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 Author Thread: The Myth of Los Angeles
 forumschick
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 102 (view)
 
The Myth of Los Angeles
Posted: 7/3/2009 8:26:16 AM
There is science, logic, reason; there is thought verified by experience. And then there is California.

I lived there for fourteen years, moved to PA and I cannot believe I waited that long; that place can drive you to insanity, well okay, maybe I was insane before CA but still...

There is more to the United States than CA, that is all I am going to leave you with...
 forumschick
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Msg: 301 (view)
 
Should basic English language skills be required for LEGAL citizenship?
Posted: 7/2/2009 7:09:18 AM
I do agree with 'optimistically' completely; ‘when in Rome…’ I also think that we can attribute the progressive division of this country to diversity as well, but then again I could be wrong…


These are businesses that have chosen to make their profits on the backs of illegal aliens or they recently immigrated that they can pay a lower wage. By allowing these language requirements we are discriminating against the born citizens of this country in favor of the immigrated citizens who have created this problem.


Though I do agree with the fact that anyone and everyone, whether born in the US or immigrated, should have a decent command of the English language I beg to differ on the above; the reason they are hiring people who speak additional languages is only to provide unnecessary comfort to foreigners. I don’t really think that we are discriminating against anyone but more so enabling people to continue giving us a reason to complain about not speaking English, hence the need for twelve pages on this subject.

Immigrated citizens, whether legal or illegal are not who created this problem, we are; American Citizens period. You want it stopped, so let’s stop it already!


Why don't we put it to a vote? The simple answers is that no politician wants to sponsor such legislation for fear of alienating any potential voters. I think if you polled the vast majority of Americans you would find support for establishing English as the national language. However, once again our Politicians are struck impotent by the fear of the loss of a few votes. They have lost contact with the needs and wants of Americans and are operating purely upon what is best for their political career rather than what is best for the country.

Precisely, the interests and concerns of the American People are of no importance to the people who can actually do something about it.

However, we elect them… or do we?
 forumschick
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Jesus, compassion, forgiveness and anger
Posted: 3/6/2009 12:39:07 AM

You can also obtain this state through enlightenment.


And just how is it that one obtains this enlightenment, please do enlighten me...
 forumschick
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Msg: 97 (view)
 
The Big Bang Theory and God
Posted: 1/27/2009 6:24:15 PM

You cant prove God exists and you cant prove God doesnt exist so it comes down to two things:

It might be possible to prove that god doesn't exist, depending on your definition of god. If you mean god as described in the Bible, then it's pretty easy to prove he doesn't exist…


Not being able to prove God’s existence doesn’t prove that He does not exist, biblical, empirically or otherwise.
But it has been fun seeing you all try to do so


I don't have any issue with that in principle. But in practise how do you determine exactly what is literal and what is metaphorical? I mean, it all blends in together. Besides, if creation is a metaphor, then Original Sin is a metaphor, then the death of Jesus on the cross was for... what sin exactly?


Did you know that in theory, there is no difference between Theory and Practice? Unfortunately, in Practice there is…

But I am sure you all already knew that…

 forumschick
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Msg: 38 (view)
 
Marriage - A Commitment to God or your Partner?
Posted: 1/8/2009 1:10:51 PM

it does say in the bible that god wishes us to marry to show others what he wants relationships to be.marriage was concieved from the sins of the time.people were so far from god that he wanted those who were followers to express his intent through marriage.


Excuse me? Where exactly in the bible did you see that?

 forumschick
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Msg: 29 (view)
 
Marriage - A Commitment to God or your Partner?
Posted: 11/4/2008 8:37:30 PM


During family dinner yesterday, our family had a debate over the issue of marriage.
One person said, "marriage is very religious, it's should be about your commitment to God and should be held in a church."
My argument was that marriage is about making a commitment to your partner. Weddings can be spiritual, but I don't believe they need to be held in a church.
So my question is - is marriage a commitment to God, or commitment to your partner?


Both.
As I understand it from the Bible, it is a commitment to one's spouse and to The Almighty since in all of the gospels and The old Testament there are several "warnings" concerning divorce.

As for the actual ritual or ceremony; there is no particular reference regarding it.
That being said, we do live in a society which is governed by laws and the bible does say that we must obey the laws of men, therefore, you need nothing more than a piece of paper saying that you are legally married.

All else, is just man made tradition...

 forumschick
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Msg: 121 (view)
 
The Greatest Threat to the Institution of Marriage
Posted: 11/4/2008 6:51:07 PM
: Which of these do you think is the greater threat to the "institution of marriage" - 1) the possibility of gays getting married or, 2) the phenomenally high rate of heterosexual divorce?


Seriously, I really don't think either one of the categories you listed above do affect the number of people who will continue to fall in love and tie the knot hoping their marriage will be the exception...

 forumschick
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 70 (view)
 
Do you believe in a SOULMATE?
Posted: 10/17/2008 8:54:11 PM

god doesn't do SH!T.


You are absolutely right; he doesn't and didn't do sh*t, oh no girl, that is all us!

That being said, I agree, he doesn't do the matchmaking thing, He did bless us with free will therefore, He is unable to intervene when we pick those killers, abusers and child molesters, we pick them, and all the while he is sending us all those red signs, we keep on going through because we know better right?

Own it girl, trust me, it is only when we take responsibility for what we do, and only then that we can learn from our mistakes...

 forumschick
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 58 (view)
 
How many of the 7 deadly sins do you break on a regular basis?
Posted: 10/17/2008 8:29:52 PM
OP:

Can someone please tell me where in the Bible is the verse that refers to “the seven deadly sins”? Pardon my ignorance, but I am not Catholic

The only reference I could think of is the following as is in Proverbs 6:16-19

16 These six things the LORD hates, Yet, seven are an abomination to Him:
17 A proud look, A lying tongue, Hands that shed innocent blood,
18 A heart that devises wicked plans, Feet that are swift in running to evil,
19 A false witness who speaks lies, And one who sows discord among brethren.


If these are the ones you are referring to; I don’t think that these aren’t any more deadly than disobeying the Ten Commandments; once again, as I understand it, if you break one, you break them all. Therefore, regardless of which sin you commit, they all represent but one thing; disobedience.

Unless of course you are referring to a different verse altogether…?

 forumschick
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 98 (view)
 
Rationalization - A Deadly Sin?
Posted: 10/16/2008 10:27:22 AM

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While I wouldn't call it a deadly sin, I think that the rationalization of breaking the rules is deadly wrong.
JMO

Oldsoul:
Thanks for the enlightenment bit; however, if you read my response carefully I am not asking anyone not to post on this thread.

In case it is still not clear to you or anyone else, that part of my post was addressed to those of us which do believe in God. It was also merely a suggestion to consider the responses from others which do not believe in God simply irrelevant while trying to debate the topic of the original question. .

Personally, I think that it is just a recipe for arguments which usually end up disrespecting one another. Trust me, most of us are not as civilized as to be able to respect other’s opinions if such differ from our own, and there is proof of that…

Now I like arguing as much as the next person, and trust me I do, I just can’t seem to engage in arguments which are futile since there is no common ground to begin with...

Respectfully

 forumschick
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Msg: 95 (view)
 
Rationalization - A Deadly Sin?
Posted: 10/16/2008 12:28:21 AM
Anyway, that last was not an "opinion". It's a simple truth. NOBODY can prove "God" exists scientifically or empirically. If you disagree, then do so and silence everyone who holds this "opinion". Or not. Your choice.


Neither can anyone else prove that He doesn’t exist or we wouldn't be having this argument now would we? Not being able to prove His existence doesn’t prove He doesn’t exist, scientifically, empirically or otherwise.
Trust me when I say this, this is not an argument to be settled simply by using our wit and sarcasm...

Now, if I may offer some rationality for a change...

With all due respect, considering that the original question was addressed to posters which are indeed believers, all the responses from posters which do not share this common ground should be irrelevant to this thread; and only because such will only lead to endless unnecessary arguments on which both sides will end up behaving in a decadent manner. Yes I have seen them on both sides...

