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variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 158 (view)

Never married & no kids Posted: 2/3/2008 4:23:35 PM
Does it matter if you were or weren't married with children by 30? Al and Peg Bundy didn't seem superior and happy. You can easily be a screw up with three kids and divorced in your profile as well as being single and lonely at 30. (Me? Workaholic. Worked in crummy out of the way places.)

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 55 (view)

Hermosa Beach Party - April 14 - 12 noon / and 6 PM - til ? Posted: 4/11/2007 7:42:08 PM
May show up for the night stuff. I hate working the weekend. Meh.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 187 (view)

Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary? Posted: 3/22/2007 11:40:38 PM
Save the word for when things get in that neighborhood. Until then, stick with "pretty" "gorgeous" "handsome" (for women). I think women, though, can get away with saying that on first contact, but it might open up the can of worms way too quick.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 18 (view)

Dating and Starbucks ? Posted: 3/22/2007 11:25:31 PM
Indian restaurants do make better chai. I'd have to say the San Jose area has better Indian restaurants than So Cal though. Will consider that area when I'm at Cerritos later this spring. (It's also just a wee bit difficult to imbibe chai after tandoori or curry chicken, rice, fried vegetables, spinach and lentils. Too much taste competition. I prefer the British influence on the meal -- seeing how it goes down with a Kingfisher or Taj Mahal. Goes great with tandoori prawns.) As for Starbucks' dating, if it brings in the people and your demographic, enjoy. The Starbucks I used to lived near, in the desert of Riverside County, brought only senior citizens and soccer moms.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 73 (view)

>>> “R e d h e a d” or “Jet blackgoth +**((redheadsrule))) Posted: 3/22/2007 11:04:28 PM
I have a relative with red hair. She wears the B-word with extra stars for effort. But she has a lot of men after her. One told me he was willing to put up with her because ... "redheads are better." As for myself, I could care less. Most American women dye their hair anyway.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

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Dating and Starbucks ? Posted: 3/22/2007 10:35:06 PM
I tend to associate Starbucks with work. They're open late and I can transmit something over the wireless network to the newspaper when I'm covering something far away from the office. So I'd be too busy typing or going over my notes than checking out the customers and baristas. They do make a nice cup of chai. More flavor than most chains or coffee houses. I prefer tea over coffee. And Bill, you are correct. Everyone passes an IQ test. I presume she means the person passes her standards. By the way, Area51, about the impact of Starbucks in Tokyo: I just wanted to know what brought that statement up in your bio. To me, it would just be another American neon sign among many in that city. You could ask whether the chain would affect the local tea houses. Now if Starbucks was popping up in Kyoto, that would be a more fetching subject to discuss.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

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Advise User of being blocked prior to composing email Posted: 3/21/2007 8:34:55 PM
There should be a warning, "You've been blocked by this user" BEFORE replying to a message. I wasted 20 minutes editing a reply to someone. More hilarious, the message wasn't even about dating or getting to know someone. It was about the impact of Starbucks in Tokyo.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 39 (view)

Do we really KNOW what we want? Posted: 3/13/2007 9:50:22 PM
If I had the time ... or made the time ... Sometimes I think I just don't want to bother anyone else. I'm a pain in my own @$$. Youu can do better than me.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 39 (view)

What do you miss about being in a relationship? Posted: 2/20/2007 9:45:44 PM
Someone to look forward to when you get home. Animals and computers don't count. Going to a restaurant without being looked at. I work odd hours, often have to eat out alone between assignments.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 1885 (view)

What is wrong with the persons profile above you in this thread? Posted: 2/20/2007 9:34:53 PM
On Stephielynn: First a positive: It's pretty hard to find something negative on a woman that puts an eye-catching nun outfit on, also has a cute kid photo, and talks about her T&A, vintage booze and sunbathing au naturel in the bio sheet. That's style. A toast of Grey Goose to ya. Now a downer: Some of the bio might attract freaks. But hey, what is Northern Cal known for anyway? (got relatives in Santa Cruz and in the Northern Bay ... and plenty of stories).

