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 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Criticism
Posted: 3/31/2013 10:07:44 AM
When my back problems started they were at their worst. A girl wanted to get back together at that time, I couldn't do much. Mostly laid on the couch. She ****ed and complained that I was no longer fun. We only lasted a couple days lol
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 86 (view)
 
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 3/30/2013 11:16:58 PM
I would start asking him things like does he want you to dress up. You should know him better ask him what he wants rather than why not
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 217 (view)
 
are some people not MEANT to be in relationships?
Posted: 3/30/2013 8:36:50 PM
I do wonder about myself. Not because of problems I've had growing up but im 42 and I've only been invoked for about 42 years of my adult life. I just wonder if im so used to being alone that im screwed. Plus im living my dream but that don't mean my dream fits with anyone else lol. I have no self pithy just wondering where I would fit and a girl would fit. Oh well I am very happy so that's what matters

Its hard to type from my phone and impossible. To correct
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Dealing with cigarette smoke
Posted: 3/25/2013 1:18:04 PM
I frebreeze my friend that smells of smoke when she comes over
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
The 'talks'
Posted: 3/24/2013 1:55:16 PM
I have had the talks thing before I ever heard of online dating so it didn't come from that. That being said it wasn't some drawn out complicated thing. Can't really say when we had it or how it went just kinda casual asking how the other felt and what they wanted
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Heartache is bad...but need advice
Posted: 3/13/2013 3:31:04 PM
The first post was vague and confusing. From there it go worse. You talk about divorce but say he isn't married. I have know clue what you are saying or even asking
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
STD check anyone?
Posted: 3/5/2013 6:15:29 PM
Start by putting on a sexy nurse outfit. The exam will work much better lol
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Second date, no kiss?
Posted: 3/4/2013 7:53:09 AM
I am pretty shy. If I think I am given the green light I will go for it although I don't think I am good at figuring it out. If the moment never seems right by the 3rd date I will go for a kiss anyway. I figure by this time if she wont kiss me we are wasting time going out
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Webcamming
Posted: 2/17/2013 7:47:32 PM
Um do webcams only work if the people don't have clothes on or something? I talked to a girl from here that had a webcam, I did not. We just chated nothing sexual. Is that a webcam violation???
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 152 (view)
 
Snoring... how do you deal with it??
Posted: 2/17/2013 7:41:19 PM
This was in 04 if he hasn't got medcal treatment by now he is probably dead
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Dating someone who didnt have a positive male role model growing up?
Posted: 2/17/2013 11:40:04 AM
My father was not a good role model. My sisters and brother have had a drug an alcohol problem since I can remeber. It led to one of my sisters death along with letting her health go and not doing anything about it. None of them has had much of a career and have struggled to have a place to live. Most people that meet them then me are amazed we are even related. It comes down to how you deal with lifes problems. You sink or you swim. Nothing is written in stone people in the same situations come out differently. I am by no means perfect but I think and my close friends and family think I am well adjusted.

There are kids that have had a good homelife as a child and still have major problems dealing with life. You never know how someone will turn out. I think a lot of the so called studies are done by people looking for a certain outcome, so they find things that fit the results they want
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 43 (view)
 
Texting rules
Posted: 2/16/2013 8:27:51 AM
I thought there was an edit option?? There not their
Is it ironic I like texting but hate typing. Oh yeah everyone stop typing cause I don't like it ha ha
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Texting rules
Posted: 2/16/2013 8:23:22 AM
I see this as two different things. First there are no rules to texting. As far as the leaving you hanging that is about respect and nothing to do with texting. I have a pretty simple rule no call, no show and your gone. Its not cut and dry but thats the gist. If people don't respect you enough to not leaving you hanging then I don't waste my time. If someone says they are going to let me know or are coming over etc and blow me off, then they need a good reason or they are history. I have never seen that kind of behavoir get better as things go along just worse so unless it doesn't bother you I would listen to his answer but unless its a legit reason why he couldn't call or text and let you know like he said then see ya.

As far as texting I am so freakin tired of people who don't like to text tell people who do they should stop. Some people actually like to text, get over it. If you don't like it don't do it but stop telling other people they shouldn't do it just cause you don't. Get over yourself already you are not the ZAR of the world.

Now people that do text may do it in different ways than you and you just have to accept that the way they do may not be like yours. Some people will text throughout their day, some will only text when the are alone, some hardly text at all. Their are no rules just different ways
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
my horrible funny date story of the day
Posted: 2/16/2013 8:03:16 AM

She likes triangulated relationships. She needs you a 3rd point of the triangle to feel important. Drama is how she expresses her emotional needs like ATTENTION. Through attention she draws her self worth.....


