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kuddlekitty

Joined: 12/30/2007

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Adam Lambert American Music Awards Posted: 11/24/2009 1:50:58 PM
I didn't like his performance that night. At all. Didn't like his look, didn't think he showcased his amazing voice, not so thrilled with the song. It looked like a video from an S&M club. Whips, collars, dragging a dude across the floor, making out with a guy, pulling at a girl's crotch... I think he was making a statement. "This is who I am, and if straight performers are allowed to be overtly sexual then so can I." He said in the past that he doesn't have a gay agenda, that he doesn't want to be the representative...that he just wants to entertain...yet given his first real chance at a major awards show he came on with his shock value. With that said I'm still a huge fan because he is everything I thought he was...extremely well-spoken, articulate, intelligent, still has an outstanding voice and is incredibly hot. But, I'm used to him singing covers...I'm not used to his own music. Don't know if I like his personal music. And maybe I would've liked his performance better if I saw it on cable...on video...I was kinda shocked to see it on a network show. Still, as I already stated, it wasn't just him being overt...and maybe because of the gay factor some people were more outraged...But....Madonna's notorious for using whips and chains...brought religious figures into her stuff...made out with Britney on TV, dressed like a dominatrix...had a scandalous book about sex years ago..all the rappers and their "booty call" chicks in the background...it's always there...and Adam is taking the fall. So, though it wasn't, in my opinion, a great performance, nor did it showcase his incredible voice...I do think he's being unfairly criticized...the whole show was erotic and suggestive! (Good save though when he fell UP the stairs and tried to incorporate it into the choreography! Too funny...)

kuddlekitty

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Adam Lambert American Music Awards Posted: 11/24/2009 12:12:45 PM
So, did any of you see Adam's performance on the AMA awards? ABC has since received over 1500 complaints, and his Good Morning America interview has been canceled. Did you like his performance? Do you think he went too far? Is he being unduly singled out because it was "too gay" for network TV?" Madonna and Britney locked lips, Chris Brown physically abused Rihanna, lots of hip/hop music with women looking like hookers...there are so many overtly sexual performances...MTV is like a porn station! LOL. Do you think Adam is being unfairly singled out. Or, do you think it was a calculated publicity stunt that will benefit him in the end.

kuddlekitty

Joined: 12/30/2007

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Religion Posted: 11/15/2009 3:26:28 PM
message 27: "...people can convert to Judaism?" It isn't logical. They're not changing their DNA..." Jesus was Jewish. So what happened to all the people who followed him, and called themselves a different faith. So, are you biologically tied to Jesus? No. The Jews are. He didn't change his DNA...he didn't even change his religion. He never gave up Judaism. So....does that make all his followers converts? Different DNA? Judaism is, as mentioned above, a religion and a culture. You can be of the culture but not practice the religion, just as you may be born into any religion but not practice it. But, just like Italian, Greek, German, Irish...all with cultural traditions...there are traditions (types of food, holiday, shared history) in the Jewish culture, which may differ depending on whether one is Ashkenazie (European origin) or Sephardic (Spanish, Middle Eastern).

kuddlekitty

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Looking For Some Real Honest Answers Here Posted: 11/14/2009 6:17:13 AM
You have GOT to be kidding! Your quote: "Third, I cannot emphasize enough that it was drilled into my head how important family was. With over 100 of them, and many of them retired, not a single one stepped up to lend a hand to Mom. Now why is that???? DUHHHHH. Because they have their own lives to lead!!!!!!!! This girl's sister was her caretaker because Mom lived in the house with her. Mom needed managed care. Mom had lots of money. So, she goes to assisted care. End of story. Nope. This woman leaves the relationship, goes to Mom, and moves in with her in her sister's house. Family is family and she had many, many choices." You lost any sympathy from me once I read that completely devoid of emotion (other than hostility and resentment) uncaring statement. OH...and hint...if her mom lived with her sister who was her caretaker...then another sibling...her sister!!!..."lent a hand and stepped in." It was her MOTHER!!! It shouldn't matter if she were an only child or if she were one of twenty! Her mother, as you so empathetically (see sarcasm) expressed..."was on her last leg." She DIED! It's not about whether her mom or your ex had "other choices." Your ex knew this would be the last days with her mom, and wanted to spend time with her. "She goes to assisted care. End of story..." NO! Not "end" of story, just different location. If she wanted to sit by her side, that's her business, her life, her mom. Perhaps you don't understand love...for a parent.

