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jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

Msg: 697 (view)

Very long hair on a woman is very femine and sexy, but few women have long hair Posted: 11/23/2009 1:57:42 AM
My hair is pretty long (halfway down my back) and so far, I've refused to cut it short. I know it would be alot easier to take care of if I did, but I just feel more attractive with longer hair.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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A Matter of Trust Posted: 11/22/2009 7:29:48 AM
Good LORD the drama over NOTHING. That's why I don't date men with kids. Blech. OP, this is the most ridiculously absurd nonsense I've ever heard. Getting rid of your ex-girlfriend and her little spawn was the best move you could have made. I can't imagine having to deal with the utter bullsh*it of a teenager manipulating grown adults. I'd honestly rather watch paint dry then get involved in that garbage. Consider yourself lucky.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Is it Wrong to call a woman handsome? Posted: 11/22/2009 7:23:24 AM
Yikes, I don't think I'd be flattered if someone told me I was "handsome." But I have heard the term used for women in the past.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Am I bisexual? Or an anomaly? Posted: 11/22/2009 7:20:19 AM
Since you're having sex with males, there's no doubt you're bisexual at a minimum. But you're not interested in men for a relationship and don't want to invest any emotion in them, preferring to do that with women. You're still fairly young and still somewhat confused as to what your relationship role and preferences are at the moment - and that's ok. You can't force something you don't feel, but the truth of the matter is that you're going to change and grow as you get older, and your preferences will become more defined as you become more emotionally mature. You're still at an experimental stage and eventually you'll find where you need to be. Good luck to you.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Ok hit me with some useful comments Posted: 11/22/2009 4:57:49 AM
Scorpio, I mean no disrespect, but your main profile picture ages you tremendously. I was surprised to see you're only 42 years old and actually skimmed through your "about me" section, expecting to find a blurb about how your age is incorrect in your profile, but you can't change it now and your correct age is _____. I see that on alot on men's profiles and thought that was the case with yours. Being very honest, that picture is not helping you at all. You really need to get a better picture that more accurately depicts your true age. Secondly, I see in you profile that you're separated. That's pretty much the kiss of death for most people. "Separated" means "I have unfinished business and tons of drama and baggage that come with me." That may not apply to your particular situation, but people still LOOK at it that way whether we like it or not. I refuse to date separated men and from what I've read in the forums over the last 2 years, most people won't date a separated person. So that's definitely working against you. Lastly, the part about not having full custody of your kids and needing to stay local is just way too much information. You could rephrase it to something along the lines of "due to current family responsibilities, I prefer to date locally as I'm not in a position to travel at this time." Men don't need to know about your custody situation as it's your own private business (until you choose to share it with someone) and mentioning it in your profile just negatively adds to the "separated" status. Good luck to you in your search, OP.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Over 5 months, countless of messages Posted: 11/22/2009 4:31:52 AM
OP, EclecticJoy gave you some sound advice on your photos and profile, and the majority of the posters all agree that your "toy" collection is not helping you at all. The first thing I thought of when I saw you surrounded by your "toys" (what are those things - Christmas ornaments?) was the movie, "The 40 Year Old Virgin." It just screams 'nerd.' EclecticJoy was absolutely right about your 3rd picture from behind - it's just way too effeminate. I'm not sure if it's the actual pose or the way too tight jeans - in either case, it's simply not attractive. At all. Another poster was absolutely correct when they observed that your body type choice of "athletic" is a bit of a stretch. You honestly do fall into the "few extra pounds" category. I understand why you put "hang out" as I, too, had originally chosen that description when I created my profile. Like you, I wanted to convey that I was interested in a "relaxed, no pressure" type of friendship/relationship rather than something serious. I changed it to "dating" when I kept reading here on the POF forums that a good amount of people think "hanging out" actually means hooking up for sex. I get what you're saying about the generational meaning of hanging out meaning different things to different people, but that doesn't seem to apply to some people here on POF. You may want to change it to "friends" if that's an option, or "dating" which doesn't imply a serious, committed, longterm relationship.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Interpret a text message Posted: 11/22/2009 3:49:02 AM
OP, her message back to you more or less could have been worded as, "lol...you're a kick. OK 'mom,' thanks for the advice." No hidden meaning, no hidden agenda.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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WTH was he thinking? Posted: 11/21/2009 5:25:32 AM
SoldierGirl - I agree. This guy was a complete tool. I actually give you credit for not cutting him off at the knees the FIRST time he suggested he might stay at your place "in case he drank too much." What an idiot. Is this a pitty thread or what? he was seeing if you would put out to him or not he didnt want you to waste his time, your just someone he meet over the net he had nothing to loose simple as that, if you were someone he meet in the real world he may not of been so sleezie, are you offended that all that he wanted from you was sex if you are move on if your not then im so dumbfounded that anyone could post such a rediculous topic. Wow...ForumPhantom and SoldierGirl - you ladies were able to decipher this? Pearls of wisdom for sure - especially from one who lists "going to an orgy - ha ha ha" as his idea of a first date on his profile. Jesus.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

