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breath~

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Msg: 48 (view)

People, why against the rocking chair on the porch? Posted: 11/20/2009 5:42:51 AM
motown cowgirl, I do grasp what you are saying, and I do understand that many would agree. And that's all good and well. I'll say this... I don't see it as "waiting to die", this relaxing time of life (for me). I see it as a well deserved FUN relaxing time of life. Yet people who are enjoying the slowing down are seen as "checking out of life", or something... "waiting to die", as you said. Some people can't seem to understand that for many it is an enjoyment. Even a choice... before the pain and cripple-ness of old age sets in. I lead a Bingo group! I do the planning, shopping for the prizes, and lead the actual event. Guess what? it's not in an overheated basement, lol... had to slip that in there. And we laugh and laugh and chat and everyone has a grand time. They get as much enjoyment out of that as they did when they were climbing mountains. So do I! But "others" seem to think we are sitting around waiting to die? Far from it. But I DO understand that there are those who feel they must keep their feet hitting the ground running until they MUST stop. And that's great! Makes the world go 'round.. people being different from each other.

breath~

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How do you older women feel about a younger guy in a relationship Posted: 11/20/2009 4:11:18 AM
Okay, I could use a few younger guys today and tomorrow! It's moving time. Oh wait. I have my 30 and 36 yr old sons coming to help. Already have my younger guys!

breath~

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Msg: 45 (view)

People, why against the rocking chair on the porch? Posted: 11/20/2009 4:03:33 AM
What a fun thread this has been to read! And, it’s good to see some people saying how they do enjoy a bit more relaxing now than in ‘younger’ years. Sometimes it just seems the over-45 forums are all about boasting on the things one can do with more vigor than ever before, lol. Rustygetsit…. Apology accepted, although I really wasn’t offended. I had a fun giggle at you saying a rocking chair was better than a wheelchair, when here I am in a wheelchair. Hehe, still gives me a giggle. So alls well! And I did understand what you meant in your post. 1 toe in water… you cracked me up. In fact, many of you did. FFS… yes, watching the swinging woman would certainly be entertainment. lol And yes, taking walks is always good. Being involved in other things, is always good. But a ‘natural’ slowing down is… well… natural! To plop in the rocking chair and hardly do anything else IS for the ‘very old’… oh, and our lovely poster ‘Danielle in the wall’. ~smile~ As for taking walks.. yeah, it can run you into some dangerous situations. Sure wouldn't want to be gorged.. by people or animals!! wow My area is good for walking, thank goodness. My Girlfriend and I have had this conversation many times... We want to be sitting on the porch, gently swinging, or rocking and holding hands in our old age.... So for us, the rocking chair is a goal... a sign of completion.... Maybe try doing it now a bit more often? It’s very healthy, I think. One of you may not make it to “old age”, and you will miss out on it.

breath~

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People, why against the rocking chair on the porch? Posted: 11/19/2009 5:25:43 PM
Its like this - better a rocking chair than a damned wheel chair. Well, seeing as I am in a wheelchair... I say better my chair than not being able to get around! I would never damn it, I'm thrilled to have it. the rocking chair thing is a cliche meant to indicate that one has given up on living life and is content to sit on the sidelines and watch others. But notice the word "content" in there. Although most that sit in the rocking chair, (so to speak), do still do other things. They just aren't so busy as before .. and don't mind that. Here in our over-45 forum I see so many who still feel it is almost imperative they stay very busy. "Save the rocking chair for when I am 80". But who says we'll make it to 80? It really is so very pleasant to relax in that "rocking chair".. but they fight it. Or at least in words here they do. I guess I was just being reflective tonight because a friend of mine I know died today. He did know, though, how wonderful it was to allow himself to slow down and enjoy the "rocking chair". If he had waited till 80, or even 65, he wouldn't have ever known.

