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 Author Thread: Biting/Slapping/Etc.
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Biting/Slapping/Etc.
Posted: 9/21/2009 3:53:10 PM
Chandlers wish nailed it.

It's about control and submission.
Some women just get really turned on by that feeling of helplessness.
It takes a great deal of trust on their part to release control and allow a man to hold them down, pull their hair, tie them up etc.
Personally I would never slap a woman even if she wanted it, however pulling hair, spanking, light bondage etc can be fun if the woman is excited by it.
I know there are men out there who like dominant women too, but I'm not one of them.
A little bite or hair pulling is fine if she wants to wrestle and play rough, but don't expect to win that battle.
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 66 (view)
 
Cheating...do men really do it more than women?
Posted: 9/21/2009 2:47:26 PM
I believe it's just as common for women. The last statistics I read were something like 60% of men and 40% of women would cheat at some time in their lives.
Those statistics have to be based or surveys, and I'm betting that men are quicker to admit it than women due to the whole double standard thing.
Women are programmed from a young age to appear virtuous and many go to great lengths to keep up that facade.

The more interesting question is; What motivates men to cheat, and what motivates women?

Is it sex? Is it ego? Is it a need to feel desired? Is it power? Is it boredom? I think I'll start my own thread.........
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 108 (view)
 
Do guys like sweet & innocent or naughty girls?
Posted: 9/21/2009 2:18:56 PM
I think the more confident a guy is the better he can handle the naughty girls.
Sweet and innocent can become old and boring really fast if the woman keeps up the pretense for too long. Insecure guys may need that to feel safe.

Personally I don't care for women who try to be dominate (just my preference), but I like a woman to be open sexually. Don't pretend to be a 40 YO virgin.
Instead embrace your sexuality and let's make it incredible for each other. Forget the double standard and show me what you like.
Communicate..............
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 419 (view)
 
Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 9/21/2009 1:44:29 PM
I can only speak for myself, but I have some very attractive female friends with whom I wouldn't dream of risking the relationship by allowing it to become romantic or sexual.
Women communicate on a deeper level than men in most cases.
They aren't afraid to show their feelings or to be vulnerable.
Guy time is great, but somewhat shallow for the most part.
Sometimes it's nice to have someone that you trust to talk to about your deeper feelings.
There aren't that many male friends that I feel comfortable dropping my guard completely with.
I've heard women say the same about other women.

I have a very close female friend that is a knockout, but she has issues with insecurities etc that make her undatable for me. She is too needy, and I know that would be a deal breaker for me.
She recognizes this, largely due to our openness and accepts it, and is trying hard to work on it to improve her romantic relationships.
I try to help to help her understand the male perspective and vice versa.
I believe it makes us both better people.
I love her company, and enjoy talking with her.
I'd do anything in the world for her and I'd trust her with anything.
I just know that taking things to the next level would ruin our friendship.
I know she would drive me crazy just like I have seen her do to other guys, so I'm happy to have her as my friend.

I also have a couple of X lovers that I remain friends with.
They are both engaged at this point and I wish them all the best.
We'll see if the friendship can survive long term, but for now I'm very happy to still have them in my life as just friends.
Sometimes the friendship turns out to be the best and most enduring part of a relationship.
Why should we have to throw that out the window when we move on?
We know each other better than most anyone. We accept and care about each other even knowing all of our flaws.
So we weren't the perfect fit to spend our lives together.....
Does that have to mean we can't salvage the friendship?

What it comes down to is that male or female we all all just human.
We have differences, strengths and weaknesses common to our gender.
We can learn from each other and understand the opposite sex better by having other gender friends.
Anyone who doesn't is probably going to struggle to keep a relationship working long term.
Maybe when the right one finally shows up, it could help me to be the best I can be for her, and to understand all those little confusing quirks for what they are. Just part of being a woman.

 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
what's up with this?
Posted: 9/21/2009 7:48:50 AM
Do you really think he'd hear you?
He sounds like he's so self absorbed that he wouldn't accept criticism, constructive or not.
Some people just don't get it, and you can't help them.
I wouldn't even bother trying, unless you want to spend hours hearing about why you're wrong and how great he is.
Just move on.
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Don't know what to do? I'm not in control...
Posted: 9/18/2009 7:36:09 AM
You're right, you aren't in control.
My advice is to end it now.
Tell her if that's her choice you wish her the best, but you won't be hanging around to suffer until she leaves. Then DO NOT call her or see her anymore.

She still has 2 months to spend here without you.

