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Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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What do ya think? Should I keep at it? Posted: 9/19/2008 9:16:34 PM
Groupies? What groupies?!! We don't have any groupies at all.

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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What do ya think? Should I keep at it? Posted: 9/17/2008 6:20:44 PM
Okay, so which is better; Cey's advice of saying "You wanna go out sometime," or IQF's "Would you like to go out on a date sometime?"

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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What do ya think? Should I keep at it? Posted: 9/17/2008 10:52:20 AM
Alright folks, there's this girl I like in Comp class that I've been talking to off and on for about two weeks now. I've invited her to come to my band's next show, but she's going back home to visit her folks for a while, so she can't make it. But her and I have been talking bit by bit, more and more, each time class meets. Today, she let me walk her to her apartment, and we were just talking along the way and seemed to be enjoying each other's conversation. I guess the question is what's the step I should take next? Should I just keep doing what I'm doing, go a step higher, or back off for a bit? You see, I don't wanna come on too strong, yet I don't want to bet put into the friends zone, which, let's face it, is sadly my fate with a lot of girls. So what do I do next? Any advice would be appreciated. ;)

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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I'm in need of some constructive criticism Posted: 9/7/2008 8:45:54 PM
Alright, I put up basically what I'm looking for in a girl. Actually it's funny because before I had something up that told what I was looking for, but I was told that it might have been turning girls off or intimidating them, so I took it off. I can't understand why, as there was nothing at all intimidating or offputting in it, in fact the one I have now is more straightforward and up front than the last one I had. In the last one I was kind of nervous about saying what I wanted so I beat around the bush a little. SHRUGS

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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I'm in need of some constructive criticism Posted: 9/7/2008 8:10:36 PM
Allright, so I thought I would make some changes to my profile and open it up for some constructive criticism. So please let me know what you think, good or bad. I've really been wondering if there is something I am doing wrong because I have been getting next to no messages, now that probably is par for the course, but still... So, have at it, folks! ;)

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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How does one flirt with a girl? Please help! Posted: 9/3/2008 3:07:07 AM
I'm sorry if this question sounds stupid or pathetic, but in all my life I've never learned how to flirt with the opposite sex. Could someone please be so kind to let me know how it's done/what you have to do. Thanks. ;)

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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sometimes i feel like nothing works anymore Posted: 8/31/2008 6:19:02 PM
I feel for you OP, I really do. I'm four years older than you and have never had a girlfriend or been on a date. It's frustrating and it hurts like hell, I know. I strive to be a gentleman and treat women with honor and respect and I get treated like shit and ignored and dumped on the side of the road in return. It seems no gal wants to accept me for who I am. Yes, I know exactly what you're feeling, and it is hell, but you must learn to say "To hell with those who don't like me and don't accept me for who I am. It's their loss. And some day I will find the right girl who loves me for who I am. " When you can do that, pal, you'll be on the right track.

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Does this sound ridiculous? Posted: 8/31/2008 6:13:06 PM
For quite a while now I have been continuing in my epic quest to find or come upon the right girl for me. Because I'm 25 years old, and have not ever had a girlfriend or been on a date (which rather breaks my heart), some of my friends tell me I'm truly screwed and will never find a girl. In fact one of them told me that I should become a monk, and take an oath of celibacy and he was dead serious. Lately, I've been finding out that these friends of mine can be real arserags and I'm seriously considering breaking it off with them until they learn to straighten up and grow up, but nevertheless, could what they are saying be true?

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Anyone else pumped for the new Iced Earth Album... Posted: 8/30/2008 9:22:48 AM
Yes, I'm quite excited! Barlow is back!!!

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Musical Influences Posted: 8/29/2008 2:53:04 PM
On the heavy metal side: Judas Priest Iron Maiden DIO Black Sabbath Angel Witch Accept Manowar WASP Motorhead Grim Reaper Helloween Gamma Ray Stratovarius Grave Digger Yngwie Malmsteen Freedom Call Electric Wizard On the AOR/ melodic rock side: Deep Purple Rainbow KISS Survivor Styx REO Speedwagon Journey Boston Axe The Scorpions UFO MSG Asia

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Music Today Sucks. Posted: 8/29/2008 8:51:37 AM
Avalanche, Sharon Den Adel did an excellent job on her part in Tobias Sammet's Avantasia as Anna, imo.

