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rocein

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Msg: 291 (view)

Does the size of the ring matter ? Posted: 8/23/2009 4:38:07 PM
in london there is a place called hattan garden which a lot of people go to to look for rings

rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

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Does the size of the ring matter ? Posted: 8/23/2009 4:36:27 PM
its not the size but the cut and clarity howeter it really depends on what type of ring she wants. 3 carats usually comes up as a nice size ring. You can probably get cheaper rings with better designs in other countries like turkey

rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

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I need help.. or advice, I dont know Posted: 8/23/2009 4:31:55 PM
i think a lot more of an explanation about what is wrong is required here but if she i s seeing another man then she is not loving you. When you love someone you want for them what they want for themselves therefore you would not mess them around if you were not sure of the relationship you might work on it. Take a break from it. Etc but you would not go off with another guy keeping your ex on a string. As i dont know all the details i am just going by this and in this situation she has no real appreciation for you. I would leave her tell her you want it to end and start looking for someone who will make you feel happy if she regrets leaving you and WANTS you back then she should show it and leave the other guy with the knowledge that what she had with you was something special if she does not see this there is no future in the relationship do not be her emotional crutch . Why should you want to be with her when she is with someone else. Sleeping with someone who is sleeping with others can be deadly these days . And no one needs an emotional head f . . .

rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

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...A Sexual Relationship WITHOUT Emotional Attachments... Posted: 8/23/2009 4:17:51 PM
i do not think so. We are all emotional beings everything we say do and think makes us the person we are now even if both persons wanted no commitment or had other commitments this relationship between them would effect both of their lives. If you are talking short term even i truely believe that men can be detached but women do tend to attach emotion to sexual attentions

rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

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astrology and relationships Posted: 8/23/2009 3:56:45 PM
i think people do have traits when it comes to star sign s. I dont rule anyone out because of it but i bare in mind what they may be like. Water signs are usually great 4 me as i m a cancer

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

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When they screw up Posted: 5/26/2009 6:26:17 PM
In any relationship you still need time with your friends and time together It is not wise though, to try to fit too much into one day. If urSO usually takes you out every now and again I think you're over reacting. It may be an idea to keep friends days and your time together days seperate . It is usually a good idea to try to have a set day and time when you both see your own friends away from each other and then on a completely different day plan something just for the two of you. You do have a point as it seems he let you down twice and it was inconsiderate of him but if this is the first time he has every acted this way and usually does make an effort to take you out then it is both forgivable and forgettable in my books. Still it is right to nip it in the bud wouldn't want him to think its OK for it to become a habbit.

Rocein

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Shallow or know what i want? Posted: 5/26/2009 6:08:16 PM
If everyone had the same taste this might be a problem but we don't; we all have our own idea of good looking. For me, as for many others; I need to feel that attraction and the rest of the stuff like you say is really not relevent, as long as there is trust respect communication and you like to be together. Still I have found strangely enough, that I have met guys that I t,hought were really good looking that I still didn't have those feelings of attraction for. I found this really strange.

Rocein

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Need Advice Big Time Posted: 5/26/2009 5:58:37 PM
If a man says hes not ready believe him the lightlyhood that he wants to be with you for anything more than sex is extremely slight. Even if he truely enjoys your company, personally if a man says that to me I'd be off before he got to touch me cause its not what I want, but if you are really, not looking for stability and love and don't feel it will affect you or hurt you then go ahead and have casual sex with him

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

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how do i get my ex back..I still love him Posted: 5/26/2009 5:29:03 PM
I don't know about this I very rarely leave an ex without still having feelings for him, and probably still have the worst time getting over it; I have just found the strength to get out when I know its truely not good for me, when a man says hes not serious I'm out when he starts lying I'm out, these things do not mean that I stop wanting to be with him or I don't feel that same craving this woman does for her ex it just means I know whats not good for me. Both persons need to want to get back together for it to work, things between people can always be fixed for women its usually with reassurance and display of emotion for men its usually finding thats flirting play that got you together in the first place feeling that fun and attraction again, but beware if you slip into old patterns and negative ways if there is no trust if what ever went wrong is not resolved between you it still wont work unless you have changed your attritude about it.