breath~

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People, why against the rocking chair on the porch? Posted: 11/19/2009 4:41:29 PM
I guess this is more for the more “over 55” group. Are there any of you who will admit that they do have less energy, even enjoy sitting on the porch rocking chair, so to speak, now and then? It seems so many are proudly tooting a horn of “I’m as energetic as in my 30’s”.. or… (I’ve seen something like this written often)… “I’ll never give in to sitting in a rocking chair”. I ask you, what in the world is so wrong with sitting in a rocking chair on the porch? Why do so many over-50 people feel they must be out slaying dragons instead of sittin’ back and relaxing much more? Why is hiking the mountains, working out in the gym every day, chasing an adventure every weekend, etc., looked upon as better proof of “living well” than listening to music, watching the birds, contemplating the sky, enjoying thoughts while rocking on the porch? Or going for a stroll, a unhurried bicycle ride? Why do those who do the first set of things seem to look down on those who do more of the 2nd set? Are there even any people on ‘our’ forums who will admit they only slay dragons seldom these days.. and DO like “sittin’ in a rocking chair on the porch”? Even think that would make an interesting date? (not that I'm personally asking, lol!)

breath~

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How much do we tolerated before calling it quits ???? Posted: 11/19/2009 12:48:19 PM
^^ not going to go back to search to see what she wrote on another page! Today was suppose to be a happy day. Got the key to my brand new apartment (just built). Moving from this one to that, in the same apartment village. But this morning a very good friend died, unexpectedly. And just now my fish died. Not that that is a big deal, but it brought on another long bout of crying.. because of my friend no longer being here. And it's been raining all day, so I can't even go out and wheel up the hill, carrying things to my new apartment. I can't tolerate much more bad things going on today.

breath~

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Being committed to the relationship Posted: 11/19/2009 11:47:15 AM
What is your honest opinion of all this? 1. She never did want a fully committed relationship with you. 2. She found someone now with whom she does want a fully committed relationship. 3. You're out. You never really were in, in her mind. And that's not really my "opinion".. it's the facts you just wrote in black and white.

breath~

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Commitment, a unique or generalized pledge? Posted: 11/19/2009 6:12:22 AM
indefatigabilis.. that was a GREAT post and YES I know what you meant... wonderfully worded! wow. I can't add to it, it's complete.

breath~

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Sail/Vixen Posted: 11/18/2009 7:57:25 AM
Okay Ladies. I was being "realistic" (as I said). For every situation, that fits the OP's "case file", that runs remotely smooth, I'd venture a guess there are a few hundred that don't, at least. Amen. I'm outta here. oh, p.s. I DO wish you well, OP.

breath~

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easy going fun lovin...what happened? Posted: 11/18/2009 7:06:54 AM
Every woman's dream: to date of of the Three Stooges That about sums it up! You may be fun for comic relief at times, but for something 'steady' .. you may not even be considered.

breath~

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Horible New Fasion Trend Posted: 11/18/2009 6:57:51 AM
The trend that does bother me is when people can't spell correctly and expect people to accept that... I so agree with the "expect people to accept that"! As for stockings.. this thread has me surprised! I thought men enjoyed seeing them on women, 100 times more than the woman wearing slacks!

breath~

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Msg: 122 (view)

Sail/Vixen Posted: 11/18/2009 6:17:23 AM
Since we are tossing around ideas here. A woman in her late 30's or 40's that was unable to have children would be best for him.. A woman that really wanted children but unfortunately could not have them.. She will welcome his children with open arms. I don't know about that. Let's remember he shares custody. Let's be realistic about the stress that WILL come with children living one week on and one week off.. and under the influence of the other parent during the weeks off. Let's remember this will be going on through all the children's developmental 'stages'. And we parents know all about those stages, lol! Drive ya nuts! Let's remember she won't really be the children's "mother". YES, many women in 30's 40's who haven't had children MAY be wishing they could. But these won't be her children.. she will be the 2nd fiddle 'mom'.. definitely on the back burner to the 'real' mom and dad who both are full time in the children's lives with week on/week off for possibly the next decade or longer.

