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rearguard2

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Msg: 204 (view)

ED over 45 Posted: 11/27/2009 1:31:21 PM
Work on your core muscles and focus on doing some back extensions.. Sound advice. But then again, perhaps its because I stopped using the trapeze!

rearguard2

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/27/2009 1:08:24 PM
I have had some of this type of pain following indoor rugby sessions. Only thing to do is take aspirin or one of those anti-inflammatory medicines. Lots of exercise over quite some time appears to lessen the incidence, and "letting her do all the work" has some merits as well. The good news is that there is nothing mechanically wrong with the skeletal structure, but I too wonder about the prevalence of back issues as we get older. I gave up using the trapeze a few years back as well......

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Women question a man over 50 and not been married? Posted: 11/27/2009 11:45:39 AM
Sorry, while there are elements of Ismene2's post that are congruent with my own beliefs, it also degenerates into how some people are just smarter than others in choosing mates, something I can not support. Lots of people get divorced simply because of there own lack of skills and knowledge about how to go about managing a long term relationship, and lots more get divorced simply because of natural human weaknesses. Just because someone is divorced does not indicate necessarily they are unable to commit in a relationship, and it also does not indicate they are poor at choice of partner. The divorce rate is way to high for any conclusion like that. Half the world can't be incompetent in mate selection. As for those who never got married, no judgment can be made there either. There are probably pathological cases where someone has had zero relationships, but even there, an examination of the reasons would be required to draw any conclusions. Life goes by pretty fast, and its easy to get involved in simple situations like working in a remote community which can leave you single at 55 simply because there are simply no available candidates. Many other situations can also occur.

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Guys that want no strings attached Posted: 11/27/2009 11:18:05 AM
You know, if you want to spend all your time with a woman, and you want it to be a pleasant and rewarding experience, I hardly think taking the attitudes of disrespect, abuse, demeaning, selfishness and exploitation are the ones that are likely to yield success. I suppose there are lots of people who behave this way, but they can't really be having a good time. If you want to hang on to your woman and have a good time with her, you have to respect her, honor her, cherish her and generally treat her as your equal in all ways. All this man vs woman crap is just that, crap. If you buy into any of it, you will just end up by yourself, no matter how you justify your own attitudes. And anyway, what does that all have to do with NSA sex?

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Article On Mature Ladies and Dating. Posted: 11/27/2009 10:57:24 AM
Well, I guess I find it more convenient to have a life partner there to participate with me in life's little daily activities than to go it on my own and have to go out on the hunt when I want companionship. I do think that having a loving relationship has its conveniences, the two things are not mutually exclusive, necessarily.

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Do any adults like Disney World without bringing kids? Posted: 11/27/2009 8:23:51 AM
Only reason to go to Disney as an adult is to experience the perfection of the place. Its completely artificial, including the spider webs. No rock, tree or mud puddle is unplanned or natural. Its truly a wonder of the world. The management and operations of the place are equally spectacular. Once you have seen Disney, any other theme park pales in comparison, and not just slightly. Only slightly negative thing I found was that its a couple of decades old or so, and some things are a bit campy.... I am, aside from that observation, completely with Ismene2.

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/27/2009 8:15:29 AM
Hmmmm....let me see.....he keeps fit and in shape, she keeps fit and in shape, and the two of them have an active sex life....... My goodness...what a concept! I really wonder why more people don't realize that! I mean, what woman would not want to have sex with a guy with a strong hard body? What man would not want to have sex with a woman with a strong lithe figure? And...they even love each other!!!!

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Article On Mature Ladies and Dating. Posted: 11/27/2009 8:09:51 AM
Just curious as to just what are the conveniences? Only you can answer that. If there are no conveniences that you can think of, then you probably won't put much effort into the project, and won't miss out on any of them. I have to say I know a lot of post-50 ladies that can't think of any conveniences, and have been unattached for quite a while. I know less men like that, but I am beginning to see how one could get into that mind set once the perceived inconveniences loom larger than any perceived conveniences......