Rocein

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should i stay trying to get local or try for ? Posted: 5/4/2009 5:40:42 PM
Is she in Russia one of these set up sites? I know that a lot of women who had a hard life joinned these types of sites and they are after money and comfort, I do not think love comes into it for them so its up to you the lightlyhood is a girl like that will leave you and take half also will not necessarily respect you and may go off with somone else if they see more is being offered. I don't think its clever and I'm not saying this about all Russians there must be some very nice and decent Russian girls out there, if you are really curious maybe go to Russsia and meet her and see what it is like. If you are some rich guy and don't mind paying for love then go ahead if it makes you happy

Rocein

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how either move on or win a woman back? Posted: 5/4/2009 5:35:53 PM
You don't give a lot of detail here was the end by mutual agreement? Did you talk about it first, what impact or toll did the drugs have on the relationship. You say you grew apart but from what you say it doesn't sound that way. Keeping her close to you at work makes it harder for you to move on it is a pity you couldn't have found her something where the two of you were not in constant contact, as she needs the job she will obviously be grateful but that does not mean she is still in love with you. You do not say how long you were together. I think these days it is so easy to move on from a relationship rather than work through things which is a pity for her, the children should most definately come first snd if your relationship affected them then it is best you are not together. It is hard to get over someone and move on when the ex is so close thats not really healthy and it is true sometimes women can treat you like a doormat if you act like one. It is not always true that you treat a woman well and they don't care for you or care less because if IA AM ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE THE BETTER THEY TREAT ME THE LESS i EVER WANT TO LEAVE THEM and the more I hope it will last forever. However if she takes your kindness for weakness she will not find you attractive.

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

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Can anybody explain this to me? Posted: 5/4/2009 5:26:30 PM
OK this is a tricky one she may have thought she liked you more than you liked her and didn't want to get hurt she may well have been dating other people and thought it was a bad idea or have met someone inbetween the time you dated and the time you were suposed to go to hers ; someone who made her feel like they didn't want her to leave because that in itself can feel like a rejection to a lot of women. It sounds asthough she may have thought you thought there was no instant connection which she may have felt, your first response should have been to tell her something like you didn't think she was slutty at all and that you have spoken for weeks before and both felt like you knew each other a lot before you met and it happened because there was a really great attracvtion and connection , I have never put myself in this situation but I imagine if I did I would want to feel like the guy really liked me and hope he called me and sent me little texts throughout the week missing me. Women often run to anothers arms if they feel insecure, but like I said it could be that or that she just didn't like you enough or met someone else. Ad she invited you to diner, your response should have been I'll bring a bottle and I am rwally looking forward to seeing you again. It sounds asthough she may have felt rejected

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

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Finally got the girl... Now dont know what to do, please help. Posted: 5/4/2009 5:09:18 PM
Hmmm if she was serious about it being onr off she probably would not have continued kissing you however I doubt that she wants a relationship with you, your best chance is to be really layed back be her friend even once in a while look in the direction of another woman and see if she notices let her initiate anything and if she does I would advice you not to take it for anything serious it sounds asthough she is wanting some closness as on the rebound rather than searching for something more meaningful , I would aDVICE JOT TO BE A WALK OVER STILL HANG OUT with her but maybe throw in that you have a date if things don't go your way or trn around I advice you to date and not become fixated on this girl or you may end up with douboe heart ache

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

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What about wearing a hat? Posted: 5/4/2009 5:01:26 PM
In general there is nothing wrong in wearing a hat as long as it looks suitable with the attire and situation however....... if with a woman quite often she will want to see what you look like without one on and this may be to your detriment if your hair looks like rats tails, after all she wouldn't expect you to wear a hat in bed lol

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

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Does refusing offers upset you? Posted: 5/4/2009 4:58:52 PM
Ok hate to tell you this but even infact often the most attractive of women are insecure they don't want to feel you are going to use them for sex so they want to wait however if they feel you don't want them enough and are not turned on by them they often think they are not enough for you its as simple as that.

