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 Author Thread: I Don't Need A Man.., I very Independent..etc etc = RED Flags?
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 694 (view)
 
I Don't Need A Man.., I very Independent..etc etc = RED Flags?
Posted: 11/23/2009 6:00:15 PM

Gawd, if I was a betting man, and you were in the MMA, I'd lay money on ya that no opponent could get ya down, let alone keep you down!

Cindy, being the smart woman she is, would probably let her opponent take her down, just so she could have that young tight stud muffin in her guard for 3 rounds. lol
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 102 (view)
 
Would you cheat on SO for alot of money?
Posted: 11/23/2009 5:16:53 PM

Nope, not me. But I am considering renting my sweetie out. Any offers?

since you are offering, i will take him. How much we talking?
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 37 (view)
 
How do YOU stop loving someone
Posted: 11/23/2009 3:49:33 PM
Hi Op. Im not sure you ever really quit loving someone you loved. I think you just learn to let them go.
As Margo said, you have to go through the stages of grief though before you finally accept it and let them go.
I personally remember getting stuck in the anger stage for along while. I use to jump on my treadmill and run till i just couldnt run anymore. that poor treadmill took a real pounding.
I also remember meeting him for coffee a few times. he would always greet me with this tremendous hug,which would just reduce me to this blubbering mass of tears. I decided then, that maybe it would just be best if i just stayed away from him and made a real effort to get on with my life. Never seemed to fail, i would be out driving somewhere and who would i pass? It just sent my stomach in knotts. I remember thinking am i ever going to get over this guy.

He use to drunk dial me every now and again,which would just set me back. So i took control and changed my phone number. I cut the contact for a long time. He actually got my new number awhile back. He called and we did the dinner thing. something changed this time though, i think for me the pain of hanging on to someone who just didnt love me anymore became greater then the pain of letting him go.

I have a shoe box full of cards and letters from him from when we were together. Im still not at the point where i can throw them out. he will always have a piece of my heart, he just doesnt have it all anymore. Ive hit that crucial stage of grief which is acceptance. I have finally let him go. God does it ever feel good.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 1127 (view)
 
are women playing GOD when they become pregnant
Posted: 11/20/2009 4:27:07 AM

*pouts in the corner because no one attacks my arguments

Not to worry, verity should be along soon.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 990 (view)
 
are women playing GOD when they become pregnant
Posted: 11/19/2009 4:21:36 PM

The Status Quo has seriously tainted how men approach relationships. I hope women are happy

Im always amused by these subtle threats. If you wimmens dont agree with everything we men folk manage to spew forth, we will quit having relationships with yall.
let me make something perfectly clear skipper. once a woman has got an idiot or two notched on her belt, she couldnt care less about having a relationship with the male species anyway.
Im just glad that younger women are figuring this out after the first idiot.
If you want to threaten us with something we care about,threaten to take away our shoes.
Totally off topic i know.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 21 (view)
 
EX'S... wtf man??? Why is this so flippin hard?
Posted: 11/11/2009 4:01:27 PM
Op. I was right where you are at one point in my life. Believe me, if you still love her, a friendship just isnt gonna work. You will get very hurt in the end.
Since you are in the music business, listen to the song Sick Cycle Carousel by Lifehouse. It helped me tremendously,cause it wont stop till you step down for good.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Do you ever think about how much time you have left?
Posted: 11/9/2009 5:16:48 PM

but I don't expect some Chippendale dancer with 10 inches {/quote]
Never give up hope. I wasnt expecting one of these fine specimens myself. Low and behold one just happened to fall into my lap not to long ago. After that night, i could care less if i died tomorrow. I will go to my grave with a permanent smile pasted on my face.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 110 (view)
 
Sitting solo on a scary Saturday (Halloween)
Posted: 11/9/2009 5:32:29 AM
As strange as it may sound, i attended a coworkers wedding reception on halloween.
My son stayed home and handed out candy. Wasnt near as many children as in past years. think the cold rainy weather might of had something to do with it.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 83 (view)
 
who gets your stuff?
Posted: 11/9/2009 5:28:20 AM

Who would want a bunch of old baseball and hockey cards anyways

Funny you should mention that. My friends husband died at a fairly young age. He left behind three young children. Due to bad financial decisions and a substance abuse problem, her and two of her children moved in with me for a short period of time.