Sentinel83

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Music Today Sucks. Posted: 8/27/2008 4:22:00 PM
Amen to that, Sanguis.

Sentinel83

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Music Today Sucks. Posted: 8/27/2008 8:59:47 AM
Believe me, plenty of great music abounds in the underground, if you will just search it out. Unfortunately, some folk are lazy and not willing to do the legwork, and that's why MTV dominates and ruins our society. I believe MTV has replaced religion as the opiate of the masses. I don't know where I'd be if I hadn't discovered for myself the myriad great true metal and AOR/melodic rock bands that are being produced in the underground.

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Anyone heard the new Metallica song yet? Posted: 8/23/2008 3:12:21 PM
Sparkleandfade, there's a difference between changing styles and being an MTV-pandering sellout fag. Take Judas Priest, in their latest album, Nostradamus, they went with a more operatic approach and still stayed within the realm of true metal, which is what Metallica didn't do, they were idiotic enough to incorporate alternative/grunge into their music. And if a band is stupid enough to allow such untalented ***holes as Snoop Dogg and Avril Lavigne cover their music during a tribute show (which by the way was the shitty tunes they created after they sold out) then I don't have much respect for them. I don't blame Metallica entirely, after all, it was that nincompoop manager Bob Rock who screwed them up, but they kept to that same sellout faggot formula during their whole career. Point is, if it ain't broke, don't fix it.

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Best Movie Soundtracks Posted: 8/21/2008 10:55:39 PM
Heavy Metal Star Wars: The Empire Strikes Back Rock Star Transformers: The Movie (the animated one) Rocky III The Phantom of the Opera (w/Gerard Butler) The Pirates of the Caribbean Trilogy The Lord of the Rings Trilogy Terminator The Last Starfighter (anyone remember this?) Flash Gordon (80's version) Highlander

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Anyone heard the new Metallica song yet? Posted: 8/21/2008 10:32:03 PM
I heard it and was disgusted. Going back to the old formula my arse! They sold out, plain and simple. I've said it before and I'll say it again, anything Metallica released after And Justice for All is pure shit. If you want some real thrash metal that won't let you down, try some Megadeth, (only for God's sake, don't listen to Risk, I just pretend that album never happened) Exodus, Kreator, Hirax, Bonded By Blood, Fueled by Fire, Evil Dead, Tankard, Sacred Reich, Destruction, Sodom, Toxic Holocaust, Overkill, Mortification, Artillery, Testament, and Metal Church, just to name a few.

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Metal Singers Posted: 8/2/2008 12:19:29 AM
I'm the lead singer in a band that does a mixture of traditional metal/NWOBHM and AOR/melodic rock. We're also planning on integrating some power metal in there too. My inspirations for my voice come the most from: Rob Halford (Judas Priest) Bruce****nson (Iron Maiden) Ronnie James Dio (Rainbow, Black Sabbath, DIO) Eric Adams (Manowar) Matt Barlow (Iced Earth) Dave Mustaine (Megadeth) Lizzy Borden (Lizzy Borden) Ozzy Osbourne (Black Sabbath, Ozzy Osbourne) Joacim Cans(Hammerfall, Cans) Michael Kiske (Helloween) Tobias Sammett (Edguy, Avantasia) Andi Deris (Helloween) Kai Hansen (Helloween, Gamma Ray) Piet Sielck (Iron Savior) Ralf Scheepers (Gamma Ray, Primal Fear) Steve Grimmett (Grim Reaper) Paul Dianno (Iron Maiden, Dianno) Chris Boltendahl (Grave Digger) Joe Lynn Turner (Rainbow, Deep Purple, Yngwie Malsteen, JLT) Jeff Scott Soto (Talisman, Yngwie Malmsteen, Jeff Scott Soto) Geoff Tate (Queensryche) Mark Boals (Reign of Fire, Yngwie Malmsteen) Russell Allen (Symphony X) Ian Gillian (Deep Purple, Black Sabbath, Gillian's Inn) Glenn Hughes (Deep Purple, Black Sabbath, HTP, Glenn Hughes) Robin McAuley (MSG) Graham Bonnett (Rainbow, Alcatrazz, Taz Taylor Band, MSG)

