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what is everyones opin on tattoos? Posted: 4/22/2009 6:26:46 PM
When I was younger I seriously considered it (of a small ladybug on a fern leaf). I had considered putting it on my tailbone (easily covered). Thankfully I didn't. Being 44 y/o and thinking about it now... I get visions of myself in the old folks home running down the hall, my gown flapping open.. and that cute little lady bug.. has.. through the sands of time and that damn gravity.. metamorphosed... to a lumpy long mutated catapillar thing... ICK, ICK, ICK! LOL!

Joined: 2/9/2008

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so, why are you still single? Posted: 4/22/2009 6:16:00 PM
I, too get asked this question often. I used to get annoyed by it. Now, depending on how the date is going and how I read his sense of humor (or I want to find out if he actually has one)..I respond several different ways. So, why are you still single? 1. I have deep seated psychological issues. Or 2. I am looking for a rich, fat old fart but haven't found one, Hey, is your dad single? But more often than not I just reply truthful, which means for me, " waiting to find the guy that I can't wait to run home to after work". Just grin and bear the question. Have fun with it! You can't change the curious! LOL!

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Is it wrong to settle temporarily, knowing it likely won't last Posted: 1/31/2009 12:18:50 PM
Wow, just tell her how you feel. You might be surprised that she is just filling in empty time with you as well. Then you can both feel better about using each other until someone better comes along. Your describing a disaster in the making!

Joined: 2/9/2008

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ARGHHHHH! Why are women so damn confusing. Posted: 1/31/2009 12:15:53 PM
Go for the girl. Do you want to spend the rest of your life wondering "what if"?

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Are there women out there that just look to be blown off? Posted: 9/20/2008 8:17:17 AM
okay... Horneschwoggle...the man was texting me from the time we agreed to a date to the afternoon of our date. Kind of hard to believe anyone would be " forgotten" in those circumstances. And, I am certainly aware I am "not the only fish in the pond". I have no illusions that I am all that and a bag of chips! LOL! If I was a model type maybe I would think that, but I am a realist. I am talking about what makes a man do this. Blow off a date at the last minute when up to that point..he has been putting on the full court press? And why would he have the guts to try to pick things up where they left off (leaving me wondering what happened to my date) months/weeks afterward?

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Are there women out there that just look to be blown off? Posted: 9/20/2008 8:07:04 AM
LOL! No itching to move on..kind of adventure. An adventure like being willing to go off for a weekend to learn repelling or taking an impromptu road trip on the spur of the moment just because the day is beautiful. You make a good point. What I am looking for versus what is attracting me. They do lay along the same lines to a certain degree. But do veer off in some aspects. It could then cause me to pick men with characteristics I am attracted to but that also include characteristics that are hurtful. Does having those 'attraction" characteristics automatically mean those that are hurtful are part of the overall package of the personality in general? Can't have one without the other? You made a very astute observation.and you have given me food for thought on what I am contributing to my own dilemma. Thank you.

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Are there women out there that just look to be blown off? Posted: 9/20/2008 7:51:30 AM
Surely there were warning signs? I have looked for them. If he didn't respond to a call or email, or he seemed to have a disregard for women or seemed insensitive...I would definitely view it as 'warning signs". I just didn't see any. Perhaps its just been the luck of the draw and in the law of probabilities it will even out in the end. Maybe its simply I just came across a batch of blow off artists. Thanks for your feedback.

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Are there women out there that just look to be blown off? Posted: 9/20/2008 7:46:26 AM
Okay...I am looking for a guy that has a sense of adventure, an appreciation for life, a sense of humor.. yada, yada, yada. I am looking for a "nice" guy. A man with a good soul. Nothing fancy. I have no criteria about the type of job he has, or car he drives., the money he makes. I am genuinely looking for a "nice" guy. That's it. What has attracted me is a fun sense of humor and that there is an instant rapport in our emails and telephone conversations. We meet and if that rapport is there and there aren't any red flags hitting me in the face (like I am an ex felon, married, or I am heavily medicated to stop the voices, etc)...I agree to go out on a real date with the man. Is there a clue to look out for? Questions that I can ask that will suss out his proclivity to blow off dates?