Her deceased husband was a collector of hockey cards. She never took this collection when she left. We are no longer in contact. I have spoken to the youngest daughter,who is 17 now, i have asked her on a few occasions to stop by and pick up the cards. But still, here they sit.

Any suggestions as to what i should do with them?
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Second chances?
Posted: 11/4/2009 1:32:11 PM

People who give 2nd or 3rd chances WANT all the drama. They KNOW the level of misery that awaits them when they go back.. and miss it

Ive got to agree with this on some level. There is one particular ex of mine who just makes crappy boyfriend material. But dang, we are attracted to each other. We are also toxic as hell to each other. Its like a sick game of how much can we torture each other. When the anxiety level gets cranked up too high, one of us will dissappear out of the others life. Some how one of us always ends up contacting the other one.

I pulled the last Houdini, we managed to stay out of contact for over a year. A few weeks ago the phone rang, guess who was on the other end? He asked me to dinner, like an idiot i accepted.

We made it through dinner without ripping each other to shreds. Although, without all the drama there just wasnt a whole lot left to say to each other. He asked if he could call me again, i said yes. Deep down i know he wont, deep down he probably knows i wont call him either. We know each others games to well i guess and it is never gonna work.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 92 (view)
 
What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:31:57 PM
The kind of guy i want to marry, is the guy who doesnt want to get married. We can utter fake wedding vows to one another, but, after the hot wild monkey sex, he goes home to his own dang bed.
When the honeymoon is over we can part ways as friends.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Does exactly what it says on the tin? hmmm doubtful!
Posted: 10/29/2009 4:00:31 PM
Op, once you get used to the fact that most men dont make a whole lot of sense ,they will start to make even less sense. Just the way they are.
I basically just have men in my life for entertainment purposes. I dont even try to figure them out anymore.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 32 (view)
 
HOW CAN YOU BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE WITHOUT CAUSING THAT PERSON PAIN?
Posted: 10/29/2009 3:48:08 PM
I dont think there is a way to breakup with someone who loves you, without caausing them alot of pain.
Pain is only one side of the coin though, Tremendous growth can come out of that kind of pain. You might just be doing that person a huge favour.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 36 (view)
 
how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/29/2009 3:27:36 PM

Do YOU want to sign for a chance to lose LOTS of your stuff

How come it suddenly all becomes the mans stuff when a breakup occurs? do ya think she was just borrowing the shet when you were married. Excuse me, but it is half her stuff too.
Instead of men whining that the women took them to the cleaners and stole half their shet, maybe they should be taking a good long look in the mirror, and asking themselves, WTF is my problem that wifey poo would be willing to give up half her shet so that she doesnt have to barf at the sight of me anymore.

It would probably be more productive than being a whiny ass.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 89 (view)
 
does every straight/bi woman think brad pitt is hot?
Posted: 10/28/2009 3:21:48 PM
Brad is only hot when he lets his hair grow long. Anderson Cooper is pretty dang hot though
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 235 (view)
 
A Twist on EXPECTING Sex by the 3 rd date. Would You Date Her/Him ?
Posted: 10/27/2009 5:05:08 AM
I havent read all 11 pages, but, i think the reason many women arent to thrilled about jumping into sex with someone too soon, is because of the simple biological fact that 70% of women dont even orgasm from sexual intercourse. There just isnt a whole lot of incentive to jump in the sack with someone. Unless, of course, their idea of good sex is getting to lie in the wet spot.

