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Joined: 6/28/2005

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Was It Really That Bad? Posted: 6/5/2007 6:07:42 PM
I have been through 2 divorces. I was the dumper in that marriage so it was not that painful. Having been the dumpee in the second marriage, I gained a new perspective. It hurts like hell for a while. And, just when you think you are over it, you hurt some more. But, I learned things about myself in both marriages and both divorces. I am not perfect. I am stronger than I ever thought I could be. I have a family who loves me. I can do a lot of things that I previously depended on my husband(s) to do. Being alone is not all that bad. I hate the fact that I "failed" at two marriages. I love the fact that I know a lot more about myself because of my failures. I believe it is not a loss of tolerance for differences, but rather a conscious choice to avoid certain character traits. Perhaps that is not being fair. You have made me think!

Joined: 6/28/2005

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As a guy, I find it offensive... Posted: 6/5/2007 5:18:45 PM
I have sat here and debated on whether or not to jump in on this thread. I decided it was worth the few minutes it takes to type a response. I believe the questions, and assumed intent, might be regional. Having been raised in the South, I would never come out and ask someone how much money they make. That is just not polite! But, then again, most folks outside the South don't usually use "Bless his heart" right after they have just put someone down. I believe you have received good advice from some of the posters when they have told you to respond vaguely to the question. I wouldn't automatically assume that the person asking is trying to get a grip on your checking account. You might have missed out on a potentially fantastic relationship because of your assumptions. As one person stated, you couldn't "hear" the tone of voice or inflection used when the question was asked. If you think the person asking the question would interest you if the question had not been asked, why not spend some time swapping emails and see if your assumption was correct?

Joined: 6/28/2005

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Is separated single? Posted: 4/8/2006 8:33:02 PM
No, separated is not single. My ex moved out of the house while I was @ work one day. He left me a voice mail stating he couldn't live with me because he was having some problems and wanted "his space" so that he could work those problems out with a therapist. He continued to come back home on a regular basis, but never spent the night. He constantly gave me the impression that he was working on himself and wanted us to get back together. Well, I checked his cell phone records (on-line...because he was such a creature of habit with his passwords). Was I ever surprised! He had been talking to a woman dozens of times a day for ages. So, I will never date a man who says he is separated. Until it is legal, there is no telling what his situation is nor what he is telling his wife.

Joined: 6/28/2005

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What's your favourite funny movie quote? Posted: 6/29/2005 5:48:10 PM
From When Harry Met Sally "I'll have what she's having."

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Internet or phone Posted: 6/28/2005 8:02:48 PM
In this crazy world, I like talking to someone on the internet, first. If I get a good feeling about them from a few emails, I will give out my cell number. I don't EVER give out my home number until I have met them in person and actually gotten to know them.

Joined: 6/28/2005

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New and a little confused Posted: 6/28/2005 7:57:46 PM
OK, where is the best section of the forums to get into some fun conversations? I have been on other sites where the forums got kind of angry. While I like a little debate, I don't want to fall into a venom pit. Any suggestions? Bobbie

Joined: 6/28/2005

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New and a little confused Posted: 6/28/2005 7:55:20 PM
Thanks, Bizie! Now I am a lot confused! Did you string the smileys together to say something? Or, are you just trying to emphasis how lost I am when it comes to these forums? LOL!

Joined: 6/28/2005

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New and a little confused Posted: 6/28/2005 7:50:29 PM
I just happened up this website today. I am a little confused about what is going on. I see lots of younger people here. Is there anyone here who is starting over in mid-life? I am kind of lost and would like to talk to some people about how to navigate this site and how to get the most out of it. (Oh, yeah......a little help with the smileys would be a start.) Thanks!

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