breath~

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Taking a Trip Down Memory Lane Posted: 11/17/2009 5:26:56 PM
Margo, I'm sorry you had a house fire. Tonight I went through Memory Lane.. found a site with all the 'candid photos' from my High School yearbook! 40 years ago.. what a hoot! A special "wow" for the cars back then.

breath~

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No-one likes him except me Posted: 11/17/2009 3:21:15 AM
So he sold all he owned, including a car.. left a pretty good paying job.. had a "richy apartment".. and all he got out of that was an AstroVan? Oh, and some wool, to pull over your eyes. I've NOTHING against a man who sells everything, quits the working world, sets out in a van to discover themselves and the lands around them. More power to them! But.... if he finds a woman and a serious relationship begins.. and he sits there spounging off her.. the dynamics change. He's no longer traveling around discovering himself and seeing the world.. he's 'settled down' again, but holding onto the "fun irresponsibility". That's all good and well when one is alone... but your friends/family are seeing that it's not such a good thing when in a relationship.

breath~

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How do you older women feel about a younger guy in a relationship Posted: 11/16/2009 12:32:23 PM
My family wouldn't care. They'd be thrilled I'd found a nice young buck to help around with the chores and stuff! Wanna help with some chores? LOL There ya go! That's my answer. Truthfully, I don't even think about it. I SERIOUSLY DOUBT some younger man would show an interest in me. And "younger man", to me, would mean any number under 50. LOL

breath~

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when you deal with a difficult boss Posted: 11/16/2009 6:54:15 AM
Once you feel you are being targeted & get the victim mentality you are done. It is really difficult to dig yourself out of that state of mind. Find another job. The last thing you want to do is lapse from a professional perspective and make it personal. Yep. Yep.

breath~

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Receiving a message. Posted: 11/16/2009 6:50:44 AM
My gosh, this sure is a redundant topic.. can't believe a moderator even chatted in it! Maybe the old threads have actually been taken away? My answer to the topic.. I pretty much only get messages from forum people.. chit-chat sort of stuff. I already know who they are, but I will check profile now and then to see if they've changed it any, just for the entertainment factor. On the rare occassion I get a 'unknown' sender email? I check profile before reading email.

breath~

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Christmas already? For Christ's sake... Posted: 11/16/2009 6:38:35 AM
As for me.. I keep it simple. Kinda always did. I try to just sit back and enjoy. NOT make stress out of it.

breath~

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Christmas already? For Christ's sake... Posted: 11/16/2009 6:35:51 AM
Someone said: It creates an enormous amount of economic activity. All that money flowing through the system creates jobs and enables people to take care of their familiesand pay their bills. Someone replied: Uhhhh nope! That's actually pretty hilarious that you believe that! 1) The majority of these people are shopping in the service sector where employees get payed pretty minimum wage. last time I checked, you can't support a family on that. 2) These jobs that you think are being created are actually being replaced by self-scanners. 3) The enormous activity that you are talking about goes to the elite, not the workers. All that money, we don't see that! You get that right? While I agree, the rich do get richer... the increased economic activity effects more than the extra hours, or extra part time job, for the "petty minimum wage" earner who works in the stores. The trucking industry gets more business. Manufactors get more business. Mom and Pop make it another year due to their christmas tree farm. Independently owned shops get money to hopefully help to stay open the rest of the year. Shoot, the stock market fluctuates by our spending. Lord, the list goes on. Now, this is not to say I personally agree with people going crazy with spending for the holidays. No way. But, sorry to say, in general it is a big help to the economy we have in place.

breath~

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Tolerance with age? Posted: 11/16/2009 5:35:25 AM
Well.......... with some of the fussing I see on the over-45 threads about the things that make one go "ewww".. I don't see where there is any great deal of tolerance. But I'm not some paragon of tolerance. In my own personal space around me.. I just don't let things in.. or people in.. that can cause discord to my mind or the enviroment surrounding me. Screw that. Throw that drama off on someone else. So that's where I have no tolerance. Don't try to mess with my peace.