I have a feeling alot of women prefer getting to know someone and being comfortable enough with them to let them know what it is going to take for them to reach orgasm, is alot of the reason that women prefer to wait.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 309 (view)
 
That's WHY It's Called Sex Appeal
Posted: 10/20/2009 5:17:33 PM

Key word : DEMANDING

meh, demanding, expecting, semantics my dear. Bottom line, if im gonna sleep with someone they had better live up to my expectations, or they are gonna be given a quick lesson in how to perform. I dont have time to waste on a poor lover.

Although, i wouldnt mind giving that Capitano fella a few lessons.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 84 (view)
 
And what was your part in it?
Posted: 10/20/2009 5:08:03 PM
I went from a marriage to an abusive alcoholic, straight into a relationship with someone without taking any time to heal myself. This man was the total opposite of my husband we fell in love quick and hard.
He moved in with me a short time after meeting. It all just seemed to surreal to me. It felt like i went to bed one night with my old life and woke up the next day with a totally different one.
Instead of coming home to a drunk in a violent rage, i would come home to dinner on the table, candlelight, and flowers. I just couldnt wrap my mind around it for some reason.
I would often call the new man by my husbands name. Which didnt go over well.

I found myself pushing this man away by starting little fights and making mountains out of molehills, i just couldnt get past the WTF just happened in my life.

Needless to say, i pushed him to far. He told me he didnt want to leave, but he had to. I will never forget the look of devestation in his eyes when he said that. I still have the vivid memory of him turning around and looking at me, that last trip he took down my driveway.

If the timing could of only been different. Ive met many men since, but non has ever compared to this man.
I still miss ya Bear.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 305 (view)
 
That's WHY It's Called Sex Appeal
Posted: 10/20/2009 4:42:39 PM

And nothing screams "I AM A PIG" like the below.... (me me me me it's all about me me me)

hmmm, never been called a pig before. Been called aggressive though.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 301 (view)
 
That's WHY It's Called Sex Appeal
Posted: 10/20/2009 4:08:03 PM

Let's face it - a guy gets off with a stiff breeze, so if they don't really like a woman that much they won't go to any extra trouble to make sure she's happy.

It has been my experience that some men have no idea how to turn a woman on. As i have gotten older i have gotten real good at demanding what i want from a sex partner. I have to be honest and say, some of them dont particularly like being told what needs to be done. If i am gonna get naked with someone they are dang well gonna please me.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 258 (view)
 
That's WHY It's Called Sex Appeal
Posted: 10/17/2009 6:51:26 PM

Oh Capitano ... have you ever had the wonderful opportunity of painting "buns of steel"? Errr just wondering is all

Buns of steel ... smooth toungue. Now that is why it's called sex appeal


There you go hitting on my man again. jeeze, not only do i have to learn how to cook, I also have to get myself a white bikini and some buns of steel from somewhere. Im givin up on the Capitano man. Even though his sense of humour exudes alot of sex appeal.

DBB is taken, like most of the good ones. Bald men are dang sexy.

verity is oh so smart. A whole lot of what he says just goes way over my head. There is just something sexually appealing about a smart man. Even if what he posts doesnt always make a whole lot of sense to me, then again, most men dont make a whole lot of sense anyway.
If i could take all three of these men and roll them into one, i would probably bang him on the first date.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 24 (view)
 
What is the Worst Thing You Experienced after a Long Term Breakup?
Posted: 10/12/2009 4:53:34 AM
I think for me the worst was the awful feeling of being left behind.
The utter shock of just how little i really meant to this person, and the wtf
realization that the person i trusted was living a double life and that i didnt really know this person at all.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 1548 (view)
 
Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 1:47:47 PM

Hah, I was amused!

