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Joined: 6/14/2005

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Would you open you marriage to save it? Posted: 9/2/2008 4:09:05 PM
Personally, I would not feel good about it. I agree with BigDaddy. Life and let live. What if one is thrilled with the idea and the other is just accepting an open marriage so that they won't lose their spouse? I believe that marriage is a partnership; not always 50/50 but it's give and take and a lot of work. My grandparents were married for 66 years and they survived the depression, many years of trials and each other. I'm lucky if I can stick around for 66 days without running for the hills, lol.). I have my opinions but, being blessed with an open mind, I'm always accepting of other people's (opinions).

Joined: 6/14/2005

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Is money really that important ladies? Posted: 9/28/2007 3:28:42 AM
This is a tough one. I've worked very hard for what I have without relying on anyone else's help. I bought my own home without even telling my boyfriend (we were together for 6 years). I've been independent all my life, maybe a little too independent. I've dated guys who make much less money and that wasn't an issue for me. The issues, as other independent women have noted, are the men looking for someone to take care of them financially. I even dated a guy who told me that he wouldn't mind being a "kept man". My response? "Good luck with that". I have designed a lifestyle for myself where I enjoy traveling, going to the symphony and dining in restaurants that don't have a drive-thru window. I'd like to meet someone with the same interests who doesn't expect a free ride. I also take care of repairs around the house. I don't expect to be the primary "bread-winner", house cleaner, landscaper and handyman. I know that there are women out there who are looking for a "sugar daddy" but not all of us fit into that category. Some of us are just looking for someone to share the journey, not finance it.

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Men posing with cars Posted: 5/23/2006 3:14:18 AM
I've had some "assumptions" about people in general based on things like this and have been soooo wrong. I'm so glad I have an open mind. I've dated good looking guys who had ugly personalities, wealthy men who were very "frugal", intelligent men with no sense of humor and men who I would normally not look twice at. The last category always turns out to be the best in my experience. I don't know about anyone else but love comes from the most unexpected places. I've had friends turn into lovers and romantic interests turn into the best friends. There's no deifinate "meaning" to anything. Stereotypes aren't always true nor are they always false. I try to have an open mind and a willing heart. Most importantly, I have a sense of humor about this dating stuff. After all, it is pretty funny! I could write a book with some of my experiences. Thank God I can laugh at myself.

Joined: 6/14/2005

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Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash? Posted: 5/15/2006 3:38:04 AM
Financial wealth is important only to those women who think they are incapable of acquiring wealth on their own. Not to sound cliche', but I think respect, a good work ethic (no matter what their occupation), a sense of humor and a good heart will win every time. If that's not enough for the woman you're pursuing, who needs her? I prefer someone who is self sufficient and not looking for someone to take care of them. That's been my experience so far.

Joined: 6/14/2005

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Backup boyfriend Posted: 3/17/2006 2:49:16 AM
I have to admit, I've been guilty of this myself. I've also been on the other side and it's no fun. I had a guy who was a friend (very good looking) that I'd take to weddings and other events if I was not in a relationship at the time. I called him "arm candy". I was never deceiptful to him though. I have guys that I'd started out dating and we'd end up being friends. These guys are my ego boosters and my source for male opinions. It's clear that they are just friends, nothing is hidden. When I find out that the guy I'm seeing isn't crazy about me, the thing that hurts the most is my ego. This happened to me not too long ago and I thought my heart was broken. I realized it was just my ego that was bruised as I'm the one that usually runs away. I still see him from time to time but am not committed. He knows this now and we're both fine with it. He also knows that at 44, I'm finally ready to settle down and if he doesn't want that, I'll be moving on. Honesty is the key on all levels. I'd rather snuggle with my dog in front of the fireplace than spend time with someone I don't trust or feel a connection with. Keep it real, keep it honest, don't play games and be who you really are and you'll meet someone worthy of your attention.

Joined: 6/14/2005

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what to do with a 47 year old man? Posted: 3/9/2006 3:28:00 AM
I've dated mostly older men. The most recent, 10 years my senior, is more mature and easier to talk to than most of the guys I've dated. He's upbeat and easy to be with. I guess it all depends on the person. Keep an open mind and throw all misconceptions out the window. As far as worrying what other people think, stop! If you're happy and share the same interests and principles, go for it.

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Married Men Posted: 8/31/2005 7:51:05 PM
I'd like a list of the clues. I have a few of my own but you can't be too careful!

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No photo means married? Posted: 8/29/2005 3:33:46 AM
In my post, I said, "that's just my experience". If I were sure this were true, I would not have phrased the subject line in the form of a question. I was looking for feedback and I got it. Thanks to everyone who responded. I like to keep an open mind and give everyone the benefit of the doubt. It makes it much easier when you have more than one point of view. Thanks again!

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No photo means married? Posted: 8/28/2005 4:43:33 PM
When a guy's profile has no photo, he's usually married. That's just been my experience. He'll usually tell you he only sends it to particular people but doesn't want to post a photo on line. I'd like to know what other people think of this. I had 2 proven cases of married guys looking to "enhance" varies aspects of their lives, outside of marriage. [You can thank Msg79 for the thread being locked. No bumping allowed. /Forum_Moderator]

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