OP:
Now let us say that rationalization could be the 'gateway' to sin for the sake of the argument, and all of the relevant responses agree with your ‘logic’. What then?

What do you propose we do? How do we make something a sin, do you seriously think that God will consider it as such just because a good number of us do? Perhaps you think that if it is considered a sin, more of us will avoid it altogether?

Now let’s be honest; the fewer rules there are the fewer rules we will break, thus making Salvation more of a possibility…

If we are being honest that is...

Rationalization is nothing but a defense mechanism that most of us have chosen at one time or another. It has become a lot more common nowadays since Psychology introduced this wonderful tool which enables us to avoid being self accountable. Hey, I have fallen for that one once or twice, but you know what, it doesn’t matter because I know the truth, He knows it, and the only requirement for his forgiveness is repentance not justification.
If rationalizing a negative behavior works for you and aids you to stop it, great! He will forgive you anyway. Unfortunately, most of us refuse to recognize a negative behavior; therefore end up in a perpetual vicious circle thanks to rationalization.
All in all, it technically is considered a sin, since it is on the Ten Commandments “Thou shall not lie”….

One can justify our behavior all day long, and convince ourselves of almost anything, and yet, that, amongst other things isn’t the only requirement for it to be the Truth .
 forumschick
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- A Deadly Sin?
Posted: 10/15/2008 10:58:17 PM

RationaliSation please use the Queens English not some american **stardiSed form that offends academics!
there is no 'Z' in this word!!!!!!!!


Hmmm, I just love posts like these...

You can feel free to use anyone's version if you like, but since in the US of A we don't bow down to another human being just like tje rest of us, well I think we are just going to stick with our "common" ways, if your queen is okay with it, and if she isn't, well...
All the same we are all free to use any version we like...

Furthermore, there is no such a thing as a "queen" anywhere my friend, however, there is but one King: God.
And let me tell you about my King, he can take your " queen" any day of the week...
 forumschick
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Msg: 90 (view)
 
Rationalization - A Deadly Sin?
Posted: 9/14/2008 9:31:49 PM
OP:

First off there is not a degree of sin The way I understand it is that, although the consequences will differ accordingly, if one kills or lies, one is disobeying his commands period.

Secondly, why should we have any authority whatsoever of deciding what is and isn't a sin? What are you the Council of Nicea?

Besides, what does it matter what people tell themselves, ultimately they know and we know that The One knows about it, that is what ought to be important to us all.
For we know that in His eyes there is no justification other than the simple fact that we are human beings, because outside of that, there is never, I mean never, did I say never? Ever a right reason to do the wrong thing. His word is quite clear about this...

 forumschick
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Msg: 75 (view)
 
tithing to the church
Posted: 8/12/2008 3:58:23 PM
I was always told as an Anglican that it's important to give to the church. I also feel that if you simply can't afford it all the time, there is nothing wrong with that. There is the idea that you should give what you can. I always try to give something when I go, which is unfortunately not as often as I like given my work schedule and school schedule.


As an Anglican, did they ever tell you to read the Bible?
If you do ever come across one, do read the references which have been provided on this forum and you will understand that what you "feel" and "think" about its context is irrelevant, what simply matters is whether or not you will do what is asked of you in the bible, not what you have “understood” from your rather “relaxed” interpretation of it....
 forumschick
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Msg: 73 (view)
 
tithing to the church
Posted: 8/11/2008 10:36:28 AM
tithing is an old testament commandment. Read Galatians. We are no longer bound by law. Were that so, we would then have no need for grace. There is no implication of tithe in the early church - rather many endorsements for giving.

I beg to differ...

1 Corinthians 16:1,2 -- On the first day of the week, each one should give as prospered. Some people are comparatively prosperous and should give more; others are comparatively poor and should give less.

Acts 11:29 -- Every man determined to give according to his ability. (See also 2 Cor. 8:12; Mark 12:41-44; Matt. 25:14-30.)

2 Corinthians 9:6,7 -- We should give generously as we purposed in our hearts, not grudgingly or of necessity, but cheerfully.

Semantics...

 forumschick
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tithing to the church
Posted: 8/11/2008 10:30:29 AM

Of course not. Yet I have to question a church's motives when their buildings (not the plural) cover several city blocks and they have TV production studios and facilities that rival many local stations as well as amusement park rides that are close to Disney level and pastors that live better than some heads of state. Especially when they pay no taxes.


I hate to point out the obvious my friend, but the level of credibility of the media and churches are pretty much the same, non existent. I find it particularly ironic that you have not a problem observing the flaws of any set of beliefs which clearly defy your own and yet ask for credibility for an institution as equally flawed simply because you advocate it.



I also have a problem with the fact that a church or other religious group have ulterior motives with their charities. It's called proseltyzing. At what cost is their charity? Their ridiculous dogma has to not only be tolerated (which is fine by me, I can tolerate their nonsensical beliefs when it's no one is trying to sell me on them) but the cost of their charity is their need win converts. I for one, feel that we have far too many dogmatic religious doctrines and beliefs floating around, and not enough practical, scientific thought is allowed to adress societal ills.


Churches have ulterior motives which involves possibly individual financial gain, as opposed to what, oh I don’t know, how about commercials, or political parties, or ratings?
I am sorry; I fail to see the difference…

Although I agree with you on the fact that there are entirely way too many unnecessary religious doctrines, I must disagree with you on thinking that Science could even begin to fix what is wrong with our humanity or lack thereof.

In fact, I honestly believe that it is Science indeed what has enabled us to play God long before we were worthy of being human…


If there was more of this belief and less of the "make out your check to (insert church name here)", I would have more respect for…


Contrary to popular belief not many Churches these days do not stand for what He does, and yet it isn’t a justification for your disobedience to God. Tithing simply stands for you designing the funds to do His work, and I think if you knew anything about God you could accomplish that without that much effort.

Sadly, the longer I live the more I am convinced that, the fewer the facts the stronger the prejudice.
I tell you what, do it in His name or attribute it to your own moral system, either way; let’s do something good for those of which are less fortunate than we are, shall we?


 forumschick
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Msg: 62 (view)
 
tithing to the church
Posted: 8/9/2008 5:55:01 PM


i see what you are saying.tithing is a faith in god.however, thithing is also to be used as jesus would use it.if you have knowledge of or think it may not be being used as such, and you do nothing to amke it known. you are sinning as the people spending it improperly are. the exact verse doesnt come to me,but knowledge of a wrong doing and not exposing it is as much of a sin as the wrong doing itself.


Absolutely! I completely agree with you, however, does anyone here know for a fact and can prove that they are doing so? Yet everyone speaks of it as if they had facts and irrefutable proof that they are misusing the money. I wonder why is it that instead of bringing them to Justice, everyone just stops giving them money. As you said above, you would be obedient twice…

Just a thought…
 forumschick
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Msg: 61 (view)
 
tithing to the church
Posted: 8/9/2008 5:41:57 PM

YOU are the one in need of recovery. Can you hear yourself? Give money, but don't worry about where it goes?


I have never claimed I didn't need help; whatever gave you the impression? And neither did I think that doing anything God tells us to do, could help me get certified...
You know what though; I think there is a better chance to certify anyone simply for being objective these days…

“First hand” You never heard that one huh? What I meant to say was I have no experience with it personally, as in, I don’t know for a fact that any members of the clergy are misusing the money from tithes.
In other words, I do not operate under assumptions or other's opinions based on theirs or their friend’s perceptions of reality. In fact, this usually tends to be almost an invitation to attempt to prove you wrong on anything really...

Hey, I know, I do wonder about myself sometimes too...

I am not surprised that anything I say is senseless to you; that actually makes perfect sense to me. Because it sounds to me that you could be a person who operates in a different manner; unless of course you would like to tell me about your personal experience with corruption at church?
Not from your friends, wife, or ex-wife or anyone you know, and it doesn't have to be the whole story, just the high lights of your "first hand" experience with it...

Yeah, I Didn't think so...

