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majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Meeting for first time w/o phone contact first... Posted: 10/15/2008 10:36:09 AM
Don't know, I would rather not give out my phone number until i met the person first. Who knows these days.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Hurtful Name Calling. Posted: 10/10/2008 1:53:37 PM
So did he help you become a better person? My last GF had some major issues I had to sort out for her in addition I had to help her out with basic things like how to live healthy. Never remember putting her down, though she said I was a little bit tough on some things like going to the gym with me. If hes being an ass, even if its to try to help you out, it still isn't worth it.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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What do men REALLY think of bisexual women? Posted: 10/9/2008 9:08:20 PM
So do Bi women get jealous when their BF is checking out other women, or do they check out other women with their BF?

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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What do you think about this situation? Posted: 10/9/2008 12:13:22 PM
my prediction she will call you or go out with you if she doesn't have any better options or is bored. I hate to say this but this is pretty much true, you will never have her 100% interested until you have sex. Before sex you have to do the chasing and put yourself out there to be rejected, put off etc.. After sex she has to do the chasing and try to get you to stay in the relationship. Thats why its best to lay it on heavy on the first date, because you have nothing to lose, if she thinks you came on too strong so what no second date, if you didn't make a impression then no date, but if you did make an impression from being aggressive then you Will get a second date. Basically think its always on, the sexual attraction aggressiveness, women like that, they like being chased, wanted, desired it boost their ego.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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What do you think about this situation? Posted: 10/9/2008 12:06:10 PM
Shes not really interested. Think about it for a min. If you were really into someone would you not call or at least give a courtesy call if you wanted to see them again but had plans? You didn't impress her enough on the first date. Try this out, if you want to get a second date, be as aggressive as possible on the first date, like being romantic and stuff. what do you got to lose? Girls think with emotion not logic, so if you have a interesting conversation thats not going to be enough to get them to go on a second date, you have to make sparks fly.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Stand Up If You've Been Stood Up! Posted: 10/9/2008 9:12:35 AM
Because 70% of people have no values or decency. Actually from my experiences I would say only 10% have any common decency, this corresponds to the same amount of people who are successful in life.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Sigh...not impressed with my dating options in my area Posted: 10/9/2008 9:06:47 AM
errr, Women in Utah are some of the most desirable and attractive out of the whole country . what is wrong with you? Just because most of them have values, and won't spread their legs on the first date doesn't mean theres anything wrong with them. I forget your from New Jersey the armpit of the US, I guess you expect more sleazy dates. Hows that gold chain around your neck guido, stylish?

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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am i being foolish marrying an south asian man i love? Posted: 10/6/2008 8:17:19 PM
Asian men are usually more determined to marry someone within their own race then Asian Women. Its usually 90% of Asian men marry within their own race vs. 65% of Asian women that marry within their own race. http://www.asian-nation.org/interracial.shtml I think it has to do with a combination of things. 1. Asian men are more tradition oriented 2. Asian men are more modest and non aggressive 3. On average due to physical attraction (height etc..) most white women aren't attracted to Asian men, while the opposite is true with White men and Asian Women (petite). Personally I prefer Asian women, but really don't have much of a choice since there are no asians where I live. So it might be that Asian men will date you for lack of an alternative, until that alternative shows up.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Hobbies/activities to meet guys Posted: 9/4/2008 11:30:06 AM
Depends on the type of guy youre going for. jocks, maybe the pubs, bars and sports clubs. geeks, try internet cafes, lan gaming parlors health nuts, your local gym, organic grocery store literary nerds, the bookstore.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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How do you tell a someon you don't find them attractive? Posted: 9/3/2008 10:59:14 AM
over half will respond with thanking me for Ahh, where did being polite and having manners go? Well you're probably 1% of the population that still has any concept of social grace, if online dating is any indication. I tend to ignore most emails if there is no attraction, If someone writes a well thought out very sincere email, I'll respond with "thanks for writing, but I don't think we would have any chemistry" You never belittle someone for your own personal preferences. course most people don't have "common sense" or "tact"