Was there ONE thing that made you want to meet? Posted: 11/19/2009 8:05:54 AM
Boy do I hate to admit this because it's just so shallow. I wanted to meet one guy because he had a gorgeous full head of dark hair, big brown eyes, and was a weight lifter. I don't know what came over me - I literally swooned every time I looked at his picture. You'd think a dinosaur my age would have behaved more appropriately. Sheesh.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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New Fish, Please Read Posted: 11/19/2009 8:00:28 AM
#998 (for men) - The older, fatter, and uglier you are the younger, slimmer, and prettier the women you should be messaging. Remember, opposites attract! Bwahahahahahahahahaa!!! That's gold!!

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Confused by my hormones - having sex with boyfriend for first time Posted: 11/19/2009 7:18:58 AM
I, too, thought the OP was like 17 or 18 years old and was quite shocked to see she's 28 years old. OP, I really hate to sound crass but if you're not even capable of something as simple as a handjob, then you should educate yourself with books and movies before this guy completely loses his patience with you. He sounds like he's been pretty understanding and very patient, but that only lasts up to a point. I'm kind of amazed to hear that you left him hanging just because you "screwed up a handjob last time." Not finding fault with you being a virgin, in this day and age that's very admirable. But you seriously need to educate yourself.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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I am breaking up with BF Today! Had ENOUGH Posted: 11/18/2009 8:29:27 AM
Caramel, my number #1 rule in life is to NEVER go where I'm not welcome. The writing is on the wall and it's so clear - he sees you as a negative rather than a complement to his life. Anyone whose truly interested in a person and has deep feelings for them will not continually slap you every time you reach out to them. It would almost seem you've become so used to this somewhat abusive and derogatory treatment towards you that it's lowered your expectations to the point where you actually have to ask others what they would do in this situation. Anyone with a modicum of self-respect and self-worth would have kicked this guy to the curb so fast they'd have to FedEx his shadow to him. There are the way things SHOULD be, and the way things ARE. Your reality is that he's not even willing to treat you with RESPECT. It's time to close the chapter on this guy and seek out someone who'll show you the respect we ALL deserve.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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The first meeting Posted: 11/18/2009 3:45:28 AM
A first meet should be a drink or a cup of coffee - not a full blown date going to dinner, etc. So your friend was right on that point, even though his reason was "to save money." Your friend kind of sounds like a douche nozzle. Several people have asked if he's single and how old he is but you haven't answered their questions. Therefore, I'm going to assume this idiot is a 15 year old pimple-faced teenage boy with Doritos stuck in his braces who lives in his mom's basement, playing World of Warcraft when he's not attending high school. Being 40 and old enough to know better, I would hope you wouldn't take this guy's advice - unless you want to be still be single at the ripe old age of 70.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Men over 45 who dye their hair Posted: 11/18/2009 3:04:23 AM
I still have a problem feeling physically attracted to a man with white or silver hair. I feel like I'm dating my grandfather and I can't help it - I get that "ick" factor going. White/silver hair just does nothing for me. Dark brown hair is my weakness. I would have no problem at all if a man were to dye out the grey and bring his hair back to the shade of brown it used to be. I'd prefer it, actually. The only really bad dye jobs I ever see are when men dye their hair jet black. It looks SO fake - like they took shoe polish and painted their heads with it.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Breaking a Date...By Text Message Posted: 11/17/2009 12:47:47 PM
Well, I'm old, so I vote for "tacky." If he had to cancel your date for a forgotten birthday party, it would have been more considerate to call you and tell you about the change in plans, then maybe discuss rescheduling for a future time and day. Texting seems to be the coward's way out. I hate to think of the lack of social graces people will be displaying in another 25 years - it's probably not going to be a pretty picture.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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shaved bald men Posted: 11/17/2009 8:32:25 AM
