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widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 37 (view)

Favorite Dog Breed? Posted: 11/21/2006 8:51:04 AM
I have had Rotts that were incredible dogs but one got very sick and had hip problems and other one started getting so protective at age four no one could get near me or he would just about eat them up...so both had to be put down and never again will I have one of those. I currently have a huge German Shepard that is the best dog ever. He is so loyal, well behaved and very protective of my young son. I also have a Pembroke Welsh Corgi that has a crazy adorable personality and was a bit to train but she is precious...everyone wants her. She thinks she is a BIG dog and loves to fight with my Shepard...she is the alpha dog and had to be trained to NOT try to herd me around by biting my ankles...argh....but she is a great dog.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

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why are women afraid of men with some baggage? Posted: 10/17/2006 10:37:26 PM
I think the problem does not involve your kids at all but maybe the "I get along well with both ex's"....now there is the baggage. I have dated a few men with kids and they were great kids I cared for a lot. But those friendly ex's called, stopped by, asked for emergency babysitting while they went out with boyfriends, come fix the dishwasher, had dinner and lunch often to chat and the real nasty part...they would discuss our life with the ex for their opinion...one time we were spending the night at my boyfriends house and his ex apparently had the key and let herself right in the front door........so your friendliness with your ex's are intimidating to the women and why are you divorced if you guys are all friendly and cozy? That may say something about your personality that scares them away or maybe cause you brought the ex's up here maybe they are still too much a big part of your life and your not ready to move forward. Now saying that....I am civil with my ex husband but have learned to never bring that up with a date...best not to speak of the ex unless someone seriously asked after several dates......what do I know....good luck to you

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 134 (view)

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widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

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Dating someone with bi-polar ..............help! Posted: 4/24/2006 1:02:59 PM
Daisygirlky...I have never said to run from all Bipolars or that they are all the same. Every one is very different in many ways. I have stated how MY ex was and what it was like to live with him for 8 years. I think your mania energy sounds like you could put some of that sewing to good use. Do you ever sell those pants you whip up? I bet you could make some great scrubs and make a fortune..just a thought. Lounge pants are the in thing.....

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 63 (view)

Dating someone with bi-polar ..............help! Posted: 4/24/2006 9:26:45 AM
LADYBLUE25...I wish you a lot of luck in your decisions...I know it is hard one. I will tell you this and all who keep saying your nasty hateful things against me..... I love my ex with all my heart...I just hate the Bipolar. They are like two different people and the demon one won't take a hike. I want to ask the Bipolars this question. My understanding is this. Bipolar one is the more extreme highs and lows into mania and depression. Bipolar ll is a bit lesser but more rage and anger. My ex "Rode the fence" and never went into extreme mania or depression. He was just very angry all the time, daily, hourly, by the minute( rapid cycler) and then he would be happy/manic/drink and spend every last cent we had, drive reckless...etc.... My understanding is these are more difficult to treat as they more often have personality disorders as well. What do you guys think?

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 62 (view)

Dating someone with bi-polar ..............help! Posted: 4/24/2006 9:16:03 AM
SHELLS...I did talk with his family and they all covered up for him for two years. Then after we got married they started talking about his childhood visits to Psychiatrist, issues at school and the fact that they knew something was wrong. The fact that going into the military kept him out of jail. Recently I got a hold of his exit papers from the military...he was kicked out of there as well. My son does not have Bipolar as his dad did not inherit it. His dad had childhood seizures and a lot of head injuries growing up. An MRI confirmed his Bipolar ll that we had done in San Diego CA. He does not have any relatives that have Bipolar, he is in fact the only one. But we know that it is a chemical imbalance so the trauma apparently caused it as we were told by all the Psychiatrist and Neurologist. Thank you for suggesting talking with the family as I think that is a good idea. His family lives far away and don't speak to him anymore. I think we are getting off track here as I am not here to fight witht he Bipolars. The person who asked this question stated her upset over losing her weekend and this is only one weekend out of 52. She was very upset by this. How can she move on with a person who will be like this for the rest of his life when this one weekend upset her so? Seemed like that could happen to anyone and she did no state anything else about his Bipolar but that he had past issues with relationships. Don't we all? So this sounded just like a normal life issue...not a Bipolar one.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