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IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN? Posted: 11/27/2009 8:04:15 AM
Do you think ANY man will approach them...unless they were desperate? I think that loads of men want to have a woman that is like the ones I refer to. You just have to scan the profiles here to see the various looks that are presented. Men who are into flashy personal appearance for themselves find the made up and decorated woman interesting and go after them. Men who prefer the "au naturelle" women go after that presentation. Basically, I don't see a lot of difference between a dating site and a meat market club. There tends to be more style variety on the web than in any particular club, but its all out there from the enjoyment. Mostly I notice that people don't really like going to clubs all that much. As soon as they connect with someone they stop going and spend their time doing other stuff with their partner. An occasional outing, yes, but daily? As for "desperate", I think the motivation has to be strong, but whether "desperate" is the word is another question. I used "hard up" which to me means does not have and would like to have. Should they approach women? Only if they want to connect with them. Should women approach men? Only if they want to connect with them. Should anyone sit around and wait? Only if you are having a good time doing that.

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Msg: 266 (view)

IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN? Posted: 11/27/2009 7:52:02 AM
Of course, at my age I clearly would know nothing about life, relationships or women. I mean, who would? I have spent a fair amount of time in clubs, actually, and as life has gone on, the one thing I have noticed is that as the women and men get older they generally put more effort into making themselves look "more attractive". At least in the urban environment when you spend time in clubs catering to the more mature set you run into more and more women who have "had work done", are heavily made up, and have spent loads on clothes and accessories. Its all about competition. Yes, there are clubs of different sorts catering to people of different specific interests, and these are not necessarily meat markets. I am referring specifically to the clubs of the meat market variety, and while I am sure that the people there are of many types, the scene appears to me to be pretty much standardized as I describe it. The guys as well are all dressed up with gold Rolexs increasingly expensive suits and shoes, and nobody drinks beer. Quite a contrast from the places catering to the 20 year olds, or the 30-somethings. Like night and day as far as I can see.

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IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN? Posted: 11/27/2009 7:10:45 AM
^^^^^^Wow, pretty strong stereotypes...... Personally, I have never picked up a woman in a night club, not because I have low self esteem. Just figured that women who have nothing better to do than hang around night clubs drinking and waiting to be picked up had to be pretty hard up for a man. Loads and loads of women out there doing fun stuff, completely sober, who are easily met, and not covered in cosmetics or squashed into clothes a size or two too small with cigarettes hanging from their lips.

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Article On Mature Ladies and Dating. Posted: 11/27/2009 6:29:52 AM
I do think that its a matter of asking why a man or a woman is looking for a partner, and what the eventual life plan is once one is found. As hordes of ladies on these forums have pointed out, they don't need a man to make a full and satisfying life for themselves, and its also true that single men don't need a woman to make a full and satisfying life for themselves either. So, why look at all? You may meet someone that you evolve a relationship with that ends up in the living happily ever after scenario, but I suspect that is pretty hard to achieve, given that you no longer have the motivations of reproduction and child rearing. So, since you don't need it, and you have already proven to yourself you can get on just fine without it, what are the likely scenarios? Most likely a series of relatively short term relationships focused on whatever social and sexual needs you may have. Its certainly nice to have a partner for holidays, social events, sports and whatnot, but none of these need be permanent. Given all the available singles out there and the already established base that you don't really need any one, how can you not expect that life will be either largely a single affair, punctuated increasingly less frequently by relationships of convenience?

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/26/2009 4:48:44 PM
Profile hidden only from search, not the forums...

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How do you older women feel about a younger guy in a relationship Posted: 11/26/2009 1:59:36 PM
^^^^ You get off on chewing each other's fat!!!!! Different strokes, I guess......