breath~

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Taking a Trip Down Memory Lane Posted: 11/15/2009 3:19:30 PM
I got rid of a lot when I sold my house and moved to a small apartment. A LOT. Yes, memories were attached to many of those things.. but the older I get, the more I realize I just don't want to clean all those memories! Besides, I didn't have room for them anyway. But, I still crowded a lot into my little apartment. Getting rid of a lot more right now, because I'm moving again... in 5 days!! It feels GREAT! The apartment I'm taking.. I'm thrilled with it... good chance I'll be there the rest of my life, who knows. I want VERY LITTLE 'clutter' to clean!!!!!!!! I sit back and enjoy the memories in my mind.

breath~

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Nose & Ear Hair Posted: 11/15/2009 7:20:49 AM
LOL, geezer-glide! ^^ that's why mirrors were invented. being that oblivious to one's appearance means there's a seriously flaw in the circuitry. Because it is a flaw to you.. the hair growing where you don't want it.. you figure it is a "flaw in the circuitry"? Maybe they aren't being 'oblivious' to their appearance.. maybe they know there is hair.. maybe they think they have the right to have hair where ever it grows. Everyone has the right to allow hair to grow wherever the heck they want it to, we know that, or should know that. And.. everyone has the right to turn away and think 'ew' if they want, I'll agree with that statement. To consider it a flaw in their circuitry is .... just not right. To think someone is 'wrong' for ANY hair growing not being what the fashion sense of the period of the society they are living in at that time... is just not right. It can be unpleasant for your personal tastes.. which is what many are saying here. But people, saying it is 'wrong' in general?.. making fun of it?.. saying it is awful?.. thinking everyone out there should trim/cut/shave any hair you don't think should be growing? etc.. is just not right. But don't mind me. I'm a bit unique ..different ..from the usual. Always have been. I've never quite buckled down to what other people said should be or shouldn't be.

breath~

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Nose & Ear Hair Posted: 11/15/2009 5:58:50 AM
My goodness. One person even said they wouldn't want a FRIEND that had nose/ear hair. What in the world are people becoming? So hung up on where hair is or is not growing. Lots of ew ew ew. I find saying "ew" about any hair on another person, to be very childish. I'm sure the Pioneers didn't give a damn about what hair grew on what person. Just forge ahead, protect/nourish the family, be happy at being alive and at having a good mate. Seems people these days can't grasp plain ole' "having a good mate". They want no hair on their backs, or beard MUST be trimmed, or privates must or must not be shaved, old age hair changes to the body must be curtailed, whatever whatever whatever. Just my opinion. Unpopular one, I'm 100% sure.

breath~

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Having a younger child Posted: 11/14/2009 12:02:11 PM
^^ No, it was in her profile. It was the typical wording of something like .. by the way, I am actually so and so age, not the younger age it shows, I tried to change it, really I did.

breath~

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Having a younger child Posted: 11/14/2009 11:27:51 AM
Guess OP left to go start a new profile with correct age? We may never know. I think having a young child at home is something that can be told in the first email, if someone shows an interest in wanting to email. Or could be mentioned in profile. Either way. And yeah, it does cut down on prospects, I believe. But so do a lot of things.

breath~

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Msg: 55 (view)

BF will not tell me his birthdate or where he works - is this wierd to you guys? Posted: 11/14/2009 7:26:37 AM
OP, you ignored.. (and other posters may not have seen).. what I wrote on page one: Come on, face facts here. You did put this in another thread: I know that he is very very sensitive so I NEVER blurt out my true feelings and remain unemotional when things come up... ... He will get upset over any little thing and then just shut down. Will not talk or text me for a few days to a week. I have been trying to figure this out. .. My X-husband was like that too -- just stopped talking! It's hard to deal with.. I ask again, why are you putting up with this? And, why are you even surprised he won't tell you his birthday or where he works? He's a very controlling individual.. I mean, duh!!