kuddlekitty

Joined: 12/30/2007

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Do you ever think about how much time you have left? Posted: 11/10/2009 9:35:48 AM
OP... Great post. it's a shame its seems to be almost completely misinterpreted... Agree with you completely; people cut and bail for ridiculous reasons...something they should be over by the time they reach "emotional" maturity. And yes, there are people looking to find a long-term, committed relationship, find one, and then leave it because they think there's someone better...or the infatuation is gone, or they bicker once every two weeks...they can find a myriad of reasons why the relationship is no longer working. And so they go to the next, and the next, and the next...searching for the "fantasy"...where reality doesn't intrude...to the end of their days. By the way, Liliana (message 67)...great post. Think you got the OP spot on; agree with you too.

kuddlekitty

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Are disproportionate age ranges requirements a red flag? Posted: 11/9/2009 3:12:33 PM
What I notice is that a lot of guys will go as high as one year younger than them: 44... a woman can't be older than 43 54...a woman can't be older than 53 etc... Is that the old, "the man should be older" way of thinking? Too funny!

kuddlekitty

Joined: 12/30/2007

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The Box Posted: 11/8/2009 5:35:51 PM
The question is so ludicrous to any human being who values human life that it's beyond comprehension. It wouldn't matter if it was someone I loved or just some stranger; what normal human being would have such a callous disregard for life. It's beyond even comtemplating.. To anyone who thinks they could/would...what's the difference between that and just pulling the trigger of a gun and blowing someone away for their money. Okay, blindfold yourself; then you won't have to see him/her.

kuddlekitty

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Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop Posted: 11/5/2009 7:13:54 AM
Zephyr: Ohhhhhhhhh.... He sounds...NOT SO GOOD! It sounds like you might want people to tell you to stay, like you're looking for a reason to stay...like you want people to tell you the things he said/does isn't that bad. They are. There is one exception in my opinion. Mentioning his deceased wife, as you say, "by name." I see nothing wrong with that unless for some reason he brings her up to compare you or make you feel insecure. She has passed, and was someone presumably he loved. Is he bringing her up to share a memory with you, relate a story, or shut you out? Only you can answer that. The rest? It seems from your profile that you have found it difficult to meet men that you feel are your intellectual equal. You want someone you can relate to, have a meaningful rapport with, who "gets you." Perhaps he has these qualities; add lust and you're hooked! But...you have to stand back. All that would be great if it were coupled with a loving, nurturing, supportive partner who was your best friend. Who has your back. Who doesn't slap down $5.00 with resentment and anger but instead offers it without anything but love and perhaps says "forget about it" when you offer to pay him back. Not someone you feel a need to repay immediately. Ripped up your mail because it was addressed to your ex? Flew into a rage? Does that sound intelligent, rational, calm...someone you can really communicate with? On a dating site because you had a fight? Ultimately I would hope you want someone you can lean on, someone with whom you feel so close in your intellectual, emotional bond that you feel secure, cherished and confident, knowing you can come to this person with anything, share whatever you hope to share, and who will be your biggest supporter through wonderful and difficult times. Don't let attraction blind you.

kuddlekitty

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The New Jewish Lobby Posted: 11/4/2009 9:07:45 AM
itechman63... intelligent, fair post. as for some other posters, try to stick on topic. this post isn't about your negative, anti-Israel feelings which you repeat, cut and paste on every similar thread. It's about a group the OP has brought up.

