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Why have so many women never had an orgasm? Posted: 6/23/2008 7:44:48 AM
anti-depressants kill your arousal state for orgasms. How many of you women are on them- if you are dump them out! The drs wont tell u what the cause is. Another is an abusive relationship where its one-sided- u love them, they dont love you. Another is too much stress to begin with- u are sitting there thinking of work or god knows instead of relaxing! people have way too much stress and canadian women are the MOST stressed women in the G7 countries-so no surprise they cant have orgasms......

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How Many Men Out There Can Actually Cum Orally? Posted: 6/19/2008 5:25:14 PM
I guess I must be pretty good at giving BJs to this man I have seen on and off for 7 months. HE has cum every single time except last weekend- think he was too tired, was a friday night. I really like to please him - and there is alot of attraction- think that also helps alot. Guess I must be pretty good! ha ha > Once I gave a BJ and he came in 4 mins in my mouth, was just awesome- he loved it.

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What do you do when someone can't get off? Posted: 6/19/2008 4:44:05 PM
Forgot something important- he has low RBCs and refuses to takes meds for that. I have read up on that and this could be a cuase of his ED- since it affects circulation. Also read vitamin B12 may help- either in tablet form OR drinking more milk (he drinks NONE!). He eats just awful, skips breakfast, drinks too much, smokes, this was a friday night after a long week of work- no w onder he had issues! I really would like to help him with this - I am sure it is getting him pretty distressed and depressed.

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Tell me, what is your opinion on Globalization ? Posted: 6/19/2008 4:29:52 PM
NOt very good. All it means is open borders, lowering of wages and standards of living in the west and poorer poor countries, more greed at the top, reduced womens rights, more slaves and finally there will only be the superrich and the poor class with NO middle class if globalizaiton continues say in 20 years......

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What do you do when someone can't get off? Posted: 6/17/2008 1:55:26 PM
I went out with a man i dated casually for 6 mo nths last weekend. I am pretty sure he is seeing at least one woman. The first half of the night was wonderful- had fun, drank, made out. We were having sex and then suddenly he went half hard. It happened 2 other times with him in the past and he ususally does not wnat sex, just wants oral sex. So then I did not make in front of him- decided to do oral. Got into that and he was really enjoying things for 15 mins id say, then he went half hard and said he had to go to watch a wrestling match that started at midnight...and I said NO u dont......and then from this point on - the night went donwhill. I used the bathroom and heard him say 'u just dont do it for me" and he said ill take u home.....this made me very mad since he is the once who asked me over and picked me up and I know he is the issue.......he made another excuse that i rumbled through his medicine cabinet in his bathroom ( I was searching for kleenex as have allergies) and made like i was invading his stuff........so we drove home, not a word hardly said........get to my place and he says TEXT me tomorrow................ From what I understand any man should be albe to get hard and stay hard and especially with a naked woman in front of him of his chosing.........am I wrong to say this??? I feel it is his issue- he loves the experience with me so...........then he commented my breasts are too small, he likes them bigger god! I had lost 30 lbs since January....... The time i saw him before he left too- made an excuse he had to go to work.......must be issues he is having..........again he had invited me that night too..... I always let him call me..........Im at a loss what to say or do now.........

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The truth about Jealousy Posted: 5/31/2008 9:54:05 AM
I dated a man for 6 months. He cheated and we broke up 5 weeks ago. I saw him last night in his building and he told me to stay clear (well I was visiting a friend there). He also mentioned that he is 'busy with 3 girlfriends".............he knew i was very smitten on him - I am just wondering is this just a game to make him feel less guilty about what he did or what does it mean?????????Like why bother if we are through with each other (to make a comment like that). Sounds like he may feel threatened by me or something.......god knows.

