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Thanks to Klein....mom....when I get my $400.....I wanna... Posted: 9/28/2005 2:14:34 PM
Nevermind that! My ex is looking for some!!!!! I have both of our kids living with me, I pay the bills, I buy their groceries, he doesnt' pay support...and he's pissed that 'I'm' getting $1200 when he's only getting $400. What a joke! My kids don't know about it...lol but they are only almost 9 and 4...so they will love the new clothes they get, the food in their bellies and the heat coming out of the registers when it's -15 at night!

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Child support questions... Posted: 8/31/2005 2:26:54 PM
yeah, that's the hard part, that it's for the kids, how can I turn it down? I never thought of post secondary!

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Child support questions... Posted: 8/31/2005 12:52:31 PM
Hi there everyone, I was married for 10 yrs, and have 2 beautiful children. We've been seperated for a year now, and he still does not pay support. Granted, I know his financial situation, and it hasn't been great over this year. I'm in Alberta, Canada...according the an article in the paper, for his income, he should be paying me $826 per MONTH! That just blows me away! Now I'm not saying getting that money wouldn't be nice...but I sure don't need that much! I can't imagine looking him in the face and telling him he HAS to pay me that. We are just now sorting out selling the house and getting our joint bills in order. I went to legal aide today, and she suggested going for custody, access and maintenance orders. But I don't know if I can request a certain amount that I feel would be more suitable for everyone, or he HAS to pay the guideline amount....does anyone know????

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I want to hug the whole sky. My daughter is there now. Posted: 8/2/2005 11:32:32 AM
I'm so glad that your time is going quickly for you! :) She will be home in no time! I can't believe summer is half over! Just imagine her face as she gets off that plane and proudly hands you your suprise gift! Awwww! It will be priceless!

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Which Strip Club Is The Best In Alberta? Posted: 8/1/2005 3:48:05 PM
Where is Showgirls?

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Not sure what to think? Posted: 7/31/2005 9:28:33 AM
I agree that he should NOT be sleeping on the floor in a house where there is cats! My daughter has asthma and is allergic to pets... On a side note...my daughter was 6 months old when she was diagnosed...she is now 8 1/2. As soon as my parents found out she was asthmatic, they STOPPED smoking in their house! And we only get there once or twice a month!!!! I don't think it's unreasonable to ask him to consider smoking outside of his house if he'd like to continue night time visits...especially since your son ended up in the hospital! He needs to take his son's asthma seriously! And, if he's taking his son for overnight visits, he needs to be able to provide a bed for him to sleep in.

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I seriously need some advice to help my 7 year old little girl Posted: 7/27/2005 11:13:29 AM
Harmony, yes my children both have a good relationship with their father. Although, I can't figure out why! :) It's just young, unconditional love. She's starting to not want to go there, because he just sits on the computer all the time and she's bored. My son still thinks his father is the best. I don't taint their feelings for their dad at all.

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I seriously need some advice to help my 7 year old little girl Posted: 7/25/2005 10:50:17 AM
My daughter is 8 yrs old, and I've been seperated for almost one year now. I also have a 4 yr old boy. I can't imagine having to deal with those kinds of things from my daughter! I'd be at a loss for sure! I'm wondering, would your ex even consider taking her for a few days? Maybe he would say no??? That would sure change her Prince Charming image of her dad...

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how would delt with this!! Posted: 7/25/2005 10:18:37 AM
that's happened to me too! My son is 4, he says look how big my winky is! He's not circ'd but he noticed one day that there was an opening...he was mortified! He thought it was broken and cried his dear eyes out!

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Single moms... Posted: 7/20/2005 11:44:11 AM
That's sooooooo sweet! I don't know how I do it sometimes either, myself. I have 2 jobs and 2 kids and I'm a single mom. My ex takes them once in a while for a few hours on weeknights and then most Saturday nights. However, he seems to be doing that less and less. :(

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Meeting your son on second date....two guys...have... Posted: 7/20/2005 11:25:15 AM
My ex and I have different thoughts on this subject. For me, I waited about 2 months into my current relationship to introduce my kids to him. For all the reasons Cdn Hottie was mentioning. My ex on the other hand, introduced my kids to a girl his second time seeing her. I don't agree with that at all. Life is hard enough trying to figure out when your parents are seperated, let alone wondering who this new man/woman is that's hanging around. Plus, why let them get attached if they aren't going to be around long? You never know that in the beginning...right?

