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onlyfortheforums

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Situational question Posted: 3/29/2008 5:49:08 AM
Think about this from a guys stand point ... how does it feel when you're getting a bj and you cum and she still keeps going? ... INTENSITY and OVERSENSITIVE which can make it very uncomfy ... just keep going. you're still getting play, right?

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WOW it always wins... Posted: 3/29/2008 5:45:36 AM
Listen VERY carefully (as I am a fellow ... well, now EX WOW widow myself) ... try furst by turning off the breaker while he's online playing (hard to play when there's no electricity going through the computer - eh?) ... if he doesn't get it through his thick skull after this (and the "I have no idea what could have happened" look in your face - lol) ... then this is an emergency and this is what you do : 1) Take nearest pin you have close to you 2) Take WOW CD 3) Apply pin Don't go crazy over it or anything. One Simple line from the midddle of the CD to the edge will do the trick ... hence unplayable ... again apply "I have no idea how that happened" look on your face. Yes, i know it cost money and yes, i know he might be a little pissed about it but after all, you warned him ONCE, now take more measures ... the ball is in his court, you are just defending yourself and another CD can be bought if he's good about it this time. I hate it when guys do that - it's just plain ignorant!!! sigh ... amd tell him to grow up - from me!!! :)

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if you could turn back the hands of time . Posted: 3/29/2008 5:40:03 AM
EVERYTHING happens for a reason - I wouldn't change my life for anything in the world. it took a little time for me to realize this, but in the end, I know i have my bread buttered :)

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number one priority Posted: 3/29/2008 5:38:18 AM
Talking from a "mom" POV, I think it is all about balance. I LOOOOOVE my son and he is my world - BUT - I love myself as well and that means the ability to take care of myself and remember that I am not just an extention of my kids, I have my own personal goals and aspirations as well and if I lose myself in the "mommy role", then what example would I be setting for him? All parents SAY they love thier kids ... how many people actually walk the talk though? It's all too easy to say words ... sigh. I think what the mother is saying is that her kids are IMPORTANT to her ... that doesn't mean that she wouldn't adore you any less - different kind of loves (eg. My son is my priority, but it doesn't mean that I dismiss my husband becasue I love him too - well, unless it came down to taking a bullet for one of them and having to make a choice - my husband can take care of himself ... and even he says that is the right thing to do in a case like that) ... don't feel jaded just cuz a woman says that - it means something totally different from how you are taking it Luv ... no worries:)

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What would you give up for true love? Posted: 3/29/2008 5:32:06 AM
I belive that you should have to sacrafice a single thing ... just be loyal to that person - period. A person who you could potentially spend the rest of your life with should COMPLIMENT the things you like and do or in the very least appriciate the differences you have together ... who knows, with an attitude like this, you could learn a few new things yourself ... and there's nothing wrong with that, right?

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Men over 50 wanting children Posted: 2/21/2008 11:13:12 AM
IMO it is ridiculous already ... I mean thinking about that 20 year contract alone - shouldn't one want to be heading for RETIREMENT in ten years or so? We don't have unlimited energy (unfortunately) and the child could suffer deending on the conviction of the parent. The way I see it, it's no more than another form of midlife crisis - don't play into it or it could spell disaster for you (because you might end up taking care of a child all by yoursefl - not fair, it takes two). I asked my Father (who is 56 and still kciking in the dating game) and he even says NO FRIGGING WAY!!!!!!!!! I have blessed him with a grandchild and that is good enough for him ... so he can give him back at teh end of the day. His job has been done (and very well) by me.

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If You Could Fix One Mistake Posted: 2/21/2008 11:02:07 AM
I would have never listened to my family when they told me I was "just having cold feet" ... u huh - three years later I find out he's GAY ... I have nothing against gay men (whatsoever) BUT not for my HUSBAND!!!! lol - true story ... sad ... but true!!! lolol