LOL...I agree with Tracy. Not a fan of shaved or bald heads. I much prefer a full head of dark hair - I can't keep my hands out of it. Bald just doesn't appeal to me at all.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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A question for you all... Posted: 11/17/2009 8:26:08 AM
I'm certainly not a femi-nazi and never was, 1KindMan, so that certainly doesn't apply to me. I adore Alpha males and I'm highly drawn to them. A true Alpha male knows the difference between being confident in himself and being a natural leader and being a dominant ass who just thinks he's an Alpha male.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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No-one likes him except me Posted: 11/17/2009 7:23:13 AM
Does he live in a van down by the river? Sorry, couldn't resist a little SNL humor. As all the others have stated, I also think there are a few "holes" in his story, to say the least. Unless he's a compete tree-hugger who wants to be "one with nature," I don't see him leaving a well-paying job, a nice roof over his head, and the luxuries he'd been able to provide for himself simply to get in some ratty ass van and head west on a whim. I don't know what the unemployment program rules are in Canada, but doesn't this guy need an ADDRESS in order to have his claim checks mailed to him (unless it's electronic transfer)? What's he using for an address - an intersection he parks his van at during daytime business hours? Or is he living in your house, sponging off you? Good God, you should have just crossed over the tracks to the wrong side of town, picked a homeless wino up off the streets and brought him home with you. Aim higher, OP. Seriously.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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What are guys thinking? Posted: 11/16/2009 1:00:51 PM
LOL...I don't quite know how your Halloween pictures equate to giving this neanderthal permission to pull such a bone-headed move after a necking session, but you'll get that alot on these forums. Just because a woman chooses to engage in a little passionate kissing at the end of a date, that doesn't mean she's ready to hop into bed. She felt a connection to her date, was attracted to him, and enjoyed kissing him. Only a desperate idiot would stoop to that behavior when the OP was getting ready to exit the car after kissing him. The dumbass should have gone home and jerked off to internet porn. OP - was this moron 17 years old? Then I could understand it a little better.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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The other side of WTF was he thinking? Posted: 11/16/2009 12:38:45 PM
Well OP, there are plenty of us out there that don't appreciate jumping in the sack on a first date, so I commend you for being a gentleman. This woman sounds like she's used to going to bed with men on first dates and probably took it as an insult that she didn't end up in your bed at the end of the night. I can't even imagine acting like this, but apparently, this is normal behavior for her. You say older women have "made their beds" but please don't include me in that group. I have no desire to meet someone and jump in bed with them 2 hours later - and certainly don't find it insulting if a man acts like a gentleman on our first date. I expect it and anything less on his part would be met with a slap across the kisser. So please do NOT assume we all secretly want to jump in bed on a first date but don't have the guts to tell you.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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friends list Posted: 11/15/2009 1:10:39 PM
MEN: Be sure to list your age as 49 and then admit to me on our first meet that you're actually 56 and "made a mistake" when you were filling out the age field on your profile. Make sure your only profile picture includes you, your entire family, and all of your schoolmates from grammar school. Please also make sure it was taken from a distance of 50 yards or more. And lastly, make sure NOT to caption the picture so I have no freakin' clue which blurry, far-away little figure you might BE in that crowd. Please, oh please write to me in "text speak." There's nothing more attractive than an introductory message that reads, "I thnk ur pretty n want 2 get 2 no u." Do be sure to write to me and tell you're "separated, but living in the bottom part of the house while my soon-to-be ex-wife lives in the upstairs part of the house." That's instant chick magnet stuff, I tell ya. There's nothing hotter than a profile picture of a middle-aged, balding man sitting shirtless in front of his webcam, grinning like a moron thinking he's sexy. No, really. There isn't anything sexier - honest. Lastly, please be 23 years old and write a real crude message explaining all the dirty things you'd like to do to me. But do know that I probably have things in my freezer older than you and would rather drink a drano c0cktail than take you up on your offer.