If you spend this time together and she leaves, chances are she won't be back. It's over.
By making her make a choice while she's still here you have a chance.
Maybe she will be so unhappy she will realize that going back would be a mistake, or maybe this is it. You can't control someone else's feelings. All you can really control is your reaction.
Either way, don't let her call the shots here.
Keep your self respect.
China is certainly a different culture, but she has had a taste of freedom.
Make her choose now.
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 70 (view)
 
What is too easy?
Posted: 8/4/2009 9:22:37 AM
I think this subject is often over thought by both Men and Women. As far as I'm concerned the Old Double Standard is dead, and good riddance! Why should women have a different set of rules than men? Why should a woman who enjoys sex for the sake of pleasure be labeled a slut, while a man who sleeps around is a hero to his friends? Too many people are quick to judge women as easy and men as players. We are all adults and we make choices. Who hasn't put aside their own standards at some time and gone for the easy one night stand? So who is qualified to throw stones?

Sex is only one aspect of a relationship, an important one, but it isn't enough to remain with someone when there are other areas that don't work.

All that being said; As a rule I personally prefer to get to know someone intimately before becoming physically intimate.

Why would I want meaningless sex with a stranger? I'd rather let the anticipation build until we both could hardly think of anything else. That feeling that comes from a really good kiss and leaves you longing for more. Really great sex starts in the mind long before it becomes physical. Tease me, tempt me, stimulate my mind and make me dream of you, and be prepared for the same from me.
Instant gratification is over rated in my opinion.

The other side of that coin is; when you spend time getting to know someone you often find that they really aren't someone you want to be in a relationship with anyway.
If you're already sleeping together it's harder to move on, plus if the sex is good but other things aren't right you may be tempted to hold on longer than you should.

So if you are looking for a relationship, my advice is take your time. If you just wanna get laid, go for it but be honest and call it what it is. It doesn't mean it couldn't develop into more. Honesty is a good place to start.
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Favorite bumper stickers
Posted: 4/29/2009 6:09:58 PM
Saw one leaving the Church parking lot last Sunday;

Blessed be the peacemakers
so let's kick everyone else s ass
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Nice guys finish last is a sad truth...
Posted: 4/29/2009 4:59:49 PM
Comfort 123 is right. As these girls mature they will learn to appreciate your good qualities, and I'm certainly not advocating that you be "hyper aggressive."
I believe in treating women with the utmost respect, but all I'm saying is that you have to respect yourself first in order to gain and keep their respect.
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
gave up on me
Posted: 4/29/2009 4:30:03 PM
How do you start over.
Step one; Stop blaming yourself. This woman had five different affairs while you were busting your ass to support her and your kids. She blamed you and made you feel bad for not giving her everything she wanted.
Expensive vacations, new cars etc. Tell me, what did she do for you? You gave up your life and all the things that you enjoyed, and she treated you like dirt.
Right now you are hurt and can't see the hurt ever ending, but you know what, it will.
Pick yourself up and dust yourself off and take back your self respect.
You would be the biggest idiot alive to ever give this woman the time of day again.
You can't see it now, but I promise you, this is the best thing that could have happened to you. Find yourself again. Remake yourself into the kind of man that you want to be.
There are lot's of terrific women out there in your age range that would love to meet a good honest hard working man like you.
Your new life begins when you sign those papers.
What are you gonna make of it?
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Nice guys finish last is a sad truth...
Posted: 4/29/2009 3:37:49 PM
It's unfortunate, but true; both men and women like to feel challenged. It's human nature to feel that if it's too easy, there's something wrong.
That's why women like bad boy types like your second girls X that she couldn't stop talking about. It makes them feel special if they can win over the guy who is hard to hold on to.

A sweet caring guy like you unfortunately gets shifted into the friend zone in her mind.
She wants to want you, but doesn't understand why she can't

Attractive women are used to guys telling them how beautiful they are and doing things for them to try and win their favor. Kissing their ass basically.
I'm sure you are a really nice guy, and that's a good thing.
But sometimes nice guys let women run over them, and the women loose respect for a man who doesn't act like a man and stand up for himself.
Some times that may mean telling her in no uncertain terms what your limits and boundaries are and that you won't tolerate her crossing them.
That may mean being willing to challenge her and risk her leaving.
It may mean walking away yourself, but at least you'll be leaving with your self respect in tact.
A man can be a gentleman, and still be a man, and when it comes down to it women respect strength. They don't want someone they perceive as wimpy.
It's a good thing to be genuine, honest and caring. But to be the kind of guy women want, you have to care for yourself first. It is possible to be too nice.
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
GIRL SEX DREAM
Posted: 4/29/2009 8:18:31 AM
Heptone, I disagree. Staring at a waitress is a choice, dreams are not.
Also if you ever have the kind of relationship where you can tell your sig other anything without worrying about their reaction because there is such an intimate level of trust, you will never settle for anything less again. Insecurity and jealousy is a deal breaker for me.

