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 Author Thread: Man withdrawling to ejaculate on you.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Man withdrawling to ejaculate on you.
Posted: 1/15/2011 5:33:19 PM
Absolutely, its the best fun.

Not to mention it feels fantastic, like hot ribbons all over you

Like everything, its a change from the usual, spices things up, good for a giggle, and just plain old HOT ...
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Low male libido due to medication??
Posted: 12/15/2010 3:21:42 AM
Medications cause all sorts of side effects. However if a person doesnt like the side effects of a particular brand of med, they simply need to go to the doctor and try a different brand.

Sometimes people have to try 4 - 5 different medications before they find the one that suits them. A side effect on one brand/type, may not happen on another brand/type.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Why do women do this to me ?
Posted: 11/30/2010 2:28:28 PM
I will never get my head around people who have sex with someone they dont know, and then behave like they've been tortured emotionally and will never recover from the shock that this 'stranger' didnt love/like/respect them in the morning...
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 82 (view)
 
A weekend romp with her half-sister! TO tell or NOT to tell?
Posted: 11/16/2010 2:03:22 PM
So your mate had sex with some random woman who later turns out to be related to his current girlfriend. Its in the past, most people dont walk down the street with their latest lover and point out all the people they've ever slept with.

Would this random half sister twice removed even remember onenighter him? She may not. Possibly if they ever meet, she will be sitting there 'uncomfortably' with her family and hubby, Im sure that it was as meaningless for her, as it was for him.

Would I have told the girlfriend, YES at the time she mentioned it. Thats the bottom line, he would have done better to say something at the time. He didnt. If he tells his girlfriend what are the ramifications? Likely she will never feel comfortable should she ever meet her sister again. Likely she will never feel comfortable if he should ever meet her sister again. But he will feel comfortable because he's confessed to something in the long paths of his past that has no bearing on his present or his future.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
I Love You... Inside Me!
Posted: 11/16/2010 2:34:19 AM
I love chocolate.....
in my mouth....


she was being flirty, thats all, I dont think daddy has the shotgun out.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
should i give him the benefit of the doubt and explain why i cut all ties???
Posted: 11/9/2010 2:32:50 PM
You made your decision, you cut him off. Walk away and dont look back
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
how do you feel about your age.
Posted: 11/9/2010 2:31:29 PM
I dress in whatever I feel comfortable in at the time, whether its jeans and a T, or shorts, skirts, dresses.

I dont really have a style. I refuse to wear those ugly elastic waisted pants, that so many women my age seem to gravitate to her in Aus ... yuck
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Heading off resentments
Posted: 11/6/2010 7:43:01 PM
OP you made it clear in your introduction that this man, has not changed, he is the same man you fell in love with, with the same qualities, the same habits.

Having said that, the people we meet are not OUR works in progress, he is not your work in progress, he doesnt have to change, nor should he. He in fact displays the same qualities YOU fell in love with.

YOU are the person who has changed, because we are all our own works in progress. Now you simply have some choices, to stop obsessing over something that isnt there, to stop expecting people to change who they are and accept that they wont because all change comes from within the individual, to go back to appreciating and valuing this man for what he offers you in the way of love, support and acceptance, and if you cant do those things, to accept that YOU need to move on before you pick, fight and become bitter towards someone for no real reason.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 49 (view)
 
don't know if I should stop talking to him because all he wants is sex
Posted: 11/4/2010 9:37:09 PM
Im still trying to get my head around the concept that someone is 'used for sex'. Sorry but they are a willing participant (because the alternative involves the cops).

Im still trying to get my head around women (and men) who consider themselves old enough and emotionally prepared enough to be physically intimate with another person, but are incapable of asking for or saying what they require.

Im still trying to get my head around people who jump into bed with someone they barely know or even care about, and then p*ss and moan that the person treats them like... OH someone they barely know or care about.