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Trying to figure this guy out... Posted: 9/2/2008 10:07:32 PM
conclusions possible without asking for more soo... basically a pity post, since your mind was already made up, and your ignoring everyones advice.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Trying to figure this guy out... Posted: 9/2/2008 5:54:20 PM
I never laughed so much in my life as I did with this guy! A lot of Guys can be socially adept and entertaining just to be polite, doesn't mean they are attracted to you just because they made you laugh a lot. I'm sure you can be quite pleasant yourself with people you work with, they might even think you like them and your their friend, but doesn't mean you like them back or would even consider hanging out with them. Honestly he probably saw something about you over the course of the first date, then reconfirmed on the second date he didn't like. Thats what dates are for to find out if you like someone, if someone doesn't time to move on instead of grasping at straws.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Trying to figure this guy out... Posted: 9/2/2008 4:10:33 PM
Married, or hes just lazy and somewhat attracted and that attraction has diminished after he has found out more about you that he doesn't like. Happens, best thing for you to do is just move on and not let it bother you. Thats what dating is like.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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7 Dates and Poof?? Posted: 9/2/2008 12:02:18 PM
You're in his little black book now, and he'll rotate you with all the other girls he had sex with stringing you along.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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He doesn't love me anymore?! Posted: 8/27/2008 10:16:52 AM
Everyone knows the best quality guys are the ones you meet in bars and clubs who like to get smashed. I'm guessing its him and not you, bad investment, learn from it and write off your loses and move on.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Date goes great but.... Posted: 8/26/2008 2:01:07 PM
don't take it too hard I've been in a similar situation both receiving and giving. People get lazy after dating so much or emailing and just drop the ball and don't want to really take the effort to email or call or go through with plans. There were girls I thought were okay but I really didn't feel motivated to email or call them again immediately eventually i just lost contact. Shrugs, I'm sure girls do the same thing. If I'm really into someone I usually do the 3 try's (nothing desperate maybe try to contact or arrange something over a period of a few weeks) if they don't respond I move on. You would be surprised how many girls will actually respond to you if your persistent and they think your a decent guy.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Internet dating as a social setback? Posted: 8/6/2008 11:12:36 AM
If you want to meet people and improve your socials skills go to the club/bar. Your success rate while not spectacular will be leagues better then what you get on a dating site or just trying to meet random girls while being out. I think you can find the right one in a bar/club, but be prepared to date only extroverts and people who like to spend time socializing constantly ad nauseum.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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The Gym Posted: 8/6/2008 11:04:35 AM
Common Sense here. If the girl is hot, she probably has certain standards and expects any guy approaching her to be on the same level.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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How has dating become what it has???? Posted: 8/6/2008 9:41:55 AM
why should a guy spend the effort or time when there possibly wont be a connection? I'm sure you've been on dates where the guy has bought you dinner and flowers, but there wasn't any chemistry. Buying dinner and flowers doesn't create chemistry and isn't going to change your mind if your attracted to a guy or not.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Met a person on craigslist(I know its wrong LOL) Posted: 8/6/2008 9:33:49 AM
its most likely a guy who wants to see you naked, or someone who wants to get their kicks by tricking people into sending compromising pictures of themselves, don't be a fool. I wouldn't, at most I would maybe show a pic wearing a tank top.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Three Date Rule? Posted: 7/8/2008 9:16:54 PM
Why would anyone voluntarily agree on a first date to sign up for an extended period of mediocrity I guess you can't read? people get nervous on first dates, if there is mutual attraction. People are just stupid these days. everything doesnt go 100% smoothly like James Bond in a movie, or a fairy tale, real life isn't hollywood. Remember in the old days people actually lived in communities where you would get to know people over time. theres no way you can find out if there is a connection much less get comfortable with a person over 30 minutes of coffee.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Why Men Don't Write Long First Msg's Posted: 7/8/2008 8:08:54 PM
My experience, the longer the emails the worst chance of a reply. Emails that get the highest response rates are the ones short, witty, and to the point. Long emails don't mean quality emails, it just means you like to ramble.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you? Posted: 7/8/2008 6:39:29 PM
If you're a hot guy, most women don't care where you approach them. I would imagine most guys wouldn't care either where a Hot babe approached them. Basically is there physical attraction? if there is approach! The signs are pretty obvious when someone sees you and is interested.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Girls that say they are a model Posted: 7/8/2008 6:04:38 PM
I don't get this, why do girls think they have to tell me or anyone that they were or are a model? I mean I have eyes I can tell if they're attractive or not, is this one of those backhanded compliments?