I'm not saying every thing that pops into your head has to be shared, but feeling that you have to hold things back to keep the peace is just a shame.

Everyone is going to feel attraction for someone else at times. It doesn't mean you will act on it or even want to, but denying it is just a lie. One lie leads to another.
I have no problem with someone I'm with telling me she thinks some other guy is hot. She's coming home with me, and that's all that matters.
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Why do women want to change men?
Posted: 4/29/2009 6:33:10 AM
In most cases I don't believe either gender is really up front in the beginning about who they are. I don't think a lot of people even know themselves. Dating would be so much simpler if everyone just went out and said this is who I am, this is what I'm like, this is what I want, and you either like me or you don't.

Many little girls grow up playing Cinderella and looking for their Prince Charming. They have this mental picture in their mind of what he should be like. They also have a dream of how their life should be, right up to the Gown they will wear at their wedding and what happily ever after means to them.
I think a lot of times they find a guy that fits some part of that Princely image and set out fix the parts that don't fit the mold.

This is not true of all women, and many learn with experience that this doesn't work. Sometimes they reach their goal and marry some guy, only to be let down when reality sets in. Then they try even harder to change him until finally it dawns on them that he really wasn't right for them in the first place. It was all about about chasing the dream.

Fortunately, some women are more realistic from the start and understand that people only change because they want to change for themselves. Others figure it out as they age and are let down.

BTW men can be just as guilty of this as women. We have our own preconceived ideas of the perfect woman. Men often go for beauty and ignore the person inside, only to find themselves miserable when they get what they wanted. Hopefully we will all live and learn from our mistakes, and maybe get it right next time.
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
GIRL SEX DREAM
Posted: 4/29/2009 5:40:48 AM
What a silly reaction. His insecurity is showing. Personally I would have wanted all the details and to relive the dream with you, but that's just me.
I had an X once that dreamed I was with someone else and woke up ready to fight. She couldn't seem to understand that I wasn't responsible for her dreams, much less my own. That's one reason she is an X.
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Agree or Disagree: Just the sex by itself could keep you in a relationship if it was that good.
Posted: 4/28/2009 2:24:35 PM
Good sex isn't hard to find, but someone you want to wake up next to day after day is.
I want someone that I want to hold all night after the sweating is done.
The best sex is always gonna be with someone that you love, respect, can communicate with both verbally and nonverbally, and can be playful with. If you find someone who you feel safe enough to share fantasies and dreams, that is willing to give and receive equally, and that you trust with your heart, the sex can be off the charts for both of you. If you can't get enough of each other out of bed, how great is the time gonna be when just the two of you are there alone with no other agenda but to please each other?
Why would I settle for less after having experienced that?
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Marriage and a paradigm shift in the way it's perceived
Posted: 4/28/2009 1:01:24 PM
Cassago you're right, because a woman wrote it doesn't make it true. I was just pointing out that the opinion that I quoted wasn't a male one, because it even sounded to me as if it was male biased.
And BTW I have a Mom and don't want another one. I prefer to do the cooking even when I'm with someone, clean my own house, do my own laundry and hate golf.

I didn't mean to generalize with my post or suggest that the problems with marriage are always a womens fault. I was merely throwing out some food for thought that at least in my case proved to be accurate. There are thousands of ways for a marriage to go wrong, and it is rarely one person that is to blame.
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Marriage and a paradigm shift in the way it's perceived
Posted: 4/28/2009 6:45:12 AM
The following is an excerpt from an online book I purchased while trying to understand why my X had an affair. It's called "Womens Infidelity" written by Michelle Langley, and yes before you women bash me, it was written by a woman, and no I don't think it applies to all women, but defiantly to some.