kuddlekitty

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The New Jewish Lobby Posted: 11/3/2009 1:05:41 PM
what I think interesting is that the same posters continually feel a need to post threads on Israel and Jewish people, analyze, dissect and give their "expert" opinions. Usually to the negative. As said, it's the same posters most of the time. The OP even managed to capsulize past threads that were closed, perhaps to subliminally reinstate some previous opinions expressed on those closed threads. As someone pointed out on another thread...being objective or having an opinion is one thing...being obsessed is another. That's where one crosses the line between objective interest or concern for a situation...and bias or perceived anti-semitism.

kuddlekitty

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Confused & upset - Why do men do this? Posted: 11/2/2009 9:47:58 AM
Hi OP... You said you guys made a "tentative date..." but you called him the next night after your first date. Even though he expressed a lot of interest (by your account he asked twice if you wanted to see him again/when can he see you again), it might be that he is someone who likes his ego fed, but at the same time likes the chase...Could be he got scared off when you called him, and so soon after your marathon meet! Don't call him again and see if he calls you. If not, you haven't lost anything because as much fun/connection you had it ultimately didn't pan out, nor did he have the maturity to get back to you. On the other hand, he might yet call if you give him space. Best...

kuddlekitty

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The New Jewish Lobby Posted: 10/29/2009 3:17:40 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^ "Not ALWAYS... just USUALLY..." that's one poster's opinion, and those that share it. Then there's mine, and those who share it. People will continue to assess and debate the situation, as they should, without bias, instead of calling one side "evil" as his been declared in many a statement. There already are, in existence, groups of Israelis and Palestinians who have been working together for peace, who haven't resorted to the name-calling that has been written/discussed/read. THOSE groups work toward peace...not "spectators" on boards who resort to one-sided propaganda. And if this new organization can work toward that as well while keeping the Jewish state safe, more power to em.

kuddlekitty

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First Line, Last Line (Part Deux) Posted: 10/28/2009 9:26:24 PM
guess I've fallen on deaf ear since you don't seem to hear me I'm talkin' to you listen up and get a clue stoic resistance ballsy persistence open your mind, relax your stance let your thoughts and spirit dance

kuddlekitty

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The New Jewish Lobby Posted: 10/28/2009 2:14:39 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^ seems to me that to some, regardless of what happens the Arabs are right and Israel is always wrong.

kuddlekitty

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First Line, Last Line (Part Deux) Posted: 10/26/2009 4:47:41 AM
Joining forces is our destiny And so the friends did think Never to be separated On that they shared a drink Years go by they wither The friends they go astray Remembering days of unity A different life... back in the day

kuddlekitty

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First Line, Last Line (Part Deux) Posted: 10/22/2009 8:51:33 PM
and the bulldozer steams ahead at full tilt crumbling the buildings that once some men built knocking down stone doors to the past laying foundations with one steady blast the journey begins one brick at a time starting all over apres the decline the fortress goes up, a new world arises Paving the sidewalk with rocks of all sizes

kuddlekitty

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First Line, Last Line (Part Deux) Posted: 10/21/2009 8:01:16 PM
matters not, on with the show I just ate a Cheerio that looked like a toe does that sound weird, I think it does must be the high from the cereal buzz what am I going on about makes no sense to pout and doubt I think I need to get some sleep then wake and think of something deep

kuddlekitty

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First Line, Last Line (Part Deux) Posted: 10/9/2009 7:26:01 PM
2am calls again and I am not at home I'm dancing the night away with the crowd In a crowd you are never alone And when it strikes 3am I am still getting down with the sound The cathartic deep beat, that brings up the heat Is a party where I can be found

kuddlekitty

Joined: 12/30/2007

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First Line, Last Line (Part Deux) Posted: 10/9/2009 2:31:09 PM
the human heart is like a hand it opens and closes rat-a-tat tats on the beat of a drum takes and gives crushes and gets crushed... pounds to its own beat

kuddlekitty

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First Line, Last Line (Part Deux) Posted: 10/8/2009 1:07:34 PM
sometimes I like to fish in the nude but only with a swimmingly debonair dude and then only if I'm floating on air a mattress more comfy when lying on bare but when I get dressed I'd like there to be a warm, hunky gent in a tight white tee who gazes at me and with eyes he does say wow, you're hot, you make my day!