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Any thrash metal fans here? Posted: 8/1/2008 11:59:44 PM
I just recently got into thrash metal lately. Among my favorite bands are Iced Earth, Slayer, pre-Black Album Metallica, Megadeth, early Anthrax, Heathen, Bonded by Blood, Fueled by Fire, Exodus, Overkill, Toxic Holocaust, and Sodom, to name a few. So are there any out there that share a taste for this ass-kicking subgenre of true metal?

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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New possible romantic interest. Please help. :) Posted: 7/30/2008 2:54:36 PM
Well, I asked her, and it turns out she has a boyfriend. At least I tried. SHRUGS

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Ladies, this can't be true, can it? Posted: 7/28/2008 6:32:08 PM
You misunderstand me, Robby. I am not out to "bang" women as you put it. I don't look on women that way, besides I believe that sex should be saved for marriage.

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Ladies, this can't be true, can it? Posted: 7/26/2008 11:42:37 AM
"At least then you can make improvements" You make a good point, but I don't think someone should make improvements just because one individual doesn't like them for what they are or take them as they are. I think they should be themselves and if a person doesn't like it, too bad. They should just move on and eventually they'll find someone who likes them for who they are.

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Ladies, this can't be true, can it? Posted: 7/26/2008 5:39:13 AM
Okay, so the other day one of my friends and I were talking about various experiences where we got hurt trying to find a nice girl to go out with, and I said how several women I tried to ask out had actually hurt me more by telling a lame see-through excuse instead 0f just straight out telling me they weren't interested in me. He then proceeded to tell me that women who do that kind of thing sorta get off on it, that they get a kick out of and enjoy telling guys lies and hurting them. Is this true? I can't really bring myself to believe it. I mean, even though it's a dishonest gesture and stings more than them telling you the real truth, when a woman gives you one of those old, tired excuses their trying to let you down easy and save your feelings, right? So why would they get off on that kind of thing? It makes no sense.

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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New possible romantic interest. Please help. :) Posted: 7/26/2008 5:32:01 AM
Okay, so I've decided to try to ask this girl out sometime this coming week. I was thinking of asking her out for coffee, however a couple of my friends tell me that asking a girl out for coffee has become like a universal code for asking for sex from her. Is this true, or are they just pulling my leg?

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Would this be appropriate? Posted: 7/26/2008 5:18:27 AM
"Btw OP...you got this whole Newman from Jerry Seinfeld look going on. just thought Id mention that" And what did I ever do to you to deserve such a cruel remark?

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Would this be appropriate? Posted: 7/26/2008 3:19:57 AM
I think a few of you are taking the fact that I said I had a foot fetish and running with it a little too far. My fetish is my business and this topic really has nothing to do with it. I know there are some of you out there that are discriminatory and view me and other foot fetishists as those perverted guys you hear about in the news that assault some woman and start licking her toes. I assure you that is not reality. Those people are psycho. I have never desired to do something like that, nor would I ever. There's such a thing as self control and decency, you know. Because the news media blacklists people like me, with my fetish, as being the same as those yahoos out there that do that kind of stuff, we foot fetishists have been forced into hiding and into the underground. To those of you that understand me, good for you, more power to ya, but to those that think I'm like those weirdos out there that you hear about in the news, you're dead wrong. There's nothing 'creepy' about a foot fetish, unlike one poster put it, it's completely natural.

