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Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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Cafe 34, Sunday 2/15/09, President's Weekend Dance Party Posted: 1/28/2009 1:26:23 PM
Jodiana: I volunteer to do the Name Tags !!!!! Pleeze, Oh Pleeze.... I love sticking them on.

Ms Brat

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Woman won't tell me her last name Posted: 1/8/2009 8:22:07 AM
If you are "going out" with her - does that mean you pick her up at her home? You must know her phone number, where she lives, her license plate and what else?? I think its just weird. If you wanted to, you could find it out for yourself. Why would she be dating you if she didn't trust you? If she doesn't give it up - her name that is - pretty soon, I see this as a big red flag...

Ms Brat

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How to help your love who's down but doesnt want warmth, comfort etc? Posted: 1/8/2009 8:14:40 AM
Shy: Its a tough position for you....but, you really can't "fix" something that doesn't know its broke... Very clearly, your b/f is not happy with his life at the present. He, and only he, can make it better. If he is unhappy or bored or just plain stagnant, he has to take some action.. You can let him know that you are there for him to comfort him or help him make changes, but you cant make those changes for him. Just giving him support in the decisions that he makes to be happy should be telling him that you care. Give him space until he reaches for you, but just let him know you need him as well.....I wish you strength and hang in there!!!

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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This ruined my day,,,,,,, Posted: 1/8/2009 8:00:51 AM
Candi: Im sorry this jerk ruined your day...But pleeze, his opinion shouldn't matter to you....Its what you think when you look in the mirror that counts. You are a beautiful young lady and you should accept that.... If you feel that your body type is "average", thats what counts. Now just go to the mirror and repeat "I am beautiful, I am beautiful.....". You need to know that once you accept yourself, other peoples opinions cant hurt you.

Ms Brat

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Cafe 34 Holiday Weekend Dance Party, January 18th Posted: 1/6/2009 11:27:39 AM
Im looking forward to this one....but, Im coming alone...hope everyone is in a friendly mode... sandy

Ms Brat

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Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 1/5/2009 1:35:16 PM
Sure! There are plenty of good men out there....I would love to meet one that is good for me....

Ms Brat

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Moondoggie At Scooter, Howell, NJ, November 22, 2008 Posted: 11/22/2008 7:08:12 AM
Nice!! Finally something goin on closer to home....Im really going to try to attend. I would love to meet some people just to hang with. WOOHOO!!! sandy

Ms Brat

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BS MY MARRIAGE IS SOME BS? Posted: 10/2/2008 4:29:22 PM
Whats a keylogger?

Ms Brat

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What the heck is up with me Posted: 9/26/2008 6:14:26 PM
It is VERY hard to find someone special in a romantic relationship. Evidentally, you are one step ahead of the game if you are finding dates. Just continue to go out, be yourself and eventually, you will click with someone. Loosen up and just have fun in the meantime. Don't go on a "mission". Live your life and continue to make friends. After all, isn't "love a friendship caught on fire".

Ms Brat

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Theft or revenge? Posted: 9/25/2008 5:11:48 PM
I suppose it fitted him.....

Ms Brat

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Message Board / Forum Stalking Posted: 9/25/2008 1:29:23 PM
Saturnguy: If you spend as much time posting your problems with your girlfriend, why not just take the same amount of time and pack your bags and get out the same door that your balz left thru......

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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How do you kill your emotions? Posted: 9/25/2008 12:27:11 PM
Time heals all wounds Just give yourself time and lots of distance and live your life productively. Keep your goals and stick with them. Emotions will fade. HOPEFULLY.

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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Who likes coffee for a frist date?? Posted: 9/24/2008 2:59:49 PM
Ditto...What she said!

Ms Brat

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Co - Worker Caught BF Wrestling With her Mom. Should she be worried about more? Posted: 9/23/2008 4:59:54 PM
Hey I saw this episode on Cheaters on Saturday night!

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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One week after a meeting, he wants to come to my house Posted: 9/23/2008 4:53:58 PM
Are you the type of girl who allows herself to be pressured? I hope not. If you allow this man to dictate now, what will you allow in the future? Stand up for yourself sister! You are a strong lady who knows right from wrong. If you don't want to have sex with this man (and that is obviously what is on his mind), MAKE IT CLEAR. You don't feel comfortable with the situation - TELL HIM. The longer you listen to his demands, the more you are leading him on. Just say "NO" and put an end to making him think that you will give in the more he intimidates you. Live your life the way you want. You are not desperate and do not have to settle for anything less than the STANDARDS YOU SET.

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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A 1st for me; anyone had this happen? Posted: 9/22/2008 2:39:34 PM
osocute: GOOD ADVICE! I think this book will help in explaining the situation.