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 1875 (view)

What is wrong with the persons profile above you in this thread? Posted: 2/19/2007 7:10:42 PM
Interesting sheet. Good that you mention problems. I see the prize. I don't see how I get there. The situation might be too awkward for some without some help or suggestions.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 136 (view)

Do you really want honesty? Posted: 2/13/2007 10:00:54 PM
It's threads like these that make me wonder if monks have the right idea. Hell is other people.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 108 (view)

Does no one care about grammar and spelling on here? Posted: 2/13/2007 9:51:34 PM
Most people are idiots. You learn that when you deal with the masses.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 1774 (view)

What is wrong with the persons profile above you in this thread? Posted: 2/5/2007 7:49:30 PM
Till this moment, The overuse of emoticons is too cute, which will turn some people off. It reads like someone got fancy on a Mad Libs personal. The description of the date sounds cool, although I tend to think negatively of being in the middle of nowhere, especially in your case of Alberta. Either it's too cold, too boring or sounds like Axe Murderer territory.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 1575 (view)

What is wrong with the persons profile above you in this thread? Posted: 1/24/2007 7:44:29 PM
Auntandy, Why should I be nice to you? On your order or as a general courtesy? That is one problem with the bio. It demands; it does not ask. Some may be turned off by that. You have managed to clarify your points, but I would move the boxer dogs up into the interests box. Coupled with your photos, one would think you have a interest in the boxers men wear to bed. Larry Elder also might lead to a world of hurt. Politics and religion open up cans of worms. May also want to put in the religion box you're Jewish, unless you just enjoy the days off and the occasional challah bread.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 36 (view)

Meetup at BJ's in Irvine on August 5th at 7:30 Posted: 8/1/2006 8:29:00 PM
May appear -- late, 9 ish. Got a party for a co-worker. Nothing ever happens close to South Bay.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 13 (view)

Yummy beer recipes Posted: 7/10/2006 7:28:06 PM
Here's a recipe where you can still drink the beer: 1 pint guinness 2 shots Stoli, chilled neat. Pour vodka straight down into the beer. Stoli should sink in and give the weak Irish suds some kick. Variation: Corona, pour a shot of chilled stoli, then slam down a lime wedge into the bottle. Tip the bottle upside down, using your hand or wrist to keep the drink from spilling. Enjoy!

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

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Mixing drinks -- recipes? Posted: 7/10/2006 6:56:45 PM
Wondered if anyone else finishes the night as I do -- busting out the ice, shaker and hard bottles. I've got some unusual mixes, wondered if anyone else had recipes. Here's two: Chocolate Coke - Chocolate vodka, 1 measure, or vodka and creme de cacao, 1 measure each, respectively - Coke Pour ingredients into coke w/ ice. Stir gently. Israeli: (a twist on a White Russian) - Vanilla vodka, 1 measure - Sabra (a kosher orange-chocolate syrupy liquer), 1 measure. (Possible to use Cointreau and creme de cacao as well.) - Kahlua, 1 measure - drop in shaker with ice cubes - add milk to shaker. I personally fill to near the top, but I tinker here and there. Shake until nice and frothy. Pour into a mug w/o ice.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 131 (view)

What is wrong with the persons profile above you in this thread? Posted: 7/5/2006 11:07:50 PM
You want a 6-10 guy? Good luck. Basketball coaches have a hard time finding them. Also cut out the drama queen mention, it does raise some red flags. The rest of the stuff is pretty cute or wild though. And it's the Mind of MENCIA. /but Carlos ...

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 38 (view)