Why you hot little stud muffin you. If i were only a few decades younger i would gladly lug your balls around in my purse. LOL
Excuse me, i was just practising my approach
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 1545 (view)
 
Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 12:50:48 PM
Personally, i prefer a man with no balls. That way i dont have to lug his balls around in my purse. So i guess i will do the approaching.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
My not so amusing contribution to 80 pages.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 85 (view)
 
Are men that cook better for a relationship?
Posted: 9/28/2009 5:04:16 PM
I dont think so OP. I lived with a man who was a red seal chef, who had his own restaurant.
He was one of the best cooks i ever came across. He use to make the most elaborate, delicious meals for me and my kids.
Only problem was, i found out he was screwing a few of his waitresses.
Think id rather have the guy that burns his toast.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 1390 (view)
 
Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/27/2009 3:42:16 PM
That is true, Women never chase Men.
Although i think it is more often men approaching women, i disagree that women never approach men.

I have yet to see a woman hold a gun to a mans head and demand he approach her. Men that do approach women do it because they might actually like women and want to date. They understand this is a societal norm. They also understand that they are probably gonna be a whole lot more successful than the man who jumps up and down and stomps his feet,whining, that it just isnt fair that women dont approach men.

Life isnt fair to anyone most days. You might think you have been dealt a lousy hand, but it is the only hand you"ve got. You can whine and complain or actually do something that just might bring you some success.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 1371 (view)
 
Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/27/2009 7:24:32 AM

But in the end what it boils down to is I just want to be an honourable and just man. And I'm not afraid to fight for and defend what I believe in and I feel speaking out against men who bash and belittle woman in general, is worthy fight


This has been my experience with the majority of men in the real world. There really is no issue of who pays, who persues who, sex is something that just happens with the natural flow, no demanding it or feeling entitled to it.

I read these forums for entertainment purposes only. I often wonder whether some of these men who get so stuck on who pays and who initiates, really know how angry and issue filled they really come across.
One thing i know for sure, if its not just "forum talk", these types of men, seem very unfit for dating.
These men just come across like they dont particularly like women too much, from their myopic viewpoints, women are seen as one step above the dreaded palm sisters.

If i ever did come across one of these men in real life, i would avoid them like the plague.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 76 (view)
 
The true mindset of a woman....
Posted: 9/26/2009 4:02:24 PM

... so I posted them on MyNiceAss.com

Just got back form MyNiceAss.com. So, are you the full moon or the partial eclipse.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 73 (view)
 
The true mindset of a woman....
Posted: 9/26/2009 3:45:10 PM

though nowhere NEAR as nice as MY ass in pretty well anything...

Now that you mention your ass, where are those ass thong pics you promised me, awhile back.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 12 (view)
 
The true mindset of a woman....
Posted: 9/26/2009 10:33:09 AM

I don't try to make you insecure, you women already are, I just tweek it a bit so I can have all the oral I want.

I dont believe i would of posted that, if i were you.
Grabbing my popcorn, cause i predict that the sky is about to fall in on your silly little head.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 39 (view)
 
How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 9/24/2009 7:32:04 AM

Fruedian slip Dreamcatcher?

Nah, damn dyslexia. Now that i mention it, there is just something about a man with big muscles, a huge penis and a stripper rear, with the ability to go all night. That my dear is priceless.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 23 (view)
 
How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him?
Posted: 9/24/2009 5:38:02 AM

For you personally as a woman, how much money does a man need to make to keep you romantically interested in him?

Silly silly op. Where did you ever get the idea that money keeps a woman interested. If a womans only interest is looking for a man with money, these types of men are pretty easy to find.
What i am really looking for is a man with big muscles and a huge penis, who has the ability to go all night. These types of men are alot rearer, and much more challenging.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 4 (view)
 