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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PROFILE IN URGENT HELP! :S Posted: 11/14/2009 2:49:21 PM
Why is your main photo of you and another female - and it's uncaptioned? I thought you were a couple when I first looked at your profile. If that's a friend or a sister in your main photo, then CAPTION it that way accordingly. This just intimidates women when they see guys sitting next to women in their profiles. Please change that ASAP or caption it.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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BF will not tell me his birthdate or where he works - is this wierd to you guys? Posted: 11/14/2009 1:51:36 PM
It's NOT an unnatural thing to want to know your EXCLUSIVE boyfriend's birthday and place of employment. And it's equally unnatural for him to close down and act like a petulant 6 year old and ignore her for DAYS when the OP does ask him. The OP said they're exclusive and spend weekends together which I'm going to assume means they're intimate. I can't believe I'm reading posts calling the OP a stalker and "nosey" and all this nonsense, when she's sharing her body with him and they're dating exclusively. It's not like they're friends with benefits or old school chums who occasionally meet up for sex - then, I could understand this guy not wanting to divulge personal details about his life. But there's a BIG difference between "privacy" and "secrecy." He's obviously hiding this information for a REASON.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Cinderella..But.wheres my prince Posted: 11/13/2009 1:56:31 AM
I do have a 12 year old daughter who will always come first. Ugh - why do parents always have to say this in their profiles? If you have a kid, it's pretty standard stuff that they come first in your life; jeez, it's not rocket science. Making this proclamation just screams to potential dates, "no matter WHO you are, you're NEVER going to be a priority to me." Seriously consider dumping that over-used, over-done line from your profile.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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When do I ask again, or do I? Posted: 11/12/2009 1:30:17 PM
I certainly wish you much luck because you seem like a very sweet man, but I just don't get why someone from Australia (or whatever country she's from) would randomly choose to show interest in someone thousands and thousands of miles away in Pennsylvania, USA. It just doesn't seem to make sense. And I own Adobe Photo Shop and can indeed add a date stamp (or anything else I want) to any photo someone gives me - and it would look totally authentic. Yup, I'm that skilled in the program. LOL. I would HIGHLY recommend you plan a webcam "chat date" as someone else suggested, as soon as possible. And when you're talking to her on cam, make her hold up an odd object such as a nail file, a picture frame, or a stapler. I know it all sounds cloak and dagger, but too many people know how to put videos on chat programs to make you THINK you're interacting with them when you're really not. If she can't produce one of those simple items on cam, then that pretty much speaks for itself.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Living expenses and pride.. Posted: 11/12/2009 9:16:33 AM
Healthy adults are able to be assertive, to ask for for what they need and are entitled to in a non-confrontational way. You should start practicing this valuable life skill. Very true. The OP seems like a very nice and lovely young lady and I was already pretty disgusted with this guy from her other post, where she claimed that he did NOTHING to reciprocate sexually while she was more than happy to cater to HIM orally. Selfish men - in any aspect of life - suck ass. But to add on the fact that he's also glomming off the OP financially aside from being a selfish pig sexually, that just makes my brain bleed. And OP please - don't start defending him as another poster said you might do after you've told us the situation in your opening post. Call a spade a spade, ok?