I mean just cause ya dropped yer panties or trousers, does not mean you have a relationship, or that the other person even remotely likes/appreciates/loves you. It just means you had sex.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 39 (view)
 
How to handle Games
Posted: 10/19/2010 4:23:00 PM
The only person playing the game is you OP. She has set up the rules, and the playing field, but the only willing participant is yourself. If you stop playing, there is no game.

I understand that you want to see your kiddies, but by sitting them when she goes out, you are enabling her to behave badly towards you and the children. Your children are exposed to her bad behaviour. You said yourself that you sit them, she returned home, you left, and then her shag for the evening arrived.... your children were there!!!

If she wants to go out and pick up, then have the kiddies at your house, that way you can return them after the latest Romeo has left.

Stop holding her hand, stop holding out hope, stop letting her mistreat your children and yourself. By doing so one of two things will happen, she will start to treat everyone a little bit better, or she will just continue on her merry way. Sort out your visitation so that your children have some routine, and stop looking back over your shoulder at 'her'. You have a future ... look towards that, and focus on your family.. thats you and the children, and the pets thrown in if you want them.... she is NOT part of that.

Good luck and I hope that you start to feel more in control and less of a pawn soon.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
my best friend.....
Posted: 10/3/2010 3:49:50 PM
You need to realise that your manfriend may complain about the issue, but he is still there, which basically means that he is getting something positive from the experience.

He's enjoying the attention of this person, and whether he admits it or not, likely enjoying the control. The bottom line is, he has chosen to indulge this woman and her petty jealous behaviour.

By all means keep in touch with him, but sadly it may turn out that he will continue this relationship at the expense of your friendship.

Hopefully he will come to his senses and realise that this person is systematically cutting him off from all his friends and outside relationships, sadly he may not realise this. In the end all you can be is a friend, stay out of it, and let him choose his own path. You must be feeling miserable that you cant have the contact you need from you friend and I hope that it will work out soon

 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Overanalysing? Give this guy a chance or move on?
Posted: 8/6/2010 8:58:20 PM
OP if your gut is telling you that something is wrong.. then something IS wrong.

I've met quiet a number of fellas from here and other places, we ALWAYS meet for coffee somewhere central, and do that for quiet a few dates before I would consider handing out my address.

To be honest, the repeated insistance to come to my home, and the 'scaredy cat' comment would have been enough for me to politely say, I dont think that we have enough in common, I've changed my mind about meeting.

Good luck with your future search
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
How many people do you KNOW that have or have had an STD...?
Posted: 8/4/2010 11:57:05 PM
OooKay...

there was the g/friend who had an affair got herpes and gave it to her hubbie (2)

there was the guy who had herpes caught it from his wife, gave it to his new wife (3)

couple long term, split for a week or two, got back together, someone gave someone
claymidia (2)

Crabs friend gave it to his partner, who gave it to her other partner (3)

Mulloscum contagiousum (spell?) - the boyfriend gave it to the girlfriend, he had it on his hands, she got it all around her vj (1)

makes a grand total of ......................................11 cases.....

OH YEAH It makes me very careful.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Why do short men try and date women way to tall for them?
Posted: 8/3/2010 7:14:22 PM
Why do short men try to date women way to tall for them???



Because we women have been saying for years that size doesnt matter
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
coldsores
Posted: 8/3/2010 1:25:33 AM
Heres what I know... a friend got a strange sore on the cheek of her butt. She went to the doctor, he took a swab sent it away for testing. It was a cold sore (not genital herpes)