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Dating and no sex Posted: 5/24/2008 5:35:47 AM
Thanks that uplifted me! Last night me and him had a big fight- we had been split for 3 weeks again- he is with a woman (unsure if its the same one that keeps going back and forth or a new one). I just said I wanted him to apologize for all the crap he did to me, emotional abuse, treat me like a queen when im with him , then next day u see him outside he avoids you. He called me awful names last night. He had lied about stuff to me, found out he h angs out with a drug dealer, and Im startging to wonder if HE IS ONE TOO since I looked up the top 10 signs if your dating a dealer and he fits most of the them ( only has a cell phone;' his friends you have not met or they are very secretive; all his paperwork is hidden in his place; he has no credit cards (although he makes 28 an hour; he does not take u out much for cause you are a good person never involved in such things and he do esnt want you meeting up with the bad people he knows. I guess I was not surprised. He did not apologize, called me crazy! (amongest other names). I lost my job due to all this crap he put me through plus my mom has cancer just before xmas. Finally he left his truck- he threatened to call the cops and I said GO AHEAD- I have a perfect record and yours is a mile long (he denied it!). These people are narcisstic- very selfish- they only love themselves............and they love to play games.....

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Dating and no sex Posted: 5/20/2008 1:40:06 PM
Just found out he is a BISEXUAL>...................

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How do I learn to enjoy being alone? Posted: 5/13/2008 8:53:43 AM
You do things that make you happy. Everyone is different but we all have things that bring us pleasure. Its not so hard being alone and single- I feel it may be a bit harder for a woman who has no children, as almost all women do have kids and we don't have alot in common with them. We all have a different purpose to walk this earth and remember where you are right now is exactly where you are meant to be. (that goes for everyone!).

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What makes a good conversation ? Posted: 5/13/2008 8:28:17 AM
Dont worry too much - if the person is meant to workout for you and is a match, it will come naturally and the two of you will have a flow and the conversation will go great. If it is a big struggle- your not me ant to be!

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Dating and no sex Posted: 5/11/2008 5:35:33 AM
Hi, HE had called me twice that night and he invited me over. He normally picks me up but he lives on 3 mins away so I went over. He seemed very self engrossed........ meantime its now 2 weeks since this has happened, i found out he is with a woman around 35, big and ugly adn she lives in my building (unsure if she is his woman or there is antoher woman he is seeing) but i just found out that big lady is a drug dealer unreal!). She is quite mean tooo. I have never done drugs in my life, i dont smoke.......... take care

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Date advise... mixed signals Posted: 5/7/2008 10:08:33 AM
I dont believe in texting at all. I feel it has no emotion. I let the m an come to my profile. THen text or email a bit, then meet in person- this in between stuff is a waste of time. It takes away the m ystery of the woman right?? Men like that............

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Dating and no sex Posted: 5/2/2008 2:19:11 PM
Trust me it baffles me to death! He tells me he loves my body all the time . He is the one who initiates the contact and invites me I dont call him. He did have a van fall on him last august and when he does have sex it only lasts 2 mins so I can u nderstand why he would not want sex- cause the other type of enjoym ent for him could last for a l ong time. When we did have sex he seemed very anxious the whole time and could hardly look at me! Maybe its a fear of int imacy god knows! He is also a heavy beer drinker and we al l know what that does. As for the drugs I dont konw how often he does this maybe occasionally and some weed.....I never took drugs in my life........I lvoe being with him and around him. Well this particular night- he invited me friday but i was out all night. So sat he called at 620 pm and in vited me over to his place........I was too s hy to look down to see what happened to him ( if u get my drift)- it could be he lost his erection.........time before that he took off at 400 am on me- said he hda to go get smokes and never came back. I was quite worried as I had to leave for work the next morning at 630 am........he never explained where he went...........its the only two times he has taken off- I always sleep over but this last time I saw him- he did not want me to sleep over...........very bizarre. If it is ER- it coudl be too upsetting for him to bring up. As for the man who said he is married NO he isnt- he lives alone and is a bachelor.

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Dating and no sex Posted: 5/1/2008 1:37:20 PM
I dated a man casually for 6 months. We have only had sex 2 times!. He promises all night but it never happens. Is this not strange? We usually makeout for 1 hr and I feel he is attracted -he is the one who always contacts me. He called this past sat night,invited me over and we were right into things and he wanted sex- then he suddenly stopped and said he had to smoke. He checked his cell text and then stated he had to go to work. He got up and his demeanor changed- he said I could not sleep there that night ( he never did this). He drove me home. Any ideas what the hell is up??

