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leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Things I have experienced that are unpleasant when meeting someone... Posted: 7/23/2009 11:47:28 AM
one fellow was seated at a table and talking on the phone when i arrived. as soon as i sat down, he got up to walk away and continue his conversation privately. there i sat, wondering how long it might be before i turned into a pumpkin....and just how many minutes i should wait, for the sake of not being impatient. he returned to the table, smiling, and announced We need to make a rule to turn off the phones when we're together.....is yours off? mine was already off. we were not together again

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Is this girl messing with my head?? Posted: 7/21/2009 5:48:39 AM
Yeah she message me back with the usual "I don't see you more then just friends" hon, that isn't messing with your head. she was quite honest with you and it's as clear as a bell. best wishes, leslie

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Unique Dating Misunderstandings Posted: 7/17/2009 5:54:38 AM
idoc steve, maybe my original post isn't as clear as it seems to me. jack is a local and we maintained a friendship following our dating. he's ok now, but he struggled with recovery from his injuries (including a broken neck) for quite some time. he drove me to view the site of the wreck.... had to purchase a replacement vehicle....and we discussed the progress of his rehab. a wreck like that is big news in a rural area and i heard of it when it happened, i just didn't know who was involved. if missing a date because of a coma is the oldest line in the book, i'm way behind because it was a first for me. your disbelief is exactly why i started this thread - sometimes excuses are actually significant reasons and there's no need to be hasty about not believing a friend. yet another misunderstanding huh

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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I think I have the friends thing figured out. Posted: 7/16/2009 11:01:00 AM
I want full, head-on, chemistry from the word go. Then I want to develop a friendship within that relationship. well now. wasn't that easy? and brilliant!

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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What do men vs women consider to be RED FLAGS?. Posted: 7/16/2009 10:30:18 AM
why thank you gradivus. wanna date????

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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What do men vs women consider to be RED FLAGS?. Posted: 7/16/2009 10:27:33 AM
agreeing with #127 - typos and misspells can be pretty dern funny as well! bad manners are so much worse than bad grammar

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Unique Dating Misunderstandings Posted: 7/16/2009 8:50:28 AM
there has to be more!

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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What do men vs women consider to be RED FLAGS?. Posted: 7/16/2009 7:50:57 AM
once upon a time i put a list of deal breakers on my profile - at the time, it was somewhat in jest. i had a friend on the phone helping me and we thought we were soooo funny that were cracking ourselves up! i've ended up leaving the list because it's a great conversation starter, plus it's just plain fun to see how threatened some feel by it. actually my little list only amounts to a regular, non-bitter, fairly un-creepy man - but i've noticed that some fellows find it to be unsettling. i find i enjoy talking to the ones who aren't threatened by the list after reading all this i think i'll add some more! best wishes and happy fishing! leslie

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Please Help Me FIgure It Out Posted: 6/8/2009 8:46:37 AM
This exactly how he acted all the time. Moody and mean and then loving and kind 5 hours to 24 later.Biarre to say the least. His grief I think triggered it. moody and mean all the time??? sheesh, who CARES what triggered it!!! you seem like a sweet lady....would you really want to date someone like him? and what if you married him? imagine how sad and stressful your life would become. it's so much nicer to be with good people who don't have Moody and Mean lurking around in their closet. your own sweet disposition would never rub off and sweetie him up. best wishes, leslie

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Be more open? Posted: 6/6/2009 6:57:17 PM
why guess? next time she mentions it, just ask her

leslie321

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Why do I attract Older women only? Posted: 6/4/2009 7:28:17 AM
i'm with the poster who said she was surprised your profile would attract anyone. too many You Must Enjoy's and You Need To Be's really limit your responses. see below some of the lines that may greatly limit your email replies, no matter the age of the woman.... I would hope that you have a child less than 16 You need to be good with the windows down and the wind in your hair You would have to enjoy the toys more than the House If you are Sedentary, Overweight, or a Bon Bon Queen you may be a great person, but our lifestyles will not click. you may be a very nice man, but parts of your profile sound almost demanding and obnoxious. all the talk of children, especially the children of a potential date, is downright creepy. ditch all the current photos and get fresh new ones of you alone. update your hair-do first. be sure the new pics show your face and make you appear to be happy and fun. omit the pics with friends, especially if they're blowing their noses. don't keep the glum close-up of you, or the photo of you doing the fake nose pick. you aren't going to like this one (heck, you may not like any of it) but i suggest you completely skip photos of you in your motorcycle outfit. we commonly see those outfits on much younger men and it sorta stands out when the older guy wears wears them. it just isn't quite the same. if you only want to meet younger women, it's easy to outline that in your profile. you may miss out on a wonderful 42 year old, but if age is one of your first concerns that may not matter to you. best wishes to you! leslie

