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 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 329 (view)
 
time has taken a toll
Posted: 3/27/2015 7:45:02 AM
Well, its true that many people make themselves unhappy for reasons that true life problems will render trivial. I find Dee refreshingly sane on the forums. Its also true however that some people create their depressions because their mental state is in disorder, and can't really self correct. Its very hard to deal with this even when you have a strong connection with the people involved, and no amount of reason appears to help.

The vast majority of forum participants appear to me to be unhappy about relationship development simply because they can't get out of themselves. You can't be us while you are still you, and if you are more important than us, you will never get to being us. They are unhappy with themselves, actually.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 368 (view)
 
Men in this age group and money
Posted: 3/26/2015 8:37:48 AM
I don't get the point of this discussion. Is it not true that everyone will go for the partner that appeals most to them? Is it not normal that this is the case? Is it not the case that a man or woman who responds sexually to a possible mate indicating more than a passing enthusiasm for the other person? What is the point of the exchange? People should go for partners that don't appeal to them and who don't respond sexually because, deep down inside, those possible mates are really beautiful people who shine beyond their looks and social skills?

It isn't going to happen. For $1000 you will always choose the car without any rust that starts on the first crank. If it wasn't like that, clunkers with a dead battery, broken window and rusted out fenders and doors would be selling for $1500.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 362 (view)
 
Men in this age group and money
Posted: 3/26/2015 6:01:49 AM
Personally, I rather enjoy going out to dinner with a woman, and would only do it if I can afford it. Even if the "chemistry" is not there, it still an interesting experience to meet someone new and spend long enough with them on a one on one basis to fully appreciate their impact. I have never considered it a waste of anything, always have a good meal, and have the feeling that I am not owed anything. It actually leave me in control of the situation, as I decide if anything further is going to happen, and even if I decide against, I have no issue as the woman has had at the very least a good meal in the company of someone who is articulate, polite and doesn't smell bad. Its my gift to her in exchange for the pleasure of her company in what would otherwise be a silent and solitary experience.

People need to get out of their own minds.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 102 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 3/26/2015 5:49:11 AM
^^^^I think I am beginning to see where the female vitriol is coming from.......
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 83 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 3/25/2015 12:35:45 PM

Do you know how rare that is?


Really, LH, I am an old person like you, and have loads of experience in the game of life. I do hope things work for you and John. My main point is that love is not hard to find if you are open to making it happen, and while I myself like intelligent, interesting, healthy partners, I do know that in any cooperative endeavour, like love, evaluative and judgmental approaches are only self-serving and counter-productive approaches that will doom the efforts.

The reality of life is that the vast majority of people find successful relationships without too much trouble. Its also true that through the eyes of love a persons perception of their significant other rarely coincides with an objective description of the object of affection. When people bind, they also merge from me and you to us.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 71 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 3/25/2015 6:47:19 AM
Well, there is no responsibility in this issue, and of course it is well known that other medical issues, booze, pills, and general level of fitness do all play a part in ED. However, sexual response is also a function of mutual interaction. We have all experienced sex where one or the other partner is not into it at the time. I am not placing any blame, siply observing that if the feelings are not mutual, it gets harder for it to happen at all. People can and do compensate for things like vaginal dryness. There are options.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 69 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 3/25/2015 6:07:49 AM

Interesting that younger women assume older men have problems with sexual arousal. I must have been dating the Viagra for lunch bunch because I've not met one 50+ yet that had any problem whatsoever in that department.


I have been told that sexual problems are strongly associated with age. While it is true that I am much less obsessed with sex than I used to be, I don't need Viagra and am amazed at the level of reports of men with performance issues. I am a firm believer in the thought that the response of a partner has a lot to do with the response of the other partner.

So far..
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 68 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 3/25/2015 5:59:42 AM
Well, LH, you remind me of a good friend who would write a profile pretty well identical to yours. She is somewhat down the road from you in life, but her relationship history is pretty similar, her educational background similar, and her activity profile similar. In her case, the net result is she has remained single for the last 30 odd years, always finding her suitors somehow unsatisfactory. Of course, its always a choice, and she always chooses her life over anything that deviates in any way to accommodate a significant other. Nothing at all wrong with that. She is out there hiking the Sierras, etc, and she is quite happy.

My point is simply that she is not really looking for a relationship, and has successfully not found one. Given her situation, her intelligence, her economic independence, and the social structure she is embedded within, it is not at all hard to understand her situation and choices. Its quite rare for anyone with a well developed life without external or internal pressures to find a truly compatible mate. In her case, she would readily admit that any relationship would have to be fairly casual, satisfying intellectual, sexual and companionship needs, but nothing that changes the basis of her life.