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Very Hard to Wake Up.... Would you stay?? Posted: 2/21/2008 10:51:07 AM
lololol - I have one of those ... here's what I do. I am done with yrlling at him about it (so save your breath it won't work and it will just irritate you), I have tried the glass of water in the face thing (eep - not recommeneded, but i was at my wits end already!!) ... and you know what i figured out? THEY ARE ADULTS!!! If they can't get up and out of bed in time to do the things that they need to do - then it is not your problem. You're not that person's mama ... think about that. Bad news, no nice breakfast in bed, good news, you get up and out in time and don't have to govern another adult in the mix of an aleady hectic morning ... After I did that to my SO at first he didn't belive that i WOULDN'T wake him up if the alarm went off, and yes, he got mad at me (becasue it turned out that he was incesantly late - figures) and then he cowboyed up and is a BIG BOY now who gets himself up and out the door with out me having to coax him along the way (I already have a two year old to take care of thank you very much) - he'll get the hint. Better than arguing over it isn't it?

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Why are men so hard to read, Posted: 2/21/2008 10:45:35 AM
How about just going with the flow so as to not scare him away ... and a little give and take as any good relationship is built on that. Do as you feel, if you are thinking about him (and you haven't JUST spoken to him 15 minutes ago), just call him already!! If you want to be close to him do it already ... don't waste time with playing hard to get because guys tend to find it like a mindgame - and it is. Enjoy someones company rather than play the whole game thing and you might be pleasantly surprised if you can just be yoursefl instead of plotting your next move like a war ... Good luck!!

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confused Posted: 2/20/2008 8:15:11 AM
Ya, playing the whole tit for tat thing is never the way to go. You should have just understood that he was going through some issues and that guys don't have it in them (most times) to spit it out ... it wasn't about you in the beginning, NOW it is because you (unfortunately) made it that way ... that's why he doesn't want to talk. The worst part of it, is when a guy is ASKING for this, he isn't going to cheat on you, he isn't going to go whore himself out - he just needed time to think. You couldn't give it to him (well, you seemed like you did and then pulled a "him" on him) and obviously he really cared for you (or he wouldn't have come back again) but then he was left "ditched" (yes, as you had felt the times before but still ... we are speaking about him). He doesn't want to continue the cycle (he is smart - so should you be). The best thing that you can do is BE HIS FRIEND and start digging yourself out of the instant quicksand you have created ... he can't NOT listen forever, now you are going to have to show him (actions speak louder than words do they not?) ... if his feelings were true for you int the first place, it should all be alright. Nothing is set in stone, regardless of how he might feel at the moment. Good luck Chickie, you have your work cut out for you - but if you love him, it is worth it in the end. just one more mountain.

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Why do girls really care about this? Posted: 2/20/2008 7:18:16 AM
I feel is stems from th ewhole security issue. I don't care if my man watches porn, but if it is cutting into our relatioship (or more to the point our sexlife) then it can be an issue. Some people are addicted to it ... that's where a lot of the probs begin ... Even still, for some women, it can be hard on a woman with a guy who incesantly looks at other women instead of what I would have to offer ... and put the shoe on the other foot. What worth would one feel if ...

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Getting along with your family members Posted: 2/20/2008 7:07:43 AM
I think your brother needs to reassess his relationship with this woman. It's not like we can erase our children just becasue our SO doesn't care for them ... it's kind of a package deal. She is being a self, stupid woman by her actions and it show volumes as to what's she's like on the inside - and not a very nice person at that. WE as parents have a duty to our children once we have them (and even if we don't, it takes a village to raise a child) and that includes keeping them from people like that. I know it was just words NOW, but what happens down the line if they were to get married (her still feeling the way she does about you brother's child) and then neglects tht child, shows no affection, or abuses the child because she just doesn't want it to be there - what then? Tell your brother to LOOK AT THE BIG PICTURE and rid yoursefl of a potentially bad situation if something cannot be resolved of this matter - seriously

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How Do You Know When It's Time To Walk Away ... ? Posted: 2/19/2008 6:39:42 PM
woops.... wrong person...

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sabotage the relationship Posted: 2/19/2008 12:08:32 PM
you let them go… so create reasons for them to let YOU go. I know of someone who has done this at least twice before, and looks like is currently doing it yet again. Instead of creating reasons for the other person to leave you, try cowboying-up, opening your mouth, and acting like a mature adult. People like that should be on meds.

