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How much ugly stuff should I volunteer?? Posted: 5/17/2009 3:47:54 AM
Hi Theta, Your subject line kinda blew me away after I read your post. Being bi-polar is not ugly stuff, it just is. It's not easy being bi-polar, it's harder still to say oh by the way if I starting acting out of the norm it's because I'm bi-polar. I believe that you have a right to keep that to yourself until you feel safe. What I mean by that is that until someone gets to know you and you disclose what you have to deal with they may not see you but your condition. I agree with an earlier post - you are not your medical condition. You are not screwed for life, you are going to overcome some very difficult hurdles. As to the whole conversation regarding work or school, this is a ice breaker for most of us. Not all females judge by profession, if someone grows to care about you it's not because of what you do but who you are. Best of luck, Theda and I sincerely hope that life treats you good.

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Why dont guys like to be with so many women? Posted: 4/26/2009 3:22:59 AM
Some men and women are always looking out for something "better" and it doesn't matter to them if they are in a relationship or not. Sorry things didn't work out but maybe in the future you'll keep this experience in mind and when you have some doubts about what type of relationship your in you'll have a talk to find out if you are both on the same page. Peace.

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The just be yourself advice Posted: 4/5/2009 8:57:46 AM
Be yourself. If you try to be something your not a woman would eventually figure that out and ask herself what else doesn't ring true. I dont' think that your profile says enough about you, but it's your profile. To quote your profile "I'm a guy who doesn't try to show off to prove himself. Calmly confident is how I'd describe myself, with a few quirks like anyone else (it's my dream to be on Jeopardy someday). " Nice, but short.

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Exchanging numbers crisis Posted: 4/5/2009 8:32:40 AM
I don't know if she'll call; but as to your buddies advice about never giving a woman your phone number, don't listen, I have taken phone numbers and called.

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Has there ever been a time when... Posted: 1/25/2009 2:50:39 AM
Yes, but by then it's too late, I've already opened my mouth. Besides, if it struck you as funny you might as well laugh.

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The Girl at Walmart Posted: 1/25/2009 2:45:02 AM
Just ask............................................she'll either say yes or no, life will go on.

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Women going to bars alone Posted: 10/9/2008 12:26:11 AM
I've had female friends say that they would never go to a bar, lounge, pub, or nightclub alone. I've never understood that, if I'm in the mood to go out and can't find a friend that wants to join me, I go out. Sooner or later you'll run into someone who thinks that you're there just to hook up, ignore them and enjoy yourself. Just remember to keep yourself safe, park in a well lite area and close or better yet take a cab, don't leave your drink unattended, pay attention to your surroundings and the people in them.

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You know it's been too long since you've had sex when... Posted: 10/4/2008 3:37:47 AM
You're at a coffee shop and someone in front of you is ordering and says "I'll have a 6 in." and thats all you hear but your thinking .....yeah it's been waaaaaaay too long.

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Lasagna questions Posted: 10/1/2008 7:42:04 AM
Unless you post the recipe your using and the steps it hard to tell, but I use a recipe that calls for uncooked noodles. If I have time I'll cook the noodles before assemble. Fresh noodles or the dried variety shouldn't change the procedure, but may affect the cooking time. Cook or not cook the fresh pasta? Try it both ways to see what works for you. Within the layers I use cottage cheese, 1 egg and chopped spinach (drained and rinsed). As for the covering, try covering for 45 min. or so, then uncover the last 15 min.

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Did she really think I just wanted to be friends? Posted: 9/29/2008 11:56:48 PM
Wildman46, your post made the most sense.

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Just Friends - Is it a cop out? Posted: 9/17/2008 7:27:42 PM
The following were the only options available, friends made the most sense. Hangout Talk/E-Mail Long-term Other Relationship Dating Friends Intimate Encounter Activity Partner Since you are a man who states this in his own profile, does this mean that you are full of it? I mean that only in a general sense.