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Dating someone with bi-polar ..............help! Posted: 4/24/2006 7:12:33 AM
CLAYPOT...I thank you very much for saying this. Bipolars in a way are like drunks. I stayed with him cause I thought he would hit bottom after the 18k in fraudulent checks and he might take his meds....just never happened. But they are all different and he is on the road to hating the world and his parents...and me it seems...for not taking care of him. Can't force a person to do what THEY don't want to. Understand those of you that do take responsibilty for the illness...I highly admire and see that you ARE like everyone cause you take care of those nuerotransmitters misfiring It is a lifelong, med dependant illness....just like a diabetic takes their insulin.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

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Dating someone with bi-polar ..............help! Posted: 4/23/2006 7:15:48 PM
CLAYPOT my daughter will soon be a licensed Psychologist and getting her PHD what more do you want? I have the hundreds of dollars in testbooks right here I can look through and quote to you out of these books. This is what is taught in Universities. I have sat in with my ex in hundreds of Psychiatrist and Psychology visits over the past 10 years...these are the experts my friend so where did you get your PHD in Psychology. I am testimony to what I lived with. It was hell, his family said it was hell....I do not try to diagnose anyone and I have seen many of your statements to be untrue...not textbook facts...but you are stating your experience of the illness...I am stating the other side which is what the OP asked for.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

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Dating someone with bi-polar ..............help! Posted: 4/23/2006 7:09:04 PM
LADYBLUE...I will tell you a little bit of what MY Bipolar was like since everyone else is a well medicated perfect Bipolar here(Talk to Psychiatrist and they will tell you all you need to know on that matter). Mine never consistently took his meds. He was a rapid cycler and someone said if they change moods quickly they are not Bipolar..... We walked on eggshells for years then all the hell started. You can not be with these people 24/7 but you become a babysitter. They spend you into bankruptcy, spend thousands on junk and cell phone bills (They need to talk....excessively when manic). Mine drove with a suspended license a few times, been in court many many times, wrote 18k worth of fraudulent checks, lost our house, ran up all bills cause he had to buy top of the line everything and you can not stop this or YOU get blamed, YOU are the bad person, you have issues when you won't let them be manic and lie and cheat.........yes he cheated, went out speeding over 100 MPH all the way to Vegas, drinking, wrecked his car, I took a second out on our house to pay for all his MANIA...and people here say I am not patient, I just could not deal with a Bipolar...YOU decide if you want to risk a life like that. He destroyed my life as well as my kids...we spent 8 years walking on eggshells never knowing how the bear would wake up from his 15 hour naps. He went off on people without warning, he was the angry raging type. Bipolars come in many shades of grey and I could tell you so much more about my 8 years with this man....but....you need to realize ...now I have read this in my daughters Biological Psychology book that Bipolars have no Empathy.....and this from living with one is true. You can listen to Bipolars on here or anywhere and they have a "Grandiose" opinion of themselves AGAIN (TEXTBOOK PEOPLE). My ex has a new victim...she just sold her house and they moved into a rental....and guess who is spending her money on cars??? He now has five of them and saying he is buying a house...without her but she does not know it yet....never ends. I have a son with this man/ex. I worry all the time he inherited this illness...he has explosive moods, talks excessively, does not sleep well....but when removed from dads custody for two months...we found it to be learned behavior but I will keep a close eye on him and oh yes...he is as smart as a whip like his Bipolar dad.....Life goes on...I wish you much luck in your decision. Know everything you can before you make a decision. The internet is perfect for your learning and people who have actually lived with them...don't listen to people who have NOT personally lived with them cause no one else really knows...trust me on that one. I am sorry I am rambling here...seems this subject gets people in rage on both sides of the fence...those who have the illness and those who live with them...Please read all you can.....

