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daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Interesting Topic. Haven't seen it here Posted: 5/18/2013 8:02:38 AM
How could anyone who has read posts here think that this would be interesting or not have seen it here a 100 times a week before? It's the same old, tired question of why won't any of the men/women I want to date, date me???? Followed by a loud cry for a whhaaammmbulance. Who cares why some people won't date you, they won't, find those who will.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Is 5'8 too short for a male? Do you use the height search filter? Posted: 5/17/2013 4:31:43 PM
We need a section here for people who just must critic other people's profiles. Then not allow any of that sort of thing on any other forum. Geeze louise, what do you care what some women accept, if they don't accept you, move on, if they do, go for it. It's a preference for them, they are allowed to have them without being made fun of or griped about in posts.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Motorcycles Posted: 5/17/2013 1:55:15 PM
Why wouldn't they be here? Are men who don't fit your criteria suppose to use a different dating site? That's a very odd question, don't you think, they are here because they joined. Pass them by, no reason to whine about them or bash them, etc.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Almost alcoholic and in denial Posted: 5/17/2013 7:54:59 AM
People who think they are helping addicts are usually enabling them. If you think you can love someone out of an addiction, you have your own addiction, it's called saving people, it never works. Twelve-step programs are only as good as the people who attend the meetings, so they can be anything from a get-together to get high or a piss & moan session of pity parties or sometimes even helpful. Read some books, do some research, make sure you aren't just in a group of people who get together to whine and get attention for being so special as to be with an addict. Not all effective treatments for addicts are based on 12 steps, that's just the most well known, their success rate is almost nil. If you are thinking you can save someone from them self, move on, that mindset is exactly what an addict is looking for to use. Addicts are the biggest cons in the world, they seek out those who will enable them, not save them, if they really thought you could save them they'd never be anywhere near you.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Legally Seperated and Divorced are now the same? Posted: 5/17/2013 7:41:09 AM
Next time find out for sure, other than that, what's the complaint? It's your job to find out who and what you are dating, you can whine all you want, it won't change that fact that some people lie. It really doesn't make much difference if someone is separated or divorced or never-married, if they are still hung up on an ex, their status won't tell you much of anything, you have to take a good look at their actions. Seriously, if everyone who had a potential man/woman who didn't work out, came to whine about it and blame the other person for their choices, we'd have the same old crap posted here every single day....oh wait...we do. :P I've been separated since Oct. of 1979, haven't seen him, don't know if he's dead or alive or if he's divorced me, couldn't tell you, wouldn't even know him if he was standing next to me. If I ever wanted to get married again, which is highly unlikely to happen, I will then divorce him. Right now it's a huge waste of money and time and I don't have one single clue as to where he is or even what name he might be using. If someone doesn't want to meet me or date me because of that, good for them, I have more important things to do than worry about what other people think.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Face book- are you interested- serious fun ? Posted: 5/16/2013 10:36:43 AM
She sounds insecure, needy for attention from men to make her feel good and yes, most people like that will cheat in a heartbeat if it gets them attention. I would just tell her what you found, how you feel about it and if it were me, I'd dump her. I don't see any problem with being on sites and talking to other people, not everyone is a cheater, but when you purposely set it up to find others to flirt with or hit on, then duh, you are looking for trouble and disrespecting the person you are with. Life is too short to be attached to such a person.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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People addicted to electronics Posted: 5/15/2013 9:47:28 AM
There's nothing wrong with the technology that came up with a great idea like a cell phone and it's even better offspring, being able to be in contact with people wherever you are is pretty damn important. I'm sure a lot of lives or at least just time has been saved by the mere fact that you can pretty much get a signal most places and so be in contact with others. And let's be fair here, not everyone using their phones are addicted, not even those who text someone in the same room, it's just technology, and sometimes it's a lot of fun. But yes, some will always misuse it and some will always be whining & complaining about people who are into new things. Being a phone or TV or other technology snob is no more attractive in a person than being joined at the ear to your cell phone. Either extreme is annoying and not much different than the other. I mean seriously, being on the computer, on a message board, complaining about others who are on phones, maybe complaining about others...LOL...pot, meet kettle. If one is too stupid to pay attention when out in public, then sure complain about them, and I totally believe in laws against texting while driving, etc., but making fun of everyone who likes their cell phones, come on, grow up.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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I'm a damn mess-sucked into the drama, need help out. (Long) Posted: 5/14/2013 10:43:53 PM
My counselor didn't see a problem in me Get a new therapist, one who isn't fooled by you and one who actually knows how to do their job.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Does one picture ever turn you away? Posted: 5/14/2013 5:36:43 PM
One bad picture, no. But one or more pictures of him doing something that I find a turn off, of course.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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FWB and new BF Posted: 5/14/2013 5:24:34 PM
You answered your own question, you don't want to stop seeing your friend, and if that breaks up your new relationship, well then it should happen now rather than later on. You have sex with this guy when ever you can't get it elsewhere, you are not going to stop this, so why go around pretending and acting all dramatic about it. Go see your friend, go be who you are, and do the things you normally do, because that is who you are and what you do, shouldn't your new boyfriend see all that? What, are you going to pretend and then start being yourself later on? The answer to this is simple, stop making up all this drama. Your new boyfriend should have the choice of being with you, the real you or to see the real you and leave, why are you lying to him? Don't just half tell him something, be honest, what you are doing is deceiving.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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People addicted to electronics Posted: 5/14/2013 10:16:57 AM
I use to know people who wouldn't leave their house for fear that's miss a phone call, now at least they can get outside. LOL It's just the new thing, something else will come along to bug you in the future.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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not cuddling after sex for the first time Posted: 5/14/2013 10:10:02 AM
What does one get from the attention of making fake profiles and asking questions like a 12 year old giggling about saying something sexual? What's the purpose? I understand it's for attention, but what's the pay off? Is it that in fact one is a 12 year old or is it about being an adult with the mental capability of a 12 year old? I would think it would be mostly embarrassment to act in such a way, even online.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Jodi Arias Trial Posted: 5/13/2013 6:09:50 AM
Really? Are us Jodi haters lacking a sense of humor? I thought his post was pretty funny.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Are men with muscular upper bodies but not legs attractive? Posted: 5/13/2013 6:06:16 AM
Any time the body is deformed into unnatural muscle development it's a turn off, add the skinny or shapeless leg effect and it becomes comical.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Is he inlove with me? Posted: 5/12/2013 7:17:39 PM
No, that's not love, that's like, that's lust, that's that new feeling of a fresh relationship that makes one all giddy. Give it time, what will you have gained if you run him off with your clinginess or force him to tell you something he doesn't feel yet?

