Communication is what we all want with our partner so that we can get to know each other better.
what sort of personality he has--if, for instance, he's the type of person to tell a stranger his life story, he honestly might not understand that disclosing something about you would be against your wishes.
Wow do you know him or something! This is him exactly. He is not someone who keeps anything about himself hidden or private. He is the kind of person who is the type to say "love me as I am flaws and all". He doesn't seem to get that not everyone should know every single detail about yourself ,and that some things are private. This type of thinking ,according to him, has gotten him into trouble quite a few times in the past as well.
I feel (from this) that you might have been testing him, which is understandable.
(suggestion would be don't make it to personal that if it gets out it could hurt)
I know for myself I had much to learn about healthy relationships, I grew up in a very physically, emotionally, and mentally abusive household and after (only one) divorce I needed to do something so I would not have to ever go through something this painful again HOPEFULLY.