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 Author Thread: I demand everybody here to SMILE
 datingok
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 69 (view)
 
I demand everybody here to SMILE
Posted: 8/19/2009 6:43:09 PM
Everyone still smiling biggly???
 datingok
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 57 (view)
 
I demand everybody here to SMILE
Posted: 8/16/2009 12:01:44 AM
Well I smile a lot, and I am certifiable! So there you go! Some of my friends like to greet me with "hi there crazy girl" - and I LOVE it!!! Makes me laugh every time. And biggly is the best word ever - made me LOL - hope the neighbours aren't listening.

Be happy fellow fishies...


 datingok
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 348 (view)
 
A hidden truth.. Depression...
Posted: 6/21/2009 1:25:27 PM
I've posted about depression before. If I wasn't upfront about having depression, you would never know. I'm one of the most upbeat people you'll ever meet. Life is GOOD these days, and has been since I accepted a lot of years ago that I would need to be on medication for the rest of my life. Not everyone needs to be on medication permanently, in fact for the majority of people with depression, it's situational, and with a combination of medication and therapy, good lifestyle choices, they can gradually reduce their medication until they don't need it any more.
When depression becomes problematic is if someone has trouble accepting they have it - and I can see why that happens - I often get pressure to quit taking medication. "Why are you taking medication, you're one of the least depressed people I know." I hear that often. But the reality is, if I'm not on medication my life slowly closes in on me, and my world turns from color to black and white. I'm not willing to live in a black and white world, so I take the medication. It's worth it.
But we need to change our thinking, so that it's okay for people to say they have it, not try to hide it, and it becomes much, much easier to lead a healthy, happy life even if you have depression. And the reality is, there are many, many people who suffer from it. Many don't seek treatment because of the stigma, and that's unfortunate. If people saw it the same way we saw "physical illnesses" as opposed to "mental illnesses", it would be much easier for people to get the help they need.
And don't be to quick to judge - you never know when it's going to happen to you. And if it does, no you're NOT crazy, you have something you need to have treated to get well.
Be happy fishies, treat each other well!

 datingok
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
date night
Posted: 6/14/2009 5:36:16 PM
The next meeting will be next Saturday night at Confusion Corner. Ed's hosting it, Juan's bringing cookies and armaegis is in charge of entertainment.
 datingok
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
date night
Posted: 6/14/2009 3:07:21 PM
Calm down Ed!!! I'm a charter member!
 datingok
Joined: 1/1/2008
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date night
Posted: 6/14/2009 2:40:01 PM
I would like to call to order this meeting of Perverts Anonymous!!!

BTW - Don't we all want a date Friday night?


 datingok
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
SEX TEST - THIS COULD BE FUN
Posted: 5/21/2009 3:11:58 PM
Does it count if you didn't kiss her back???
 datingok
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Biggest Loser?
Posted: 5/19/2009 8:12:48 AM
Sounds interesting - no not the thought of a dude in a size 4 woman's dress, the walking!!! I've been looking for someone who'd like to go walking, but I don't know that many people in the city yet. Only concern I have is that I'm kinda reinventing life at the moment. An old knee injury finally caught up with me a while back, and I'm just getting active again. So I'm not a speed demon these days. I wouldn't want to slow people down! But if the really fit guys would consider walking in front of us - or maybe MegaMan could rollerblade in front of us to give us incentive - I'm sure I'd be a whole lot speedier!!! Keep us posted KatKat!

 datingok
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 63 (view)
 
Tattoo's and Peircing's on guys and gals
Posted: 5/15/2009 3:22:53 PM
I have to say I'm absolutely astounded at the reactions people have to my tattoos. It never even occurred to me anyone would care whether I had tattoos or not! Silly me. My tats are very personal, all custom designs, commemorating an event or loss in my life. I also consider them art, and often wear a skirt so that the ones on my lower legs are showing. I see tattoos I love, and others I don't care for. But I feel it's each to their own, and if the person likes what he or she has, who am I to say it's wrong??? Just my two cents worth!

Dead Ramones: Your praying hands tat is beautiful. I think it's a lovely memorial for your brother.

Be happy fellow fishies!!!
 datingok
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Relationship with someone that suffers from depression
Posted: 5/5/2009 12:00:07 PM
OP: Good on you for offering to go with her to see her doctor. It's also wise that you're not going to move in together right now. Both show that you're a very caring, compassionate person, but that you also are considering what is best for you and your children. You can still support her but do what you need to do for yourself and your kids.

As for the people on here bashing the OP, why are you doing it? It's not helpful. At all. He's taking a very smart, caring approach to this and doesn't need people ragging on him. It's time we started treating each other better.

Peace and love to all!!!
 datingok
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Relationship with someone that suffers from depression
Posted: 5/3/2009 6:19:19 PM
Hey there. I thought I'd just share my two cents. As someone who has depression, maybe I can give you a perspective from the other side. Being depressed can be like hell on earth. There's no other way to describe it. There are several factors that contribute to depression. Some factors that can make it difficult to overcome include hereditary factors (yes it does run in families), unresolved emotional issues or past abuses, ongoing abuse - either emotional or physical, traumatic events happening in someone's life, and so on. Myself, I struggled for years to get help - I was very motivated to change my situation - but it took many years and a doctor-prescribed overdose before I was finally diagnosed with atypical depression and given a very old drug that has totally changed my world. I'm very stable these days, have been for a long time, but I've had to accept the fact that I'll be on medication for the rest of my life. To give you an analogy: If I go off the medication, my world gradually changes from color to black and white.

As to your situation, she definitely isn't getting the proper treatment. There could be several factors - wrong type of medication, she has something she needs to deal with and isn't, a counsellor or psychiatrist that isn't the proper one for her. The list goes on. But she has to fight for that help, which can be very difficult.

There's still a whole lot of stigma attached to mental illness of any kind. The fact that she didn't tell you right away says that SHE has an issue with the fact she has it. I'm very upfront about the fact I have it - I don't want to be with someone who has a problem with it for one thing, another is that I feel very strongly that in order for the stigma to be changed and make it easier for people to get help, we have to talk about it. I wrote an article on depression about 12 years ago - absolutely blew the lid off of the small community I was living in at the time. I was inundated with calls and letters, people thanking me for doing it.

And in your case, you have kids involved. You can't fix this for her. You can support her, but if she's not in a place to do the work herself, you need to think about yourself and those kids.

Just my two cents worth.
S.
 datingok
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 246 (view)
 
Grandma, show us your new tattoo!
Posted: 8/25/2008 11:12:30 PM
This is my first posting on the forums. But I just had to respond to this one! I'm 47, not a grandma yet, but I do have three fairly large tattoos. I'm actually very surprised at the strong reaction I get from them - it was the last thing I was expecting. In fact, I now mention them on my profile because sometimes the surprise factor isn't a good thing!!!
All three have very personal meaning for me, and have given me peace after some major losses in my life. I don't care if someone likes them or not, just respect my choice to have them. That's all I ask.
When I told my daughter I was getting a tattoo and why, she thought it was a great idea. When she saw it, she goes, "Wow Mom, that's beautiful. But holy s**t that's big!!!" But you know what, it was an important subject and I really felt it needed to be big.
 
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