As someone who gets coldsores, I stay away from an SO if I have an outbreak. I've only ever seen coldsores on peoples lips, but I get mine on my chin .. you can get them anywhere.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Time to call it quits?
Posted: 7/28/2010 4:50:50 AM
OP I wish you every wonderful thing for the future.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Time to call it quits?
Posted: 7/27/2010 9:12:04 PM
Im really sorry, but my personal experience is that she is getting back with her husband. They are trying to sort it out, she just hasnt grown enough backbone to tell you.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Jazz Night - Thursday 1st July 2010 from 7pm
Posted: 6/29/2010 4:16:18 PM
thanks for the invite... Im off to see if I can get some babysitting at short notice
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
selfish GF or am I reading into this too much?
Posted: 6/28/2010 1:27:21 AM
maybe she had bought 2 beers ..... already drunk your beer, and was starting on her beer
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
reverse cowgirl? how the hell to do it?
Posted: 6/20/2010 12:31:25 AM
I start from the usual woman on top position and just do a 180 degree turn while he's in me
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Dating Separated Men
Posted: 6/12/2010 7:46:29 PM
I've dated 2 separated men, and I will N E V E R date another. I dont care how great the guy is.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
how many is to many?
Posted: 5/13/2010 2:43:12 AM
is 50 the bad number???

Why??

if someone is say 50 years old has been shagging since they were 16 ... 34 years of shagging.. does 50 partners seem such a high number now?? NO.

Who cares anyway, it really doesnt matter.

I think anyone who asks something like that is an utter tosser, with issues.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 204 (view)
 
Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 5/12/2010 7:12:08 PM
Who Does All The Work In Bed?

well the 'workload' should be shared by all rights.

I will confess that when yer ankles are wrapped around the back of his neck it is kinda difficult to jump up and down...

If your doing all the work, then change positions ya dofus...
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Am I a prude?
Posted: 5/9/2010 3:49:29 PM
there are alot of ways to look at this.

I'd be put off if my man wanted me to fantise about a woman while we were having sex. It certainly wouldnt do anything for me.

Having said that, if I loved him, I'd accept that part of his character, just as I'd expect him to accept the part of me that finds it off putting. Then I'd try to find a point of compromise.

If it was a once every six month thing, would it be so bad? That would be a compromise, you pull out your best porn star impersonation once in while. But if its something he wants ALL the time, then its just not gonna work. In the end you'd just stop wanting to have sex with him.

OH and I dont think Im a prude, so I certainly dont believe that you are.

I hope that you guys can work it out and find a middle ground.

 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Finding a girl with the same sex drive?
Posted: 5/6/2010 10:58:43 PM
Just say .... 'I have a high sex drive'


Its not that difficult.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Would you date someone who is not as emotionally strong as you?
Posted: 5/4/2010 9:25:56 PM
I'll be honest, I dont mind helping a person, but I have issues when they wont help themselves.

I think for me it depends on how they manifest the problem. By that I mean if they sit around moaning, I have very little tolerance. If someone is trying to get out there and change things, but needs support, well I'll be there and happy to help, for how ever long it takes.

I hope that makes sense.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Having sex while asleep?
Posted: 4/22/2010 5:53:27 PM
My ex used to grab my hand in his sleep and put it on his erection.... me being the opportunist.... well, I'd just jump on so he was the one waking up and finding himself being ravaged. My excuse was that he had initiated it...

Go for it
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
The one thing I hate about porn..
Posted: 4/22/2010 5:50:07 PM
Its the fake orgasms that bore me to tears ..... and the stupid looks they give to the camera..
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 42 (view)
 
What are some signs of a potential stalker?
Posted: 4/22/2010 5:45:34 PM
OP being cautious when dating is a good thing. Honestly no matter how much you've emailed, in the end none of us really knows that person we are about to meet.

What I've learnt is that if a person comes across as invasive or controlling in their emails, they are going to be invasive and controlling in real life.

I had a first meet, a simple walk around a very public park. The person in question started asking me all sorts of very personal questions, which I simply said I didnt want to discuss at that time. He was annoyed. He then went on to ask about people we knew mutually from a forum, I suggested that he should ask those people his questions. Honestly I was beginning to feel pushed into a corner, he became livid, and stormed off, leaving me in the park.

Since then, he follows me around that particular forum making disparaging remarks, and anyone who comes to my defence gets a mouthful too. Im so glad he doesnt have my address or home number.... just be cautious thats all Im saying.

Oh and Good Luck and I hope that he is a great guy.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Can sexual experience be seen as a red flag?
Posted: 4/18/2010 8:53:34 PM
I think that good lovers are made, not born. It takes time to get to know each other, to learn what the other person enjoys, to read the signals.

