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wellhowdyhi

Joined: 6/27/2005

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Are you in a happy relationship, but are still looking? Posted: 12/8/2006 1:03:49 PM
I agree with you. If they are not satisfied, it means they are not satisfied with themselves and try tp project it to other people.

wellhowdyhi

Joined: 6/27/2005

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Are you in a happy relationship, but are still looking? Posted: 12/8/2006 12:59:26 PM
I know people are always looking for better even if they are with their dream person. People are never satisfied.

wellhowdyhi

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Are you in a happy relationship, but are still looking? Posted: 12/8/2006 11:01:40 AM
I am curious if there are people out there who met someone on this website and have found the person of your dreams. Even though, you met the person of your dreams, you are here trying to find someone even better. Is that you?

wellhowdyhi

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Those of you using this site to meet people... Posted: 12/8/2006 10:56:08 AM
It is so easy to hit the delete button. I did not look at your ad, but you could spell out restrictions in your ad that would keep out the unwanted people.

wellhowdyhi

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The evolution of online dating. Posted: 12/8/2006 10:52:21 AM
Online dating will always have a minor disadvantage. No matter how many e-mails, phone calls and pictures someone sends out the first meeting in person will decide it all. Many times I have had women constantly tell me that they love me ( before meeting). Then we would meet and there is no chemistry- it was over right there. Sometimes there was chemistry. No matter what any body says, it is the chemistry. The old- fashioned way of meeting people will never disappear. That option will always be there.

wellhowdyhi

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I'm attending a pre dating event next Friday........ Posted: 12/8/2006 10:46:36 AM
It is fun. But, do not hog the conversation. You talk for about 3 minutes and let the other person have their 3 minutes. I do not mean 3 minutes straight. Take turns. Ge the phone numbers and call back who you want 2 or 3 days later.

wellhowdyhi

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How long should people search on a dating site Posted: 12/8/2006 10:43:25 AM
Dating sites are amazing in a way. It sometimes takes lowly rated people and elevates them to a level that gives them an ego that they never had before. Many reality shows on TV take an unknown person and makes them a hero. I used to know a woman who used to be nice and I was supposely her equal. Then she was the winner of a reality show and now does not even want to talk to me since I am not a famous person like her. These dating websites has the same effect. Suddenly a woman or man who could not get dates in real life gets more than 100 people running after them- it goes to their head. I would keep my options open. Do not give up the dating website but also try to meet people in real life, the old fashioned way. At a store, at a ball game, bar, school, and work, etc.

wellhowdyhi

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What is the protocol to date several at one time Posted: 12/8/2006 10:34:02 AM
Always be open and do not hide your feelings.

wellhowdyhi

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Alive and in pain Vs. bored but secure Posted: 12/8/2006 10:30:34 AM
I will definitely pick choice A Since I am older than many of you, I have had both A and B. I have found that in both situations I got hurt anyway. In the B situation, I had someone who fit the description to the T. The person was so unintelligent, that due to her family pressure she dropped me for a reason that a 2 year old person would use.

wellhowdyhi

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asked out on a date IMMEDIATELY!! Posted: 5/10/2006 11:49:44 PM
Bring along a friend with you.

wellhowdyhi

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Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X????? Posted: 5/10/2006 11:40:39 PM
Sounds like a good challenge. The trick is to keep everybody happy at the same time.

wellhowdyhi

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Interracial dating- more interesting or boring Posted: 5/1/2006 9:03:25 AM
If you date someone of the same color do you find it easier but do you find it boring? If you date someone of a different color or culture do you find it more interesting but challenging?

wellhowdyhi

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Internet easier to find someone to date? Posted: 5/1/2006 8:57:55 AM
All of us use the internet for similar reasons. Is it easier for you to find a suitable date on the internet or meeting them in "real life" face to face ?

