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akmusic

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Having time away from your partner Posted: 11/12/2008 12:02:27 PM
Don't loose your identity....or otherwise you will loose yourself!

akmusic

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trust and forgiveness. Posted: 11/12/2008 12:00:34 PM
Trust is a tough one. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.

akmusic

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When is enough enough? Posted: 11/12/2008 11:58:53 AM
Your answer lies in only one question. Are you happy? There you have your answer.

akmusic

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what to do when the women u fell in love with doesn't feel the sam? Posted: 11/12/2008 11:26:37 AM
These things are tough. Did she tell you about her past? Sounds to me like she has not gotten over something from the past.

akmusic

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how long and how to get over it Posted: 11/12/2008 11:24:44 AM
This is tough one, since we dont know how attached you were. Things like this take time, the longer the better. You have to say goodbeye to the old and welcome whatever new thing comes into your life.

akmusic

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Need some advice from the men!!! Posted: 11/12/2008 11:12:28 AM
He is probably a bit immature, judging by your age. Don't sweat it.

akmusic

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Do you feel that you are going to have to settle for less than you had or could have had? Posted: 11/12/2008 11:09:04 AM
Yes its very common. I have dated the perfect girl, and while its not easy to find again, certain things your looking for change over time. No matter what you tell yourself, your values are constantly changing and while you may know what you want, its always a changing list. Stay true to yourself you will find what you seek if you really believe it.

akmusic

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Do abusers repeat there patterns Posted: 6/6/2008 11:40:29 AM
Gary, Abusers continue the same pattern indefinitely until at least they get help. What does influence the time frame before they start doing the abuse is the strength of their next victim. Also some people just keep making the same mistake over and over again. The last relationship I was in, when she would tell me about her past relationships the story had a familiar feel and theme to it. Until that person steps back and evaluates what they did and take some responsibility they will continue down the same path.

akmusic

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Should I give her a chance? Posted: 6/6/2008 11:20:10 AM
Well the answer is very obvious and amidst your confusion you do not see it...thats ok. The answer is yes you should let her back in. OK so you let her in and it doesn't work out. At least you tried and you know...now if you just walk away and don't try, based on how you stated your feel for her you will live the rest of your life wondering. YOu have already made the investment, your heart and you say you love her so you do not need to do that all over again. Think of it this way, you bought a scratch off lottery ticket potentially worth $1,000,000. You already paid for it, and you say ah screw it I will never win, you toss it in the trash and don't even rub the scratch off. Do you see my point? Sometimes in a journey it better to finish what you started even if you are getting mixed feelings about your outcome, you come this far just see whats on the other side. Fortune always rewards the bold.

akmusic

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Can I Invest Myself in this again ( ANY CHANCE ) Posted: 6/6/2008 8:20:05 AM
There is always a chance if you have faith and their is still love there. Don't worry about what everyone else thinks your relationship is with her, in time everyone will understand. Good luck.

akmusic

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no contact situ Posted: 6/6/2008 8:14:02 AM
Yes the no contact is not for the other person it is for you. It can last for a longtime or not it depends on several factors. Did the person really love you? Real love never dies, yes I said never. If that person loved you they will be back, doesn't mean you will be ready to accept them, unless maybe some fundamental issues were resolved. This is tough because it requires both parties to really do some work on their own while they are apart. I know the anticipation is killing you, I remember it so vividly, but in time that will change. Relationships take alot of work, and people are creatures of habit. It is hard for someone to change, don't get me wrong it can happen but rare. You could just end up back with the same person because they really missed you, but the underlying issues that bothered you before can resurface. Since I broke up with my ex, I learned way more about her than when I was with her. The only way to do that is when its quite and still. When your in the center of all that there is too much noise. I guess maybe thats why meditation really opens up doors and windows in your mind that ordinarily you would never notice. The bottom line is if you love them and it mutual, let them go....only then will they find the path back, if that is where their heart will guide them.

akmusic

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what makes you lose respect for your partner? Posted: 6/6/2008 7:55:56 AM
1. Distrust 2. Disrespect 3. The way the other person treats those closest to them, friends, family, etc. 4. When the other person is resistant to any type of change even if its for their own good 5. When the other person is self centered....me...me...me...me...me