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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what to do about seeing an ex of less a year now engaged and wanting a kid Posted: 9/22/2008 1:54:07 PM
Gone Sailin: OMG!!! Karma strikes again!! Is this really true?? I hope so!

Ms Brat

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How to Not Hurt Feelings Posted: 9/20/2008 8:59:07 AM
Did you say e-mail?

Ms Brat

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Pursued until I met for dinner and then 3 days later, dumped Posted: 9/16/2008 10:00:22 AM
You definitely struck a nerve on this man. Sounds to me like he had some type of previous attitude problem with "losing at poker". Red flag? I think so.

Ms Brat

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do you think this is wrong Posted: 9/16/2008 9:53:36 AM
I think you both need a few more years to mature.....

Ms Brat

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Am I really this stupid?? Posted: 9/16/2008 8:02:06 AM
You are a beautiful young lady who should pay attention to the red flags that you see. Steer clear of this entire situation. Its not healthy. If you are so horny that you are willing to sacrifice your self worth - think again. Buy yourself a toy. LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND REPEAT.... "I AM WORTHY, I AM BEAUTIFUL"

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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First date out of how many... Posted: 9/16/2008 6:55:30 AM
Kathy: There are plenty of Man Bashing threads here. I dont read them. Perhaps your post belongs on one of those threads so I dont have it read it either. Your reply is totally inappropriate...

Ms Brat

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His schedule kills me Posted: 9/11/2008 4:04:59 PM
I honestly feel that you must accept him, as is. This is his chosen profession. However, I do feel that if a man wants a woman, nothing will stand in his way. HE will find a way to get what he wants. You made it clear that you want him. How bad does he want you? You tried this once, do you need to try again?

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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Good looking, deep pockets Posted: 9/9/2008 9:41:53 AM
It is EXACTLY what you said....Say it anyway you like... THE WORDS ARE CLEAR. Sounds like you are a BITTER MAN!!

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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Good looking, deep pockets Posted: 9/9/2008 7:09:28 AM
It sounds like you are carrying your "baggage" in your mouth.

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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Prenuptial - maintaining physique - is it reasonable? Posted: 9/6/2008 12:10:34 PM
This is the most pathetic piece of "crap" I have read on POF. You need to look at animal shelters for a mate, not here......

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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To compliment or not to compliment!!! Posted: 9/5/2008 9:25:38 AM
You look adorable in that hat - it was made for you!! Pay him a compliment and watch him return the feelings. Positive reinforcement works wonders, even if it doesn't come natural.

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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Pasta Bake - so simple, even a single man can do it !! Posted: 8/18/2008 2:33:22 PM
Should I assume that I have to fry up the bacon first?

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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Why do men ask me what do I do for a living? Posted: 8/16/2008 12:34:44 PM
Why does this offend you? Are you ashamed? H E L L O.......

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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Wife sues soon to be Ex-husband for 25 million for giving her an STD. Posted: 8/15/2008 9:38:39 AM
Who needs money? She needs the Lorena Bobbitt....

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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What's up with this? Posted: 8/12/2008 2:13:49 PM
I think you make him "comfortable". You feel comfortable, but not appreciated.....If this is all that you need in your life, this man could suit you. If you feel you need to be appreciated, respected and treated more "womanly", this isn't your man. You can't shine shett!

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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Is it ok for a person with a S/O to flirt with others ? Posted: 8/9/2008 1:49:39 PM
No, it is not OK. If you feel a need to flirt with other people, there is something lacking in your relationship. No need to have a S/O if you want to flirt....Just fly solo and do all the flirting your heart desires. In my mind, very seldom is flirting harmless. It always implies that an attraction exists. We dont flirt with people we dont care for. And thats my story and Im sticking with it....

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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I'm told I look XX years younger than my age ... Posted: 8/5/2008 2:25:04 PM
That's right! arwen!!

Ms Brat

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I'm told I look XX years younger than my age ... Posted: 8/5/2008 2:23:40 PM
My feelings exactly, CAROLANN!!!!

Ms Brat

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Well, here's something that flies in the face of POF mantra's..... Posted: 8/5/2008 1:22:39 PM
I would respond, but hmmm, I can't remember the question....Ive been single about 7 years- I think.......

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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she has been diagnosed with bipolarism Posted: 8/5/2008 1:02:01 PM
I feel so very sorry for your situation. I see how young you are and I do hurt for you. You need your father and he doesn't realize how much he needs you. Please stay strong as he works thru this hard time, and remember that everything in life is temporary and hopefully, he will see the damage that his relationship is causing you. I want you to know that his actions have no bearing on your ability and self worth as a wonderful, good person. Try to focus on your life and surround yourself with positive, good people while your dad is "lost" in his own problem. Hang tuf but stay calm. Be focused on achieving your own goals in life. God Bless you.

