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Joined: 12/8/2007

Msg: 162 (view)

Why do women not like dating fulltime single fathers? Posted: 11/15/2009 7:24:32 AM
Maybe the ex wife isn't good parent material, I have friends that the women walked away and left her kids. Maybe his ex died . The courts are usually on the side of the mom and if he guy gets them the judge thought they were the better parent. You seem a little bitter, did you lose your kids to your ex? Personally I think it is awesome that any parent man or woman puts their kids a head of everything else. I prefer to date someone who has children becuase they understand when life situations come up with my son , we can reschedule. Since you don't know what happen and weren't at court when the judge make the choice, who are you to belittle this man. What, a man that takes care of his child only wants a mate to make someone jealous. I am sorry to say but you need to get out of the high school drama and get a life. If anyone in messed up it is your attitude and judgement against someone you don't even know. I won't let my son meet anyone I date until I think it is a serious relationship. I also don't drop everything to be with someone new. I always put my son first and he is very well adjusted. I certainly am not looking for a new daddy for my son I am his parent period. I am not divorced as my son's dad walked away before he was born. I judge people by who they are after I meet them. I have raised my son all by myself with out any money and don't need anyone to help me. I do want a relationship with a man and I would never expect to take the place of their mother or want to. I think you need to grow up and personally I really don't think you are relationship material for anyone until you get some counseling and learn what a real realtionship is all bout. . Do you even have kids. If you were a good parent then you would know just how little time you have for yourself and how nice it would be to have someone special in your life for so "me time" , single parents don't get a lot of that if they are doing a good job of raising thier kids. I have to disagree that insane women have your attitude because it seems to be all about you and in a relationship it is all about the "group" and especially what is best for the kids!!! I personally would really choose a parent over someone who has never had children because they are usually understanding and not selfish. Best of luck with your life and finding a relationship after a posting like this. You may find a date and easy sex but with your child like bitterness and hatred , I think that is all you will get. I think high school was too much credit more like kindergarden, take your marbles and go home. Yes Karma is a good thing if I were you I wouldn't ask for it.

Joined: 12/8/2007

Msg: 197 (view)

Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man? Posted: 6/7/2009 8:29:38 AM
I don't what all the fuss is about, I have gone out with younger men and there is nothing wrong with it. Older men date younger women all the time and no one thinks twice. I do think it is a compliment and if they are just looking for a booty call, you figure it out right away but older men can be looking for just a booty call as well. I think you need to get to know who is interested in you and see if there is chemisty between you. Some people are mature at a younger age and some older people are very childish. It really depends on the person.

Joined: 12/8/2007

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Would Single Moms Do it over Again? Posted: 1/11/2009 6:49:30 AM
I would certainly do it all over again. My son is the joy of my life. It is very hard and I at times have worked 2 jobs to support us. I don't have any family, both my parents are dead and most times money is tight but my son understands and doesn't ask for much. We love each other so much and have such a great time togther. I feel my life started when I had him. It is the most rewarding job in the world but I do get tired having to do eveything myself. I have worked very hard and been the scout leader, band president, and PTA chair and work 2 jobs, homework, taking care of the house and spending my time with him. He is finally old enough for me to have more personal time but I wouldn't trade a minute for anything. Parents make sacrifices for thier children even if you are married and have support. I know a lot of parents( married and good income) they don't spend as much time with thier kids as I do. My son is a straight A student and in 9th grade and has already picked out 3 colleges he wants to attend. He is kind ,thoughtful and understands how difficult life can be but amazing. Even when he gets money at birthdays and christmas he always asked me if I need anything or money for bills before he spends his cash. So the sacrifices I have made for him, I see have made him a secure stable kid that will be an excellent adult. It is the hardest thing in life to do but very rewarding. My son told me this christmas when I didn't have the cash to get him what he wanted he said Don't worry Mom we will get it next month and If love were money I think I have more then Bill gates. Those are the moments that are priceless and worth it all.

Joined: 12/8/2007

Msg: 58 (view)

Can he get full time custody just because of a couple of bad grades? Posted: 1/10/2009 6:44:17 AM
I really don't think the courts wouls take your child away for a few Ds on thier report card, it would take a much larger issues. I agree that a parent (both) teacher confernece is in order. Also if Dad is concerned, maybe you need to look at a sylvan center for some kind of extra help and split the fees. You said he has ADD, then a visit to the doctor also needs to be scheduled, he might need a change in medication. You both should be going to support groups ( my nephew has HADD so I know it can be hard) Make a plan to help your son reach his goals. Even though you are not together, this is the child of both of you. Split up the study time, etc. Get on the same page as far as punishment for work not turned in. Have your son's teacher email you a list of assignments and due dates each week. Post them where they can be seen on a cork board etc with a copy at your ex's house as well. I have my son do this. Most school systems today have internet acess to assignments/tests and what grade your child recieves and posted for each class daily. Use that system. Stay on top of it, you are the parent but your ex is as well. Let him take an active part in this problem and work together, this is your child's future and ADD is not an excuse for not doing your school work and the child needs to know that. When he grows up and gets a job, that won't fly at work. You need to sit down for mediation with your ex and make sure this is not the only issue. Maybe he just doesn't get to spend enought time with him. The fact he wants to be involved is great , there are a lot of parents( men and women) who could care less about thier kids so as much as it is frustrating, at least he cares about his child.