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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What am I doing wrong? Posted: 5/12/2013 7:15:19 PM
Any relationship you might have been in at this age or younger and a few years from now, would not have been anything but puppy love and playing at adult relationships. All that stuff about the old days, yeah many a person was married by your age, and so so many of them were miserable. You should be dating a lot of different people, not trying to tie one down, you should be having fun and getting to know lots of different things in the world, building up experiences, enjoying your youth...you'll be wishing you hadn't spent it trying to get some where you aren't old enough to go yet.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Questions about charm? Posted: 5/12/2013 7:08:47 PM
If someone told me to step up to meet some criteria they have that I don't seem to have, I'd laugh and tell them goodbye. Really, step up, either you are fine as you are or they are not looking for you. As far as getting hurt, you just met her, why would it not working out hurt you? It's just dating, you aren't selling her your soul or left foot. If you don't want to put your true self out there, then WTH, why think past dating anyway? She's asking you to step up, now you won't unless she steps up, LOL, what a waste of everyone's time.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Ex stopped talking to me Posted: 5/11/2013 9:02:22 AM
'Nice guys' don't get treated badly by nice women, it's the guy or women who seek out those who will use & abuse them. Things like this don't just happen, you either have to seek this kind of drama out, or your are the one creating the drama and looking for the type seeking you. All this 'nice guy' has to pay for the 'bad boys' is so much bullish, it's just another way to whine, get attention and blame everyone else except yourself for getting into these lousy relationships. Nice guys don't date psycho women, only drama kings or co-dependents date, or seek out as friends, women who have the bad boy blues and wants to cry on your shoulder. Be responsible for your love life, you choose who you date or marry, don't whine if you keep going there, it's your choice.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Why do women only want these men? Posted: 5/11/2013 4:44:06 AM
Okay, if they are so amazing, then why are they with these awful guys? Doesn't make any sense because it's not true, if they were that wonderful they wouldn't be in bad relationships, nobody forced them, this is who they are and what they want and if you managed to get one then you'd find out just how unstable they probably are. On the other hand, maybe you are just making believe that you are somehow so much better and what they deserve so you must make their relationships out to be terrible. Whatever. The fact is, they want these guys and not you and this same whine is posted every single day here, there must be a thousand of these posts floating around here. The answer is, they don't want to date you, so stop analyzing it and move on. There are very few good, decent, stable people who are in bad relationships with jerks, like almost always finds like. And part of their issues just might be whining to you to get attention, going back to these guys to get attention...if they were not getting something out of it, they would not be there.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Ex stopped talking to me Posted: 5/11/2013 4:35:46 AM
Stop desperately trying to hold on to someone who just isn't there. It's easy to tell someone you love them when you don't, people do it all the time. Find something else to do. When who ever he's seeing now doesn't work out he may become un-busy, but really what's the point. You are way too young to be so desperate, there will be a lot more men in your life before you are ready to settle down, enjoy, stop trying to make a relationship out of nothing.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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moving in after 3 days...can it really succeed? Posted: 5/10/2013 9:22:24 PM
I've made some horrendous mistakes with men in my life but so far I've never been desperate enough to move a man in with me after three days. That's a doozey. Could it work, sure, but hardly likely. I wouldn't think too much of a man who would think about doing this, I'd consider his actions to be a good call on what his character is. But she sounds the same as him, so who knows, might be made for each other. You might want to reconsider who you think of as friends, since bringing strangers into her home could lead to some pretty nasty stuff and you being around that could put in you the middle of some pretty nasty stuff. Just saying...