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

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Dating someone with bi-polar ..............help! Posted: 4/23/2006 1:55:26 AM
Gee BADBRAIN I certainly know all this....maybe you need to take your meds and talk to your Psych about Bipolar's DON'T like to take meds and when they feel better they like to stop cause the manic high feels so good to them...Why do you think they get put in the hospital for "Med Checks" all the time? Cause MOST don't like to take the meds...otherwise you would not hear weekly about another Bipolar in the news....My daughter is a fifth year Forensic Psychology Major soon to have her PHD so where did you get your degree from? I never said I was a doctor I said I have lived with a Bipolar and can give testimony as to what it is like.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 34 (view)

Dating someone with bi-polar ..............help! Posted: 4/23/2006 1:44:15 AM
CHASWHATIF...you can not make a Bipolar take medication. Psychiatrist refuse to see the ones that will not willingly help themselves. If they do not want help no one can force them. My daughters ex boyfriend had a Bipolar dad who hung himself from the rafters in their garage so when they got home from school he and his sister would be the first to see him hanging there. Everyone tried to get him to take meds.....I am not argueing anymore with the Bipolar's...I just suggest like several have said on here "Why see the red flags and put yourself through that". It is a choice and education makes a better one.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 33 (view)

Dating someone with bi-polar ..............help! Posted: 4/23/2006 1:32:09 AM
SHELLS you and I have discussed this on boards before. You are one lady who I did say I was very proud of you for taking your med and as you say it is like a diabetic taking insolin. But we know that when a Bipolar goes on and off of meds they help less and less when they keep trying to start them again and again...then my ex has the personality disorders added to the Bipolar ll which is a bad mix. Bipolar's get help with meds and personality disorders USUALLY do not. It takes many years to reprogram the brain which is what they are trying to do now...called Cognitive Therapy...some it works and some it don't....so far....no go....and no meds either....this is NOT my diagnosis but his doctors. As far as me not being able to handle the situation...seems no one ever has including his parents who have taken him to see Psychiatrist and neither of them speak to him anymore( nice I hear this after we married) and he has never had a long term relationship before me......whole family likes to keep the secrets alive....

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

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Dating someone with bi-polar ..............help! Posted: 4/23/2006 1:23:36 AM
BADBRAIN he has been diagnosed by 9 Psychiatrist who have their PHD and by 12 different Psychologists as he ran from one Dr. to the next.........so I did not need to diagnose him. You did not live with the guy so where do you fit in here? I just could not handle the situation???? His doctors all told me this "Bipolar's that are unmedicated are unpredictable and haven't you lived with enough hell from this man already?" so I RAN.....I could not even begin to tell you what it was like living with this man.....but then I don't need to.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

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Are you with a Psychopath? Posted: 4/23/2006 12:52:55 AM
SASSYVGIRL.........your post was so right. My ex husband was a Bipolar ll, Borderline Personality Disorder and Antisocial Personality Disorder...most people except those living with him thought he was a nice guy...personality plus when he was in the manipulation/pathological lying mode.....

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 152 (view)

Are you with a Psychopath? Posted: 4/23/2006 12:49:15 AM
I was married to this above mentioned person...we are now divorced and after a phone call I just got from him I plan on getting the judge to stop this insanity once and for all. He in fact has Bipolar which is the exact description that was given above plus more.....you made the right choice and to listen to people say you are diagnosing someone from a post...BS...you made the educated choice from seeing what this guy is like and knew to get away from him...good for you....whether or not he is a true psychopath...do you really care?

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

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potato soup breakthrough Posted: 4/22/2006 8:42:13 PM
SMITH..... This is OLD news my friend. I have used the instant potatoes for years and a matter of fact several famous chain restaurants use it as well...but I am glad you found that as it does make the best potatoe soup silly....

