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HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

Msg: 19 (view)

Military wife...Is she single? Posted: 12/3/2005 11:59:57 PM
Shame - Shame - Shame! A military wife is as single as she wants to be. She can be self-centered, loose as a goose, and bring absolute humiliation to her service man OR she can be proud of her accomplishments and know that she can take care of business while he is away. I may be reading into this - but - I think you are just looking for a little comfort from a man that can be around while the "real man" is defending your freedom. I hope that you don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself...marriage is a choice.

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Fun One Liners Posted: 8/6/2005 7:58:34 AM
I refuse to have a battle of wits with an unarmed person. Fight Crime: Shoot Back!

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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funny one liners Posted: 8/1/2005 7:37:30 PM
Constipated people don't give a crap! How many roads must a man travel down before he admits he is lost? I have the body of a God - Buddha.

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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My Son, the Military, and Combat Duty Posted: 8/1/2005 7:25:24 PM
Thanks all...I am reading these replies. I am very proud of my son and I do support his decision. I know he is a grown man (25). I also cry whenever I try to talk about it, I cry when I watch the evening news, and I cry when I hear of another death in Iraq. Thanks again...

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Older Women/Younger Men - How Stella Lost Her Groove Posted: 8/1/2005 9:25:30 AM
oh yuk! I second that!

HavinFunRU

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Say AA and watch them run Posted: 7/31/2005 11:29:27 PM
@blastkist It is o.k. for a person to break their own anonymity...it is not o.k. for someone else to break it for them. and as far as the traditions go..... Eleven. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio and films. Tradition eleven is talking about "Our Public Relations Policy" not individual anonymity. So..nobody screwed up. Just couldn't stay out of it....

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Older Women/Younger Men - How Stella Lost Her Groove Posted: 7/31/2005 10:51:44 PM
o.k. whats a MILF?

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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My Son, the Military, and Combat Duty Posted: 7/31/2005 10:46:18 PM
I served 11 years in the Air Force (1977-1988) all of which was peace time. My exhusband retired from the Air Force after 20 years. We have a son. He also chose to enlist in the Air Force. He has spent 6 months in Afghanistan and 6 months in Kuwait and 6 months in Baghdad, Iraq. He has now "volunteered" for another tour in Iraq. I truly don't understand this. He is a SSgt with 6 years service, is married and has two beautiful daughters. I am very proud of him and his committment to this country. I guess what I can't understand is why place himself in harms way when he has already served his time? I would like to hear from other veterans on this topic and maybe you can help me understand why he is doing this. Please, serious replies only. I am hurting enough and I don't need to hear about whether the war is right or wrong. Is this some sort of survivor guilt?

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Can women really go without sex???? Posted: 7/31/2005 10:18:38 PM
@ exoticblueeyes26...right on! You named three very good reasons It could be a hormone thing it could have to do with a medication she takes that she has had a traumatic sexual experience in her past that you don't know about There are a lot of reasons women go without sex and I think these three cover a lot. Personally, all three apply to me. The man I am with has had sex maybe 6 times in the last year, yet he is very understanding and comfortable with this. If a woman is with a man because of love, it works. You can not press the issue and think that things will get better. OT: If you are not happy with the situation then its time to move on. You can only change yourself....not others.

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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funny one liners Posted: 7/31/2005 9:37:31 PM
AND I almost forgot this one.... If we quit voting, will they all go away?

HavinFunRU

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funny one liners Posted: 7/31/2005 9:35:15 PM
Politicians and diapers........both need to be changed and for the same reason!

HavinFunRU

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For the married people on this site... Posted: 7/31/2005 9:27:26 PM
All I can say is....... they are being honest.

HavinFunRU

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posting photos Posted: 7/31/2005 9:21:08 PM
Hey Don...sign on and go to your profile. (Not on edit your profile). Look right above it and you will see "my profile", "edit my profile" "IMAGES". Click on that and follow the instructions...

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Whats'up with all that Ex talk? Posted: 7/31/2005 8:45:15 PM
I am of the belief...don't ask...don't tell. If for some reason I feel the need to talk about an ex, it is usually short, sweet and simple. I surely don't dwell...that's why they are my ex. Same goes for my partner...I don't ask because I may not like what I hear. Keep the past in the past! OT: If he/she continues to talk about the ex....its time to be the next ex...if ya know what I mean...