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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How to tell if you've moved past friends with benefits Posted: 5/10/2013 10:23:18 AM
When you can talk to him about these things, honestly & openly, and not talking about him to your friends, keeping your private life with him, private. When he says he wants more and respects you enough to know when you want more, and he doesn't run the other way when all the sudden after being a booty call you want to change things up. He's comfortable, he does what he wants and this sad person just sits and waits, and spies, and discusses her sex life with her friends like a teenager giggling and crying about boys who don't want to be more than friends with them. You get what you allow. If she only wanted a FWB and it has grown for her, then she needs to step up and tell him so. If she's just being a booty call and wishes & hopes for more but can't talk to him about it, she's only going to get the booty calls and the FWB part.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Jodi Arias Trial Posted: 5/9/2013 9:40:57 PM
No, killing someone who has killed innocent people is a way to cull the herd and keep society healthy. A murderer like Arias has given up her right to live, she has no place in society and I don't much care for keeping people like her alive and in jail.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Jodi Arias Trial Posted: 5/8/2013 11:51:38 PM
Her death is important to me because that's what she deserves given the acts she committed. I don't believe in life in prison for most murderers. That's my opinion, I am really not required to explain it to anyone. We have laws, a death sentence is possible in this case and personally I find the it to be the best way to go. I think calling women rabid feminists says a whole lot about the woman hater and nothing about women who believe in equal rights. I see nothing about this case that involves rabid feminists, Arias admitted to murder then show herself to be someone who would do such an act in a blaze of glory to teach this man a lesson for not marrying her. Jodi Arias or her looks have nothing to do with equal rights for women, that's about the dumbest shark jumping in this whole thread. I don't see any connection between women wanting equal rights and thinking Jodi is attractive, doable or deserving of a lesser sentence, that's ridiculous and it's total bullshit. What Jodi did was an act of revenge by a pissed off women with an entitlement streak a mile wide and the exact opposite of what the feminist movement fought for. Arias is nothing more than a cold-blooded murderer and should be put to death.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Guns, guns, guns.. Posted: 5/8/2013 11:54:43 AM
I'm a liberal, I grew up with guns, I have no problem with people who hunt or enjoy target practice. So much for the needless liberal slam in this thread...yawn. If this is part of your life then by all means include in where others can make a choice based on facts about you. Who cares if some are turned off, they would not be a match for you anyway.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Had my first POF date last week. What happens now? Posted: 5/7/2013 8:48:43 PM
You should have thanked him for a nice date and said you hope to do it again, right after the date, like the next day. It's been a while, he's either not interested or he thought you weren't. I think the time has probably passed, but you could still sent him a note telling him you had a nice time. Other than that, leave it alone.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Kermit Gosnell alledged murderer. Posted: 5/7/2013 10:46:33 AM
For one thing this was posted just to bash abortion, so a lot of 'regulars' are not joining in the witch hunt to further the OP's rant. I didn't know regulars were here to have to post to threads they don't want to post in, was there a memo that some missed? What makes a post a hot topic and so gathering many pages, is up for grabs. This case is sickening, I'm not ready to comment on it further. I'm commenting on the fact that members of POF's forums are being called out for not feeding the troll on this one. No one has to post to any post they aren't interested in or not wanting to post to. It's not a character call if one doesn't post to this. No one here is responsible for what the media does with a story.

