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For me, sexual arousal and desire comes from WHO the man is, not his penis; it is his character, integrity, personality, sense o’ humor et al, in combination with our mutual adoration that is the TURN ON. It is the INTERRELATING dynamic that is the HEART of the relationship, not the COITUS. This dynamic cannot be developed without taking the time to get to know one another.

Some people are just more passionate than others, that is all!

No, no, no Luv2Ski. You clearly have not been reading the forums, or if you have, you just have not paid any attention. The way it works is you set up a pile of requirement, barriers, restrictions and hoops to be jumped, freeze your own personality and needs in hardened concrete, then sit back and wait until the perfect partner falls into your lap.

You don't want or should have the need to work at a relationship. It should happen naturally...

Man pulls away because otherwise the woman will not chase him.

Should a guy go back into a relationship after being dumped?

And I'm telling you, there are MILLIONS of people who hop on disease bandwagons

And also that people who DO claim these disorders do it to give themselves a pass on personal responsibility--this last is the crux of MY argument: that people "claim" these disorders as their own so that they then CAN say, "Hey, look at me I have ADD, I don't need to pay attention! I can be crap at my job! It's medical!"[/quoote]
I understand that that is your claim, and I call BS. I know there's a lot of people who, like Krebby, will find ONE instance of bad behaviour and use that to tar everyone. And I think that's shameful and wrong. Until you know FOR SURE that somebody's a malingerer, you have no right to be judge, jury, and executioner - in short, deciding for yourself that they are liars.

Whatever happened to people being fair? To finding out what's true before you assume the worst of someone? There may be the odd person who will try to pretend illness to get out of things, but that is NOT the norm, so to assume that people saying they have ADD are malingerers is just wrong. Again, 4% of people is a LOT of humans. Do you get that?

What is the medical test for ADD?

Most of the information is gathered "through clinical interviews". Meaning, SUBJECTIVE analysis, with most of the input from YOU, the "sufferer" of the "disease".

Really, you don't think people proudly proclaim their conditions? Do a search on Asperger's (hey, look, another one where there is NO MEDICAL TEST) JUST on PoF, see how many men claim to have it--there was a fairly recent one where the guy even said he'd not been officially diagnosed, he read on the internet how his symptoms fit the disorder (and, yes, posters lambasted him for it). And then see all of you claiming ADD.

r when chronic fatique syndrome was diagnosed all the time? You don't hear people talking about it or claiming it any more.

ey go bug the doctor because they can't concentrate, and since doctors aren't immune to the media, they go, "Oh, ok, you have AADD, here's your drug." I already said that some people actually DO have these conditions, but I said I doubt MOST of the people who claim it have actually been diagnosed.

I also wonder about "fibromyalgia"--seems to me it's the same thing as "getting old". Middle-aged women with sore muscles and some fatigue.

I grew up around people who were diagnosed by The Mayo Clinic as having ADD. I saw them routinely concentrate on what they wanted to concentrate on. It does not take a medical degree to reach the conclusion which fits. If there were anything to ADD, such people would NOT be able to concentrate on what they wanted to....but they do.

Much like honest politicians, military intelligence, and perpetual motion, ADD is a myth. It does not exist. If you are hyperactive to any degree it is because you consume too much salt.

I had one buddy that was spaced out in every physics/math class because he was so gifted in those areas that he was already doing relativistic physics when others were still trying to figure out Newton's basic Laws of Motion... Did he have ADD, or was he simply a bright kid too bored to slow down to the common student level?

Would you also care to take me over your knee and educate me further?

One would hope that you did not decide that your education was complete once you left school and that you're taking pains to educate your own self. I gave you the resources; if you choose to bypass them, big woo. As for the Quackwatch article, why, exactly would you think that 'number of reads' = 'validity'? The two don't correlate. I read the article - and dismissed it as utter BS; as, no doubt, have most other readers who take the time to do proper research.

I VERY much doubt that all of the people who claim they have them actually DO have them.

Right! Because regular normal people would far rather claim to have a mental ailment than be known as regular and normal.

Honestly, where do people like you come up with such inanities? I have never known someone who wanted to be known as having a mental ailment. On the contrary, people who are suffering with these conditions ( or any other mental ailment) very often avoid getting such diagnoses (see the OP) because they DON'T want to be known as having an ailment of the brain.

THEN to be SAFE....you want ALL those diagnosed with ADD to be TREATED as " worst case"?

In fact, the American Psychiatric Association (APA) has issued two skeptical reports, one pertaining to children and adolescents and the other pertaining to adults

My personal problem with Amen, as with all other doctors who treat ADHD is their over eagerness to prescribe dangerous medications.

The OP has stated that he "scares off" a lot of potential partners because he can't slow down.