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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older guys younger women Posted: 7/31/2005 8:36:08 PM
I love older men. I am 46 and he is 57 and we love it. But...when I was 18, I married a man that was 38. Not only did I disappoint my entire family, I divorced him after 6 months. It had to do with something like....."you need to settle down and have children"....eeks! I ran as fast as I could! OT: Who cares? As long as she is of legal age and you are comfortable with it.....why not? I agree with others - you only live once and you will never know unless you try.

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Older Women/Younger Men - How Stella Lost Her Groove Posted: 7/31/2005 8:23:31 PM
I have been approached by men who are younger than me. I find it flattering, but that's it. Nothing more - nothing less. I can brag to my girlfriends but I never could take it seriously. I am 46 and my son is 25.....I could not date anyone that I would have to "mother". They need to get out there and have a life with someone their own age.

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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NO GIFT ( for the Women) Posted: 7/31/2005 8:04:39 PM
Oh Aynie61...I'm sorry and I hope you had a wonderful birthday inspite of his forgetfulness. I have been with the same man for two years. He came from a family that does not celebrate things...i.e. birthdays, Christmas, Easter. I think it had more to do with growing up in poverty or just above poverty. I know in my heart he loves me or he would not be with me. These days of celebration are just "another day" for him. I tend to tell him "Its my Birthday" or "It's Christmas and we are going to dinner." He is catching on. Last birthday he gave me a hand made card and a pair of beaded earrings. That meant more to me than anything! Not to minimize your pain because I am sure it is great, but maybe there is a reason behind it.

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Does Misery love company? Posted: 7/23/2005 2:11:18 PM
If misery loves company then why are all the miserable people always alone??? I can be empathetic...but I refuse to dole out sympathy. If someone is miserable they must be willing to let go and get on with it. If not...your question is answered. Negativity breads negativity. I don't know too many people who want to stick around and watch miserable people be miserable....

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Do you equate sex and love as the same thing? Posted: 7/23/2005 2:04:36 PM
When I was young, if I had sex with a man...he was all mine! Somewhere in the growing up years my attitude changed. I would not have sex with anyone that I did not love first. The man that I love today really gets very little.......but he is o.k. with that because we share so much more than sex.

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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What's wrong with him ? Posted: 7/23/2005 1:55:34 PM
Ever think maybe its YOU! You start a lot of new threads to talk about your boyfriend. If there is that much wrong, i.e., he's black, doesn't do oral, has nightmares, won't stand up for himself, maybe you need to find a new boyfriend. Just a thought.

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Fun One Liners Posted: 7/20/2005 11:02:41 AM
Don't stop to think.....you may forget to start.

HavinFunRU

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Did I Make A Mistake ? Posted: 7/20/2005 10:41:40 AM
I don't NEED his help to finish a fight! Trust me on that ! What a woman! How lady like! I'm not violent. What do you call that? You definitely have some issues. I don't think that your boyfriend needed your help......and you probably embarrassed him by your actions. A real man can walk away from such an incident and an immature little girl can't stand it. Grow up honey.....life's not that rough!

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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What does NO BAGGAGE mean? Posted: 7/20/2005 10:13:18 AM
We are all products of our environment. If someone says they don't have baggage, I raise an eyebrow and move on. (Denial at it's finest.) We all have baggage. Baggage is life's experiences! It's what we do with it that makes the difference.

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Whats the feeling on older men and younger women? Posted: 7/20/2005 9:58:14 AM
My opinion on this is it depends on the two involved. Personally, I am 46 and he is 57. We get along great, but I am assuming we are older than what the thread is asking. At 18 I married a man that was 38. That marriage lasted 6 months.....had something to do with settling down and havin kids....OMG...at 18? Obviously, it didn't work for me. tata for now....

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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can you trust some one once they cheat? Posted: 7/15/2005 12:09:02 PM
Well..I looked back and my reply was gone. Geeze.....after "trying" to read this one....I can see why. You make no sense at all. You obviously did not "do the homework." Oh..that was @sparrow.

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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can you trust some one once they cheat? Posted: 7/15/2005 12:03:07 PM
people are insane. It helps to remember that. Thank-you. Finally the truth has been spoken.

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Passing gas during Oral...ever happen and how did you handle it? Posted: 7/15/2005 11:12:03 AM
ROFLMAO.............. Can't help myself..Oh God, I'm gonna wet my pants......stop it! Don't make me laugh anymore.....

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Fun One Liners Posted: 7/15/2005 9:59:36 AM
Almost forgot these... "Signs to hang in the house" I clean house every other day.....today is the other day. If you write in the dust.....PLEASE don't date it. My house was clean last week. (too bad you missed it)

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Fun One Liners Posted: 7/15/2005 9:56:53 AM
If we are what we eat............then I am easy, fast and cheap!

