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Have you ever received a Xmas present that made things a deal breaker? Posted: 11/25/2009 6:51:06 PM
but then, there are exceptions.

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Have you ever received a Xmas present that made things a deal breaker? Posted: 11/25/2009 6:31:41 AM
One of my exes was constantly ramming sports down my throat. He couldnt stand the fact that I didnt care to watch ballgames. I went to a few, just to shut him up. I dont understand football, and he never explained what was happening, so I am still clueless. Anyway, he pulls into my driveway, one Christmas, and sits in his car for a minute. When he comes in, no packages, but he opened his gifts from me and my kids. Nice cologne, a couple of dress shirts, a sports blanket, and a fireproof safe for his office. Then he reaches in his pocket and hands me a piece of scrap paper, he had written on it, that is was for tickets for me and my sons and him to go to a ball game. Nothing for my daughter, though. He told my sons to "tell Mommy to let us go" to the ballgame. Trying to manipulate me, and using my sons to do it. Then another time, same guy, went to Florida, by himself. He called nightly, said he got each of us a surprise. Of course, over 3-4 days, we were curious what he had gotten for us. He said he picked out each one of my children and myself the surprise . I assumed a memento, knick knack, something like that. When he gets back, I drive over an hour to pick him up at the airport, and then back to my house. The surprise were used t-shirts for the kids, one of them even had a stain on it, and a jacket for me, that he bought in a thriftshop. Another gift, again on scrap paper, he had written "round trips tickets" to where ever I wanted to go. Sounds good, huh? When I decided where I wanted to go, a couple of months later, he didnt want to go there, and would only pay for tickets to Florida, where his Mother had a ratty old trailer, in a trailerpark.

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How do you feel about this? Posted: 11/24/2009 9:06:07 AM
Typical conversation: Him: Hi Me: Hello, how are you doing this evening? Him: OK Me: Did you have a good weekend? Him: It was OK Me: So you have children? Him: Yeah Me: I have children also. 3 sons and a daughter. Him: OK Me: Your a chef? How do you like that? Him: It's alright. See, he put no thought at all into messaging me. And no effort after he did. Now a guys ability to converse gets high marks in my book.

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How do you feel about this? Posted: 11/23/2009 10:36:13 PM
bo, since he in fact, initiated the conversation, it is too much to expect that he actually contribute to it? It is in the initial phase. Kind of swim or sink. Dont start a conversation, if you cant converse. Plain and simple.

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How do you feel about this? Posted: 11/23/2009 7:03:28 PM
Too many times, a guy will message me. Then expect me to carry the entire conversation. They are lazy, and dont want to put forth any effort. Best just to move on.

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She doesn't know about his other dating profile Posted: 11/20/2009 8:44:08 AM
OP regarding post 100 """"He's addicted to Effexor and Xanax both, and has had severe side-effects including mood swings, insomnia, and suicidal thoughts when he tried to quit taking them. He went to different doctors to get the meds after the first one cut him off."""""""""" Never never never stop taking them all at once. Especially the Effexor--You have to taper up and then down, over weeks, or you will have the rebound effect. Like crashing into a wall. Effexor is a great medicine. My doctor put me on it for 3 months. Not for depression, I was having trouble coping with everyday things, making mountains out of molehills. Even at 3 months, I had to take 3 weeks to taper off, skip a dose today, another in three days, then another, till I was only taking a couple a week.

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Long vs short hair Posted: 11/17/2009 10:45:20 PM
Wow, he really didnt get it, did he?

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Long vs short hair Posted: 11/17/2009 7:46:50 PM
Is Amillo ***, happy? Not that there is anything wrong with that, I just always thought, guys liked their SO to have long hair.

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Would you have sex with a machine? Posted: 11/14/2009 9:47:21 PM
from deerdog""""""""have any of the people answering ever ridden a sybian..... well I have not either ...being a guy ...but I have witnessed several women on one ...some who were on it for the first time .... some even passed out from pleasure ...none of the women who tried it did not like the experience ...just saying"""""""""" I am so sorry. I do not know what a sybian, is. Passing out, huh? Could you please give more into on this?

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The Kids Hate You? Posted: 11/12/2009 9:03:02 PM
number 1. Kids are adaptable, and know a lot more than you realize. 2. Kids want their parents to be happy. 3. When kids are involved, you cant play with them, their feelings, emotions. If your not serious, get the he## out of their life. They look at everything from a different perspective. Unlike Mommy, they arent attracted to you, or falling for you. They are for real, without the blinders, and maybe a few idiosyncrasies of their own. No, your not, and never will be ,daddy, but, maybe, just maybe, you can be a friend, confidant. Again, kids are adaptable. They deal best with the truth, and black and white.