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Would this be appropriate? Posted: 7/25/2008 10:55:10 PM
Okay ladies, I have yet another question for you, and I've been pondering this one for quite awhile. This may sound kind of strange to you, but there have been some situations where girls I like have been around me, just them and me alone, and they sometimes complain about having a long day and their feet hurting from it. I feel sometimes, as just a friendly gesture and maybe more as a sign of my affection, to offer to give them a foot massage. But when I'm about to ask them, I wimp out, fearing that it may be inappropriate and turn them off or freak them out. I've heard this may be one of the ways to a woman's heart, so I'm asking the ladies on this forum, is this kind of thing appropriate, should I offer to do it, or am I better off not?

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Why do women do this? Posted: 7/25/2008 2:42:43 AM
I've had similar things happen to me. For instance I was talking to this one gal here on POF that was a guitar virtuoso and a student of the occult (a girl after my own heart ) We talked for awhile and then I noticed she was taking an unusually long time to get back to my last message. I found later on that she had deleted her account. I can't say I wasn't dissapointed, but I didn't invest myself too much in it so I wasn't heartbroken when it happened, and I think that's the key. Don't dwell too much on it and just move on.

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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New possible romantic interest. Please help. :) Posted: 7/25/2008 2:32:30 AM
Okay, so really lately I have been not focusing too much on finding a woman and more on my job that I really enjoy, my band, and other various things that I like to do, because 1. they say the right girl will find you when you're not looking 2. I don't want to get too worried about this kind of thing like I have in the past 3. I don't want to get all invested in someone and get my heart broken again and 4. I've really been just too busy enjoying life, but recently there's this one gal at the office who is a receptionist and has a very kind, outgoing personality and is very attractive to me. I would try to ask her out, but for one thing I don't know whether she has a boyfriend or not and for another I just don't know her that well. You see, I'm a sales rep at a job where you're pretty much you're own boss and you only come in the office from time to time. Plus there's the factor that they say office romances can be quite awkward. Would anyone be so kind as to help me out. Thanks. ;)

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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What did I do wrong? Please help me ladies! Posted: 7/24/2008 8:09:05 PM
I know what you're talking about Angela. I haven't seen the movie but I've read Stephen King's book that it was based off of. Pretty darn good if you ask me, though not as good as some of King's other works, imo. My mom isn't completely like Carrie's mom, because that old hag was just plain psycho, but there is a parallel in that she has a hatred for wiccans and considers them to be satanists. It's quite disturbing. But yeah, now I've learned I gotta do what I gotta do, and what makes me happy, whether my parents like it or not. And I shouldn't live to please them. All that's gonna cause is problems and clashes.

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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What did I do wrong? Please help me ladies! Posted: 7/24/2008 6:11:09 AM
Haha! You're probably right, Maggie. Thanx ladies, you've really opened my eyes. Now I realize what I've done wrong and can improve upon it.

Sentinel83

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What did I do wrong? Please help me ladies! Posted: 7/23/2008 8:18:26 PM
I dunno about that, pal. I mean, she did say she never wanted to see me again. Wouldn't contacting her exacerbate the situation.