You indicate you are seeking a relationship, but exactly what does that mean to you? What would you be prepared to change to be in a relationship? Its all very well to ask what men want, but more relevant to state what a woman is prepared to offer, and what level of commitment to success she is willing to pursue.

Too many people sit back with a filter in front of them and then wonder why it is that they only find unsatisfactory candidates. Relationships are a creative endeavour by both parties. The fail when one or the other party stops at a barrier.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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“window shopping”
Posted: 3/24/2015 3:24:10 PM

I always said that if people were really THAT 'desperate' then they would have found someone already....


Yep. That has been my experience with people. If your single for more than a few months, you want it that way. There are just too many perfectly good people out there actively looking to connect and form a relationship.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Age difference up or below by how much ??
Posted: 3/24/2015 2:46:24 PM
Here is a suggestion, if you meet someone with whom you get along well, have a good time in their company, who fits into your idea of the lifestyle you like to live, with whom you can have easy conversation and an enjoyable sex life, go out with them. If age is going to be an issue, you will not have to ask the question, you will know the answer. The only things I see as immediate limits are the legal ones (no minors) and the question of whether you want to have children. Men need a pre-menopausal woman to have children. Aside from that, if you perceive someone as disgusting, repulsive, old, feeble, decrepit of otherwise unsuitable, don't go out with them. (Think about it...its a concept!)

If you still are having a hard time, the guy running this site is an expert on relationships, and he has decreed the limits for contact on the site. You can always live with those limits provided automatically for you. Unless, of course, the people in your range have lied about their age, something which is rather blatant on dating sites, according to the published studies on internet dating. In which case, revert back to my previous proposal.......
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 55 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 3/24/2015 11:26:12 AM
What can I say. It appears that most of the men on dating sites are of a type and character that is completely beyond my own personal experience in life. I guess the dating site enables these people to get out there and interact in a way that was not all that easy before dating sites existed.

Mind you, I have never found very many possibly compatible women by browsing the ads on these sites. Maybe 3 or 4 out of the hundred that show up as "matches".
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 48 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 3/24/2015 8:28:30 AM

It's pretty common to hear this sorts of numbers, lilliMartin and cowboy had the same sort of numbers.


Well, I suppose it would depend on how you define a meeting, however, for me, the prospect of meeting 150 women to find 1 suitable match, and then not succeeding, kind of makes me think that online dating is a complete waste of time, money and effort. In R/L you can certainly meet hordes of people, but I don't think I ever dated more than 3 or 4 before connecting into a relationship that went on for years. I certainly would not be classifying all the women I passed on the street on the way to work as "meetings" in the sense of the hunt for happiness.

If I went on dates with 150 women at my age, I would probably be physically, financially and emotionally exhausted, and have switched teams.....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 43 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 3/24/2015 5:45:32 AM

I've met 125 to 150 men ages 50-65 through online dating.


Hmmmmm....and not one a good prospect for a relationship? Either strictly a serial dater of remarkably unlucky.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 149 (view)
 
What Not to Wear at this Stage?
Posted: 3/23/2015 1:35:50 PM
Lots of women over 50 wear bikinis and look just fine. I don't think its age, its physique, and your attitude towards your physique.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 3/23/2015 1:28:13 PM
Hassle free relationship with a woman that is happy to be with me, does not have a load of issues, isn't completely broke, is not basically crazy about cats, and is in reasonable physical shape. Enough education to be coherent in discussions of current events, and one that does not dream of bus tours or cruises.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 127 (view)
 
What Not to Wear at this Stage?
Posted: 3/13/2015 6:19:50 AM
Long hair at any age is appealing if its well kept and whatever the color. Older women have bodies that can be just as appealing as those of younger women.

Dress to your comfort. Forget the rest.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 177 (view)
 
I am having trouble dating
Posted: 3/12/2015 7:22:43 AM

Who even THINKS that ANY grown woman thinks like that?!?!?!


What you go to realize, Dee, if that this site and especially these forums are filled with all kinds of people who concern themselves with anything but the aspects of relationships that matter. Red flags, the cost of coffee and whether women have children trump the sense of harmony of soul that flows from a meeting with someone who wants to make a good life together.