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addiction, crack of all things Posted: 4/28/2008 6:28:25 PM
Hi, I just wanted to post a response. I found out the man I was seeing for 6 months takes crack. It certainly explains all the upsets, behaviour ch anges, time lapses........ He had called me sat night and I went to see him. Things went great-we were heavily involving in making out (almost about to have sex) and he suddenly stopped- said he had to get a smoke. Then he said he was starved, he did not eat (when he had eaten 2 hrs before at his buddy's). Then he said he had to go to work (it was 1130 on a saturday night)- as he does construciton and was on call. He gets up and dressed,, tells me he will take me home. THEN he says u cant stay here (and this has me wondering why?? as I had always stayed overnight). I then get upset and ask if there is another woman, he said OK THERE IS (but i dont beleive him). He ha d asked me out the night before too but I missed his call. I get outside and still talking- he gets in his truck which has a flat tire and he plans to drive to kanata in it. That was it, I went home in tears, up all night crying. I left him a voicemail when I got him, he had his phone turned off (which is usual for him!!). I saw him su nday and he had gotten in an accident with the truck which is his work truck. I am still baffled. I care for him so much- he denies he takes drugs. He showed me a letter that the landlrod states people are going into his balcony into his apt at night and they dont like people roaming the halls. So this tells me there is something definitely gooing on in that place. Maybe its for my protection NOT to be there. GOd works in mysterious way and so do the angels. Just my thoughts. I cant help him he has to help himself. I will be tehre as a friend only if need be.

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He dates many women and I am one of them... HELP Posted: 4/23/2008 9:27:26 AM
Hi! I know how you feel but the man I was seeing for 6 mo nths denied he was seeing others and I know that he is. I went there around xmas and I heard a woman in there- heard him flirting...we were suppose to be exclusive and he knows that i wanted a l ong-term relationship- but he also k new I did not need to see him every day either...... I knocked on the door and he came out with his top off, called me names and threw my stuff down the hallway in front of other tenants. We had gotten on perfect. One week later he called- apologized and wnated to see me- he said it was a couple visiting and he did not feel comfortable inviting me in as he knew i was upset at him about other stuff...... I had found makeup in his bathroom and he said it was that friend. I found a phone number on a little piece of paper.... He has his cell off when I am with him normally. When we are together its great- we have a blast- we get on so well. I feel we would be better off as firends but I dont think he is capalbe of havi ng a female as a frined. He j umps your skin as s oon as hes with you- its like he cant get enough.......... He had called and said he cant commit to me or anyone else right now (ha im thinking no wonder your too damn busy with a different one every night!). Then when he decides he doesnt want you as he must have enough of them around- he dumps u and he is very very mean and nasty about it......then it all starts up again a few weeks later late on a satruday night and when his options must have died out.......I get a call from him and he is desperate to see me! He wants me there pronto........... I never met anyone like him in my life......why deny you have other women- I ran into a gilr who knows him- people always find out!! Then I get the cold s houlder in tims when Im not one of the IN girls of the month.....(when i run into him) - god talk about games, li ke GROW UP!! his mentality is l i ke a 12 year old kid.

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The Disappearing Act. Posted: 4/9/2008 11:31:24 AM
What if after over 2 weeks of no contact by the man, they call you up and want to SEE you again, and you miss their call and then you run into them somewhere and they avoid you?? what the heck??? And they WANT you to call them back? If they arent interested in you and you were supposedly dumped- why are they calling again???????????

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The Disappearing Act. Posted: 4/2/2008 6:57:23 AM
Still makes no sense we talked for 8 hours straight- if he planned to dump me why invite me to his place - the night was perfect this is what i am saying!! thre were no signs or stranges thi ng- he was very affectionate and loving- maybe he feels something so s trong and it scared him away to his cave to ponder on it..........i sure feel the energy and its a good thing......... guess time will tell... - we had a blast all night- not one bit of stress - it was all positive............

