Overall, after meeting a number of ladies from these pages, I'd have to call POF ......Plenty of Fibs, Plenty of Flab, Plenty of Floozies, Plenty of Freeloaders and only very rarely, Plenty of Fish.

I'm an over 60 woman seeking a healthy single man. I know good luck.

Don't get lost in the b.s. and lose what we are meant to do - we are meant to live our lives to the fullest, love to the fullest, teach and learn, give back, help where needed, be a shoulder to cry on, etc. To hell with rings and petty b.s. from those too young to know the difference.

Talking about Mojo what is with this sexiest user bit? I just noticed that when I went to my mailbox, there was a thumbnail of my profile shot saying sexiest user under it?

Doesn't matter how fit, healthy, or full of vitality we feel today.....the simple fact for those of us in the 45+: Our lives are at most.....half over.

some may feel in the spirit of altruism and pubic service that they should remain unattached so they can spread Joy as widely as possible.

I absolutely refuse to be involved with anyone with family issues.

Is anyone else becoming more forgetful.............?

also have you looked at some of the fellows on POF? Many are hefty or at least pudgy .......

I say if they want a Barby doll they should look in the toy department.

People can talk all they want, but the time spent in person is what generally determines if you want to continue to get to know one another.

thought this was gonna be about video games

Recently I met a few really nice male raw chefs

as I am scaling down my possessions in many regards I am upgrading the quality of the stuff I choose to keep.

And where I used to try to see where the BS was coming from, now I just fling it right back at them....bigoted, hateful, narrow-minded, misogynistic comments such as the one above (literally) make me sick.

I do think it is true that when you run into a 50-something, 60-something or older person who has already spent a good number of years by themselves, its not very likely that anyone who comes along is going to meet their list of requirements.

Yes, indeed, they will spend the rest of their lives in bed with their computers, and they will have convinced themselves that they have made the right decisions because nobody came along that met their standards.

now that I'm older, I know better & so should anyone else I'm gonna be around....I don't want to be dragged down.

Some people say it should go down w/age, to be more accepting or realistic.....I dunno

Wow, that's some guilt trip those mamas (and daddies) lay on their kids.

I think it's great that a grown man would treat their mother well, but I am now leery of men who have mothers who are widowed and are control freaks and have nobody in their lives other than their grown sons.

But there *are* "healthy body" nuts that simply become boring in their obsession.

Let's not forget that the more fat a man has around his waist, or the bigger his gut is, the more estrogen his body is creating.

I guess posts are easy to misundertand sometimes and I'm not the greatest at explaining my thoughts.

but you've definitely got some issues happening..

Invite me to dinner, Ms. Phoebe. Every now and then, I want some " good, old-fashioned" food....

I do think that blended families can work but it takes much, much effort.

A site such as this is chock-full of the relationship-challenged crowd, And the bickering that I oftentimes see going on here is so embarrassingly childish to me at times I could eassily get depressed about things if I didn't keep a sense of humor about it.

ZenBeth, while some may have had a very good marriage until the death of their significant other, there is absolutely no guarantees that had that significant other lived, that alone could guarantee the continuation of the marriage.

One can only ever know what is in the present and one never knows what the next day or what the future will bring.

I am always amazed at the smug psychic abilities that widows and widowers seem to claim that they have with regard to their marriages.

I don't think it's harder to date post-45, I think the internet is NOT the best option at my age.

I am not talking about core values but rather personal preferences that we would have cared less about in our twenties or thirties.

You really need to look in the mirror sometime

These topics just reinforce my love of being single.!!

Wow! Jaded much???^^^

These topics just reinforce my love of being single.!!

any man not interested in "commitment" is a player? I have several lady friends who have NO interest in "commitment", so are they players too? I'm just curious!

So, my question is, do you really think that men in this "higher" age group are more likely to date without the BS of games, or is this just a myth?"

He was and as far as I know still is quite a lady's man. He is very wealthy and otherwise good looking so I do not know why he lets it go

At their age(and Mommy's) it would take years,,,,and more than one "professional,,,,not a boyfriend.

If you love yourself, and self-esteem is in place overuse of nice words, hugging etc. isn't needed.

Giving and receiving affection in my opinion only happens with very special people in our lives. If affection is squandered on everyone we meet, it is meaningless.

Sex to me is incidental to affection. It is something I savour. It is the expression of love. The very thought of being with a partner that is not affectionate is abhorrent. If I am with someone, I am hers, she is mine and the day is an exchange of little favours, the warmth of a smile, the gentle touch of the hand, the pressure of her body against mine.............

I find that retired men expect you to be free to come and go.