Moreover, what I say doesn't have to make sense to you, it does to me and let me tell you, that is pretty much all I need because I don't expect you to agree with me, and I am certainly not trying to convince anyone to think the way I do. I was simply explaining to all how it is that my "senselessness" makes perfect sense to me.
Most people complain about tithing to the church and use it as an excuse not to, I know, I used to do that too. However, I stopped worrying about other people’s wrongdoing, since I have plenty of my own and need to work on before I dare correct others…

 forumschick
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Msg: 58 (view)
 
tithing to the church
Posted: 8/5/2008 2:42:09 PM

The gospel of prosperity IMO is a religious pyramid scheme with the clergy at the top.


Perhaps, but don’t worry about what others do with the money you give, because you aren’t giving it to them, you are simply being obedient, as we should be with the rest of His word. Again, this is by no means the only area where we need to be obedient; this is just a tiny little step.

You see, I used to think the opposite, I thought that if I gave money, I was compensating for my inequity. Little did I know…

Then when I got to know Him a bit more, I went to the other side, right where you are. What can I say, it is a very comfortable excuse and no action from one is required. Trust me, I came up with endless arguments on this one; I mean is not like it’s on the Ten Commandments right? I do know what you mean…

If you are a believer, I am sure that He will convince you eventually of what you need to do for Him and Him only; He does know a thing or two about miracles. And if you aren’t, please do keep your money, in fact I wouldn’t waste a cent on anything other than basic necessities, after all, if you don’t believe God exists, and you are all you have, I guarantee you, you will need it…


Not even that, it's more pathetic. People are duped into giving that really can't afford it and they're deluded into thinking that every mundane thing they do to get on their feet financially is God blessing them because they gave. An out of work person goes to church and gives 10 bucks that he can't afford. Then by chance he gets a job, that's seen as not his efforts of going out and applying ( which is what he would've done anyway), that's the Lord blessing him, so he's of course urged to give more. Then 6 months later, let's say he gets a raise (which he probably would've gotten anyway on just about any job after that much time), then of course, he's pressured to give more.

I have a problem with this as it discourages rational critical thinking and encourages magical thinking.


Sounds like a personal problem to me…

Seriously though, recognizing you have a problem is the first step towards recovery….
Sorry, I couldn’t resist…



Funny you should mention pyramid schemes. Religious zeal and pyramid schemes go hand in hand. Ever been to an Amway (Quickstar) convention? It has all the trappings of an Evangelical meeting and many of the top people in those organizations are UberChristians.


It is quite possible that over the years the money that we give to any church has been “redirected” if you will, and yet, why would I worry about what they do with it; when confronted He will ask me about my actions, not the reasons I thought I shouldn’t do what He told me to do…

Moreover, personally, I have never known of anyone first hand, and I am willing to bet neither do you. If I know my kind, and I like to think that I do; most of us tend to follow the pack, the level of conviction usually is determined by the numbers. The majority of the time, our “knowledge” isn’t truly our experience; these are for the most part assumptions. Now, you do know what assumptions are right?

 FORUMSCHICK
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Msg: 55 (view)
 
tithing to the church
Posted: 7/31/2008 11:50:58 AM

It amazes me that people who support the idea of tithing only give 10%. If god blesses the cheerful giver why not give 20%, 30%, 50% or 80% and live in poverty like the people the church is suppose to help? Why live better than those that have the least among you? Or is it that by giving 10% you feel you are doing your duty to god and he will understand why you are buying that new house, car, furniture, clothes, taking that expensive vacation, or throwing that party for your friends, etc., instead of giving all you can give?


Let me guess which side of the table you are on...

Thar's just it, no matter how much you give, He always multiplies many times over what you give and it sort of turns into a circle; you help many others and He helps you, it is almost addictive. You should try it sometime...

 FORUMSCHICK
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Msg: 53 (view)
 
tithing to the church
Posted: 7/30/2008 11:20:36 AM

I would like to hear your views on tithing to the church. Fellow christians in my church keep badgering me about giving a tenth of my earning to collection. I earn very little money and although i do give and help the church,i think that you should give as little or as much as you please/can afford, and i am rather offended in their guilt trip manner.


OP:

First off, they shouldn’t be telling you to give ten percent of your earnings, but most of the time they do, hey, I say that is on them. Secondly, do you read the bible or do you believe what the priest, pastor, minister, etc tells you. It just sounds to me like you actually haven’t seen that giving ten percent of your earnings is truly in the Bible. Once you understand what it truly means, you will not have a problem doing so.
So let me see if I can try to break it down for ya…

If you’ve read the bible I am sure you would realize that this is the only part of it throughout both Old and New Testament that he asks us to test him by doing what he is asking us to do. Malachi 3:10 “10 Bring all the tithes into the storehouse, That there may be food in My house, And try Me now in this, Says the LORD of hosts...”

Genesis 14:20; 28:20-22 -- Both Abraham and Jacob gave tithes prior to the giving of the law at Sinai. Leviticus 27:30-33 -- Moses' law required Israelites to give a tithe (tenth) of their increase to support the Levites (Num. 18:21-32; Mal. 3:7-10). In addition Israelites also gave free-will offerings, taxes, and other gifts to support the combined religious service and civil government (Ex. 35:29; I Chron. 29:1-19; Deut. 12:5-19; 14:22-29; Neh. 10:34-39).
1 Corinthians 16:1,2 -- On the first day of the week, each one should give as prospered. Some people are comparatively prosperous and should give more; others are comparatively poor and should give less. Acts 11:29 -- Every man determined to give according to his ability. (See also 2 Cor. 8:12; Mark 12:41-44; Matt. 25:14-30.) 2 Corinthians 9:6,7 -- We should give generously as we purposed in our hearts, not grudgingly or of necessity, but cheerfully.


However, thanks to the Ultimate Sacrifice: Jesus; churches today have no right to force Christians to tithe, The invitation to follow this commandment shouldn’t be any more important than the one to follow the rest of the commandments.
This does not mean we are free to give less than 10%. It might mean we should give more than that. We should give as prospered and purposed in heart.
You will understand this only if you ever do give it from the heart, then you too will confirm His promise. You see, God doesn’t need your money, after all: all of it is made by Him for Him.
Most people fail to see what it truly represents. When you give ten percent of your income as He tells us to do we are telling Him that we trust Him to takes through regardless of how much we needed that money we gave to cover our basic necessities. What we are truly saying is: Lord, I know you will provide.
We all know that to do His work requires money, church operating expenses, resources for the communities, etc. Do not worry about what the church does with your tithes, is their own decision. It doesn’t affect you; after all, they will have to give account of their deeds to Him as well, worry about what you will tell Him when the time comes…

Additionally, most “Christians” fail to realize that every time He does multiply blessings is that one isn’t supposed to store it in your savings. It is only to do His works and bless others continuously. Though many will argue this, as I understand it, you cannot have money and have God. It is one or the other…
Although, many will beg to differ, I really do believe that tithing isn’t necessarily giving money to a church; but you could also help families in need, and this can’t be hard to do since if you were to look around there is so much need around us, if we’d only stop to look around us…
Personally, there has been times that I have given the last $20.00 bill I have had and don’t ask me where it came from, but I was blessed enormously, took care of my responsibilities and plenty more for others. It is as He tells us it is; you should try it sometime…

 forumschick
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Msg: 145 (view)
 
Do you believe God sends signs?
Posted: 7/23/2008 4:53:17 PM
OP:
God does not send signs to anyone, He clearly talks to us, most of the times we just don't want to hear what he has to say and ask him for a sign. I know I have...

The fact that things have not been able to work between the two of you sounds to me as nothing more than the disposition you both have on making things work. The way you expressed yourself above sounds more to me as if you are trying to make yourself feel better because you don't want it to work and are trying to convince yourself and others that it cannot. With God all things are possible...

Of course, I may be completely off.