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/26/2009 1:39:55 PM
You know, if testosterone is too low, the guy won't be thinking about women 24/7, so may never really notice he has a problem. Psychological reasons in later age? How about finding themselves divorced and financially crushed? How about having to visit your own kids in what used to be your home? How about coming to the realization that your "career" has peaked and you are on your way out rather than up? How about any of the many middle age crisis things that hit us all? What amazes me is that any of us can plow ahead at all!

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/26/2009 11:43:02 AM
However a whole lot of people older and younger do not have the emotional fiber to experience this kind of connection at all. It would be somewhat interesting to understand where this statement comes from. How, exactly, beyond a personal judgment, can you ever know that this is true. It would appear to me that every human being who is not suffering from would would be a rather severe mental disorder or something like drug addiction would be quite capable of forming deep emotional attachments within the right context. The vast majority of us, for instance, love our mothers and manage to find someone to settle down with for reproductive purposes. Even the real loonies have close friends.

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Guys that want no strings attached Posted: 11/26/2009 9:18:36 AM
Personally, I avoid having sex with women because of the inevitable emotional attachments that creep into the relationship. I don't want to become emotionally involved with just any woman who comes along and happens to be horny. I want to be emotionally involved with only a very specific woman who is emotionally involved with me. Since I get emotionally involved pretty quickly with a sexual partner, its best to tread carefully..... That said, NSA sex is a very attractive idea. To bad it just doesn't typically present itself as an option except in commercial arrangements and other venues riddled with the risks of disease. I think its more of a myth than anything else. Although, I do believe that over my own lifetime a few women have tried me on for size and there has been no emotional attachment during that process.....

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How do you older women feel about a younger guy in a relationship Posted: 11/26/2009 8:55:16 AM
Those of us with our own bank accounts go for the body. If there is a nice personality and brains there as well, so much the better...

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pre nups Posted: 11/26/2009 8:34:52 AM
Main problem I see with pre-nups is the growing tendency of courts to disregard them based on the latest trends in social thinking. Same thing with "final" divorce decrees. They are becoming like marriage arrangements, not worth the paper they are written on.

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Guys that want no strings attached Posted: 11/26/2009 8:31:58 AM
Well, I once had a girl friend who used sex as a reward/punishment thing with me. Of course, it did not work at all, but she certainly tried to mold me to her wishes in this manner. As in all these power situations, they are only effective if you allow the other person to have that power over you.

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TEXTS FROM THE EX Posted: 11/26/2009 7:14:30 AM
Simply stop answering them.. My goodness! What a concept!!!! You are positively brilliant!!!!!

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Guys that want no strings attached Posted: 11/26/2009 7:07:47 AM
Using that logic, a woman who lives off a man is a prostitute. Goodness. Where is all the enlightenment? On an economic basis, which some anthropologist use to justify the social institution of marriage, an obtuse individual could view it as a form of prostitution. Unfortunately, there is the issue of economic efficiency gained from division of labour and specialization of skills which, at least in many traditional environments like hunter/gatherer or subsistence farming, resulted in significant improvement in the lifestyles of both parties to the union. I think its pretty easy to distinguish prostitution from this kind of a situation. The modern view is that neither person lives off the other in the partnership, and anyone who has experienced working marriage like partnerships would, if honest, recognize that neither partner is living off the other in any real sense. This is particularly evident where children are involved. No, I think prostitution has to be limited to the cases where one partner deliberately pays to keep the other around for sexual and social pleasure, and where both partners are aware of the basis of the arrangement.

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Guys that want no strings attached Posted: 11/26/2009 6:57:16 AM
And yeah, people who want NSA sex are perfectly entitled to seek it. What? There are people who don't want NSA sex??????

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Guys that want no strings attached Posted: 11/26/2009 6:55:25 AM
Male prostitute = gigolo Where did you come up with that? To me, a gigolo is a seducer and user of women. While he may profit from the exercise, in most classical references to the gigolo that I have encountered the profit was incidental to the dynamic. A prostitute is part of a strictly commercial relationship. The female gigolo is the courtesan, and both are engaged in emotional exploitation for personal benefit, which I find distinct.