Dreamgeeks guide to online dating... ;) Posted: 6/22/2006 8:15:04 PM
Miserable. Yep, I've heard that before. But it's me. Pop culture, I'm Eeyore or Dr. Evil, intellectually, I'm Marvin the Paranoid Android from "Hitchiker's Guide to the Galaxy." Just for history, my first date ended with her in tears. The whole night was a disaster -- late for a hockey game, a bird raining crap on her nice jacket, and I was a geek who hadn't had a conversation with a female peer since I was 5. My longest relationship ended because, I couldn't make her happy. And not just in a mental sense. That was also my last relationship, and that was almost six years ago. I didn't date for five years. Just decided to work, get a degree, make a career. Why bother trying to relate when you don't have what most people want. I enjoyed my time in the desert, where there was no one worth dating -- 70-year-old widows and overweight meth addicts just aren't my thing. Alas, Corporate America shot that down, was nearly out of cash, had to move back to my parents (still live with them a year later, but do have a job. Torn right now between saving up more money but looking bad as a single prospect or getting my own apartment and barely living check to check, but having my own pride.) Last year, I overcame a cancer scare, which, after a review of events around me, basically brought me here. I'm still a bit fatalistic. Actually, I wouldn't have minded cancer; I could've lost some weight without exercise. I leave those paragraphs out. I figure it would chase too many people away. As for people I meet and that, I don't say. I figure I would have too many a-holes asking me for autographs and ticket hook-ups.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 559 (view)

WHY DOESN'T ANYONE CONTACT ME? And other cries for help. Profiles reviewed here for free! Posted: 6/22/2006 7:49:33 PM
Take a look. Most folks say it's dark and depressing. But that's what I am -- my coworkers say I'm Doom & Gloom, Eeyore, or Marvin the Paranoid Android. Just for history, my first date ended with her in tears. The whole night was a disaster -- late for a hockey game, a bird raining crap on her nice jacket, and I was a geek who hadn't had a conversation with a female peer since I was 5. My longest relationship ended because, I couldn't make her happy. That was also my last, and that was almost six years ago. I didn't date for five years. Just decided to work, get a degree, make a career. Corporate America shot that down. Last year, I overcame a cancer scare, which basically brought me here. I'm still a bit fatalistic. Actually, I wouldn't have minded cancer; I could've lost some weight without exercise. I left these last four paragraphs out of the bio. I think they'd scare people off a bit too much.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 33 (view)

Dreamgeeks guide to online dating... ;) Posted: 6/13/2006 8:39:09 PM
I enjoy the fact that people are too lazy to read a few paragraphs (message #9 in this thread). I can't wait to control the masses one of these days. But then I'd probably want to liquidate all of them after a while. Fools are everywhere, but sometimes amusement is gleaned. You may review my profile, Ms. Dreamgeek.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 144 (view)

Completely nice profile reviews! Posted: 6/10/2006 8:57:27 PM
Game? Hah. The dating game is somewhere between the stupidity of Deal or No Deal and the mind games of Jeopardy, without Alex Trebek, but it has that angry woman to tell us we are The Weakest Link. As for the review: Quite accurate. My friends usually say I'm somewhere between The Brain mouse and Dr. Evil. I do find glasses attractive and own some Sylvia Plath.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 480 (view)

Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles? Posted: 6/10/2006 8:39:04 PM
I read them. I need to know if I'm the only psycho in the relationship. Two of the same kind cannot exist in the same space at the same time. Crap, I'm quoting Jean Claude Van Damme movies. Being a writer, I usually take more interest in that than in faces, which eventually get wrinkled, drag, get pockmarked by acne and stress, just before a nest of snakes burst out of their brain cavity and their eyes glow and turn people to stone, should you be foolish to conduct direct eye contact. That's why I watch a woman's hands and feet, in case they're martial artists, cheating me on poker or just happen to have a good color of nail polish on. Mmm, purple. With the glittery stuff. Hopefully that's not some weird fungus. Plus I have to work a little bit more. I'm not going to wow anyone with my mug. So if I can say something witty, it might just break the ice right. Or it just leads to another READ DELETED message. But most folks aren't that interesting though. Sad.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 113 (view)

Completely nice profile reviews! Posted: 6/7/2006 9:35:04 AM
What a careful name. Take a look and say what you see. Please.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 32 (view)

Desensitized to Profiles? Posted: 2/6/2006 2:10:52 AM
One profile a tragedy, a million a statistic.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 18 (view)

you know what I notice sometimes... Posted: 7/26/2005 10:21:27 PM
It's those who are rigid, versus those who are more malleable. Figure where the stubborn jackass and the unsure person fit above.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 18 (view)