leslie321

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Seriously... i mean really...for there upbringing Posted: 6/3/2009 7:59:23 AM
there ya go, brown eyed woman put it in a nutshell!

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Seriously... i mean really...for there upbringing Posted: 6/3/2009 7:00:22 AM
undesiredheart....i completely agree that it isn't always in the woman's best interest to announce she needs a meal ticket. that has got to limit the potential suitors that might be attracted to her. it would halt my attraction immediately if i saw that on a profile. there ARE men out there who desire a full leadership role, including financial matters. they may not want the woman to be outside of the home and in the work place. a dating site can be a good avenue for that sort of man to get together with a woman who fits his needs. it takes all kinds, and it seems that you and i wouldn't be a good fit with the meal ticket needers. with that being the case, it's fine with me if they put that need on their profile. good to know!

leslie321

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Tattoo - Ladies, your opinion please Posted: 6/3/2009 6:37:20 AM
i'm older than you, and one really really reallyyyyyy needs to consider if permanent choices made at age 23 are going to be as pleasing at age 30, 40, 50. hard to see that at 23 huh? now, since you asked....i work in the art field and i can't think of any art that i would want to gaze upon daily. even my favorites. to me, the human body is so beautiful that tats are a distraction. tats don't upset me, but i find plain ol skin to be much more attractive. of course some would like it, but some will certainly be disgusted and will consider you to be a rather limited dorkmeister just for mentioning it to them.

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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What is the number one thing you would recommend to someone when first contacting you? Posted: 6/3/2009 6:07:08 AM
message 5 gives good, clear instructions. after the initial contact, i can add that nothing will turn me off quicker than, frantic emails saying Where are youuuuuu, How come you don't talk to meeeeeee, I guess you're ignoring meeeeeee, I miss youuuuuuuuu attention is always nice, but a needy whine gets old in about 5 seconds - not that i'm suggesting you would EVER whine, no no no - but this has happened to me more than once - and with people i was enjoying talking to until the whining started!

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Seriously... i mean really...for there upbringing Posted: 6/3/2009 5:55:16 AM
i take pride in supporting myself so that will never appear on MY profile. on the other hand, isn't honesty ideal? there sure are a lot of threads complaining about lack of honesty. if someone has a special need and it's their main focus, i applaud them for their honesty. it doesn't have to mean they're a rotten person. i've noticed a few male profiles that announce a woman should have a good job, and i've also noticed my own conversations REALLY picking up if they figure out i have a pretty decent job. sometimes they move right on to trying to quiz me about what my retirement will be like financially, when is it going to happen and will i be putting a kid through college? we middle-agers are often interested in such things as retirement and financial future and it may be that they're just making conversation and they're grateful to have landed on a topic we have in common it's just a choice....move on if you don't like what you see or hear

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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What are your pet peeves...... Posted: 6/3/2009 5:25:50 AM
wind chimes! just can't stand the constant tinkle tinkle or bong kabong kerklunk. the sound of nature is so much prettier!

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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4 real, what do girls look 4 in a guy? Posted: 6/2/2009 12:53:53 PM
i agree with most of message #3, and enjoy good judgment and someone who's easy to be with

leslie321

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she just wants friends?? Posted: 6/2/2009 12:06:20 PM
simply recognize your zone for what it is. no matter what happened in the past, or what was said back then, she gave you her decision honestly and you're in the friend zone now. sounds like you may be a lucky one - so many yearn for answers and closure that they never receive. some will convince themselves that they're fine with being in the friend zone just to be near the one they wish for, and hoping like crazy that it'll magically change to a romance. you got your closure, and hopefully you will move on rather than dwelling in the friend zone, wishing for more. my very best wishes to you, leslie

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Quick question Posted: 6/2/2009 11:06:23 AM
i'm not a fan of a sneeze bar but my parents do LOVE a buffet, including the siz and golden corral. they'll go!

