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 Author Thread: A year has passed.
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
A year has passed.
Posted: 5/2/2009 11:29:32 PM
I've made a few changes. what do the fishes think?
Thanks, have a great Spring and lots of luck to us all ;-)
PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Bars or clubs....
Posted: 4/28/2008 8:46:37 PM
OK. I'm going to give you never fail instructions. This is going to be long and very detailed. This method I'm giving you is from the sacred 'guy manual'. Don't tell anyone
I told you.

We'll tackle 'the best way to approach' question first since it's the easiest. The how do you know if he's single part comes after this brief instructional on hooking the fish.

1: You're in a bar. Buy HIM a drink from where you are. Do not approach. Ask a waitress to send it over and make sure she points out who sent it.

2: Make the eye contact. If theres a genuine smile from him (usually followed with a nod), wave him over to you. Maintain eye contact so he is less likely to bring his posse.
This is key. If you're with other women, make sure you are facing him and they are not. Preferably they should be talking amongst themselves (Or pretend to be) so you look like you are separated from them.
This gives him the confidence to approach without feeling he's being set up for something. If he DOES bring his gang, you're friends just play wingman (or wingwoman in this case).

3: If he comes over, he's interested at some level. He may just thank you and walk away, though. DO NOT FEEL INSULTED. IT'S NOT YOU. If he does, he isn't worth pursuing. He may be too shy, already have a significant other, or any of a dozen other reasons why. But the bottom line is, not worth it, move on. Better to know right away.

NOTE: The reason you asked him over to you is severalfold. First, and most important, you're cutting him from the herd and will get a much more accurate portrayal of who he really is. He's less likely to act cool to impress his buddies or put on other airs. You're also finding out his level of self confidence. The guy who brings support has lower self esteem than the guy who proudly struts over with a big thankful smile on his face.
Also you're safer and more self confident when he's coming into your turf. Even though it's a bar, it's YOUR side of the bar and not his.

4: Once you have him over to you, Say "Hi, My name is 'NAME'. Are you single?"

5: If he says yes, You've completed the task and should feel free to move on to actually carrying on a conversation and getting to know each other.

There. That does it. Guaranteed to work every time you are out at the bar. That answers your question as you have asked it.

Now lets move on to the 'how do you know if he's single' part. In the short term (tonight, at the bar, hanging out) you don't. If he says yes, he's most likely telling the truth. In fact the approach method described above sets a guy off his game a bit. He's much more likely to tell you the truth, even if he had intended to lie. ( See why I swore you to secrecy :-))

Even still, there's enough players out there that they can lie to you and look very sincere doing it. To find out if he's REALLY single takes more than that one night, and we'll deal with that in a later forum question, I'm sure.

There you go. Sure fire. Works every time.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Confused??
Posted: 4/28/2008 6:48:48 PM
His loss. At least you had a good time that night. Sometimes you just hang out for a night or two and never meet again. The old two ships story. He just didn't seem to want to pursue anything further.

Don't make anything of it. As I said, it's his loss. Keep fishing. You'll catch a lot of guppies before reeling in the right one. Just make sure you have as much fun as possible each and every time you go out.

After all, it was only one date. At least you didn't invest too much time or emotion into it.


PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Bringing a baby into a new relationship??
Posted: 4/28/2008 6:37:45 PM
I haven't read the previous posters so I apologize if this has already been said.

I don't think casual dating and meeting the kids mix at all. Kids grow attached way to easily and quickly. I won't meet a woman's children at all unless they are old enough to understand completely that this is mom's date and nothing more.

Babies are even more dangerous in that they can bring out the paternal instinct. You may be attracted to that and it could blind you to a potentially problematic relationship.

It's too easy to get comfortable with someone simply because your child and them get along real well. Many couplings have started on that note just to crash when you realize they are good for your kid but not for you.

You have to treat dating like you did before you had your son. The guy needs to care for you as a person first and a mom later. However, you NEVER hide the fact you have a child. It's a perfectly fine topic of conversation. You just don't introduce them to your boy.