You got to do something to meet. It almost always costs money. If it ain't worth it, caress your keyboard, fondle your mouse, and fill your coffee much from your Keurig.....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 166 (view)
 
Women on POF with kids
Posted: 3/12/2015 7:13:43 AM
Who care if women have kids or not. Its kind of normal for people to have children, and there are many benefits to being associated with women or men who have children, if you like the family experience. Even if you don't like family life, they are not your kids, so its all about the relationship you have with the other person. It may not be 100% perfect according to your own needs at some particular time in life, but nothing ever actually is, and kids grow up and move away, so if things work out over the long run, life can be great!
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 123 (view)
 
What Not to Wear at this Stage?
Posted: 3/12/2015 7:07:21 AM
I always presume that everyone who is dating is interested in finding a sexual partner. Otherwise, why bother dating?

So, if you are interested in finding a sexual partner, dress in the fashion that you think will attract someone who is interested in the same level of sexual involvement as you prefer.

In my experience, different people find different dress styles appealing, so if you have a preferred dress style, you will attract someone who finds that style sexy, whatever that style happens to be. If you find you are not getting the desired level of interest, either change dating circles (i.e. change dating site, social environment, job, city, church), or change your style.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Is there anybody that is really happy in their lives?
Posted: 3/3/2015 6:27:00 AM
Yep, life is pretty good. While there have been several bad patches over the years, things always get better, and if you learn at all from the bad times, the better times continue to improve. For me, the essential is to see the bad parts as failures to pay attention and get out of ones own head.

Its never completely perfect in every way, but nothing ever is that way, except, perhaps, some days of Spring skiing...
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 137 (view)
 
Together forever, no marriage, separate homes, finger up the ass
Posted: 2/27/2015 10:59:47 AM
I genuinely like women...love them, actually. Thing is, women who describe themselves as "independent" don't really like men who are the same way.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 85 (view)
 
How well do you know that guy you .........
Posted: 2/27/2015 10:55:33 AM
People who think sex is a tool of control have no idea about human nature and basic market economics. It only works if you have a monopoly, and generally, you don't.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 538 (view)
 
Over 60, what do you men think about marriage?
Posted: 2/27/2015 10:51:38 AM
Unfortunately, increasingly it matters not whether you get married. The financial and legal entanglements happen if you just live together for more than a month or so, whether or not you so wish. And, the financial consequences are severe for the one with the most money or assets. Oddly, the only safe route is to live close but at different addresses, and just enjoy steady dating.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 461 (view)
 
Over 60, what do you men think about marriage?
Posted: 9/15/2014 3:05:15 PM

Regardless of what may have transpired back in cavedwelling days, nowadays marriage IS primarily about love.


No, marriage is about property rights, legal powers and legal responsibility. People may get married because they are in love, but love has nothing to do with marriage, as you would quickly realize when love dies and you have to unwind the marriage before the law.

The legal effects of a marriage persist for decades after love is but a distant memory, in some places, for a lifetime. If there was a balance between emotion and law, there would be no need for lawyers, courts and judges to unwind the entanglements.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 458 (view)
 
Over 60, what do you men think about marriage?
Posted: 9/15/2014 11:56:31 AM
It would be so nice if those commenting on my posts had read them and showed some comprehension of the English language.....duh!
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 456 (view)
 
Over 60, what do you men think about marriage?
Posted: 9/15/2014 7:32:52 AM
Odd, seeing as how the protection and well being of the children are one of the pillars of the formal marriage laws in most places. Its all about property rights. Back in the days of tribal life there was no need as children were regarded as a vital tribal resource and all the members of the tribe were the child's family.

There are loads of men over 60 on this site, as are there women. People like to think of marriage as an emotional bond, but in fact its a legal status associated with property rights, taxation, and legal responsibility for the support and maintenance of the partners and their offspring.

If there are financial reasons (insurance,pension rights, business sheltering and such) that can benefit one or both parties, and if the relationship is entered in good faith, then marriage is a good idea. Otherwise, its a terrible idea.

You can ride the emotional tide without a marriage certificate. People are not supposed to be married when they fall in love, although it happens often. Unfortunately, the myth of marriage being a declaration of love is way to popular.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 62 (view)
 
starting over
Posted: 12/10/2013 6:43:52 AM
Its not that you have to "wait" for a number of years to "recover" from a lost long term relationship. You can, and will, move on to new relationships. Its just that you won't really be who you are as an unattached person for that period of time until you have purged your behaviour of all the habits that you built up during the previous long term.

That means that you will continue to change back to who you really want to be, and the consequence is that your new relationships will likely suffer because they are based on something that is not stable in you.

On the other hand, the more you try, the faster you may recover. Damned if you don't, Damned if you do......

Whenever you think you know what will happen in a new relationship, just realize that you don't. You only know what would have happened in your old relationship under the particular circumstances in question. Its the false assumptions that kill the new relationship.