Does your husband share your faith?
Either way, I wouldn't worry about it much, He will take you through anything. Personally, whenever my life has taken a turn for the worse, something much greater immediately follows. Although, God doesn't send signs, if this guy isn't for ya I can almost guarantee you that He did tell you so, and I am sure if you try really hard you would remember that it was unequivocal the way He warned you about this moment.
Sometimes we just like to disregard what He tells us, because it goes clearly against what we want, I don't know about everyone else, at least that is what happened to me once...
 forumschick
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Msg: 88 (view)
 
My favourite quotes regarding religion.
Posted: 7/23/2008 11:43:24 AM
Best perspective I have seen yet:

"Religion and science both profess peace (and the sincerity of the professors is not being doubted), but each always turns out to have a dominant part in any war that has happened, is going or is being contemplated."
Immanuel Kant


Faith is not wanting to know what is true.

For the above to be accurate, the writer should have added: the very same way I do... or something of the sort...
But, I guess all you have to do nowadays is write anything for it to be quoted...
 forumschick
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Msg: 27 (view)
 
anyone been in this situation
Posted: 7/22/2008 2:44:08 PM

Well.. you could tell him you are stalking him electronically and maybe he'll have some kind of restraining order placed on you.

That should fix it...


Yeah what he said!
I don't know how I didn't think of that.
Hey, I know it sounds drastic, but desperate times call for desperate measures.

Another way would be to do something constructive instead of your internet activity.
Oh, I know, something like an English or a grammar class...
Respectfully?
You need it girl...
 forumschick
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Msg: 26 (view)
 
anyone been in this situation
Posted: 7/22/2008 2:33:15 PM
OP:

There are a lot more people in the world as screwed up as you and I are, just not as honest to admit it...
We are not screwed up though, just misunderstood...

After my last relationship ended, I did that for about two months, and as pathetic as many seem to think it is, it made me feel better to know that he was still looking...
If you think that it kills you now seeing him looking for someone, just wait and see how much it really hurts you when his profile is no longer there. Once that happens, one is forced to let go.

Forgive him and forgive yourself, it is only when you do so that you will wish him well and be ready for the next heart break!
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Msg: 34 (view)
 
Do you believe in a SOULMATE?
Posted: 7/22/2008 2:00:30 PM
From: Oxford
soulmate
• noun a person ideally suited to another.
From: Wiktionary
soulmate (plural soulmates)
1. Someone with whom one has a special, almost spiritual connection
From: Merriam-Webster
soul mate
Function:
noun
: a person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament 2 : a person who strongly resembles another in attitudes or beliefs
 forumschick
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Msg: 24 (view)
 
Do you believe in a SOULMATE?
Posted: 7/18/2008 5:11:20 PM

Looks like public opinion is DIVIDED!!

Some say, "yes, we have a soulmate"

Others say, "no, we don't have a soulmate"

Maybe, it's better to define what exactly is a soulmate...here's what wikipedia says:

Soulmate (or soul mate) is a term sometimes used to designate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, friendship, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality and/or compatibility. A related concept is that of the twin flame or twin soul – which is thought to be the ultimate soulmate, the one and only other half of one's soul, for which all souls are driven to find and join. However, not everyone who uses these terms intends them to carry such mystical connotations.

So, here's the question "WHAT IS A SOULMATE?"



Soulmate is not a word, even POF's spelling tool doesn't recognizes it as so. As a term, and whenever I hear it or use it, it translates pretty much the same as described in Wikipedia with one variable; the part of "..one being half of one's soul". Am I the only one that sees something wrong with this part of the paragraph? I tell you what, it truly reflects the meaning of it: senseless.

In conclusion; it is not a word, and as a term is bound to bring you disappointment, so let it go...
 forumschick
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Msg: 18 (view)
 
Do you believe in a SOULMATE?
Posted: 7/17/2008 5:15:06 PM
I believe we all have a soul, I am pretty sure that we all have the ability to be mates. I fail to see the need for a made up word to make ourselves feel better...

First off, the bible says nothing of it. Do you really think that God created only one soul that you could be happy with? Don't think so. For the sake of argument, let's just say that He did, He only made one person which with you could happily spend the rest of your life; don't you think there would be warnings all over the bible about this, you know, a sort of "you got one chance only, don't blow it" type of thing, and yet there is no reference of the sort, so I am leaning towards, there is no such a thing as a soul mate...

You see, within our human delusion, we have somehow managed to believe that we were placed here to be happy. Just to enjoy one big happy ride? Who told you that? No one told me that, therefore, I am willing to accept that my current conditions need to be attributed only to the choices I have made throughout my life period. It isn’t because I haven’t found my soul mate, I assure you that…

Truth is, we don't like reality, we seem to want to avoid at being accountable at all costs; your last relationship ended, just like mine, because of lack of commitment on both parts. She/he could have been your so-called soul mate; she was just as you are a work in progress...
Can we please stop looking for excuses to justify this thing called Failure? It is bound to happen, we all fail more than once, and we will continue to do so, until we look at our commitment issues, not to us or anyone one else, it is simply our lack of commitment to our Creator.
God left us with plenty of instructions to ensure your life is as pleasant as it needs to be, but let's face it, it is just too much work, and the lack of commitment with our creator will show unequivocally in most aspects of our life. Relationships are one of them.

This is just for those who still believe in "Soulmates", you and I want a person already exactly the way we think can make us happy, now, let's be honest, how many of us has wanted exactly the same thing since you can recall, or even ten years ago...How many of us has never truly known what we really wanted even after not wanting it anymore? I know God loves us, but don't you think that it would involve a lot of orchestrating just to accommodate each one of us...
How about we start living life according to his instructions? I don't know, call me crazy, but I have a pretty good feeling that that could be the only way to succeed, and I can almost guarantee that you do too...

:peace: :hug: :peace:


 forumschick
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Msg: 48 (view)
 
Why religious way of life excluded in Hollywood's America?
Posted: 7/16/2008 3:18:38 PM
SuzzieQ, this is a very special explanation you offered to show why depictions of religious life is excluded from Hollywood movies.

Would you care to show us what would be an argument, or not even an argument, but just something, that would show that your theory regarding Satan is not true? I am not saying it's not true, I'm just curious what it would take to disprove it. There must be something, and I'm asking you to point to it.

If a scientist says all things fall down that are thrown up, all we need to disprove him is throw up something that doesn't fall down.

If a man says "you'll go to hell", all to disprove his claim is for you [not you personally, but the general you] to go to heaven.

Everything that has been stated in this world has at least one theoretical way of proving it false. For instance if you say "eating arsenic always kills people", all we need to see is one person thrive after eating arsenic. It's not that the thing would be possible, or even imaginable; but something that is a complete proof that the theory does not stand.

I would like you to please name that event or condition or state that would make your theory on Satan's hidden dynasties proven false. I don't ask you to prove it false, or even name things that can happen in reality; I'm only asking you to state a theoretical happening that would make it look false.

Of course, don't do it if you don't want to. Or please say it cannot be done, by any type of logic or event. I ask you nothing impossible or nothing that you don't want to do. But if you can think of something that can prove the theory of Satan's hidden dynasties prove false, in your opinion, then please describe it for me.


I know the question was for Suzzie, but I have a couple of my own for you;
Why are you analyzing Suzzie's opinion as a scientific theory or hypothesis?
She never claimed it to be a theory, her opinion, and speculation if you will is being taken from what she's read on the bible regarding the ultimate prophecy. It is entirely her interpretation of what is to come. She isn't claiming it to be so; she may believe it to be so, but unlike scientists she isn't translating her own "theory" into a fact like Science normally does.

Two entirely different languages my friend, which is why I must ask the following: Why are you using Science methodology to assess the strength of her faith?
We already know it is not possible, many have tried, and it will not work because faith is an abstract is not based on anything that has been empirically observed, nor experimented.
I would like to see you disprove that...

Based on her perspective, she could never prove nor disprove it scientifically speaking that is a true reality, even though it is as real to her and is breathing for the entire living world. Which begs my last question; what are you truly after here?