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Living expenses and pride.. Posted: 11/12/2009 8:49:48 AM
OP, why are you willing to settle for so precious little? Is this the guy you posted about who acts as though he has NO sexual interest in you whatsoever - unless you're willing to give him oral sex where he doesn't have to lift a finger NOR reciprocate??? And you claimed he's not selfish at all. Is this the same guy? You also said in that other post that he has a 12-hour job that makes him tired and maybe THAT was why he was so uninterested in you physically - so obviously, he's earning an income. Sounds to me like his ONLY interest in you is using you for a free meal ticket. Any guy who'd mooch off a single mother whose working TWO jobs to keep a roof over her and her children's heads and food on the table is an utter LOSER. You also claim, "When he's not working he does go above and beyond taking care of the house, the meals, the laundry etc." I'd be willing to bet the farm that when he IS working he does NOTHING to contribute around the house and is happy to let you do it all - 2 jobs and all. You may find it "difficult to ask anyone for anything" because of your pride, but obviously this man has ZERO pride since he thinks it's just fine to leech off you. It seems to me that's all this guy DOES is take, take, take -while bringing NOTHING to the table. Absolutely nothing.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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are women ok with a man who does not orgasm, yet still enjoys every moment? Posted: 11/12/2009 8:40:08 AM
I think it's great - alot less mess.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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I'm a 58 year old guy with young kids (Where is the POF/AARP/K-8 Forum?) Where do I fish? Posted: 11/12/2009 7:45:13 AM
Quite honestly, I simply can't imagine what a gentleman just shy of 60 years old - with TWO kids under the age of 10 - could possibly offer a younger woman in her 30's? A gentleman that works two jobs (so he's clearly not sugar daddy material) and one who brings with him tons of kiddie drama and wife drama what with the "pissing matches" about various kiddie issues and the upcoming divorce etc. etc., just doesn't seem like a good catch to a 30-something at all. It just sounds like an invitation to Peyton Place. I can't imagine being a 35 year old female insinuating myself into this type of situation. I simply can't. And the OP is right about some women over 45 being even LESS interested - I'm 50 and I'd absolutely would not date someone with young children at the age of 58 - separated OR divorced.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Must have car and job=gold digger? Posted: 11/12/2009 3:58:14 AM
BTW, gold diggers don't hang out on FREE dating sites. I couldn't agree more, TuffLuv. This is a free dating site. I haven't seen too many male profiles here with the profession of doctor/lawyer/CEO, etc. etc. REAL gold diggers latch onto men who are successful and well to do - they don't latch onto teachers or welders or bus drivers. I laugh every time I see that overused word here on POF.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Is sex a chore to him? Posted: 11/12/2009 3:19:06 AM
The no oral thing I have not talked to him about, I just don't really care that much for it so it's a non-issue as far as the physical aspect, but him not ever trying....and then the failure to maintain erection during sex, tends to give a girl (or at least this girl) a complex. He has ZERO interest in you sexually unless you're catering to him. He'll ONLY have intercouse if you get him hard and then tell him that's how you want to finish. He obviously has zero desire to get intimate with you orally. Perhaps his testosterone level is low, or he's a closet homosexual. Having a night job is the least of his problems.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Was He Too Blunt? Posted: 11/11/2009 7:28:11 AM
Ugh - all I can picture is some mouth-breather down in his mother's basement, typing with one hand while he drools over your picture. Now I have to gouge my eyes out with a clam fork.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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why is he leading me on? Posted: 11/11/2009 7:22:12 AM
OP, how really "wonderful" IS he if he blatantly LIED to you about his marital status? Yeah, he's a real paragon of virtue, that one. What a little self-servicing weasel. Of course he's seeking you out and initiating contact. He thinks he has a chance of getting some sex on the side. You don't honestly think he's looking for a 'girlfriend' do you? Tell Mr. Loser to sleaze it up elsewhere. I'd also tell him that you have far too much self respect than to continue associating with a lying dirt-bag who didn't respect YOU enough to be honest about his marital status from the get go. These selfish jerks are a dime a dozen - don't be flattered.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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WHATS THE WORST DATE YOU HAD ON POF Posted: 11/11/2009 5:01:48 AM
Sounds like Luviz's date was married, or otherwise engaged and couldn't get away from his wife/significant other. L-O-S-E-R.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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review help Posted: 11/11/2009 4:39:50 AM
