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I'm a musician and I fell for a deaf girl... Posted: 2/2/2009 8:38:40 PM
Write a heavy bass piece specifically for her and let her "feel" it. Len

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Moving from friends to more than? Posted: 1/29/2009 8:52:24 PM
Splendere, I can understand not appreciating one of your "guy" friends putting the move on you, but what if you weren't sure if you/he "could" have something. Assuming he didn't know this, the only way he could find out is by putting the moves on. I'm not talking going for the big screen kiss with harps in the background, but holding hands while hiking in the woods, or a hug held just a little to long past the "friend" stage perhaps??? And why the hell am I putting almost every "word" in italics? LOL sorry about that. Len

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Serious question here...want to hear from those who know Posted: 1/25/2009 7:48:51 AM
advice - how do I get rid of the guy here? Thanks! Lots of help on dealing with your situation and helping her friend, but she specifically asked about how to get rid of the guy. Most all the posts concentrated on getting "her" to end the relationship. However, it takes two to tango, you could try to convince him to move on. I realize this isn't the easier of the route, and not likely to work either. He sounds like a piece of crap, but I'll at least give him the benefit of the doubt. He may not consciously know he's doing this, and is in as bad a shape as her needing to break a cycle of his needyness. Options: 1. Talk to him, convince him to man up and move on to get his life straight first and stop screwing up your friends. 2. Hook him up with some other girl. (Not sure how to do this and not sure it's nice to the other girl) 3. We do live in Arkansas. Round up the cousins and have a "Come to Jesus" meeting with him old school. LOL If we lived in NY, I think they'd call that a "tune up". In the end, just keep doing what you think is right. Good luck. Len

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Moving from friends to more than? Posted: 1/24/2009 10:06:59 PM
Go take her to see "Zach and Miri make a porno" It's hilarious and covers this very subject. I would hesitate to follow ANY of the examples of the movie, but you will laugh all night and have fun. Oh, and hold her hand like others said. I can tell from your post, that your looking for long term not booty. If and how she holds your hand will tell you more than than the entire population on POF can. Good luck. Len

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who recovers faster after a breakup men or women? Posted: 1/24/2009 9:10:17 PM
GoneSailing, You hit it on the head.. Not even a discussion. Women get over it quicker after its done. Plus, I think its usually WAAY easier for the woman to get a new date instantly (within the week lets say) and start putting it behind her if she wants to. Just look at POF. Women are constantly bombarded with emails. Most are psychopaths..sure, but it IS an opportunity for a date. LOL Len

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Calling All Divorcees Posted: 1/24/2009 8:27:07 PM
I didn't read all the responses so someone may have said this, but I think simply put.... Men are more lethargic/lazy about doing it. They may want to be divorced but not enough to do the effort it takes to pull the trigger. Len

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First date rules Posted: 1/24/2009 8:21:14 PM
I say go with it. Technically speaking you have DOUBLED your chance at meeting someone you may end up liking and wish to go out with. Tell her your only out of the sanitarium for a few hours and maybe shell bring a few more as backup and then your odds even get better. LOL All joking aside, a bit non standard, but not the end of the world. Len

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Has any single woman my age...35 in a week...consider saying... Posted: 12/8/2008 10:37:22 AM
OP, Do some research on ADD.. Some of your symptoms sound likely. Simple advice is to start small and accomplish one small task each day, then work your way up. A series of successful, albeit trivial, accomplishments will start you in an upward spiral. Downward Sprials Suck! Pretty soon, LSAT will be done, bar exam past you....walk down the aisle....spit up on your blouse and no sleep....tball games.....ect ect......then your grandkids make fun of you because you cant find your walker...Now thats OLD... Anyway, you get the picture. Len

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How a black male can approach white women... help Posted: 10/2/2008 12:53:13 PM
figure out if the source of frustration is.... a: You think you'll get rejected more b: You think she is too much above you. (leads to choice A of course) If its b. GET THAT OUT OF YOUR HEAD.. All of us do this if we approach someone we think it drop dead gorgeous. Remember everyone has their own ideas of beauty and attractiveness. Doesn't matter skin color, height, weight, or socioeconomic background. Obviously they play into it a little, but it should never be the only factor. If you are comfortable asking out black women, you should be comfortable asking out women. Easier said than done, I know. Remember, everything in life is a game of percentages. Dating is no different. The more time you spend on the road, the more chance you have of being in a accident. The more times you ask people out, the more dates you will go on. Being cool and collected while asking certainly increases your chances as opposed to being flustered and stammering, but if you stammer out "would you like to go out sometime" and she still says "yes". Well, your on a good start. BTW, I liked what Janice said... very funny. :) Len

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Why Do women dump men who are nice to them. Posted: 5/28/2008 6:10:36 PM
Don't give up on being nice... I'm extremely nice, but I also have an edgier and ornery side that is playfull & teasing. I'll not change either just to please someone or "make" them like me more or be more attracted to me. Be yourself always and if it doesn't work, it doesn't work. Someday it "will" work. Physical attraction is a funny thing. Its paramount at the beginning, without it the fire doesn't start. But later on your personality is king. Don't be someone your not, or you are doomed. Len