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Texas Holdem Posted: 9/14/2008 9:20:25 PM
I like Pokerstars, usually play Omaha Hi/Lo. Played some free tournaments, not as much fun for some reason as the money ones. I like the sit & go games more than tournaments.

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What is the big deal with age? Posted: 9/14/2008 8:45:50 PM
Does age really have that big of an impact on who the person is? Nope not on everybody. Age is not a determining factor in maturity - the older I get the more mature? I think not for all of us. Little things like character, values, ethics, experience and how that person deals with life certainly form bigger impact on who a person is or isn't. Just my thoughts on this.

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what percentage of relationships do you believe are unhappy and why? Posted: 9/14/2008 4:20:27 AM
"all of them. theres a woman who talks in each one." Something is obviously wrong with me because I started laughing me thinks I should get some sleep.

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pool playing Posted: 9/14/2008 3:07:53 AM
Maybe she was talking about pocket pool.. Enjoy the game but haven't thought of it as particularly sensual, do find it telling though when playing with a man and beating him he throws a hissy fit.

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Bear hunting Posted: 9/13/2008 3:02:58 PM
LOL, it's hunting season up here.

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friends ,what are the criteria? Posted: 9/13/2008 2:51:15 PM
There seem to be a lot of opinions on what "looking for friends" is suppose to mean on this site. Try asking, what does looking for friends mean to you? If you do not receive a reply don't take it to heart, that person isn't looking for the same thing you are - move on - try again.

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What do you do with this?? Posted: 9/13/2008 2:45:18 PM
Option 1: get a T-shirt that says "I'm not gay but the ex is crazy" and wear it Option 2: talk with her, ask what's your problem and what do get out of spreading lies Option 3: let it runs its course and forget it.

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The point of waiting Posted: 9/12/2008 10:39:32 PM
Why don't you ask the woman that you are seeing if it's ok with her. Personally I'm not interested in being in a FWB arrangement or dating a man that's in that type of arrangement. Call me old fashioned but I only want to be involved in one intimate relationship at a time and that has nothing to do with wishing anyone being frustrated or control issues, that's personal choice.

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Clean slate? Posted: 9/8/2008 10:56:00 PM
Bouncy, I'd give it a go. Life is too short to live with regrets.

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Do you ever wonder, what the opposite sex is thinking? Posted: 8/27/2008 9:14:28 PM
I do wonder what they are thinking, but the longer I look at them (trying to figure it out) the more I wonder, then I give up, because in the end I don't have the foggiest clue. Mind you when they are staring at your chest it's kind of obvious, amuses me because I think finally know what this one is thinking of.

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Girls, If a guy said to you At Midnight I'll Take Your Soul what would you think? Posted: 8/26/2008 11:17:14 PM
I'd think there goes another lonely idiot, then again I might just say it just to see your face.

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What is with the line You deserve better than me Posted: 8/25/2008 6:24:48 PM
Means 'dump me' cause the she/he doesn't want to be the 'bad' guy.

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Toilet Cleaning... Posted: 8/24/2008 9:18:48 AM
Damn, makes me wish I had a cat, lol.

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Is there no end? What do I do? Posted: 8/24/2008 9:16:28 AM
You asked "if you were in my shoes what would you do". Seek help - doctor's, therapists, groups, internet, books, etc. There is no quick fix or formula that will work for everyone, but I hope that you find the combination that will work for you.

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WTF?! My friends never play MatchMaker! Posted: 8/13/2008 10:16:19 PM
It made me gun shy about showing up at friends/family events. They were well meaning but at that point in my life I wasn't ready.

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29 years old and never been on a date. Posted: 8/13/2008 9:43:21 PM
Depends on whether you really want someone in your life, it's all up to you. Try toastmasters, it's not all about public speaking.

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Older? on the scrap heap! Posted: 8/13/2008 9:29:30 PM
Before you start worrying about something someone says why don't you consider the source. A total stranger telling me that I'm "on the scrap heap" would be a jerk, it's when your mother walks into a parts store an announces she has a single daughter and are there are any single men in the store that you have worry.