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

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Gift idea for girl im not steady with? Posted: 5/4/2009 4:55:19 PM
flowers or even one flower is kind of cool in a little vase on her desk with a personal note very nice, if its chocolates a small box of hand made ones is usually good. Don't know the girl but if you work together it could be something silly that she might need for work like a cute screen wipe for the pc or even a pen anything that has some personal connection.

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

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Are health problems a total deal breaker? Posted: 5/4/2009 4:47:32 PM
I think it really depends on how much it affects your life, if ot os an ongoing chalenge then it is good to be honest if it is something that may happen or has occure already that has no huge impact on the way you live your day to day life it may be worth saving it until you have formed a closer relationship

Rocein

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When are we men supposed to believe what you women say? Posted: 5/4/2009 4:41:01 PM
In general I think men should pay for the first date as women want to be made to feel special and if you don't its not a great memory, a lot of women wont want you to pay for them if they don't want to feel like they owe you something or theres anything in it , if you don't like her enough to pay for the first date after the first 5 minutes tell her youu only have very little money on you therefore giving her a way to duck out if she also doesn't fancy you or allowing her to offer to pay for herself if she fancies going out with you anyway. If you are low on cash think of something inventive there are always things on that are free, and a bottle of wine in the park on a nice summers day is pretty cool. If you want to pay and the woman insists you can always tell her she can get you back another time if she likes. , if she likes you she will agree to this if she doesn't like you unless she is taking the piss she may just blatently tell you what if there is no next time, then again she could also say this in jest, Still it is true that many women think differently on the subject and it can be hard to tell, because some women will also want you to pay even if they don't like you

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

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Lost with dating / constucting social life Posted: 5/4/2009 4:28:03 PM
This is not t all unusual, I have 1000's of aquaintances and many people who ask me to come out but I don't have the drive to go to clubs always and just end up staying in because my ideal, at the age I am at, would have been to maybe do something local or stay in with a video. Often too tired after a hectic week to want to go and party. Still it is quite easy to collect friends who you can do things with. Ask your friends at work what they are doing the weekend, maybe some of them who are singke may fancy meeting up to go bowling or to a comedy club. Join groups of activities you can do with out needing to go with another like salsa lessons or martial arts, these bring you into contact with others with similar interests and you can develope frienships from here just by asking guys if they watched he football or whatever or asking girls about the dance or the move how long they have been doing it etc it is usualloy easy to strike a conversation after a class, sometimes it may take a few weeks buut if youu are bold you could ask for a dance after a class just to practise ask if theres anywhere else they go and strike up a conversation. Its all about engadging people. However.................... don't beat yourself up because especially in cities with people coming and going and busy with their carears it is often a lonely and insular place for an awful lot of people

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

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The Emotional Toll of Dating. Posted: 5/4/2009 4:09:21 PM
Dating from internet sites can be tiring yes, most guys don't look like their pictures when you meet them and there is mo attraction when there is a one way attraction a date can be wearing to say the least unless the guy is very layed back

Rocein

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Am I delusional? Posted: 5/4/2009 4:06:11 PM
Well I can't see a picture so I have no idea if u look dorkey but then theres always help there in the way of good designer clothes hair stylists etc. It may be that you don't think you are attractive and that is the signal you send off to women, if you never approach a woman as though you are interested in her she may always take you as a friend. Its very hard to find dates here without a picture so I would suggest this that you put up a picture delete the messages you've put up about feeling inadequate and search for some dates even for the fun experience of going out with a woman who is also single and looking for a partner.