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

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Anyone ever made Potato Pancakes? Posted: 4/22/2006 7:56:58 PM
My mom is from the south and she makes potatoe cakes all the time. She uses day old mashed potatoes, adds one egg, flour to make the batter stiff, salt N pepper to taste and sometimes she adds chopped carrots and onions. Then forn into pancakes and fry in hot grease till brown...I love these the best....

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

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Dating someone with bi-polar ..............help! Posted: 4/22/2006 4:32:02 PM
Bipolars self medicate. My ex husband did not. He does not drink, smoke or do drugs...till one night he decided to drink while on his Lithium, cheated, wrecked his BMW, took off for days at a time with this other female Bipolar....we lost our custom house and everything else we had...Bipolar is not good. It is not the person it is the illness.....there are a few and very few who live good healthy lives with it but better for you to move on now while you see the red flags...wish I had known 10 years ago what I know now....

widdletezer

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Dating someone with bi-polar ..............help! Posted: 4/22/2006 4:27:55 PM
Sorry for the last typos...... please email if you want to know more about what I have learned in all those years and from my daughter who is a Forensic Psychology Major. My ex was a Bipolar ll which is very different from a Bipolar l and also has Borderline Personality Disorder and antisocial. He has been in therapy for about 6 years now...has it helped? Not in the least as he goes on and off his meds......they're con artist...so listen to the doctors that know about this illness as well as people who have lived with them. Good luck.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

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Dating someone with bi-polar ..............help! Posted: 4/22/2006 4:20:21 PM
Please lesten to this carefully. I met and married a Bipolar 10 years ago...never heard the word or had any idea this guy had this illness. We were married for 8 years and it was hell on earth. He has no EMPATHY, they care about no one but themselves, they spend you into bankruptcy, they lie, they cheat and in the end it will all be your fault for not caring about them. Please move on and not put yourself through a life of misery. We have a little boy together and his life is now hell having to be with a dad that is so messed up...it is not fair to him as he has to be with his dad and his dad rages and will do nothing for out son when he is with his dad....different story.... Please move on and quickly before you get sucked in....

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 33 (view)

My friend met Mr.Right,but she is turned off,that he has 5 kids!. Posted: 4/20/2006 10:37:56 AM
She needs to move on. Dating someone with kids is not an issue with me but then I like kids....but a guy with five kids would not work for me either. She does not want kids...he has five...a no brainer. I feel bad for her he seems to be a wonderful guy but no matter how ya flip him...he has five kids who are his life.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 65 (view)

best brand of condom Posted: 4/20/2006 10:24:48 AM
This is a stupid story but a fact. I know some guy who has tested condoms to see which ones are the strongest and he found Torjans to be the best by far......he took many different brands and hooked them up to the end of a hose and blast the water. Trojans never broke till they were big balloons but all others failed quickly...just a funny story....I also heard from a friend who works for the health dept that Trojans seem to be by far the best as well.

widdletezer

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Question for the ladies! Posted: 4/20/2006 10:10:37 AM
7times...guys and gals can be shallow....the fact is I love to give BJ's I just don't swallow.....so I say "Get lost" to those who try to force me....I will even "Deep throat" to make my guy happy so there are ways to do the job...just will not be forced to do something I don't want to....maybe my guys have eaten some pretty nasty stuff and they did not taste too great either....