Its really unfortunate that you can't change long term habit overnight. On the other hand, those who can evolve the successful long term habits don't find themselves in relationships that fail.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
The much sought after emotion...Love
Posted: 11/1/2013 9:04:08 AM
My experience is that love is an easily found, common and natural occurrence between people. To me, its active and reflexive. You have to be open to it happening, and you have to give of yourself to the object of your affection. Love requires constant attention to your acts within a relationship. The stronger the emotions involved, the deeper the love becomes.

It is not some magic out of your control. You make it happen by loving. You keep it happening by loving. You know its there in a relationship when you can feel it and never have to question whether its present.

For all kinds of reasons, you will be hurt by love. Learn to enjoy the hurt as much as you enjoy the bliss. Its all one single passage in life.

You are never more than 5 minutes away from love. Its up to you.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 37 (view)
 
starting over
Posted: 10/23/2013 8:52:47 AM
I suppose one has to ask oneself how much energy and sacrifice one is putting into a relationship. It appears to be true that relationships take work, hard, continuous work, and there is some evidence that the result is durable. Of course, some relationships are easier than others, and that may be the trick, finding one that is easy enough to manage.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 169 (view)
 
It may be stupid, but what did we do with out cell phones?
Posted: 10/21/2013 2:29:36 PM
Before cell phones we had personal privacy, freedom of choice, peace and tranquility.

How I remember having a nice lunch with an interesting companion and being able to spend the time concentrating on her without interruptions, distractions and other nnoying happenings.

Now, you ask for a phone number, and if she gives you her land line, you know immediately she is not all that interested in receiving your call....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 56 (view)
 
gracious response to a 'no' on the second date invitation
Posted: 9/17/2013 2:50:36 PM
Well, I have always taken any refusal without some compelling reason as terminal. I never ask again. If you are in this age group and want to play coy, check what is on TV. I know what I want out of life, and uncertainty or playing games is not part of it. I think that one really has to keep in mind that there is a huge amount of competition out there and that you won't likely get anywhere toying with opportunities. That is true even outside of the dating world, IMHO.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 92 (view)
 
Relocating For The Over 45 Crowd.....
Posted: 8/24/2013 6:14:22 AM

if the guy was offering six months of the year on a tropical island...hmmmm.....


For us Canucks, Australia is a tropical island......:)

16-18C in the dead of Winter........rough......
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 76 (view)
 
Life is less and less worthwhile
Posted: 8/19/2013 6:43:25 AM
What with long term friends, colleagues, neighbours and family members succumbing to cancers and other maladies, I find the fact that life has obviously less and less of a future duration to make the current moments more precious. I am pressing ahead as fast as I can with the things I want and need to do, and actually enjoying it more than ever.

It is a worry, however, that the next medical checkup could well signal the beginning of the end, but that is why its important to think positive.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 69 (view)
 
circular dating
Posted: 6/25/2013 1:48:54 PM
Is that "immoral" or "amoral" sex you are thinking about?

One has guilt, the other is just plain fun!!!
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Life is less and less worthwhile
Posted: 6/25/2013 7:29:16 AM
Good grief!

1) Get as healthy as you can
2) Do whatever to stay that way
3) Find a friendly woman to spend time with (there are hordes of them out there)
4) Spend your money on traveling first class as much as possible
5) Love without worrying about whether its "right"
6) Let yourself be loved
7) Get viagra if you need it.....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 194 (view)
 
Men over sixty - seem to like women in their own age bracket.
Posted: 6/17/2013 9:12:13 AM
If you go by this site, the number of older women participating falls off dramatically after mid-50s, so if you are older than that,
you pretty well have to look at younger women, whether you want to or not. Otherwise, you might as well stick to real life.

Of course men prefer women in their age group.....groan......
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 104 (view)
 
Women can fix this!
Posted: 6/4/2013 9:42:51 AM
^^^^BINGO!

That is right on target!
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 88 (view)
 
CRADLE SNATCHING
Posted: 6/4/2013 9:41:41 AM
It would be depressing to live by all the "rules" people on here come up with. Fortunately, as far as I can tell, most of them have no idea about what they talk about, and real life is far more fluid and dynamic than any environment that the rule makers want to promote.

It is quite true, however, that most of the world still accepts older male/younger female relationships, largely because they still expect the male will be the provider and the female will ensure the arrival of offspring. Sexist? Outdated? Patriarchal? Definitely! However, its reality.

Do what you want in the relationships that you can form. Leave to moralizing to those sitting by themselves in front of their computers.....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 365 (view)
 
New Age Restrictions Set By Admin: Message Restrictions
Posted: 5/22/2013 7:12:42 AM
My experience has been that the vast majority of people on POF have profiles on the other 50 dating sites on the net, so...if Markus doesn't want you chatting up
people outside his view of appropriate age limits, simply go to almost any other site and connect there.......