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She doesn't know about his other dating profile Posted: 11/11/2009 9:54:34 AM
Why do you continue to talk to someone you dont trust?

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How much is too much? Posted: 11/10/2009 6:34:06 PM
Thank goodness my self esteem does not hinge upon your opinion of my opinion. His question, How much is too much? She didnt call back, or follow through. I have to wonder "why". Evidently, something was lacking, and not on her part, cause Op seems all for it. Not saying "Yay, or Neigh" about the OP,,,,,I was just tossing out a couple of ideas. Sorry you took offense, filly.

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How much is too much? Posted: 11/10/2009 3:48:11 PM
You are 45 and retired . Who gets to retire 20 years early? Unless that is the new, unemployed or disabled? We wont even address the hair. So, she met you, couldnt bring herself to tell you, NO GO. I'm guessing she probably had her reasons not to provide an explanation. Oh, JMO, of course.

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do guys like the smell of a woman's natural vagina? Posted: 11/7/2009 9:23:59 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^ If you cant stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. If that is offensive to you, why the He## are you in the Sex forums??????????????/

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Pinocchio Posted: 11/6/2009 6:10:49 PM
KUDOS to OP. I think the jerk got what was coming to him.

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strap ons 101 Posted: 11/5/2009 2:02:30 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ OMG. What is today's dating world becoming? Not only do I have to be feminine, petite, I also have to be the MAN????? Say it isnt so!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111

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do guys like the smell of a woman's natural vagina? Posted: 11/5/2009 1:09:29 PM
I think that we, as women, are paranoid about how we smell. Got to be a reason all the feminine spray products sell so much. I have them in my bathroom, yet I have never had so much as a yeast infection. Yet we keep these products at work or in our purses. Any woman, at certain times of the month, doesnt always feel 100% fresh, even after a bath. I have never been with any man, not that there have been alot, who didnt want to "do me the favor". I dated one guy, everytime he walked into my door, i got wet. We knew how the night was going to end. Nevermind I had just spent 2.5 hours primping for our date. 4-6 hours later, after dinner, dancing, sweating, and going to the bathroom to pee, do you think he complained? He knew it was my bodies reaction, to him. He enjoyed, no, savored, every second of it. This same guy, worked at a desk all week, rarely sweat, What a treat when he did!!!!! What an aphrodisiac. I anticipated him coming back after his 2 mile run. I wasnt complaining either. Coveted the taste and smell of him. What about morning sex? Not as fresh there, but who is going to jump up, after being all warm and cozy, arms wrapped around you, to run and jump into the shower? Talk about messing up the mood! Or the 2-3 times a night? Where you dont know who is eating what from whom? Come on, we've all done that. Not 100% fresh, but damn HOT. Anyway, Just My Opinion

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People With No Conversation Skills Posted: 11/3/2009 9:30:29 PM
I work with the public. I know how to chit chat, carry a conversation. In my job, I have to be able to get people to reveal their thoughts, feelings and ideas. But you have to have something to work with. "yeah" "right" "ok" "I dont know" "yes" "no" No idea that maybe they should ask you something, to show an actual interest, since they DID email you first. Lazy answers from people on a dating site, looking for someone. Some people, you couldnt get a decent response, even with the "jaws of life".

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Anything worse than poor hygiene on a date? Posted: 11/3/2009 9:20:03 PM
The nastiest thing I ve read.

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mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)? Posted: 11/3/2009 8:59:28 PM
^^^^^^ I dont have any idea what she thought she was doing. Probably more ego oriented on her part. I think she was just so unhappy with herself, she didnt want to see someone else in a good relationship. Trying to prove she could get what I had. I dont think she did though. Guess the old saying is true, "keep your enemies close, and your friends, closer" or is that the other way around?

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Confused & upset - Why do men do this? Posted: 11/3/2009 9:04:49 AM
Matbe he did you a favor not contacting you again, Op. Maybe he has a terminal illness and thought it best not to drag you down with him. Maybe he has secrets, and didnt think you would be amiable to them. Maybe he is Gay. (not that there is anything wrong with that) Maybe he is a cross dresser. Million "maybes" out there. Dont tear yourself up over something you have no control of.

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How can you meet girls if you don't get out? Posted: 11/1/2009 9:10:02 PM
you are lazy. everything without any effort. Good luck with that.

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why only date good looking prima donna's? Posted: 11/1/2009 6:40:45 PM
If the outside of the package isnt attractive, no one will open it to see what is inside.

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The new Marriage search/page Posted: 11/1/2009 3:01:46 PM
I would like to "opt out" of the list. Cause I'm not looking for marriage. How do I know if I show up on someone elses list?