How do you get over it all?
Posted: 9/22/2009 5:56:47 PM
I dont know, sounds like you arent really over this man. As long as you are still angry with him, you are still emotionally attached. As for the childrens new step mother, seems to me you should be happy she is taking an interest in the kids. As long as she is treating them well, why get all bent out of shape.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 71 (view)
 
are you still sexually experimenting?
Posted: 9/16/2009 3:40:09 PM
Certainly im still experimenting. Id love to experiment with one of those UFC boys. Nothing turns me on more than a braindead man with big muscles.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 115 (view)
 
is meeting over a cup of coffee the answer?
Posted: 9/16/2009 9:28:42 AM

oly Doodles do threads ever go off topic huh?? 5 pages of useless diatribes and flaming

i agree, Thank you fine ladies and gentlemen of this thread, for pointing out to me the error of my ways. I shall go forth and sin no more......I love you all.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 112 (view)
 
is meeting over a cup of coffee the answer?
Posted: 9/16/2009 6:49:20 AM

Well it should be since you are still married.

Seperated my dear.

So why are you getting into such a lather about the men of POF then if you don't date them

Not in a lather at all,cheap men are quite amusing.

Oh don't kid yourself, you know you would sit anywhere as long as it wasn't Starbucks cause they don't charge by the hour and other people are watching

Thanks Tips, I guess if this works for you, it would probably work for me.

Dreamcatcher, I don't know why you made this thread about the worth of a meeting. The OP is upset because his dates misrepresented themselves not because the dollar amount spent. His dates lied and he was a gentlemen and did pay for the dates. That is not being cheap. So your moaning about cheap men is quite embarrassing and laughable at this point

Thanks again Tips, I think it is quite apparent to anyone with any reading comprehension skills at all, that this thread was quite laughable from the begining. We should all be embarrased for even posting in it. I didnt quite drive it off topic myself, i did have a little help from the ol peanut gallery.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 111 (view)
 
is meeting over a cup of coffee the answer?
Posted: 9/16/2009 6:31:52 AM

Hmm...I suppose that men should rationalize with your mindset too then from now, and get the leverage to not have to date old, leathery skinned, bottled blonds way past their prime with entitlement issues who think we should pay for the *ahem* privilege of their company.

If it makes you feel better to try and insult me, go ahead. But i am going to give you an EPIC FAIL. You can jump up and down and stomp you feet all you like, but it is not going to change the fact that i have options,and choose to exercise them. You are very transparent and your anger issues are more than apparent.
Once again you have done nothing more than proved my point, that men who whine and complain about paying for dates and meets, usually have far bigger issues than that.


PS -- Red, you kick ass.

Whats that old saying, birds of a feather flock together.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 109 (view)
 
is meeting over a cup of coffee the answer?
Posted: 9/16/2009 6:00:10 AM

The truth is anyone can have a full dance card (man or woman) if they have no standards

hello, do you actually read the posts or are you just here trolling for a date.
Dont be generalizing now, my dancecard is full and i have standards.

I dont date cheap men who whine about paying for dates or meets
I dont date balding beer bellied men with anger issues
definently dont date POF men
I wont listen to some bozo ramble on nonsensically just to get free food

I know it must be difficult when you dont have any standards to imagine some women do and still have plenty of dates. You have just got to learn to set the bar a little higher and date a better class of men.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 53 (view)
 
What Have We Come Across That Was Good In The Opposite Gender?
Posted: 9/15/2009 5:14:02 PM

What Have We Come Across That Was Good In The Opposite Gender?

My son...... I recently had an accident that has pretty well temporarily totally disabled me. This sweet 17 yearold has pretty well taken over most of the household duties without being asked. He gets up a half hr. earlier for school to make sure i have my breakfast, have taken my pills, and have everything i need for the day.

He takes me out in the wheelchair for walks, comes home with a stack of dvd's for me to watch and is always checking to make sure im not on the floor.
I told him how much i appreciate how good he has been to me. he said, well mom you have always looked after me.

he has been working every weekend and summer for the past two years, saving money for a car he wants. He told me if i needed that money to pay bills, just to ask.