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The Disappearing Act. Posted: 3/23/2008 5:12:49 AM
I can relate! I was see a man for 6 months ( I am 43 and he is close to that)... and we got on very well but did not see each other more than 2 times a week or so. He called me up 2 weeks ago (today!) and invited me out for the evening then over to his place. We eat, drank, had a blast. He said he missed me. He is also suppose to be moving to a home sometime soon. We talked from 800 pm til 4:00 am and we were about to sleep then he said he ran out of smokes and would be right back (corner store is minutes away). He did not return! I have not heard from him since, but I know he did not MOVE (he was suppose to move on the 15th of March). I have seen him through the drive through at Tims when I was inside. This is the most bizarre thing that ever happened to me...He lives pretty closeby too, makes if very hard for me. I wish he lived far away now! We have this electrifying chemistry-mental and physical........

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Did anyone ever have this happen? Posted: 3/22/2008 3:38:04 PM
I had this happen just a few times in my l ife with ONE MAN I was nuts over. I start thinking of him alot, then something tells me to go to a certain place (could be a coffe shop, out on the deck of my condo, etc) and LOOK and I get this WHIRLWIND of strong energy and excitement (just like when your 5 and your waiting for santa to arrive on xmas eve, know this feeling!!) and then something tells me I WILL SEE HIM and I do. Then the spinoff affect happens and it happens 2-3 more times that week and each time he is closer. Next time I had it happen while waiting for the bus and I get this strong energy/excitement feeling and something tells me look over there and he just happens to be DRIVING BY and is lined right up and looks right thorugh my SOUL. a) Did anyone ever experience this and b) what does it mean ? c) would he be having this same experience when I do or is it just from my end? I am certainly NO KID I am over infactuation!

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So these days being boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't mean being exclusive?? Posted: 3/4/2008 2:43:40 PM
This must be something pretty new. I am back into the dating scene recently and I am 43. I would think there has to be alot of open communication between the man and woman who are seeing each other- you also of course need a high level of trust. I for one believe being exclusive means it is just you TWO and no one else and you plan to build on the relationship to hopefully lead to either marriage or long-term..... I do not believe u can love more than one person at once anyways and how would the implications be in the sex dept for the MAN if he has 3 woman on the go- dont think that could work out!!

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So these days being boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't mean being exclusive?? Posted: 3/4/2008 2:42:47 PM
This must be something pretty new. I am back into the dating scene recently and I am 43. I would think there has to be alot of open communication between the man and woman who are seeing each other- you also of course need a high level of trust. I for one believe being exclusive means it is just you TWO and no one else and you plan to build on the relationship to hopefully lead to either marriage or long-term..... I do not believe u can love more than one person at once anyways and how would the implications be in the sex dept for the MAN if he has 3 woman on the go- dont think that could work out!!

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Do men still look for old fashioned girls? Posted: 3/3/2008 3:20:53 PM
I feel that the more modern and educated and strong a woman is, the harder is will be for her to find a mate. In the old days, everyone knew their roles.. the women stayed at home and had lots of t ime to do their makeup, not be tired, cook nice meals for their husbands, take care of the crying kids before hubby got home.., the man's income was enough for the whole family as well so the woman felt secure. The woman was very feminine and dressed up pretty. It seemed everyone was happier on those days and certianly the children were well looked after...........

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Dating A Man Who Has Me All Mixed up!! Posted: 3/2/2008 6:43:16 AM
HE DID say he wanted to be exclusive wiht me back in NOVEMBER and ONLY see me........and I was girlfriend status.........

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Dating A Man Who Has Me All Mixed up!! Posted: 3/1/2008 1:37:07 PM
THERE is one point i forgot to mention WE WERE EXCLUSIVE- he requested this and I agreed with about 4 weeks into the relationship. That is not considered DATING- its a relationship.......then the calls dropped when someone in my family got cancer at xmas............we were alot more serious (from both sides) for the first 2 months...-he said he did not want to see anyo ne else but me........... We are both the best matches under the stars- he is a sagittarus and I am a Leo.........