daynadaze

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Why do smokers feel they can just throw their cigarette butts anywhere they want to? Posted: 5/7/2013 10:20:30 AM
Yes it's stupid to smoke, it's also stupid to be around someone who smokes and throwing any trash around is stupid. Only an ahole would toss their trash about like it's okay. You don't even have to have been raised properly, any adult with working brain cells would realize where to put trash and where not to put it. It's all about the person's character. But, all smoke is toxic, it's the burning of something and all somethings are made up of chemicals. So if smoking bothers you, and yet you stand by a fire all happy, don't forget to see the irony. Smog, and fumes and restaurant smoke and running next to a road or heck just breathing in the air around you is going to pull toxins into your lungs. Have your walls checked, you may be breathing in something much more toxic than cigarette smoke. I'm all for getting rid of smoking, it's just plain awful for you even if you love smoking, but let's get real, the world it's self is full of toxins that are going to kill you, eventually.

daynadaze

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narcissism and self esteem Posted: 5/7/2013 10:08:31 AM
There was a study, so it must me true! LOL Who did they ask, would be my first question. But lets say some women don't know the difference, or maybe some women like narcissism in a man, how's that bother anyone, who cares, let them have 'em, I don't want them. You are fighting the wind, it doesn't matter what some women in the world do, if they don't want you, then they aren't interested, telling them they are wrong or must have issues isn't going to make them want you. Leave them be. Find women who do want you. Some questions just aren't worth wondering about, why some women are attracted to narcissistic men is like asking why do some people like vanilla instead of chocolate, unless you are making ice cream, what good is the answer going to do you?

daynadaze

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Why do smokers feel they can just throw their cigarette butts anywhere they want to? Posted: 5/6/2013 11:04:33 AM
Taking this off topic a bit but I was surprised to find out that secondhand smoke was not only so deadly but that the stuff that clings to smokers and anything they smoke around is deadly to other people. You can ruin your children's lungs just by having your clothes near them, and if you smoke in the home, well you are basically abusing your child's health. The clothes thing is what got me the most, because so many smoker now think if they smoke elsewhere they aren't hurting anyone, but it's not even about washing the clothes, the chemicals are so toxic they aren't being taken away from others, a smoker is just plain toxic walking around. And this comes from an ex smoker who loved smoking, so no I'm not an alarmist, I was just really uninformed about how I was hurting others when I thought smoking away from them was all I needed to do. Of course all smokers know that the chemicals form a film all over their walls, they cars, their purses, etc., so really it's almost impossible to not harm your children if you smoke, they can't get away from it. So actually the butts, though awful too, are the least of the problem with smokers.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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How can some girls be this blunt? Posted: 5/5/2013 8:42:07 PM
It says exactly what they want to say, that if you don't fit that list, move on. I see no reason to get bent out of shape about it, they aren't for you, so why would you want them to pretend and put lies in their profiles? Why would you need them to? What do other people's profiles have to do with you other than to let you know if you are interested or not. Why in world do people go around posting complaints about profiles that aren't theirs?