I believe that many little girls grow up hearing fairy tales about Knights in Shining Armor and Princes and dream of being a Princess. Then when reality sets in and their Prince turns out to be flawed, they become disillusioned. That's why if someone here has any of those terms in her profile, she will never hear from me.
Here is the quote;

Yes, women are angry in part because they’ve grown up under
a double standard, but also because of circumstances they’ve put
up with in order to get married. When a woman wants to get married,
she will usually overlook a lot, and at times allow herself to
be treated pretty badly. After she gets married, not only is the excitement
of pursuit over, after a few years of marriage the attraction
buzz has dissipated, too. At that point, many women may find
that marriage hasn’t even come close to meeting their expectations.
Some women feel stupid for having wanted it so badly in
the first place, especially since marriage probably increased their
workload.
What are women expecting when they get married?
They’re expecting the feeling to last, the feeling they had while
they were pursuing their lover and looking forward to fulfilling
their fantasy.
I guess that’s why women are always trying to change men.
They don’t necessarily want the guy—they just want to get married.
Yes, that’s often the case. Females want to wear the dress and
have the wedding. Women like the idea of getting married. Many
women have looked forward to that day their whole lives, which
ultimately sets them up for a huge crash.
Most women are happiest when focused on fulfilling some
part of the get-married-and-live-happily-ever-after fantasy. They are
content, even in relatively unfulfilling relationships, as long some
part of the fantasy is left to play out.
First, women focus on getting the man, then they focus on
planning the wedding, then they focus on being a good wife and
buying and decorating a house, then they focus on having a baby
and, finally, they focus on why they wanted all this in the first
place.
Contrary to popular assumption, women don’t put nearly as
much effort into their relationships with their boyfriends and husbands
as they put into trying to accomplish their goal of getting
married and becoming a wife and mother. It’s only after they’ve
accomplished these goals that they begin to evaluate the relationship
itself.
I guess that’s why men have all the power before marriage
and women have it after marriage. A woman will behave any way
she thinks a man wants her to prior to marriage. She won’t ****
about a thing. But after you marry her, you find out she doesn’t
like a ****ing thing about you!
Do you know how bad it feels to have your wife look at you
as though you’re the single most disappointing thing in her life?
But she’ll never tell you why she’s so disappointed, or how you
can stop disappointing her. And what’s really ****ed up is, if you
can’t guess what she wants you don’t get to live with your kids.
Do you know why men don’t like to talk to their wives? It’s
because every conversation is a guessing game. Talking to a woman
is like playing a game of chess. Men think that when they find a
woman who really loves them, they’ll be able to talk about some
of the things that really bother them, or for that matter, the things
that really matter to them. But it doesn’t take men long to realize
that life will be a lot more peaceful if they just keep their mouths
shut. When a woman says, “Tell me how you feel,” she really
means, “Make me feel good!”
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Why would you want to remain friends with an ex
Posted: 4/24/2009 2:51:52 PM
Because sometimes after being involved with someone you realize that while they may not be the one for you, that the best part of the relationship is the friendship. You know the person better than most anyone. You accept the good with the bad as they do you. You care about each other and want their happiness. If two people are mature enough to end a relationship amiably and remain friends, it can be one of the best friendships imaginable. Why give that up if you don't have to?
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 122 (view)
 
Older women are less inhibited?
Posted: 4/9/2009 2:59:53 PM
dlm get's it, and that's very sexy. Confidence is a magnet to men just as it is to women. Surely you all realize that you are drawn to a man who is comfortable in his own skin. Someone who doesn't need your approval to be themselves.
Knowing what you want and simply going for it without reservation is sexy.
Accepting your own body and your own sexuality is too.
Give me a woman who doesn't second guess herself. One who isn't worried about what you'll think of her in the morning because she knows it's not her issue, it's yours.

Great sex is a gift you give to your lover and she in turn gives back to you. dlm is right, it is about what happens before and after. Touch, anticipation, connection, trust, closeness, flirting, playing, teasing. With the right older woman the indecisiveness is gone, and you can concentrate on each other. How hot is that?
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 61 (view)
 
When my man won't give up his women friends......
Posted: 4/8/2009 8:11:46 PM
Do the poor guy a big favor and dump him. Thank God he has the balls to stand up to you and refuse to give up his friends.
He has a right to be friends with whoever he chooses. You either trust him or you don't. If you don't, I'm guessing the problem is yours, and not because he doesn't deserve to be trusted.
You have no right after 5 months or 5 years to tell him who he can communicate with.