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Dating A Man Who Has Me All Mixed up!! Posted: 3/1/2008 12:27:06 PM
If Im seeing someone and the chemistry is not there or very little- I cant pretend to like them, makeout with them in the kitchen, kiss them good bye etc and I dont care HOW MUCH money they have - its either t here or its not!!Its all or nothing.I just felt he must feel the same as he already knows how I feel and the chemistry is wicked........ unless maybe hes gay!! That has crossed my mind too. His work buddy was the first to blurt out HE NOT SEEING ANYONE, ALL HE DOES IS WORK and he seemed very certain and almost defensive about him. THen he called him right up and they talked, and this is when the man IM seeing called me right up. I am thinking maybe his buddy wanted to know if i was FREE to get my number. He may just be a commitment phobic plain and simple. Oh - his mom abandoned them many times for months on end when he was growing up (she had 4 kids by 3 dads none of who she stayed with). She was very selfish and didnt care about her kids at all. He is terrified of a woman and no wonder- hence his workaholic tendenances.......................he has not been in a relationship for 11 years now, was married to his best friend but she knew him since age 14....... I did give him the option we can JUST BE FRIENDS,wonder why he does not want that option?

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Dating A Man Who Has Me All Mixed up!! Posted: 2/29/2008 7:41:01 PM
why waste his time with a nice girl - why not just get a call girl who has no emotional attachment?

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Dating A Man Who Has Me All Mixed up!! Posted: 2/29/2008 6:50:13 PM
He cant! Has low rbcs and has been very ill..........I feel this is the reason he cut back on seeing me............

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Dating A Man Who Has Me All Mixed up!! Posted: 2/29/2008 6:33:59 PM
forgot to mentin- we only had actual sex 2 times, he cant have sex. something is wrong with him in that department!

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Dating A Man Who Has Me All Mixed up!! Posted: 2/29/2008 4:21:45 PM
Sorry I am not calling him he only calls me. Also I advised him i am seeking long term and if this is NOT what he wants w ith me to not waste my time. So why is he still calling and doing this?

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Dating A Man Who Has Me All Mixed up!! Posted: 2/29/2008 4:13:34 PM
I am 43 and he is 38. We dated for about 7 weeks. He works alot. It was awesome chemsitry and really good. The calls died. Xmas past - I was out of town. I left a voicemessage for him to call me and tell me if we are still together , friends or broken up(as we were in a commited relationship that he requested and I agreed on!). He called a nd told me he is too busy with work, does not have the t ime to commit to a relationship. His daugther is coming in 6 weeks. Hes buying a home etc. Hes been very sick too. He said he wants to still "talk" (IF I LIKE). He left this message 20 mins before I saw him by his apt. He asked me in and I spent the whole weekend there. Nothing was mentioned about the message. I get home sunday morning to that message, was very upset. Decided NOT to call him anymore. Around 10 days went by, he starts calling me up again on weekends only, wanting to see me, go out with me- go to his pad......but once I get there he tells me he cant make an emotional commitment. So he still likes the physical and my actual company. In otherwords he does not cuddle me anymore. doesnt say he missed me, doesnt call me baby....etc. Again I did not hear from him for 2 weeks or so. I left him a message on valentine's day. I told him HOW I feel as i never had told him before.I said he is THE ONE I really like and want to be w ith, I am NOT interested in dating other men (although I had gone on 2 coffee dates). I told him I really feel connected to him and its an awesome connection. I told him if u dont feel the same please DONT waste my time, I am seekking a soul mate and you cant just keep me to be available for physical stuff, its not fair or right......I also stated we could be friends if he did not feel I was the ONE for him......... He called this past sunday. Wanted me to come get my things. I went there- he did not have my stuff at the main door. He asked me in. We had some words (as he had not caled me in over 3 weeks and I had left him a few messages). I was just about to leave- he asked me to stay . We talked. Then he starts flirting about my top end etc. (I thought he had a girlfriend and he denied it !). He wanted ME to make the moves on him. Things seemed very good but he DID NOT ASK me BACK or make any verbal communication that we are BACK. Hehad to work inthe morning as did I. He called me baby most of the night.......said he missed my touch etc........but now I am MORE confused than ever?? seems he was doing alot of thinking in the morning as he did not have alot to say. When we parted- we kissed and he just said SEE U LATER (never promised to call etc). ANYONE KNOW WHAT THE HECK ALL THIS MEANS?? I do not plan to call him!