Meeting the son is best left for after having established a long term relationship.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Do you want to know how many children??
Posted: 4/28/2008 6:17:13 PM
It doesn't matter to me either way. I'm not looking to get married to a profile. There's plenty of time to find out the details of each other.

I have found if you post too much detail, you may get fewer contacts. If I read a profile and get a complete picture of the person without ever going any further, I reply less often.

Better to leave a lot to face to face conversations. If it's imperative that anyone you date be interested in kids no matter what, it's a good thing to be up front about it.

If you are interested in more casual dating and 'seeing where it goes', it's better to leave a lot more in question.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Would you approach a woman just to be friends?
Posted: 4/6/2008 8:26:03 PM
To quote the perfect conversation about this subject:
Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Albright: Why not?
Harry Burns: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally Albright: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: You only think you do.
Sally Albright: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry Burns: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: How do you know?
Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally Albright: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Sally Albright: What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU?
Harry Burns: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally Albright: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry Burns: I guess not.
Sally Albright: That's too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 4/6/2008 8:18:32 PM
I think it matters what the guy is looking for in the long term. Personally, I have no interest in having children so I'd consider it a plus. I'd definitely date this 'hypothetical' woman.

If a guy is looking to sow his seeds, a relationship probably wouldn't stand up to the pressure of the 'need to breed'.

So, personally, yes it would affect how I feel, but only for the positive.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Putting myself to the scrutiny of POF
Posted: 3/31/2008 7:32:01 PM
Thank you Ms. Took your advise to heart. Made a few spaces and it does look easier to read. Much appreciated.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Putting myself to the scrutiny of POF
Posted: 3/30/2008 7:35:19 PM
No insult taken. I know I'm a bit wordy. I haven't found a way to put into fewer words. By nature, I'm a wordy person.

Comfort to the enemy? The revolution has started. Ron is one of many who will spearhead the reawakening of America. We will win back our hard fought constitutional rights.

Thanks for the review.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Putting myself to the scrutiny of POF
Posted: 3/30/2008 6:33:58 PM
Hello, fellow POF'ers. I'd like an honest open review of my profile. Why not throw myself under the virtual bus and see what you think..

Be gentle, I bruise easily...

Well, not really, but you know.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
How do you text message?
Posted: 3/25/2008 1:37:12 AM
Proper grammar and punctuation on most of them. I use the occasional wtf or other well known acronym. But thats the exception and not the rule.

The youth of today already don't have grammar stressed enough in their education. Shortcutting on the texting will only make things worse. Were headed down the road to a whole new language. That of textspeak.
PEACE

 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 106 (view)
 
Circumcision....
Posted: 3/25/2008 1:09:42 AM
I'm going to repost part of a comment I made in aprevious forum about foreskin restoration.


I was sick as a lad and by the time I was healthy enough to be cut, my mother decided against it.
I grew up thinking I was the weird one. I didn't know about circumcisions and I thought I had a freakish flap of skin. Now this was a time BEFORE sex ed in school and my parents were too embarrassed to have the birds and bees talk with me.
Fortunately my pediatrician was cool and explained it all to me when I was 6

I knew instinctively about cleaning the area so I never had a problem with smegma (BTW, look it up ladies. YOU produce it too. Under the hood of your clitoris). I personally feel it keeps my head more sensitive, but how would I know any different. Same goes for any circumcised guy. How can you render an opinion on what it's like to be UC.


Bottom line, personal choice. Once a man is old enough to make that decision about his own body, he can and should be able to pursue this elective cosmetic surgery. No parent should nave the legal right to mutilate their perfectly healthy child. Unless there is a precipitating immediate health threat to the penis, a parent who circumcises their child is committing abuse on him IMO. Could you get away with chopping off his earlobes? How about carving out those nipples. I mean, they don't produce milk so why have them?

