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Mizfriendly

Joined: 1/10/2008

Msg: 13 (view)

Mental health issue Posted: 2/4/2008 1:12:41 PM
Re: the last two posts, some people do not judge people who suffer from an illness, others are ignorant but ask to learn, others are just ignorant... Take care x

Mizfriendly

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Mental health issue Posted: 2/4/2008 7:12:05 AM
Being 'sectioned' takes away all the persons rights of freedom of any choices, all those choices are then passed mainly, after assesment, to the persons consultant. He is the one to approach, direct with a meeting or through a social worker, but it is unusual for a person to be moved untill they are 'stable' as the section makes the consultant etc responsible for the persons and others safety, so they tend on the side of caution here, plus ongoing assesment will be in place. And no you cant actually section yourself, a person is usually beyond rational behaviour by this point, its not done lightly. You can admit yourself though, and upon assesment be sectioned, but thats rare as the person is usually rational enough to know they are ill and need help.

Mizfriendly

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Msg: 24 (view)

34 stone and still to thin Posted: 2/3/2008 4:30:14 PM
Oh that the solution, the alcoholic, drug dependant and obese persons PARTNER is the one to blame, tut, bet they never thought of not supplying them with what they want, now they know this easy answer it will drastically reduce the problem.. Mix in emotional bonds, love and a few kids while this detox is going on, sounds like a fun party....

Mizfriendly

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Helping out an ex, right or wrong? Posted: 2/3/2008 3:55:27 PM
Its whether you feel ok with it, which you do as you sound a caring person... But others will use that side of you regardless of how much pain or upset it causes you, this is where you should be careful, because they wont care... Try turning these situations round, would you do it to them? and if its no, why not? that can tell you a lot about how people are viewing you, when they do what they do, and explain why your family reacted the way they did...

Mizfriendly

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Is it a disatvantage for a man to be open about kink? Posted: 2/3/2008 10:00:30 AM
Re:BABYDAVY Your profile says intimate encounter which means sex right?.. And you 'kink' is regression, which I take to mean acting/dressing like a baby yeah? I think the OP was meaning a little two way 'dirty' sex here with a future partner, where your kink is not this type at all, and will probably benefit from a dedicated 'baby' site....

Mizfriendly

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Msg: 24 (view)

Is it a disatvantage for a man to be open about kink? Posted: 2/3/2008 9:45:29 AM
TELL ME, TELL ME, TELL ME!! hehe... Theres no way I would date anyone without finding out his kinks, once I'm in bed with him its too late, and then I get stuck with a partner who likes boring sex, nooooo way!... Anyway I would ask first, so that solves my problem, but it seems that a lot of ladies dont want to be asked upfront, so I have been no help whatsoever! ;)

Mizfriendly

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Unsure? Posted: 2/3/2008 8:45:59 AM
Blimey!.. The ONLY person that can answer this question is your guy....GET ON THE PHONE AND TALK TO HIM..put yourself out of your misery and find out!...p.s, hope its ok and let us know..

Mizfriendly

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Unsure? Posted: 2/3/2008 8:45:09 AM
Blimey!.. The ONLY person that can answer this question is your guy....GET ON THE PHONE AND TALK TO HIM..put yourself out of your misery and find out!...p.s, hope its ok and let us know..

Mizfriendly

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Vomiting, on your (initial) date? Posted: 2/1/2008 2:51:24 PM
'SO THATS HOW YOU GET A FREE MEAL, I'M BLOODY COMING OUT WITH YOU AGAIN!!' Thats what I would have said....he was ill, big deal, he probably felt utterly embarressed... Nah, not in my company he wouldnt..

Mizfriendly

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Vomiting, on your (initial) date? Posted: 2/1/2008 2:50:52 PM
'SO THATS HOW YOU GET A FREE MEAL, I'M BLOODY COMING OUT WITH YOU AGAIN!!' Thats what I would have said....he was ill, big deal, he probably felt utterly embarressed... Nah, not in my company he wouldnt..

Mizfriendly

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Never been in this situation before! Posted: 1/30/2008 5:04:21 PM
As Im in the UK I cant give legal advice etc, but you say to help the kids and kids need to see their mom even if she is behaving a little crappy (any mom here, not pointing at your wife)..is a meet away from b/f possible with an agency?..What a crap place for you and the kids (and wife) to be in.. Hope you can sort it x

Mizfriendly

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Pouring of the candle wax, has anyone done it? Posted: 1/30/2008 4:35:52 PM
Yep been asked and done..held low to the body is HOT!.. I would suggest from high up if you are going to practice.:) but noooo candles near me thanx!

Mizfriendly

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Msg: 35 (view)

IIs talking about sex up front a bad thing? Posted: 1/29/2008 4:25:54 PM
I agree that it needs to be spoke about upfront, so to speak, to check if they 'match' your ideas of what good sex entails...BUT, how do you know they are any good at it?? ....The usual answer to this was 'well I've never had any complaints', well, no, not many ppl are going to say 'boy that was an average (or naff) bit of sex' are they?!...