Joined: 12/8/2007

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Would you have your child's other parent over for Christmas? Posted: 1/10/2009 6:06:29 AM
I know it is after christmas but I think it is a great idea. I hope it went well for you. It should be about what is best for your children. We are all adults and should be able to act correctly and put our differences aside to do what is best for our children. My son doesn't have a relationship with his dad( past away) but I have been on the other side of the coin and dated someone with 3 kids and had not only his ex over for christmas dinner but her family as well. Her parents, grnadparents and brother and his family( child's cousns). We all got a long and had a great day for the kids. Why should thier holidays be bad becuase the parents can't be grown ups. She had us for christmas the following year. We got together for thier birthday parties , etc.

Joined: 12/8/2007

Msg: 2468 (view)

do men actually exist that date women with kids?? Posted: 1/10/2009 5:08:08 AM
I read your profile and I don't understand why you would have a problem. You seem very nice and that fact you have decided to be with your kids and take an actvie part in thier lives would be a big plus in my book. Yes ,you are in a very stable profitable position for employment and good looking. and also a caring patient person for what you do for work. If you were here in Florida, you certainly would have a date becuase I find your attitude perfect. There has to be some women where you live that have a brain and can see a good thing right in front of them. Wake up ladies , this one seems like a keeper. Best of Luck!!! and by the way , your not a frog !

Joined: 12/8/2007

Msg: 2467 (view)

do men actually exist that date women with kids?? Posted: 1/9/2009 2:37:35 PM
I have been a single mom for a long time and my son is fifteen. I can take care of myself and my son and not looking or someone to take up the slack. The problem I have had is that sometimes I can't go out on a school night. I have to make dinner, check homework, volunteer at school and do mom stuff , work a full time job and do everything in the house. To meet someone for coffee right after work for a little while is great or on the weekends when I have a whole evening but this seems to be an issue that I just can't run out when ever they want. I would love to date a man with kids and certainly don't mind helping out him with his children. I wouldn't want to have the kids meet each other until we were sure the relationship was headed somewhere. I would completley understand if he had to call off a date becuase " your kids should come first" and would like the same in return with out drama. I love kids and if I could have had more I would have. Being in a great relationship and adding to your family would only bring more happiness but you can't butt into the SO and the ex spouse thing or come in and try to be the boss over someone elses children. The most you should ask for is to become great friends with thier kids not replace the other parent. Once you decide the relationship is a keepeer then it would be easier becuase everyone could be togther and not have to try and fit dating time in between all the resposibilites of your life. It just would take a little patience on both parents for a little while to find the time to get to know each other. I wouldn't even mind starting over if he had young one. Children are wonderful!!!

Joined: 12/8/2007

Msg: 99 (view)

Woman that talk dirty during sex ? Posted: 1/8/2009 6:32:17 AM
I agree with you, it makes sex that much hotter. It is right up there with ranchy phone sex and emails, get you in the mood to rush over and finish!!!

Joined: 12/8/2007

Msg: 872 (view)

I think cum haters are IGNORANT!!! Posted: 1/4/2009 8:27:05 AM
If you send me off each Day with a BJ, you need not swallow. I will still be a Very Happy Man!! Marry Me!! See I am right ( mostly) all you need to do is believe in your man becuase if you don't beleive in him , he feels you don't love him, let him know you truly desire him and that sex is not a chore and he will work hard and come home everyday to you.

Joined: 12/8/2007

Msg: 866 (view)

I think cum haters are IGNORANT!!! Posted: 1/4/2009 5:31:11 AM
No I have not been with only one guy but I have never had anyone break up with me. I am 47 and have had a few relationships. The father of my son died from an illness, so he really didn't leave me. I broke up with the other long term relationships I had becuase I wanted other things in my life but I am still friends with them after all these years. Sex was never a problem but that isn't the only thing that counts in a relationship but still important. Sometimes your dreams or desires for your own growth change and you don't want the same same things anymore. That doesn't mean you don't love each other. The big issues, children, career goals, where you live and how you live do effect your relationship. I was with another guy for years but didn't want to put up with his drug problem( perscritptions) after back surgery any longer. He wouldn't go for help. The other man I was engaged to wanted to move accross the country and my mom was dying of cancer and I let him go and fulfill his dream. I needed to be here for the last year of my mom's life. This was a dream job for him that he is still at but I had to do right by my mother. I felt I did the right thing for me. I certainly do not have the same goals, etc that I had at 20. It would be wonderful if my son's father was still alive as I am sure we would still be together. Men are very easy to understand.