I think i know which one of my children i will let decide on my nursing home, when i get old.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 776 (view)
 
Do women cook anymore??
Posted: 9/15/2009 4:21:31 PM

Well, post a picture and lemme look....

Dang, now do i not only have to compete with Savonna and her nice smelling porkloin,Ive now got to compete with the hot chick in the white bikini. Think i might have a better chance of convincing the cheapos in the cheapman thread of the error of their ways.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 102 (view)
 
is meeting over a cup of coffee the answer?
Posted: 9/15/2009 5:46:43 AM

Ahhh but A question was answered---the one squeezed and twisted from the original one to fit this "untypical 46 year old female", the one with the full dance card! Full it is but full of WHAT? Does it occur to anyone else this "full dance card" is nothing more than a string of free dinners and drinks with very few (if any) repeat dates? But we all know quantity far exceeds quality so a "full dance card" says the allure is inescapable and irresistable. Sadly there's nothing about far, far away head shots in fuzzy focus to really see what's so special and entitles someone to a sense they're "worth" all that money.

But I wonder why this OP's age is even an issue? The not-so-well disguised disdain and criticizm about age has absolutely no bearing here unless someone believes by a certain age the expections are automatically downgraded ? In the real scope of the world a 46 year old female with a princess-like attitude she's entitled to special treatment for reasons absolutely NOT in evidence, who is married still would be considered washed up, out of favor and just way too old. Sure there are the young guys thinking or hoping for some Cougar-like sex romps with an old gal but does that help fill the dancecard? Maybe that's why it's so full now??

But if we're talking how to not encounter women who misrepresent themsevlves for whatever reasons; free food, drinks, entertainment---then a few very good ideas have been forwarded. If nothing else OP has a great idea of who's posted here is simply looking for special treatment "just because......" !! LOL {/quote]
The type of men i date are honourable men, who would be utterly baffled by your rant.
It has been my experience that men who whine about paying for dates or first meets, usually have far bigger issues than that. Thanks for reiterating that.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 101 (view)
 
is meeting over a cup of coffee the answer?
Posted: 9/15/2009 5:35:17 AM

Pat yourself on the back for posting much and saying nothing.

I guess the fact that i dont have a lack of dates which would indicate im obviously bringing something to the table, flew way over your head. It also gives me the leverage not to have to date balding,beerbellied men with anger issues,who think i should pay for the privelige of their company.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 91 (view)
 
is meeting over a cup of coffee the answer?
Posted: 9/14/2009 9:16:22 AM

What do you bring to the table at 46? Remind us...

Seeing my dancecard is full in the real world and my inbox is constantly full on POF,even though i state i am looking for friends on my profile. I guess you could probably draw the reasonable conclusion i have a little bit more to offer than your typical 46 year old female,who is so desperate for a date that they would more than willingly pay for a date or a meet that some dude asked them out on.

I guess after reading this thread i also have the ability to state my honest opinion and have the majority of posters go completely off the rails and off topic too. Seems alot of them have turned into flamebaiting trolls. And that poster said i was making women look stupid. It appears to me that some of you dont need my help to appear stupid, you are doing a pretty good job of that all on your own.

I dont dislike cheap men i just find them highly amusing. What really made me think the op was a cheapskate was the fact he said these women misrepresented themselves. WELL, HELLO. he is a 68 year old man who was probably hoping for a 68 year old 10. In all likelyhood its probably not gonna happen. I think he needs to adjust his expectations to his reality. Do these women really misrepresent themselves, or does he just have to high expectations? If you have gotten to the point where you feel comfortable enough to ask someone out, the least you can do is pay for the date you asked her out on and not start a whiny man thread saying these women were just looking for free food.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 84 (view)
 
is meeting over a cup of coffee the answer?
Posted: 9/13/2009 6:16:20 PM

To all you guys who think women are golddigging for dinner--OY! NEVER ASK A WOMAN OUT, that will solve your problem.

