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Sin City Girl

Joined: 1/10/2008

Msg: 119 (view)

If you're independant, why R U here? Posted: 6/12/2008 8:46:21 AM
Wow! Are you serious? A woman who states she is independent is just that. She is capable emotionally, financially, and physically of taking care of herself, and I would think that is what most reasonable men would desire! You are choosing to read into the definition that an independent woman does not want to be in a meaningful relationship with a man, which is ludicrous. I am independent.....a single mom with a job who pays her bills and is not looking for a father to her kids or a shoulder to cry on at night. That does not mean that I don't want to meet a great guy, but it does imply that I am not looking for a man to take care of me, because I can do that myelf. Perhaps that is actually what you are looking for.....a woman who is needy and would rely on your ability/willingness to support her finacially and emotionally. I sure hope not, because how can you possibly take care of someone who can't or won't even take care of herself? How quickly would you respond to a message left by a woman whose profile said [b} "I am a hot mess......Emotionally needy, psychologically distraught, finanacially in ruins, and must constantly must be reminded that this is the only body I have and that I shouldn't treat it like I can get a new one every other week. I love shopping, and my credit card bills would give Bill Gates a stroke. Can you fix me, or at the very least take care of me and my problems? Please message me and let me know what you can do for ME, ME, ME." Could it be that independent women intimidate you a little? We shouldn't at all. Get on your knees and thank your lucky stars if you are ever forunate enough to meet an independent woman with whom you have chemistry. Then your relationship is based on mutual respect and desire and not a quicksand pit of neediness and control.

Sin City Girl

Joined: 1/10/2008

Msg: 5 (view)

Would you (ladies) initiate a conversation with a random guy you think is cute? Posted: 4/2/2008 9:29:03 AM
On a site like this, I feel it is absolutely appropriate for anyone to contact someone they find attractive or interesting. I have no problems whatsoever being the first to contact a guy. I have found, however, that a lot of guys perceive this as an invitation to engage in cyber sex. They equate my confidence with sexual aggression, so many times they steer the conversation that I initiated in a direction I did not intend for it to take. Thank God for the "block user" option! Fortunately, there are those guys out there that appreciate being contacted first and are able to carry on a "normal" conversation. Although they are a very select few, they are out there!

Sin City Girl

Joined: 1/10/2008

Msg: 92 (view)

Valentines Day - Your Thoughts Posted: 2/13/2008 9:00:58 PM
Valentine's Day Poem Hearts and roses and kisses galore, What the hell is all that crap for? People get mushy and start acting queer, It's definitely the most annoying day of the year. This day needs to get the hellover with and pass, Before I shove something up Cupid's a55. I should spend the day so drunk I can't speak And then wear black for the rest of the week! Guys act all sweet, but soon it will fade, For all they are doing is trying to get laid. The arrow Cupid shot at me must not have hit, 'Cause I think this love thing is a crock of sh1t. So here's my story.....what else can I say? Love bites my a55..... Screw Valentine's Day!

Sin City Girl

Joined: 1/10/2008

Msg: 83 (view)

Valentines Day - Your Thoughts Posted: 2/13/2008 8:22:03 AM
Happy unimaginative, consumerist-oriented, and entirely arbitrary, manipulative, and shallow interpretation of romance Day to all!

Sin City Girl

Joined: 1/10/2008

Msg: 58 (view)