Wow I think the explains everything with my last girlfriend. I never understood her game but thats it
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
being single on V-Day
Posted: 2/15/2013 9:50:29 PM
Just another day of not understanding women. Holiday + ex girlfriends birthday + the day her husband tried to kill her yet she left me to go back to him. The things that make you go hmm
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 140 (view)
 
Ever been turned on by a person's accent?
Posted: 2/15/2013 9:28:07 PM
Southern girl accent gets me every time
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Cheating...forgive?
Posted: 2/15/2013 9:25:47 PM
I have learned over time just the fact that I like someone is not a reason to be with them. What do they bring to the game? He has already done you wrong and you were about to break up with him anyway. What does he bring to the game? He messed up and wants to try again? If thats it move along
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 116 (view)
 
Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone???
Posted: 2/15/2013 9:01:50 PM
I am lucky I am living my dream. It kinda makes it tougher for a mate to fit in but oh well, I am definitely not complaining
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Is it ok to bring new people around kids
Posted: 2/6/2013 5:50:16 PM
Lol I was giving one example. I have met women that I don't agree with how they treat their kids enough that I was not interested in them. I gave an extreme example(made up). I tend to be sarcastic and I think people take way too much too seriously. This thread shows a lot of over reaction in my opinion

And if you think you know all about me from one paragraph thats freakin hillarious
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Is it ok to bring new people around kids
Posted: 2/6/2013 4:26:38 PM
This is definitely something people get very emotional about. I can say I was aound people my parents dated as a child. My dad dated more than my mom but they both did. It never bothered me. I was always meeting different people in different situations.

I don't think I would invest 6 months with a girl and she keeps me away from here kids. For one it would show me she doesn't trust me. It would make it seem like she had something to hide. Last I want to know how she handles her kids. I am not going to wait 6 months to find out someone treats their kids like shit screaming and splaping them or some crap like that to go well nice meeting your kids but I think you are a horrible parent see ya! That just doesn't make sense to me.

I know this will freak people out for sure but my dad took me to bars as a kid. I never once burst into flames lol
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
 
No, you can't bring a friend.
Posted: 2/6/2013 2:35:14 PM
If it was just supposed to be a meet I wouldn't care. If it was an official date then I would not like it. Hell a chance to meet two girls at once, maybe the one you were talking with wouldn't be into you and her friend would be lol
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
How long will you keep a woman's phone number? Why?
Posted: 2/6/2013 1:24:37 PM
I would not keep it in the attempt to contact later but I don't always even think about removing the number from my phone. If I go through and see it but I usually use shortcuts to goto a certain letter so I don't see much. I have found numbers and go wow I still got their number lol but then I will delete it. Sometimes I delete it from the phone memory and forget its on the sim card too so when I get a new phone it will show up again
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Just Curious
Posted: 2/6/2013 1:17:23 PM
I prefer if the woman asks. So many have some mindset already of whats to soon to meet or to long to meet. If you don't happen to guess right some get upset lol. For me it don't matter I could meet pretty much right away or wait a few weeks. I just don't take anyone serious till will meet.
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Post orgasm torture
Posted: 2/5/2013 3:17:06 PM
As with everything people are different and reactions vary. To me its like being tickled. Its not painful its fun in a way but yet you can't control yourself and want it to stop when its happening but when you stop you look back and think it was fun. If I am not tied up I will make it stop or pull away its very much like if I was tickled. I do enjoy it. There are plenty of variations you can do with it too
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 78 (view)
 
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?
Posted: 2/5/2013 2:06:01 PM
She absolutely knew he was 15 and she knew he was my cousin thats how she met him in the first place. He and I were around each other plenty while we were married
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 74 (view)
 
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?
Posted: 2/5/2013 7:27:24 AM
Yesterday I would have said yes but last night I found out she put the moves on my underage cousin, so no I don't care if she had to sleep in a ditch
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
What to do with the hate..
Posted: 2/4/2013 3:13:53 PM
Amelita7557 A friends with benefits is not a prostitue which is illegal. I think you missed the friends part. I for one didn't just go have sex then split. If a girl can't deal with a FWB maybe should at least pretend to be an adult and not do it and claim its what they want or if the develope feelings put on the brakes not lie repeatedly and say they don't have feelings and all the want is FWB
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
What to do with the hate..
Posted: 2/3/2013 6:51:40 PM
Some people are just off. I had a FWB. It was discussed before anything ever happened and we both agreed just friends no relationship. The benefits part was tapering down for a while and ended. We were just friends. When my my died my so called friend got my aunt alone and was telling her how she needed her to convince me to mary her. WTF. There were never any questions on what we were it wasn't what most women on her say about the guy not being honest. I was 100% straight forward and honest always made it clear there was not and never would be would a relationship. Some people are just bat shit crazy, so you can say her side of the story would be different which I don't doubt. Crazy people always a different version of reality
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 41 (view)
 