akmusic

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The Ripple Effect Posted: 6/6/2008 7:51:44 AM
I am very certain, that if you have an evolved spiritual sense you change the lives of everyone who you come in contact with. All humans have this 6th sense if you will, some people call it the gut instinct, law of attraction, etc. The only thing that gets in the way of it is the ego. Once you remove that, its like have infrared glasses. You see the world with completely different eyes. It is in my opinion and experience that in this time you are really able to make profound changes in your relationships and friendships with others. I had an ex gf that after we broke up I was very bitter because of the things that she had done which she didn't know that I knew. As time went on I really focused on what had happened and the chain of events that led up to where I am at now. I decided to drop the anger and bitterness and became very neutral when it came to her. She began calling me when major things occurred in her life. I listened and gave advice where she wanted it, that was in her best interest. I think that she would like to give things another shot, but doesn't know how to come back, or maybe is afraid that I would reject her. I did alot of work on the inside after we split up, as well as getting shape etc. I gave her a book to read that I thought would help her with her troubled past which obviously transcends into her present and future. She hasn't figured it out yet, she has worked on her physical side which is great, but it is the inside that needs the most work. My point is I have faith in her that someday she will get it and she has alot of work ahead of her. When that day comes she will remember all of the things that I said to her pertaining to the issues. When she works on that her whole life will change for the better, and she will then begin to make lateral moves in life rather than linear. There is an example of the ripple affect, although it hasn't happened yet I do know it is coming even if she will be forced to grow.

akmusic

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How do you just stop loving someone ?? Posted: 6/2/2008 8:50:09 PM
If you truly loved than you never stop loving that person. You just accept that they may not love you back and allow them to move on, and allow yourself the same. Wish them well, and if they have wronged you forgive them. Forgiveness is a gift that we give to ourselves not the other party. By sending them goodwill you are in essence sending that for yourself. And if your lucky and you completely let go and begin living life without expectations, you may be lucky and find love again.

akmusic

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Is There A Need For Open Marriages? Posted: 6/2/2008 6:51:10 PM
Open marriages are probably the reason why less people are getting married. You cannot cultivate real deep intimacy by having an open marriage, therefore what do you have...a bed buddy not a partner.

akmusic

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Need help with a predicament Posted: 6/2/2008 6:49:02 PM
Well I am really impressed that you told one about the other that is huge. Good karma for you, and doing the right thing is always difficult. But it seems to me that you know which one is the better bet. The one you told, as you said the other one's trust levels are not that high yet. Trust is not freely given and takes time to cultivate and earn. I think trust is the hardest thing to solidify in a relationship especially when things are so open. I never give trust out that freely, it is earned with actions and not words over time. Anyone that just gives into it so easily and quickly is far to immature, and emotionally incapable of the grasping the basics of what it takes to make a relationship work. No one has a crystal ball on what you should do, and it may take you 10 years to figure out you ended up with the wrong person. Something obvious here is that you may not be ready for a committed relationship as your dating both, and that is ok take your time, you only live once and if you have already been divorced it is not a situation that is easy to survive a second time.

akmusic

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How do I learn to enjoy being alone? Posted: 6/1/2008 2:57:29 PM
Unless you become happy being alone, and truly begin to enjoy your own company you will never be happy with someone else. You will breed a bad case of co-dependence, suck the energy out of whoever you become involved with in the future. You may be a great team with someone that is true, but we need to operate in life as a sovereign entity by ourselves. No one can make you happy but yourself. Is there a hobby or interest that you have always wanted to pursue? Try that, do anything that can make you more interesting and more well rounded, grow as a person. You will attract a much higher caliber of women, dolts are easy to find.

akmusic

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made mistake of lifetime Posted: 6/1/2008 2:52:17 PM
Don't beat yourself its sounds like she wasn't into it from the get go. I had a very similar situation, maybe it was more for you than for her. No matter how much time passes after you break up with someone who you loved and had a profound impact on you...you will continue to love them indefinitely. I know its a real **** but that is the reality of putting your heart on the line. I think that is why it is so hard to return to that place with someone new as it re-opens a wound that is always there to remind you. Do not beg, if it was meant to be she may return. Live as if she is gone, because if there is any hope you have to have full detachment. Remember the old saying if you love something let it go, if it comes back it yours forever. Best of luck its a tough situation.

akmusic

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Can man be happy and safisfied with one woman? Posted: 5/27/2008 8:58:37 AM
Depends on the woman. You will never grow anything of value hopping around. It takes really commitment to a relationship to make it last. You will always have rough spots, know that but you just keep carrying on.

akmusic

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Let's share our stories of heartbreak Posted: 5/27/2008 8:56:29 AM
You never know it may work out. He may have been feeling emotional, and maybe he thought that you guys wouldn't be able to overcome your difficulties he may have lost the faith. I am not going to preach to you that yes you will find it again, because true love if your lucky to have it once doesn't grow on trees. I think most people get tired of being alone and they settle and there is nothing wrong with that. After all if love was that easy to find it wouldn't be so sacred and special.