Mizfriendly

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How often do average girls like bigger guys? Posted: 1/29/2008 7:22:38 AM
Is this where you order one??! ;)

Mizfriendly

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Msg: 44 (view)

how do I get a woman to get past me not having a drivers liscence? Posted: 1/26/2008 1:40:54 PM
Blimey, pass me the judgemental stick, and let me beat him over the head too.... I wonder what its like, to be perfect, to feel so justified within yourself, to have total disregard of anyones feelings but your own, as you march through the forums with your moral flag flying... Im sooooo glad Im not perfect...

Mizfriendly

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Msg: 35 (view)

what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better? Posted: 1/26/2008 10:26:04 AM
In a relationship with the guy/girl its usually a polite way of saying 'Shove off' 'I'm off' ! ;)

Mizfriendly

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A Dramatic POF Tragedy - Real life! I swear! Posted: 1/25/2008 2:09:38 PM
You will never start to heal with him untill you let go, really let go, and the only way to do this, which stops the never ending cycle of taking him back is.. BREAK ALL CONTACT..and stick with it, its hard but otherwise you will be constantly and purposely CHOOSING to live the way you do. Good luck x

Mizfriendly

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Msg: 24 (view)

You found out he was dying......would you stay to the end or leave? Posted: 1/24/2008 2:57:35 AM
wouldnt even have to question this one...stay

Mizfriendly

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You found out he was dying......would you stay to the end or leave? Posted: 1/24/2008 2:57:23 AM
wouldnt even have to question this one...stay

Mizfriendly

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You found out he was dying......would you stay to the end or leave? Posted: 1/24/2008 2:57:14 AM
wouldnt even have to question this one...stay

Mizfriendly

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You found out he was dying......would you stay to the end or leave? Posted: 1/24/2008 2:57:01 AM
wouldnt even have to question this one...stay

Mizfriendly

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Dilemna? Posted: 1/23/2008 4:10:44 PM
I agree with bamabob, i couldnt have said it better... And he is spot on about protecting your own mental health.. No one else will.. Take care x

Mizfriendly

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Questions about my Profile Posted: 1/23/2008 6:42:33 AM
I agree with kathrin, swap the pics... I would also delete any pics that dont look like you today.. I know you explain later about the beard but the pics are viewed before the profile...Your profile is nice, you sound real and no I dont think its 'too good' infact theres room for more.. You (and the ladies below your profile) say how funny you are, show me! You could expand how humour gets you into trouble, that may be a wonder for some... Expand a little, make me smile, change your pic and hang on to your hat!! I will say good luck but i dont think your going to need it...x

Mizfriendly

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Need some harsh criticism, if you don't mind. Posted: 1/23/2008 6:23:01 AM
You posted for the truth yeah? It looks like you struggled writing it, and its a hard thing this sell yourself malarkey, we cant all be good at everything... Soooo, get a full smile gleaming pic without the finger thing, delete the section about what you deleted last time, because you havnt deleted, its still there... You have made your no drink etc a negative and its not.. 'I love dancing blah blah blah but dont have to be drink to enjoy myself or your company'... That you have not and dont need to use is great, but some will think you may not be fun on a friday, show them you are, make them smile! And first date.. A walk in the mall?! A drive?!.. You said coffee, tell me where..tempt me with a vanilla bun etc..lol.. If relaxed meet your style maybe a park after with something to see ?.. Hope this wasnt too brutal, and it helps...good luck x

Mizfriendly

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Msg: 70 (view)

People keep messaging me,saying my profile is psychotic..? Posted: 1/23/2008 5:41:44 AM
Lmao twice!!! I got it straight away and found it very funny. why some ppl dont get it? Because they are just not on the same level as you at all, and never will be, their brain function is different, they have to make sense of what they see and read, have a rational meaning to it, if it does not make sense to them, meaning they dont get it, then YOU are mad, simple, so to protect their normal sane heads (their view of course) they have to yell 'away mad one'. But i dont really believe that you give a rats azz about it .. Other than laughing at them because it must be a sad life to be so thought limited... Im trying to think if i ever had the urge to text a really boring, ooh sorry i mean thought limited person, and shout 'YOUR SANE YOU, YOUR SANE'... Cant say i have but the thought amuses me!.. X

Mizfriendly

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Whats people opinions on what ive put? Do I seem boring? Posted: 1/22/2008 9:09:41 AM
Nope not boring at all, i think its a really good profile.... It just needs tidying up, run the spell check through it, then a little space between the change of subjects where they are clumped together. Your pics? Yep i would like to see one of you smiling and i dont think they do you justice either.. You sound a fun guy to be with, and a nice guy , so show me that on your pics too, you have to have one of you out dancing with your mates! X

