This may have a slight strand of truth to it for anyone who feels jilted. When confronted with a split second decision... take/offer a number or not... sometimes ppl feel they've left things on a pleasant note by going for it. All things concidered, it's one of the least damaging behaviors I hear ppl complain about!

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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Free Will Posted: 2/6/2006 8:49:40 PM
Once there was a man named Franklin, who worked 12hr days. He'd walk all the way home only to climb to the top of his ten story building to pray. Every day for years he'd say to God, "Lord, I'm a good man. I work hard. I'm true & faithful. I never miss church & I try to pray to you in thanks for the things I have. I only have one thing to ask... can you help me win the lottery?" After he said his peace, he'd climb back down to his floor & have his dinner before going to bed so he could do it all again the next day. Now, after years of not winning the lottery, he still made the same prayer, in the same spot. One day God decided to interupt the man... "Franklin, look here... you've been asking me for the same thing for years now. It's always the same prayer...help me win the lottery. Tell you what, how about I meet you half way... .....BUY A TICKET!" __________________________________ Ok, so you had a little laugh, good. This is just my 2 cents & you don't have to do squat with it but here it is... Unless you have some pretty amazingly unexplainable relationship healing powers just shooting out of your finger tips as a result of holy intervention, why don't you start spending a bit more time trying to understand why you have a problem rather than simply expecting "God" to fix it or walk you through. Now, I'm not trying to tell anyone how or when to pray, but so many relationship issues just need the attention of the couple(maybe even a church councilor). I've just seen so many ppl use prayer as an excuse to get out of assuming any responsibility for a situation. Where do you stop asking for God's help & start working on the problems? ...and how would you feel if you were God & ppl just kept trying to get you to solve problems they could likely manage by themselves? :)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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Re: Whoah... Heavy Quotes... (political) Posted: 2/6/2006 8:13:01 PM
He's the mayor of New Orleans, btw. I got an email from a fellow Nola neighbor. This is what the mayor has created... the monster borne of chocolate. It's based on the american express commercials... (without the pictures, you'll have to use your imagination) The true cast of Katrina... 1 house: $160,000 (shows a neighborhood underwater) 2 cars: $50,000 (shows a Chevy truck burried by bricks) 1 boat: $25,000 (shows boats in the parking lot by pier) 60,000 "Chocolates" sent to Houston with no way back: PRICELESS (shows the crowd of people standing outside waiting for rescue) ... Well, there you go people. It only took one guy a short moment on the air to set a whole wave of negativity in motion. Good job, ya moron!

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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My Favourite Quotes. Posted: 2/6/2006 5:43:27 PM
"Don't be so humble - you are not that great." - Golda Meir ... "Never interrupt your enemy when he is making a mistake." - Napoleon Bonaparte ... "Good people do not need laws to tell them to act responsibly, while bad people will find a way around the laws." - Plato ... "Denial ain't just a river in Egypt." - Mark Twain ... "Knowledge speaks, but wisdom listens." - Jimi Hendrix ... "If you want to make an apple pie from scratch, you must first create the universe." - Carl Sagan ... "Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It's the transition that's troublesome." - Isaac Asimov

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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My Favourite Quotes. Posted: 2/6/2006 2:50:59 PM
"There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it." - Oscar Wilde ... "Now, now my good man, this is no time for making enemies." - Voltaire, on his deathbed in response to a priest asking that he renounce Satan.

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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Get your profile reviewed by a bald, tattooed guy Posted: 2/6/2006 2:48:23 PM
Well, Molonel... I seem to be running into you all across this place. I find your 'cut to the chase' ways refreshing(and your arguments tight). So, why not have the king of Zoot grace me with his opinion? ...*rubbs the lantern...or... make that the bald head... :)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

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Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them! Posted: 2/6/2006 2:25:40 PM
I appreciate your coments & return the civility likewise, Jack. The valid collective veiws are not what I noticed when I began reading this....unbelievably long & drawn out series of post. I read the jaded personalities louder than the points being made.(not a personal reference, mind you) A topic that has every right to be openly discussed has turned into a HUGE penis wagging contest(as if the bigger one wins the point... no pun). I dug around, I read, I cross read & it's really amazing how some people are taking an aggresive battling approach to simply exchange points of veiw. While I see this topic triggers the male defensiveness, it also alleges us girls are supposed to behave in a specific manner. The all pink & frilly, 'oh gosh I can't get the door cause I shopped too much' stain. Being feminine does not mean we have to act according to standards set by another generation during different times. Having said that, being a nice guy does not mean a man has to fling himself at mudpuddles, yank every door open or 'puss puss around the woman who is burning a hole through his credit card. (at least it doesn't to me) Simply put, a nice guy can sit with his mate, in any environment as an equal. The nice guy doesn't go wacky when he isn't what the other person wants. ...oh, & he doesn't engage himself is hollow banter as if it's his only opertunity at 15 mins of fame. BTW~ a worthwhile read, that profile of yours... I wish you luck.

