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Misdeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 65 (view)

The most important virtue over 60...for women and men. Posted: 8/16/2009 8:46:44 PM
Wisdom...to not play games. Treat others as you like to be treated...

Misdeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 127 (view)

Should women write first? Posted: 8/15/2009 7:20:17 AM
It's good in 'theory'.......I always respond to my e-mails, even if it's just to say 'no thank you'.

Misdeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 29 (view)

What do you think about men our age with small kids?? Posted: 8/9/2009 9:19:58 AM
As long as they're a good and involved Dad, it would not matter to me. Blending families is very tough. It takes two very strong, like-minded individuals who agree on 'how to parent'. If you don't have that, it will just pull the man and woman apart.

Misdeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 53 (view)

Putting the Cart before the horse Posted: 8/9/2009 9:10:56 AM
LOL Soldier....good response ;) I appreciate your humor!

Misdeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 52 (view)

Putting the Cart before the horse Posted: 8/9/2009 9:08:09 AM
I beg to differ. I received some great answers to this question. If you don't want to 'play' Don't....but, don't just be a naysayer....lol!

Misdeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 45 (view)

Putting the Cart before the horse Posted: 8/8/2009 5:54:55 PM
You're right about the 'media' it's not ideal. Thanks for your input Cheers to you!

Misdeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 44 (view)

Putting the Cart before the horse Posted: 8/8/2009 5:49:45 PM
Well, that's what I meant...he had low standards and expects any and every women to respond to him. I don't think he understands that his approach will not work with any woman who has a brain. Although my profile doesn't state my standards for contact overtly, I don't see how any person could get the sense that I would be a 'push-over'. Although, I do state that I will respond to all e-mails and, I do....maybe I need to re-think that...thanks :)

Misdeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 43 (view)

Putting the Cart before the horse Posted: 8/8/2009 5:40:12 PM
I agree and maybe somewhat insecure too. I think they're the guys who never got girls when they were younger and, now are trying to make up for lost time! Thank goodness God created the 'block'...lol.

Misdeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 42 (view)

Putting the Cart before the horse Posted: 8/8/2009 5:37:54 PM
I'm not trying to be 'right' I just didn't like his style and, his presumption that I was strange because I didn't take him up on his 'offer'. I think your judgement of me is silly

Misdeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

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Putting the Cart before the horse Posted: 8/7/2009 8:28:30 PM
Thank you everyone for your input. I appreciate it! It does take 'all kinds' and, I'm glad that I'm not alone in following my instincts. Just every once in awhile it's good to 'check in' with others to see what their experiences are like and, to get a 2nd opinon. TGIF and have a great weekend!

Misdeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

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Putting the Cart before the horse Posted: 8/7/2009 7:35:32 PM
I appreciate the insight. It seemed so forward and, I felt his reaction was a pretty immature, just because I didn't want to abide by his directives. I am a bit slow and cautious but, I think in this day 'n age you have to be. Especially with young children at home.

Misdeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

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Putting the Cart before the horse Posted: 8/7/2009 7:24:29 PM
well, that wasn't too helpful and I guess you're right...

Misdeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

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Putting the Cart before the horse Posted: 8/7/2009 6:59:34 PM
A man contacted me requesting to e-mail. He provided his home phone, personal e-mail address etc, on first contact. I told him I preferred to e-mail here before giving out any personal info or talking on the phone. He immediately accused me "and lots of women" on this site as "being strange"....really? Obviously, this guy has 'no clue' about women (at least decent, good and selective women) who aren't willing to give out personal info before getting to know someone better. He also accused me as 'one of those women who never meets any men'...wrong again Einstein!..but so be it. I guess Low Standards = Low Expectations. So, yes I blocked the knukle-head. Why are so many men in their late 40's and 50's so clueless???

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 10 (view)

Do women like single dads? Posted: 7/12/2009 8:17:32 PM
Not having enough time is the fate of the Single Parent! I've dated several single dads. The main issue that has come up, is having different parenting styles. For me, there are very few men who are even 'BabySitter Worthy'....lol! But, in and of itself, I have no issue with dating Single Dads.

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

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Trying.. Posted: 7/12/2009 8:12:52 PM
He's a loser! People reflect their own shortcomings on others....it's called Projection. He'd rather blame HIS inability to 'think outside the box', whatever the hell that means, on the person in front of him, instead of 'The Man in the Mirror'. It's good he left!

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

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Said Hello hun and was accuesed of being forward and blocked ! Posted: 7/12/2009 2:52:35 PM
In this day & age 'Hun' can be seen as a little derogatory. It's a bit too familiar for a first time greeting. Hun is better used with someone you've been seeing for awhile or, someone you're in a relationship with. However, I don't think it's quite worth the Block.

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

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I feel lost... Posted: 7/11/2009 9:09:20 AM
The only thing that's wrong with you is that you still believe in Fairy Tales and, think that relationships can exist on Cloud 9.....Get your head out of the clouds; rub your eyes; clean your glasses (if you wear them...lol) and greet the New Day with a Happy Heart The fact that you want the best for him proves you're capable of REAL Love....Kudos to You!......so yes, protect your heart because it's pure and, it only deserves a pure heart in return......not something easily found these days.

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

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How do you tell someone you love them but want to keep your options open? Posted: 7/11/2009 9:02:34 AM
I don't think he was being cruel but, he certainly wasn't being fully honest. He should have told you he was seeing other people, before you having to find out. Don't let his foibles make you doubt your self-worth!

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

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Just waisted a month persuing someone... Posted: 7/11/2009 8:57:29 AM
You should have realized after the FIRST time she left You for HIM, that she wasn't worth your time! Next time, set your standards higher!