Mizfriendly

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Whats people opinions on what ive put? Do I seem boring? Posted: 1/22/2008 9:09:31 AM
Nope not boring at all, i think its a really good profile.... It just needs tidying up, run the spell check through it, then a little space between the change of subjects where they are clumped together. Your pics? Yep i would like to see one of you smiling and i dont think they do you justice either.. You sound a fun guy to be with, and a nice guy , so show me that on your pics too, you have to have one of you out dancing with your mates! X

Mizfriendly

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Chopping Block, Here I am! Posted: 1/22/2008 6:12:32 AM
Ah!..so you dont think you are ugly..good because you are not! No i meant the other pic actually..kinda sexy with those specs... The pic up at the moment i thought was a younger you, thats why i said delete it as its confusing! Choose pics that look like you today, x

Mizfriendly

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need to LOWER my sex drive Posted: 1/22/2008 5:46:46 AM
Hi dancer, Im not surprised at some of the lewd, immature or attacking posts you got for this post, maybe you would have got some better replies from a womens 'health' site, but just ignore them hun.. Yes what you are describing does happen, usually because you have 'mentally left' a relationship, where you held a lot of who the real you was inside..or you did not recieve the emotional needs, which cause allsorts of internal hurt and anger.. the 'real' you then pops out with a vengance!.. It is a shock when this happens and unlike males, no slow build up over the years, just wham, overnight.. If this is what you are dealing with its not pleasant, and offers of sex worthless, or using a vibrator etc..as you cant actually get any relief from orgasm, as the feeling is straight back, its constant, usually stronger.. If this is 'you' then try limit self relief to minimum that you can.. take advice from your doctor.. Its not uncommon, he wont faint, he will know what drugs are best for you..talking therapies are a help with this as there are reasons in there why this 'popped'..it will reduce.. Hope this helped x

Mizfriendly

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Chopping Block, Here I am! Posted: 1/22/2008 4:17:49 AM
Whats wrong with your looks? You look nice and i suggest you have another look in the mirror before you work on your profile.. Get the last pic up there and show off that smile.. Delete the teen pic and put some more of you on there.. You mention travel then personality, then travel.. Compact the travel and tell me something else.. Your humour shows in your post, get it in your profile!.. First date 'i fear' ? that sounds like you dont want to do what they choose.. Get that pic up and get out there! X

Mizfriendly

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Profile Review - Need ideas to create more activity Posted: 1/22/2008 3:56:28 AM
Hi jestrada, you sound a nice person who can and does converse well with others, but it does not show well on here, it really does look like an essay written for a tutor.. Also look at repeats ...'learning' 'person' etc, you can compact these sections.. And hey if you are a clown and can make me smile.. show me! Maybe try writing it as you would a very close friend so instead of 'Im lookin for people who' it would read more 'I would love to meet' ' Etc.. And i like the pic with the hand on your shoulder, just to add to the pic vote! Hope this helps x

Mizfriendly

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Recently Trimmed/Updated Profile -- Feedback Sought Posted: 1/22/2008 3:29:42 AM
Blimey O'Reilys Trousers! Erm.. Well to be truthful, I was just going to run off because I found it so hard going to read it... You ARE on a text dating site, so others already know how it differs from conversation, so erase all that and use that space to tell ppl something about what you do, not how you think, you can do that after you have made contact. The pic of you in just a shirt is nicer, on the one now you look sad. And your headline ? Any chance of a happier one? ... Good luck x

Mizfriendly

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Hi, can you tell me if my profile is crap or not? Posted: 1/22/2008 3:07:07 AM
Hi, i also agree about the pic, swap them over, you have a nice face, use it! Loved the first date bit, its the only bit that shows your humour so leave it BUT add on where you would choose to go at the end. good luck x

Mizfriendly

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Hello ladies...looking for feedback Posted: 1/21/2008 11:46:36 AM
Delete 'Im told I am' you are, so put I AM!.. Sweet would be changed to another word in the UK, kind, nice etc.. Loved the pics, you sure showed the many 'you's'. I dont think you are going to need my 'good luck' but you got it x

Mizfriendly

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Profile Review Please Posted: 1/21/2008 11:03:18 AM
Now go to upper thread xtangent 'gentle profile reviews' because she is a whizz with sorting out your profile into flowing reading etc.. Im not! ;)

Mizfriendly

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Profile Review Please Posted: 1/21/2008 10:51:37 AM
Lori, first what a lovely name. I will give you an honest opinon without ripping into you for fun. Your pics? The main one looks different from the other two, I like the smiling one of you, friendly happy, is that your personality? Then choose a pic that is 'you' and delete which are not. Re profile, delete all or most the start of non divorced stuff, i know they are a pain but if they contact they KNOW your preferences so just delete/block. Cut down a little about your child, fill it with YOU. Try writing your profile as that smiling person, go on, go for it, sell yourself girl and good luck x