HavinFunRU

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How do you define a dysfunctional relationship. Posted: 7/15/2005 9:25:35 AM
Oh and by the way....When my Dad passed away he had 24 years of sobriety!

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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How do you define a dysfunctional relationship. Posted: 7/15/2005 9:21:22 AM
Wow..good thread. I was also raised in an alcoholic, mentally, physically and spirtually abusive family. My father drank to the extreme, my mother stood by and watched. I was the famous "scapegoat." How do I explain that term? Well, when something was wrong in the house, it was my fault. (Its actually how they turn it around - manipulation) Eventhough the problem stemmed from the drinking, if they could point the finger at me, then they took the blame off them. A good example would be that Dad got drunk last night and made a total fool of himself. They come home and he is drunk and Mom is embarrassed. These feeling are still around in the morning. I bring home my report card and I get a "C" in math. They forget about Dad's drunkeness the night before and ride me about the "C". "You are so stupid, your sister would never get a "C" and so on....they have turned the table. The anger is actually stemming from the drinking but has been used against the "bad" grade. Hence, the name scapegoat. We will not look at what the real problem is if we can blame someone else. Then the thought is...well if a "C" makes me stupid, I'm not even going to try. The dysfunction is now apart of my life. I'm just not gonna try..... This is only an example. Now I'm on my own. I have developed the theory, that I'm not good enough so I'm just not gonna try. I go on and marry men that are like my father except now I am the enabler and I'm scapegoating one of my own children. Its perpetual. Generation after generation. This stuff is not on a conscious level and most of it is ingrained so deeply that it takes a "trained professional" to discover it and a willing "client" to work on it. Just being aware of the dsyfunction does not make it go away. Blaming the one's around you, only allows you to continue the behavior. (Such as jumping from one relationship to another.) The old adage: Whever I go...there I am. No one is perfect and we all have baggage. Geeze...I hope I've made sense. I know....I know....I'm just not good enough! I just don't explain myself well. (And so it goes) Work on you....not them!

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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When you spent a good number of years in an unhealthy relationship...Do u ever recover 100%? Posted: 7/15/2005 8:06:41 AM
@fishbill....right on target. When an unhealthy relationship ends...new ones usually start. We take the same behaviors to a new relationship hoping that we have learned our lesson in the last...but they will slowly creep in. It is easy to blame the other partner for the mess, but it takes two to tango. If you are looking for a healthy relationship, take fishbills advice. Get some professional counseling and find yourself first. Join a free self-help group which are usually spiritually based, NOT religious, and go from there. Every relationship has some form of dsyfunction. Some people can see it for what it is. Once it's discovered you can talk it out, make changes and adapt. Happy fishing!

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Is Ethnicity a major factor... Posted: 7/13/2005 10:26:42 PM
OMG....some people kill me. I am Irish, English, Native American, German and Polish and my children are half Mexican American, Irish, English, Native American, German and Polish. Ash-gosh-by-Josh, Whats the world come too.....Do I have to pick one? You love the person not the race or their ethnic background. I'm not even sure what "ethnic background" I'm supposed to choose from. Maybe I will go to drink green beer, attend a Pow Wow and then on to Octoberfest.... Who cares who you date anyway?

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Does anyone call it a Boner anymore Posted: 7/13/2005 9:12:40 PM
O.K. Now I'm embarrassed.......... I call it............................... BIG DADDY! ::::blushing:::::::

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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What makes a good lover? Posted: 7/13/2005 8:44:19 PM
Time! I have to know him and he has to know me. Wants and needs.

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Are vaginas all similar looking? Posted: 7/13/2005 8:35:03 PM
MaryMichelle....in all seriousness, take off the restrictions on your profile so some of the women can email you with advice. You don't have to go around posting these kind of threads. Just a suggestion.

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Why is it so hard to find the one? Posted: 7/13/2005 8:24:35 PM
Sorry guys...I'll leave it alone...

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Why is it so hard to find the one? Posted: 7/13/2005 8:22:52 PM
@fishbill....definitely the wrong thing to say to this chick. Haven't you read the other threads....have fun.

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Are vaginas all similar looking? Posted: 7/13/2005 8:19:24 PM
Ya know...I'm beginning to think this gal was raised in a shoe box.....It's gotta get better as the night goes on..... Just HavinFun RU?