akmusic

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How can men stop having feelings so quickly? Posted: 5/27/2008 8:52:15 AM
It doesn't have anything to do with just men. Remember that the brightest stars burn out the quickest. Certain things cannot be rushed, when you intercede the rate at which something is supposed to happen you alter it, not always in a good way. Think about how quick somethings happen. How much do you have invested in a short time? Not much. If you were with someone for a long time, its really much harder to walk away there is history there. It is no wonder they say that patience is a virtue. On the other hand maybe this guy was just unstable.

akmusic

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Why Do Men Overlook Good Women? Posted: 5/23/2008 11:52:11 AM
This is a weird question. It takes a long time to get to really know someone. Today it seems that people are way into instant gratification and no one is interested into doing the work that a real relationship requires. We have become a very anti-social society, hence we hide behind IM's, emails, etc.

akmusic

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Insecure Girls Posted: 5/23/2008 11:49:12 AM
Oh brother be careful here. Your situation is very familiar as I used to be on the same boat. Sound like she has a fear of abandonment, usually this is a result of a parent abandoning the child at an early age either due to divorce or separation as well as previous unstable relationships. There is probably a very good likely hood that she will cheat on you if you stay with her. I know that that sounds crazy since she appears to be the one that is insecure, but its like a switch that goes of in their minds. The only hope for you is to go to counseling with her. This will not be a 2 or 3 visit trip, it may take months. There are some deep seeded issues here that need to surface and be dealt with properly. If you really love her than maybe that journey will be worth it, but it will be alot of work. In my case I tried but its tough to help someone when they do not see the issue for themselves. Although I have healed, the scar will always be there and its a constant reminder of the past.

akmusic

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What would you do? Posted: 5/16/2008 8:22:18 PM
If you suspect it, than its probably the truth. What good is it going to do? Get revenge by living well!

akmusic

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Friends with Exes - Is It Really Such A Bad Thing? Posted: 5/16/2008 8:20:49 PM
Maybe you should not tell people your exes, and just act as friends.

akmusic

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Do you believe God sends signs? Posted: 5/16/2008 8:19:05 PM
There is always someone better waiting, if you believe that your a changing and evolving person. What you want today, may be totally different than what you may want next year. If the person that your with is not capable of growing with you than your search will be far from over. On the other hand, a real mature relationship and deep intimacy takes a while to cultivate with someone, its an investment. I think those red flags your referring to are a change in your standards it happens, and suddenly different things become more important, and you realize the person your with doesn't have those qualities. This happens all the time, you really like someone initially and then the more time you spend with them the more certain you are that they cannot give you what your needing. Just remember on thing the search can go on forever...and you may never find anyone up to par if your values aren't in line.

akmusic

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video games Posted: 5/16/2008 8:09:14 PM
Holy shit now I have heard of everything!

akmusic

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Why does this have to be so difficult? Posted: 5/16/2008 8:07:51 PM
I think some people put so much pressure on the outcome they do not have any patience for the process. Personally its a drag, dating is taking the time getting to know one another then you move on to something else if you click. But some people have either been alone too long or are way to co-dependent. I have actually been amazed how many people are co-dependent its scary, maybe the reason why divorce rate is so high. Just for fun google the term co-dependency you will see many of the personalities that you have dated.

akmusic

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Does True Love Ultimately Require Marriage? Posted: 5/16/2008 7:58:13 PM
Hmmmm.....you should ask Gene Simmons that one.

akmusic

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How important is money? Posted: 5/16/2008 7:57:15 PM
Strength of character is probably your biggest asset, because it can be applied to many things and not just getting women to like you. However money is extremely important because it allows you many freedoms and therefore better choices for you and your family. If you follow the rule that you should always do better for yourself than the money will come if you work towards becoming better at whatever it is you do. I know lots of men that lost a lot of money chasing women, but I do not know anyone that lost women chasing money. Stay away from gold diggers, they are never worth the trouble.

akmusic

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lack of communication can kill a relationship? Posted: 5/16/2008 7:52:28 PM
I am confused you said he is pushing you away, and later you said how do you get rid of him. Do you know what you even want? Maybe you have sucked all the juice out of the relationship by talking about it too much.

akmusic

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staying with him/her even though your not in-love? Posted: 5/16/2008 7:50:25 PM
You should leave or have a serious talk. Your clearly using him, and while it may be unintentional but circumstantial your stacking up some nasty karma for your future. You may find yourself on the other end of a similar relationship someday. Come clean and free both of you.