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Sitting solo on a scary Saturday (Halloween) Posted: 10/31/2009 2:52:49 PM
I live in the country. We dont get any trick or treaters out here. My daughter, 11, is gone to her dad's this weekend. My son is coming home later, from college, after he meets up with a couple of his friends. The house has been quiet all day. I'd have to pick a good movie and a glass of wine. I did have other plans, they just didnt work out. Kids are all home at Christmas though. And I have the day off from work.

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help Posted: 10/31/2009 2:30:24 PM
OMG What a mess. Just stop right there. Go back to start. Do not pass Go. Do not collect $200. Do not go down the road you just took. What the He!! have you done to become entwined into a situation like this??????????????????What has your life been like, that you want to have this relationship? I will give you a DOOVER boy. You reallllllllllllllllllllllllyyyyyyyyyyy need it. My life doesnt seem so bad now. Thanks.

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Men, tell me whats the attraction Posted: 10/31/2009 9:30:02 AM
>>>>>Jim978 just kidding. I couldnt find a "throwing dishes" emoticon

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mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)? Posted: 10/29/2009 11:53:05 PM
Please, do not delete this thread. I need some insight here. where is dayna daze?

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Cheating and some helpful answers. Posted: 10/29/2009 11:49:53 PM
I would worry more about the fact that you are 53 years old and worrying about what you did when you were 21. MOVE ON

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mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)? Posted: 10/29/2009 11:04:38 PM
My God, this is too much. Just today I have been dealing with a mess. A so called friend of mine, knew I was seeing someone online, and offline for almost a month. I was bragging about how great he was. She messaged him, he responded positively to her, requesting a pic, and mentioning setting up a meeting. All the while he was telling me he wanted to be a couple, and work on us, and he wasnt talking to anyone else online. I found out about it today. I was falling hook, line and sinker. I dont know whether to cry or thank my lucky stars that I found out early. Mate poaching. How appropriate. I do agree, if his head is turned so easily, he isnt worth it.

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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married? Posted: 10/24/2009 12:35:46 AM
FYI. Alert, alert. Some males have been brainwashed all their life. You are not the end all, be all, of any womans life. Women actually expect you to bring to the table, an equal to what they bring, financially, culturally, even, education. Most women can perform your basic function, artificially, or with a dildo. Dont you just love "electronics" and medical science? Unless you are one of the few and far between, who actually are looking for something extra, who actually have some color in your personality, believe me, we are not desperate for marriage, or even a date with you. We do have other options. To do list: Call the sperm bank, and replace those dang batteries.

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after you cum.. (mainly for guys) Posted: 10/24/2009 12:13:52 AM
Kind of reminds me of a dog. chasing anything. Vomit, vomit. no class.

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Flue shots are more dangerous than the flu itself! Posted: 10/23/2009 11:59:30 PM
who said the injection vs the inhalation where the same? Injection is from a attenuated(dead, altered) virus. The inhalation is live. Dont spread the drama. Maybe you should reference your argument, before you argue? Just a thought. Where is the "rolling eyes " emoticom?

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seeing guy for 2 months and he still on pof Posted: 10/23/2009 11:49:37 PM
(((((((((((((((((((create a fake profile and start chatting with him. I assure you this way you will find out exactly what he is up to. Thats what I would do. He can still maitain a profile but change the info into friends. ))))))))))))))) Absolutely not. Thats what players to. Drop the A$$. Dont give him another thought. NEXT!!!!!

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seeing guy for 2 months and he still on pof Posted: 10/23/2009 11:34:41 PM
a chris79, It isnt about him.

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seeing guy for 2 months and he still on pof Posted: 10/23/2009 9:59:54 PM
He is checking out his new matches, looking for something better. Drop his a$$. I wouldnt even give him an explanation. Block.

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Flue shots are more dangerous than the flu itself! Posted: 10/22/2009 9:02:02 PM
There are hundreds of types of flu viruses. Every year, the CDC gets together to decide which ones are likely to be the most prevalent for that year. And that is the "flu shot" we get. It's a combo of different ones. These are actually dead. And it being dead, you will not get the flu from it. The body will recognize the pathogen and form a response to it. So that in the the future, if you come across the pathogen, you will be ready and able to fight it. Some people have a psychosomatic effect, they cant adjust their minds to the actual fact. Some actually contract another flu virus not in the injection. Others just want to argue about the legitimacy of the injection itself. Millions get the flu vaccine, thousands get the flu, hundreds die. Millions vs Hundreds. You do the math. This is not a Big Brother Thing. The government spends millions of dollars every year, vaccinating for the flu and pneumonia. Do YOU really think it is a conspiracy against YOU? It really isnt all about you. The swine flu injections will cost mega millions. I'm sure politicians would love to have that money in a yearly bonus. But what the hell, we will finance the Pharmaceutical companies, pay them double and triple time, to ensure the injection is safe . The CDC and FDA will take their time to ensure the public welfare. And you can bi*** and gripe about the flu shot you had to get. You should be thanking God, it is there for you.