I don't think your profile is what's keeping the older ladies from taking you seriously. You say they 'talk' to you so you've already got your foot in the door at that point - they're past looking at your profile and deciding whether they'll talk to you. They probably don't take you seriously because they assume you're only after one thing. When 20-somethings write to me, I don't even consider taking them seriously and I can't imagine many women in the 35+ age group who actually do. It's just the dynamics of the situation, not whether you have a good profile or not. There are tons of young men on this site chasing older women. I never realized how many young men find older women erotic - it's certainly opened my eyes. Good luck to you.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Torn between morally right & right to be happy Posted: 11/11/2009 4:22:58 AM
OP, you claim to be honest in your profile, yet your relationship status says "single." You're not single - you're SEPARATED. Secondly, you're going to do whatever you want to do REGARDLESS of what everyone here says, so I'm not even going to bother saying "don't do it." However, if you want to help ENHANCE this married woman's life by making her feel wanted and desired, go right ahead. But keep in mind, that's ALL you'll be to her - an enhancement. A diversion. A dirty, exciting little secret that puts a kick in her step each day. Only a fool would think he could be anything more than an enhancement in the life of a married person. And when you're all alone during the weekends, weeknights, holidays, birthdays, family gatherings etc. etc. etc. because your married "girlfriend" can't join you, you'll have TONS of time to reflect on what a waste of your precious TIME this nonsense really is.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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The Kids Hate You? Posted: 11/11/2009 3:22:02 AM
This is exactly why I refuse to date men with dependent children - the drama makes my brain bleed. Don't know what to tell you, OP, but good luck to you in whatever you decide.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Liberal vs conserative Posted: 11/11/2009 3:13:51 AM
women luv obama... LOL...not this girl. The rest of your post was totally nonsensical and I can't understand it.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Open mic night... Posted: 11/10/2009 7:32:20 AM
Maybe she just plain out sucked and wasn't entertaining. I'd go out for a butt too, if someone was causing me to flat-line with boredom.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Smelly feet a turn on? Posted: 11/10/2009 7:17:25 AM
Even though some here will say "yucky" or "gross" or "ewwww", not all but many humans (guys and girls) like the smell of feet (especially when they are VERY ATTRACTED to the person). It's just not an easy thing for everyone to admit. So it's easier for people to write "ewwww" or "yucky" or "that's not for me". I guess you caught us all lying because we're all too ashamed to admit we find this an incredible turnon. You seem awfully angry because alot here don't share your views. Bad Monkey - you ain't kidding. The forums never fail to disappoint. Damned good thing I wasn't eating when I read this thread.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Yes, It's Another What am I doing wrong? Posted: 11/10/2009 6:50:56 AM
OK, I'll bite. Women in the 30+ age bracket are probably looking for a gentleman with a little more career stability and longevity. Your profession field says "full time student." I think most women in your age group are probably well into their career fields and probably don't find a "full time student" very attractive. I'm only guessing and dont mean any disrespect, however. Secondly, a woman reading your profile may not feel you're a match because you're into all kinds of winter sports and you're hoping to find a woman who'll share in all these activites - there may not be alot of women into that type of thing. Personally, I hate cold and snow, so if I were in your age group, I wouldn't see us as a match at all. Also, most women in the 30+ age group are probably raising children and simply can't be as available as you to travel to other states for snow-related events and activities. Again, these are only guesses as I'm not in your age group, but they're the first thoughts that came to my mind.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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do i come across as being a slut?! Posted: 11/10/2009 6:40:10 AM
Your pictures and profile are tastefully done and don't come across as inappropirate to me in any way at all. There are always going to be imbeciles here on POF who are lacking in all the social graces and choose to make fools of themselves hoping there's a woman actually desperate enough to give their sorry asses the time of day. Sadly enough, there ARE enough stupid women here who will do just that. All you can really do is block the mouth-breathing morons.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Does my profile make me look fat? Posted: 11/10/2009 6:34:30 AM
I actually think your profile headline is cute and original. I don't think most of your pictures are doing you any justice at all. Being very honest, I thought you were much older when I was looking at your pictures and was quite surprised to see that you're only 46. I honestly think you need much more flattering pictures.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