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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blokes who send bad messages? Posted: 5/5/2013 4:21:46 PM
Yes, there really are a lot of men that bad, and I'm sure there are just as many woman who are just as bad. Some men actually sit behind their computer and hunt for women to sexually harass. Just like they sit in public places and make crude comments. There are some people who are just creepy as hell. Being online gives them a bigger group to harass. I met a man once who took it upon himself to play the good guy, meet women then try to prove that they are all whores by getting them into bed. I don't know what his unstable little mind thought that made him, but he was on a quest to show women that they were all worthless. The world is full of some pretty sick, disgusting people. But I have no idea why women think putting that in their profile, or saying it in person, will fend off those jerks, it just sends them an invitation to know you are either a willing victim or someone to put in their place. I just read a post on this site by a man who says some women need to be put in their place, seriously, some people are really that jacked up and freaky.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Dyslexia Posted: 5/5/2013 10:44:15 AM
I couldn't post without a spellchecker, and even then you have to get close to the spelling for a spellchecker to work. I have a decent idea of how grammar works but it's been a long time since grade school and I lost this wonderful book Woe is I that helped me a lot. sigh My IQ is fine, I went to college LOL I just can't spell for beans. I blame the school I went to ;) that taught sight reading instead of phonics, sounding out words means practically nothing to me. Alas, spell check is your friend, or my friend anyway. You can download one free at CNet if you don't have it on your computer already. We all make mistakes, half of mine are typos. I do proofread my posts but that doesn't mean I'm going to catch everything. What bugs me is how people got through grade school without knowing the difference between your & you're, then & than, or that anyways isn't a word or the proper use of see & seen, things like that bug me when I read a post but really, that's my personal problem. If someone doesn't like you because of your foibles, who cares. I also hate how when you edit here you have to go back and find anything you might have put in bold or whatever because it messes it up. If you don't catch your mistakes within the 15 mins. edit time, there you are, exposed to the world as stupid. :P

daynadaze

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Jodi Arias Trial Posted: 5/4/2013 4:32:36 PM
I think if she wanted to murder him she would have waited until he was asleep. That's because you are thinking she was a battered woman, quite often a battered woman will kill the abuser after they are asleep. Because they want it all to stop, they don't really want the confronting, they are often deathly afraid of confronting, they just want it to stop. When you want a person to know they are going to die because they aren't doing things your way (as in a sociopath like Jodi) you wouldn't want them asleep, they want them scared and begging you and knowing they are paying the price for messing up your plans. This was a revenge killing, not an attack to protect yourself from an abuser. Jodi is the abuser in this case. Travis made a fatal mistake thinking all this great sex was free and fun, she was serious, she had a goal and she's mentally ill. He messed with the wrong woman and even being warned, the sex was such a draw for him that he wanted as much of it before he might have to cut her off for real. He played a game with someone who was not playing. People are complicated, there's rarely such a thing as no-strings sex, it's usually going to cost you in one way or another. He wasn't an innocent in this whole thing, but he misjudged her, he thought she was just a pest that came with wild sex, she was psycho and ready to fix him for not filling her needs.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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going on 10 months, should I love her or leave her? Posted: 5/4/2013 12:54:49 PM
IMO everyone in a relationship has a responsibility to keep themselves is good shape and sexy, there is no denying physical attraction. The problem with this self-absorbed idea is thinking that everyone thinks what you find to be healthy and sexy when they don't, the world is full of people who are attracted to very different things about another person. Not all people are attracted to those who look similar to them self. You are assuming and you know how well that works out. So instead of the passive/aggressive attack on what you find not sexy or healthy, how about seeking what you want and not telling others how wrong they are if they don't want what you want? Anyway, Op, you should not be with this woman at all. She does not fit what you find attractive and is not what attracts you, there is no problem there, nothing wrong with being attracted to a different type, but do not date a type you are not attracted to. Certainly do not tell her you love her, do not try to love her, just accept the truth and either tell her you are not going to be exclusive with her or just break up with her, let her know the truth without being insulting and let her make her own choice as to whether or not still be around you or move on to someone who will love her just as she is. And don't hit on her friends, find women outside her circle to date. You are not anywhere near ready to be in an exclusive relationship, don't play those games, date the women you are actually attracted to. When it comes to her deciding if she still wants to be seeing you if she knows you will no longer be exclusive, if you decide to go that way, don't fall into taking advantage of her if she allows it. Make sure she knows you aren't going to fall in love in the future, that you are not physically attracted to her, and let it sink in. Often at first the one being dumped will try anything to keep you, if she's not going about this in her own best interest, do the moral thing and don't use her just because she will let you. But if she can be adult about it and you two do get along and she wants that without it going to be anything serious, then that's fine, it's called dating, not all dating is meant to led to a future together. There's nothing wrong with enjoying each others company with no intent on it going any further, as long as both are accepting it as is.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Jodi Arias Trial Posted: 5/3/2013 7:31:43 PM
It worked for Casey Anthony, her lawyer came out swinging with that whole made up crap about Casey's dad & brother molesting her, and look how murder turned out for her. The jury just might be thinking, poor messed up Jodi, abused and confused and it's all the fault that bad oversexed man who done her wrong! It's disgusting but it seems to work sometimes. It's an insult to real victims, but someone who would murder someone they keep saying they love, well a big lie is no problem for them to live with.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