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Debating with my son... Posted: 6/2/2009 11:02:06 AM
ohhh mr coffeenut, you seem like a well meaning fellow - but i can't imagine a random date actually using the thing. the mental pic of the look on the date's face when you handed it to her is cracking me up! really....we pretty much handle our own stuff. often privately. your heart is in the right place tho. best wishes! leslie

leslie321

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What is the difference between Courting and Dating? Posted: 5/31/2009 12:09:38 PM
courting sounds pretty

leslie321

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Bath Body Works, Blue Mercury, Sephora, Yankee Candle, Body Shop, Victoria's Secret fragrance. Posted: 5/31/2009 12:07:35 PM
very thoughtful, i would love it. course, i get all excited if someone buys me a cherry limeade

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Should I disclose pending divorce? Posted: 5/28/2009 7:36:45 AM
oopsie. i thought it was ask a girl. excuse me lol

leslie321

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Name the first thing that comes to mind! Posted: 5/28/2009 4:39:33 AM
cue -~~~~~~~~sing

leslie321

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responding to kids Posted: 5/28/2009 4:37:45 AM
not everyone is being creepy - there are some that just don't know better and they're trying to make conversation with that said....it's a turn off for me. either they don't know better, or they're being creepy. either way, it isn't something i'd enjoy

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Should I disclose pending divorce? Posted: 5/28/2009 3:50:34 AM
i know you're feeling like a single right now, but i would change the marital status to separated.

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Do women actually listen to the music that gets posted on profiles? Posted: 5/28/2009 3:24:05 AM
no i don't listen

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Any of you girls had this happen back in midde/high school? Posted: 5/27/2009 6:48:47 PM
i remember the high school boys as being sweet, silly, and pesky creatures. they did anything they could to entertain themselves, including uninvited braiding of my hair, the writing of unusual poetry, and certainly getting in my space never bothered me a bit to say Hey, wouldja move your big fat knee??? or to move said knee myself if he didn't feel motivated to retreat i doubt your space invading was much of a coincidence.....it seems that space invading is the nature of the teen male beast!

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Why would a woman.... Posted: 5/27/2009 6:39:25 PM
often a phone number has a short lived expiration date. she said to call any time, but there's always the chance she wanted you to call her immediately and lost interest when it didn't happen quickly or she may have been busy during the following days, or she may have lost her phone and doesn't check email regularly, or she could have had a wreck, or be tending to the sick, or she may have slipped into a coma, there are 1.5 million reasons why she isn't returning calls or emails and many are innocent or beyond her control. the same 1.5 reasons mean you might as well enjoy fishing in the mean time best wishes, leslie

leslie321

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Name the first thing that comes to mind! Posted: 5/17/2009 10:19:02 AM
donuts ~~~~ sweet

leslie321

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This will be a fun one, ladies only please. Posted: 5/16/2009 6:11:26 AM
being highly educated, i watch my mood ring

leslie321

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Name the first thing that comes to mind! Posted: 5/2/2009 9:27:07 PM
pockets ~~~~ keys

leslie321

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What do woman respond to when chatting up? Posted: 5/2/2009 6:20:35 PM
ditto internetrfunny, a good attitude is so refreshing. if it's in person, eye contact and a genuine smile are appealing as well. pay attention to and remember her interests, and share your interests with her. if there's an opportunity to throw in something funny, throw it! and just from my point of view here are some things to avoid....questions about her x, especially if he's been her x for a long time (it may be old news for her), details of financial problems, anything else that's a downer topic. again, MY point of view, which may not be everyone's taste....avoid too many one liner Have a Nice Day, Have a Nice Evening, Have a Nice Weekend, You're So Beautiful emails. not that you would send those, no no no, but she may be getting several of those daily and you certainly don't want to blend with everyone else - you want to be the guy who has something to SAY best wishes! leslie

leslie321

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Name the first thing that comes to mind! Posted: 4/28/2009 8:12:23 PM
surf fishing? ~~~~~ unknown

leslie321

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Name the first thing that comes to mind! Posted: 4/25/2009 1:59:11 PM
mud ~~~~~ 4-wheeler

leslie321

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Name the first thing that comes to mind! Posted: 4/24/2009 3:24:56 AM
worms ~~~~ dirt