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Is It Those We Date That Are The Problem...Or Is It US? Posted: 2/15/2008 9:55:06 AM
I find befoer we go throwing rocks in glass houses, we need to take a little glimpse in the mirror to make sure WE personally do not have mud on our faces :)

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How do you spot a player Posted: 2/15/2008 8:50:58 AM
That's the bad thing about a player ... you NEVER know - some are smoother than others ... I know. Keep a part of yourself at bay until you are sure of the person - that is what i have learned out of my hard knocks in the dating world, but at the same time, make sure that you leave yoursefl open ENOUGH so that you are still approachable, because guys like a challenge ... but don't like beating their head up against a brick wall, y'know what I mean? Only time tells the true from the false, dont' take ANYTHING seriously until you know ... to protect yourself. Period - if it is a game that they want, play the game. Game on!!!

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Men not making plans or attempting to make plans on Valentine's Day? Posted: 2/15/2008 8:47:46 AM
I belive it all depends on how long you have known eachother and shown that interest. If it's been weeks ... remember that guys tend to try to evade the "L" word as long as possible - in most cases, although there are the few and rare ones the EXPRESS as soon as they know ... but on the norm, it's not the best day in the world to them unless they know that they are in a commited relationship. If it has been MONTHS then he just can't jam out of it ... boycotting the propaganda or not. It just is a sweet thing to do for someone you care for (it doesn't have to be LOVING that person to celebrate - Valentine's day should really be renamed "I appriciate you" day ... but I guess it doesn't have the same kind of ring then does it?) ... hell, I even tell all my single GUY friends Happy Valentine's day - they seemed to have appriciated it regardless of teh fact we are just friends and I was letting them know simply I APPRICIATE YOU ... hearts and flowers aside. I hope all works out for you and your interest ... it's hard to let go of an interest, but easy if the interest is plain ignorant to your feelings. Good luck!! :)

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I know it is the THOUGHT that counts BUT ... on V-day ...? Posted: 2/15/2008 8:16:27 AM
lol - note to all the guys ... not ALL women like roses ... gerber daisies are great too and NOT as pretentious!!

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What should she do? Posted: 2/13/2008 2:16:10 PM
I find it kind of crazy myself ... she's normally very calm, cool, and collected and sex is the last thingon her miond ... then she says, there was him ... wonder what it was? He's better have a HUGE .... chicken, for all the confusion ... I think I will ask her

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I know it is the THOUGHT that counts BUT ... on V-day ...? Posted: 2/13/2008 10:01:54 AM
LMAO!!!! It's funny how if we get it from an animal it's okay, but ... lol - I had three cats at one time and they were great for that!! Until I accidentally stepped on one when I was walking through my kitchen in the middle of the night to get a glass of water and then stepped on a dead present they had left for me ... it looked like LACE when I turned on the light - eeeew!!!! still trying to wipe that feeling off my foot

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What should she do? Posted: 2/13/2008 9:59:16 AM
Thanks for all of the help everybody ... she is seeing the errors of her way ... she just feels sheepish, that's all. :)