kuddlekitty

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First Line, Last Line (Part Deux) Posted: 10/8/2009 10:45:20 AM
For if we didn't to society say goodbye We'd be saying hello And then it'd be how do you do But from there where'd we go... I guess it would be...did you have a good day? Or maybe we'd ask...did you have a good lay... Oh, who really cares, what we had at all It's a way to pass time like throwing a ball

kuddlekitty

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First Line, Last Line (Part Deux) Posted: 10/7/2009 2:04:33 PM
and that our souls are already priced it's not so it is only a heist for with freedom of will and good hearts at the till we can be rid of the bad poltergeist the air is now free of bad vibes and the new law is written by scribes so let us now say that the dawn of new day won't be bought with a handful of bribes!

kuddlekitty

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Emotionally Unavailable = Scared Posted: 10/2/2009 4:22:39 PM
Landra: Message 2: Great site! The woman who runs it is one of the most insightful people I have ever read!

kuddlekitty

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Do you separate the art from the artist? Posted: 10/2/2009 4:16:13 PM
This is totally subjective. Personally, I wouldn't support an artist of any genre if I didn't like what they stood for. It depends on "your" tolerance level; what you are willing to accept in a person in order to suspend your disbelief. Meaning...can you block out what is reprehensible about the person enough to enjoy his/her work. Example: As a Jewish person I would never again see a Mel Gibson movie. Interesting to see if Kanye West's fans can separate their love of his music from the fact he's an ass.

kuddlekitty

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I'll Be Posted: 9/25/2009 10:12:36 AM
"Hey pianoman, I'm not sure who actually wrote the lyrics to "I'll Be" but Reba McEntire sings it. You probably should have mentioned that otherwise it might be a copyright violation. " Oops! Googled it; she's right. PianoMan...what say you???

kuddlekitty

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I'll Be Posted: 9/25/2009 9:45:02 AM
Oh Truthy... You're such a mush! He's right Piano...very nice.

kuddlekitty

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It is so you! You you you you you you! Posted: 9/21/2009 5:56:31 PM
Impune: Couple of questions: Why did they let you out... How long have you been this way... Did you take your meds...

kuddlekitty

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It is so you! You you you you you you! Posted: 9/21/2009 9:41:40 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Wow, that was a good attempt at a manipulative strategic move. Ignoring me and Rock Man calling you out on your disgusting comments to more than half the posters you're now amiably chatting with? You're gracing the" old hags" and "senior citizens" with your time? Hahahahahaha...so transparent.

kuddlekitty

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It is so you! You you you you you you! Posted: 9/21/2009 7:38:10 AM
Again, referring to Lusting Impressions message 60: He says: "Interesting how most senior citizens here are to the OP's side while younger folks point out her insecurity. Well on second thoughts it's not interesting at all, it's expected. Old hags and folks realize very well they cannot compete with younglings on the attraction department so they throw out guilt-evoking buzz words like "respect", "tact", "class", etc. Go figure." He defends his words with: "Age is directly related to the topic of this thread, so an observation about the age of the responders was on topic. Finding some other irrelevant information about the OP to attack him/her instead of the focusing on the topic is unethical." _________________________________________________________________ Since you're being so technical, age was not brought in. It was implied. Now, if age was implied, then it was also implied that an older guy was saying to his older girlfriend that he thought women half her age (and his) were UNBELIEVABLE looking. Which would also imply that he was attracted to them which would also imply that he didn't need to share that information with his girlfriend and would also imply that it seemed to bother her from her implied post! However, calling people "old hags" and "senior citizens" is your way of bringing the "implied" age into the context? That to you is respectful, ethical and not "pathetic?" Talking about age...grow up!