It also takes open mindedness and willingness to learn, to become a great lover for the person you are with.

JMO
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Ever misplaced THE RING
Posted: 4/15/2010 7:07:51 PM
Mines still in a jewellery box, waiting for the day when Im really broke and have to pawn it. It may aswell be useful for something.

His was thrown into the ocean at Bondi, pretty much what he did to the marriage... threw it away as well.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
meds and having an orgasm
Posted: 4/6/2010 7:33:24 PM
Yes, some medications can affect the ability to orgasm. I had the same issue during some treatment I was having.

I guess that you can try NO vibrator for a week or two, and see if that helps to get you over the edge. Alternatively its using the vibrator during sex.

I hope that you are able to find a comfortable medium and best wishes with your health issues
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Is she getting too comfortable?
Posted: 3/29/2010 2:52:53 PM
No relationship exists in a bed of sweet smelling roses. Life has ups and downs, and so do peoples moods.

From your post its apparent that this is not 'normal' behaviour for her and as such its good that you let it slide. If she does it again, of course, you would say something.

You dont need to start an argument, you just need to assert yourself, and make it clear that you will not be spoken to in that manner.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Can having a bigot mother hurt your dating/social life?
Posted: 3/28/2010 11:03:23 PM
Yes, having a biggotted mother can hurt your dating life.

I choose not to introduce anyone I date to my parents, and only the very shortest and most rarest of occassions will a date ever have contact with anyone else in my family. I see no reason to inflict my family on anyone.

You can choose your friends, you cant choose your family.

I know in my world, never meeting a member of someones family is a good thing.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
what do you do when your special other wants it ROUGH
Posted: 3/26/2010 3:10:12 PM
OP, you need to negotiate this. Its not your 'thing' to be roughed up, and in effect that makes her actions abusive towards you. You MUST communicate this to her, how you choose to do that is up to you. If she really is as into being roughed up as you say, then a suitable punishment would be to refuse to touch her.

The advise on becoming familiar with the BSDM scene is very valid. Do read the books suggested. All these 'things' are negotiated between couples, not assumed EVER. Perhaps get on line and consider visiting some forums devoted to this, Fetlife comes to mind. Knowledge is power, and by looking at these things together it opens up the lines of communication and then negotiation. Look up the Deviants Dictionary online.

BBs advise on how to interact with her skin is sooooooo true. Remember that you dont have to do these things all the time, instead look on it like you are giving her a treat.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Are we doomed?
Posted: 3/26/2010 2:47:59 PM
Position, position, position.... yep you need to get on top, and have some good grinding fun any position where you can get your clit up against his pelvic bone during intercourse will ... get you off like a cracker. Try on your side with one leg on his shoulder and your clit up against the top of his leg.. thats another. Use your imagination.

I agree to cut back on vibe time too. It does tend to make one a bit less sensitive.

OP you do have to communicate. Before during and after. This doesnt mean that you need to be clinical.. rather..... tell him ... What you LOVED ... be over the top during... a few good ole Oh YES.. YES.. OH Baby.. Dont Stop's generally keep fellas interested for longer.

In the end .. nothing excites a man more that a woman who is 'earthy' enough to play with her own clit. There is nothing to stop you helping yourself over the edge while you are making love.

Good luck and I hope it all works out for you
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Oral Sex Disgusts Me
Posted: 3/23/2010 2:59:22 PM
If you dont like doing something then you honestly dont like doing it.

Sometimes it comes down to the person you are with and how into them you are.

I know that I would not like to receive oral sex from someone who felt it was a repulsive.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
 
She Doesn't Like My Kids
Posted: 3/18/2010 10:01:39 PM
I never ask her to watch my kids for me and she certainly never offers


I'm sure that when my boys aren't in my sight they try to get away with being unruley. But when She treats them like she does can you blame them. Wonder how she treats them when I'm not around?


OP Im gonna call you on this... in your original post this lady NEVER OFFERS to watch your kids, and nor do you ask her to watch them.