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

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Starting to hate women........ Posted: 7/11/2009 8:54:52 AM
One thing I've realized after many experiences is that everyone (men and women) come with an 'Agenda'. Before getting involved you have to ask yourself what they're looking for with me? Very few people these days have a pure heart, with a pure agenda in place. It's like they're holding a frame and, seeing who will 'fit in' to the picture they have in their mind. They're are honest men and women and vice versa. I think references to the Bible and Greek Mythology aren't your best reference points to use. Women do NOT see themselves as made of Man's rib (this is an old Middle Eastern philosophy) and we ALL know how women are viewed in those countries! Keep your chin up and if you're lucky you'll find one of the few good women left!

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

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Negative Postings Posted: 7/9/2009 8:29:20 PM
Smart women don't like jerks.......

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

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Interracial dating & single parents Posted: 7/5/2009 3:44:27 PM
Race does not matter. What matters or not is if your a good man/person. Children want and need love. Boys crave a father figure in their lives. As long as your kind and good to a child they will respect and love you back.

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

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Broken HEART! Posted: 7/5/2009 3:40:16 PM
Honey, better to leave now than later. Though he may be a good man, he was not ready to start a relationship with you. He was being selfish to get involved when he wasn't over the Mother of his children. It hurts and it sucks but, time will heal and, some day you'll be ready to say 'Next!'

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

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A dating site devoted to not hooking up Posted: 7/5/2009 10:59:30 AM
With ALL it's advantages, people have allowed the internet to corrode what makes people truly human and valuable; their sincerity, honesty, integrity, loyalty etc..... Too many choices these days. Men who already have a problem with committment, find themselves like a 'Kid in a Candy Store' always wanting to try out the next flavor. You are doing the right thing in being cautious and for that I applaude you!

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 34 (view)

Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar? Posted: 7/5/2009 10:54:06 AM
My last husband was/is Bi-polar, so I can only speak of my experience with him. He demonstrated the following characteristics: Delusions of Grandeur (thought he was the smartest, best, etc) even though he was simulaneously very insecure. Control freak! He could not stand anyone not agreeing with his point of view. Clean freak. General nervousness. Overbearing Without their meds, people with bi-polar can get delusional/schizophrenic.

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

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Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women. Posted: 7/5/2009 10:48:53 AM
That's easy for you to say, since you're not woman. Women have to worry about the predators. Those men (and there are many) who present themselves in one way, such as 'Seeking Longterm', when what they're really seeking is the shortest route to getting into your pants, then moving on to their next 'internet dating experience'.

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 39 (view)

I think I have the friends thing figured out. Posted: 7/5/2009 10:41:11 AM
Why is it that the 'bad' have to ruin it for those with 'good' intentions? I have 'friend 'posted on my profile because any solid relationship is built on friendship, whether it stays as a friendship or, grows from there. I also have friend posted because I have a son and I don't want to rush into the wrong type of relationship with the wrong man (again).....self-preservation I suppose. I guess it's the equivalent of men posting 'Long Term' because they know that is what most women want to hear, when all they really want is to get you into bed, then move on to their next victim. We live in a age of players, scammers and users.....people inhabiting bodies without souls. For you to use the term 'hotties' is part of the problem. If you're going to be attracted to the package, without taking the time to find out if what's inside is truly valuable, then you will continue to only find superficial, gold-digging and manipulative women.

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 63 (view)

What do you think about this... Posted: 7/5/2009 10:29:42 AM
She's trouble. Cute and running in a pack?....not a good combo. Go for it if you can't help yourself but, just know that you're the one who's going to have your feelings hurt in the end, not her! She's one of those types who thrives off the adulation of other men. She doesn't really care about you, she just likes the attention.

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 27 (view)

“NEXT!” (or words to that effect) Posted: 7/5/2009 10:24:09 AM
Just let them know you don't feel your compatible for the type of relationship you're looking for. They should not have a problem with this, since it's an honest response on your part and, honesty IS the best policy. As long as you can accept honesty in return...

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 181 (view)

Does it matter how you pay for a date? Posted: 7/5/2009 10:21:09 AM
P.S. Coupons are cheesy! Especially on a first date....but still, ALWAYS cheesy!

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 180 (view)

Does it matter how you pay for a date? Posted: 7/5/2009 10:19:58 AM
It does not matter HOW you pay and your correct, it's NONE of their business! Women who ask this question are looking for a Sugar Daddy....Run!

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 60 (view)

Guys Who Post Long Term and Don't Mean It?????? Posted: 7/5/2009 10:18:07 AM
Good for you for dating others! I would drop this guy altogether, since he lied to you and is undermining YOUR goals for a relationship. Tell him either platonic friends or exclusive relationship, then see how long he sticks around!

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

Do you think I'm being dishonest? Posted: 7/2/2009 7:27:16 PM
Keep the old one up! If you do find someone genuine then you can send them the new one!

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 224 (view)

Why do men find it so difficult to date single mothers? Posted: 7/2/2009 7:22:22 PM
It has not been difficult at all for me but, remember it's not a 'numbers' game. Children deserve quality and, it's quality that's not easy to find these days....VERY few Chivalrous Men left in the world! If they don't want to date you because you have children, then that has made your 'job' of finding someone that much easier....a natural processs of elimination. Good Luck!

MisDeed

Joined: 12/22/2007

Msg: 93 (view)

My future stopped overnight! Posted: 6/29/2009 6:58:33 PM
It's sad that you're hurting. Obviously he was not ready for a committment and was looking for the first excuse. to bail. Maybe he found someone else....it's an Internet Illness. Beware of the men who will tell you EVERYTHING you want to hear, only to get what they want. They are the worst of Predators because they don't care if they break your heart. Wipe your tears and MOVE ON! He isn't worth it! You will love again and someone will love you back !

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