I personally do not believe in ADD/ADHD

Bah I'd probably get a positive on the sociopath test too: I have little regard for human life, have killed small animals nonchalantly in youth, and don't have any real sympathy/empathy to speak of;

His treatment of me was unacceptable to the point of abusive-

The top 0.5% of the population as far as money, power, and knowledge all have ADD but you are going to look down upon us?

I can tell you that in the case of your ex there were clearly OTHER issues much more severe than ADD, and he was being done a disservice by NOT having those other issues addressed.

If Larry and Joe are good friends, Larry will reject you. Bros before hos and all that.

Any suggestions as to what i should do with them?

I didn't follow any of the typical safe dating guidelines,nor did he

anyone who can dismiss experiencing intense orgasms as "merely enjoying sensation", doesn't know what an intense orgasm feels like.

Pure conjecture based on the false premise that a chemical "bonding" agent is present during "sex",

Post a link to one study that scientifically supports that.

which mountians of empirical evidence to the contrary, exist.

But that's a hard sell to someone who's had many mind blowing orgasms, and discovered that orgasms and love are not mutually inclusive.

But the audience here isn't naive.

Well, it's better to do it with a living breathing human being

On the top of a man's list for fulfillment in a relationship is sexual fulfillment.

Did anyone test men on drinking alcohol related to cancer or are they still allowed to have fun?

Feb. 24, 2009 -- Women who drink as little as one alcoholic beverage a day -- be it beer, wine, or hard liquor -- have an increased cancer risk, a study shows.

Researchers followed more than 1.2 million middle-aged women for an average of seven years. The women were participants in the ongoing Million Women Study in the U.K.

Those who drank alcohol consumed on average one drink a day. These women had an increased cancer risk with increasing alcohol intake, especially for cancers of the breast, liver, rectum, mouth, throat, and esophagus.

Based on their findings, the researchers estimated that alcohol could be to blame for 13% of these cancers in women.

The link between alcohol and breast cancer has been extensively researched and reported on, but the study is among the first to link low-to-moderate alcohol consumption to other cancers in women.

"There were no minimum levels of alcohol consumption that could be considered to be without risk," cancer epidemiologist and study researcher Naomi Allen, DPhil, of the University of Oxford, tells WebMD.
Alcohol and Breast Cancer

Most of the excess cases were breast cancers. Allen and colleagues concluded that as many as 11% of breast cancers can be attributed to alcohol consumption.
http://women.webmd.com/news/20090224/alcohol-linked-to-cancer-risk-in-women

The new study tracked the health of 122,000 women since 1976. They were free of cancer at the start of the study. Every four years, the women were asked how much alcohol they had used during an average month in the past year.

By 2002, nearly 6,000 of the women developed breast cancer.

When compared with teetotalers:
Women who drank the equivalent of a half glass of wine a day were 6% more likely to develop breast cancer.
Women who drank a glass or two a day faced a 21% increased risk of breast cancer.
Those who drank more than two drinks a day were 37% more likely to develop breast cancer.

However, the risk was much greater in menopausal women:
Menopausal women who drank a half glass of wine daily increased their chance of breast cancer by 18%.
http://www.webmd.com/breast-cancer/guide/20061101/alcohol-breast-cancer-risk

that women and men are evolutionally wired in the exact same way when it comes to sex

Whenever a person is sexually involved with another person, neurochemical changes occur in both their brains that encourage limbic, emotional bonding. Yet, limbic bonding is the reason casual sex doesn’t really work for most people on a whole mind and body level. Two people may decide to have sex “just for the fun of it,” yet something is occurring on another level they might not have decided on at all: Sex is enhancing an emotional bond between them whether they want it or not. One person, often the woman, is bound to form an attachment and will get hurt when the affair ends. The reason it is usually the woman is that the size of a female’s limbic system, in comparison to the rest of her brain, is larger than it is for a man. Consequently, she is more likely to get limbically connected.

Normal men don't need an emotional connection to enjoy sex. It's simply a fact of life. We are sexual beings. In my entire life experience... high school, college, service, professional life, travels, etc.. I have NEVER met a man who needed to be "in love" in order to enjoy sex.

You won't find any threads with me complaining about women not responding to e-mail and not being able to get dates and other such nonsense.... it simply hasn't been a problem for me...

Can't imagine why guys like you are sleeping alone..

Have you never just wanted sex for relief and not for love, romance, cuddling ?

i was listening to Dave Brindle on the radio friday. He was interviewing this guy who made a documentary, Olympia, about how the torch relay and ceremony came about during the berlin olympics...the nazi party essentially. They're the ones who "invented" and started that tradition.

Immediately women and men will chime in with, "You're just an egotistical prick,"

3) men refuse, or are unable, to see the red lights she is flashing months in advance, leaving her to be the one to finally say "bye"?