One Sided Sex?
Posted: 2/3/2013 4:37:22 PM
If she is in the mood then I am in the mood unless I am sick or injured
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 42 (view)
 
What makes sex bad for you?
Posted: 2/3/2013 4:29:42 PM
Rakeing makes part of it bad. The girl said she knew she was great at BJs. I really wanted to correct her but kept my mouth shut. Another girl that had tons more sex than me kept moving opposite to me. I go to her she goes away, I pull back she comes at me. I was like WTF wanted so bad to ask her if she knew how this was supposed to work. Enthusiasm helps a lot but not the over the top fake crap. Just laying there doesn't make things good. Some people just don't work well together. It is after all a team sport, as in it takes two. Some people just don't gell
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Would love some guy input on this!!!
Posted: 12/13/2012 1:08:04 PM
Well when you are so interested in the fact that he had a nice car maybe you missed the signs that he was a sleaze. A girl stopped seeing me once cause she didn't like my car. Still makes me laugh. Doubt she knew I had about 5 cars at that time. Glad I drove the clunker that day! :)
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 103 (view)
 
i know my girlfriend is being unfaithful but i dont know how to approach her about it
Posted: 12/13/2012 1:00:17 PM
I guess people just dig up almost THREE year old topics and laugh at people giving advice to a dead topic!????????
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
What is up with challenging what I don't want?
Posted: 11/19/2012 3:02:59 PM
The hair thing was just one example but the girls that message me with short hair seem to understand that I don't like it, they dismiss the fact that I don't like short hair. I know I can't have all my preferences, I don't have a laundry list of them on my profile. I just figured the fact that I stated it means it matters but I guess not. Again this wasn't about hair but about dismissing or challenging what I am looking for
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
people who are listed as non smokers who don't do drugs yet use marijuana
Posted: 11/18/2012 3:34:02 PM
If I did illegal drugs or any other illegal activity I sure would not post it on the internet for all to see just cause some profile question asks it.
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
HE DELETED ACCOUNT MID-ARRANGEMENT!!!
Posted: 11/18/2012 11:29:49 AM
No irritating posting Styles, including use of all Caps, Shorthand and excessive Punctuation/Blank Lines/Smilies, or changing thread subject lines.

Read the rules please
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
What is up with challenging what I don't want?
Posted: 11/18/2012 8:35:50 AM
Not really sure how to word it as a headline but I find a lot of women do seem to read my profile. They are not what I am looking for, they know it and message me anyway. They say that its not a big deal. I don't know if they are just looking for a challenge or they think because its doesn't matter to them then it doesn't to me.

One example is I say I don't like women with short hair. Most girls that message me have short hair and say it doesn't matter. Well it does matter to me or I wouldn't have stated it.

Also I have stated I don't date women who are seperated. Women that are seperated but have themselves listed as divorced or single message me. I got to the point talking on the phone with a woman. She had been mentioning almost everything in my profile so I know she read it then casually says she is still married but seperated. I didn't say anything for at least a minute I was just stunned. I really wanted to just hang up on her.

Its to the point that I think I should put I dislike what I really want in a woman then those women will start messaging me lol

So are a lot of women here looking to talk someone into liking them that clearly says they don't or whats the deal?
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Replying to messages?
Posted: 9/1/2012 6:04:21 PM
Since your not single and not looking why does it matter??????????
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Dating and messing around
Posted: 8/3/2012 12:38:10 PM
So you kinda dated for 6 months then she eneded it. You may have left lots out but from what you said thats what happens when you date. At some point it either ends or goes to the next step. I don't see the problem, was she obligated to marry you cause you hit the 6th month mark?
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 92 (view)
 
Horrible experience!
Posted: 1/11/2012 2:26:27 PM
Not only do men do this. I have not had one women I have met online that broke things off in any way shape or form communicate anything to me. Just gone. Its a people thing not gender. Any girl I did not want to see anymore I told them or we both stopped contact. Such is online dating
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Do you remember your first-time seeing women without makeup?
Posted: 1/11/2012 2:11:39 PM
Most of the women I have had a long term relationship didn't regularly wear make up, so first time I saw them without was probably when I met them.
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Just a simple question
Posted: 11/21/2011 2:48:52 PM
I don't know if this is an area thing or what but pretty much every girl I talk to asks about past relationships and talks about theirs. I see people always never talk about it but everyone always does. I dunno what to say but if they bring it up then freak out they are cracked if you ask me.
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 65 (view)
 