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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What did I do wrong? Please help me ladies! Posted: 7/23/2008 7:58:57 PM
Okay, so there's this incident that happened about 5 months ago that I need advice on what I did wrong, because I'm sure I did something wrong, I just don't know exactly what it was, so I thought I would ask the gals on here about it. So about 5 months ago, I met a gal on POF. She was an amazing girl and her and I just seemed to click. She said she thought I was adorable, which was a compliment I had never received from a girl before so it really meant something to me. We messaged each other back and forth for awhile and she finally said, "Well, are you gonna ask me out, or does a girl have to wait forever?" My heart lept when I saw this. Here was my first chance ever in life to go out on an actual date with a girl. She gave me her phone no. and I called her. We talked a couple of times and finally decided to go to dinner together. Here's where it gets bad though, I was living with my parents at the time (soooo glad I'm outta their house), and I was paying rent and buying my own groceries so that I wasn't mooching off them, and my parents, while generally good, loving people could be very manipulative with me and very domineering. I went through alot of emotional abuse with them that caused me self-esteem issues later, which thankfully I have conquered. Well, my mom said she overheard me talking on the phone to this gal (I'm not so sure she wasn't eavesdropping) and acted all freaked out about her being a former wiccan, you see, my mom is one of those type of Christians that claims to follow the Messiah, but doesn't have His sense of love or tolerance for other religions in her. I called her on it, and said "Ma, number one, I'm not full of deep-seated "holy" hatred for wiccans as you are, and number two, she's not a wiccan anymore, she's converted to Christianity." And my mom said "A witch is a witch. You do what you want, but as long as you're under my roof, you'll follow my rules, and that means that if you date this girl, your father and I will have nothing to do with her, she will be dead to us!" Needless to say, I was really pissed off and told my mom that she was practicing the exact opposite of Christ's teachings of love and forgiveness. She basically denied it and told me to pretty much shut up. Well, I had a terrible night that night, and the next day, I called my dad, hoping that he'd be cooler about it (because he usually is cooler about things my mom blows a gasket on). He wasn't and said "Your mom is right. Do what you want, but your mother and I will have nothing to do with a former satanist. She will not exist to us." I was shocked and enraged. I told my dad that he should be ashamed to call himself a Christian with so much hatred in him and that he was messed up because he let the church brainwash him so much on wiccans that he was actually believing in the ancient medieval dogma that wiccans were of Satan. That he needed to wake up. He said in turn that I was messed up. We cut the conversation because we didn't want to argue. Seeing that my mom and dad were raising all this bullcrap drama, seeing it as breaking the family apart, I decided to break it off with the girl and told her why. She was completely cool with it. A couple of days later I changed my mind. I called the girl up and left her a message saying that we're both adults, that we should be able to do as we please, and that my mom and dad don't really have the right to pry into what I'm doing. That we should go ahead with the date. That afternoon, I got a message on myspace from her entitled "Ok, stop.." I knew I was in trouble. What the message basically said was that I was full of bullshit and drama and she never wanted to see me again. I don't understand how standing up to my parents and taking charge of my own life is "being full of bullshit and drama". I tell you one thing, allthough I love my parents to death, I don't think I will ever be able to forgive them for being so hateful and judgemental and having a hand in decimating what was the closest I've been to a first date. So my question is ladies, what did I do wrong that drove this girl off?

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Dominate Women/BDSM Posted: 7/21/2008 8:16:48 PM
I've never really understood the BDSM thing. I really fail to understand why a guy would want to be talked down to and made to be felt like crap. How does that turn one on. And as for the torture, mutilation, pain and stuff that comes with S&M, well that rather terrifies me. I do have a foot fetish though, so I guess a somewhat dominant woman would fit into that frame. I tell ya that the idea of worshipping a woman's feet definitely turns me on, along with the trampling thing, as long as it's not brutal. But that's as far as it would go. If a woman was trying to fulfill my fetish and started talking cruel to me and trying to torture me and started spitting on me, I'd yell at her to stop faster than you could say toesucker!

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants Posted: 7/21/2008 7:57:04 PM
I've never been in a relationship, but I can tell you when I put no pressure on a woman for sex, it's because I'd rather save myself for marriage.

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Women and guys with shaved heads Posted: 7/21/2008 7:35:32 PM
I don't completely shave my head bald, but I have my hair very close-cropped. I do it not only to have the 80's-era Rob Halford look for my band, but also because my hair is quite unruly when it's longer, no matter what I do. If that turn's a woman off then that's her problem. Don't worry pal, you'll find a gal that will accept you for who you are, shaved head and all. ;)

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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I am amazed..... Posted: 7/20/2008 5:27:50 AM
At how trying to find a good gal for me is so frickin' hard. I mean I really am. And ladies, you can probably testify to the fact that it swings the other way when you try to find a good man. Maybe it's because I've been il and sickly for most of my life and I only recently got better and got out into the dating world, but I never thought it would be this hard. I know you've all heard this kind of stuff before ("why won't any girl/guy take me as I am") but I am really floored by how hard it is to find a potential mate. All the good ones are taken it seems. Oh well, welcome to the real world, huh? SHRUGS At least I can laugh about it and joke about it a bit sometimes.