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/25/2009 10:00:47 AM
I think that its true that every male will sooner or later experience a failure to perform in a sexual context. I am totally with widowsdesire on this one. All kinds of things, both of a permanent and a transitory nature can cause this phenomenon, and the worst outcome that one could experience is that of a woman taking an uncharitable view of the situation. I think its also true that women experience situations where they are, for whatever reason, not able to become aroused in a sexual situation, and while I suspect that some women go ahead anyway, I don't see much of a difference between this and what is called ED in men. I am sure that no woman would want her partner giving her static about such a situation either, and, as with men, the potential to do a lot of damage to a relationship exists in these situations. Contrary to what appears to be popular lore, neither men nor women are ready, willing and able to copulate at any place and any time, and I personally think that as one gets older the emotional context becomes more significant in determining the level of performance that is manifest by the parties involved.

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/25/2009 5:59:56 AM
Nothing like viewing a walking advertisement.. Well, as far as I can tell, we are all walking advertisements. You can pretty much tell by looking at anybody just who they want you to think they are, and a good number tell you exactly who they are....

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/25/2009 5:12:46 AM
As far as "satisfactory for penetration" is concerned, I too was quite amazed when I first saw this criterion for determining whether someone had ED or not. However, on thinking a bit about it, I realized that its exactly correct. If you can achieve penetration you can reproduce, and after all, that is the biological necessity here. All of the pole dancing that can go on is, after all, incidental to the matter. What is important biologically is that the man get up, get in and get off. The rest is just being polite!

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/25/2009 5:07:16 AM
I am still stuck on the idea of a strap-on for dogs...... I guess reading all this stuff the thing I should do is wear a t-shirt that says "Hi, I don't need a little blue pill to perform in bed!" I am going to wear it when I go out and see if my hit ratio improves at all......

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/24/2009 6:53:33 PM
Well, you could start with kennel club members, I suppose......but according to this thread there should be hordes of men with limp willies even down at the local mall. Look for guys with salt and pepper hair, or all grey, or white! Be discrete, however. I recall that some places still find the sale of racy pics in mall parking lots to be not only disgusting, but illegal as well..... I wonder if dogs have problems with ED as they get older.

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/24/2009 6:36:41 PM
Perhaps, FFS, you should assemble a set of appropriately appealing pictures and make either a calendar or DVD, and market it as an alternative to little blue pills! Males with ED could order online. Tastefully packaged editions could also be offered to the partners of suffering males for Valentine's gifts, rugged packages for romantic getaways, discrete packages for men in denial. I can see an entire spectrum of marketing opportunities! Think of a boxed set including a racy teddy for her and a sampling of card sized photos for him. You would, of course, be the model for the female attire........ Later, you can expand into blow up dolls and possibly even special editions for niche markets like S&M, B&D, maybe even get into..... Well, my other ideas would be best discussed off line, I suspect......

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Middle Aged Cheap Skates.... Posted: 11/24/2009 10:06:37 AM
men outnumber women by large numbers on here Is this a fact? Where are the stats on the site users? Be interesting to know why there are so many more men that women.

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/24/2009 9:39:27 AM
Well, after reading Ismene's post, the idea of swearing off the ladies appears to be a lot less abhorrent than do some of the ED related therapies. Perhaps its true that all good things come to an end after all.....

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/24/2009 6:16:37 AM
All I can conclude from this thread is that I should be spending more time in bed with a woman while I still can perform. If I believe the comments here, its only a matter of time before I run out of lead in my pencil, and the last chapter of my tale of physical prowess is complete! Terrifying, really.....

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/24/2009 5:32:34 AM
Why not just forget about real life sex and stick to cyber-sex. Virtual reality is always a lot less messy anyways. Only problem is that it gets harder to type at some point!