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What should she do? Posted: 2/12/2008 7:11:34 PM
My friend asked me to post this because she doesn't believe in internet dating ... to each their own right? HOWEVER, she has a bit of a situation that I am hoping that all can help out a little so it isn't just coming out of MY mouth. Here goes: She really likes this guy, They met on another site (I believe this is why she has sworn of dating sites as a tool unfortunately, you can only be burned so many times now can't you sigh?) and they had spoken for something like a month and then she took the leap to actually meeting this man. She is very shy as she has self-confidence issues to begin with but she went as far as opening up to this guy and actually telling him so - of which he had said it was okay. Then she met him. It was fireworks (in HER words) and as far as she told me, it seemed to be the same way on his end. They ended up being intimate and then spoke again for a bit and then another time ... I told her she shouldn't have done that but she was SURE this guy WASN'T a player and he was innocent and sweet to her and he seemed genuine. I saw trouble coming when I heard they both we getting out of relationships, but I figured it would be a good thing as long as she was happy as I hadn't seen a smile on her face FOREVER in now ... but now she is upset because the guy didn't call or anything (and they usually speak on the phone almost EVERYDAY - I know lol!!) he just left her a short note (via FB) that he was busy and he would speak to her later (a little longer note than that, but that was the jist) ... ANYHOW, she's feeling right now like she wants to curl up into a ball and die ... and I don't know how to console her on this one. The last conversation she really had with him was walking out the door and he was talking about the new TV he was getting ... and then not a whole heck of a lot more. Leaves me thinking she was left for the TV ... and maybe another prospective (even though he swears that he wasn't seeing anyone - u huh)? On one end I feel horrible for her because I know she doesn't take intimacy very lightly (in other words she is typically NOT a slut by any means ... so don't go there or I will defend my girl) and she doesn't just give it away, but I hadn't seen her this happy in a while and even talking about him her eyes just started sparkling - how do you tell her that she's getting swept off her feet and MAYBE this sweet guy she has met is just another (more coy, I will give him) player? I feel horrible because I told her to give him the benefit of the doubt - as I am usually an optimistic person ... but I have a BAD feeling of this. On the other end she should have known better BUT when someone is speaking with a honey tounge, how hard is it to read in between those lines? Which one is it anyway? Sincere? Slick? Was she replaced by the TV/another greener pasture? Or should she give him the benefit of the doubt STILL? ... I am stumped on it myself. Yes, I know they aren't dating per say (even though he has told her that he is sleeping with her exclusively and hasn't made any other mention), but he hasn't been his "normal" self as far as she is telling me either ... and is seeming as if she is getting a back seat to a whole lot of other things that he once was moving heaven and earth to make sure they could speak ... I don't want to ruin her chances with "Mr. Wonderful", but what if "Mr. Wonderful" is quickly turning into "Mr. Wonder where the hell he is?" ... I don't want to see her get hurt - she's a tuff cookie, but I know (I can see it in here eyes even right now) she's been stabbed and I don't know what to say ... Please, a little help? Thanks everybody!!

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I know it is the THOUGHT that counts BUT ... on V-day ...? Posted: 2/12/2008 6:23:35 PM
lol - nothing like giving a gift certificate on cases like that!! lol

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What is up with her Posted: 2/12/2008 4:45:26 PM
I agree with wander baby, having a child REALLY can put a (temporary to permenant damper on a relationship), I didn't feel like being touched I swear for three months after I had my twins ... and adjusting to catering to the needs of a munchkin can be terribly difficult (especially if you are an oilfield worker and are working the loooong hours they do). I like the idea of the person's idea above wanderbaby (as far as doing something nice). now by doing something nice for her, these things may change over the course of the relationship, but what it seems that she is craving right now is some ALONE time where NO ONE touches her (even if it is to close the bathroom door and have a bubble bath). Try this: Before you beckon her her, run her a nice bath with towels and her bath robe laid out, maybe if you have a boom box, then play her favorite veg music (feel around to find something nice and slow) .. .and then take care of the kids for the night, she'll probably passou ton the bed after the bath from exhaustion!! good luck!!

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I know it is the THOUGHT that counts BUT ... on V-day ...? Posted: 2/12/2008 4:25:50 PM
Okay, pony it up!! What is the WORST Valentine's day present you have ever gotten? I know it is the thought that counts, but how many people actually have gotten some rotten of an egg for one? One's that you can't even squint and say "aaaaw" - it's just plain brutal. I'll start - I don't particularly believe this was supposed to be a Valentines Day Present per say, but it was delivered at my door on v-day ... there was a knock on the door and I opened it to find nobody there and a box at my feet ... so I opened it to find a dead mouse (or it could have been a kitten ... I didn't keep it open long enough to find out the details). To this day i don't know who sent it to me (and I don't care cuz I am a HUGE animal person and I think I would have the tendency to choke the person who was the owner of the 'wonderful' gift) ... but I think if someone had that much animosity towards me they wouldn't kill an animal over it and they could have said enough with maybe a BLACK rose? I scratch my head at that one ... some people have no class or morals ... Any other stories?

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Problems with your man turning you down? Posted: 2/12/2008 2:44:58 PM
I was feeling the same way today - I would say wait around a little bit, and depending on how much he heans to you - either ditch him or find out what the REAL problem is and nip it in the bud if he means anything to you ... good luck chickie!!

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men in uniforms Posted: 2/12/2008 2:38:21 PM
lol - i can't say i say the same but my Father is a Corrections Officer and the uniform does nothing to me now except scream DAAAAAAAD!!! lol - but two of my friends go ga-ga!! They are with you.

