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AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

I'm SO PRETTY! Posted: 4/25/2009 10:34:04 PM
Oh wise one, you have taught me good spelling (I transposed two letters) and life lessons here (I wonder why they even have a spot for words and that photo upload thingy if we shouldn't judge who we may or may not want to meet). I thank you. Thank you for letting me know that you do not agree with how I choose to date online. Thank you for letting me know that you pay very close attention to the post's I make, and how what I really meant when I wrote them. Oh, and thank you for trying to pass it off like I bashed you and you're just defending yourself by bashing me. Time and time again Is this going to be an on going thing with you? Oh, and I'm sorry if I over stepped by bounds here-I didn't know that I should clear my posts with the Forums Queen.

AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

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I'm SO PRETTY! Posted: 4/25/2009 10:08:57 PM
WOW Sassy, you completely missed the point of that other thread about my age. I was telling the OP that I understood what she means and I don't post that in my profile. I hope that clears it up for you. And yes, women in bikini's talking about how cute they are is just as nauseating. But I didn't go on "Ask A Girl" and ask them why they do it beacuse I could care less. I came here and asked the guys why they do it because it baffles me. I am not amused by it, but if you are-great. There's plenty shirtless men out there who talk about how handsome they are. GO FOR IT!

AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

Says he loves but has an active pof account Posted: 4/25/2009 9:48:14 PM
If he was really serious about you he would have deleted it and it would have been a non issue. Now, there's no relationship because of it.

AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

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Says he loves but has an active pof account Posted: 4/25/2009 9:45:55 PM
You said it yourself, he hid it-but why didn't he just delete it?

AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

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I'm SO PRETTY! Posted: 4/25/2009 9:41:49 PM
Huh huh...That's exactly what we do. But really...I wanna know. Why do guys do that? And if it's because they don't have more interesting things to say or show on their profiles---then my system is working fantasticly.

AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

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Says he loves but has an active pof account Posted: 4/25/2009 9:35:22 PM
You should read the thread I posted the other day: Internet Dating-A Lifestyle Choice? I think you'll find some good info. And my opinion? He's addicted. Sick mother...Oh please! What does THAT have to do with a POF account. I'm sorry girl...

AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

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I'm SO PRETTY! Posted: 4/25/2009 9:32:03 PM
So, I'm home on a Saturday night because I'm too ill to be at one of my best friend's birthday party's and that really sucks...So, what am I doing? Checking out profiles on POF. I click on one of the thumbnails and the profile pops up and there's the picture. "Oh, he's a very good looking guy." I think to myself. Then I start to scroll down. (Right? This is what we do.) The profile reads: "I'm a funny, intelligent, handsome..........................................................." Oh no. He didn't. I read it again. Yep, he did. Not only did he just tell me that he's funny AND SMART but he just told me that he's handsome. Damn it! I hate, hate, hate it when guys do that. I almost hate it as much as the shirtless muscel poses that are like an epidemic. Guys! Why oh why do you tell me that you're good looking? Shouldn't I be the judge of that? Shouldn't I do what I do and think it to myself and wonder if you are aware of how cute you are while I scroll up and down and compose an email to you? Yes, I should and I would but you and to go and tell me how pretty you are. Ewwww. That is not manly. Not even a little. Would Superman ever do that? Oh, I don't think so. Will I ever want to meet a man who tells me he's handsome in a profile (or email)? NO. Will I ever want to meet a guy who has his shirt off in a picture on his profile? NO! Unless it's some candid beach shot and you aren't actively flexing and posing for the camera like you set up on your dresser. And TRUST ME, I am not alone in this. We think one word, "CHEESY"! WE can wait to see you without your shirt off. WE like a little mystery TOO. WE don't care for men who are conceited or vain any more than you like women who are!

AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

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Did I owe him more than what I did? Posted: 4/25/2009 9:13:31 PM
No, you're not. He's probably used to more attention or something and you rocked his world. Good for you!

AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

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Age! Truth is Good but is it Smart? Posted: 4/25/2009 8:03:16 PM
I've wondered about this one a bit...When people meet me in person they always think that I'm between 23-27 and I turned 36 in December...It's always been this way. I have great genes I guess and look much younger than I am. Even when I'm out and about with my 13 year-old son people think I'm his sister. We get a kick out of it. Also, I don't think I exactly act like someone 4 years away from 40. But who know's! I am not really into dating guys that are in their 20's, I'm into meeting someone my own age or a BIT older. It's hard to tell exactly how people look in real life by pictures on a profile and I know that people search by age and now that I'm past that 35 mark I wonder if I even register on some guy's radars. Aside from that I would love to say in my profile that although I'm 36 people always think I'm about 10 years younger, but I'm not so sure that would come across the way I'm intending it to. Or maybe it IS ok to say that??? Anyway, I decided that like some other people said here-being honest about how old you are is definitly the way to go. Just say in your profile the age range you are looking for & send out emails to guys you are interested in. Good luck!

AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

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Internet Dating-A Lifestyle Choice? Posted: 4/23/2009 11:18:38 PM
Joey, You rule. And you're right-I never dated douchbags like that on or off the net. My MOM taught me right!

AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

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Internet Dating-A Lifestyle Choice? Posted: 4/23/2009 11:10:01 PM
Holy Crap! The most accurate thing about this post of yours, WACK is that you are WACK! Your mom should have talked to YOU more-you're a sad, sad man. But I feel so special that you think I'm doable. YAY.

AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

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Internet Dating-A Lifestyle Choice? Posted: 4/23/2009 7:08:52 PM
Interesting point. However, no. I'm having a hard time seeing where I contradict myself. I never said that going onine to meet someone was a bad thing. Whether it was 1 or 10 sites. I've never met, started dating, got serious with a man I met online or otherwise and then kept looking online while I was dating-and neither have the women I know. But NEARLY every man we've met has. You should read more carefully.

AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

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Internet Dating-A Lifestyle Choice? Posted: 4/23/2009 6:36:28 PM
Let me explain... One of the biggest up-sides of internet dating is also the biggest down side. Women who don't frequent clubs or bars, who have met all of the friends their friends know turn to internet dating because we can meet men who we otherwise wouldn't. We can get to know things about them before even meeting them (if they are honest about who they are). A lot of women like this. A lot of women try the internet to meet their next boyfriend or maybe even their husband. The downside is that men seem to have realized this. There is this huge never ending population of women online. More and more every day sign up. Even if a man began the internet dating experience looking for a mate, he figures out pretty quickly that every day there's new women to view the profiles of, to look at the pictures of, to see if they'll respond to the emails they send. It seems that a lot of men become addicted. Even if they meet someone they like, they just can't stay away from the sites. It becomes a lifestyle. At least that's what it seems like. This isn't just my personal experience but I have discussed this with several women dating all different types of guys. Does this technology bring out the caveman mentality? "More is better, and maybe one of the many more might be better than the one(s) I already know." Guys, what's your take on this? Think about how you've been doing it since flying in cyberspace. And no, I don't think that EVERY guy is like this-or I wouldn't be here. I'm just curious on the perspective of you men. And yes, I'm sure that some women are like this too. ~V~

AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

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Why is POF Different? Posted: 4/23/2009 6:09:44 PM
Thanks Joey, I didn't think my restrictions were all that restrictive either-just practical & realistic. I'll answer a couple of questions here... I've always have seen the internet dating as a funnel system. Here's a good example: Let's say I join a site and in the first week I get about 200 emails. (The reason why I said "the first week" of my joining is because I pop up as NEW to all of the men, and the onslot begins. After the first couple of weeks the numbers do dwindle because there's new NEW profiles, I get it.) Yes, this has happened repeatedly-besides here at POF. That never happened here. Out of those 200 I may be interested in looking at the profiles of maybe 50. Out of those 50 I may decide to actually scan the profile of 20, out of those 20 I may decide to actually read the profiles of 15, out of those 15 I may decide to really read the profiles of 10, out of those 10 I may decide to reply back to 4 out of those 4, a dialog may begin over email and then maybe IM. Out of those 4 whom I have chatted with via email or IM, maybe 2 I will talk to on the phone. Out of those 2, I may meet both or just one or neither-depending on how it goes from there. I have dated, being involved with and had serious relationships with men I've met online. (I've been doing this for about 10 years now on and off.) Also, I have heard of the fake profiles/emails on sites but I have never found any evidence of that. If someone emails me and I respond, they are actually a person-so I haven't experienced the SPAM thing.

AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

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Why is POF Different? Posted: 4/23/2009 12:28:21 PM
Well thanks for checking out my profile and wanting to say hello Sully...My restrictions aren't much, I want to meet someone I can date & for me that means someone who lives within a decent distance. Aside from that, I'm not into married men or men who are just looking to hook up. So, I'm ok with those resrictions too.

AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

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so, why are you still single? Posted: 4/23/2009 12:08:05 PM
Have any of you seen that show "Tough Love"? One of the women on there was posed this question on a date and she had a meltdown. She was SO mad that this guy seemed to be asking "What the hell is wrong with you? Why has everyone you've ever known decided they DID NOT want to be with you? What kind of freak are you?" Of course, he didn't mean it that way. He was wondering if she was too good to be true and how anyone would let her slip through their fingers. I've been asked this question before and I have been married. But I've been single almost 11 years, so after a few years the clock starts back up. I'm not really quite sure what people are looking for with this question. I mean, do they want me to go down the line, man by man who I've been involved with and share all of the dirty details as to why we parted ways and why it didn't work out? I doubt it, and I'm not about to do it anyway. It's a trick question. If you start talking shit about past relationships-that's a big red flag. They are looking to see how you answer, not really to know WHY. The why is obvious. I am "still single" because I don't have someone special in my life RIGHT NOW. I probably did a year ago, I probably will in a year. And how it'll all end up, I have no idea. I would HOPE that I meet someone who fits with me like I've known them my entire life, I hope I meet someone that I fall deeply in love with. I hope we have lots of inside jokes and have lots of sex and people are jealous of us. And, I hope we die at the same time when we're old so no one ever asks me again, "Why are you still single?"

AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

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Why is POF Different? Posted: 4/23/2009 11:36:15 AM
I've never been one to check out the "who's viewed me" and decide to email those men. I figure that they saw my picture, decided they wanted to read what I had to say and for whatever reason decided not to contact me. Why would I contact them? That just seems so odd to me. "Hey you looked at my profile...Don't you want to talk to me?" OR am I just nuts?

AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

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Why is POF Different? Posted: 4/23/2009 11:32:58 AM
Yes, for the very FEW emails I've received I've thought the same thing. But that happens on every site. But when it comes to people being fake on here, do you think that's why they started this "Serious" member thing? I wonder... It's not like I'm looking for any particular amount of emails...I would like to find someone. It just seems strange to me that POF is free why people wouldn't take more advantage of it. Again, I don't get it.

AlwaysMissV

Joined: 12/24/2007

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Why is POF Different? Posted: 4/23/2009 10:55:51 AM
I'm on a couple of different internet dating sites. I usually get emails all of the time on other sites, the paid ones...But for some reason on POF I get hardly anything. I have the same content, the same pictures...Can someone please explain it? I don't get it. If you have suggestions, I'm totally open to them! Thanks & have a great day guys! ~V~

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