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Women question a man over 50 and not been married? Posted: 11/24/2009 5:10:22 AM
The good news is that there are so many of us divorced/widowed people out there that there is quite enough choice and we need never concern ourselves with those who choose to judge us negatively based on their perceptions of our lives.

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Msg: 429 (view)

What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/23/2009 1:32:29 PM
Strange that "hot" is foreign to some of the fishes here on POF. On my "matches" page there is a link to "Women who think you are hot!" Of course I am not going to let others get a look at my male friends. I only advertise for myself. I don't need the competition as it is!!! What a man looks for in a relationship is a real woman that will stand beside him. Someone that he knows is by his side without having to think about it or question it. Someone that frees his mind from the uncertainty of the relationship so that he can think about how to make life better for both of them, knowing that he is doing the same for her, and she is thinking alike thoughts in her own way. Someone that makes it possible for their joint life to be more than the two of them would each be able to have on their own. Someone who cares whether they come home at night. Someone to touch gently in the soft morning light. Someone that eases his mind of the daily cares of life, and whose mind is eased by his presence in her life. Someone to love without limit who in turn loves him without limit. Someone with which to be one!

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/23/2009 12:27:23 PM
Funny you should mention the word "hot" not something I really hear women saying. Well, its a common slang for attractive. I hear it daily from the younger females that my kids hang with, but I am prepared to agree that its like "sick", "kewl" and the plethora of transitory adjectives that define generations. Ever been "down" for something? Used to be you were "up" for something!

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/23/2009 12:08:10 PM
Essentially, its a trap. Men will always be looking for a hot babe, although not necessarily young. A babe is hot because, for whatever reasons, her looks and mode of interaction get his juices flowing. Let's face it, nobody is likely to go out looking for someone who is not hot to their perspective. I pretty much doubt that women are significantly different in that aspect. It is probably true, however, that what a man finds hot in a woman might be quite different from the list of factors a woman considers when deciding some is hot. I have quite a few male friends that women find hot, but I personally can't see how they could possibly prefer them to me!

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/23/2009 11:56:36 AM
And, Ms Moon, don't forget the near universal appeal of a woman who can make a good lasagne!!!!!

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/23/2009 11:54:50 AM
Hot babes are women that men find sexually appealing to the extent that they dream of starting at their toes and working their way slowly up the body exploring and savouring each and every curve and inflection. Its not related to age, its related to attitude, both that of the man doing the dreaming and of the woman who is letting her sexuality be known. I am sure there are several ladies on the forum that will explain that actual physical characteristics have little to do with the phenomenon, as will several of the men. A good mental connection will get all that stuff going anytime....

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Asking-a-guy, about Dating over 45, & holiday expectations Posted: 11/23/2009 9:51:15 AM
Wow! Hope when I am 71 I can get to spend 9 days with a 48 year old woman! I'll be happy to make it 10 or 12 by bringing her home for Thanksgiving as well!!!!

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The person you are interested in is already retired ... you are not. Posted: 11/23/2009 7:25:06 AM
ya,, they do ! We live alone, and Like It Actually, I suspect that most of the guys like that are married to women who have a pretty good idea of what they have and work hard to hang on to him..... But there are quite a few of us out there on the market as well. Of course, we are a bit picky, knowing as we do our own market appeal...

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Commitment, a unique or generalized pledge? Posted: 11/23/2009 6:59:41 AM
I guess my point is that any commitment is valid only for the moment that the question is posed. In the next instant something can happen to change the situation, be it an act, a word, or death. While you can believe that what you feel today is something that is ongoing and permanent, it should be clear that this is a belief based on a static reality, and we all know there is no such thing as a static reality. If, as is the case with Margo, she is deeply into a relationship, yet denies a commitment at some level, I view that as a denial of reality. The reality is that today she would answer the question that she is in a relationship and it is not a trivial part of her life. I wager she would even answer that she has expectations of a future for the relationship. If that is true, or if only the first element is true, then she is committed to the relationship today. What happens tomorrow may change her answer, but that is true for any of us at any time. My comments are only directed at clarifying what commitment actually means, and what it actually can mean. I would suspect that third parties meeting Margo and friend and becoming apprised of their current situation would have no hesitation in saying she was part of a committed relationship. So, why would Margo deny it, unless something fundamentally flawed was going on?