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

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what is everyones opin on tattoos? Posted: 5/4/2009 3:51:37 PM
well I smoke lol so guess thats one thing buut no I don't like tatoos on women much, and I cannot imagine wanting to have anything written on my body. Some look ok on guys depends on the type and if they are over done. In general not a fan but each to their own

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

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Everyone Wants a Cougar Posted: 5/4/2009 3:46:13 PM
I don't want to date someone under 30 I still get a lot of offers from mid 20's guys even though I have specified this in my profile, I am in my late 30's and truely more than a 5 year difference either way is enough for me. Itd not a maturity thing always, often it is just that in your mid 20's you are at a very different place in your life than you are at when you reach your mid 30's

Rocein

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Am I right or wrong? Posted: 5/4/2009 3:28:54 PM
Some females do not feel inhibited in the way others do, to your friend she may not feel that this is too much and it was just a pose for a picture; I personally do not want anyone who is not with me o touch me in that way ad I feel that is private between me and whom ever I am with; these days a lot of women are not of that mind set. One thing I will say is that YOU cannot tell anyone that they cannot see friends that were there before you, you can ask her hpw such a picture came to happen and if she thinks its ok to have her 'friends' or anyone else touch her like that If she does you can then tell her you ind it unacceptable inn a relationship aand ask if she would be willing to consider that you find that sort of thing should be something special between the two of you, if she cannot she is not the woman for you. The pity is you have gotten yourself and finished with her when you obviously still like her very much, getting back together may be hard and may not still be a possibility if I were you and I wanted to sort things out I wouldn't call or text just wait a week or two no contact then send a letter explaining how it made me feel and saying that you do care see what comes from there

Rocein

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The value of posting pictures Posted: 5/4/2009 3:19:54 PM
Everyone wants someone who they are attracted to it is strange that attraction can grow in unlightly couples sometimes buit in general you need to have a level of physical attraction to wish to be physical with someone, its as simple as that

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

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I just dont understand females of any age Posted: 5/4/2009 3:14:14 PM
As far as age is concerned, as a woman in her late 30's I wouldn't really go more or less than 5 years each way , thise into 1 night stands may not carr an guys are forever telling me age is just a number, I cannot put most of them down as they seem intellegent and mature however in your 20's you are at a very different stage and frame of mind than you are in your 30's . I think if there is a big age gap it is much less lightly to last also personally I find something disturbing in the thought of dating anyopne young enough to be my child , each to their own, but although you may find an older woman attractive it is not necessarily a good idea for her if she wants emotional stability that will last the sands of time, still it can and does work on occasions

Rocein

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I just dont understand females of any age Posted: 5/4/2009 3:06:17 PM
Ok Well to some females out clubbing a kiss may not mean much more than they think you are cute if they are that way inclined, you say they had hotel rooms so I am thinking Are they on holiday? If so they may not think its worth having a fling or not really want to get attached to anyone in a country they are not going to stay in and just want to enjoy their time there with their friends. My advice to you is not to be too eager; you can say to a woman that you don' t want them to leave and it would be great if they stayed the night with you even to cuddle up, if you get the feeling from them that they don't want to leave you either; as depending on the woman they may not be ino the one night stand sort of thing, however if you don't get a positive response it is best to always give her your number and give her the choice to call you or not, if she wants to swap thats great, but if you give her your number she is then at choice if she wants to call you or not and if she liked you she will call. Women are not always ready to hand their numbers out eagerly . I know that some women are bold but I'm afraid a lot of women still expect men to make the first move and the majority of women find confidence without arogance and attentiveness with charisma pretty irresisable

Rocein

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What's your TYPE? Posted: 4/26/2009 5:58:33 AM
Yes its a little like stating what we are attracted to in general. For instance My type of guy would usually be taller than me, athletically built but not big, and pretty boy looking, educated and charismatic.