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Are there women out there that just look to be blown off? Posted: 9/20/2008 7:34:19 AM
I agree. I am the common denominator. I agreed to go out with the man. Had I a clue that he was the type to behave like this I wouldn't have. So ...how can I and my friends avoid this in the future? What if anything, should I look out for?

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Are there women out there that just look to be blown off? Posted: 9/20/2008 7:19:28 AM
I am starting to wonder if its something about me or if I just pick jerky men. I go out on a date or two with a guy I think is great. We have a fabulous time, we make plans to get together again..lots of texts messages afterwards (initiated by him)...up to hours before he is to pick me up.. then I either got the..."oh, I have to work later than expected" and he asks me out for the next night which he knows I already have plans for. Or the one that totally is incredible.....I don't get a call, text or any kind of contact at all! I am left wondering where my date is! I don't know if he is in an accident or something happened. No word what so ever. The kicker is.... months if not weeks later.. I get a text from him...asking "How are you?" like nothing ever happened! When this has happened, I tell the guy to lose my number and to please leave me alone. My girlfriends have complained about this happening to them as well. I can understand stuff happens but its happening far to much to be statistically viable . Mom always said "once you are stood up , you never give the man a 2nd chance". I don't want to be a cynical woman and do that because I understand 'stuff does happen"; but this is starting to get ridiculous, lol!

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my boyfriend still has profile up on POF, what do I do? Posted: 9/7/2008 8:42:27 PM
Simple.. logic... Your boyfriends profile is still up on POF. Clue... he is then NOT A BOYFRIEND! He is bootycall and using you as such; plus as a housekeeper, cook, etc. He is paying you compliments about your brains, logic etc.. to stop you in your tracks about complaining about him being still of POF. Its called diversion...if you complain then you aren't logical, or have brains? The guy has you wrapped around his finger. Good luck..you need it.

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why do guys lead you on? Posted: 9/6/2008 6:42:00 PM
First of all, I am sorry you had this happen to you. Second.. unfortunately yours is not an isolated case. It happens to othe r women and yes... even men. There will always be folks like this that enjoy or somehow get a little spark off of jerking someone around. From your profile pic with your post you are certainly not unattractive. Perhaps he has issues with beautiful women and a need to jerk them around? Maybe an inferiority complex that makes him want to just be mean spirited? If a guy doesn't follow through with calling you as he promised...give him a chance.. if he fails to come through gain. then you have to know he isn't worthy. If you give a guy too many chances...they just will keep dumping and taking advantage of you. You have to value yourself. If a guy doesn't treat you right... and you stick around hoping he will change...then you are not a victim of an insensitive jerky guy... you are a volunteer for that treatment. Sorry...for being blunt. You deserve better and need to believe that you are worth of better treatment.

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Young + Older vs. Older+ Younger Posted: 9/6/2008 4:46:34 PM
Yes a generalization but based on my experience so far. If I meet some0ne that can keep up great..the generalization will be moot. I just haven't been fortunate enough (as of yet) to come across someone my age with the same verve for life. Hope runs eternal...lol! But in the meantime...I enjoy the company of like minded and lived gentlemen. If they are younger..well...I have to suffer through it, lol! HINT:! That was a joke! If people match up and enjoy each others company... does it really matter what age they are in comparison to yours? Finding a like minded soul is hard enough without putting up age, income, and other restrictions and qualifications.

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Young + Older vs. Older+ Younger Posted: 9/6/2008 3:58:32 PM
As now an older woman just turned 44, I am shocked at how many younger guys come on to me. Never imagined it happening to me! We are talking generally 30+ year olds although there have been guys as young at 26 that have chased me around the dining room table! lol! I would love to find a guy my age that just has the spontanaity and fun of spirit the 30+ year old guys have. Seems that after 40... they turn into Al Bundy... ICK, ICK! ICK! So if there comes a choice, guy my age that wants to stay home and watch golf or a younger guy that wants to go hiking and camp with a bottle of good wine under the stars..... give me the younger guy every time!

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