My latest experience on POF...
Posted: 11/12/2011 8:43:18 PM
I won't date someone or meet somone that is married. If I find out they are a liar along with being married well yeah, bye bye. There are so many people I am not going to deal with someone is married .Get divored and maybe we can talk then.
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Beliefs (Abortion and/or Gun Rights)
Posted: 11/12/2011 6:36:30 PM
Everyone I know is for gun control! Always use two hands lol. Seriously things like that are definitely deal breakers. I was married to someone that had a different way of thinking. We couldn't resolve anything. I didn't even realize till years later how opposin we were
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
bi oral problem
Posted: 9/16/2011 6:00:23 PM
LOL op this is one of those post ment to start S**T but oral sex is sex hence sex in the name. There is no such thing as bi oral. Its straight, gay or bi sexual. It don't matter which but any persons actions explain which they are. If you are a dude and have sexual relations with a dude you are bi. Just like some gay porn actors say they are straight but only have sex with guys for money. Sorry if that be the case you are bi. Who cares though if thats what gets your rocks off have fun
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Modern Men Prioritizing being a Good Husband?
Posted: 9/16/2011 5:49:35 PM
This goes both for men and women. If the word change is mentioned people seem to have a melt down. I do agree you should not just try and make someone happy and become something for that person but there is a big huge but here if you are an complete A hole or have some bad quirks there is nothing at all wrong with self improvement. I don't think there is anyone who couldn't benefit from self improvement, myself included. A lot of people talk about eating better exercising things like that but when do people ever say I am working on being an A Hole a less percent of the time. Everyone is an A Hole at certain times, we can all work at making it less. Dare I mention change. It can be good to change. There is a quote I like from an ad in a guitar magazine its "never change, never adapt never improve and die naked cold and alone".

As I proof read this is I think it kinda sounds like I am trying to sell something or I am self righteous but I am neither. I definitely don't sit on a high horse
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Shirtless After 30
Posted: 9/3/2011 8:55:36 PM
I don't go around shirtless since I have gained weight but when I did it wasn't to show off anything it was cause of the heat. Same with shorts, muscle shirts or sandals. I wear shorts when I am out on my property triming sticker bushes from my trails all by my self. My legs get scratched up but its just too hot for pants. Not everyone is out to make a fashion statement or show off. I actually dress according to the weather
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 133 (view)
 
Concealed weapon on a first date?
Posted: 9/2/2011 9:00:52 PM
op If you want to carry on the first date I would definitely communicate it first.

That being said rational thought goes out the window with some people when the topic of guns come up. I live in Ohio and listened to the carry in bars debate that was passed. FYI you are not allowed to drink and ccl. I heard a politician on the radio against it say he was not worried about the criminal that would pull out a gun in a bar but was worried about the nut job ccl person that would try to shoot the criminal with the gun. I wish I wrote down the guys name so I make sure not to vote for him but its nuts that someone would talk about a criminal like they are rational good person but a person that can legally carry is a nut job.

It fills me with pride when people say stuff like wow only in the USA. Damn straight best place on earth to live! We are free because citzens carried guns whether you like them or not.
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Restocking Lube and Condoms Between Girlfriends?
Posted: 8/31/2011 6:56:01 PM
I am not sure how some of you people use your lube but I don't cram the bottle/tube up thier well you know just like guys are not putting on the condom try a few pumps then put it back in the wrapper. Do people shove the tube of tooth paste in their mouth to get out the tooth paste. I hate to say it but some of you are doing in WRONG!

P.S. by the next time a new girl comes around the so called used lube was for some hand action.
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 52 (view)
 
online dating expectations
Posted: 8/31/2011 7:33:07 AM
It can be a real pain to deal with people that can't take rejection. I had gone out with a girl about 5 times. We had come to an impas. I tried to nicely break things off on the phone. She wouldn't accept it. She wanted me to call her back I did but didn't reach her. So I sent her email explaining things and how I enjoyed time we had spent. She replied with hateful email making things up about me and cursing me.
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 47 (view)
 
what are your experiences with dating sites?
Posted: 8/24/2011 3:06:51 PM
I was on match years ago. I would get mail. Have to pay to read it to find out it was from a flagged member who had been deleted. My membership would run out, get another email, pay money to read it. Again a flagged member who had already been deleted. It was funny how I never got those untill my membership would run out. I end up complaing to customer service got a genric email basically they didn't care. I got fed up wanted to delete my profile but didn't see how so I made it hidden. Twice match sent me emails saying hundreds of people had been checking my profile so I should pay them money to join. Now my profile was hidden so the two emails were flat out lies. Even when it wasn't hidden I did not get those numbers of girls checking my profile. I emailed customer service about the two lying emails just trying to get my money and that I would delete my profile if i knew how. Their response was we deleted your profile like you requested feel free to come back to our site in the future. So all I can say is there motto should be SHOW ME THE MONEY.

I have been on a couple other sites with no real success. My space was awsome till people quit using it. I had met 10 or more girls on there and it was free. I really liked it till it died lol

I have not had much success on here, girls say they want to meet then poof they stop talking. It gets tiresome but I am still here . At least its free and has forums
 
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