wellhowdyhi

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CELL PHONES!!! Posted: 4/30/2006 11:38:30 AM
A few years ago the cell phones were actually used for emergencies. I had a phone that received a total of 20 "free" minutes a month. I did not want to pay an extra dollar per minute for "overtime". The usage was less for most people for that reason. Now, of course, due to competition most cell phone companies give you many included minutes. So many people use the cell phone as their primary phone. But, there is a time and place for everything. The girl you were dating was the rude one. Other than the emergency phone call it is definitely rude to carry on a phone conversation with someone else for a half an hour. Properly, she should have looked at the caller's ID and let her sister leave a recorded message, or pick up the phone, talk to the sister for a few seconds and mention she will call the sister back. I have seen both men and women being guilty of talking on the cell phone at the wrong time. Worse yet, get off the phone when you are driving a car. I have seen too many accidents directly related to cell phone usage. Based on what you mentioned I have seen nothing wrong with your actions.

wellhowdyhi

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To those who have a long shopping list of requirements does it help your relationship? Posted: 4/9/2006 10:30:22 AM
I like that answer- regarding a child at X-Mas. But it has been many years since many of the people here have been a child but, they still act worst than a child.

wellhowdyhi

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What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site? Posted: 4/9/2006 10:15:00 AM
You should ask if he ever goes back to the dating website. If he says no, then you know where you stand. Then he is Mr. liar. If he says yes, then you could ask him why. He might say, yes - he is still talking to some "friends" that are on the website that are just platonic,etc.

wellhowdyhi

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Friends of ex's... Posted: 3/11/2006 11:27:16 AM
If you are interested in risk taking that could work out. But do not be too surprised if your ex is there as a consultant to your date. It is possible that your ex would be a good source to your date to bring up ALL your negative attributes.

wellhowdyhi

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To those who have a long shopping list of requirements does it help your relationship? Posted: 3/11/2006 11:24:17 AM
I am just interested in this matter since I see some of the same people here and other websites continuing with the same demands or requirements over a period of long time. I was just wondering if they are serious about not being flexible and are alone for all this time since they are so rigid in their selection criteria or are they involved in a relationship and have an ad just for kicks.

wellhowdyhi

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I never knew how shallow I was until last night Posted: 3/11/2006 11:08:07 AM
If you really liked this guy then you should have made an agreement with him. You would help him over a period of (who knows how long) time lose enough weight so he could get into the upper-end of the normal (healthy) range. I am not suggesting you stick around with him for two years. But, he has to seriously lose weight every month per agreement. A good exercise and diet program should do it.

wellhowdyhi

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im confused Posted: 3/4/2006 1:37:58 PM
It is just the opportunity game. The girls used your friends to get free drinks. All they wanted were free drinks. You happened to be there at the right or wrong time. Any other guy who would have been there at that time would be given the numbers. Usually the numbers given are fake, was that the case?

wellhowdyhi

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To those who have a long shopping list of requirements does it help your relationship? Posted: 3/4/2006 1:30:00 PM
We know most people are back here because they are looking or still looking ( for ever). But, I believe my original question relates to people who had a past relationship that either worked or did not work.

wellhowdyhi

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To those who have a long shopping list of requirements does it help your relationship? Posted: 3/4/2006 1:20:15 PM
I have noticed many ads where people have a long list of requirements of which their future partner must posess. So you find this person who has almost 100% of your requirements, so what is next? Have you been successful in the past when you find someone with all your requirements? Have you been successful in the past where your partner only had less than one half of the things you are requesting. For example, he or she must have brown eyes, must have brown hair, must be fancy dresser, must sleep exactly 8.2 hours a night, etc.

wellhowdyhi

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Silence Posted: 2/11/2006 11:55:23 AM
You guessed it right. Maybe they need counseling. Figure out if you want to save the marriage. Determine why they are silent and what you need to do to make them talk. Most likely it is over.

wellhowdyhi

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Relations good until their parents forced them to dump me since my religion and color was different Posted: 2/10/2006 12:38:57 PM
Thank you for your responses. Actually I had three strikes against me. I did not want to mention the most important factor since it would possibly change your viewpoints. But, I think babie dollz hit it in a way. Yes, the woman was substantially younger than I was. There was only about a 30 year difference in our ages. ( no problem). Since she was in her 20's the parents could not accept the age difference. I do realize that most people feel that a couple should be in the same age group. So the breakup was not completely unexpected. Yes, I may try to find women closer to my age, but I feel more comfortable with the younger women. Everyone has their preferences.