Msg: 18 (view)

Can an idealist and a realist 'find love' (or you know date successfully) Posted: 5/3/2013 7:23:33 PM
I could never date a Pollyanna, first because they are so phony to me, we all have bad days but mostly because I like a person who can see shyte when it's right there and you can have an honest conversation about it. But things that break relationships up are the things they find important and there's trouble in that area. If you don't really care about the difference in being always happy vs. having some bad days then it's not going to worry you that much, but if that difference is the world to you, it's going to bring on resentment. It's like sex, if sex isn't that important to you, then a miss-matched libido would be workable for you, but if sex is high on your list of important things between a couple, then it's going to be a big problem in your relationship. Personally I couldn't stand living with someone telling me to be happy all the time, I'm not an idiot, I know if I'm happy or not. Other people love being with a Pollyanna, smiling through the rain. To each their own.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

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Redheaded men: attractive or unattractive? Does it just depend on the girl? Posted: 5/3/2013 11:43:13 AM
How could it not depend on the girl, this is just a simple billboarding post, hoping to get the attention of a girl or two who likes redheads. There's a reason it's against the rules, thus an invalid post. I have two redheaded children, and yeah some people are cruel and stupid and think nothing of insulting them, the same kind of people who point and laugh at fat people, or disabled people, etc., the kind of people you shouldn't want in your life anyway. Then there are people who only want you for your red hair as they have a fetish for it, those I would avoid too, but to each his own, I'm sure it's a turn on for some people. Most people are just going to accept you as you are and like you for multiple reasons, not just one.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

Msg: 796 (view)

u can't have a platonic friendship with opposite sex Posted: 5/3/2013 11:36:14 AM
Some people are so driven by their sexual desire that they cannot just have friends or sisters or any person of the opposite gender around them without needing to sexually fantasize about them. They are totally driven by sex and of course will screw your mother/daughter/boyfriend/father...given a few seconds alone and with someone feeling the same way they do, they simply cannot see past the desire to be sexual with someone, anyone. So you can imagine that they cannot for the life of them figure out what people who do not feel that way about having sexual attraction to others, they think people who can be non-sexual with anyone who might seem attractive sexually to them can possible be non-sexual. They think everyone is like them, just lying about it or something is wrong with them. it doesn't compute in their brain, because yes, they would do that person given any sort of chance. They are not wired to see people as other people, other people are possible sexual targets for them. And it has nothing to do with gender, although testosterone levels may play in it, most people really do have control over their sexual desires and many people have zero sexual desire in inappropriate situations. This is a good way to see if someone would cheat on you or harm your children or hit on your sister, etc., just take a good long look at how they feel about being in situations where it should be non-sexual, but for them it would be sexual.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

Msg: 25 (view)

Why would she keep her profile? Posted: 5/1/2013 10:51:48 PM
You would be insecure if you were worried that someone might cheat on you if they were on a site like this, where are there more things here than dating, which is fine, if you feel insecure about a person you shouldn't be with them. If you, on the other hand think you can require them to do things your way and so that way they won't be tempted to cheat, you are sadly thinking you have control over another person's actions and you are bound to be hurt in the end. If someone wants to cheat, being on a dating site, at least under a username you know them by, and you make them delete or hide their account, won't keep them from cheating they will just use another account or site. You can't make someone do your bidding. So yes, I think insecure is often the problem. A secure person would not be upset and try to change another's behavior, a secure person would know not to keep seeing someone who does not fit what they want in a person.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

Msg: 22 (view)