Valentines Day - Your Thoughts Posted: 2/11/2008 12:20:14 PM
In elementary school, the Day of Love means innocent pink-frosting cupcakes and a Sponge Bob or Bratz Valentine from everyone in the class. Maybe even from a Secret Admirer! Now, the tip of Cupid's arrow sometimes seems to bring more loath than love, more duty and diligence than desire. It's the anticipation of knowing exactly what to expect that ruins Valentine's Day, in my opinion. While some singles dread being lost in the "cutesy-ness" of couples, most girls, I think, would agree that nothing could be more romantic than a dozen roses, especially when they actually come as a surprise. A single rose or a beautiful bouquet is always appreciated when they are given sincerely. Receiving flowers, however, on a day when they are anticipated can hardly be considered romantic, especially when many times it is the only day of the year flowers will be given.....because they are "supposed" to be given. Unless couples can keep the romancing up throughout the entire year, the aftermath of Valentine's Day will usually last just as long as it takes the obligatory roses to wilt or for the credit card bill to arrive. While guys have it far easier in the store as far as gift selection goes, they'll probably be quick to agree they get hit much harder in the wallet. With a broader interpretation for Valentine's Day, the day can be lots fun. Money and planning aside, Valentine's Day can be more than just a reason to market a new color assortment of M&Ms. (Although that, in itself, is almost a reason to celebrate! Come on, pink and red M&Ms???) Guy and girls alike.....grab a friend and go have fun and celebrate your empowering independence! Couples..... romance the night away! But some of you should take heed to how quickly the affection wanes on February the 15th.

Sin City Girl

Joined: 1/10/2008

Msg: 34 (view)

All Men are Dogs!!!! Posted: 1/22/2008 3:28:01 AM
In response to frls74..... LMAO I know the rules of conversational debate.....but thanks! The problem with your argument is that we are discussing a man's being faithful (did you actually read the OP? lol) not a woman's propensity towards moodiness during that time of the month. Pay attention and stay on the subject matter, and then you won't have to be reminded how to successfully contribute to these forums! Although you will probably justify receiving this reply by saying most likely I have PMS! LOL

Sin City Girl

Joined: 1/10/2008

Msg: 2 (view)

All Men are Dogs!!!! Posted: 1/21/2008 12:51:06 PM
I agree with you to an extent. After all, we don't call dogs "man's best friend" for nothing. They are truly wonderful animals. However, your statement that a man is only monogamous as long as the woman excites him is sexist, to say the least.....the VERY least. there really are men out there who would not step outside of their relationship on a matter of principle and because they possess strength of character. Just because you cannot keep your own hormones in check and respect the parameters of being in a relationship does not mean that all men sleep around the minute they are not overly sexually stimulated. We women get bored just as easily if not more so than men sometimes, but a mature person will discuss things with their significan other to see what, if anything, can be done to reintroduce sexual excitement into their relationship. Not all men solve this problem by seeking out the closest "**** in heat."

Sin City Girl

Joined: 1/10/2008

Msg: 190 (view)

When should the woman start paying?? Posted: 1/18/2008 10:35:51 AM
It all seems fairly obvious to me. If a woman asks a guy out, whether for a concert, dinner, or even a few drinks, she should absolutely pay. Whoever does the asking should also do the paying. Who raised this chick? LOL

Sin City Girl

Joined: 1/10/2008

Msg: 43 (view)

How many women think this is true? Posted: 1/17/2008 10:30:45 AM
i think the men would quickly raise their hands, and I think the women would WANT to, but probably not. Women are just as interested in sex as men are, they are just too caught up in the social appearance of it all to show it. We are taught that women who are openly sexual are "easy," and that we should be more close mouthed about our sexuality. I say if it's good for the goose, it's good for the gander.

Sin City Girl

Joined: 1/10/2008

Msg: 513 (view)

Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters! Posted: 1/17/2008 9:15:31 AM
AMEN to that...........just because a girl is gullible and gets "played" by a guy doesn't mean he has commited a crime. Maybe there should be a law against women being so stupid! LOL

Sin City Girl

Joined: 1/10/2008

Msg: 512 (view)

Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters! Posted: 1/17/2008 9:06:46 AM
Stop being so gullible! If you haven't figured out by now that some men (not all) will use whatever means necessary to get what they want, then you are in for a VERY long journey. Don't hate because they outsmarted you and played on your need to hear certain things. Arm yourself! Learn the game they are playing so you can better prepare yourself for their juvenile, prepubescent, hormonal antics.

Sin City Girl

Joined: 1/10/2008

Msg: 291 (view)

Question - please decipher this email response for me Posted: 1/17/2008 9:00:48 AM
Well, Ithink your safest bet is to respond "gee, you're welcome!" and if you don't hear from him again, than he probably isn't interested. But he may be waiting to see if you were just giving him a random compliment or if you really are interested in talking to him.

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