I have been debating on whether or not to ask, but since I cannot disprove my opinion on the above, I thought what the heck, she may teach me a thing or two about this…


 forumschick
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Msg: 47 (view)
 
Why religious way of life excluded in Hollywood's America?
Posted: 7/8/2008 11:43:53 AM

That is not the way that I interpreted that to read. I gathered from the OP that what he was saying is that America reality is defined by devout christianity. American reality is about baseball, hot dogs, apple pie and Chevrolet! Now you can be an American who is a devout christian, but it is incorrect to say that america is the land of devout christianity. Devout christianity is a part of American reality that way politics and corruption is, death and taxes, franks and beans, pornography and prostitution! It's just simply PART of American reality, America is not defined by it the way Islam defines the Middle east. Those middle eastern countries are shrouded in religious mystique. America is not a religious country in the same respect.



The statement reads “Devout Christianity is an essential part of the American reality….”
It is an essential part of the American reality for Christians , I really doubt that he was addressing you or others who share your views.

Moreover, I really don’t think that you interpreted it differently than the way it was meant; it could be simply that you have a problem with Christianity being a part of the American Culture and just felt the need to say so?
Because you have no problem with America being defined by baseball and hot-dogs, or sex and prostitution, yet, you are arguing with the fact, yes fact, that the Christian community is part of the American Culture, well, I hate to break it to ya (well, not really, I rather enjoy it ), but we are, as much as prostitution and baseball, even if we are not as "liked" as the latter. Nevertheless; Christianity is an American reality for Christians and non-Christians alike…

Quite frankly, I do not see how anything like Christianity or eating a hot-dog would define me, but hey, that is your reality and fortunately, I don’t have to live in it...

Since we have established that our realities differ from one another, I think you would agree with me when I say that the OP, and everybody else in America can say and speak about whatever their ‘reality’ is, and you know what, there is nothing you and I can do about it, so if I were you, I would lighten up a bit, you would be much happier and it would make it easier for me to do the “Christian thing”; you know, what with having to love everybody as He loves me…


And thats why I dont believe you have the right to drag your religion down main street, nailing your ten commandments up on every wall in every building in town. (not that you do, but you would if you could) Keep your religion inside your churches and inside your homes, but keep it out of the public. "Separation of Church and State"


I tell you what, it is tough being Christian these days…
Correct me if I am wrong, but it sounds to me on the above as if you are telling us “Christians” what to do or telling us what we can say? Is that right? I just wanted to make sure before I respond to “such request”…

 forumschick
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Msg: 38 (view)
 
A question on how one views past relationships
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:25:23 AM
I wasn't referring so much to what happened that caused the relationship to end, although that is important, as much as their feelings about the relationship ending.

For example, a person may say their Ex was a miserable individual. "Miserable" is relative and could mean anything from the individual being absolutely despicable to their having had a melancholy character. In those cases, I agree, it is difficult to determine the validity for ending the relationship. I was referring more to those who remain friends with their Ex or refer to the ending of the relationship in a casual, mattter-of-fact manner.

When in a relationship the decisions I make will be guided by that relationship. For example, if I am thinking about buying a piece of property in the country and my partner has an aversion to mosquitos and black flies, doesn't like outdoor activities, etc. then I probably would not buy such a place. If I was in a relationship with a lady who had two small children I wouldn't consider buying a two seater sport car if I could only afford one car. My decisions would be based on the relationship I was in.

Now, let's say a few years later my partner decides she wants to move on. The country property by the lake is no longer for sale and I'm driving around in a mini-van.

So, the point I'm getting at is terminating a relationship, in my view, is a serious matter. I can't see remaining friends with someone for whom I had adjusted my life, expecting the arrangement to be permanent, while they view it as simply moving on.


I know exactly what you meant, and I have to ask again; why is this something you have to see as a flaw or shortcoming on the other person rather than perhaps consider the possibility that your way of handling it or dealing with it may be not so right either?

Your question was meant to get the support of others to validate the way you feel about ending a relationship and I don't understand why do people do that a lot nowadays.
There is really not a right way or wrong way to handle the ending of a relationship; each one of us does it however we can manage to get through it; for some of us may be easier to let it go all completely before we allow ourselves to think of that person, let alone be friends, I guess what I am trying to say that is that her way is the right way to feel about the end of her relationship, as I am sure is yours to the end of yours period...

Furthermore, ending a relationship should be as serious as starting a new one, fully conscious that the things that you lived with your ex, are just that: the things you experienced with your ex and this new relationship ought to be in a different platform, one of which you are completely aware that although there is that chance that may end up the same as the last one, who knows, it could just not end at all…

Give the girl a chance for crying out loud,..

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Msg: 45 (view)
 
Why religious way of life excluded in Hollywood's America?
Posted: 7/7/2008 5:31:58 PM


Would it help you come to better terms with my parental choices if I told you my children know the Bible and read it regularly, that they choose to follow its precepts and morals as a guide to living, and that they do an excellent job of it? I know, surprising, eh? A Christian child in a Christian home who probably knows the Bible better than most adults -- and reads Harry Potter books!

Just a thought.


It doesn’t bother me one bit what the rest of the world does or doesn’t do; hey, I am a live and let live type of person and by the way, but you still didn’t answer my question…
Do you really think that God would have you read Harry Potter books rather than the bible? It truly is a yes or no question…

Thought so…



And if we're going to add TV to the mix there's:

I can't recall the title, the one with Dan Ackroyd as a "hip" vicar.
"Father Ted" ("Oh, go on, will you not have a wee cup of tea?" and "Gells!")
"Bless Me Father"
"The Vicar of Dibley"("yes, yes, yes, yes.... no")
"Ballykissangel"
"All Creatures Great and Small" -- well, it's not a religious setting (though some would rightly say the Yorkshire Dales are a little taste of heaven), but it is a title made familiar by religious singing.


I do believe God does have a sense of humor, and it must be disappointing how little we know and care to know about our Creator…


If you Google religion in movies, you'll find links to several databases that have lists of movies that feature religion. The Yahoo one has over 1000 titles (but they also include politics). There are several lists with 500+ movies listed. CD Universe's "Religion DVD Movies" has 250 titles to peruse. I'd say that the "exclusion" thesis is flawed.


Indeed, if you google religions anywhere on any sub category, you will most likely find that none of it has anything to do with God, I just wish someone else other than me, could see that…

There goes your argument on the “exclusion” thesis being flawed...

Lest you wonder; I truly wasn’t questioning your parenting skills at all either. As I said, most of us seldom practice what we preach, and I am no different than the rest of the world my friend; but do not tell me that God doesn’t frown upon the context of the Harry Potter Series whether film or literature,
Now this is according to the Bible, not any religious organization, not a priest nor the pope, but please do not take my word for it, after all, if you and your kids indeed read the Bible, I am sure you both will eventually agree with me…
 forumschick
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Msg: 23 (view)
 
Why religious way of life excluded in Hollywood's America?
Posted: 6/25/2008 4:26:16 PM

Nope. Though I only read a few chapters from the books, and relied on the movies for my info on the series, my children enjoyed the Harry Potter books, and I've spoke to adults and children I love and respect who also enjoyed them. But I am partial to English countryside scenes, old villages, and steam trains so it may be more of a romantic attachment than anything.

A local church held a Harry Potter themed Backyard Bible Class one summer that was a huge success and got tons of kids talking about good, evil, sin, God, Jesus, doing the right thing, etc. Anyway, I don't buy into the "Harry Potter is EVIL" scare-mongering. I think that good literature is good literature and books are an essential part of expanding a child's imagination and education. But that's me. Others who don't like Harry Potter should feel free not to read the books or see the movies.


And that my friend is precisely what most churches are all about these days, promoting everything that, according to the bible, it is disgusting to God, but who cares, as long as you get a full house I guess...

I agree with literature being essential for a child's education; however, if you want to give your kids great literature, give them the bible or do you really think that God would have you choose Harry Potter instead?...

Just a thought...

 forumschick
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Msg: 20 (view)
 
Why religious way of life excluded in Hollywood's America?
Posted: 6/25/2008 10:26:58 AM

I don't think religion is excluded, as such, but I don't think it's as entertaining as other matters. That said, there are lots of religious themes in movies. A constant theme is good conquering evil, a 'religious' theme if ever there was one. The Lord of the Rings Trilogy and The Narnia Chronicles were written with 'religious' themes, and were faithfully transcribed into celluloid (or whatever they use these days). Though not all Christmas movies are focused on Jesus, they still maintain the goodness of the message of Christmas (call it the Christmas Spirit if you like). Some would disagree, but I think the Harry Potter movies express a positive 'religious' theme. In fact, when I think of it, religion is rarely portrayed in a negative light except where that portrayal is fair and factually accurate. So I don't think 'religion' gets a bad rap by Hollywood.