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 166 (view)

Why do guys take your number and never call? Posted: 2/6/2006 1:53:34 PM
"Why does it have to be guys' (job) to get a girl's number ? Women are scared to get it or what? too insecure to persue guys?" While I can not speak for anyone else... I look at it like this, let's say one man walked into a room of 50 average women(potential date), he may find 10 of them lovely & 10 of them just so so. Let's call that 'seeking 20 numbers'. Now, if it was one woman walking into a room of 50 average men, she'd mull around & maybe find 5 men of interest. Difference is, she'd wait to see if one stood apart from the rest before she asked for his number. The down side being, in the meantime, he may have walked into the other room and gotten 20 numbers!

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 1295 (view)

Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them! Posted: 2/6/2006 1:20:26 PM
Triggered a bit of defensiveness in you have I? I see you've taken my "perspective" & attacked it. Popsicle, you have a very limited argument, I'm afraid. You have stormed through my post & huffed out a bitter retort. While some of your concepts are true to the idea of how to treat a female, they are not rules for them alone. This is not highschool, this is life. The prom ended years ago & reality took hold. Anyone can wear/give flowers for any reason they please & rape is rape no matter who the victim is. They are the ones courted or asked out and not vise versa unless you are a Rock Star or a Jock. They get the money spent on them. You walk them to the car if it's dark out. You walk them to the door. They want you to remember special days, or days that are special to them. They want you to go into every store in the world and when you go to ONE store you want, they wait outside. You ask THEM for their phone number. If you don't tell them how good they look , you have committed a MAJOR trepass. You open doors for them. You pull their chair out for them. You just feel free to hang onto those ideas, that's your right. Once, these ideas were concidered the norm, as were a whole slew of "how a woman should act" periodicals. But remember, just because you remember things done a particular way, does not make it the only option. Try wandering into a Congressmans or Senators social setting and not know these rules that don't exsist. You won't last long. ...and don't make uneducated assumptions about a person you do not know. You and I are strangers, don't pretend otherwise. You are not by my side when I go to work with high end political figures.

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 1290 (view)

Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them! Posted: 2/6/2006 12:35:40 PM
How interesting... out of all of you who've been pounding away on your little keys, how many actually feel better now? I certainly hope someone does for all the energy spent here. I can see some ppl seem to be spending more time on attacks, excuses & analogies than finding something to be happy about. In this day & age, I find it pathetic that grown ups are still anable to handle the realities of just how the genders relate(or fail to relate) to each other. If you call yourself a "nice guy(gal)", good for you. I hope it gives you all the satifaction of any fancy title out there. The title however, is not the talent. If you pick apart your situation until your so jaded you can't see three feet from your nose, it changes nothing. No, there are no set rules about how women/men go about envolving themselves with their potential mates(other than they go after what they want). If you find that you don't fill that role, so what? Would you rather that same woman/man pretend for a while then walk away after you've had a small taste? If the proverbial "nice guy" definition means sitting for hours on the computer venting about the conditions that led to your being single... I'm not going to want the "nice guy" either! Show me that you're a whole person who has a great time out with the boys, the girls or just by yourself & you get the accolades. ...my 2 cents...

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 22 (view)

New Orleans Memory Posted: 2/6/2006 9:21:52 AM
Arrested after one hour on Bourbon Street & bragging about it. Hmmm, add in the fact that the first part of your profile reads..."You could write a comic book on my antics. I'm a "go big or go home" kind of guy. Life's too short to get caught up in the state of blah. Outside of the box thinker and will try anything at least 4 times.. lol"... and it just doesn't suprise me. It just sounds like so many other people's stories... they drop in to cut lose & forget that there are actually laws in Nola. You say you were treated badly but something set you apart. Should you wonder why the people on Bourbon Street treated you like a tourist... just remember if you acted like one. Food for thought~ it always did amuse me how someone can spend a week drunk in a small tourist based amusement zone & think that they've seen New Orleans. (hell, the locals don't go down there for a reason!!)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 11 (view)