Why is it that some people think you should have to give up friendship wit 1/2 the worlds population (the opposite sex), to be with them.
You reek of insecurity when you act this way. You seem clingy, petty, and jealous, over what? They obviously have shared a lot of their lives over 18 years. That doesn't mean there is a romantic aspect to it. If there was he could choose to pursue her, but in 18 years he hasn't.
Ask yourself ; If she was a guy, would you feel the need to come between them?
If there was anything inappropriate going on, why would he have even told you about her?
So where does the inappropriateness come in?

BTW, how does he feel about you being on a dating site as you try and change him into your idea of what he needs to be? Does he even know? Cause some might view that as inappropriate.
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 82 (view)
 
How can you tell your boyfriend i cheated on you
Posted: 4/8/2009 7:40:06 PM
Sure what you did was wrong, but the way he was treating you was wrong too.
When someone becomes possessive and jealous for no apparent reason, it often means that they have something to hide. It may be that he felt the relationship growing stale and was trying to force you to stay in it anyway. Or he may have been having his own little fling on the side and projecting his character flaws on you. The most jealous people are often the most untrustworthy.
Either way, you should have probably just told him that you needed a break to see whether you wanted to continue being with him rather than cheating.
That being said, you are young and you were drinking, so I don't think you should beat yourself up too much over it. We're all human, in spite of what some of the holier than thou posters would have you believe.
You feel bad about what you did. You stopped doing it right away. Alcohol and desire for what you were missing in your relationship made you vulnerable.
Forgive yourself and move past it.
I wouldn't tell him, I'd just end the relationship. No point in hurting him if He's not what you want anyway. Just learn from it and become a better person for your mistake.
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 155 (view)
 
Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 4/7/2009 8:32:11 PM
I hear this all the time from women I talk to here. My guess is a lot of guys just look at it as a #s game. Ask enough women and someone will say yes. I think it's a sad commentary on online dating and modern relationships in general.
Personally I have no interest in sleeping with a complete stranger. I prefer to wait for someone who stimulates me mentally as well as physically, and can carry on an interesting conversation. Someone that I can enjoy on many different levels, and who I like and respect as a person.
I enjoy the anticipation, the flirting and the seduction. Being playful with each other adds so much pleasure when the time is right. I don't like rushing something so intimate and potentially powerful. Give me quality over quantity anytime.
Otherwise why not just get a blow up doll?
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 40 (view)
 
The attitude required to attract women
Posted: 3/25/2009 11:07:33 AM
The attitude comes from inside. I don't think it's something that can be faked. If you are truly happy with yourself, and believe that what you have to offer is worthwhile, it will show.
If you don't believe in yourself deep down, that will show too, no matter how hard you try to put on some fake persona.
For example, if you see an attractive woman across the room, and you muster the courage to approach her only to be snubbed, or worse laughed at by her and her friends, how would you feel?
Would your first thought be one of "anger, humiliation, contempt, shame? Would you slink away and leave the place as soon as possible? Would you sulk, and get drunk?

Or would you simply laugh it off and go on enjoying your evening, realizing that she is missing out.
Maybe she is just having a girls night and doesn't want to be bothered. Maybe she has a great guy at home. Maybe she is just testing you. Maybe she is putting on a show for her girlfriends. There could be any # of reasons she acted that way that have nothing to do with you.

Personally I would think, 'OK, so she wasn't the kind of woman I want to know anyway if she came across as rude, and I would simply move on and enjoy my night.
You would be surprised how often the same woman or someone else in the group will approach you later if they sense your confidence.

Realize she doesn't even know you. Her opinion means nothing, and shouldn't have any effect on your self esteem. It doesn't change who you are in the least, and there are other women out there more worthy of your attention.

Chances are someone who is rude or mean, is probably suffering from low self esteem themselves. At least on the deepest level, because someone like that can't truly like them self very much. At least that's what I have observed.
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 243 (view)
 
Simple things you remember about someone special - past or present
Posted: 3/25/2009 10:27:28 AM
The fire in her eyes when we made love.
It was intoxicating.
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 92 (view)
 