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Ladies, I need you help..... Posted: 7/20/2008 1:12:27 AM
Are my friends right? You see, there is this girl I've been into for a while now. And I feel she would be the perfect girl for me, because her and I just click, the only thing is, she has a boyfriend. The guys think that no matter if she has a boyfriend or not, I should open up and tell her how I feel, and I do have deep feelings for her, but I don't think that would be right or honorable with her being with another guy, and I certainly want to do the right and honorable thing, plus I do want her to be happy, even if it's not with me, but I just can't shake these feelings for her. The guys also tell me, though, that it's probably already too late because I've moved into an area that "women create with men" called "the friends zone" according to them. Is this just a bunch of bs? What should I do? I would dearly appreciate it if I received a woman's advice on this. Thanks. :)

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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A bit of advice that I've learned myself from experience Posted: 7/1/2008 7:19:07 AM
You have a point there, Upstate, and thanks for clarifying. Like you said, there is a type of person out there for everyone. There are things that attract us to other folks and things that don't, and no I can't blame someone for having a preference. But what I'm talking about is the kind of jerks that I've grown up around, the vindictive and vicious guys and gals that tell members of the opposite sex they're hideous, they're losers, and no one would ever want them. For the longest time, I went around trying to please certain members of the opposite sex that treated me like dirt, and I wasted a big part of my life because of it. But I'm also saying looks don't have to be absolutely everything, and you shouldn't have to be an absolute bombshell or stud for someone to like you. I'll openly admit it, I used to be rather shallow when it came to pursuing women, I used to only go after the gorgeous bombshells and wouldn't have a thing to do with the overweight gals, but then I found out that I was dead wrong, and I found traits I liked in some not-all-that-thin gals and found many that were actually quite attractive.

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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A bit of advice that I've learned myself from experience Posted: 7/1/2008 6:51:28 AM
Guys and gals, I imagine something like this has already been said on this thread before, but I'm going to say it anyway. Here's something I've learned recently. Guys, if a girl doesn't want to date you because she claims you're "too heavy" and girls, if guys say the same, don't be discouraged or broken hearted, because I once was and it made me miserable. Then I decided, if that member of the opposite sex is going to judge me based on one thing, and not even bother to look at anything else about me, then they aren't worthy of my time. Now I'm not using this as an excuse for not taking care of oneself. You've got to take care of yourself, ladies and gents, if you expect to be noticed. Not bragging, but I always wear nice, neat clothes, take a bath once sometimes twice each day, put on cologne and deodorant, make sure I'm clean-shaven, and make sure my hair is always cut close-cropped because it gets greasy when it is longer or even at normal length no matter what I do or how many times I wash it a day. Now, some of the gals out there might say it can go both ways, that I wouldn't want to date an overweight girl, so why would they want to date an overweight guy? Sorry ladies, but you can't pin me with that one, because I've been interested in girls of various shapes and sizes, in fact there were several gals that were somewhat overweight that I thought were very attractive. In fact there was one gal that I really liked that we her and I almost got involved (not from this site) that I could almost say I loved, and she came down with a serious bipolar/schizophrenic disorder and declared all her old friends her enemies, including me. It broke my heart, but I still care greatly for her to this very day. And if you do decide to lose weight, do it for yourself, not for someone who says they'll only go out with you if you drop pounds. They're not worth it. Like me, I've started working out and eating healthier, and I didn't do it for anyone else but myself, the fact that it will give me confidence and make me feel better all around, and I want to look good as the lead singer of my band. Eating healthier can be a bit of a drag sometimes, but working out, at least for me, can be very enjoyable, I just pop in a bit of heavy metal or melodic rock to work out to and get pumped to it. So, I hope this little post helps some people out there that are in this situation. I was pretty much half of my life until I had an awakening a few months ago. So I was just inspired to write this. Later.