Its actually pretty interesting to compare the profiles of one person of several sites. The differences are quite revealing.......:)

Even on POF, many appear to have multiple profiles with widely varying ages, interests and goals. Site admins can delude themselves that their policies are
effective, and some may be, however, the published statistics on the data on social media sites show that truth is not a big factor in what people put in profiles.

You all should also pay attention to the fact that while POF, and other sites, post the number of new additions, you never see any stats on the number of closed
accounts or the number of accounts that have been dead for several years.....Its all smoke and mirrors.....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 215 (view)
 
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 5/3/2013 9:44:24 AM
What do people actually need limits for? Are they too dull to figure out whether they are interested in someone by either looking at some pictures, talking on the phone or meeting for a tea? I suppose if you are so stunningly gorgeous that you get hundreds of hits a day it might be useful, but I have not seen anyone on POF yet that has that kind of appeal....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 71 (view)
 
CRADLE SNATCHING
Posted: 5/3/2013 7:24:44 AM
^^^^How true! Of course, its never evident which one will become the caregiver, and even if you take up with someone exactly your own age, its no guarantee you won't become a caregiver eventually anyway.

I suspect that regardless of all the blather bandied about here, most people will go out with people that ask them out and with whom they feel happy.....

Yes, you may look in specific segments of the population, but worrying about what will happen down the road is just a needless waste of your own life. It only ever takes 1 visit to a Doctor for an annual checkup to go from being a healthy person who is bound to live forever to a person with chronic medical issues, and you just never know when that day will come.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 92 (view)
 
over 50 then look at this
Posted: 5/1/2013 5:45:58 AM
^^^^Well...if you need someone to help spend your money and share your pension, etc.........
 rearguard*2
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Msg: 57 (view)
 
Why do Men of a Certain Age HATE Facebook?
Posted: 4/8/2013 7:44:28 AM
The good thing about facebook is I have found and been found by all kinds of people I have not heard from for 40 odd years.

The bad thing about facebook is that people who I have not heard from in 40 odd years have found me.....

Is POF for finding dates?????
 rearguard*2
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Msg: 41 (view)
 
CRADLE SNATCHING
Posted: 4/4/2013 10:14:05 AM
If you are worried about what other people think about relationships that make you happy, you should consider seeking counseling.

Age differences may ultimately have an effect on you, but there is no guarantee that you won't check out before the other person
you are being involved in, and you can't ensure living happily ever after by reading birth certificates.

A this age group, you just can't expect to live forever after. Why limit your choices based on anything?
 rearguard*2
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Msg: 28 (view)
 
Ain't Going to Happen.... now what?
Posted: 2/27/2013 2:34:51 PM

It's all somebody else's fault.


Far as I can tell, for 99.9% of the complainers on these forums, it IS somebody else's fault....for years and years and years.......
 rearguard*2
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Msg: 19 (view)
 
Ain't Going to Happen.... now what?
Posted: 2/27/2013 5:24:11 AM
Why would anyone at this age be seeking marriage? Been there, done that!

But I love the strategy that Blonde Angel suggests....:)
 rearguard*2
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Msg: 5 (view)
 
45 and feel so out of my depth about dating
Posted: 2/7/2013 9:14:12 AM
Its really not a big problem. Think about how you treated your ex(es). Treat the women you meet better!
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
How Weird was this?
Posted: 2/6/2013 11:59:20 AM
He took a look at you and decided that he was not interested.......rude, crude, but easy on him.....
 rearguard*2
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Msg: 49 (view)
 
Relationship Goals..
Posted: 1/31/2013 12:56:40 PM
Many people who are in relationships have life goals. One of the BIG things being in a stable relationship does is give one time to pursue life goals. Many single people spend huge amounts of time (and money), to say nothing of the psychological resources, seeking a mate. If you have a steady mate, you may have one who wants to participate in your goals and dreams, and you may wish to participate in her goals and dreams. Both of you just have way more resources to follow your dreams because you are not spending those resources trying to find a relationship. No matter how low a priority you may declare the search for a partner, its probably not zero, and that means you are thinking about it, searching for someone, investing in new relationships, etc. All of which leaves less time and resources for doing what you really think you want to do.
 rearguard*2
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Msg: 45 (view)
 
Relationship Goals..
Posted: 1/31/2013 10:29:38 AM
Sorry, chancesrmd, I can't message you because of your mail setting. I'm too old.

Try macleans.ca for the article....
 
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