Older women are less inhibited?
Posted: 3/24/2009 3:29:24 PM
I'm sure it's at least partially biological, but there's more to it than that. As women get older they begin to own their sexuality. They stop buying into the old double standard that they grew up with. Namely that men who had lot's of sex were hero's and women who had lot's of sex were sluts.
We all grow and learn and hopefully improve with age and life experience.
Young guys in general (not all I'm sure) tend to be selfish lovers, while some of us as we age learn that patience, anticipation, seduction, and foreplay make sex a much more rewarding experience not only for women, but for us as well.
Personally, I prefer older women (who take care of themselves) to younger women. Less drama, and more appreciation for what I have to offer.
So if you 20 somethings are lucky enough to catch a cougar, slow down and pay attention. She has a lot to teach you about being a man.
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
happyness is just dating or is it long term that makes happyness
Posted: 3/24/2009 3:05:01 PM
Happiness is an internal thing. You either have it or you are constantly seeking it. Most people look outside themselves to find happiness and they are always let down eventually. I know it's cliche, but it doesn't make it less true; you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. It's also true that if you love yourself as you should, you won't remain in an unhealthy relationship. So, I guess the answer for me is, If I'm with someone who loves and supports me, and appreciates me for who I am (good with the bad), then I hope it lasts forever. If it doesn't, I've lived and loved enough to know that something even better is waiting for me. Why? Because I'm getting better with age, and I know and like who I am. If someone else doesn't get it, it doesn't change that fact.

As a side note I want to quote Blk_____Archangel7.
"being with someone that respects, cares, loves and trusts me is what keeps me happy. Anyone who can't do that is not worth the time or day."

Ladies, this is the secret to keeping your man loyal and true. We are simple creatures. This is all we need from you............. Oh and great sex of course!
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 54 (view)
 
What would you really do??
Posted: 3/24/2009 2:35:15 PM
Run!!!!!!!!!!! Pack whatever you can and send for the rest. It sounds as if she may be either Bi Polar or have Borderline Personality Disorder. If so, just understand that you can't fix her, and nothing you do will ever make her happy. Do what's best for your Daughter of course, but sometimes what's best is creating a healthy environment for her away from the insanity.
In case you haven't guessed, I have lived with someone like this. I only wish someone would have given me this advise much sooner, and I had been smart enough to listen.
Oh, and be prepared to be demonized when you leave. Everything from deserting her, to the problems with the world will be your fault.
Best of luck to you. If you want more info I have some books you could read. Just write me.
As I said, I tried hard to fix things...........
Life is so much better now.
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 88 (view)
 
What if you were being tracked by your cell phone?
Posted: 1/12/2009 6:01:44 AM
Dump his insecure ass! That's nuts!
 whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 113 (view)
 
Getting even or holding a grudge... which would you do?
Posted: 1/12/2009 5:57:45 AM
Neither.
Move on, let it go and forget them.
Nothing you do to them is gonna change who they are, and why do you care anyway?
Grudges sap your energy, cause stress, and will make you old and bitter before your time. Life is too short to let someone else do that to you. As long as you give a damn, he is controlling your life. Walk away and don't look back. Be happy, that's the best revenge you could ever have.
 watusee
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Camp/Kayak/Canoe Spirit of Suwannee Music Park in Live Oak Florida, August 8 to the 10th
Posted: 8/7/2008 1:59:50 PM
Does anyone still have room for one more tent? I just found myself newly single and without plans for the weekend, and this sounds like a great way to spend it. Also I have a whitewater kayak, but it would probably get uncomfortable on a long trip like this on flat water, so if anyone wants to share a double, let me know.
 watusee
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Orlando - Canoe/kayak and Picnic Sat, May 17
Posted: 4/16/2008 6:09:45 PM
This sounds like too much fun to pass up. I'll be traveling in from Jacksonville and probably camping too.
So, I read that some others are thinking of camping. I noticed several campsites along the river on the map. Where will you be staying? I have several tents, sleeping bags etc that I can bring along if anyone is interested but doesn't have the equipment. Just let me know ahead of time. I will also be bringing my whitewater kayak, but on a five hour trip it may get a little uncomfortable, so if someone wants to try it out and switch out along the way, feel free to ask. Great idea Dixie. I can't wait to meet Y'all.
 watusee
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 405 (view)
 
best ways to get even with your ex
Posted: 4/13/2008 7:42:26 PM
The best revenge is to be happy. Move on and let him see He isn't important enough to waste you energy on. Let it go and realize life is too short to waste one more minute on something that's in the past, and probably never was what you believed it to be in the first place.
 watusee
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 172 (view)
 
Is it just a guy thing or am i being a prude?????
Posted: 4/13/2008 7:37:02 PM
Unfortunately it probably means that yes he is still the same guy and he is fooling you. Some guys are all about racking up notches and bragging to their friends about it. It's immature and kind of stupid, but not that uncommon unfortunately. Chances are if he was treating this other girl as if he was into her, and out hitting the bars for warm bodies, he is doing the same with you. Sorry. Just keep your eyes open and you'll see the signs for yourself I'm sure.
 
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