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Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 2/12/2008 2:32:36 PM
lol - TOTALLY AGREE!!! Running far FAR away from guys who can't get their cr*p together enough to get an apartment in the very least!! If they ARE still at home I give them the courtesy to tell me WHY first (it could be that they are taking care of an ailing parent - but boy they'd better be dying for that!!) ... other than that, unless it is schooling (and even then it is the rare exception) they gotta be OUTTA there before 20 or it's a no go ... and that's stretching it.

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Out of the mouth of babes...... Posted: 2/12/2008 2:29:51 PM
TOTALLY agreeing with what you are saying - in this day in age, it seems like no one is supposed to NEED anybody ... i play the same game face as everybody else, but at the end of the day, we all know that (except for the rare case) we all need to be held and loved and cherished - plain as it comes. I have no idea why this has become the wrong thing to do - to the point that I had to tear the head of a counselor off because apparently we are never supposed to need anybody or it is called an addiction (of which from their definition that is what marriages are built on - say wha?) ... but our instincts tell us something different, don't they?

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Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers? Posted: 2/12/2008 1:31:49 PM
The only way that you can avoid it is simply making abundantly sure that they know: - you have a little girl - She is your world - you are not looking for you next baby's daddy (period) The reason I say this is because if you expect nothing of them, some men might surprise you - others won't (I grant you that), but the whole making note that yews indeed you are a single mother and yes, indeed you have a young child is a courtesy and a warning in the like - we are what we are right? You wouldn't give up your daughter for a man so she is an important thing to speak about in the first few ... I only practice what I preach, anyone on here who knows me knows that I have a beautiful little boy who is absolutely such a wonderful child I feel truly blessed - and any man who wouldn't want to be in my life because of him I would truly pity ...

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To Mend a Broken Heart On Valentine's Day... Posted: 2/12/2008 11:01:20 AM
lol - when I was single and without kids i used to invite ALL of my friends over to have an anti-Valentines day party myself ... it was actually pretty cool. Singles and couples alike came around during the day, I would have a bit of a buffet out (with all of the romantic foods and stuff cuz singles deserve to eat great food too, and later on in the eve everyone was invited back for whatever show I was holding (one year I did a wine/scotch testing, one year I did a poker tournament girls against guys, one year I did a lingerie/adult toy show (BEST turn out for $ ever - I swear!!) ... it was posh and whatever I happened to be into at the time, and after all the couples went home the rest of us would have a great time and play cards or watch a movie and yap all eve - it ended up being cheaper than going out to the Keg for two with all of the fixings, and ALL of us had a great time!! Anti-Valentines' doesn't have to be bad or bitter, show a great sense of humor about it because we all know it's just another way for the Stores to rake in the dough ... doesn't mean that we have to get down on ourselves for it :)

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Do you forewarn the next Victim ? Posted: 2/12/2008 10:54:29 AM
The answer is HELL YES!!! i would sit Lady B down (you can do a little investigating on your own to find this out) and present HARD EVIDENCE towards what you are saying to her. Just you and the other lady going in blazing a trail behind you 9I warn you) will not be sufficient so make sure you have ALL of your info right there for her - so she can deny it all she wants ... for the moment but you can't lie with hard evidence, right? The truth shall set you free my Luv. ... ps. If you don't pick and choose all of these things, you and she will just look like two jealous exes looking to seek revenge ... or at least that is what he will convince her of - you see where I am coming from? NEVER BE A DOOR MAT!!! and how else are we supposed to show the accused that his behavior is NOT appreciated? Walk away? I say eye for an eye - game on!!

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Jewelry from others Posted: 2/12/2008 9:58:17 AM
Hell ya it would bother me (first off) and secondly that little piece of jewelery should have been in the bonfire with the rest of the past relationship - TACKY!!! Don't accept it and if she tries forcing it on you (or tries to sluff it off as nothing), pawn it and when she asks why you aren't wearing it, tell them that you did what SHE should have done a LOOOOONG time ago!!! Icky!! feeling a lemony taste in my mouth

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Reading your partner's emails...how serious an offence? Posted: 2/12/2008 9:40:14 AM
I'd change my password and see how long it would take for her to ask you why ... and then nab her at the turn - not cool!! Without trust their is no love ...