Ladies.... Do you use your Heels to flirt Posted: 7/24/2005 3:53:21 PM
AZNqueen -- funny -- one of my exes was Japanese, 4-11. Got dragged into shopping with her one day, convinced her into wearing platforms when she was fretting about heels and height. I said they look sexier to me than the spikes and after trying on a few pairs she said they were more comfortable. Plus 2-3 inches is a boost to someone's psyche if they're worried about height. Honestly, at the end of the day, I don't care how tall or short you are. OK, maybe once; I also dated a basketball center once (6-5), thank God she wore flats on the date.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 59 (view)

NHL is Back Posted: 7/23/2005 11:04:56 PM
Cpupro -- I'm a hockey writer in California. Disagree with you on being forgotten; the Kings' cult in LA is strong, the Sharks also have a strong base. They won't surpass the Lakers or the 49ers in popularity in their respective areas, but they're significant enough that the franchises won't die. Management philosophy is the problem: since con man Bruce McNall fled the Kings ownership, the Kings have only once in my memory been willing to toss bucks to lure a stud free agent (Ziggy Palffy). The Sharks have also been tight when it comes to free agents and contract renegotiations. The Kings have tradtionally lacked grit, which gets them knocked out early in the playoffs. The Sharks want to emulate the New Jersey Devils. Make your arguments there. Anaheim, though, had Disney trying to market an item without putting money into it, hoping an NBA-style two-star system (Kariya and Selanne) could work in hockey. It doesn't. Fans eventually left as the team got stuck in the basement. The Ducks then decided to splurge after a Cindarella Stanley Cup appearance in bringing Federov; the chemistry backfired. And I love Canadian fan thinking: we need an NHL superstar on home soil ... you have JEROME IGINLA. Also, four of the original six and four-fifths of the current NHL are south of the border. Even if the south-of-St. Louis teams (save Dallas, LA) fold, guess what the NHL AND NHLPA will look to playing for first. Mario on Les Canadiens? They wouldn't have protected him any better than Pittsburgh from hits -- a lot of GMs thought a big guy like him wouldn't need an on-ice bodyguard like Gretzky did.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 33 (view)

meeting someone new should you talk about an ex? Posted: 7/17/2005 11:44:28 PM
You know in their mind they are comparing you to their past. To hear it however, always makes you wonder how you stack up against Option B - Make Up With Ex, Past Date Guy C, Ex Husband D. Those with low self esteem, insecurity or paranoia go through hell at this point.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 8 (view)

Can true love be found in here? Posted: 7/17/2005 9:35:03 PM
True love is only answerable after many wedding anniversaries. A person's opinion of another changes in six months. Infatuation either leads to disillusionment or tolerance, most of the time.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

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Let ME analyze your profile for you Posted: 7/16/2005 2:20:31 PM
Please review.

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 21 (view)

James Bond / Bond Girls - Which would you most want to sleep with?!! Posted: 7/2/2005 2:00:49 AM
Bond girl not listed: whoever it was that was the revenge-minded Greek in For Your Eyes Only ... Carole Bouqet? Underrated in the Bond girl pantheon. I would kick Grace Jones out of my bed though. Funnier question: what Bond villian would you sleep with? Yes, there are female villiains (Sophie Marceau, Grace Jones, etc.)

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 54 (view)

Are there shy people out there? Posted: 7/2/2005 12:32:01 AM
If I wasn't shy, I wouldn't be posting on a Net dating board from the safety of my abode, I'd be trying to talk to 40-or-50 people in some club or something. Then again, I don't think that would be the case -- dancing scares me even more than crowds. Now I recall George Carlin and The Bloodhound Gang praising the virtues of a legless woman ...

variablex4

Joined: 6/23/2005

Msg: 32 (view)

Anyone else notice the trend? Posted: 6/24/2005 12:49:41 AM
Harsh, but in a way I agree. If one cannot be loyal to one they called their true love at one time, they could not be loyal to me. I once had a chance to explore a cheating scenario. I declined. Even though I was halfway across the country that summer, a sense of honor, as well as karma coming back to bite me (I was always paranoid my then girlfriend would cheat on me) ... I just stood back and watched the opportunity slip away. The bathroom scene in "Pulp Fiction," with John Travolta talking to himself, saying "It's a test," came into my head then, btw.

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