Rocein

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A question for the ladies Posted: 4/26/2009 5:52:50 AM
From what I gather there are times when women just go off sex it can happen to men also believe it or not but it is usually the women and seem to be after they have had children. If she is in pain it may be that your penis is long and may be hitting her cervix this can be uncomfortable for a woman so try not being rough If she has backache try treating her to a massage You could I guess always try the wonder drug on her You should let her know that the sex missing from the relationship is making you unhappy and that although you don't expect it to be all the time that you do expect to be able to have sex with your wife x amount of times as this is what you need to feel happy. She should know that the lack of sex in a marriage is a huge contributer to the divorse numbers. Most men find it hard to stay in sexless marriages and turn to affairs or divorse. You should know that this is not because you are ugly or anything like that she just has gone off sex and it is probably a hormonal thing that her body is not creating the same amount of endorphines that it used to when she was younger Try to create some excitement about it as if its a game or a challenge, make her feel beautiful one day and as if she has to seduce you the next. A would say after having a talk with her about how unhappy it makes you and how she makes you feel rejected that maybe you could both see a sex councillor so that she will listen also or but a book that you can both work through together and make some time to do nice things together. There is the other way to go................................................dangerous though That is to stop doing all the nice things you do for your wife and pay her no attention be the one to turn over and go to sleep first and keep your relationship as if you are holding her at arms length and see if she makes an effort towards you. If she asks whats going on deny that there is anything, go out with the boys stay late at work, a suspicious woman will often pull out all the stops to keep her man and women often swap sex for love. I am not saying it will work but it may be worth a try

Rocein

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Did I screw up? Posted: 4/26/2009 5:13:25 AM
Honestly 1 You probably have no idea if this man is still with his wife 2 If he has just broken up wih her even as his choice there will be dramas he has to cope with 3 It is unlikely it would last or work out because he is on the rebound 4 It is good that you have at least been honest with him and yourself and know that you want more than just a fling but as you have agreed to his terms you are probably setting yourself up for a fall 5 His ego is probably lapping it up but his new found freedom will want to explore 7 If he is not going to be a one man woman if you take my advice you will stop being unrealistic and start to date other people even if your heart is not in it. 8 I have no idea why you had the desire to chat to a married man in the first place if you were looking for a serious relationship which I think you are. Women these days tend to not seem to care that a man is married and should be working things out with their wives and when its them that is the gf or wife and it happens to them that there is another women with their man they freak out. What goes around DOES come back around. My advice to you would be to find someone else however I am guessing you cannot ddo that right now you have tangled yourself into a web of emotion for this man. tred carefully don't forget family and friends come first keep yourselff happy doing other things and don't close the door to someone else I wish you all the best, I can see the heart ache coming from a mile off, but then when you are not in the situation yourselff that is always the way

Rocein

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Wondering where to go with this Posted: 4/16/2009 7:07:51 PM
Personally I think how you approach this depends on if you intend to keep a friendship when he is no longer working with you, if you do tread lightly. I would probably casually ask himif he fancied meeting for a drink the week after he left and dress up really nicely making sure I looked and felt my best go out to meet him give him plenty of direct eye contact and be a bit touchy feely you can tell if there is an attraction coming from him also asking about his views on relationships and if hes seeing someone etc. If you think there will be no friendship or contact when he leaves tell him straight out you are attracted to him and you'd really like to see him again, usually men find this flattering either way; but some find it takes away the chase for them so really depends on what your guy is like.

Rocein

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The odds of love - what type of gambler are you? Posted: 4/10/2009 7:54:27 PM
look around at the games first make a few small bets to see how my luck is try my best not to put all my chips on the table If I do and I win I take them home and plan for the future :) If I loose it hurts like hell, burns a hole and not in my pocket in my heart

Rocein

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when is the right time... Posted: 4/10/2009 7:45:41 PM
There are no guide lines its all about what you are both confortable with, you could chat to someone and arrange to meet them that day or for months even a year and then meet them. Maybe you could talk about something you'd both like to do and haven't ever done before and then say well why don't we go and do that together next weekend and see what the reaction is, else just come right out and ask if he/she would like to meet up for a coffee/drink. If you sense they are uncomfortable back off simple most people are happy to arrange to meet if you have been chatting a while some don't really want to meet at all