breath~

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Any Coffee Addicts? Posted: 11/13/2009 8:39:53 PM
What is this thing about headaches when you stop drinking coffee? I have never experienced this. First time I've heard of it. I had never heard of it either, until my friend told me she gets a headache in the afternoon unless she has an afternoon cup of coffee. I drink 2 mugs every morning.. enjoy it greatly. Addicted? Dunno. And I don't really think I care. TooShadows? I agree.. a body not getting enough fluids will react with a headache.

breath~

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I don't care that he did, but WHY DID HE HAVE TO LIE? Posted: 11/13/2009 7:51:29 PM
^^ LOL.... now I'm "ugly", along with old and fat. Gotta love it.. this PoF forum stuff. Great entertainment at times. While you're at it, may as well add "handicapped". hahahahaaaaa!!!

breath~

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BF will not tell me his birthdate or where he works - is this wierd to you guys? Posted: 11/13/2009 7:37:32 PM
OP, you put this in another thread: I know that he is very very sensitive so I NEVER blurt out my true feelings and remain unemotional when things come up... so I know it is not because he is afraid I will get emotional on him. He will get upset over any little thing and then just shut down. Will not talk or text me for a few days to a week. I have been trying to figure this out. I don't know of women who do this but I have dated a few guys who are this way. My X-husband was like that too -- just stopped talking! It's hard to deal with.. I'd say you are ... again... getting involved with a controlling person. If you NEVER blurt out your true feelings .. and you have to remain unemotional when things come up... and he gets upset over any little thing.. and he shuts down... and he doesn't talk to you for a few days to a week... and he won't tell you his birthday or where he works.. he's CONTROLLING you... for goodness sake woman, why are you.. again.. with this type of man???

breath~

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BF will not tell me his birthdate or where he works - is this wierd to you guys? Posted: 11/13/2009 6:50:24 PM
Yeah, it's a little weird. But, some people ARE very private when they first get with a new person. Been burned in the past and not letting down the guard. Seeing him since mid Sept. and him jumping into the exclusive talk while still in Sept.. is a little weird too. I don't know what to tell you. But personally, I'd not say "yes" to exclusive relationship while at the same time wondering if he was acting weird.

breath~

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Did you think life would be like this at 50? Posted: 11/13/2009 6:13:39 PM
At age 50 I hydroplaned and roll my truck over a bunch of times. So nope, I didn't think life would be like this after age 50. But I can honestly say.. ain't life grand?!! At ANY age, all we can do is make the best of it.. find the happiness that IS there. Truly has nothing to do with the number of our years. When I was younger, I don't think I wondered/thought about what I'd be doing at age 50. Kinda like I am not wondering/thinking about what I'll be doing at age 75. I'm just living!

breath~

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I don't care that he did, but WHY DID HE HAVE TO LIE? Posted: 11/13/2009 5:16:06 PM
^^ goodness gracious... message 32... so this is a pattern... a reoccuring mess. Childish mess. Playing games sort of stuff. If this is what PoF does to ya, give it up. "he's online, shouldn't be online, should I be online, why is he online, yadda yadda" I'm going to take my old fat self out of this thread and make myself a meal.

breath~

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I don't care that he did, but WHY DID HE HAVE TO LIE? Posted: 11/13/2009 4:19:45 PM
...and date every fat, old chick on here looking for a free meal I'm kinda fat and kinda old.. so do I get a free meal? OP.. it sounds like you do care that he did. Now that you got the 'rant' out of your system, go ask HIM about it. We say it all the time here... communication communication communication. But, could be this thread is your way of communicating to him?