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 206 (view)

Question for the ladies! Posted: 4/20/2006 9:58:52 AM
I highly agree with UK27. I do not swallow. I have a very strong gag reflex so I have a different thing I do you might want to try....but I have had guys who.....not swallowing is a deal breaker and I dump them quickly....funny how I have found those guys with that attitude to seriously s*** at oral anyway.....LOL.. If you don't swallow but enjoy giving oral try this...have them tell you when they are going to cum and take your mouth off while keep using your hands...then put your mouth back on and lick it all off...that way no gagging and they are screaming...don't want to get into too much detail and get booted off here....hehe.

widdletezer

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HELP!!!! Tell me why they are so awful to men!!!! Posted: 4/17/2006 1:47:03 PM
Do you all feel like they want to date, have fun and play but do nothing with the kids? They want all your time and plan things together and then when you say you want to take the kids they back out? I have been getting asked out by mostly guys with no kids and never been married in their 40's...they have no clue what having a kid is like but they say "Oh I love kids and don't mind dating someone with kids but kids aren't for ME"......so I move on......

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

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HELP!!!! Tell me why they are so awful to men!!!! Posted: 4/17/2006 1:44:19 PM
If my son puts a damper on any guy....he is kicked to the curb before anything gets going. I wish I had the answer for you but it seems we amaricans are so very selfish and seemingly more men then women...but not much just hate to share their time, homes, toys with munchkins....those selfish type make me sick. I adore my little guy and he goes lots of places with me and if the guy wants to go and be part of US to start off with great and if not the guy can just stay home....while we go have all the fun....guys loss and in your case as well. Hugs to you and your daughter...please be careful at the guys you bring into the relationship as well when you have a child.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

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Abortions soon to become illegal again Posted: 4/5/2006 6:24:03 PM
{quote}Well this topic is going nowhere fast... ... and sadly I find we still are so far apart that to leave this in the hands of some "stuffed shirt in an ivory tower" seems such a shame... Again, is there a middle ground? Seems we can find something to hang our hats on together eh?{/quote] This is a good thought....so lets discuss this from the start. Thread already has a topic, see the OP - Msg#1 Why do women get an abortion in the first place. Is there something society can do to help stop it from happening other than shoving each others opinions down ones throat. Obviously people do not take responsibilty and it seems you can't make.....a majority of men and women responsible...so then what do ya do when an unwanted child comes along. Don't start the adoption garb...the red tape in the USA is impossible and easier to go to a third world country and buy one for $10,000. I have three friends who have adopted and only one was from CA and the other two are Asian and Hindi.

widdletezer

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Joint Custody Posted: 4/5/2006 2:57:49 AM
You have physical custody so why can't you move back closer to your family and mom gets vistation...say...during the summer and holidays. I would think you should not do it either. I do not see how it would be in your daughters best interest.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

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son wants mom, but dad can't deliver Posted: 4/5/2006 12:58:19 AM
Hey Bassett Hound....move to California would ya????????

widdletezer

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Please tell me of Mediation? Posted: 4/5/2006 12:33:10 AM
I have been to mediation three times now with my ex and three different mediators. One way I think they are a big help is they would probably insist your ex attend "Parenting Apart" classes so he learns how to deal with you. Mediator also has recommended my ex seek counseling for his anger and other issues. The courts want you two to get along and the mediator can talk with both of you and recommend solutions to the judge which will generally side with the mediator. This will make ex follow through with resolving his anger with you or the judge can then take more aggresive actions against him.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

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why do guys do this... Posted: 4/5/2006 12:21:29 AM
I have been finding those "Sour apples" too...I recently dated a guy with a young son he had full custody of. We dated for 8 months and I thought we were "Exclusive" as he talked a lot about not having much free time, not wanting to date a bunch of women as he wanted to be a great dad and settle down and oh how he adored me. By the way I loved his son...we use to play in dirt piles together while his daddy worked...LOL...anyway I found him daily on the OTHER dating site where it says he was online within the last 24 hours...every time I checked. So one day I asked him if we were only dating each other or what was going on as I noticed he had not hidden his profile...he never called me or emailed me again...after we were together for 8 months. But...I am not bitter just wondering like the rest of you what these single dads are looking for and why we are not dating one person at a time and not 10 like in high school....mmmmmmm