Now its an unfounded insinuation that she somehow treats them badly. Not to mention and implication that they are mistreated by her when you arent around.

You are FULL OF IT !!!! You cant have it both ways... she either watches your children or she doesnt. Clearly your just saying what ever comes to mind in an effort to make her look bad, and lets remember this lady doesnt have the right of reply. She doesnt know that you are bad mouthing her on an internet dating site.

You say that you told her to whip your kids a$$, when you are called on that, you back peddle and say that you were joking.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
 
She Doesn't Like My Kids
Posted: 3/18/2010 9:50:59 PM

If that isn't correct; the kid was showing signs of illness BEFORE heading on over to the GFs, that's different, I agree with the attack on the OP.


Bikeman, the OP writes that his little fella got sick in the car, so he drove back home to his house, cleaned the little guy up, and then put him back in the car and restarted the 25 minute trip.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
 
She Doesn't Like My Kids
Posted: 3/18/2010 7:04:35 PM

You would think that She would know how to handle them


OP now I understand. It is incredibly difficult to be a single parent, and yes we do have a right to a life.

I dont mix dating and my child. The times that I spend with my SO are child free! yep I get family or friends to babysit. I dont expect or actually want my SO to interact with my child at all. If that means that sometimes we can only get a few hours together each week... guess what? I make do, and so do they.

You said that the two of you have agreed NOT to get married, that makes you dating, and not wanting a committed relationship with each other (just my take). As such she should NOT be having any influence on your children. She should not be anything other than your 'friend' to them. And likewise you to hers.

Why should she know how to handle your kids? I would NEVER consider whopping the a$$ of my child, so it will never be an option with anyone elses. If YOUR children require discipline ... then YOU should discipline them, not anyone else, not EVER. They are your children, they are your responsibility.

I agree with the other mums here, that bringing a sick child over is taboo. I also agree with your sentimates ... she definitely should have said something long before you left your house. I question the choice to drive a sick child 25minutes so they can visit when they are clearly unwell, just as I question her, in relation to knowing its an hour long round trip and letting you take it. Its true we women cancel all the time when our kiddies are ill ... and we women appreciate the people who DO cancel when their kiddies are unwell. She was rude and inconsiderate to you and your sick child, and you were inconsiderate and rude to her, her family, and your child. JMO. (kinda makes you both even)

I do wonder why this has all suddenly blown up? or perhaps this is the straw breaking the camels back. You can agree to disagree on parenting. But in saying that ... you need to respect that she clearly is not comfortable disciplining your children, and you need to step up to plate when your families are together, and your children in her care.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Do you find it more pleasurable when your man takes control?
Posted: 3/18/2010 3:56:02 PM
Oh My Gawd YES YES YES

there is nothing so sexy as a man who knows what he wants, knows how to demand it, is adventorous, and not afraid to get wild.

Add a little bit of experimentation from both sides ... and
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Tell me what you think...
Posted: 3/18/2010 3:47:26 PM
I'll be honest OP when I read the story, I thought you were both in your 20s.. I see that your 53.

I wonder, if she accidently double booked herself on those occasions? I do things like that all the time, I've learnt not to give a definite answer to anyone until I've checked my diary.

Life happens ... if she's a social butterfly I can understand why she'd want to go out with the girls versus a dinner in a resturant, or sitting around with people she doesnt know (but thats just me). All too often when we dont communicate our expectations, the other person ends up disappointing us due to the fact that they werent in the loop. If she was unaware that you were placing tremendous importance on both these outings, how would she know that she was going to cause you angst? Did she know??

5 months is nothing .. thats still the getting to know you stage (JMO), but if you dont tell her what you expect, and you dont gently tell her how sad/disappointed changing plans has made you ... then its never going to work, because people cant read minds.