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Guys - tell me what this behavior means Posted: 2/28/2008 4:34:41 PM
I dated a man for over 2 months and it was going great althoug hes a workaholic. The calls died for awhile.. then I was away at xmas. Came back- had no message from him. Went to his apt- heard a lady in there- he did not open his apt when I knocked. He later told me it was a couple visiting him. I also fou nd lipstick in his bathroom the next week- he claimed it was that couple that stayed there. I wanted to know what was happening and of course freaked about what I saw a nd found- he denied any woman. He told me(as I demanded to know either way!) he did not have time to commit as hes too busy but still wants to be friend and talk. I decided not to call him anymore. Then he starts calling me up just on weekends usually later at night- talking and asking me over. When we are together I should know the energy and chemistry is a 10 out of 10 and I am 43 no kid! He has been very sick too- the drs are trying to find out what is wrong, he usually cannot have sex at all either- so this is a big strain on the relationship. I confided its ok as I care so much for him Im willing to be patient..., then I had no word from him for 3 weeks. I left a message on valentine's day- told him how I really feel (for the first time ever) that I really dont want to see anyone else anad I am very happy with him and I feel there is alot of potential...and that even if it did not work I know we can be great freinds- we have this amazing bond- normally we talk ALL NIGHT til 600 am when we are together! So I met his buddy in a coffee shop and told him I did not konw if we were together or he was with someone etc-. His buddy called the man I like right up and the man I like called ME. He wanted to see me that night. I went over. He seems alot more attentive to me now. He even calls me baby again. But he NEVER said we were back together. In the morning he hardly said 2 words but it was very very early when we left.. I am dumbfounded. I know he KNOWs how i feel and I told him before if he does not feel im THE ONE for him dont waste my precious time! I am seeking a soulmate and its my goal- he knows this! Maybe he is having secodn thoughts now- distance and time does make the heart grow fonder. He is not one to open up. I wont contact him but if he does want to see me- I want to know WHAT TO SAY EXACTLY to him to find out what is happening on his end. I dont want to scare him off either!. Oh- he AGAIN told me there is NO OTHER WOMAN and I can tell hes not lying.............. I can see my whole future with this man but the sex thing is a huge huge issue. He usually goes to the couch to sleep he feels so bad that he cant please me at all....it does not bother me as much as I am sure it bothers him. He is younger than i am too!

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Very Confused and need advice Posted: 2/18/2008 10:24:02 AM
Shawn I hear ya. I am going through almost the exact same thing with a man. It was perfect ( I am 43 and he is 38). I could see the future with him after 6 weeks. He committed only to me. The mom got cancer- the calls dropped. Hardly saw him and I got upset- left him a voice message to let know know what is happening with us- are we still commited, broken up or just friends of just forget it all! He left a voicemail back on a friday night that he'cant commit' as he is too busy with work etc. He also said he was not sure he wanted to 'be" in a relationship at this point. But stated he still wanted to see me and 'talk' . This message was left 20 mins before I r ang i nto him walking in the area he lives. He invited me in - did not mention the message. We had a great awesome weekend together. Our chemistry (mind wise) is rocking! Hes is a sagittarus and I am a LEO. We talk ALL NIGHT when we are together. He made plans to see me the next day (sunday) and i went home- checked my voicemail and got that darn message.I was in tears and a mess. I decided NOT to contact him. He started calling me up on the weekends only- usually friday or saturday nights- talknig and inviting me over to spend time with him - usually the NIGHT. He stated again he cant commit emotionally but seems he wants the physical part. I started feeling used! He has a problem with sex- usually we cant even have sex- its only happened 2 times since OCTOBER- he is very upset about this, hes been very sick too. He tends to promise me things all night then he goes for a smoke and sleeps on the couch. Must really depress him. Last time I saw him was 3 weeks ago now- he asked me if i was seeing anyone else and I said NO ONLY YOU (like i am madly in love with him!). He promised things for saturday- left and gave me a huge hug and kiss. He was away in the east coast for 10 days but should be back by now. No word from him. I dont konw if he found someone else or what? His daughter is coming in June to live with him- he also is moving into a home in a week- thats why he had to work so much- pay alimony and legal bills etc...... On Valentines I left him a voicemail- told him how much I love him- that he is the ONLY one I want. I feel i never expressed how i really feel to him.....now he knows....I am willing to give him the time he needs as long as its not TOO long.......in the meantime Im dating again. live goes on..........very hard to figure out this man. He is also inaccessible through the week on his cell! its always off........

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