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Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 7/12/2008 6:00:52 PM | | I am here to say it isn't just men that lie more online, it is everyone. The problem is that most people, to a degree, have a problem totally being themselves in the beginning of any relationship from friends to long term romantic relationships. It seems to center around the "look good" that we all try to attain, because of our insecurities. In other words most people have that little voice inside that states I have to be this way until someone likes me because they would never like the real me....then when they feel secure with the person liking them, they relax and the "real" person comes out. Then you take the internet, which provides a venue for people to be anyone they want to be.....most do become someone they are not. Most of the people I have met online or at least on dating only sites (i.e. POF, Match, etc.) are not who they portray themselves to be from pictures not matching to personality descriptions. Another problem is that a persons perception of themselves is usually different then someone else's perception of them. That perception can go both ways. I offer no secret squirrel shortcuts, just the advice to go slow whether in person or online. More so online, because you have so many more applicants that have another level to hide who they truly are. It is what it is and it is, and it isn't gender specific. I can tell anyone that I am not perfect but a "work in progress", I don't lie unless it is about the surprise birthday party I am putting together for you. lol Good luck to everyone in their quest for the "perfect for them" mate. Take care and just be you, whoever you are because it is enough, just trust it. | | | |
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