Don't you see? I understand that theres a religious aspect to it for those of the Islamic and Jewish faith. But the practice started out long before modern hygiene practices and facilities, modern medicine and modern thought. we're talking the time of flat earth theory, earth as the center of the universe, stars as pinpoints of light.

Surely we have grown since then. Wouldn't this be a reasonable subject to bring up to your Rabbi or Imam? For you who believe, why would God put a foreskin on if it was his law to cut it off? I'd actually like an answer to this from someone 'in the know' of their religion.

Nature endowed most males in the entire animal kingdom with foreskins. Is it wrong to keep what nature put in place?

If you are considering it for your child, please rethink about it. There is no underlying health threat or hygiene issue in an otherwise healthy child that would preclude their ability to make an informed decision of their own.

PEACE

 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 115 (view)
 
For those of you who enjoy rough sex:
Posted: 3/15/2008 5:24:39 AM
I agree with many other posters in this question. I'd go back to vanilla for a while in the hopes of opening her sexual repertoire. However, that said, theres no way I could stand it for the long term.
I mean, once you've been on a rack, or put someone on the rack, tied them up and hauled out the whips, crops, and velvet wand, theres no going back to vanilla.

Yes, it would affect my longterm choice for a partner.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Couchsurfing.com
Posted: 3/15/2008 5:16:18 AM
First off, Love me, if you were only a few years older or I was a few years younger, I think we would have made a great couple. Your profile is awesome.

On to Couchsurfing...
The site is great, I haven't used it myself, but know several that have. It seems that the concept is MUCH more accepted outside the US. My friend who uses it has traveled all over Europe surfing couch after couch.
However when she started her cross country trip in the US from east coast to west coast, she had a bugger of a time finding places to crash. I don't know what it is about us Americans, but we aren't as free thinking when it comes to opening our doors, and couches, to strangers.
If I get the time to travel 'across the pond' I'll be using the site.

PEACE


 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Refractory, or recovery, time post orgasm. Men AND women....dish it up.
Posted: 3/14/2008 3:17:54 PM
It's all through exercising your PC muscles (kegels), and learning to seperate the orgasm stage from the ejaculation stage. Orgasm happens just before the 'point of no return', in which the body takes over and ejaculation occurs.
Once you learn to decrease stimulation at the orgasm stage, you can keep going and going.
From what I've read, it's a part of learning tantric, but I had already learned the skills before I knew of the term tantra.
When you masturbate, feel the area right beneath your testicles just before you orgasm. You'll feel the muscles you need to work on if you push in firmly there. and squeeze like you are trying to cut off your urine stream.
Once you isolate these PC muscles and can exercise them (look up PC exercises for men in google), you'll see the magic.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Refractory, or recovery, time post orgasm. Men AND women....dish it up.
Posted: 3/12/2008 11:45:38 AM
If I've had an orgasm WITH ejaculation, my refractory time is usually about 20 -30 minutes. I can handle some fondling within a minute after, but until then, everything is too sensitive.

However, I'm a lucky guy. I can orgasm and hold back ejaculating. When that happens, I'm ready to go almost immediately.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Is something wrong with me or is this a common problem?
Posted: 3/12/2008 11:39:06 AM
It doesn't matter what anyone here (Except me of course :-)) says or advises. You need to seek out a gynecologist first and foremost. You may have a serious problem going on that needs to be addressed first. You need to tell your doctor VERY specifically what the issue is and make sure you are cleared that you are healthy enough to have sex.
If the doctor you went to last time caused you that much pain, you should seek out a different gynecologist. Yes, there will be discomfort with a pap smear, but if there was that much pain, the doctor should have addressed it right then and there. The fact that he/she didn't doesn't bode well for your doctor/patient relationship.
Your doc should be top on the short list of people you can talk to completely openly about your problems having sex.

Again, I wouldn't recommend having any sex until you've been completely checked over and your 'lady parts' are cleared for activity.

Once your doctor gives the OK, you need to learn to have sex with yourself. Get a few toys and start experimenting. You'll find the best angle for insertion by playing. You'll also get to feel more comfortable about sex and it will make you much more relaxed.