breath~

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Friend can be an Embarrassment Posted: 11/13/2009 10:44:46 AM
it's my best friend's husband. ....the offensive behavior is the 'N' word. And yes, I've told him in no uncertain terms how I feel about it. MY "no uncertain terms" would be to walk away each and every time.. just walk away. Get up and walk away. Oops I can't get up and walk away, okay, I'd wheel away. "I will not be around such talk".. then prove it by removing myself. One can tell tell tell tell they don't like something .. but it doesn't mean much of anything until you put action behind your telling.

breath~

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Msg: 56 (view)

I'm a 58 year old guy with young kids (Where is the POF/AARP/K-8 Forum?) Where do I fish? Posted: 11/12/2009 9:05:59 AM
Quite honestly, I simply can't imagine what a gentleman just shy of 60 years old - with TWO kids under the age of 10 - could possibly offer a younger woman in her 30's? A gentleman that works two jobs (so he's clearly not sugar daddy material) and one who brings with him tons of kiddie drama and wife drama what with the "pissing matches" about various kiddie issues and the upcoming divorce etc. etc., just doesn't seem like a good catch to a 30-something at all. It just sounds like an invitation to Peyton Place. I agree, especially with the part I highlighted. I also agree with that, concerning OP finding a woman nearer his age, too. These children.. for the next 10-12 years.. (if OP lives that long)... will be spending one week with dad, one week with mom, over and over and over. Any woman walking into that, is gonna walk into a decade of "pissing matches" between all parties involved. The kids will be back and forth, playing one side against the other. It's the way of kids, to get what they want. AND, (usually), the way of an "ex", to get what emotional satisfaction they want. The new woman in his life wouldn't be able to settle nicely down to being a happy "mom" in the situation... she'll be pulled one way each time they leave and have to deal with what they bring back when they return. Week after week after week... indefinitely... for maybe a decade. Meanwhile her man is becoming 60.. 62... 66...70. Nah, not many young woman would go in for that. Might last a year, but I doubt it. And the older women wouldn't either, 'cos they are wise enough NOT TO. We see there is going to be a lot of drama happening, for many a year. So, sorry OP, you're most likely not going to find a steady woman, of any age, to come in to stay in your life. That's my opinion. I think you're stuck with finding some kind of one week on, one week off, 'flings' when you can... if you have this need for a woman. Guess this falls under the "you made your bed, now ya gotta lay in it" catagory. Enjoy the children! I know how wonderful it is to be a parent.

breath~

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roses are red.. Posted: 11/12/2009 8:16:45 AM
^^^ Roses are red Kettles are black Why waste good meat Yummy yummy cat messages this short?? say what? this wasn't a short message!

breath~

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roses are red.. Posted: 11/11/2009 6:55:51 AM
Roses are red or so it’s been said. But I’m blind and I see it to be differently Roses are soft feel I see them to heal overworked fingertips and my lonely lips Roses are smell good and I know they could scent me to heaven land just held in my hand ~~~~~~~ Saw this thread and just decided to make a "roses are red" poem. No, I am not blind.

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When we were young, things were pretty simple Posted: 11/10/2009 3:05:00 PM
Things are pretty screwed up out there in the world. Busy, complicated, media hype, uncertain times, and real human contact going down the drain. But ya know what? Life for me right now is "pretty simple". And I don't let it be otherwise. Not a whole lot of life left for me.. rollin' on the downside now. (many of us are) So UN-simple can just go hang out someplace else. I'm just plain ole' enjoying life around me.

breath~

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/10/2009 10:01:16 AM
Basically I think many men would like to find someone to fit into their life .. a good companion, a good 'match' to their lifestyle/beliefs, along with some good sex too. And that's great. Funny thing is, I think many woman want to find someone to fit into their life.. a good companion, a good 'match' to their lifestlye/beliefs, along with some good sex too. Same "looking for"! (in general) So.. WHO'S life does WHO fit into? "come fit into mine" "no, come fit into mine"

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Are we all here for the same reasons ??? Posted: 11/8/2009 6:58:34 AM
Are we all here for the same reasons? Nope. Easy enough to answer. ..just like to find a friend and maybe move onto a relationship.. That ^^ was my reason to be here. But ALL BUT ONE man I've met showed up with that "when can we have sex?" gleam already in their eye... and in their actions/words. And they hadn't even gotten to know me yet.