kuddlekitty

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being disabled Posted: 9/20/2009 2:01:43 PM
Just when I thought that Missy Gingersnap was going to win the prize on this thread for a callous, insensitive statement, Starfish swooped in and stole her thunder right from out under her and topped it! Ahhhh, delusions of grandeur abound. Scarepro: You are perfect as you are. You volunteer at a nursing home? Your obvious intelligent, gentle, caring yet fun nature will eventually attract a special someone. It's difficult for us all to meet/click with that right someone...lots of us are searching... Best...

kuddlekitty

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It is it him or me! Posted: 9/19/2009 9:21:40 PM
Lusting: Message 112. LOL...you're so right, "never argue with an idiot," that is why I don't argue with you!!!!. Let's all refer back to message 60 again, shall we? Let's follow your technique: You get on these sites to inflame and insult, and then you attempt to twist it around like other people are saying offensive things. You start...then when you're confronted, you get defensive. Nice... THEN...this is soooo interesting, you get defended by two more, hmmmm, let's leave that next word to the imagination...and they jump on the bandwagon! Then you rally your "defenders," you all give each other the virtual high five. Too funny. Fun too! Once again, thanks for the entertainment! Sleeping Beauty: Message 118 "kinda creepy actually. yikes! bottom feeders extravaganza here!!!!! beware toxic waters!!!!!!!!" Yep! Spot on...where's the lifeguard when ya need him! :)

kuddlekitty

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It is it him or me! Posted: 9/19/2009 6:32:09 PM
107: well now THAT story was funny! (though comparing apples to oranges with the OPs question.) 108: I said nothing different than any other female or male on this thread that thought the OP was right. There was not one line off base. I did react to Lusting Impressions, message 60, because his comment was beyond assinine. (Oh, and by the way, I didn't address anything to your Rocket Man, he came outta nowhere and started in on me. I just returned the favor. ) Now, if you, or your bud, Rocket Man, want to get all righteous about what is or isn't appropriate to say, why don't you berate Lusting Impressions. No? Won't do that? Hmmmm... Nuf said. Keep laughing your ass off. That's what fools do best. Nite nite! :)

kuddlekitty

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It is it him or me! Posted: 9/19/2009 5:31:00 PM
yep. quite sure! and this scenario just isn't that funny. thanks for checkin'!

kuddlekitty

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It is it him or me! Posted: 9/19/2009 1:29:45 PM
Rock Man I'm not even going to get into a thing with you about emotional maturity etc. Waste of my time. But if you think it's appropriate to attack someone with no provocation (like YOU'RE the epitome of maturity?) that's sad and a frightening thought. Although I do appreciate the personalized rant. Thanks! I'll explain to you what I said in simpler terms...consider this your monarch notes. EVERYONE IS ATTRACTED TO OTHER PEOPLE, WHETHER THEY ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP OR NOT!. WE ALL KNOW THAT. WE CAN BE ATTRACTED TO YOUNGER AS WELL AS OLDER THAN US! WE DO NOT NEED TO POINT THIS OUT TO OUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER...ESPECIALLY IF IT BOTHERS HIM/HER. GET IT??? I could go on, but I'll take the high road...where I know you can't follow me. I stand by my opinion on this thread. Your opinion? Means nothing to me.

kuddlekitty

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It is it him or me! Posted: 9/19/2009 12:20:12 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^ er, in what context would a man telling a woman he's dating that he thinks college women (who are his daughters peers) are UNBELIEVABLY hot is humorous. Cause I'm all about the humor.

kuddlekitty

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It is it him or me! Posted: 9/19/2009 10:42:32 AM
I actually edited out the "oh shit..." thanks for putting it back for me! Seriously, there's no debate with you because your answers spew emotional immaturity. I wouldn't take advantage of your "state of mind." And if you don't grow emotionally in twenty years, and you think that's what will keep you young...then you're just a tad off. It'll keep you immature. But you can wage these "intellectual, philosophical" thoughts you have, with, how'd you put it...younglings...til your heart's content. But, uh-oh, major flaw! They'll think you're too old for them! What's a guy to do...