Yes and boy have they succeeded; all those mentioned above are religions or of religious nature.

Harry Potter??! You have got to be kidding me!

Religion does not equal God; any God, whichever beliefs you have.
It is also religion which dictates almost everyone’s way of life, therein lies the problem…

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Msg: 19 (view)
 
Why religious way of life excluded in Hollywood's America?
Posted: 6/25/2008 10:06:20 AM
Devout Christianity is an essential part of the American reality ?? In what Universe? Another perfect example of how christians seem to think that America is supposed to revolve around them and what they believe. America is NOT a christian nation no matter what some think. Even if 80% of Americans were christian it STILL wouldnt be a christian nation because thats not what this country was built on. America is a ccountry that was open too all people from all parts of life. And they bring here their cultures and rituals and we become this big "Melting Pot"! Perhaps you've heard the term? But some people seem to think that because the Protestant Pilgrims were here first they get to claim this land for Jesus.


In the same universe that you and I live; or will the fact that they are Christians annul their own nationality?! Aren’t Christian Americans the same as the “you American”?
I really don’t understand the answer you provided above; but let me guess, you celebrate diversity?!



The Identity of this country is established in the Declaration of Independence and the Constitution. And NO WHERE in either of those two documents does it state that America is a "Christian Nation" (You can look it up) Hence the concept of "Seperation of Church and State" Now before someone says "Thats not written anywhere", it dosent have to. The Constitution couldnt work if there wasnt.


The identity of this country is constantly being established; day after day and the saddest thing, it has not a thing to do with the constitution…
However, you are right about one thing, you cannot advocate patriotism to your country and Christianity at the same time; well, at least not true Christianity anyway…


Religion (Especially christianity) is something that belongs in your heart and mind and remains a personal relationship or ideal that you carry around with you. It dosent belong in the public school systems or anywhere else in public because the "public" is the "State". And Hollywood?..... is part of the "State" Which means it will create whatever will sell. And as everyone knows..."Sex Sells" And nothing is more BORING then religion, christianity, god or jesus. Except of course to christians. Thats why we dont see it expressed as normal everyday life... because it isnt!


I disagree; it belongs wherever a Christian is; and if they happened to be of American nationality oh well, unless of course, Christians do not have the same rights you do…
Please do define normal, and given that it is your world and you are just letting us live in it, I am assuming you are the one who set the standars for normality?
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Msg: 18 (view)
 
A question on how one views past relationships
Posted: 6/25/2008 9:22:55 AM
My question to you is why are you looking for signs to reveal either?

Whatever conclusions we draw are entirely based on our experiences and the variables ought to dismiss the accuracy of such whenever one attempts to apply it to someone else.

Generalizations are dangerous, even this one...
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Msg: 132 (view)
 
The Death Penalty - When is it ever justified?
Posted: 6/20/2008 1:53:21 AM

I have to state that if this happened within the United States, he would have more than likely received a few years in prison, due to the fact, a child's life within the US is not equivalent to an adult's, our laws need to change. Japan did the right thing, I only wish the US would follow their example with the child killers within our own country.


You know, we were once promising species; what in the world happened to us?
Do you see a pattern here? Not only we think we have the authority to kill another human being, but also have managed to put some ease into it, by making it a law, and just in case that isn't enough for ya; now we have lessen the worth of another human life just because they cannot defend themselves; or was it height the key factor into determining their worth.?

Now, I have said this before and each and every time I say it, I am just as amazed as the first time I ever did: it is truly unfortunate that we went from barbarism to decadence; completely skipping civilization in between...

Hey I am sure I will get used to it eventually...

 forumschick
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Msg: 121 (view)
 
The Death Penalty - When is it ever justified?
Posted: 6/19/2008 3:59:18 PM

My earlier post about distinguishing mental illness from physical still applies - if someone happens to have a seizure and ends up killing someone, how is that any different from a mentally ill person who is experiencing hallucinations or delusions and kills someone? How is it justifiable to punish such a person? Their actions are not their own, hence they cannot be blamed.


The difference is the following: Intent. If a guy having a seizure ends up being the reason someone was killed, would be an accident. However, if there was any intention to do so, it would be obvious enough and then ought to be punished.

A person with a mental illness yet is able to later on make sense of what he did, can distinguish right from wrong; I don’t care how sick they are. I tell you what; I have yet to hear of a mental case where the person committing such horrible tortures and crimes with others ended up inflicting the same pain in the very same manner to their own person, have you? Even those who ended up killing themselves, they choose to do so in a way fast and inflicting the least amount of pain they can foresee. Haven’t they?

Now, let’s just say that they couldn’t possibly tell right from wrong for the sake of the argument; if these individuals operate strictly on their emotions, feelings, etc. and are subject to the same; well, I bet that throughout their life they have experienced physical pain, so they know they are inflicting the same to others while committing these crimes. If only for that, they need to be accountable and we must ensure that they cannot commit another crime again. While I don’t think another human being has the right to decide who is worthy of life and who isn’t; all the same, they need to be behind bars or in a place where they cannot do the same ever again.


Those of you who advocate punishment or death for those who, through no fault of their own, are suffering from an illness should think very hard about what they are saying. There is no conscious choice involved here. This forum shows just how maligned individuals with mental illness really are…


I beg to differ, there is conscious choice here and a malign one at that; or else, they would be willing to inflict themselves the same torture and pain they are willing to inflict their victims.
That being said, I do agree with you on the unequivocal displays of self-righteousness on this thread. No one if honest could guarantee you that they could, or would never be capable of behaving in the same manner as even the worst of criminals; if we could just take the trouble…

Moreover, if you think that you could never commit such a horrible crime; you are absolutely right. Of course you wouldn’t! As long as we both agree that we are talking about the “you” which is a result of living your life and your exact circumstances, that being said, I can almost guarantee that you wouldn’t be as certain or inclined to say the same if you were to see the world through the eyes of a criminal such as this one, or if you had lived his life and were exactly under his same circumstances.

Acknowledging and punishing wrongdoing doesn’t give one the right to proclaim that you are in a much better shape morally speaking. Whether we like it or not; we are all the same product and the quality of such can only by measured by one standard. If one of us is capable of doing something, without any variables, we all could be capable of doing the very same thing.

Now if after considering the above, you still feel confident that you couldn’t possibly behave in the same manner, I think it is time for you to seek help, and spare the lives of those whom you could possibly hurt in the future, then try to get away with it by simply finally admitting your mental condition. .



according to the bible the laws of man are the laws of god, it also states that he condones capital punishment for even the most insignificant of crimes like disobedience

Yes it does, doesn’t it? However, The Bible is also eloquent about the manner we should behave after the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ; you see we no longer need to take matters into our hands. Additionally, it clearly states that the laws of men which abide by His Law….
Exactly…
Moreover, a lengthy elaboration of references for the reason I think the way I do aren’t really needed, given the fact that it was not the original question now, was it? Therefore, if you are trying to argue the soundness of my beliefs, I believe that you should start another thread, knowing myself, I’d be sure to find you…:D

which would be more criminal, to execute a man that was found guilty by a jury of his peers
and sentenced to death for a crime he did commit or to free a man found guilty of child
molestation based on his physical stature or the fact that the judge didnt see prison as
punishment, before you balk, both have happened within the last couple of years in 2
different jurisdictions


Both equally; let’s not forget that two wrongs do not make a right, no matter who does it.


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Msg: 95 (view)
 
Does the past define your Future?
Posted: 6/18/2008 11:08:23 AM
I like the way you see it forumschick. It shows a very mature emotional level I think. If its possiable for someone to make those choices not based on past experiences shows maturity in my eyes. Though I think this is hard for most people to do.