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Honest Opinion on my Profile Posted: 11/10/2009 6:28:23 AM
The main photo threw me off. At first, I seriously thought it was a woman. OMG - OP, please don't be offended, but I thought you were a post-op transexual and skimmed your profile to see if there was a reference to that. There are enough of us replying in this thread all saying your pictures are effeminate - so we can't ALL be wrong. Being brutally honest, I wouldn't even read your profile if you showed up as one of my matches because the pictures are just too off-putting for me. You need to change your hairstyle pronto. I don't think it helps you at all.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

Do I owe an explanation? Posted: 11/8/2009 4:13:25 PM
Some people simply don't express themselves well by the written word. I'd hate to see you miss a chance to possibly meet a wonderful woman - simply because her messages were sloppily written. Here's a secret - the guy I'm with now admitted to me that his friend Al was typing all his messages to me when we were in the correspondence phase here on POF because he just isn't good at writing or typing. I thought it was comical and wasn't angry at all. Maybe you could try to take it to the next step, a telephone conversation?

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

Msg: 31 (view)

What does it take for you to Block someone on POF? Posted: 11/8/2009 10:16:52 AM
I very rarely feel the need to block anyone as I've been pretty fortunate and 99% of the gentlemen I've corresponded with have been courteous and gracious. Then there's that 1%. Got a message this past week just saying, "GREAT TITS!!! >>>>" Moron. I blocked the window-licker after sending back a most scathing reply.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

Msg: 77 (view)

Starting a family aged 50+ Posted: 11/8/2009 8:59:26 AM
I've noticed alot of the 50+ males say on their profiles that they want kids, am i alone in thinking thats selfish? I actually do think it's pretty selfish. I see that on alot of 50+ profiles - and alot of them have "no" in the "do you have kids?" field. This kind of says to me that some of these guys were a little too busy enjoying their lives and didn't want to be burdened with children. Now they're in their 50's and suddenly looking past their own noses for the first time in 50 years and are feeling deprived because they won't have a legacy to leave behind once they're gone. Of course, in order to achieve this late-in-life miracle, they'll have to date a 30-something because I don't think too many women 40+ are anxious to have a baby. I've also been contacted by tons of 49+ year old gentlemen who had LITTLE kids - and I mean, 4 and 5 year olds. NO WAY. Lastly, I also think it's very selfish for a 50+ year old man to be looking to have kids this late in life because he'll be 70+ years old at his own kid's graduation. I've read numerous stories over the years from child born to late-in-life parents - and the majority of them felt 'gypped' because their elderly parents simply weren't able to do with them what younger parents would have been able to do.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

Msg: 191 (view)

Shaving or trimming your privates at our age? Posted: 11/8/2009 8:44:28 AM
Exactly, whatever happened to mystery and mystic? Those sort of relevations are purely between someone you have a sexual relationship with... not to be broadcast on a Public forum... IMO... LOL - do you read the "Sex and Dating" forum? There's WAY too much disgusting information shared there. And when the poster has a picture in their profile, it sometimes causes such an ugly painting in my head that it requires brain bleach just to purge myself of it. Here's a tip - don't read that forum when you're eating. I made that mistake a couple times and learned. This topic about shaving is NOTHING compared to what's shared in that forum.

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

23 year old woman without children, and I'm weird? Posted: 11/7/2009 8:36:33 AM
Good for you OP - a refreshing change to see. Most of the guys on the forums in your age bracket complain big time about not being able to find a young woman without a kid or kids - you're in the minority it would appear. Instead of "weird," he should have used the word "rarity."

jerseygirl2008

Joined: 12/27/2007

Msg: 40 (view)

49 and never married/no children Posted: 11/7/2009 2:41:33 AM
I'm going to go against the grain and say that I do find it a bit of a red flag. Some folks here have presented valid arguments that have merit, but I tend to see a 49 or 50 year old man whose never been married as a red flag. The first person I started seeing from POF almost 2 years ago was 49, never married, no kids. I was actually glad for that - no ex-wife drama and no kid drama. Woo hoo! But I told him that his sitation was definitely a red flag to me and he took offense, basically saying he'd never found the right one and why would I hold that against him? He was such a nice, even-tempered, honest, caring and warm individual that I kept thinking, "how is it that this guy hasn't been snatched up yet?" Well, I found out why he was 49 and hadn't been snatched up yet. The guy is a raging alcoholic but hides it pretty well - that's why I didn't catch on immediately. As time went by and I called him randomly on any given weeknight, he was home alone buzzed to the gills. If you wanted to invite him out impulsively on the weekend, you had to call early enough in the day before he started hitting the sauce or he was a prisioner in his house for the rest of the evening as he couldn't drive drunk. Real charming. I only started discovering this behavior about 2 1/2 months in and it didn't last much longer than that because I refuse to align myself with an alcoholic. Not saying everyone must have something "wrong" with them because they're single/childless in their late 40's or 50's, but in my experience, that waving red flag was RIGHT on target.

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