akmusic

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The Key Issue Posted: 5/16/2008 7:47:23 PM
I couldn't agree with you more. So many times people keep looking for that perfect person, yet never stop and look in the mirror at themselves and see what its is they have to offer. Its pretty egocentric to think that its everyone else that is the problem. I had a friend recently who kept telling me they couldn't meet any quality people on here. Well recently she had a super date, and by the third time they went out with the same person she was not as excited. The fears have come on and are making her think and over-analyze the situation instead of just not putting so much pressure on herself and letting go to see what happens. Old habits die hard, and I think that people think that if they stay the same they are going to get new results, just by continuously swapping out potential relationships. The key issue is to recognize that if you keep getting no where, maybe the change should come from within.

akmusic

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Do you believe God sends signs? Posted: 5/11/2008 3:15:50 PM
Yes the universe definitely sends signs through you. Have you ever heard the concept of the "sixth sense", that is it. Some people call it the everything happens for a reason phenomenon. What it is really is a deep inner protection mechanism that people over many years of evolution have forgotten how to use. Meditation is one way of reaching it, when your mind is still and you are in deep focus. You can master this and it can really be an amazing tool to use throughout your life. Ever wonder how when you compare two people with the same background, education, advantages, etc one is always making the right decisions. That person has learned to tap into this infinite source of abundance or gut feeling and it steers them right. Sorry if I got to metaphysical, but there are many respected motivational authors who have studied this at great length and there is alot of information on the subject.

akmusic

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How do I learn to enjoy being alone? Posted: 5/9/2008 5:52:03 AM
There is quite a bit of philosophers that have stated that until you learn to enjoy your own company you are not ready to share your life with anyone else. I think you should take this advice. Pick something that you enjoy doing or have always wanted to do, and go for it, take it to the extreme. This will get your mind off being alone, and you may really enjoy your time. When you truly feel comfortable in your own skin, it will show and you will begin attracting women. This is just how it works we are drawn to positive energy, we do get sidetracked but as a whole look at how human beings have prospered over all the other animals on earth. Food for thought.

akmusic

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Getting back with your ex Posted: 5/9/2008 5:47:44 AM
Let go!!!!.....no one belongs to you, you have to let this go give up any and all control. She needs to find herself, and it maybe a very long journey back to you. Wish her well and start taking care of yourself. Always extend out the kind hand, it sounds to me like she has some deep seeded problems that you may not even know about. Remember that they do not say that "patience is a virtue" for nothing. Exercise that here, and be willing to help her if you really care for her, but do not think about a relationship, just the humanity of the situation. Do not sacrifice your integrity.

akmusic

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The Wall Posted: 4/27/2008 5:34:00 AM
Just remember that words with actions are completely meaningless. Look more at what a person does than what they say. Thats the lesson I learned.

akmusic

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i truly believe a mate for life does not exist Posted: 4/25/2008 6:14:04 AM
I think the reason why it worked for your parents is that they stuck it out. Relationships are a lot of work, and I think people today have lost that ideal. People blame their childhood traumas, mental disorders etc. The fact is that relationships are not easy, nothing in life that is meaningful or rewarding is gotten easily. They take work, and not making excuses or putting the blame game. I have read many relationship and marriage books and from the trends that are discussed, the divorce rate will only get worse in the next decade.

akmusic

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How do you know when you've met the One? Posted: 4/23/2008 7:38:55 PM
I don't know if you can tell someone is the one right away. However, you can definitely tell when you feel complete with someone. That does not take long, you have no fear and when you look into their eyes you feel as if your home. So you go with it and you put your heart on the line, you have no interest in anyone else and you see where this thing can take you. It is very obvious that you do not feel the same for him. You might be able to have a really good relationship...but you may never reach the "one" level from everything you wrote. You might want to tell this person, as you will really be leading him on as time goes on. He will become more attached and then ultimately you will devastate him, and turn him into a menace for the next woman after you. Be careful here, always know that the right thing to do is always the hardest.

akmusic

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What to do next? Posted: 4/23/2008 7:31:18 PM
Move on and don't look back. She is really a conflicted person and you will never know who you will be dealing with on a daily basis. After I ended a year long relationship I realized that my ex gf had no depth to her. She acted very much like yours did being high and low. She had pain and drama, and I mistook that for personal depth, what a mistake. The time apart made me see that there was nothing ever there even form the very beginning. Try no contact and figure yourself out. I promise that you will see things that you simply cannot see right now. You are to close to everything and talking with her. Let her go and live your life, people rarely change but it is possible. Either way you will be a better person for doing this and much happier in the end. Best of luck.