Now Iam scared to have sex because Iam afraid I'll let my guy down,not fulfill my role and keep feeling less of a woman.


Again, start out with pleasing yourself. Once you've gotten pleasure this way, you'll know how far, how big, how deep, and the best angle an object can go into your vagina.

Don't even fret about letting the guy down. If he's a keeper, he'll understand. The first and most important thing, though, is to talk openly and honestly with your doctor.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 243 (view)
 
How long do most guys last?
Posted: 3/12/2008 11:16:08 AM
I know it's for the ladies, but I had to enter my two cents worth.
It depends on what you mean by last. If you mean until ejaculation, I've had entire sessions without ejaculating. I've had sex for several hours (with breather breaks in between), and never lost the erection or ejaculated. In fact, I very rarely ejaculate when I have sex, and that has been a bone of contention with several women I've been with. They felt like they hadn't pleased me because I didn't ejaculate.

Now if you're talking orgasm, I usually orgasm after 10-20 minutes of intercourse. Kegel exercises really help you to hold off ejaculating when you feel the orgasm coming on. I usually orgasm two or three times during a session, but, as stated above, rarely ejaculate.

Guys, do yourselves a huge favor and look into kegel exercises. They are easy to do once you've isolated the muscles. It's the same muscles you use to stop urinating mid-stream.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Foreskin Restoration
Posted: 3/5/2008 7:59:00 PM
Desi. How to is easy. He needs to roll the foreskin back and wash under the glans of the head. If he can do that without pain, he should wash at least once a week (preferably every bath / shower time) with soap and water. That will keep the smegma from forming. Thats the only 'extra' hygiene needed when you have a foreskin.
If he hasn't kept up with cleaning it may be tender to retract back due to bacteria growth and irritation of the area by smegma. If so, DON'T SCRUB. Gently rinse with warm water and clean the smegma off as best as possible. Cleaning gently with water over a couple days will clean off the bacteria and rinse away the smegma. Eventually he can roll back the foreskin without pain and follow paragraph one.

Don't feel embarrassed about it. That vibe is given off by you and picked up by your son as a negative. I know, it's what happened to me. Use the same casual nature you do when you talk about sex, drugs, personal choice.. You know, all that fun parent stuff :-)

PEACE

 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 217 (view)
 
Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/5/2008 7:20:21 PM
Quick answer: Alone no. Single yes. Detailed answer below:
It's human nature to seek out the comfort of others and, by that regard, tremendously few people are really even comfortable being alone. Even the company of strangers would be preferable over no human contact at all.
If you're asking if some people are meant to be lonely, I'd say yes. But only because they choose to feel lonely. Loneliness is an emotional state. As such, a person can change that emotional state.

But single on the other hand, I do believe many people, myself included, are destined to be single. I enjoy living in my house all by myself. Even when I have a companion, I wouldn't let her live with me.

And we have to throw in a Bill Clinton: "It depends on what the meaning of the word ‘is’ is" moment.
It depends on what the meaning of the word 'meant' meant. Meant as in destined or meant as in intended.

And on and on we go.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Looking for some insight
Posted: 3/4/2008 8:16:55 PM
I'm thinking nerves too. Hopefully he can work it out. You have to be who you are and I'm willing to bet it will work out.
It is possible he has a health issue if it's been a while since the last time he had sex. He shouldn't be embarrassed to talk to his doctor if it continues to be a problem.
Young or old, it's always wise to have a yearly physical
Mostly keep the channels open. Talk to him.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 68 (view)
 
Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/4/2008 7:35:57 PM
Sure would. If we had great sex there would DEFINITELY be a second third and maybe more. I'd call her next day and keep going out until the sex got boring. Hopefully a relationship would grow during that time.
If it starts out with sex, then sex will be the primary element of the relationship throughout it's course. BUT, the thing to remember is thats not necessarily a bad thing. I don't understand why anyone would see a relationship based on sex as less real or meaningful. Just because it involved rocking boots the whole time?
The longest relationship I've been in was based entirely on sex. We had so much fun together. We were each others complement whenever we were together. We were like randy teenagers. We vacationed just to have sex in new places. We treated each other with respect. Played the romantic games, the whole thing. All the while we both knew the thing keeping us together was how good the sex was. The relationship ended when we both got bored with sex with each other. It was a mature, mutual decision to move on.
Even now, she is someone I can talk to when I can't talk to ANYONE else. We are the best of friends.
That was probably the best relationship I've ever had.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Best Way to tell a new lover what you like in bed.
Posted: 3/4/2008 7:09:30 PM
Just tell him. The best way to get what you need, is to tell him what you want.
Same goes for him too. Ask him if he seems shy to direct you. It's very rare that either person gets it right without some instruction.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Foreskin Restoration
Posted: 2/25/2008 8:39:46 PM
OK, I've read the rest, and it appears I'm the only UC guy to respond. I was sick as a lad and by the time I was healthy enough to be cut, my mother decided against it.
I grew up thinking I was the weird one. I didn't know about circumcisions and I thought I had a freakish flap of skin. Now this was a time BEFORE sex ed in school and my parents were too embarrassed to have the birds and bees talk with me.
Fortunately my pediatrician was cool and explained it all to me when I was 6

I knew instinctively about cleaning the area so I never had a problem with smegma (BTW, look it up ladies. YOU produce it too. Under the hood of your clitoris). I personally feel it keeps my head more sensitive, but how would I know any different. Same goes for any circumcised guy. How can you render an opinion on what it's like to be UC.

Now on to YOUR question. Why are you thinking about it? If I were circumcised, I'd be happy with it, just like I'm happy being UC. What's the reason you are considering the surgery?

Personally, my opinion is that the doctor cut you once and, hopefully, didn't make a mess of things. Letting him near you with a scalpel a second time is rolling the dice. Surgery can always turn out for the worse.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 37 (view)
 
What does a guy want to hear
Posted: 2/25/2008 7:58:52 PM
He has time to stare, he has time to spot. Whisper that you want him to spot you on some weights.

Good neutral, but in a way flirty thing to do. You'll get a chance to work together and strike up a conversation after the sets done.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Guys??? Need to know! Was I played??
Posted: 2/17/2008 2:44:34 PM
IMO he was looking for a hookup. He saw you weren't going to jump in the sack at first date and moved on to one that will.
He replied in the hopes that you would start something up in chat and carry it over to a physical hookup the next time.
I'm willing to bet you didn't reply to his message with a bunch of obvious flirting. If you did, he may have stayed interested.
Push him to the curb and keep fishing. He had his chance. Onward and, hopefully, upward.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 64 (view)
 
Are you guys parinoid about your hair, or lack of?
Posted: 2/17/2008 2:07:58 PM
Can't say anything about others, but I love being bald. The only regret I have is it hasn't receded completely and I keep having to shave the sides.

Combovers and wigs are of comfort to some. If you had a big wavy head of hair as a teenager you're more likely to have issues with hair as you grow older.

In your case, I'm willing to bet he wore it to boost his self confidence more than a concern of how it looked. It's all about the self-perception. If a guy thinks he looks younger, sexier, more virile, with the combover or wig he will use it to boost his own confidence.

No I'd never wear a wig unless we were playing dressup for the date

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Do men want girls?
Posted: 2/17/2008 1:57:21 PM
Girls, Women, Ladies.. Whatever you call them I like them all. A woman who knows when to bring out the girl is hot beyond compare. A Girl who brings out the woman occasionally is hot too, but not quite as much.

I prefer a more mature person because the mental interaction of flirting is one of the greatest turn-ons. Age is of no difference to me. An immature 29 year old is much less attractive than a mature 29 year old (I used 29 because that's just about the time you commit to one or the other way of acting).