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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How do I learn to enjoy being alone? Posted: 5/5/2008 6:51:58 AM
Wait a minute there, the approach you're taking sounds like a highly unhealthy extreme. Not wanting to like women? Not wanting to desire to have sex? Bud, let me tell you from experience, I've been there, and it ain't pretty. I went through a period when I was so disgusted with women that I actually tried denying myself the thought of women and of sexual fantasies towards them and it made me the most miserable I have ever been in my life. I'm begging you, please do not take this route. If you do, you will be in for a world of hurt. Perhaps seeing a counselor would help with your situation. Allthough, I have to admit, counselors never did me any good, I had to see the light for myself, but different strokes for different folks,as they say. I really hope you get to feeling better.

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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The ol' "I don't deserve you" line Posted: 5/5/2008 6:41:36 AM
I've found that in some of the many times I've been rejected by women, I sometimes get the line. "Oh, you're such a great guy, I don't deserve you. I'm sorry." I've been told many times that this is just another thing one says when they're rejecting someone so as to spare their feelings. I see truth in that because I wonder "What makes me such a great guy in your eyes? I'm just your average joe." But yet, I've heard along with this excuse something to the effect of "Oh you're such a great guy. I don't deserve you. You don't wanna date me. I'm not worth it. I can be a real **** sometimes." I really hate to see women just degrading themselves like this if it truly is for real, and if it is why don't they bother to change themselves? Or is it once again, all an attempt to save my feelings? Any answers? Thanks.

Sentinel83

Joined: 1/27/2008

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How do I learn to enjoy being alone? Posted: 5/5/2008 6:33:50 AM
The best thing that I can tell ya, bro, is to find some hobbies that interest you and get really into them, also start focusing on your goals and pursuits that don't involve the romantic side of things and realize that a relationship doesn't complete life, it complements it. You also have to get comfortable with yourself and realize that you are a good guy who deserves love and only the best life can give to him. I recently came to this realization, and, right now, I'm at one of the happiest, highest stages of my life. I hope this helps.

Modern-Day-Lancelot

Joined: 1/27/2008

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footfetish Posted: 5/4/2008 10:35:38 PM
I have one as well, my friend. I honestly don't see why some people find it so wicked, sick, or perverted when usually those people that find it as such are into more extreme, nastier stuff that make a foot fetish seem like kissing a gal on the hand. I do have my preferences though. I'm into sniffing, licking, sucking, kissing, massages and trampling (as long as it isn't the painful stuff) I don't however like footjobs or the foot feeding thing (which I think is particularly nasty, but each to their own). I find it, encouraging, though, to find more and more of my fellow brethren with this fetish are "coming out of the closet" as it were, and it is becoming more accepted, but whether it's universally accepted or not doesn't really matter to me. It's the way God made me, and if other people find it offputting or sick, that's their problem.

Modern-Day-Lancelot

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Two adages, one question Posted: 5/4/2008 9:02:46 PM
Being currently single as I am, recently I've pondered the conflict between the old adage "It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all" and the lyrics of the song by the progressive rock band YES, "The owner of a lonely heart is so much better than the owner of a broken heart." I usually approach old adages with the seriousness I approach that bs that says "Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me", but I find I am taking the content of these conflicting adages a bit more seriously. The "better to have loved and lost " one makes sense because I think that it is a real compliment to one's spirit to know that, even though the relationship has ended, they definitely have been loved, and because of that, odds are they'll be loved again, versus going through your whole life never being loved, at least romantically. But then, paradoxically, to me, the lyrics of the YES song also seem to present me with a sound truth. The owner of a lonely heart could indeed be a lot better off than the owner a broken heart, because, in a relationship, before you break up, you have to put up with a lot of bullcrap, and then when you are out of the relationship, you realize that you have to start all over again and just wish you were single and never entered that relationship to begin with, or so I'm told. That rings true with me, especially around where I live, where alot of the girls I have come across are just full of bs and drama (I really hate that word, but I find I am using it more and more lately.) I mean, I have a girl I kind of like right now that is the exception to that rule, but nothing has happened yet, and only the Allmighty knows if anything will happen. But I don't know, I just find myself kind of torn between thes two adages. Anyone out there have any input?