akmusic

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it hurts Posted: 4/23/2008 3:13:28 PM
It just takes time, no one knows how long so just be patient. One day you will wake up and realize that the person did you a giant favor and your over them. The best part in the healing process is to make sure that you truly learned something there is always a life lesson in a breakup, and unfortunately we only learn when we are in pain.

akmusic

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Love? Posted: 4/23/2008 3:09:44 PM
Love is when your want for someone far exceeds your need for them. When you feel that then you are in love with them.

akmusic

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Hurtful things said by exes, how do you get past it... Posted: 4/23/2008 3:07:34 PM
Just remember that you need to make your words sweet because one day you may need to eat them. You will attract what you think about so stop feeling like it will happen again. I never said many things that I wanted to to my ex and I am glad now. It would have been over her head so what was the use. It is very clear after this much time apart that I was right in my thinking. Are your habits really that bad? Or is it part of who you are? Remember your a fool thinking you can change anyone, the only person you can work on is you. So be the best you can be and don't worry about stuff that has not happened yet.

akmusic

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What give a person a right to call after they ended the relationship? Posted: 4/23/2008 3:01:30 PM
Yes I have been through that, and sometimes it could be that they want to see if the door will remain open for them in case they feel that they made a mistake. Regret is tough and people know they will be dealing with it for many years to come. You have a responsibility to yourself to set some ground rules so the other person knows how you feel. Once someone breaks up with you...things are never the same even if you get back together, that initial innocence is gone and you just know to much. Stay strong and good luck.

akmusic

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Nine Inch Nails - Ghosts I-IV Posted: 4/18/2008 11:14:58 AM
Trent is always very innovative in the way he does things and loves his fans. But after buying Ghosts, I was severely disappointed he could have made 1000 tracks like this there is nothing special in any of them. Hopefully, he will be putting something out with substance soon.

akmusic

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Ear Fatigue - Producing music poorly Posted: 4/18/2008 11:11:43 AM
I totally agree with you and the article. Music today is compressed to shit, it is way to loud even at low volumes and everything is smashed to bits. If you need something louder you just need to turn up the volume. Its amazing what trends do as a whole, now everyone is doing this including me in my material, other wise you will get lost in the competition. I have heard that there is a new codec being developed that will kill MP3 quality so I am hopeful for that.

akmusic

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What is up with Robbie Williams Posted: 4/18/2008 11:04:33 AM
What is going on with him these days. I love all of his albums with the exception of Rudebox, and think that he is mandatory listening for anyone who writes pop music. But these days he seems like a lost soul, he was supposed to work with Guy Chambers again but now that is off. Anyone have any info?

akmusic

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Triggering the creative process. Posted: 4/18/2008 11:01:04 AM
What usually triggers my creative juices is an amazing title. Sometimes just from that, the imagery is so strong in my mind that the song can almost write itself. The last few years my point of reference has been pain, which artistically is not a bad thing at all and I think here is where you can make the most intimate connection with your audience. Practicing for so many years helps to, I can pretty much sit down at the piano or guitar and write you something decent within an hour. Then comes the obsession to really build the song, and as I am a one man band a fully finished production can take up to 6 months. I would say life is a great trigger as well. Lastly, keep listening to music there is so much inspiration remember "amateurs plagiarize, professionals steal".

akmusic

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The guitar player's [GEAR] thread Posted: 4/18/2008 10:50:38 AM
Oh I am a definite gearslut! These are a few of my favorite things for guitar 1.amp- Bogner ecstacy 2.pedal-tc electronic g-system, or nova delay 3. guitar-Ibanez Jem, Parker Fly, Tom Anderson Semi Hollow Tele

akmusic

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Guitar, losing my skills!! Posted: 4/18/2008 10:48:06 AM
Well first of all how well do you know your theory? Do you know all of your pentatonic scales in all positions? Do you you know all the modes? I have been playing some 20 years and I still practice scales, modes, and chordal inversions at least 5 days per week. For the first week try playing really slow, and preferably with a metronome. Once you get all the scales done, make it a point to learn 3 new chords everyday. Learn them inside and out, especially the inversions. In 100 days you will know 300 new chords that will be impressive. Your practicing will get longer, and what you might need to do in the future is to only do scales like a few times per week. In time if you want to learn other peoples music it will be very easy as you have spent time on the foundation and you will find that you will be able to learn other peoples music really quick. Then maybe try writing, get a drum machine and start laying down some groves. If you a have a little recording setup , great practice is to write a small 3 or 4 chord progression in a certain key, and solo over it, or just accompany it linearly, one note at a time no chords. This will give you true mastery over scales or modes. Good luck.

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