Basically, regardless of age, if a woman can keep up intellectually, she is more attractive to me.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 95 (view)
 
Would you date Britney Spears?
Posted: 1/16/2008 4:53:46 AM
No way, no how. Theres too much psycho in her. No baggage for me and her baggage would fill a cargo plane. I'll admit a few years back she was good eye candy, but even then, I wouldn't have had anything to do with her.
She's looking for the abuser type of guy anyway, and I wouldn't fit that bill. She's self-destructive. Add that to the pressure of being famous and having the paparazzi constantly hounding her and she is a big NO GO!!!

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 277 (view)
 
When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/6/2008 7:46:34 PM
I'd recommend posting 'average'. The woman to your right in the second pic would be 'a few extra pounds'.

You look very H/W proportionate and 'Average' fits that description well.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Would you marry a slut?
Posted: 1/6/2008 7:38:50 PM
Absolutely. I was a 'congratulated' guy in the past, so I definitely wouldn't hold the same against a woman.
As some previous posters have related, as long as she was faithful to me, it doesn't matter. Hell, I WANT a slut. She will be more likely to have a bigger repertoire of variety in the bedroom. And variety IS the spice of life after all.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Friends Before GF/BF?
Posted: 1/6/2008 7:32:50 PM
If you're looking to make it long term, I really believe you have to be friends first.
If it's a fling, then all bets are off.

A good relationship has friendship and respect as it's roots. That way when you go through the inevitable down in the up and downs of a relationship, you have friendship to fall back on.

PEACE

 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Are there ANY fishes in Maine? If so...please reply and be counted!
Posted: 1/6/2008 12:42:22 AM
Southern Maine Checking in
I just joined POF recently and have started playing around in the forums.

As far as fish... I'm a native so I'm an Atlantic Salmon.

PEACE

 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Are you offended if your date prefers not to tell you her age?
Posted: 1/1/2008 10:57:22 PM
No offense at all. As long as it plays both ways. I look to see if she is fun, we share a connection, I find her physically appealing.
None of that involves a specific age.

PEACE

 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Is he busy, just not into me, should I keep showing interest?
Posted: 1/1/2008 10:52:55 PM
He's something.. You want to take it to the face to face, it's for sure. Text him or call him one last time. Say you'd like to meet at a coffee shop sometime in the next week. Ask what would work for him so if he really wants to meet up, but has an odd schedule, he can make the decision.
If he puts you off and doesn't want to meet, move on. You are obviously interested. That puts HIM in the power position.
Force his hand and see what happens. Worse case, you move on. Theres POF after all :-)
Good Luck

PEACE
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 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 1/1/2008 7:35:45 PM
I have no problem with it.
I've had a several women reply to me first. It's flattering to be honest. Just as it's flattering to you.
Although none have made it through to the point of a face to face yet, I'm always happy for a response in my mail.

So go ahead. If they look interesting, send them a message.

PEACE

 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Would you date/marry a single mom with 4 kids?
Posted: 1/1/2008 5:29:07 PM
In answer for settling a disagreement. In this specific case described by you the answer is NO.

However, as a general rule, I wouldn't say having four kids is a 'deal breaker' for me.

The problem here is that they are all by the same father. This woman, for whatever reason, is hooked on this guy. No matter how much she complains, wants you to believe otherwise, etc... She will always go back to this man in the long run. Most likely, even if she were to break her habit of this guy, she would find another of the same caliber.

Stay out of the matchmaking business for her. Better yet, stay out of her personal life completely. By your own description you call her 'my neighbor' and not 'my friend'. You are her babysitter. You have every ability to say 'sorry, I can't babysit' and thus, have all the free time you want. Her money is green, and you choose to take it for watching her kids. End of story.

PEACE
 Bud.Green
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
 
sounds during sex/lovemaking
Posted: 1/1/2008 4:22:48 PM
I don't know that we all are. I know I'm not. I enjoy making noise and hearing my partner do the same. Exchanging dirty talk is all part of the experience.
Now I want to know if this is common for guys.

PEACE
 
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