kuddlekitty

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It is it him or me! Posted: 9/19/2009 10:20:08 AM
(message 60) "Interesting how most 'senior citizens' are on the OP's side while younger folk..." "Old hags and folks realize they cannot compete with younglings..." I'd like to think Lusting Impressions idiotic comments are because of his age, but I was never that crass, immature, or backward thinking. So, he's a perfect example of how emotional age has nothing to do with chronological age. He'll probably have the same mentality when he's a "senior citizen" at 49. LOL...so dumb... Back to point. Once again, this isn't about if we stop looking or noticing how attractive other people are, it's about telling your partner about it. Why? What's the point? Especially if you know it hurts/upsets/makes the other person feel insecure. This isn't about walking on eggshells, or being afraid to discuss things with your SO...it's about, yeah, knowing what's going to push buttons or make someone insecure. And, if you want to talk about age...yeah, take that same woman who feels "secure"...flash forward 20 years when her boyfriend/husband is oggling 20-somethings and she's in her 50s. Her perspective might change. Talking about college age girls/guys is not the same thing as saying I think a celebrity/musician/film star is hot; it's a bit closer to reality. The OP's boyfriend didn't say, "those college kids...male and female...are UNBELIEVABLE!" No, he focused on the girls, and said "is it bad" which meant he was saying he thinks they're hot...why would you tell your girlfriend that? To those thinking it's no big deal, explain what the point would be. Really, explain how this is beneficial to the relationship, or, is sooooo important for him to get off his chest that he needs to "share" these thoughts with the OP. Okay, take away age. What if he just went into a restaurant and there was a group of women, the same age as this couple...should he turn to her and say, "did you notice how hot those women are?" Yeah, there's a great conversationalist right there!

kuddlekitty

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Msg: 52 (view)

is it him or me?? Posted: 9/19/2009 6:18:18 AM
It's him, OP. You were totally right. His comment was obnoxious and served no purpose. Is there a purpose in telling your girlfriend that you think women younger than her look really good? To you guys who think it was such an innocent comment, maybe he should have just told his daughter that he thinks her schoolmates are hot! Or, he could have said, "wow, kids today...or, "I never looked that good when I was their age." (referring to the college guys.) Oh...that's not what he meant? It wasn't just an innocent observation about college kids? Oh...... Give me a break. Edit: To the poster below me...noticing other people besides your SO are hot is normal and human; feeling the need to share your observations with him/her is disrespectful. Unless you're in an open relationship, or you enjoy pointing out others that you're attracted to or find attractive with each other which some people do, there is no need or benefit to telling the person you're dating/married to that you find others hot. Especially people that are half your age. I doubt a man would feel different if he was on the beach, bear belly and all, while his girlfriend/wife says, "man, look at the six pack on that young guy!" It's irrational to express jealousy, hurt, anger in a loving, stable relationship. It is not irrational to be offended, hurt or bothered when your partner is deliberately going out of his way to point out other people he finds attractive. THAT'S immature. And HE/SHE shouldn't be in a relationship if they can't be respectful to their partner! It's THAT type of person who will mess up every relationship.

kuddlekitty

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logic and lust from a man's perspective please Posted: 9/13/2009 7:42:16 AM
It sounds like what you're saying is the guys you are meeting are coming on strong, they seem so interested that they want to know if you're interested in a long term relationship. You say yes, that you are, and then, either after more conversations or actually meeting, they are finding ways to end things with you...such as what you mentioned...schedules, interests, etc. So, if I'm interpreting this correctly, you're wondering if they are coming on really strong and interested because they are so attracted to you (in their "lust" stage) that they're not thinking of practical things, differences. I think a lot of people throw logic out the window in the initial stages of infatuation/lust. It either turns into something more, or...it doesn't. And then those "excuses" whether real or not, come into play.