Why would she keep her profile? Posted: 5/1/2013 8:36:53 PM
Oh baloney, not everyone is here to find dates. Two months? Do you mean two months of being exclusive or just two months ago you met each other? I wouldn't think of two months of just meeting as anything serious, and I don't take my profile down because I like to participate in the forums, if a man is too insecure or finds me too untrustworthy then breaking up would be the best answer. Only you know if this is something that works for you, if you feel it's wrong of him still being here then stop dating him, he's not a match for you. No one is required to do things because you did them, he doesn't want to take down his profile, work that out for yourself, he's made his decision. Or her, don't know the gender we are talking about.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

Msg: 8 (view)

Help! Getting rid of those fooking POP UP'S ! Posted: 5/1/2013 2:10:14 PM
The computer I'm using is on Mozilla Firefox and I've never seen any pop ups on here. I didn't set it up, but it seems to work just like any other browser I've been on. Don't know if that info is of any help to you.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

Msg: 14 (view)

Something I've noticed on most profiles Posted: 5/1/2013 1:54:48 PM
Not looking for a relationship or commitment to me means that I'm not out there thinking I can nail a husband on a first date, of course I'm not looking for an instant relationship, I would be looking for a guy who is someone I'd like to know a bit better, I mean hell, you have to have a meet up and a first date to get to anything else. So I think when I read wants a relationship that they are putting the cart before the horse and I move on. But sure, many people are not looking for more than just dating, and that doesn't mean a fling either, but it could, just means they are looking for some companionship. I'm not sure why you seem to think it has to be one way or the other. If someone is pretending to fit what they might think a man wants then they are just setting themselves up because at some point the real you will come out and then what's the point of having lied at the beginning. All you have to do is contact them and ask and if they want to reply, then you will have your answer. One answer is not going to fit all.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

Msg: 30 (view)

Let Freedom Ring, or Get her a Ring? Posted: 4/30/2013 2:58:28 PM
When you are between the crossroads of breaking up or getting married, never get married! If breaking up is the other option, there is no good reason to marry someone. Seriously, why would those be the two choices? Of course you don't want to marry someone you are thinking of dumping or they are thinking of dumping you, and this poor kid, sounds like she wants a daddy, not another of mommy's boyfriends trucking on through. Give the kid a break and leave her alone, you have no real intention of being with this women long term, and certainly there is nothing stable between the two of you.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

Msg: 73 (view)

Men who are addicted to internet dating sites Posted: 4/30/2013 11:39:19 AM
People have to stop thinking they are in a relationship (as in some exclusive love thing) when all that happened is they met someone who would meet them in person and they starting having sex and maybe kind of liked each other's company. A month? That's two strangers having sex with each other, that is not a relationship other than a sexual gratification relationship. So when it ends just as quickly, don't go around whining like your partner of 10 years just up and dumped you, some one you barely know decided they didn't like you after all and move on, that's what happened in most of these cases. I'd be embarrassed to death to go around talking about relationships and being used, etc., if what I'd actually done was bedded a one-night stand that maybe lasted a few more times. Sex is great, when it is in fact great sex, but it's nothing more. You have to date someone, get to know them, find out how you fit together as a couple, it takes time, there is no instant formula. And if you willingly have sex with someone you don't even know, or are just getting to know, you are not a victim, you are a willing participant having sex with strangers. As for the original post, he may or may not be cheating, but not being on dating sites is no indication, and being on dating sites is no indication. Cheaters cheat, the rest are not cheating because they don't want to. Find out which on you are with before you think you are in any kind of serious relationship.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

Msg: 11 (view)

Getting back with an ex after years... Posted: 4/29/2013 10:07:11 AM
If you feel no lust for him now, it's not likely to grow later. Sure it can happen but it's not likely it will. You are lonely, things didn't work out like you had hoped after cheating on him, he's paying attention to you, like an old standby, and you don't like not having that attention or having to fix what's wrong with you that you would cheat on a person, so there he is, and what the heck your head says, better him than no one. I'm betting you'd cheat on him the second someone who arouses you shows up. Just my opinion from reading your posts.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

Msg: 15 (view)

Mother abducting child Posted: 4/28/2013 5:28:49 PM
I have to agree with the person who brought up your picture here, you look drunk, don't know if you are, there are three bottles of beer sitting in front of you and an ashtray. If this girl wants to fight dirty, showing grandma in that light and that you son lives with you, could hurt his case. You are going to have to be very careful right now if this goes to court, things like this can sink you. If you and your son smoke, you should stop so you can show the court/judge that the child won't be breathing in second-hand smoke and if you drink often enough for it to look bad...I don't mean to pick on you but if the mother of your grandchild can get a hold of stuff like this on you and your son, she could have an advantage, unless you can prove that she chooses to indulge herself. She's already going to have an advantage simply because she's the mother and this is an infant. This is going to be based on what's best for the baby, and if she'll be living in a safe environment. I know nothing about Canadian law but things like this get picked on here in the states.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