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

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question about a parenting technique Posted: 4/5/2006 12:06:58 AM
The ONLY difference I would have done (Daughter is a Forensic Phychology Major) is to tell him what you were going to do with the toy if he did not stop...then follow through with what you said you would do. I have a very defiant 7 year old, highly intelligent who can fight and debate like a teenager who I am having to dicipline a lot. We have a calender on the fridge and we use "Good behavior techniques" because this boy listens to nothing like you have said about yours. I would not worry anymore about what you did already but start highly advising him when he is being good like "You are being so quiet when mommy is driving and I am so proud of you for doing so". Kinda sounds silly but notice his GOOD behavior a lot more. The calender we use gets stickers each evening if he has done what he is told during the day and he runs to get his stickers cause he is so proud of himself. One week of stickers gets something small....like an ice cream, a special play time with me....you get the idea..... and now he saves up his stickers for a few weeks or a month to get a bigger better toy and thank God for dollar stores and their toys....LOL. I use to use a little box we made into "Red light, yellow light, green light" but was told by a psychologist she preferred good behavior techniques much more than just the "Punishment" when they are being bad...meaning...he had a green light till he started behaving badly or not listening, he was then warned and if he still did not stop his behavior he got a yellow then finally red light. That meant he would go to bed early or get something taken away he liked. I have read all the books about defiant children and many are a great help with many ideas as we all know one thing does not work with every child. I have three kids and not one thing worked with each one.......so you have to do a little research.....Good luck.....

widdletezer

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HELP!!!! Tell me why they are so awful to men!!!! Posted: 4/4/2006 11:42:20 PM
These post are killing me......I am only looking for single dads as I have a 7 year old son at home and two older kids away in college. I get two types of men who want to date me....single dads who just want to go out and have sex but bitter against women and never want to get married or be committed (sounds like a prison sentence) again...or I get the 48 year old guys who have never been married and have no kids and want to travel the world and play every weekend...just the two of us...leave my baby with his dad......aarrgghhh!!!! I understand we single parents can get a little desperate for sex but not 30 minutes after meeting someone. And I like a single dads post on another forum that said he loved to go to Disneyland or the zoo with the kids for the day and then maybe Friday night just the adults go out. I am looking for fun with the kids and fun time alone. There has to be someone who wants that balance as well and not just a "Bootie call" or just US out all the time and no kid involved. Oh I better not get into the dating stories that I have had...I am starting to find I am happier just being alone at Disneyland and the zoo with my son.....hehe. Wish I knew tha answer to why there are so many single parents who can't seem to find partners these days...ho hum.......

widdletezer

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Dad and CS Posted: 4/4/2006 8:17:51 PM
NO way girl....fight for your kids...think of it...as it is...THEIR money to help them. If you have extra each month start them a trust fund for college.......big hugs to you girl...what a great mom.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

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What are your Christmas traditions with your children? Posted: 4/4/2006 8:13:09 PM
I have some older kids that are 21 and 18 as well as a 7 year old so we have traditions. we make ornaments every year, each with our names on them and the date/year for the tree. This last year we painted popsicle sticks red, put white stripes on them with white glitter and little green signs that said "North Pole"...they are the cutest ever!!!! We always have our big family dinner on xmas eve then we all gather around to open gifts one at a time. We stay up very late drinking hot cocoa and sleep in on Christmas Day. We go to church on Christmas day or go the "Crystal Cathedral" for a play. We do this every year...

widdletezer

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Ever think of what would happen to your kids if you die? Posted: 4/4/2006 7:59:22 PM
Single dad....I have a living will which cost me $500 in California. My son has a dad who has visitation but he is not a GOOD dad. My son adores more than anything his 21 year old half brother (my oldest son) who is willing to take over primary custody as well as my parents who are both alive and well if something happened to me. All this will do is cause a custody battle for my wishes as my sons primary care giver. But at least it does not just hand my son over to his dad. In your case you need to select someone and have your wishes on paper and signed by a judge for your child...if there is no family that will take her then she goes to and becomes a ward of the state so please either write up a will on your own and have it notorized if you can not afford the money (Office supply stores have these) for an attorney and please find someone who will take care of your daughter if something should happen to you God forbid.