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Too Hickish??? Posted: 2/24/2008 2:07:26 PM
Your not too hickish, she's too citified. lol Her bad on breaking date a last minute. Don't change your profile. You are what you are, so embrace it. I'm well into hick/hillbilly/redneck territory myself, but I can discuss world politics, I know who Stradivarius was, I can tie a tie, chose a bottle of wine, & eat with the proper utensils in public. However, I'm more comfortable opening a beer on a tailgate, cutting/splitting a rick of firewood, going muddin' on the 4wheelers, shooting skeet with my sons, building a bonfire, and grilling a steak with friends in cutoffs/tshirt. I would not date someone who had a problem with that. To my credit I did stop wearing this tshirt. "Its not a beer belly, its a gas tank for my sex machine" Now, that was too hick! LOL Len

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Do you ladies prefer longer or shorter lines Posted: 2/20/2008 4:20:46 PM
Thats cam as in timing cam, not internet cam. LOL

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Do you ladies prefer longer or shorter lines Posted: 2/19/2008 10:06:01 PM
Cowtrucker said: "You never know, you might have someone pick up on one thing you thought would be the LAST thing anyone would notice..." Like you might find a girl who has a machine shop, knows what a cam is, and can preg test a heifer in a pinch. Len

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10 Days ?? Posted: 2/19/2008 9:39:14 PM
Leolan, It sounds like just a massive case of cold feet. I think many misinterpreted your post. You and He just didn't act impulsively. You were both methodical and thought about every step of the way, with plenty of communication, over a long timeline. Dang. I don't know what else to say. :( Len

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Why doesn't he want to meet Posted: 2/19/2008 9:11:04 PM
A couple of things come to mind. 1. He could just fear a real relationship 2. He could have been fudging on what he looks like/what he does for a living and he's embarrassed now to tell the truth. 3. Hes married and is unable to get away. 4. Hes a CIA operative and has a busy schedule. LOL. Just tell him how you feel and ask him outright what the problem is. Len

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Why are some men intimidated by a woman who knows cars? Posted: 2/18/2008 11:43:38 AM
Hottie who knows cars.... Could it get any better? LOL Honestly a lot of men are going to be intimidated by any woman if she is proficient in what is deemed a "manly" subject. These same men would have a problem if you made more money than them too I'm guessing. Its funny how society places these things in our head to worry about. My father owned a garage in a small town and I grew up there. I can repair/rebuild anything mechanical & consider myself a manly man, but at the same time, I can bake a mean cake, create an Alfredo sauce from scratch, & could darn my socks in a pinch if I needed to. One should never apologize for what they know. Having said that I would tell your bf on the first date his timing is a little retarded and hes missing his shift points. Thats a second or third date kind of discussion in my book. LOL Len

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I figure my profile gets the first hey what's this person about out of the way Posted: 2/16/2008 6:41:28 PM
You say you want to be a politician. lol Thats whats scaring them. :P Just kidding. I think your profile is good. There is a lot in there for most men to comprehend. They may have read it all, but won't retain it. I don't think thats bad though. I would just give it more time. Len

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Do Scars Turn Men Off Posted: 2/16/2008 5:50:31 PM
It wouldn't bother me at all. Plus it makes you a little more interesting than others. So I think it might be a nice bonus. Would also give your partner something to trace around lightly with his fingers as he give you a massage. Don't lose any sleep over it. :) Len

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being politely persistant towards a girl... Posted: 2/16/2008 5:06:57 PM
Never mind the discussion (which is interesting) Can you forward my profile to your sister? Has anyone else not figured out that this guys sister is hard working, highly intelligent, obviously hot & can probably still get you free beer. What more do you need? LOL (just kidding of course) BTW, in certain circumstances (and I think this is one of them) persistence in a flirty manner is fun and a bit romantic. Len

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Other than sex, what makes you feel confident with women? Posted: 2/16/2008 4:17:11 PM
I think each man will have a different list based on how they view themselves, but all of us will have confidence if our girl reinforces how we see our selves such as: smart, sexy, giving, suave, funny, romantic, friendly, life of the party, great at sports, ect. I think sex is just the culmination of that. Sex by itself shouldn't give confidence, but I understand how it could for most. To me, knowing the other person is happy, content, and feels special would instill the most confidence in me. Of course if she feels those things while we are in bed, then that would get bonus confidence points. lol Len

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How many drinks is too many? Posted: 2/16/2008 3:59:09 PM
If I he has to hit an ATM or break out another credit card to keep up, he may be drinking a little too much. lol No really, I think he should stay well shy of tipsy. Of course way less if hes driving. For me two drinks would be it and I would want to drink them early on then let them wear off some as we talked. 7 or 8 seems like a lot to me, but if hes massively tall/big and spaced out over 4/5 hours, that might not be. I still think it is though. Hope that helps. Len

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