Rocein

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Holiday Loneliness Posted: 4/10/2009 7:39:58 PM
Everyone gets lonley sometimes :) . I know people will suggest things to do but they have to be things you like doing or maybe things you could try doing. Yes classes and courses really do help because the best thing to do is make a group of friends who like similar things to you and live near by. Maybe reflect this holiday about something you might like to do in your free time Or give something that doesn't have to be an organised course a go like bingo or salsa

Rocein

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Do you know that you have ever been truly loved by someone? Posted: 4/10/2009 7:35:21 PM
Wise words , I wish it was that easy. It takes time to know if a person genuinely feels that way you see and feel the attraction and it feels so real. I have been loved like that once in my life and I woke up every morning for 2 years thanking god for this man lying beside me. I thought I felt that feeling again with the last man I dated but he turned out not to care about me at all; he ended up being cruel with his words, and disrespectful in his actions, so how do you really know, sometimes what can feel so real can be so fake. I loved him, I held back from him because he lied to me and scared me and all of a sudden the whole dynamics of the relationship changed and I wasn't me any more. I loved him though it was very hard letting go and walking away. I really thought he loved me in the beginning it felt so real the chemistry was mind blowing and he was my perfect man cute funny loving I couldn't fault him in any way, but I guess he was so good because he was a player and not because he loved me at all.

Rocein

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Guy your dating is on POF looking for friends? Posted: 4/10/2009 7:20:20 PM
I am afraid I do not understand people who stay on a dating site once in a relationship, if he has not made a solid commitment to you then it is probable in my opinion that he is still looking for something else, however if you are lucky he may at least be truthful to you if he finds it. It is hard to break up with someone especially when you have feelings for them, I walked away instead of trying to hang on to my ex even though I loved him very much he was treating me badly and that awful feeling that literally makes you ill is not worth it, relationships are suposed to make you happier, yes there may be hard times but if you start to feel insecure and unloved move away as quickly as possible noone wants to go there its just not fun. Men who will not commit are nealt always looking for more

Rocein

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Have I lost my dignity? Posted: 4/10/2009 7:12:13 PM
Hi Luigi, I can kind of understand that she doesn't want to throw him out and to give him time with his children but he's taking the piss. I would put my foot down if I were you as I imagine if you are living with this woman I am guessing you are also buying food and paying some bills. I wouldn't end the relationship with her I would however say I am fed up with the situation that her ex is an adult and should look afterf himself and that you are neither comfortable or happy that if she does not want to tell him to leave then you are leaving as you have put up with the situation for long enough and he has had plenty of time to sort himself out you are happy if she wants to give him 2 weeks notice to go if she feels for what ever reason that she cannot do that then you will leave her to cope with this situation as it is unfair of her to expect you to accept it. As for the ex thing hmmmm some people are genuinelt friends with ex'es however personally I think after a period of time being together and especially if you are living together she should make time to at least introduce you to her ex such as invite him for dinner with his new girlfriend that way you can see if there is anything going on between them or if they are just friends and gadge if you are comortable and trust the friendship is just that. No one is expected to get rid of their friends for a boyfriend however when they are ex'es the person with the ex'es does have a responsibility to make the other comfortable with the friendship, especially when she is the one calling him

Rocein

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I'd like your opinion Posted: 4/3/2009 10:47:41 AM
Hmmm I think when you say looking for someone ambitious 3 times in your profile you are saying if youb haven't got a degree and a good job and money I'm not interested. Fun and nice are not date plans, date plans are we will meet at a great bar and I'd take you to dinner or lets meet on a Sunday and do..... whatever. or lets catch a coffee and talk. You're a good looking lad. I guess the good old USA people are more materialistic than the UK, we are still bought up on fairy stories

Rocein

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should sex be a privilage,..or a must do for any woman or man.? Posted: 3/30/2009 12:02:30 PM
I think sex is essential for a happy relationship however feeling loved is also essential for a happy relationship