kuddlekitty

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Boyfriend and girlfriend, and she gets up and leaves right after the sex is over! Posted: 9/8/2009 8:42:25 AM
Yo, I tink... You're LYAO??? Now THAT'S funny, cause you're putting me in hysterics! If you think clarifying what an OP is saying is off topic...so that people can stay on topic...is funny, that's funny! Sad. But funny. It all comes down to comprehension...but that'd be difficult for you to understand. (Comprehension. Understand?) Get it? ROFLD! Oh, and someone who uses words like "faggot" in his anti-gay slur should be concentrating more on his small mind and big mouth. To the other chick. You say in your profile you don't want to get flamed on the forums, or start one. Then you antagonize me, and say that the OP shouldn't ask a question at "his age...wtf?" Yeah, wtf. Which is it, you don't want to get flamed, ...or you start one and then wonder how it happened.

kuddlekitty

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Msg: 53 (view)

Eight year age gap ok? Posted: 9/7/2009 9:09:55 PM
BenCasey: Really? So when you're 60 you think all the 37 year old women are going to be lining up? Or, when you're 70, and she's 42, (half your age plus seven) she'll be really hot for you. Let me get this straight: woman EIGHT years older than a dude, not so great...But! A woman should be jumping at the change to go out with a guy 20 plus years older than her!

kuddlekitty

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Msg: 44 (view)

Problems with my mother Posted: 9/7/2009 8:27:55 PM
Once again, many people didn't read the OP's dilemma correctly. So, now that we've HOPEFULLY established that he is NOT LIVING IN HIS MOM'S BASEMENT APT... The reason she could report him is because many basement apartments are illegal to rent if they are not built to code and if the owner hasn't filed it/had it inspected as a legal residence. Therefore, his mother is obviously threatening to report it to housing authorities. It's not about what his friend has or hasn't done..if the OP, as an adult likes and trusts his friend, that's his decision. Your mom needs help OP...and unfortunately you're a victim of her psychological problems. You've got to distance yourself to some extent so that you can lead a normal, adult, emotionally healthy independent life. It's difficult...perhaps you should speak to a family counselor and get advice. Good Luck!

kuddlekitty

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Msg: 42 (view)

Boyfriend and girlfriend, and she gets up and leaves right after the sex is over! Posted: 9/7/2009 4:47:22 PM
ammazzed... It's fine to have a different opinion. What I've said is that many of the replies were not related to his question. I written what I thought several times now. He is stating that IN A RELATIONSHIP this woman implied she ALWAYS did that. He got answers saying, "she won't call you back." "now you know how a woman feels when a man leaves." "yeah, sometimes people use people." WHAT DOES ANY OF THOSE RESPONSES HAVE TO DO WITH HIS OPENING STATEMENT!!!! IN A "RELATIONSHIP" DO YOU DO THAT???? Yes? No? Why? Simple question/answer. No right or wrong. But people, stop implying the OP's been used and as one poster said, she "can't believe" his age because he asked something like that! Something like WHAT!!!!!!!! Man!

kuddlekitty

Joined: 12/30/2007

Msg: 38 (view)

Boyfriend and girlfriend, and she gets up and leaves right after the sex is over! Posted: 9/7/2009 3:59:15 PM
IdoDares1 Thanks...LOL...but these forums are frustrating because many times the people who respond barely pay attention to the question and/or don't read other people's comments so it's all disjointed and off topic. I respectfully disagree with you however; the title of the OP's thread states specifically about a scenario in which a girlfriend gets up and leaves a boyfriend after sex all the time. People have laughed in his face thinking he's been used. They've given him advice. They've said what's the difference if a female does it...guys do it all the time. Etc. If you're going to take the time to respond, at least be on topic (I'm not referring to you Ido...). This is a question about sex in a relationship...not the OP's relationship, not a one-night stand, not who does it more, girls or guys, not how many of you just have sex for sex sake and then go about doing your own thing...I think he was asking if people have just gotten out of bed after sex and left their boyfriend/girlfriend repeatedly...(not have you ever used anyone or had a one night stand and then just left) my take is he doesn't think it's cool and was wondering what others have done/felt about this. Shouldn't be so difficult to answer and I don't think the OP deserves all the snide comments he's gotten. Read a few, especially on the first page... :)

kuddlekitty

Joined: 12/30/2007

Msg: 36 (view)

