Help with my profile chat & forums.

Posted In Forum:

Home

MyForums

Show ALL Forums

Author

Thread: Help with my profile

traumanurse50

Joined: 12/19/2007

Msg: 4 (view)

Help with my profile Posted: 5/30/2008 8:08:52 PM
Thank you guys so much for the great feedback. I think you both hit the nail on the head as far as not giving enough information and maybe even being contradictory. I truly appreciate the honesty. I am going to work on writing a new one and hopefully you would not mind reviewing prior to posting?? thanks again.

traumanurse50

Joined: 12/19/2007

Msg: 1 (view)

Help with my profile Posted: 5/30/2008 7:16:52 PM
Hi Everyone I have been on POF for about 8 months. So far, the bites have been very minimal, usually married men wanting sex, or single men wanting an FWB. I just wanted to ask if there is something in my profile that would turn a man off to even contacting me? Is it the photo? I would appreciate any help/advice to try to understand what the men are looking for when they view a profile. Thanks in advance for your help.

traumanurse50

Joined: 12/19/2007

Msg: 42 (view)

Need some insight to this situation. Posted: 1/15/2008 10:39:17 AM
Hey Whodatguy. Why didnt you post this under the name you have contacted me by? I dont play games. As I said in my original post, I didnt realize my phone was dead when I sent the number. I have also admitted I shouldnt have given the number so freely and I learned a lesson from that. I was just taken aback by the desperation in your emails and phone messages for us to go to dinner right away and for you to get my picture. I am a very honest and decent person. I wouldnt call myself attractive by any means but am very happy with the person I am. At least I havent lied about my age or sent you a picture of a much younger woman (as some often do). In any case isnt it dishonest to respond to this post under a name other than the one you normally use? I mean it would have to be the same guy in order to know exactly how it all came down.

traumanurse50

Joined: 12/19/2007

Msg: 35 (view)

where have the old fashioned values gone Posted: 1/11/2008 11:46:18 AM
Wow, what a post thats hits me right at home. I have been asking this same question about when did sex become a recreational sport? I dont know if its societies lack of morals or maybe I just attract the wrong guys. I know when I tell them how I feel about the sex thing, they usually make fun of me and then dissappear. How many times I have been called "nun" or told that I am too old to be acting that way about sex...or that I am gonna die a lonely old woman because I wont do what they want me too. I am the only one who can take care of ME. If a man cannot respect that, then he wasnt for me anyway.

traumanurse50

Joined: 12/19/2007

Msg: 67 (view)

Please give me your take on this.. Am I wrong for ending it? Posted: 1/10/2008 7:31:15 AM
I agree that he would have been history after he commented on his dissapointment on bday. I would have to ask the question that most have asked though, why keep calling him? When a guy doesnt call or return calls, its because he is done. When we continue to call, begging for them to talk to us, its a show of weakness and desperation...I think he just wasnt that into you.....So sorry for your experience.

traumanurse50

Joined: 12/19/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

Need some insight to this situation. Posted: 1/10/2008 6:17:36 AM
Good question. What I learned is that I shouldnt have responded to his request to meet for dinner. I shouldnt have been so quick to give him my phone number. Most of all I learned that its part of the process of dating and acknowlege that all men do not have the greatest intentions. However, its my job to take care of ME and know when to stop. I was fairly rude to the guy in my last email to him. I am not a rude person by any stretch of the imagination. I am a very upbeat and positive person who lives by the Golden Rule and has a strong faith in God. I allowed myself in a situation where I ended up losing my joy and being rude. I didnt like that.

traumanurse50

Joined: 12/19/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

Need some insight to this situation. Posted: 1/10/2008 6:11:13 AM
Whoa, calm down!! I never said I was RIGHT in the situation. I am not all that experienced in the online dating arena. If you look at my original post, I was asking if this was a normal representation or was I being too cautious? I dont think I would expect 50 emails (love your sarcasm ). However, I would think that a guy would at least want to know something about me, like my name, etc. I understand that pics are a necessary part of the process. That is why my profile says I have a pic and will send it upon request. I have very personal reasons for not posting my pic, not ashamed of it or anything, just wont post it. I realize that opens the door for some scrutiny, but I have legitimate reasons for that decision. It wasnt that he wanted a pic that bothered me, it was the 3 emails demanding the pic., his tone that came across on the voicemails. Yes, I was wrong and acted like a moron. Thanks for that inisght...

traumanurse50

Joined: 12/19/2007

Msg: 10 (view)

Need some insight to this situation. Posted: 1/10/2008 5:51:29 AM
You are exactly right. I was kicking myself for giving him my number and for sending the pic...I hold myself responsible for the entire thing because I initiated the contact and kept it going even after I felt uncomfortable. He sent one last email telling me I was rude and an A**hole, I suppose he blocked me, but it didnt matter, I blocked him also. Just goes to show you how desperate and dishonest some people can be. I learned a valuable lesson!!

traumanurse50

Joined: 12/19/2007

Msg: 1 (view)

Need some insight to this situation. Posted: 1/10/2008 5:32:21 AM
I have a question and would like some opinions as to how you would have perceived this situation. I was browsing through the profiles here at POF. I came across a local guy, read his profile. I wasnt really interested in dating him, but there was something on his profile that peaked my curiosity so I emailed him a question about it. In less than 10 minutes, he emailed me back with an invitation to meet him for dinner (right then) and gave his phone number. I emailed him back, declined the invitation but gave my number if would like to talk. ( I didnt realize my cell phone battery was dead). In the meantime, I get like 3 or 4 emails, not requesting, but demanding a pic. It was a bit annoying to me, the tone of his email. But, I sent the pic. He didnt immediately write back. A few hours later, after my phone was charged, I saw he had called 3 times and left 3 voicemails and each one voicing his unhappiness that I wasnt answering, actually sounding annoyed and somewhat angry. He wrote me back later telling me he was really not looking for anyone but if he were , it would be someone younger than me. I wrote back telling him I had not been interested in dating him, reminded him of my original email intent and found him to be very dishonest in his approach. I fully understand that I am not what every guy is looking for, dont have a problem with that because they are all certainly not what I am looking for. But dont lie to me, act desperate and then make up lies when you see my pic. In any case, is it normal for guys to be that fast and demanding about meeting etc? His pushiness kind of reminded me a of a perv and made me uncomfortable. Just wanting to know if this is normal for internet dating or was it just me being too cautious?

Show ALL Forums