Mizfriendly

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what does it take to get women to respond to you? Posted: 1/21/2008 10:16:26 AM
Pr101.. I have tried to mail you but you have me blocked, maybe on the age or smoker etc.. If you would like some help with your profile in private.. Mail me.. just a friendly offer

Mizfriendly

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Msg: 138 (view)

why don't woman wear pantyhose anymore? Posted: 1/21/2008 4:56:04 AM
Totally confused now! 'I dont wear pantyhose i wear tights or stockings' I thought pantyhose were tights (UK) Those double windsock things that make you look like a half brown squashed sausage type effect... Am i on the right track??

Mizfriendly

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Why do GF's like to wear the shirt the BF just took off? Posted: 1/21/2008 4:21:34 AM
Actually Mosey posted he loathed women... LK-13 You ask anything you want to x

Mizfriendly

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Msg: 216 (view)

When should the woman start paying?? Posted: 1/21/2008 2:44:35 AM
If you ask her to 'pizza and tv' and she accepts, this still wont solve the issue because next time you two go out its back there again.. You could try 'I spent over my monthly budget' type answer to see if she offers to pay, but the next date the issue will be back again.. So you are have to say it straight.. A hard call I dont envy you

Mizfriendly

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Msg: 219 (view)

Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 1/20/2008 12:26:02 PM
Recovered addicts (with no personality disorders) return to who they were they lose the maladaptive behaviours the drug/alcohol caused. As for 'managed' 'treated' 'learned boundaries' people with personality disorders, Im waiting for a post by a PARTNER of such to acknowledge to me ''I would have had no idea unless he told me''

Mizfriendly

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Msg: 213 (view)

Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 1/19/2008 7:01:03 PM
Snoogins- judging someone with a personality disorder (BPD NPD ANTISOCIAL etc) when you have had the misfortune to live with one is a natural protective defense of their own sanity- breaking the cycle of this type of relationship only happens when you CAN judge who is the sane one...

Mizfriendly

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Msg: 32 (view)

What do you think? I have low self-confidence and finding a girl with the same would be good right? Posted: 1/19/2008 6:32:39 PM
You think if a women can drive a car, can do some sport, travel and play the bagpipes she has no self confidence issues elsewhere?..hmm and what if this women 'who feels as bad as me' starts to grow as a person and learns to drive, plays the trombone??! These issues are yours to deal with, many guys dont drive etc and its not an issue for them. But it is for you and you are young so you have time to work on yourself, but trying to match yourself to someone to fit the reasons in your post does not bode for happiness from where im sitting,

Mizfriendly

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Msg: 49 (view)

Don't like Cops Posted: 1/19/2008 5:23:45 PM
You care enough to help and support males who have suffered abuse, yet not this one because he is a cop, even if what he suffered and coped with is just the same as all the other guys.. Well i guess you hold on to your views and a walk away from all the other guys who you could have given support, trust and empathy.. Or you try deal with your judgemental (judgemental being a human vice we all have in some form) issue of lumping all types of ppl into one block, 'all cops are..' 'all blacks are..' etc, its your choice and your future..

Mizfriendly

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Msg: 38 (view)

Can a person with Asperger's find love and true understanding? Posted: 1/18/2008 6:32:38 PM
Wow the caring in this thread is nice to see.. Good luck with your search.. Take care x

Mizfriendly

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Msg: 28 (view)

How honest can you really be? Posted: 1/18/2008 3:47:39 PM
Blazerblazer spot on AND made me laugh, soulmate08 you said everything i wanted to.. Sounds just like my marriage.. But hey different folk and all that..

Mizfriendly

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what's your take on bf asking other women for their picture Posted: 1/17/2008 12:55:42 PM
What conversations does he have with them if they are the type to send naked type pics? Why does he feel a need to go 'hunting out' other women?... But to do so when he knows you know and how you feel about it is downright cruel... But although it hurts you and you do nothing, this tells him 'I can carry on treating her this way as she is putting up with it'

Mizfriendly

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Msg: 31 (view)

In Your Opinion ~ What Makes For Bad Sex? Posted: 1/17/2008 12:39:32 PM
For me? No emotional connection, it just doesnt work...by 'it' i mean my body, damn thing says 'haha lady your having a laugh right?'......:(

Mizfriendly

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Msg: 108 (view)

Should disabilities be listed on profiles? Posted: 1/17/2008 8:47:44 AM
Saying 'go to other site' ie: a disability one, has made me feel rather sick..

Mizfriendly

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Would you date Micheal Jackson? Posted: 1/16/2008 7:36:36 PM
I think there are enough ppl on here pretending to be 'mentally stable'... Why go rush to one you KNOW isnt??! ;)

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