Joined: 12/8/2007

Msg: 855 (view)

I think cum haters are IGNORANT!!! Posted: 1/3/2009 4:44:02 PM
I have to say I have read all these postings and I don't understand why everyone gets so nasty. As far as BJs bring frivolous. I have never met a guy who didn't think it was the greatest thing in the world or the hottest to have you swallow. If you like this guy enough to have sex, then what is the problem. It is just part of him but if it is too nasty to taste, then just have him in deep enough where you won't taste it at all and you will get over the gag relflex if you just swallow when you gag. If swallowing is the make or break of a relationship, then move on and find a partner that has the same ideas on sex and pleasure of thier partner as you do. I would find it very rude if a guy spit, gagged or made a face after giving me oral sex. Everyone does taste different but if I really want to please my partner, that just comes with the territory. You all act like it is poison and toxic. LOL If my partner knows how much I want to make him happy and just a clue on keeping your mate, if you send your man off everyday to face the world after a BJ( including swallowing) every morning, then he will always come home to you every night and never look elsewhere. But this is only my opinion and what has worked for me.

Joined: 12/8/2007

Msg: 288 (view)

Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move? Posted: 2/2/2008 8:56:18 AM
So how long is a respectable time limit? 3rd date 2 months, 4 months? If you have chatted for weeks and called and talked on the phone alot and you meet and you want to , that is bad? Does that mean he won't call you again? Is that the deal breaker in a relationship? So Men , what is the magic number where you would consider a woman respectable and relationship material. How many times have you slept with someone on the first date, does that make you less respectable or is it just a time line for women? I slepted with my son's father the first date and we were together for 8 years. We just had chemistry from the start. He was crazy about me until he passed away. Does it depend on the man? I have waited months to be with some one and the relationship didn't workout. I thought I knew him well but he was married and kept this from me and I saw him all the time not like just during the day when he took off form work. SO give me the answer please!!

Joined: 12/8/2007

Msg: 204 (view)

What is your favorite type of sex? Posted: 2/2/2008 7:50:19 AM
I love oral sex to give and get . I like it from behind and hard and a little rough. I like him to talk dirty and I like to be spanked . I like sex in places where you might get caught , very exciting. I like to have fun and be playful. I do like to have my legs over my head as well. What ever turns the two of you on.

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Msg: 61 (view)

Playing with her while she sleeps Posted: 2/2/2008 7:33:10 AM
That would be the best way to wake up but you really should finish what you start.

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Msg: 105 (view)

Most women will have sex very early in a relationship Posted: 2/2/2008 7:26:02 AM
I have had sex on a first date becuase I wanted to and was very attreacted to the guy. I never felt like a slut and I don't think he flet like I was. Sometime the relationship work out and sometimes it doesn't but the issues are when you have sex , it is how compatable you are and how you build on the relationship. My question is do guys think you are a slut if you do or that you just are so attractive to them, you just can't wait. Is there some "aceptable time limit" you are suposed to wait? I never got the memo on that one and would be interested in what you guys really think.

Joined: 12/8/2007

Msg: 103 (view)

Most women will have sex very early in a relationship Posted: 2/2/2008 7:10:16 AM
I would never have sex with someone becuase I feel undesirable, affraid to lose him( he would be worth it if that was the only reason he was around) or becuase society would think I was a prude or that I worry about competing with other women about who is having the most sex. I have sex becuase I am attracted to the man, want to feel good and I just might be horny. If a women feels she has to have sex for any of those reasons above , she just shouldn't. If she has sex for any of those reasons she will just feel worse for it. She should becuase she wants to and when she is ready. I don't know how men feel, but I really don't think it matters how soon you have sex if you both want to. If the chemisty is there and you want it , so be it.

Joined: 12/8/2007

Msg: 206 (view)

Bad Blow-Jobs Posted: 2/2/2008 6:23:52 AM
I thought guys liked to cum in your mouth. I thought that was a big thing. When I know a guy is getting very close, I usually suck really hard and run my toung under the string and suck it all out and lick off what ever is left. I would think it would be an insult to spit it out or run to the bathroom and brush your teeth. I you like him enough to give a blow job I think you should finish the job and tell him how good he tastes. I do agree with you that the prelude is very important , teasing and taking it slow seems to to me to be the best and produces the best results. I don't understand some guys like the teeth thing I think it would hurt and very carful with the ball , that are too sestive just a little licking is all. I think the teeth thing comes form a girl being to drunk to be paying attention and you have to look into his eyes and show him you like that you are pleasing him.

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