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On the Cusp! Posted: 11/7/2009 4:12:42 PM
^^ karma1160, this thread was started 3 years ago and the OP is no longer here, that is why there is no picture. It's a resurected thread... which we gotta do sometimes because many new threads are deemed redundant due to all the old threads left on this site.

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Msg: 172 (view)

Shaving or trimming your privates at our age? Posted: 11/7/2009 8:24:33 AM
I guess maybe I was lucky when I was involved with a "younger" (mind & body) woman and she opened a few "doors" for me. Learned a whole new definiton of erotic and sensual... What a shame you had to wait till you were in your later years in life! Kama Sutra was around how many centuries??

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On the Cusp! Posted: 11/7/2009 3:57:48 AM
45 is many many many many many many life changes and farout adventures ago. So I guess it's safe to say I haven't been sitting around stuck in inhibitions.

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What's the upside to being over 50 and single Posted: 11/5/2009 5:38:36 PM
Finally, honesty. Dang. I was honest in my post. Most likely many others were too. messages this short..... yadda yadda

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Msg: 117 (view)

Shaving or trimming your privates at our age? Posted: 11/5/2009 11:51:17 AM
It's amazing that we share with strangers on the net what we wouldn't tell a close friend. There are many things I do not share with strangers on the net. This happens to be one of them. As is a lot of personal and/or sexual things. I end up thinking about any man I may get into a relationship with. Out of respect for HIM, I tend to keep anything about 'privates'.. well.. private. To share with Him, if the time comes.. and he'll know I didn't let thousands of strangers know before him. Disclaimer: Just my opinion.. or my standards. I am NOT saying anyone else 'should' have my standards. NOR am I looking down on anyone who doesn't have my opinion.

breath~

Joined: 1/13/2008

Msg: 4 (view)

When do you tell? Posted: 11/3/2009 1:49:44 PM
I would say the "deadline" can be loosely described as "before it becomes a relationship". That sounds about right to me too.

breath~

Joined: 1/13/2008

Msg: 18 (view)

Should I be worried? Posted: 11/2/2009 4:38:38 PM
He's not interested enough to tell you anything about himself? The ones that only give you their phone number and say 'call me'... and repeatedly do that without answering any of your questions? I'd stay clear from.

breath~

Joined: 1/13/2008

Msg: 12 (view)

So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...??? Posted: 11/1/2009 1:02:50 PM
I didn't DO the other thread. Someone else did. It is sad and negative. This is to counterbalance that thread, to remind people who forgot or never learned, that being okay with being single is... okay.... OK? Wait a minute. The other thread was the POSITIVES of being single.. the UPside. It was the "okay with being single" side. But this thread is... what is the DOWNside.. which translated could mean the 'sad and negative'. I think either you, OP, are confused... or I am! LOL

breath~

Joined: 1/13/2008

Msg: 45 (view)

What's the upside to being over 50 and single Posted: 11/1/2009 9:25:09 AM
I've discovered that the upside is bigger than the downside. Way way bigger. Maybe I may meet someone who changes my mind on that, if he walks down my sidewalk out of the blue one day. Because I've certainly stopped doing the "looking around for someone" thing. And instead just enjoying the upside.

breath~

Joined: 1/13/2008

Msg: 5 (view)

who gets your stuff? Posted: 11/1/2009 7:59:40 AM
My will says my 3 children will come here on a day of being together, no spouses, just them... and take stickers with their names on them... starting with the youngest, they'll take turns putting a sticker on something they want... until everything sits here with either stickers on it, or rejected to be sent to Goodwill. I've raised 3 really great people.. they'll not fight nor fuss over my 'stuff'.. they get along very well.. they'll make it a time of togetherness and remembering mom.

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