I am not sure maturity truly exists in human beings, but I like the idea. However, I was thinking more along the lines of understanding your choices and self-accountability.
If you have recognized a pattern of negative behavior and connect this to experiences from your past, well, half of the battle is won. Now, if you continue to be influenced by it, thus impacting your love life negatively, that is also a choice you are making and are no longer allowed to excuse yourself by simply knowing the reason you continue to choose in the same manner.

Now you know, time to do something about it…

Of course, there are others who will not even go as far as doing a self assessment because they cannot even conceive the possibility of failure being attributed to their own choices. Hey I am just trying to make myself feel better…:wink:

When we are children feeling helpless is justified because when someone hurts you, one is unable to comprehend that how people treat you; whether in a positive or negative way, is not about you ; is not even a reflection on how they feel about you. The reason people behave the way they do towards you, is never ever about you.
However, it is greatly a reflection on whether they chose to let their own pain from their past determine who they have become.

As adults we are not helpless anymore, we still have no control over other people’s actions, but we can choose how to feel about these and more importantly, choose to live our lives not as a consequence of anyone else’s actions but our own; fear is also a choice.

Now on a lighter note; if history repeats itself and the unexpected always happens, how incapable we must be of learning from experience...:wink:

Once again, this is entirely my opinion and may be wrong, but I just don’t think so, once again, the choice is yours I have made mine :hug:
:peace: :hug: :peace:
 forumschick
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Msg: 62 (view)
 
The Death Penalty - When is it ever justified?
Posted: 6/17/2008 8:23:29 PM
OP:
No, he shouldn't have been killed but only because of the same reason all his victims shouldn’t have been.
His state of mind, is irrelevant at best.

Granted, as a parent; wanting to kill him and inflict the same pain that all victims had to endure is justified and everybody's instant reaction to say that he doesn't deserve to be alive is almost justified.
However, in all reality, nobody has the authority or divinity to say who has a right to live and who doesn't. There is only one judge, and He isn't here yet.

Although, I am not in favor of capital punishment, I am equally against criminals using their mental health as a way out of paying for crimes these days. Regardless of the cause; if a crime has been committed, it ought to be punished accordingly period. Let's just go back to basics; if you can prove the crime to the criminal, then on to the next step, which should be convicting and sentencing accordingly. Without turning into criminals ourselves that is...

Personally, I just don’t understand how we have gotten so far into decadence. A crime should never be looked at as plausible behavior, we must never, ever try to make sense out of it, let alone “expect” such behavior from certain individuals because such can be attributed to anything really.
I don’t care how traumatized you are, an adult can tell the difference between right and wrong, a traumatized child may not, and even then I am not so sure, but as adults we can distinguish right from wrong, and if we do wrong we must be punished accordingly without any special considerations. There is not one reason, none, which justifies wrong doing.
If a crime has been committed, why it happened is irrelevant. Yes, it should be as simple as that...

While we ought to make sure that these individuals are never allowed to be free to do it once again, no one has the right to take a life, not even their own; let alone someone else’s. Once again, The Only One who is rightfully The One to do so, isn’t here yet, just what makes any of us think that we are equipped to take over His Job in the mean time…

Never mind, I guess we cam attribute that to arrogance and self-righteousness...

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Msg: 2 (view)
 
Does the past define your Future?
Posted: 6/7/2008 1:29:45 AM
OP:
No it doesn't.
While it may be the reason for the inclination to seek and go after whatever it is you lacked in the past; no one who knows about self accountability can honestly attribute their present circumstances to their past...
The choices my friend, are entirely yours, you are the only one that can define or determine
your own future.
Even if you were to let someone else tell you how to live a life you wouldn't choose for yourself, you are still making the choice of letting it happening...

Of course that is my opinion, I could be wrong...
 forumschick
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Msg: 18 (view)
 
Jesus, compassion, forgiveness and anger
Posted: 6/4/2008 12:15:09 AM




I am interested in how you interpret any shows of anger in Jesus' s teachings . A friend and I have been discussing it and I always like to have a lot of different viewpoints. Does anger have a place within compassion and forgiveness or should we learn to control anger so that we no longer have to express it?
How would you interpret the following:
"If you go into a town and the people there do not welcome you - then leave that place - shaking the dust from your sandals as you go".
(I am not sure where in the bible it is written, what does it imply to you?)
My understanding is that the goal in mastery is to stay centered at all times and not move to extremes of behavior. To walk the middle path at all times. We then experience our full power and can overcome anything. By using our will, we can stay centered, calm and peaceful at all times. It is my feeling this is how we master the Law of Cause and Effect and in fact many other universal laws as they seem to build on one another. If we are unable to control our emotions and monitor our thoughts and feelings as they are experienced, a build up of a 'negative' emotion can causes us to show extreme behaviour from which it can be a challenge to free ourselves.
Is this in Jesus's teachings?


I can tell you from experience; no one can achieve the above on his/her own; you can only do so with His Help by surrendering your will entirely to Him.

Anger isn’t a sin; whereas the things you do or say while you are angered are.
Jesus walked in our shoes; therefore, he knows that anger comes with our human condition, amongst many other flaws.
How many times have you been frustrated with someone you love and speak loud enough, by saying it how it is without using “colorful language: and did so out of the love you have for that person?
That is all he ever did while angered; a tone of voice which is firm and loud enough to speak to a group of people, yet speaks from love and truth is not committing sin.


Efesians 4:26
“Be angry, and do not sin”: 27do not let the sun go down on your wrath,
29Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.
31 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.
32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.

Mathew 5:38-48
“You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’[f] 39 But I tell you not to resist an evil person. But whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also. 40 If anyone wants to sue you and take away your tunic, let him have your cloak also. 41 And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two. 42 Give to him who asks you, and from him who wants to borrow from you do not turn away.

43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor[g] and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,[h] 45 that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. 46 For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? 47 And if you greet your brethren only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the tax collectors[j] do so? 48 Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect.




He clearly acknowledges that we are entitled to feel however our physical bodies make us feel, each and every day; feeling all of it is not a sin, acting to satisfy our flesh will be.

Self determination is not will power, and self-determination will never in a million years help you smile at people who have hurt you while saying “May God Bless you and yours” (And truly mean it, well, what can I say; I used to think that all I had to do was say it, but little did I know…)

Ironically, the true power you could ever have in your will is if you give it away to God, it is only then, that His power becomes yours.
Forgiveness is the cure for the fruits of anger, and forgiveness is definitely something that God is incredibly good at, in fact, God is the only one who can teach us about hating the sin but never the sinner.

All the honor and glory are indeed for The One and only…
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Msg: 48 (view)
 
question for christians
Posted: 5/14/2008 5:41:17 PM

Jesus will not return as a person and be seen by anyone, so if anyone even makes a claim to be Christ then they are lying. Nor will the world ever see the True Christ again.


I beg to differ:

Sounds to me as if though you do believe in Scripture regardless of your denomination/religion, after all, you are quoting it above...However, please take a look below, the paragraph below doesn't leave much room for doubt since they were speaking about the end of times...

Luke Chapter 21:
25 “And there will be signs in the sun, in the moon, and in the stars; and on the earth distress of nations, with perplexity, the sea and the waves roaring; 26 men’s hearts failing them from fear and the expectation of those things which are coming on the earth, for the powers of the heavens will be shaken. 27 Then they will see the Son of Man coming in a cloud with power and great glory. .




 forumschick
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Msg: 166 (view)
 
Educated believers
Posted: 4/29/2008 5:00:39 PM

Hi forumschick, the "free will" I referred to is the ability to make choices that are not externally determined and of which the decisions reached are without outside coercion. I can't agree that the religious connotations of Free Will (note capitalization) don't warn you anymore than the general (un-capitalized) term does. Religiously the choice is yours, but not without damaging your immortal changes of survival; this as opposed to perhaps merely mortal ones in general terms - the former certainly no belief of mine. :)


I fail to see the difference?

Religiously: Free Will = The choice is mine + consequence
Any other way: Free Will = The choice is mine + consequence

Morally, legally, religiously, and every which way; only one free will exists.