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Are vaginas all similar looking? Posted: 7/13/2005 8:02:40 PM
This chick has problems.......

HavinFunRU

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Fun One Liners Posted: 7/13/2005 9:00:38 AM
are you riding a chicken, or are those your legs......

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Cultural Differences and Love Posted: 7/12/2005 9:14:51 PM
After I had already posted this thread, I did some soul searching. Its funny now that I read it....he's a good man, with a kind heart, but he has his ways, and I guess I'm just looking for perfection. I just want to "tweek" a few things and make it more wonderful. We do meet each other half way. I'm an extravert and he is an intervert. Like they say, opposits attrack. I'm sure I do a few things culturally that drive him crazy, he just doesn't let it bother him like it bothers me. I do attend cultural events with him and enjoy them very much, and he has attened cultural events with me. So..sorry...I should have never of posted this. I'm such a ditz....Don't know a good thing when I got it!

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Fun One Liners Posted: 7/12/2005 10:03:27 AM
Is that your face or are you wearing a mask?

HavinFunRU

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Cultural Differences and Love Posted: 7/12/2005 9:50:20 AM
I was raised in a family where there was no room for prejudice. It was just not tolerated. I was free to date or hang out with anyone I wanted reguardless of race or religion. I have kept this attitude in my adult life and have passed it on to my children. So I am not sure how to start this thread....but I will try. I have been dating a man for almost two years that is Native American. He is awsome and treats me with respect. Obviously, I love him or I would not still be with him. My problem is the cultural differences. He was raised on his reservation and his culture is very different from mine. First, he respects all women, (they are sacred) but he finds it hard to "openly" talk. When I want to discuss something, I raise my voice (not yelling) and say what I really feel. He just looks at me and smiles. We live in two separate houses because if we move in together, "that is not living in a good way." Another thing that bothers me is when he leaves a room, or goes outside, he doesn't say anything. Such as if he is going to bed, he gets up and goes to bed, he doesn't say good-nite, kiss my butt, or anything. Then an hour later I go looking for him and he's gone to bed. I ask "why didn't you just say you were going to bed?" He looks at me like I am crazy. I was in a store and ran into a friend and started talking and I turned around and he was gone. He just went outside to wait and didn't say anything. I'm looking all over the store for him and he is standing outside next to the car. It just drives me crazy! Then there is the food. Believe it or not. He will take a bowl of bean soup and fry bread over a steak anyday. I like variety, he likes his soup. My best girlfriend is also Native American and she tells me thats just the way Indian men are. (This is actually her Uncle.) He is a quite man and really reserved, but I sometimes wonder if the cultural differences will be the end of us. Any suggestions on how to make this better for me...it doesn't seem to bother him.

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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greetings from iowa Posted: 7/12/2005 8:36:05 AM
Hi all....I'm here too. I'm not looking for a date or anything....I'm just "Havin Fun" talking to folks and posting on the forums. I see most of you also post....see ya around. Oh...I live in Council Bluffs....and there is a "real" pic of me on my profile..

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Fun One Liners Posted: 7/11/2005 12:51:43 PM
^^^^^^ROFLMAO.

HavinFunRU

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Is Alcoholics Anonymous a Religion? Posted: 7/11/2005 10:19:11 AM
This is what I tell people. "The church will save your soul, but AA will save your Ass!" Thats it in a nutshell....believe what you want. As far as a fifth step, it is principals before personalities. If you practice the principals of this program you will not have to worry about what the supreme courts are doing.

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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Whats the funnyest thing youv ever done or said when you were drunk Posted: 7/11/2005 9:00:47 AM
Well...the state of Nebraska is glad that I am clean and sober...but here is my best one. I was out drinking at the bars and I was always a black out drinker. I "came to" in a resturant eating dinner at a table with people I did not know. Try bowing out gracefully from that! lol...............Never did find out who they were.

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

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what would you do if your sister's fiance made a pass at you? Posted: 7/11/2005 8:48:40 AM
zgirl...I support your decision 100%. It is the right thing to do and when we do the right thing...only good can come of it.

HavinFunRU

Joined: 6/22/2005

Msg: 172 (view)

Do you believe people are put on our path for a reason, season or a lifetime Posted: 7/11/2005 8:41:53 AM
I believe everyone in my life is there for a purpose. I believe the Creator places people in our lives to learn about ourselves and others. There are a lot of lessons to be learned. Pain is a sign of growth and healing...."When the student is ready - the teacher will appear."

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