If you were the higher income earner in this scenario, would you tell your aging parent and university student, neither of who lives with you, that you had to reduce the support for them in order to 'bring-up' the standard of the lower income family?

we were advised let love take over and don't be so materalistic!!! "

Have at that theory. Then when it blows up in your face, please return to datingland wiser for the experience.

One other sensitive issue I'd like to bring into the equation, is his self esteem. Men at this age know about older women preferring younger guys. It's also a concern that a woman he might fall in love with may eventually leave for better sex with a younger man (hence, the reason you do not talk about your younger partners from the past)

But there is not enough $ for them to bring the other person's family to that same comfort level even if they wanted to.

I don't actively seek out younger men -- they just happen to find me.

So beside not being a chat/list/poll/redundant thread and having a valid discussable topic like all other forums THAT forums topics must ONLY APPLY to those 45+

A number of invalid threads have been removed from that forum as well as the 30+ forum recently.

Children do care, very much (especially in this day and age), about the age, race, and weight of their parents........

And if you aren't "just right" in their eyes, you will catch HELL, as they blame your lack of (whatever), for what's wrong with their lives....

There is something empowering in not having to hide your secrets, the self imposed burden you covet is no longer yours to hide behind. I share the peaks and valleys of my history in the beginning, I don’t want any suspicions building and it’s also a good way of knowing how interested or judgmental someone is. After that, as time goes on I have no problem telling it all and its actually kind of fun at times. The ability to laugh or cry about ones past with someone else is very freeing.

I do not trust someone who won’t talk of their own dirt or says “that happened a long time ago, I’m not going to talk about it” when it’s obvious that its now causing distance issues in a relationship shows me someone who hasn’t excepted who they are or how they got to this place now. Were over 45 here, we all have dirt and for those who hold on to their secrets as if they were a prized possession, you are the ones who will lose because no one can free you from them but you.

I like a man with a hairy chest........I like running my hands down it....and laying my head on it.......it is so masculine......and I feel so utterly feminine.......

I know a lot of women appear to like to analyze and discuss commitment, and I haveoften wondered why? I agree with the idea that if you have to think about it, it isn't there.

Maybe, people who have to think about whether they want to make a commitment just aren't with the right person yet. That's how I roll, that's how I play it, that's the blood that runs in my veins, and that's the kind of ornaments that hang on my tree. Know what I mean?

FYI Most men with ED will not take that little blue pill everyone is talking about... They are expecting the next woman will inspire him enough. Ever notice their lists of attributes they need in their woman? Plus, they can be very rough on you physically when they can't finish, another problem the pill would fix. They really have a traumatic experience with all this, cuz like someone said they should be nicer at this age, but instead they are meaner, less sensitive and impatient.

why is it not possible that a man wants an individual woman - regardless of age? just as an individual woman wants an individual man - regardless of age?

Oh by the way, at an early age when I learned to hunt I was taught that if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck and flies like a duck it is probably a duck. I learned the same rational applied to cougars although they were simply known as older women at that time. If she talks like a cougar, walks (acts) like a cougar and dates like a cougar she probably is a cougar.

s it actually? Some things to consider.

1. Men have reputation for thinking with their ****s. Women don't have the reputation for thinking with their crotch.

2. It's a norm (societal?/psychological?/physical?) that goes way back, and pretty much in most societies and cultures.

3. Men earn more than women, and some people see $ as a big plus (whether it's security, things or buy, status, or whatever) in choosing a mate. So just based on numbers of men with $ versus numbers of women with $, you will see more younger women with older men. (And it has definitely been either said or strongly hinted by some on this thread that the only [or main] reason a younger woman would marry an older man was for the $$.)

4. One of the "drives" of humanity is to propagate. An older man is more likely to be able to have children with a younger woman than an older woman with a younger man.

Even with those things considered, I would be surprised if a double standard didn't make its own contribution to the situation.

This is a recycling of how the sexy girls would go after the "badboys" leaving us nice guys to the curb.. then wind up PAST their expiration date lamenting where we are.

Men my age are looking for barbie dolls. Plain and simple. God forbid you are a perfect match except for the extra 25 pounds you are carrying. Funny how I look through profiles of guys my age, and they are all looking for women 10 years younger?? ugh!! If I read one more "Looking for a good hearted woman" I will seriously toss my cookies. I think its time for this chubby little keeper to delete my profile and defer to chocolate instead of a companion.

Yawn. The typical, forum post is comprised of one's nastiness, sweeping generalizations, cliched thinking/writing, lame/boring thinking/writing, psychobabble, or all of the above.

Tolerating the many who write so much unattractive nonsense about others and babble on about life's trivialities; and relatively little about their true, better selves.

Let's all raise another glass to anonymity - the new, non-culpable version of owning one's actions