The warnings in “religious connotations” (Sacred Scripture to me) aren’t any more than those of which you can find in the judicial branch section of the US Constitution. Once again, I fail to see the difference…

Regardless of the “truth” to which you are bound, you still have the ability to choose to do whatever you want to do. Nobody can stop you from doing something or make you act accordingly. Should you do so, it will be entirely your choice as well. It really is quite that simple…

Now, I am curious; have you ever chosen to do something, or behaved without outside coercion?
What do you think could be classified as “outside coercion”?

As for “choices externally determined”, which ones are these?
Are you telling me that my actions, behavior, code of conduct, etc. could be determined by someone or something else altogether?

Guess it is safe to say that logic, much like everything else, is indeed in the eyes of the logician huh?
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Msg: 11 (view)
 
The Enemy Within
Posted: 4/24/2008 2:42:13 PM
In order to change something; we must begin by being the change we want to see in the world...
 forumschick
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Msg: 163 (view)
 
Educated believers
Posted: 4/24/2008 1:27:21 PM
Forumschick.....I see you dont go back and read much. Here is message #81! read up!

Wiki has Faith as "a profound belief or trust in a particular truth, or in a doctrine that expresses such a truth."

No, not really, but what I do though, is post the comments to which I am replying or directing my response. Although, for someone who does (this is you); well, is not looking good either. In my previous post I stated clearly that “a firm belief in something for which there is no proof was one of the many definitions of Faith. I am sorry you missed that…


The first problem I have with faith is the notion that truth is static. Truth is completely objective and based on each individuals understanding. Understanding is ONLY gained through experience which no two people share.

On the above paragraph you are using the word faith when you are referring to the concept of religion.


That's why spirituality/religion has always been difficult to explain to someone else. Unless you have VERY similar leveling of understanding it's almost impossible to try and explain yourself. Not only that but if they do not gain the proper understanding to 'walk on their own' so to speak you will forever either be walking for them or they'll be 'stuck' at one level of understanding indefinitely because they won't have the tools to progress.

(Hmmm sounds a lot like Religion... shh don't think for yourself just do what I say, who cares if you don't UNDERSTAND, if you just go along with me you'll be fine.. well at least until I leave, but don't worry... why would I leave ;) )


Precisely! Religion; not faith, good we are both on the same page now…
Now that we cleared that one up; why would anyone not want to leave religion?


Now please go read msg 84 and understand there is a difference between fatih and blind faith. Thats why there 2 different words!

Message 84:
So blind faith would be the definition of the word Faith that thatottguy found minus the word truth! That would only make sence. Blind faith: a prafound belief or trust in a paticular doctrine that expresses such. Just an idea! That is what believers do!


I did, and now I am lost again; can you elaborate on message 84, I am not sure I understand what you are saying, but hey, I have never claimed to be intelligent

As I have said before; one of the definitions of the word itself implies blindness, regardless of how you are using it, I fail to see the need for redundancy…

Furthermore, what you perceive, your observations, feelings, interpretations, are all truth; your truth. Now your truth is important and reassuring the foundation for it is vital. Yet it is not The Truth and will never be.

Therefore, for those who want TRUTH, you have it, it is reflected in every aspect of your life, and your truth defines you almost entirely. It is the same for everyone else; it is precisely the reason conflict arises when one of us will proclaim our truth to be The Truth…

We should not pretend to understand the world only by the intellect; we apprehend it just as much by feeling. Therefore, the judgment of the intellect is, at best, only our perceptions of half of The Truth, as should also be, if honest, the understanding of its inadequacy…

 forumschick
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Msg: 161 (view)
 
Educated believers
Posted: 4/24/2008 10:42:51 AM

It's also one of the symtoms of schitzophrenia..


Good one!

I would suggest a dictionary to help you distinguish the difference between hallucinations and faith. However, something tells me that your “high level of education” has enabled you to do so…
Which begs the question; why is it that as long as the objective is to appear or sound intelligent and educated, we are just fine with pretending ignorance?…
 forumschick
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Msg: 155 (view)
 
Educated believers
Posted: 4/23/2008 3:29:36 PM

And as long as it doesn't undermine your ability to have and use free will within the bounds of the law and without fear of retribution.


It doesn't. What you speak of is religion, even then it clearly teaches you about the greatest gift of all: Free Will and it doesn’t warn you anymore than our legal system does.
The meaning of Free Will has been entirely lost in its concept; and yes that is possible, it is much like Individual Rights…


Correct me if I am wrong but isn’t the firm belief in something for which there is no proof one of the many definitions of Faith? So how is it not blind after all?
I don’t care if you add “blind” or “experiential” to it; still doesn’t change the meaning of the actual word itself or makes it more suitable for the intelligent than it is for the uneducated according to many of you.

Faith is faith people; and I really don’t think any of you have the authority to revise the definition of it.
Yes I know, blind faith is the trait of the uneducated whereas experiential faith you know the one with the foundation for it; is the trait of the intelligent…

Gotta love euphemisms…

This is for all of you educated people who dismiss God or our faith in Him because we simply have an ancient book and no proof of its contents.

How are you any different than I am, or what makes you so much more intelligent than I am for doing exactly the same thing I am?

Have you any proof yourself, tangible proof that you have seen, experimented with, at least seen with your own two eyes, that has influenced your faith to be the one of Evolution or whatever it is you believe…

I can almost guarantee that any of the posters here have never had in their hands tangible proof that we owe it all to evolution. Anymore proof than a book or internet data available somewhere…
Is it not a program in television, documentary, books, etc, and brilliant scientists who have influenced your faith in whatever it is you believe in? Yet, you have not experienced any of it have you? In fact if I asked you to prove to me right now your theory, have you anything tangible at hand to do so without any of the above resources?

Will you not refer to a book, or someone else, data on the internet, etc to provide the foundation for your beliefs? Explain to me what is the difference between your foundation for your beliefs and mine and how is your choice anymore intelligent than mine?

Trust me, your faith is as blind as mine honey…
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Msg: 139 (view)
 
Educated believers
Posted: 4/17/2008 1:51:04 PM
It has been said that the more educated a person is the less they believe in god. However this isn't always the case. Some very well educated people believe in god. I am definitely not a well educated or even a well read person but can see the importance of believing something that doesn't require faith or 'blind faith'.

So perhaps some of the more educated believers could shed some light on why they still believe in something that requires blind faith. What led you to believe as you do when there is not proof that a god exists?


Throughout history; there is enough evidence to show that we are faced with three paradoxical ‘facts’:

Fact No. 1
A well-educated individual is one who has learned that any type of information, almost always turns out to be at best incomplete and very often false, misleading, fictitious, mendacious; in other words; just dead wrong.

Fact No. 2
True intelligence is almost always found in those of which will never claim to have it.

Fact No. 3
The education system has become one of the main obstacles to true intelligence and freedom of thought.

It is because of those three “facts”; that I have never let my schooling interfere with my education or faith for that matter.

There is no need to add the word “blind” to faith; I think it is somewhat redundant. Faith implies lack of tangible evidence. Most people do know what “faith” means.

Lest you do not; faith is the certainty of what you hope for, and the conviction of that which you cannot see . However, it is still a choice; so you must choose it…

 forumschick
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Msg: 137 (view)
 
Educated (and Intelligent) Believers
Posted: 4/17/2008 12:16:49 PM

Less than 7% of members of the Academy of Sciences are religious, faith is big among window licking trailer park dwellers... draw your own conclusions...


You gotta love statistics!...

Unfortunately for those who like to rely on the same; there are always enough “facts” or figures available to prove either side but not enough to discard one or the other.
What do you think could possibly be that reason?

Actually, I could prove God statistically to you as well. However, if it was meant to be that way, I am sure that we would be able to…

As easy as your life must be, given your demographics; I feel nothing but compassion for someone who is able to speak as condescendingly and as obtuse about something of which, they have never experienced first hand.

It is not without a sense of irony that, that which has enabled you to speak this way, sometimes can be seen as good fortune amongst us “trailer dwellers”…

I didn’t want to, but I have to ask, are there really people that you have seen licking windows?...
 
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