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The person you are interested in is already retired ... you are not. Posted: 11/23/2009 5:55:43 AM
So many people out there think that retired people sit around all day doing nothing. Me, I continue to wonder how I ever had time in life to hold down a job. I realized when I retired that working people are completely unaware of all the things they just don't do because they have to get to work. For those that want to work until they drop because they love their work, more power to you. You are paying taxes to provide me with the services I need and for that I thank you. The fact that you would not date me is of no concern at all, as you would not be available anyway, you being at the office and all. I always think of a line from a movie that went: "Nobody on their death bed says 'I wish I had spent more time at the office!'"

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Commitment, a unique or generalized pledge? Posted: 11/23/2009 4:59:28 AM
Well, Margo, I find you description of your situation indicative of a type of self denial of reality. You are committed as a couple, and likely have been from fairly early on in the relationship. Will you live happily ever after? Who can know that answer in any relationship, and being committed to doing it is to me rather pointless. You can only be really committed to being together for the moment. If you are committed to being with someone for each moment, it will last forever, whereas the instant you are no longer committed, the relationship is over. If you are living with someone, then you are committed to them in some considerable depth. I can't see it as anything but hurtful to refuse to admit it to yourself and to him. There is no mysticism to being committed. Its just a feeling that you don't want to be somewhere else with someone else, and its only good for the moment.

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Sex is sex and we no longer need to give or receive affection? What has happened to our age group? Posted: 11/22/2009 3:04:34 PM
To me, sex is somewhat selfish in that it allows me to express affection, and enjoy that pleasure in the illusion that it is willingly accepted. When the illusion is a reflection of reality, its all the better. It means you can express affection even when you are not engaged in sex, and it will be welcomed and reflected back.

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Sex is sex and we no longer need to give or receive affection? What has happened to our age group? Posted: 11/22/2009 2:53:31 PM
Sex to me is incidental to affection. It is something I savour. It is the expression of love. The very thought of being with a partner that is not affectionate is abhorrent. If I am with someone, I am hers, she is mine and the day is an exchange of little favours, the warmth of a smile, the gentle touch of the hand, the pressure of her body against mine as we sit and read or watch TV, the feeling of warmth radiating from her body as we stand next to each other, holding hands while driving through the night, or the fleeting touch as we separate for the days duties. What is life devoid of all that? What is sex without affection? Does not your body cry out for it? Mine does......

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Middle Aged Cheap Skates.... Posted: 11/22/2009 11:22:38 AM
Dates I really don't mind paying for. Giving up half my pension and possessions because some woman changed her mind....that bothers me.

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Did you think life would be like this at 50? Posted: 11/22/2009 5:05:02 AM
You only have to imagine the scene of a traffic jam at rush hour in a major, or even minor urban environment involving flying cars to realize that they would be pretty much disasters. Impatient parents doing the daycare dash would be crashing into each other over your head and falling onto your own vehicle which would accrete more victims flying below you as you plunged downwards resulting in a horrendous smoldering mess once you all hit the ground. Robots to cook, clean, change the diapers and watch the kids while they do their homework, however, would have been a great addition to life!

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I have zero experience with older men. Posted: 11/22/2009 4:55:41 AM
Does not every man at least wonder about his performance? After all, you can only ever appreciate the woman's point of view on the subject by her response and her appreciation of other experiences she may have had. While not necessarily being an "issue" or a confidence problem per se, men can never really know what a new female partner will think of their performance. Of course, we all tell ourselves that there is no problem as we are each the best she will ever know.....

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