I also note that although you are in a committed relationship, you are listed as single and looking for longterm?? Perhaps you arent altogether into this relationship either??
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Does it get easier, and how to make it easier
Posted: 3/18/2010 3:30:42 PM
OP, you're very vague with details. You mentioned that she wanted to be independent... does that mean you were living together and she moved out?? if thats the case, then its over... I mean really over.

You say that you both still talk... are you the one who contacts with her?? if you are the initiator of contact and not her ... then its over.

She's removed you from her 'circle' says she needs space, that means its over. She's moved on and started to date, that means its over.

The one thing everyone here has in common is we've all loved and lost. I know that I wont date a guy who is still carrying baggage from his last relationship. As someones date, I dont want to hear about your 'ex', and Im pretty sure that all your future dates dont want to hear about her either.

Sort your feelings out, do an experiment, DONT CALL HER, and see if she calls you. See if its you keeping these feelings alive within yourself. Give yourself time to grieve, focus on all the good shared experiences and then move on and start dating again.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
tired of the on-again off-again carousel
Posted: 3/17/2010 3:24:32 AM
OP I've thought about this and thought about it....

Heres a story ... our daughter was 4 yo

Early in the demise of my marriage we went to counselling.. ages later we wound up there again, it was the last ditch effort to save our marriage.

The counsellor said something to my ex hubby.. he said.. look at her... last time I saw her there was fire in her eyes and she was fighting.. this time she is tired and she has nothing left to give... Leave now, while she is still talking to you.

Go and see a counsellor, let them see your eyes and her eyes... is there fire, or are you both just tired???
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
tired of the on-again off-again carousel
Posted: 3/16/2010 9:40:16 PM
Welcome to the divorce rollercoaster....

If you want a divorce, get a divorce. If she wants a divorce... then get a divorce. Trust me there rarely is amicable.

Rest assured, until you are divorced, or at least out of the marital home, very few women will run the risk of dating you.

Sorry that your facing this
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
ex pain
Posted: 3/15/2010 2:16:28 PM
Communication is a two way street. The only way that she CAN communicate is if you reply.

Stop replying.... its that easy.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 35 (view)
 
she can't outrun her past
Posted: 3/13/2010 12:47:11 PM
OP in your first post you mentioned that your lady friend had been left feeling 'very used' from past relationships.

So her response is to now do the old 'on again, off again' with you. Have a nice lunch, but needs her space .... you'll be there for her when she needs you...

Can you see a common thread here? Can you see that in 6 - 12 months times YOU are the one who will be feeling USED. You will feel that you've been taken advantage of, played, made a convenience of?

Step back, step away, turn around, and give this lady ALL the space she needs. She has asked for space, RESPECT that, and walk away. Keep walking until you meet a lovely, kind, caring, together lady, who doesnt blame everyone else for her problems, and then stop and date her.

Your not anyones therapist, your not a knight in shining armour, your not her saviour, your a man with genuine thoughts and feelings, that should be treated with love, kindness and respect. JMO
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
COMMITTMENT ISSUES COMES TO MIND
Posted: 3/13/2010 12:37:27 PM
I think that this has happened to most of us at some stage or other regardless of gender.

In my mind what is really happening is this.

Its not that the other person isnt interested in a relationship, because they are. Its that the other person has decided that 'we' dont fit their relationship checklist. Dont get me wrong, they like us, we're fun blah blah....but at that point and time,we're just not the 'one'.

So we get the stock standard excuse.... Im not interested in a relationship ... (with you) ...

JMO
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Showing initial interest and its effect on relationships
Posted: 3/11/2010 6:17:17 PM
Interesting idea .... have had a little think back on my past long term relationship endevours.

Now .. I am single .. so all my past relationships (both long and short term) have been doomed to failure so I dont know that Im the best qualified to answer.

I got married to a man who I let persue me


I had the most loving, fulfilling relationship with a man I showed genuine interest in from the moment we met.

I guess the quality of the relationship was better with the man I persued.
 shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
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Am I wrong?
Posted: 3/11/2010 2:58:11 AM
If you are sexually incompatible, then you are sexually incompatible.

Clearly you arent happy, so just move on with grace.
 
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