Msg: 16 (view)

He's going back to his ex but wants to remain friends Posted: 4/28/2013 10:33:35 AM
I think if a man is so hooked on me changing my last name that he has more control issues than I care to have in my life. It's my name, I'll decide if I change it or not and just why can't he change his name to mine? Oh yeah, because someone said that this is how marriage works, okay, I have better things to do than be tied down to man with issues like that. The rant is because I'm just so sick & tired of this macho crap, if a woman doesn't want to change her name, so what, if your marriage hinges on that it's not going to work out when a real problem arises. You barely know this guy and yet right away, oh you are both falling in love, I call BS on that. You are hoping to snag this man, whether or not you like him at all and it sounds like you don't much considering the way he's treated you. He latched on to the first willing woman who came along and then as soon as his ex might want him back, he dumped you, so take a good look, this is how much you mean to him. But oh hey, he might not make it with the preferred ex, so keep your booty call light on, he might show up to whine and do you. Lucky you! You haven't even known this man long enough to be friends, you are just getting to know one another and hey look, there he is, in bed with the ex again, already, and who knows just how many times he's pulled this act, you don't know, because you don't know him. Why not just be sane and chalk this one up to a really embarrassing mistake and see if you can find someone who wants something closer to an actual relationship. What you are to him is someone he can have when what he really wants isn't available. So what you need to figure out is, do you want a man so badly that you will be his booty call and hope she dumps him again, or do you want a good relationship, which will never be with this man? You are trying really hard to make her look awful so you can be the real woman he needs...take a good look, he doesn't see you that way at all and he wants her, not you. You can call BS on her all you want, if your ego needs that so badly, but it won't change the truth.

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

Msg: 19 (view)

Young adult children from his/her marriage Posted: 4/28/2013 10:15:27 AM
If your lease says only the two of you, then how could you move in a couple of freeloaders anyway? Make it clear, they can't move in with you and make it clear they can't stay in the rental, get whatever legal paperwork you need to kick out the oldest freeloader and get that house rented...although it really does seem odd that you would pay rent where you live and pay a mortgage for a house that you rent out, I assume you get more money for the house than you pay in rent in your rental. But anyway, the fact remains, if you do let these boy-men move in, then they will suck you dry. Make it legal, do not allow them to freeload off you, and if your boyfriend has no balls to back you up, let him live with his boys. If you don't take a firm stand right now, you might as well just give up and let these boys ruin your life. They won't pay rent, daddy won't toss them out, you will be the nagging fishwife who mistreats his boys and he'll let you take that roll while he whines on about how tough his life is. Meanwhile there's a 12 year old boy without a dad or who has a mama's boyfriend for a dad. Boy I would hate to give up that guy! sarcasm

daynadaze

Joined: 2/11/2008

Msg: 7 (view)

Mother abducting child Posted: 4/27/2013 11:08:06 PM
This is why you don't just go around making babies with anyone, you have to put a lot of thought into just who it is that you are making a baby with. I know, too late, but damn, this sort of thing is really tiresome, children deserve a lot more than being the byproduct of sex between two irresponsible parents! The fact is, even if you have a a child custody thingie, it doesn't mean she can't move, there are many reasons why she'd be allowed to move and take the baby with her. The fact that her family is not there for her and she wants to move closer to them for support is going to play big in her favor. People do this all the time. You do need, well your son needs to contact an attorney who can tell him his rights and whether or not he has any chance in stopping her from moving. What should be the concern here is the child, what's best for this baby. And of course the ex-girlfriend is going to fight your son if he tries to stop her from moving. Your son should have had this all in writing from the start, plus have a paternity test in hand, it should have been more important to have everything all legal, not just think well, he never needed any of this before, that's just more of not being a responsible parent. By the way, I really don't think any judge would call this woman moving to be near her family, anything close to abducting her own baby. I would be careful how you word things while trying to stop her, that could set you in the wrong light right off the bat.

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