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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girls who only date guys with a bach degree and nothing less-discussion with ex and his friends Posted: 7/8/2008 5:53:01 PM
I don't think it really matters, doesn't seem to help me that much. Really when you meet someone, you don't know how much they make or what their education level is, the only thing you have to go off of is looks and charm. Plus girls say they want a succesful guy, but in the end they're never attracted to the nerdy types.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS! Posted: 7/8/2008 5:45:56 PM
9+ out of 10 in a scale of attractiveness, no exaggeration. Its like online a guys' level of attractiveness takes a dramatic drop Ya this phenomenom was well documented in the book Freakonomics. The fact that normal attractive or successful guys on the online will get passed up. only perfect 10 guys will get normal responses. Course a lot of those perfect 10 guys are married

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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First date jitters, good or bad? should you give them another chance? Posted: 7/8/2008 8:10:42 AM
Nervousness/Butterflies are normal!! If the person isn't somewhat nervous I would be worried. The classical definition of a psychopath is someone who shows no emotion. Also a player will not value or see you as a person, and will show no nervousness. I would say only a small portion of people are truly extroverted enough not to be nervous around anyone they want to make a good impression on. Nervousness shows that they value you, are interested, its the human condition, thousands of years of evolution, the face flushing, the lips becoming red and full of blood, heart pounding, body slightly perspiring releasing pheromones. If they are polite and can hold a decent conversation but are a little jittery then go for it, if they act like ***holes then move on.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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gym guys.... Posted: 7/3/2008 9:06:42 PM
these guys aren't opening up to you is because you are not attractive to them. This is the same thing as when fat guys come on here and complain why supermodels won't talk to them.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Person puts first name at end of email? Posted: 7/2/2008 6:58:30 PM
maybe i should rephrase that to not attraction, but more a level of trust to give out a first name

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Person puts first name at end of email? Posted: 7/2/2008 6:12:14 PM
k just checked all my emails, no names. Even on the ones coming to me first. Hmm guess its just me, but now that you mention it, maybe I should sign all my emails with my name, does seem curteous.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Person puts first name at end of email? Posted: 7/2/2008 5:06:42 PM
actually i've never gotten an msg with someones name at the bottom on the first reply, usually the third or fourth they'll put their name. I personally never really thought of it, so i never put my name on any of my emails. I mean especially if you know the exchange isnt going anywhere, why bother?

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Person puts first name at end of email? Posted: 7/2/2008 4:33:07 PM
So after sending a few emails back and forth eventually i'll get a reply that has the person first name at the end of the email? is this some kind of signal of attraction? what is everyones elses experience with this?

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before Posted: 6/30/2008 8:21:19 PM
Years of evolution, natural selection thats why asian men are so Nerdy. Act like an self confident ***hole in fuedal japan and youd get your head chopped off. Same in the Chinese court. You had to be a little more subtle then balls to the walls that american women love. Modesty, Humbleness don't work in the US.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before Posted: 6/30/2008 8:42:30 AM
Everyone knows white guys love asian girls. Funny it doesn't work the other way around(white girls into asian guys) stuffwhitepeoplelike.com

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Man I suck at this dating thing!!! Help (sorry gonna be long) Posted: 6/25/2008 12:58:08 PM
He has a Rolodex/a little black book. You're name is in it for women he can casually have sex with anytime(string you along ). I wouldn't bet on a real relationship forming other then a booty call, If you're comfortable with being just another girl in his rotation I say call him. Really how many girls do you think he meets at the bar/club and has sex with?

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Cosmo and Maxim Magazines Posted: 6/23/2008 11:25:55 AM
on some level the advice is correct, but I wouldn't take the advice and use it as a cookie cutter approach to all men/woman. Every man/woman is different. Same reason I don't like "the rules" , "hes just not that into you" , "Mystery Method" and "Speed Seduction"

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Confirming bisexuality: How do you know your Bi? Posted: 6/23/2008 11:15:39 AM
Common Sense people, the reasons why you don't see male bisexuality is because Sex for men is a sign of Dominance. Men are naturally competitive, being someone who is penetrated is a sign of lower social status. Wolves, chimps and other animals with alpha males will mount lower ranking males to show them whos "the boss". If you're a Gamer you'll see this is pretty obvious from all the sexual insults you'll hear where guys will say basically "you're my B*tch", "I own you", and other more explicit sexual/sexist remarks.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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What are you looking for? Is romance unrealistic? Posted: 6/18/2008 6:47:18 PM
being romantic on the first date means investing a lot yourself emotionally when there is a high possibility of there being no chemistry. Oddly enough, I was much more romantic when I was younger. It actually does work, but that was after knowing the girl from class for several weeks or months. Anyways its been so long what does romance consist of? like buying flowers?