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Is it reasonable to expect that a man and woman in a relationship ought to have the same sex drive? Posted: 8/9/2008 11:36:52 AM
Grapevine, until someone figures how to lite a neon sign on our foreheads that says "match, match, match" how are you going to figure that out BEFORE not AFTER? Unless your willing to take testimonials. Give me quality I'd ask for more frequent, give me frequent and no quality you'd have to ask for an instructor.

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can i get her back? Posted: 8/9/2008 11:19:37 AM
Agree with Steve and GP Sweetheart, "You don't date or get serious with people when you are in her situation." If she's considering leaving the area it's not about you, all the dates in the world are not going to put a roof over her head or food on the table. The hidden job market is through word of mouth, trying checking with co-workers, associates if there are any openings in her field, but check with her first to see if she's ok with you doing that. She agreed to met you for another date why don't you "Let her know that you will keep the door open", whether that's through e-mail, phone or dating. Let her know that you want a relationship to develop and that you're willing to wait. If she says not right now, respect that.

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Women interested in Sailing/Racing Posted: 8/9/2008 10:40:29 AM
If I lived closer I would go for it, haven't been sailing since I was a kid. 25ft you should only need 1 or 2, ladies if I were you I would find a buddy and give this guy a e-mail.

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Are Men Better Drivers than Women? Posted: 8/6/2008 11:28:51 PM
Who's better or worse??? Bets me, but since we're in an off topic forum what about city driver's vs country. Can you still drive with snowy/icy roads? country roads? dodge suicidal deer? control your vehicle when she starts to hydro-plane?

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Is it reasonable to expect that a man and woman in a relationship ought to have the same sex drive? Posted: 8/6/2008 11:16:56 PM
Can't speak for anyone else, but I expect that my partner will have a similar sex drive. If however my expectations and reality are not the same well what can I say except that "I don't think this is going to work out".

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How far will you drive for a date? Posted: 8/6/2008 11:05:08 PM
Providing we're meeting half way just about anywhere.

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music to drive to. Posted: 8/6/2008 10:57:40 PM
Prefer blues, but just about anything as long as I don't get a ticket. If the House is a Rock'n, Pride & Joy, Love Struck, Texas Flood, The Sky is Crying - Stevie Ray Vaughn

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What Road Sign Best Describes Your Sex Life? Posted: 8/5/2008 11:18:48 PM
No camping or overnight parking,

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Would you (a man) sleep with a woman you weren't attracted to? Posted: 8/5/2008 9:55:35 PM
Plastic Sturgeon, it wasn't until 2003 that I learn't what a 'cougar' was. I was walking away from a female co-worker, she yelled at me "you're a cougar" I replied "yes, I am" kept walking, all the while wondering how the hell did she know what kind of car I drove, wasn't even driving my car at the time. I later asked one of my sisters what it meant she said "older women that go for young men". I don't know what the stats are, don't really care, but to say " And I kind of wish" - either you do or you don't. Totally off topic, sorry, but I was reading through the posts and didn't feel like letting that comment go by, sounded rude and uncalled for.

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Guide To Dating (Please Add Your Own...) Posted: 8/5/2008 9:20:16 PM
WOMEN'S ENGLISH: 1. Yes = No 2. No = Yes 3. Maybe = No 4. We need = I want.. 5. I am sorry = you'll be sorry 6. We need to talk = You're in trouble 7. Sure, go ahead = You better not 8. Do what you want = You will pay for this later 9. I am not upset = Of course I am upset, you moron! 10. You're certainly attentive tonight = Is sex all you ever think about? MEN'S ENGLISH: 1. I am hungry = I am hungry 2. I am sleepy = I am sleepy 3. I am tired = I am tired 4. Nice dress = Nice cleavage 5. I love you = Let's have sex now 6. I am bored = Do you want to have sex? 7. May I have this dance? = I'd like to have sex with you 8. Can I call you sometime? = I'd like to have sex with you 9. Do you want to go to a movie? = I'd like to have sex with you 10. Can I take you out to dinner? = I'd like to have sex with you 11. I don't think those shoes go with that outfit = I'm gay

