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different rules for different fools?
Posted: 6/15/2009 7:04:57 PM | Personally, i think the real question at hand is do you like her? it seems that we precive others behaviour through the cloud of our own feelings. so if you feel something for her more then friendly perhaps your picking up on cues she may not even realize she's making.
Though it does sound as though she likes you, she may be doing it without realizeing it. often i find that even i'm capable of acting diffrently towards someone i deem attractive without realizeing i'm doing it. that's led to many a awkward situation.
It sounds to me like she has feelings for you, but for some reason refuses to act on them, perhaps because you work together, are close(ish) friends, or she's not sure if you like her. It seems like her actions would indicate that she's trying to get a response from you, perhaps hoping that you would insist that you aren't "blowng her off", or showing hurt/anger/jealousy over her flirting with other men. this would show her you like her without the risk of putting herself out there on the line by the direct method of asking.
This can, and does, obviously backfire, since you sound more angry or annoyed then smitten. I think the easiest way to deal with it would depend on if you value the friendship. if you do, talk to her about it. let her know that it annoys you to no end when she ignores you just because you were busy. if not, well, you could simply ignore it, stop talking to her unless it's needed and pretend none of it's happening. The down side with that one is that if she does have feelings for you, she may try even harder to get your attention, which might put even more strain on your job.
anyway, these are just my thoughts. hope they help. :D
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