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What do men find unattractive as far as behavior when dating? Posted: 2/12/2008 9:32:33 AM
TOTALLY agree with Loz Hunter ...

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Help !! Posted: 2/12/2008 9:27:05 AM
Some people are in for something real - others not so much ... takes all kinds to walk the earth (unfortunately, fortunately ... it is what it is) - just steer clear of people like that (though I have no idea where this would be coming from from you, because you look like you are a very beautiful person on the inside and out - with all due respect) you know what they are worth in the first place and be happy for the warning - lol!! That's what I do - MEAN PEOPLE SUCK!!!

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Hug or a Hand Shake? Posted: 2/12/2008 9:22:55 AM
SOOOOO hugs!!! A hand shake seems a little cold and unpersonal - like meeting for business ... I even hug my girl friends, don't be afraid to have a LITTEL body heat between the two of you - it could turn into something REALLY GOOD :) Good luck Fishie!!

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Men paying for the sitter ? Posted: 2/12/2008 9:07:18 AM
lol - not on the FIRST date!!!!! God no!!! You don't want to scare the guy away!!! If it has been a little time then maybe it would be a nice OFFER, but essentially if mama wants to get tail, mama better get a sitter on her own ... and let the guy take responsibility for the rubbers!!

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Worst Breakup Line you ever used or heard Posted: 2/12/2008 9:04:42 AM
Depending on how long it was you were dating - that could be a line ... but it sounds more like she was just being honest - there's no harm in that. i am sorry your feelings were hurt Bud.

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How do YOU handle rejection? Posted: 2/12/2008 9:02:49 AM
I wouldn't give it a second thought in the very least - I may even have a good laugh at how pathetic some people can be ... be a good girl pat pat and run along now is what I would have said to her - maybe she needed it dumbed-down a shade in order for her to understand through the hissy fit she was taking!!!!

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Real Meetings or Dates from Plenty of Fish Posted: 2/12/2008 8:51:25 AM
I agree with Rowdy ... give it some time - don't' let one bad apple ruin it for what could potentially be the adventure of a lifetime. Get back on it and try again if you were not pleased with the first ... although, what are you speaking of "little things to give leeway to"? Were they shallow things? How many leeways did she have to give for you? It takes two sometimes - not dissing you in any way - we are not all perfect and some of us have a hard time seeing our own true body images ... it's the person inside - though I do understand it going a little too far into it as well. Good luck fishie!! Keep on swimmin'!! You'll find your angelfish in here somewhere, I mean there are 30+ thousand people on here, there's gotta be one that could be the one for you on your own terms :)

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Msg: 39 (view)