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF Posted: 6/18/2008 8:48:53 AM
Wow, I didn't relize how many liers, cheats and scumbags there are on POF, who think theres nothing wrong with their behavior. Well Karmas a B*tch, can't wait till their lives fall apart after their husband wife leaves them with the kids (ya, , its automatic fault divorce) and takes all their money. Have fun living alone and all your family, friends, and children look at you like the scumbags you are.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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I am magnetically attracted to a man I cant have...advice? Posted: 6/18/2008 6:57:20 AM
Look you're all Adults, if your that attracted to him and all of you are open to the Idea of a threesome, open relationship, then just do it. Ya, thats right, you have to take the initiative on this one, because both of them are going to be too timid to make any moves. I suggest you guys get together one night at someones home for whatever drinks and whatever activity, get playful, get drunk, play truth or dare, massage there you go. easy. Cheating, lying, backstabbing is just stupid, I never understood why people do this, as its so much easier to be honest.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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SUGAR THE BAD GUY ???? Posted: 6/18/2008 6:49:17 AM
What about sucralose? its basically sugar, but much more sweeter. and yes I always try to stay away from aspartame.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana. Posted: 6/17/2008 5:41:59 PM
well she never said she didn't smoke around her child, which i suspect she does. I know people who did when they were younger, but stopped when they had children. Ya the whole illegal aspect doesn't help and possbility of getting sent to jail just to get your jollies and abandoning your child screams irresponsibility and selfishness.

majorthomas

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How come girl on girl is okay Posted: 6/16/2008 9:30:15 PM
In ancient greek and roman cultures men on men was accepted and even encouraged False, I don't know where this myth got started, but there was always a huge social stigma attached to adult male homosexual behavior in greece and rome, As Roman and Greek culture were highly Masculine and any activity that showed lesser status as in being penetrated was stygmitized. In other words only people of lesser status possibly slaves, prostitutes, women, and boys were considered penetrable. The only somewhat sanctioned homosexual activity was male on boy love, let me stress Love not sex. Elaborate rituals and protocols were put in place to prevent the adult male from ever penetrating young boys, even this male to boy relationship was mainly restricited to the aristocracy, and many commoners frowned on the whole activity(don't ever argue with a greek about this, because they will beat you down, they don't understand why gays in america have this misconception about their history). So no it was never widespread or accepted, it occured, people knew about it, but it was restricted. Its somewhat similiar to way it is today. Yes people know about it, a few people are gay, but does that mean everyone is gay? and its widely accepted? No Same thing with Japan and people thinking that somehow homosexuality is widely practiced and condoned, like they think Geisha have sex like prostitutes. No people its not your culture, don't project american misconceptions on cultural concepts that you don't understand.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Alternative lifestyles Posted: 6/16/2008 9:07:51 PM
well obviously hes just saying that because you wouldnt date him. Do you smoke around your daughter, does she smoke too?

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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When you like someone, what's the best way to get over nerves? Posted: 6/16/2008 11:44:31 AM
You are nervous because you perceive his value/status to be higher then yours. His status is higher because you desire him. Instead be desireless, see him as just every one else, and focus on having fun. People are perceptive and can see when your trying to hard to appease or impress. avoid doing either, act like your bored and think of what you would normally do to make things interesting or fun with friends.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Will a man in his thirties consider a long term relationship with a woman in her late 40's? Posted: 6/15/2008 1:52:53 PM
I wouldn't, I would want the possibility of having a family kids. Some guys would just for a short fling though

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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What do you make of this dating experience? Posted: 6/15/2008 11:56:55 AM
dude, first rule of internet dating meet within a week. Also don't call more then once if just to arrange the meeting and don't exchange endless emails. (these aren't my rules, check the forums and online these are almost universally accepted, meet ASAP, people who don't meet you within a week are wasting your time and theirs). Why? i think you know why because the way you act in person is totally different, then over the phone or email. Yes Girls will try to string you along so they can have some company someone to talk to endlessly, but you have to put your foot down and say meet me or get your jollies off the next guy. If you don't your just going to get attached and then crushed if things don't work out in person.

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Breaking the ice with Nerdy girls Posted: 6/15/2008 11:49:54 AM
So, if a girl likes to go shopping that automatically places her out of the “nerdy girl I meant interest beyond just shopping, Im somewhat of a fashion geek, but thats not the only thing i do...

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Breaking the ice with Nerdy girls Posted: 6/15/2008 11:46:22 AM
K how do you get the nerdy girls? just wisper this to them: "I put on my robe and wizard hat"

majorthomas

Joined: 2/10/2008

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Breaking the ice with Nerdy girls Posted: 6/15/2008 11:27:17 AM
Well if being ones self, in person, isnt enough. Try dressing up as the WOW character you play Actually this works quite well at Cosplay conventions, All the ladies will be over you if you have an Awesome Costume. Just be prepared to spend the next 500 hours making your armor and weapons for your costume. Hmmm maybe i need to try that, lol Cosplay Girls:

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