I agree with this. Myself, i dont particularly like food that well, that i would listen to some bozo ramble on for a few hrs., just to get a free meal.


nobody should expect anything beyond honesty and basic courtesy. you seem to be saying a woman DESERVES dinner just for showing up

HELLO. I hate to break this little nugget to you, but i am entitled to any expectation i choose. If a man asks me out, dang skippy i expect him to pay. It would be pretty darn uncourteous to ask someone out and than say," Sorry babe, you are just to ugly for me to buy you din din"
So to all you ladies who are enabling these tightwads let me decode the cheap male language for ya.
1.What he says..." Lets meet for coffee"
What he really means.... I would really like to get laid, so i better check you out. If your not to dang ugly you pass the test. You deserve him spending that 1.65 . If you dont, buy your own dang coffee. Then he goes home and cries if he does spend the money cause hes afraid that $1.65 he just spent, means hes been taken by a golddigger.

2. What he says," Would you like to go to dinner with me"?
What he really means.... Well, you passed the coffee test, uhm, i mean, the you look like i might be wanting to get in your pants at some point test. He will be hesitant to ask you out any place nice cause if he spends more than $4.00 bucks on your combined Happy meals, guess what? he will feel like you are a dang goldigger.

3.What he says, "Would you like to go out someplace really nice for dinner"
Congratulations, you have just won the cheap man jackpot.
What he really means... YOU have passed my tests with flying colours. You deserve to be treated properly, cause i want to sleep with you. Beware though, His maximum is $60.00 dollars tip included, Na, just joking, he will expect you to fork over the tip.
Then he feels so bad about spending the $60.00 dollars on you that he starts feeling like he has really been taken by a goldigger.Therefore, he cant perform when he does get you in the sack.

Next he gets so angry with you and himself that he goes on POF and starts a thread with the title Is Meeting Over A Cup Of Coffee The Answer.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 10:43:51 AM
Hate to say it OP, but i think you are right. My opinion is most men will cheat, given the chance. Add him thinking he hasnt test driven enough women and i can see a trainwreck approaching. See the flashing lights at the railway crossing before you venture out on them tracks.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 724 (view)
 
Do women cook anymore??
Posted: 9/11/2009 8:21:42 AM

Yes it's agreed that I DO, in fact, make the bestest everest lasagna (lasagne).

Im getting hungry for some lasagna. Why dont you drop by and feed me?
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 46 (view)
 
is meeting over a cup of coffee the answer?
Posted: 9/11/2009 8:02:17 AM

didn't even get that from any guy I met on POF.

The men of pof are notoriously cheap. Just read the above posts for verification, so i dont date em girl. I Never run into this in the real world.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 28 (view)
 
is meeting over a cup of coffee the answer?
Posted: 9/10/2009 6:04:12 PM

How many dinner date tabs for a first meet have YOU picked up?

None. I dont date cheap men with issues.
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 12 (view)
 
is meeting over a cup of coffee the answer?
Posted: 9/10/2009 3:31:47 PM

He is not to cheap to buy dinner and like me probably enjoys taking a woman out for a nice evening. However, when there is a deception involved.. no two ways about it.. it sucs.

When the woman who shows up to dinner has added 100 pounds or 10 years to the woman in the profile, the evening simply is not going to go well.


So let me get this straight. If she is everything you envisioned and you think there might be a chance of getting in her pants at some point you dont mind paying for din din.
If she doesnt quite live up to your expectation she shouldnt expect dinner. OK got ya.

Ya know i have observed that most men once they reach the age of 40, really dont have alot to offer, besides a beer belly. Now they want to act like brokeasses too.
I think i would be using every advantage i had. Paying for the din din without biatching would be a good place to start
 dreamcatcher39
Joined: 6/12/2005
Msg: 105 (view)
 
What do you think about people who have psychics' readings?
Posted: 9/10/2009 3:22:20 PM
I think people who have psychic readings done are nuts. Just got back from having mine done.
 
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