wellhowdyhi

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got rejected first time in my life Posted: 2/9/2006 5:10:52 PM
I have to congratulate you for being brave. That is the reason why most women do not make the first move. Most of them have a big fear of being rejected. They have no problem being the one to reject the guys. I wish more girls would make the first move. Continue making the first move at times when you feel that is the best thing to do. Girls by not making the first move could end up losing the best guy for them. People reject other people for many different reasons.

wellhowdyhi

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Relations good until their parents forced them to dump me since my religion and color was different Posted: 2/9/2006 5:00:04 PM
How many of you were faced with this situation. You are involved in a relationship that is going great, up until you meet their parents. Right after that you get dumped and were told the reason for dumping was that your religion and/or color was different than their parents. Things are tough enough to find the right person for a relationship. Here the parents come up with something so trivial as looking at someone's color or religion and then become quite influential in terminating a relationship that possibly could have lasted for many years

wellhowdyhi

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Need advice Posted: 2/9/2006 1:22:11 PM
I do agree with the responses that indicate- do not go out with co- workers. I think it would be ok to tell her that. But, I could tell you from personal experience that dating co-workers could be a lot of fun for a short while. But, when things go wrong and you break up, you have to face her every day. As long as you work at the same place she does it could be miserable. Always date someone who does not work with you or be willing to change jobs when things go wrong.

wellhowdyhi

Joined: 6/27/2005

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How many people can you date all at the same time? Posted: 2/9/2006 1:11:12 PM
I am not talking about going on a date with 3 people at the same time. My question is you go on one date with one person, then a few hours later or the next day you go out with someone else. How many people can you juggle at the same time without getting stressed out, confused or ? This question does not apply to the situation where you see someone one time only and then see someone else one time only. For example, every Monday you go out with person 1 and every Tuesday person number 2. You get the idea. How long could you keep it up and juggle 2 or more people at the same time. Have you ever told the other person about their competition? If so what reaction did you get?

wellhowdyhi

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What did you do to harm that relationship? Posted: 2/4/2006 9:30:44 AM
Clownfish you are so right about that. Even though you were quoting your mum the person strongly felt that you have the same opinion that your mum had.

wellhowdyhi

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What did you do to harm that relationship? Posted: 2/4/2006 9:20:32 AM
Is there one thing that you said or did, or not say or do that broke your relationship with that person, and you wish you could take it all back and still be with that person.

wellhowdyhi

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Using me for your sexual pleasure. Posted: 2/2/2006 3:05:44 PM
Fitnessqueen, I like it better when a woman/girl/ gal like you answers the question and does not immediately take the female side. I like it when people are open-minded. You are considerate to the males- very good attribute. But, I know a few females out there (on this website) who love to take the opportunity to jump on the situation and do a little bashing.

wellhowdyhi

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Using me for your sexual pleasure. Posted: 2/2/2006 2:50:47 PM
How many guys out there were dating a woman and when things were going well during the dating process she never complained about being used. But, at the time she dumps you she claims you were using her for sex. But, interestingly she seemed to enjoy the sex equal to or more than you. Of course, during the dates you paid for everything and she never even offered to pay for anything. - ever. Many times she was the one asking to have sex. Who is using whom?

wellhowdyhi

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what percentage of emails get replies Posted: 2/1/2006 7:31:40 PM
9 per cent reply rate.

wellhowdyhi

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How do you get back into the dating scene when you've been single for years Posted: 2/1/2006 12:13:16 PM
That is why we have this dating web site so you can find some new guys to date. Start sending e-mails to guys and you will start finding out what is on their mind. The more practice you have in writing, it will help you in talking in person.

wellhowdyhi

Joined: 6/27/2005

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Flatulence Posted: 1/31/2006 2:37:17 PM
Watch what you eat before the date and go to a proctologist or whichever doctor is appropriate for your condition.

wellhowdyhi

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The age gap....can it work? Posted: 1/31/2006 9:29:25 AM
I am an older guy who had a girlfriend that was 31 years younger than I was. It lasted about 7 months. After the first 7 months it was going downhill and then 2 years later she dumped me ( yes, I do admit this). Of course, her parents were involved in a similar lop-sided relationship and are still happily married.