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ADHD children anyone? Posted: 7/18/2005 11:41:51 AM
My 8 1/2 yr old daughter has ADHD as well as anxiety/control issues. My 4 yr old son seems to have been spared though. I monitor her diet very closely...which is hard because nobody else seems to see the importance of it or the results of giving my kid an ice cream cone or a freeze, she gets all sugar free products and has a low carb diet as well for the most part, because I follow low carb. I have sugar free cookies, ice cream, chocolate, freezies and now they even have sugar free slurpee's at 7-11! :) It's very easy to live a sugar free lifestyle these days. She is also on medication and has been since halfway through kindergarten... Her father has ADD as well.

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Should a single parent date someone without kids? Posted: 7/15/2005 9:31:13 PM
I have 2 kids, 4 and 8. I have been seeing the same guy for almost a year now. He's the only one I have dated since my seperation. In his opinion, he was 30 yrs old, what are the chances of finding someone his age that was still single and without kids? So for the first 2 months or so of our dating, he didn't meet my kids. (Well, he met my daughter before, but about 4 yrs prior.) So by that time, we had time to get to know each other without the kids worrying about Mommy being with someone other than Daddy. I can't imagine him having kids too. Like someone said before me. I can't imagine having to bring new kids into it and get to know them as well as fall in love with him...kwim??

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What's in a (last) name? Posted: 7/14/2005 10:50:45 PM
I was with my ex for 13 yrs, so both my kids has his last name. Now my dilemma is when I get a divorce, do I change back to my maiden name? I'm also in Alberta, and all I would have to do was show my birth certificate at registries to get a license in that last name. But I'm not sure I want to have a different last name than my kids. But on the other hand, it would be a final sign of freedom to not be tied to him by a name...kwim??

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CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN! Posted: 7/14/2005 1:26:02 PM
I am raising my 4 yr old son as well as my 8 1/2 yr old daughter by myself now. I have been seperated since Aug. Even when we lived with my ex, he rarely did anything with them and I was still basically a single parent. So if having him as a father teaches him to be like HIM...well then I'm glad I'm the one who's his role model! :)

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If this isn't just a bunch of fricken BULLSH*T.... Posted: 7/13/2005 6:20:16 PM
k, good! lol I have a bad habit of doing that!

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If this isn't just a bunch of fricken BULLSH*T.... Posted: 7/13/2005 1:13:36 PM
I think I'm in a similar situation, only my kids are younger, 8 and 4. I don't take support payments from my ex, although everyone around me screams about it! He does make more than me...but I still have access to the joint account, I can still buy things from there if I need to. I have more than enough, he is doing ok, so I don't see how forcing him to pay me like $500 per month is going to help anything. In fact, when I filed seperated on my 2004 income taxes, my child tax benefits per month went from $96 to $424 and I started getting GST payments 173 every 4 months, PLUS, I get a payment twice a year for 560 from the government...plus I got a whopping $3300 tax rebate. So the way I see it, it was Me that benefitted from the seperation way more than him..... Sorry to hijack your post! :(

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When your child doesn't want to visit the other parent Posted: 7/13/2005 12:55:50 PM
I agree that you should just tell your son's Father the circumstances. You shouldn't have to try to make excuses why your son doesn't feel comfortable there for long periods of time. I've been at this single parenting for almost a year 'officially' but really, I've been a single Mom the whole time. My daughter who is 8 1/2 yrs old, tells me that she would rather stay at my house than go to her Dad's. He sits on the computer and ignores them....oh...well do I look surprised???? Nope, he did that when we lived there too. So I asked her if she told her Dad that...she said yes. Well, so I told him, she doesn't want to go there because she's bored and says that you always sit on the computer. He says no he doesn't...so it's the same arguement we've had for 13 yrs. Bottom line, if she doesn't want to go sit there and be bored, then I don't force her to. If she wants to see her Dad, by all means, she can. I take my cues from her, and I think you are doing the same thing. :)

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RE: get over it!!!!!!!!!!! Posted: 7/13/2005 12:41:57 PM
Hi there, I just read this whole post, with tears in my eyes even! I live not too far from you, in Brooks. Your post had me in tears! I just had my daughter at my parents in Calgary for only one WEEK! I still had my son with me, but she went, and she's 8 1/2 yrs old. It's sure not an easy thing to do, and while I can't imagine her being gone for a whole summer, I can feel a tiny bit of your pain and loneliness. My poor son was lost without her! Hopefully the pics of your Mom looking so thrilled to have her there will keep you warm at night sweetie! Keep your chin up! Find a good book, or better yet, go sit in Chapters for an hour or two drinking sinfully delicious coffees while you read a great book. Go to Banff for a day and spend some time hiking or even just shopping! Take some 'you' time and for once, don't feel guilty about taking it! If you're anything like me, it's hard to take some time for yourself without feeling like you are taking it AWAY from your kids!

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