Boyfriend and girlfriend, and she gets up and leaves right after the sex is over! Posted: 9/7/2009 11:39:52 AM
Why is anyone bothering to answer this post. Most of you don't read. Reread the OP's statement, understand this scenario DID NOT happen to him, this is not a question about ONE NIGHT STANDS, and is not about which gender does it and why.

kuddlekitty

Joined: 12/30/2007

Msg: 17 (view)

Boyfriend and girlfriend, and she gets up and leaves right after the sex is over! Posted: 9/6/2009 7:58:57 AM
I don't know; either I'm reading something different than everyone that's responded so far or there is a mass comprehension problem going on. The OP did not have sex with this woman. They did not have a one night stand. He was not talking about himself. He stated she was telling him about her last relationship and what she did with her boyfriend. To answer his question the way I understood it, what she did sucks. No pun intended. I think if either party in a relationship gets up and leaves, on a regular basis, after sex with the person they are in a relationship with, that person has emotional intimacy issues and probably should just stick to one night stands. No, OP. I wouldn't do that. If I felt the need to flee, I shouldn't have been there or in that relationship in the first place.

kuddlekitty

Joined: 12/30/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

Broken Trust ? Posted: 9/2/2009 11:56:54 PM
I don't think you were wrong to erase the tape and I don't think it was an invastion of his privacy. He kept these recordings to taunt you, to use against you, all the while claiming to be back in a relationship with you. What you did was self-preservation of your ego; he was using what he considered "incriminating evidence" to indicate that you were some raving lunatic who said horrible things to his innocent self. Ha. If you were so wrong in whatever you said he wouldn't have been back with you. Glad you erased the tapes. He sounds like a manipulative, controlling ass who was shocked and freaked out to know that you destroyed his "weapon" and the "proof" he had against you. What you did isn't a case of someone sneaking around and randomly spying and deleting/stealing someone's stuff...these were your words that he kept as some sadistic payback. You asked him to erase them, not only did he not, he played them whenever he felt like it to hurt you and start another abusive cycle. Good job! Now go find yourself a healthy relationship (and I agree with other posters who said you may need to analyze yourself to find out why you wanted to stay in an abusive relationship) and don't let him manipulate you into doubting yourself once again,

kuddlekitty

Joined: 12/30/2007

Msg: 33 (view)

When does the pain end? Posted: 8/30/2009 8:37:52 PM
Hi Raybear... First let me say that you sound like a wonderful, loving person who devoted yourself to your wife. Please take pride in knowing that when you look back on your own life one day, you will know that you gave of yourself unselfishly and helped another human being. That in itself gives your life meaning. Unfortunately, due to circumstances, perhaps your wife was so depressed by her own medical condition, that she associated you and your shared home with memories of not being well. When she ventured out, and met new people, maybe she felt they looked at her differently...not as a someone sickly...and she needed a new start. I can understand this from a psychological viewpoint, but not from a place of love. I wish for you that it had turned out differently; I wish for you that she had been there through your medical crisis. Instead, you battled that as well, you're in a better place financially, and you have the love and support of your daughters. You truly have a lot going for you. Start living and enjoying your life. Really enjoy it...for you. And when the time is right you'll know when you're ready to begin a new chapter romantically. Whomever she will be will be a lucky lady. Best to you.

kuddlekitty

Joined: 12/30/2007

Msg: 42 (view)

Eight year age gap ok? Posted: 8/30/2009 8:17:57 PM
ninjaeleven: why wouldn't it work for you now or for the long haul...sociologists actually say that it's better for the woman to be older than the man by about seven years as their life spans will coincide better as they age in terms of longevity. unless you're implying the woman would be too "old" for a youngin that's all of EIGHT WHOLE YEARS less than her. do I detect sexism???

kuddlekitty

Joined: 12/30/2007

Msg: 57 (view)

I only see my boyfriend once a week Posted: 8/28/2009 8:00:20 AM
The OP closed her account...maybe she's spending more time with her boyfriend!

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