Re: Whoah... Heavy Quotes... (political) Posted: 1/30/2006 7:39:58 PM
Here's some heavy quoting to update this long dead file... In the news... ~Nagen, "It’s time for us to rebuild a New Orleans, the one that should be a chocolate New Orleans and I don't care what people are saying Uptown or wherever they are. This city will be chocolate at the end of the day...This city will be a majority African-American city. It's the way God wants it to be" I just want to mail him chocolate barf, or maybe a nice chocolate dipped rat. Did I vote for him? checks the record... nope, & I'm still embarressed. ~Nagen, "...You can't have New Orleans no other way." grrrr... can we please have our government officals speaking with some tact...pleeeeeease? ~Nagen(again), "Surely God is mad at America. He sent us hurricane after hurricane after hurricane, and it's destroyed and put stress on this country...Surely he doesn't approve of us being in Iraq under false pretenses. But surely he is upset at black America also..." Hey Nagen, news flash...if "God" is upset at anything it's your assumptive, camera ready, mentally filtered, political butt. ~Resident Alex Gerhold, "He used the wrong dairy product to describe us. We're more Neapolitan, not chocolate" *Now, that's funny! Well, there you have it. Jump on the boat... let's hear your take. :)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 20 (view)

New Orleans Memory Posted: 1/30/2006 6:34:55 PM
Being bumped from New Orleans(thanks Katrina, ya HAG) makes a person draw on memories to keep from bauling like a two year old who's sucker just got jacked. I can't pick just one thought to hold on to, but I'll try... The first time I set eyes on Nola, the idea was I would take Amtrak from Atl & make working there for one week into an adventure. After 11 hrs of stormy bumping boxcars & possesive prissy riders, I couldn't be happier to actually get there in one piece. My friend Andrew came to pick me up, took one look at the shade of green I must've been turning & said it was time for a beer & a frenchfry poboy. He made a point of taking the long way back to the house. Along the way telling me the names of all the neighbors for 6 blocks, pointing out where we would have to go eat(so I could learn what lagniappe was)& explaining that girls were "honey", the grass between lanes was "neutral ground" and that it was perfectly normal to have a drink at 8am. I do believe, by the time we got to his wonderful little shotgun house in the Irish channel, I was ready to move. (I think the exact thought on my mind was *guuuush) Less than 2 months later, I was living in that exact house where I had first stayed in Nola & fallen so deeply in love with my little cresent city. :)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 36 (view)

The view from your window. Posted: 1/30/2006 6:11:30 PM
The new garden with the camellias in full bloom(nice deep shade of red, too). In the morning, the sun catches the bird feeder loaded with little beggers. So, how does one put the birds on a diet, anyway?

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 38 (view)

This life would be better if... Posted: 1/16/2006 4:37:56 PM
..."cancer" was code for "Orgasm" ...pollution could be the treatment for the criminally insane ...random acts of kindness were paid jobs ...sexual partners were programed with 'perfect', 'lunchtime quickie', & 'make the neighbor's jealous' settings. ...audits were an April 1st joke. :)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 54 (view)

What would you name your genitalia? Posted: 1/16/2006 4:22:30 PM
In a bizzare Asian tradition, I would have to name mine... Camellia sinensis (after the flowering part of the plant source of black, green & white tea). It's a small bush(neatly maintained) that grows in warm temperature areas(of course) reminiscent of Asia. It's tea is a central nervous system stimulant(turn on), it can relax muscles(sap the life out of you) & increase coronary flow(bring a tear to your eye). :)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 114 (view)

What do you miss most about being a kid? Posted: 1/16/2006 4:03:15 PM
I miss how my grandparents seemed to bounce around. Grampa was always making something intresting in the workshop... Gramma made the house warm & cozy. Their yard was my Disneyworld & the smell of the pantry fueled my dreams. :)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 1342 (view)

what put a major smile on your face today? Posted: 1/16/2006 3:47:44 PM
I got a email from the owner of a art gallery in Nola I helped build. I knew it had been destroyed in Katrina & some of the artists were unable to recover much of their work/studio space. This founder, he's an amazing man who suffers from Macular Degeneration. As he loses his sight, he fights harder for the artists in Nola who have lent themselves to the New Orleans feel. Admirable beyond words, he is. Since Katrina, he has found ways to fund the touring of the displaced artists from Nola. This thursday an Atlanta gallery will be having an opening of thier work. I can't wait. :)

spiceygamble

Joined: 6/2/2005

Msg: 1335 (view)

what put a major smile on your face today? Posted: 1/15/2006 9:22:02 PM
...drinking coffee from my new mug. It's the cartoon artist Douglas' rendering of a goofy grey tabby cat. Funny to think I'm sipping from the back of it's head. *snicker...sip, sip...

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