leslie321

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Why do women leave labels on shoes Posted: 4/21/2009 2:05:54 PM
they're so anxious to wear them that they forget to remove

leslie321

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Name the first thing that comes to mind! Posted: 4/21/2009 2:03:56 PM
camping ~~~~~ bugs

leslie321

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Can you date someone who your not attracted to; but they treat you very well Posted: 4/20/2009 4:10:29 AM
it sounds like you have an appreciation for his many good qualities and you've tried to like him more, yet you just can't make yourself feel what isn't there.....good ol basic chemistry i couldn't do it at all and if i wasn't attracted to him, i would have stopped long before now. i find myself unable to date someone i'm not attracted to on the other hand - personality and good treatment are a big percentage of the attraction for me - just not 100%

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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The ^ Game Posted: 4/19/2009 8:29:16 PM
^ had a VERY interesting breakfast! < took a long nap to enjoy the clean, crisp sheets she missed out on last night < has actually been putting thought into the name of an 8th day and is completely blank (as usual) v is good at dreaming up day names

leslie321

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Would you introduce your companion to your single friends Posted: 4/19/2009 9:34:19 AM
op, i do understand your concern. it's not like it has never happened huh! my own friends are very attractive and successful...yet loyal and protective to a fault. the first thing we do is introduce new friends to each other. they would warmly embrace my companion even if they didn't especially find the companion to be their cup of tea. my friends would never utter a negative word about the companion, ever ever ever, unless said companion did something shady, underhanded, or completely inappropriate. at that point, the companion would be quickly and quietly eliminated from the circle. if that didn't happen, the friends would grow to appreciate said companion out of respect for our friendship. if a beau becomes an x beau for one, he's an x beau for all of us. that's just the way we are I trust my single friends with my life. I trust them with my property and vehicle when I go to the third world or away on business. Trusting them with my companion would be no issue i'm fortunate to enjoy this same situation. i'm an only child, so one of my single friends is the administrator of my will. that means i'm trusting her with my child's future. sure, i'd trust her with a companion

leslie321

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The ^ Game Posted: 4/19/2009 8:54:52 AM
^ helps rebel with his lady dinner invites < slept on the couch because she was too sleepy to make it to the bed v enjoys fresh sheets

leslie321

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Name the first thing that comes to mind! Posted: 4/19/2009 8:52:11 AM
refreshing ~~~ breeze

leslie321

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Is it a compliment to be contacted by a younger man? Posted: 4/18/2009 10:28:58 AM
now that i think of it, the very first man i dated after divorcing was 12 years younger. i wasn't exactly in long term mode and he had been single much longer than i. he was a great match for me - a tall, handsome military man, responsible and mature yet cheerful and tons of fun. unfortunately the timing wasn't right. that was several years ago and if one like that came along today i'd snap him up - and not because he was younger!

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Beauty over 45 - Susan Boyle Posted: 4/18/2009 10:07:45 AM
op, thanks for sharing this. ms. boyle's performance made me want to stand from my chair and join the ovation!

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Are You Just As Foolish As Ever? Posted: 4/18/2009 9:36:37 AM
actually i think i was smarter when i was younger! i was more about #1 and life was easy as pie. now that i'm older and all nurturing and stuff, i must remind myself occasionally to keep #1 in mind i really don't think all men are users, nor do i think all woman are. sooooo many are just waiting on that special chemistry. a dump doesn't always mean player. sometimes it's just the way dating goes - someone loses interest and someone gets dumped even tho they were still interested next time, just keep it casual longer and wait to see how long the perfection lasts. best wishes, leslie

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Suddenly Finding Myself Unattracted To Men My Own Age Posted: 4/18/2009 8:58:15 AM
op, i don't find this odd at all. you're an active person and won't be a good fit with someone who's on the perma-plop plan with the recliner. no matter the age - you'd just enjoy someone with a similar lifestyle i pronounce you normal! best wishes, leslie

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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The ^ Game Posted: 4/18/2009 8:47:13 AM
^ has long hairs < is getting really hungry after reading all this talk of food v volunteers to host lunch and take over the planning

leslie321

Joined: 12/19/2007

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Name the first thing that comes to mind! Posted: 4/18/2009 8:38:57 AM
coffee ~~~>>> sip

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