wellhowdyhi

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Shortest time span before having sex Posted: 1/30/2006 4:57:11 PM
I was speaking to someone and they mentioned that 5 minutes after going to the woman's house, they ended up in bed. That is pretty quick. Never happened to me that quick. Actually, it was offered to me and I turned it down. Something so quick, I could not trust it.

wellhowdyhi

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Never make a date on a date Posted: 1/30/2006 2:55:59 PM
The article you are quoting is true. I have attempted the same thing in the past, and most of the time it does not work out even if the woman says yes. She says yes in person since (she is put on the spot) she is afraid to say no. Then before the next date she cancels at the last minute or something like that. Probably in the same article, it says never ask out a woman when taking to a answer machine. In fact, say as little as possible when talking to an answer machine.

wellhowdyhi

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Date from hell. Posted: 1/30/2006 2:50:17 PM
Does sound like a date from hell. There is a possibility he was testing you to see how you react to things. Everyone does performs some tests on people they meet. But, most people do not want to admit this. For one his other car was probably a car that you would have approved of. Since you did not pass his test, he would not have taken you on a second date. Of course, he was the date from hell- so we already know that you would not want to give him a second chance either.

wellhowdyhi

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Shortest time span before having sex Posted: 1/30/2006 2:39:38 PM
I am curious about the following: You meet someone in person from this website or some other web site. What is the shortest length of time did it take you to go to bed with the other person? Better yet, sex was not even brought up in your e-mails or phone calls and you ended up having sex with the person in record time. Was a condom used?

wellhowdyhi

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oops they are married Posted: 1/30/2006 12:12:29 PM
Did you ever date someone who you really liked and then you found out they were married? How long were you dating them, and did they tell you they were married or did you find out in a different way?

wellhowdyhi

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No chemistry for the following reason- Posted: 1/30/2006 12:10:15 PM
Actually the response you received is so strange that is is not strange at all. At least they were sticking to chemistry.

wellhowdyhi

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No chemistry for the following reason- Posted: 1/30/2006 12:02:45 PM
What is the strangest no chemistry response have you received? To: (person's name), I do not have chemistry for you due to the following reason________.

wellhowdyhi

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How long do you wait for a date before you split? Posted: 1/30/2006 11:57:16 AM
Since both people have a cell phone, I would grant no additional time. Knowing that the other person has a cell phone eliminates the need to wait. Even if the battery in her cell phone went out, she could go to a pay phone. If she did not have a cell phone, then I would be a little bit more liberal in granting time- maybe she got caught in traffic, etc.

wellhowdyhi

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Does internet dating encourage the shopper mentality? Posted: 1/29/2006 11:08:21 AM
how many here have actually gone out on a date, good or bad, and the minute they walk in the door, rush to check their mail here! Worse, yet how many check their mail from their cell/mobile phone when they are on the date. I would never do that. But, I have seen it done to other people. But, I always check my e-mail when I get home unless I am real tired, then i could check the next day.

wellhowdyhi

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Shy person becomes more agressive due to learning on web site. Posted: 1/29/2006 10:30:39 AM
I am curious how many people have been shy in their dating world. But, due to this website or other dating websites suddenly became more vocal and agressive in their behavior and are not shy anymore.

wellhowdyhi

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Are you more popular now than ever before? Posted: 1/29/2006 10:28:34 AM
I can walk up to anyone and start talking whereas before, I could barely utter a hello.. This gives me an idea for a new thread.

wellhowdyhi

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Does internet dating encourage the shopper mentality? Posted: 1/29/2006 10:21:56 AM
I am waiting for the internet dating websites to have a button just like other shopping web sites- Add to Cart. But, since this button is not expressly displayed, it is implied. Therefore, there are many people who may be using the web site as "bulk buying" and may not give the personal attention to people.

wellhowdyhi

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Looking for bad or looking for good? Posted: 1/29/2006 10:14:09 AM
are you looking for their bad points so you have a good excuse to drop them? That statement tells me you are already convinced it is going to fail, so why even bother? Actually, i do not personally look for the bad points. If the good qualities outweigh the bad, I do not have a problem with that.

wellhowdyhi

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Start of relationship by bulk mail/generic e-mail? Posted: 1/29/2006 10:08:43 AM
i havent received an email yet Some people are afraid to write or can not type.

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