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Herpes? Posted: 10/22/2009 8:30:57 PM
And so the world turns................................. Good Lord People, get educated. Stop this ignorant ranting. He has it, she has it. 80% of US has it. Type 1 or 2. Either can be at either area, lip or genital. Stop this stupid denial, get on with your lives. Most doctors wont test for it, or even treat it, unless specifically requested by the patient.

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after you cum.. (mainly for guys) Posted: 10/22/2009 7:39:06 PM
Ive only read a couple of the pages of this thread. Op is young, and inexperienced. QUIT F***ING women you dont care about. Wait till you feel a connection to these women, It will be well worth your while.

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Sacrificing Sleep - When you've moved on to the stage of parenting Posted: 10/16/2009 9:53:35 PM
Mothers and fathers always adjust their sleep patterns to deal with their babies. I have one son, who didnt sleep a whole hour, straight for the first 6 months. I existed on 20-30 minutes of sleep at a time. It was a struggle. Thank goodness the Dr's were understanding. I would go in for an appointment, they would ask me to come to the front desk, I had come the wrong day, again a day early. But the Dr would always fit me in. I would be on the road, going somewhere and forget where I was going. Severe sleep deprivation.

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What do I do? Posted: 10/15/2009 10:36:58 AM
Your not comfortable with his moving in with you. There is no point in continuing the relationship when he is issuing ultimatums. Your not ready for this, dont let him push you. He snaps at you when he has had a bad day. What will he do if he has had a really bad day? Come on, you know this already.

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Would anybody have done the same? Posted: 10/15/2009 8:40:48 AM
Op was jealous, plain and simple, and acted out of revenge and spitefulness. Surely you didnt think you were important to the guy, did you? Was he suposed to save himself for the occasional phone sex/text with you? FWB are not important in other people's lives. They are just a screw. How does it feel OP, to be just a screw to him? Grow up. Dont get involved with crap like this and, guess what? you wont have to deal with crap like this.

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is this just a womans thing or men do it also? Posted: 10/14/2009 9:47:10 PM
you have 2 women doing it and 2 men doing it. Id say men, do, do it also.

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Dating a 27 yo girl for several months but she won't have sex Posted: 10/12/2009 8:07:49 PM
OP is looking for a date on this site. No love for the girl he is trying to seduce. Player. User. No wonder the poor girl wont play his games.

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Dating a 27 yo girl for several months but she won't have sex Posted: 10/12/2009 6:31:55 PM
Some females dont have sex with every dog that comes down the road. I think in animal terms that is a biatch in heat. I agree, PIGGGGG.

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 10/12/2009 9:53:29 AM
We have 48 pages of sharing our experiences. Listening to and supporting the other posters. Your post was demeaning. , and not helpful to anyone. A lot of women, and guys too, have gotten a lot of good from this post. Venting, closure. Believe it or not some people have dealt with Narcissists. Your belittling our experience isnt needed here.

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Why is Wife Superiority (Superior Wife Syndrome) so bad for a marriage? Posted: 10/12/2009 9:25:39 AM
^^^^^^^^^^ what she said.

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Dating a 27 yo girl for several months but she won't have sex Posted: 10/12/2009 8:43:59 AM
The Op hasnt said one thing about building a future with this girl. Nor about actually caring for her. Maybe she feels he is just after sex. His post portrays that. I would say your lucky she does the hand thing. I dont think I would, unless all the other ducks are in a row. Committment, love, trust, respect. Remember those? Some women need all that before intimacy. Having another person inside you is the most intimate you can get. You are trying to coerce her, OP. Guilt trips. Blaming her for your BB's. She is not responsible for your sexual gratification. Perhaps she knows your online looking for women? She should be the one to walk away from this one.

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 10/11/2009 11:41:56 PM
I always feel so violated, when jerks like those, come into this forum and spew their crap. I am just sorry I didnt come on early enough to have the comments deleted. This is a very personal thread, to most of the people commenting. I feel like a demon has come in among us. Trying to negate everything we have gone through. Negative thoughts are not needed or wanted.

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Am I being selfish? Posted: 10/11/2009 8:38:34 AM
Message 9: """""No, I didn't expect them to sit in the waiting room, which if you had read my post, is why I said I would have told them not to come. To me it would have been the thought that counted. And considering I was watching the LSU - Florida game on my Blackberry, I know the calls/data was not blocked."""""" So, you're upset cause your friend didnt offer to do something, you would have refused, anyway? Maybe he knows you well enough, to know you didnt want him to be there????????????????????

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