Rocein

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Who won't sleep with anyone untill they go get tested? Posted: 3/30/2009 11:58:55 AM
I tend to get tested before every sexual relation ship and after it finishes too better safe thN SORRY, I ALSO REQUEST THIS OF MY PARTNERS. My last so called bf never went to get tested and never got any

Rocein

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Msg: 72 (view)

LADIES......TELL US WHAT YOU WANT MOST FROM US AND THEN TELL US ONCE YOU GET IT ARE YOU HAPPY>? Posted: 3/30/2009 11:52:52 AM
Firstly I want to meet someone who I am attracted to and feel chemistry from thats the hard part. Guys need to be confident and charismatic without being arrogant or making you feel unworthy They need to need and want you without you feeling that needy feeling fom them They need to make you feel they care about you but not more than you care about them- unless they **** up then they should grovel like hell lol They should notice the little things I used to love mu ex appreciating that I'd just got my nails done etc - they should especially notice the little things you might do for them They should do little things to let you know you are on their mind, calls texts small almost worthless gifts even free like a shell from holiday they found on a beach whatever something they brought you back, lets you know they think abiout and vale you You should plan to do things together, and do not let your partner feel like the outsider when it comes to you being with your friends although you both need space for them You both really need to have the same future wants for it to work or to be able to compromise these. He needs to of course be sexually compatible- by the way kissing is also very important when you say goodbye or just meet, holding hands just the way a man holds you or puts you on the inside of a pavement, manners I guess I don't want a party animal but someone to take me out for a drink or meal once in a while would be nice- he must not forget special occasions as I'm a traditionalist birthdays xmas valentines are special. He needs to have SOH, He needs to accept and love you for you as you will love him for him I could keep going on but truly it doesn't matter it all boils down to chemistry and compromise

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

Msg: 158 (view)

I'm not sure if I did the right thing??? Posted: 3/30/2009 11:34:54 AM
Its hard to know honey, I understand how you feel because its wrong for men to physically abuse women I once got in the way of a guy hitting his gf and she started screeming at me then so I'm a little more likely to just call the police now

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

Msg: 66 (view)

Giving Love to get Sex/Giving Sex to get Love? Posted: 3/30/2009 11:32:06 AM
I agree to an extent, as women as much as they tell themselves its OK to sleep around like guys do, in general and if they are honest with themselves know that they attach emotions to having sex with a man, men in general do not. A woman looking for a relationship will want to have sex when she feels her guy is true to her and really cares about her. Men s emotions tend to develope in a very different way, they become attached and sex with the women that they are ina relationship with becomes comfortable for them although they may look elsewhere for excitment the truth is they are happiest and most content with that woman. Clever women know that good regular sex with a man keeps him happy. Clever men know to get tht sex they need to keep her feeling emotionally stable.

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

Msg: 54 (view)

What do you think he means? Posted: 3/30/2009 11:25:12 AM
When someone says they appreciate you it is suposed to be a wonderful reasurring phrase to let you know that the person you are and all you do is not taken for granted, lucky u

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

Msg: 2 (view)

Letting love die a slow death... Posted: 3/30/2009 11:21:04 AM
I have had this happen but it took me 6 years to get there, I loved him but was not in love with him any more, there was just no attraction left. I think sex is one of the keys to a relationship, once you have had sex with a man I think you need to maintain a decent sexual relationship with him or things just die on both sides

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

Msg: 130 (view)

Is this rude behavior? Posted: 3/30/2009 11:15:09 AM
Hmmm Well if you don't hear from them in 3 dys I'd say they couldn't care a less. It is nice for them to let you know, but it is not their duty to you, it was just one date and a kind of blind one at that so if you want to know you could always message them and say thanks I am guessing as I have not heard from you that you did not think we were compatible but would be great to be friends or something if it bothers you that much

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

Msg: 44 (view)