A porn question from an old man Posted: 2/12/2008 8:42:53 AM
My opinion (point for point): 1) Because porn would suck if it were done in some run down shack, or if the mansions are a little too decadent, then try ametuer porn ... a little less over the top. Professional porn is meant to be set in that manner as it is fantasy - take a look at Hugh Hefner and I will tell you 9/10 times if you ask the name of a successful man (to a man), they will say one of three - Hughie, Donald Trump, or Bill Gates ... I have seen in the homes of two of the three and I see decadence written all over it!! THAT is what men equate as power - the success, the money, the women ... Mere fantasy my dear Watson, mere fantasy ... setting the stage. 2) Goes with the whole young and virile facade ... but I have NO idea how it is attractive after you have a child. I am 30 and I used to wear pig tails all the time (as I had a BF who had a fetish over stuff like that) ... then after having my son I sat down and thought about it and the pigtails were LONG gone ... goes with the whole virginal, prepubescent thing - icky IMO, but some guys still get off on it or the porn wouldn't sell in the first place - kicks an old boy back to his college years and private school girls with their pleated uniforms ... 3) The pedicure does well, unless the guy has a fetish for shoes. high heels (as high as the ones that you see in porn) are seen usually as ultra feminine and vampy to boot ... and the reson why they are that high is not for walking purposes if a girl is on her back ... more like feet stirrups for your ears :P 4) It's meant to make you feel like you are included in the scene - trying to get intimate with the viewer ... I know you feel like a voyeur, but it is meant that way. We are all voyeurs in one fashion or another - or you wouldn't be watching the porn in the first place, right? 5) lol - I refer to answer #2 ... but in addition: you haven't met many catholic school girls, have you? I USED to attend Private Schooling - I tell you of personal experience that we are a wild bunch - point blank :) 6) I don't think I have ever seen a girl do that in a porn ... but if you did, I'll believe you and the only answer that I can get of that is that she's doing it for the money and not the pleasure ... would you drink from the same cup as a perfect stranger for money? Some probably would for the right price (she's obviously got hers or she wouldn't be laying there belly up, down or WHATEVER ...). Would you particularly enjoy it? Not one of MY favorite thoughts ... 7) Have you see porn bloopers? That's why - it's not sex/making love that they are trying to get focus on, it is the essence - but I agree when you can see the actors mouths speaking to each other but all you hear specifically is ooos and aaaas, you'd better be trying another porn - ameteur is better if you want to get what is REALLY coming from them :) - just a piece of advice - bad work. 8) Because of the whole reason why guys like Fabio exist in the first place ... because it is SUPPOSED to exude the picture of sexual prowress, the long flowing mane, the lion-looking picture that comes of the hair and rippling muscles and (gag) everything alse - again the success pic ... but I am with you on that one - IMO it just looks like a dirty old man (no matter what the hell age they are), unkept (not so wild) and a turn off IMO ... but to each their own, right? Don't like? don't look. 9) See #6 - they are in it for the money ... I mean if you were a woman, would YOU like to get with any of those guys? Most of us don't find them attractive either - I wouldn't shed a drop myself. 10)The people that watch porn (90% anyway) aren't in it to see the sitcom in it ... they want to watch porn - I even find myself fast forwarding through the first five minutes of filming most times and I find the plots FUNNY!!! The manufacturer is simply giving the consumer what he/she wants - saves on filming time too ... or thought for that matter. I hope I gave a little insight? Personally, if you want a porn that YOU want to see? Have yourself and you hunny get it on on your own cam - guarenteed woody every time!! Good luck Man, it's a jungle out there!!! lol grrrrrr :)

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Msg: 95 (view)

Biggest mistake of my life... Posted: 2/12/2008 7:58:55 AM
How long ago did this happen (the disagreement between the two of you) - don't worry so much yet. Maybe she just needs a little time to calm down and put it into perspective. It's not easy talking about ones past (especially when it involves crime - unless it's indecent exposure, for some reason people get off on that shrug :)) ... if she feels the same way she won't be able to help but ask what the heck happened (in detail as you must know how us women LOVE details - lol ... sorry, trying to cheer you up) , but when it does happen (and it will - I have a good feeling about it) you will be better to explain these things to her. She may have issues with dating someone who has gone to jail (I do - my father is a Corrections Officer, and then the worst ended up happening to me on that one - I won't go on with it) and she doesn't want to say anything until she has a little time to mull it over, y'know? It will work out for the best, I assure you. Don't fib to her again - you saw what happened this time and this is small potatos ... and btw, did you ever say you hadn't? ... I know a lie of ommison is still a lie, but TELL her how uncomfortable you were speaking of the SUBJECT, not to her ABOUT the subject, and see where it leads you ... higher ground - your one get out of jail card free :) good luck Bud, I truly wish you to the best ... and tell your chickie to quit being so overemotional ... its not like you have kids with another woman and weren't telling her (it could get a whole lot worst than some piddly little thing in the PAST) ... with all due respect :)

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Msg: 92 (view)

At what age do we lower our standards on dating? Posted: 2/12/2008 7:47:01 AM
Who says we ever have to lower our standards? By obtaining men in our age bracket, it is not taking a step down, it's probably sometimes even taking a step up (with the rare pleasurable exception) ... get a makeover and shiny yourself up and get your grrrrrly on if you want a younger man (that choice is to be yours), but in the like, don't' dismiss an option because you USED to date 25 year olds, but ... Keep an open mind Hun. Anything could happen :) - trust me!!