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Custody & Gaurdianship....whats the difference?? Posted: 8/5/2008 7:41:14 PM
Custody After separation or divorce, the parent who has "custody" is the parent who lives with the children and provides daily care. Custody can, however, also be "joint" or "shared." Joint or shared custody can mean a number of different arrangements, including an arrangement where the children live part of the time with one parent and part of the time with the other parent. Guardianship "Guardianship" is the responsibility for making major decisions about such things as what kind of education, health care or religious training the children will receive, and how to manage anything the children may own, such as property or money. Like custody, guardianship can be handled by one parent only, or shared between the parents - which means that both parents will remain involved in making important decisions about the children's future.

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cooking for my marine.. HELP! Posted: 8/5/2008 6:17:47 PM
Barbecued Salmon Salmon Fillet Lemon S&P to season Diced Onion & Tomato Chopped Fresh Dill Butter Couple of sheets of aluminum foil, place salmon on top, season, layer the onion & tomato, add the fresh dill, dabs of butter, squeeze fresh lemon juice on-top, seal. Throw on to barbeque, 10 to 15 min. Serve with anything you like.

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don't know what to think about this so... Posted: 8/5/2008 1:19:23 PM
Doc, wouldn't that be having to add a qualifier to every statement? I am spontaneous when not taken unaware or after 5pm, I am honest - to a fault, I have integrity - most of the time, I am openminded until someone points out that I wasn't in that instance. Aren't each of us a complicated mixture of some of this, none of that and depends where we are at in life?

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Are Women Over 40 Being Too Coy? Posted: 8/4/2008 4:41:55 PM
Dont' think we're too coy, maybe busy with life. I agree that it's only polite to reply, contact you later, busy, not interested, that was a little too strong, etc. The more I read the more I think I like being single. I enjoy the forum chat thing more than anything about this site, if you find that happily ever after I wish you joy.

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Why do women say, Let's be friends first Posted: 8/4/2008 3:22:24 PM
When you first meet someone you don't know where's its going to go. That initial attraction (if there was one) is either going to deepen or go away, hence let's be friends first. If on the very first date you ask her to go to dinner, and she says I only want to be friends thats' code for a free dinner. Don't get mad at me ladies, I know some females that do this, seems wrong to me but whatever.

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Different Types of Orgasms Posted: 8/4/2008 3:02:50 PM
Oscar, she asked for that response, lol. Hitting delete now.

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why oh why do they run Posted: 8/4/2008 1:07:03 PM
Smartass's gotta luv'em, I'll take that $20 Akutenshi, what does he look like?

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why oh why do they run Posted: 8/3/2008 9:44:13 PM
I don't think your profile makes anyone run screaming. You've made it pretty clear that family is important to you, I think that's great. Some of us like to know what your likes or dislikes are, not a rant but something that gives a truer picture of what type of women you are looking for. Try something about what attracts you to one type of women vs another, what makes you look twice. That way if we don't fit the description we'll move on or if we do stop and linger and maybe make first contact. Just my opinion

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That weird moment of first meeting Posted: 8/3/2008 8:24:57 PM
Sue you are so totally right, falling in love means low tech good ol' fashioned face to face time. I've never fallen in luv with a man that can type faster than me or just by look'n at his picture, maybe a little healthy appreciation for the beauty of his eyes or was that the body... language.

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She blows my mind Posted: 8/3/2008 7:57:01 PM
You said it starregazer.

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all i get is guyswho wanna have sex???????? Posted: 8/3/2008 7:52:19 PM
You're not doing anything wrong girl, there are just a lot of horny men looking to hook up. Hit delete and move on.

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Requesting a review Posted: 8/3/2008 7:22:32 PM
Okay, I took your critique under advisement - moved, re-moved and added some. Just had a 2nd e-mail that said something about walks on the beach or walking in rain, that I'm not showing who I really am, blah, blah, blah.

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