When to give up... Posted: 3/30/2009 11:11:58 AM
If you ask someone to date you exclusively they should not still be looking online nor should you, if you are not sure about this just discuss it and both make an agreement that you are both happy with. It happened to me I found out the guy I was dating was still online after asking me to be exclusive he even asked my friends out, who were on the site. It really hurt. I hadn't been open to someone like that for a long time and although it finished at Xmas time ish, I am still not in a committed relationship, it is hard especially because I believed in him before I found out he had lied to me, now I wonder sometimes if he was still married his suposed ex wife was on his facebook which although he had asked for the relationship to be exclusive he wouldn't add me as his gf, ( she was in another country)I guess I got played; the insecurity made me really low and unhappy, something I also had not been through before, he made me feel like I was nothing to him and that he didn't care a less about me. Isn't it funny that you can only feel as low as you felt when you were high. So I guess I really loved him, the him that is that I first met, not the him that asked me if I was rich and if not what was he doing with me, or the him that denied his own childrens existance, or the him that kept my earing s as the end of the relationship and ignored my requests to return them. But the him, that couldn't wait to see me, didn't want to be without me, looked at me like I was thw most beautiful creture on the planet, always smiled and laughed, the man who was allowing me into his life with his smiles and silly jokes, him I loved. Still being on this site feels like a betrayal, if you like someone enough and they have asked you to be exclusive especially if you are having sex or seeing each other all the time you should both leave. He left in the end but I am guessing it was not for my benefit at all.

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

Msg: 190 (view)

3 Months, no sex? Posted: 3/17/2009 3:10:37 PM
Seems strange to me, if she has an attraction to you or considers being with you truely she would feel the same passion and it would be pretty hard for her to keep stopping you also, this stopping of a guy after spending time enough to trust him is just too hard as the only thing that actually makes most women including myself want to not have sex with a man she is attracted to is the trust security love issues , basically ;does he really give a dam.If she feels quite asured of this the only other reasons are she has had some problems with sexual encounters ,she has found religion, or she just doesn't really like you that way

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

Msg: 18 (view)

...SIX moons, no SEX.... Posted: 3/17/2009 2:57:59 PM
LOL The only reason I didn't jump on my ex the first night was because I wanted to be sure he was for real and not get hurt, then he lied getting over that, and he said he;d rather finish with me than accept my relationship request on facebook, when it was him who asked for it to be exclusive, and he was off for Xmas so I didn't want to sleep with him just before he left and thought I'd see if he really missed me over the holidays he hardly contacted me, just once, and not on Xmas day, so I just stopped trusting him and everything fell apart; so glad I didn't sleep with him or I would have felt more emotionally tied because thats how I am , but it certainly wasn't because I didn't want to lol, more just wanting him to show me I could trust him. He was secretive from the start and wouldn't even tell me what he did for a living a little strange eh. I had really fallen for him before the lies but he was cruel and horrid to me in the end. He would return my belongings I left in his apartment OK just a pair of earings but thy held sentimental value for me he just ignored me, which was something he had started doing before the end of the relationship convincing me either he was cheating or he just didn;t give a dam. What I don't understand actually is why he would ignore me months later when he could just as well have posted my earings I sent a stamped addressed envelope then I got one reply asking me for days and times I could meet him to get them, I again gave him the option to post them, and days and times I could meet him, and he ignored me again. Are all men really aliens. I have never been through anything like it. Baffled. But as for sex I miss sex I just want the right guy so I can wake up next to him with a grin on my face and not that deep pit of insecurity in my stomach thats all

Rocein

Joined: 1/14/2008

Msg: 190 (view)

I would to ask you how important is voice for you? Posted: 3/8/2009 7:30:59 PM
I am not tht comfortable with giving my phone number out had some strange calls before but after talking to someone on chat for a while it has to be done I prefer if they give me theres and I can with hold mine if they don;t mind just at first..... yes I know thats unfair. Voice is extremely important, there is something about a voice that does or does not attract you and if you are intending to hear it for a long time its importsnt you like the way they speak

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