widdletezer

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Would you? Posted: 4/4/2006 7:47:30 PM
[I spend alot of time at my kids school, help when I can and scream when I need to] I am a room mom and the one thing I love to do if you ever have problems with a school or issues with bullies at school...tell them you will be sitting in the classroom and on the playground the next day if they do not take care of an issue and make sure they (school) tells you what actions they plan to take. I have done this twice now and when I showed up in my daughters French class the issue was taken care of by the dean of students within 30 minutes. YUM I think you are so COOL.

widdletezer

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Msg: 21 (view)

Would you? Posted: 4/4/2006 7:40:00 PM
Lets hope if the jaa as you call him.....hehe...gets it postponed the judge makes a ruling in your favor and to heck with jaa for awhile till he can get his parenting skills down a bit better and if not......no more visits.....

widdletezer

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Msg: 20 (view)

Would you? Posted: 4/4/2006 7:36:44 PM
Lead poisoning can be very serious and good for you CPS got called....someone is at least doing their job and oh your poor baby....I hope he will be o.k....but with you as his mom he is already a lucky little guy.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 9 (view)

kids come home from ex acting defiant Posted: 4/4/2006 7:16:04 PM
I have the exact same problem with my 7 year old son. My son does not like his father much and never had a relationship with him till after the divorce he is forced to see dad two days a week. I have been his caregiver since birth. This child comes back and rages at me, screams at me and mad as heck. We battle the day he gets back and the day he goes over there. I started taking him to a counselor....tell me if your kids might feel the same way as my ex is a pathological liar and master manipulator that says the same thing "Our son is perfect when he is with me" kind of story. His counselor (my son) said he is afraid of his dad, does not feel secure with his dad and his girlfriend (moved out of our house and into hers). So when he returns home I am his security, safety and he knows I would never hurt him in any way shape or form but not sure about his dad....so he lets go on me. Her advise was to calm him, cuddle him and try to get him back into his comfort zone quickly....but it is a tough deal for me to live with. I have thought and a few times said the same as you about him going to live with dad if he does not stop his rage and anger towards me...then he cries...those big huge alligator tears........so I never ever say that again...but I feel it deep down inside...it hurts so bad...Good luck to you and I hope we can both find some answers.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 15 (view)

Ideas ?????Single-parents???? Posted: 4/4/2006 4:29:16 PM
I have a 21 year old son, 18 year old daughter and 7 year old son so ya can bounce questions off me if you like. Of course what mine have not done or thought of their friends have so I might be of some help. I like the idea of being able to ask questions as one time I heard something that is so very useful for most teenagers. When they slam their bedroom door in anger....take it off the hinges so they have no privacy and I can promise it will never happen again. One time the wind slammed my daughters door and she came flying out of their with a horrified look on her face begging "The wind did it mom I didn't" LOL

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 12 (view)

To get or not to get an email address for kids Posted: 4/4/2006 11:27:58 AM
My 7 year old son has his own email for family to send him mail and cute things. It has no chat or anything available to him except the family members email addresses and IM's of their names only. It is sooooo blocked!!!!! He has had it for a year and no problems. Great way for him to talk to family/grandparents/older siblings and he feels important.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 30 (view)

Birth Control for Your Teens Posted: 4/4/2006 11:23:45 AM
yum/yuck/yikes..........what a great dad you are and you are so right about kids these days....no one talks to them about sex...parents like to just tell them not to have sex and leave it at that. And look....your girls aren't pregnant and growing up to be lovely smart young ladies....good for you...