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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Call his friends baby! Posted: 8/4/2008 9:37:02 AM
If someone calls me "babe, baby, doll, sweety" or anyother term that isn't my name - UGH!!! I tend to think they forgot who I am.....

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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Please just say 'no' ... Posted: 8/2/2008 10:42:14 AM
If you really have to ask your date if she is attracted to you, you can very well assume her answer will be NO. Dating experience should tell you how a female acts when she is interested. If she IS attracted to you, it will be obvious. Therefore, no need to ask. Pay closer attention to the signals your date shows you. They are always evident when you look for them. I can understand why some females find your question "putting them on the spot" and embarrassing. Yeah, I'd say DONT ASK, JUST LISTEN AND YOU WILL HEAR THE ANSWER.

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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Baggage vs Life Experiences ??? Posted: 8/1/2008 9:41:16 AM
IMHO: Life Experience: Those are the encounters, the experiences (both wonderful and horrible), the joys and the sorrows that have developed our personality and our current situation. These are experiences that we have dealt with and have learned from. We wear this as part of our make-up. Its a good thang!! Baggage: Those are the situations and circumstances that we have encountered and still are having a hard time dealing with. We haven't learned from them, as yet. We are still lacking a control of how to handle and overcome these "problems" and "hangups". Its a bad thang!!

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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Good bye and Thank you POF! Posted: 7/30/2008 5:39:08 PM
You can find sex walking to your mailbox. Did you really need to go online?

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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How inconsiderate! Posted: 7/30/2008 5:30:14 PM
Either put up with his girlfriends, or make other living arrangements. You are now both free to date others. If you dont want to see his new flames, just move on and move out. I do realize its easy for me to say and moving is both costly and terribly inconvenient.But there is no way on this earth that the two of you will be able to live together in peace. Not at this point, or any other point down the road. Thats just a fact of life. If you want to be happy, MOVE ON AND MOVE OUT. I wish you luck and love in your future.

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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What should I do? Posted: 7/22/2008 2:09:52 PM
If it looks like a ***, If it smells like a *, If it feels like a ***, Do you want to step in it? RUN - DONT WALK.

Ms Brat

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Opinions please - Is this normal!!!!! Posted: 7/21/2008 1:38:20 PM
DO YOU THINK THIS IS NORMAL??? ARE YOU OFFENDED BY THIS? WHY DO YOU NEED OUR OPINION?? GROSS, DISRESPECTFUL AND SICK!!!!!!

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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When your friend consistantly goes after your guys...? Posted: 7/21/2008 12:17:48 PM
Sorry, she is not your friend.

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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strange behaviour Posted: 7/21/2008 12:12:11 PM
Be happy to be rid of him. You have now seen the Loser in his real "on the spot" behaviour. He could have been a man, said his "hellos" politely and moved on, or he could be the child that he is and act like a "bad lil boy" and try to give you a rise. How nice to see him for what he really is and he is not your problem. Free to do what you please! Life is Good!! ENJOY!!!

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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what shud i do? Posted: 7/21/2008 12:02:46 PM
Its no fun to be ignored, whether in person or by phone and text. It hurts. You may not see it, but you are degrading yourself. You are worthy of attention and affection. Please, do not contact him in any form. Spend the time learning about your true worth and how precious a being you are. Look inward first, then you will see how much you have to offer and who deserves your attention. This man should not be part of your life.

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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Should they stay together? Posted: 7/21/2008 11:01:45 AM
Humm, I have to say I do feel empathy for your ex's situation. She probably regrets discussing the whole matter with her family, and not going directly to her man first. But regardless of feelings, this is a definite "WRONG" and signifies deeper problems going on here. Why couldn't he approach her with his financial difficulty? I could never have trust for this man, regardless of what my heart feels. We have to set boundaries of what is acceptable behavior. If he couldn't communicate, is there really a chance for a future? I think not.

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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Girl suggested activity for first date... Posted: 7/19/2008 2:24:08 PM
SHEEZZ! Talk about making a mountain out of a molehill!!!! What is the problem???? You have a date - now go have a good time......

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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Chinese ladies are they scammers?? Posted: 7/18/2008 5:19:29 PM
Oh gee!! Isn't America big enuf for you? We have our share of ladies from China right here. You can see what you are buying as well.........(please excuse the sarcasim - I have heard too many stories):

Ms Brat

Joined: 1/31/2008

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this site works Posted: 7/17/2008 7:48:16 AM
I wish you two the best that life has to offer. But,don't delete your profile, just hide it.

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