Modern-Day-Lancelot

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Do I have some kind of strange complex or something? Posted: 4/18/2008 4:30:14 PM
Higherbeing, that is the most profound and revealing thing I've heard on this thread so far. I think it may be the key to the end of my living nightmare. I'll try it out. Thanks!

Modern-Day-Lancelot

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Do I have some kind of strange complex or something? Posted: 4/18/2008 4:27:33 PM
Nero, I've tried the "burning ritual" thing, in fact it was one of the first things I tried. Didn't work.

Modern-Day-Lancelot

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Do I have some kind of strange complex or something? Posted: 4/18/2008 8:19:41 AM
Well, I have certain values I believe in and hold in high regard so,.....as for true love sure, but as for 'love' like having sex, I don't agree with doing that until after one is married. Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs and own ways of doing things of course, and this is just my belief.

Modern-Day-Lancelot

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Do I have some kind of strange complex or something? Posted: 4/18/2008 7:40:52 AM
There has been something I've been trying to excorcise from my mind for some time. You see, when I was way back in jr. high/high school, there was this girl that was absolutely gorgeous, that I had a crazy crush on. I had heard alot of rumors about her being snooty and she kind of acted that way, and I heard that she said a bunch of terrible things about me behind my back, such as saying I was hideous, a troll, etc. I don't know if any of them were true, because they were put forward to me by one of the biggest gossips and liars in the school, and because the girl in question was always kind to me, but there's another factor that told me it just might be true because when I first met her she seemed really cruel before she seemed to kind of soften up later, and I was sitting at the lunch table one day and she was with her friends and looking for a place to sit, and as she was passing me she said under her breath "Eww! I don't want to sit by that...that...thing!" referring to me. It pissed me off and I called her on it, and her faced turned blood red and she gave me this embarrassed, guilty smile. But after that I started to like her, which I'm afraid was a mistake. Later on I tried to contact her through the years, even add her on myspace, but I never heard a thing back from her. And over the past couple of years, I've been realizing that liking her like I have isn't healthy at all. I mean, whether she said those nasty things about me or not, she's the reason why I've had such low self-esteem and thought of myself as hideous up 'til now. Hell, maybe she's even partly the reason why I'm on a diet because I seem to think thatI won't attract a woman even if I'm slightly overweight. I keep telling myself that I'm just trying to better myself, but deep in the darkness of my heart there seems to be an underlying factor that traces itself back to her. I've been trying to exorcise this girl from my mind, I've practically tried everything, but somewhere deep inside there's something that just won't let go of her, that tells me that she'll change one of these days. I know it's a bunch of hogwash and I tell myself such, but it just doesn't seem to work. Back when I was seeing my psychologist, he told me that I should just plain forget about her, just void her from my mind, well, I've done that plenty of times and the dang thoughts just keep coming back. This makes me wonder if I have some form of Stockholm Syndrome, you know, the complex where you somehow fall in love with your abusers, I know it sounds far-fetched, but it's all I can come up with to explain it. Could someone please tell me what's going on and what I should do, I want to get rid of this forever. I mean, I feel like Frodo Baggins carrying around the one ring, it's a thing of destructive and devastating power and it keeps wearing me down but everytime I try to destroy the damn thing it seduces me and makes me keep it hanging on me.

Modern-Day-Lancelot

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Could use some advice, yet again :) Posted: 4/16/2008 8:43:40 AM
Actually guys, I talk to this girl a lot. She and I are are pretty good acquaintences if not friends and we seem to enjoy each other's company. We've been talking to one another off and on since last October.

Modern-Day-Lancelot

Joined: 1/27/2008

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Could use some advice, yet again :) Posted: 4/16/2008 7:45:25 AM
Tejas, I've known her for over five months now, she used to work at my local coffee shop which is practically my home away from home. She now works at a local pizza parlor that I frequent. So I've known her for quite a while, I guess, and during that time, I don't think I've seen any extreme degree that she follows her faith or her church.

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