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Msg: 46 (view)

Four's a Crowd? Posted: 2/12/2008 7:42:55 AM
lol - that's funny that you think of it that way because as far as me being IN the situation, it is all too real. I am FAR from abused (physically, and it is getting better emotionally as well) ... and get this, there's another child on the way to boot ... and the one we have is already spoiled as it is, so I don't see where we were going wrong, but with counsilling, we are doing a hell of a lot better ... because it was real. Cover up for what? From whom? Think about that instead of posting useless info - why the hell would I cover up something if I were posting it all over POF? Insulting intelligence at your age ... tsk tsk. If you can judge, so can I

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Msg: 27 (view)

Marriage vs Dating Posted: 2/12/2008 6:54:48 AM
Personally, I think your friend is right - unless (I know this might be a bias opinion but) there are kids involved, but even still, it is only an option, and nothing more. The concept of staying with one person all their life is highly common, but also unrealistically obtainable. If the couple loves each other, what does the little white piece of paper actually mean? Sure, it shows commitment to that one person that is legally binding, but after all what the heck do courts have to do with love? And we all make our mistakes to boot ... This coming from a 30 year old woman, I am either bitter and jaded or realistic, but it is the truth (and with Canadian Law the way it is these days, if you shack up with someone for six months and share bills and a bed, you are considered common-law, which means the very same thing without all of the pomp and circumstance, as well as the hefty bill of the party). Tell the woman that is in that couple if all she wants is the big poufy white dress, he'll go and get her one and that will be the end of it. Marriage is something that is supposed to be felt from the heart - not the pocketbook ... simply put :)

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Msg: 158 (view)

Female Bisexuality Posted: 2/11/2008 7:40:34 AM
sigh and we wonder why life is so damn shallow!!! (not directed at you per say, I am shaking my head at life in general) It's only TRENDY because it's hot (or so they say). If someone is going to INTIMATELY do something to their own body out of a TREND then they are the most stupid people i have ever encountered - keep them away from me, I eat them for breakfast!!!! It's okay to TRY SOMETHING ONCE if you feel that in your desires and fantasies that it is there, but I know all too many younger women who have no inclination to be bi or lesbian - and do it to turn the guys on ... that is more to the point. Not being trendy so much as disrespecting yourself, alluding a false face, and playing with fire (as it will be with you for the rest of your life gathered with some confusion as you get older as to how you could have been so stupid in the first place) ... spoken from a TRUE bisexual woman. If you can't play with the big girls - get the hell out of the sand box!!! I HATE THAT!!!! It's just a way to get hoidy-toidy little girls to get to be the center of attention because it turns the boys on ... makes me want to puke!!! It only takes ONE encounter to find out if this is the lifestyle for you - period. THAT is bi-curious ... and btw, it's usually done privately as the girl is UNSURE of it in the first place. If it is just two chicks rubbing, kissing and touching on each other (like in a bar with a bunch of guys all around) ... you know my answer on that one. Feels fake doesn't it? Attention seekers need all too much attrention - get real to em!! As far as guys are concerned, i know more than one gay guy and my straight ones don't even go there - so I think your thoughts on the guy thing is your best bet :) ... stay ture to yourself bud!

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Msg: 266 (view)

morning sex... Posted: 2/11/2008 7:24:03 AM
... not until I have had my first cup of coffee and brushed my teeth - THEN go in for the kill!!! lol

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Msg: 15 (view)

A personal reply to the Immature Men thread, time to hear from the guys? Posted: 2/10/2008 6:39:28 PM
I don't know who is more immature out of the sexes, but all I know is this - I have broken up with guys and I have broken up with one woman and all I can tell you is that I FEEL SOOOO BAD FOR YOU GUYS!!! WE can be petty and shallow and shoot to kill with our words ... I know it. I know it is immature, and I don't know what possesses us to do it but we do

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Msg: 43 (view)

I have a question about asking someone out Posted: 2/10/2008 6:24:41 PM
Go to her and be humble about it (I like #1 personally, but with a little more oomph), but be realistic. Say something along the lines of "Y'know, I don't know if you noticed me glancing at you from time to time, but with all due respect, I have to tell you this ... ". She'll be appriciate the honesty (and the no-cheesy liner too) and will see you are down to earth and flattering her - so it is a softer flirt (because we all know how a chick can bolt at stuff like that), and a decent way of doing it. If you came u p to me and did it, you'd probably have yourself a date IMO ... good luck!! I'm rooting for you!! Go get er!!

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