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 29 (view)

Birth Control for Your Teens Posted: 4/4/2006 11:21:20 AM
Wolfden.......what a great dad you are that you care about yours sons life and his health. I don't care what people say but kids will be kids and we as humans all have hormones and you can not watch your kid 24/7. We need more dads like you that talk to their kids about sex and girls...good for you!!!!

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 14 (view)

Strangers Disciplining your children? Posted: 4/4/2006 10:55:55 AM
FERYMAY....just like I was saying...if you ever see someone physically abuse a child in front of you call the police, have the child removed from that parent. Let them stand there and cuss at you to mind your own business cause when the police show up and the child has marks on them the kids are gone. People could help you by talking to your kids and getting their attention on something else....I do this all the time to get the kids to looking at me and they stop crying....sure they think what a nutty woman that is but it usually works....then I have parents standing their giving me nasty looks as to why I am smiling at their kid or talking to them but oh well. I notice the people who have comments are usually the types that are trash or grouchy seniors but probably hell for parents if they ever had kids...so we don't care what they say anyway do we? I have seen kids throwing fits and others around say stuff like "Somebody outta beat that kid and shut him/her up" then the looks of death come over my face at them...LOL

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 13 (view)

Strangers Disciplining your children? Posted: 4/4/2006 10:47:18 AM
Brittney what I do is start talking to babies or kids that are throwing fits.....distract them and try to make mom or dads life easier....so I know what you mean and I would have had a nasty comment back to this person. I do get involved...one of my pet peeves that sets me off...when I see a parent smack a kid anywhere on the head, up the side of the head or hard on the face. I use to volunteer for a kids home and I know for a fact in California if someone abuses a child like that I start running my mouth and when they mouth off I pick up my cell phone and threaten to call the police.....they come and take away your child if they have a mark on their head or face.....but in your case I would have responded like you did.....you did 100% the right thing....removed the child from the store till they calmed down. We all have kids and they have fits sometimes....hugs to you by the way for being such a good person.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 48 (view)

My two yr old son sleeps in my bed what will he think? Posted: 4/4/2006 10:06:46 AM
Lisa I have a 7 1/2 year old son that sleeps in my bed often as well. When I was married he slept in his bed most of the time and only snuck in once in awhile late at night. Now after the divorce he sleeps in his dads bed at his house and my bed at my house. He says he is afraid to sleep alone and when I put him in his bed and he goes to sleep there...he will be in my bed sometime before morning and he does not get much sleep as he has school. I tell him the same thing about when he is in high school....LOL. I just figure whatever makes HIM feel loved and secure is fine with me but I know what guys say that I date "Get him out of your bed" but the ones that are dads say "Mine do that as well" and seem to understand. Guess it depends on the guy, if he is a dad or not and what type of dad he is. Just let them know your son sleeps in your bed and if they don't like it....maybe the guy needs to find another bed....OUCH!!!!

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 38 (view)

Smoking And Dating Posted: 3/21/2006 5:06:04 PM
Steph..... I would never disrespect a smoker but to ever kiss one who has not even had a cig for a few days still taste like them and it is in their hair, clothes, house, car....so they are a no go for me.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 254 (view)

Ladies. Do you really want to know how to keep your man? Posted: 3/21/2006 4:58:49 PM
holymoly... Statistics say 76% of them do and I am no where the type to let myself go...come to think of it. I am a size 8 and five feet 7. Very proportionate I would say. He lost his hair and got a belly, stopped brushing his teeth or showering much and there was no way the one "F" you mentioned was going to happen anymore...so it was over by my STANDARDS as you refer to them as....LOL. This just again shows that the three "F's" you men refer to are a bunch of BS as all the ladies are telling you.

widdletezer

Joined: 6/12/2005

Msg: 150 (view)

Do men realy think that blonds are more attractive? Posted: 3/21/2006 4:17:17 PM
earthaglow........................... You have the best answer by far and so true. Personality plays more than hair color and we are all beautiful in our own way.

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